Woman Is Forced To Hide Tampons From Husband Who Hates Them, Finally Snaps When He Throws Away The Whole Box
Your body, your choice. Bottom line and no questions asked. Especially when it comes to hygiene products a person uses. But this story a woman shared on the AITA subreddit is about everything but that, and her husband’s wish to control her crossing personal boundaries.
“My husband Ryan hates them, he never truly gave a reason other than just say… he doesn’t feel comfortable with me using them,” the author wrote, referring to tampons that she started using recently. Turns out, Ryan hates tampons so much that he even threw away the whole box when he found it hidden.
That’s when the author had enough. “I lost it and told him he had no right to do this and told him to get over himself already,” she said and asked people in the community if she was right to yell at him like this. Read her whole story below, and be sure to share your thoughts about this whole situation in the comment section.
Recently, a woman shared how her husband threw away her tampon box she had hidden from him because he “hates them”
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“There’s no reason to put period blood into a special gross-out category,” the expert warns
To find out more about the common misconceptions surrounding sanitary products, we spoke with Danela Zagar, Intimina Global Brand Manager. Just like tampons, menstrual cups are often the target of many myths widespread in our society.
One of the myths Zagar named is that “it’s not healthy to put plastic in my vagina for hours at a time.” She explained when it comes to menstrual cups, manufacturers use “medical-grade silicone to manufacture them. The name means exactly what it sounds like: this is the same silicone used in doctor’s offices and operating rooms, and it’s been deemed safe by the FDA for long-term wear inside the body.”
Another common misconception that some people with a gap in menstrual knowledge still believe in is that “periods are unsanitary and you should avoid touching your own blood,” says Zagar. However, even when inserting or removing a menstrual cup or a tampon, “you get a little period blood on your fingers,” she said and added that “It’s unavoidable, but not a reason to freak out because period blood is no different from any other bodily mucous.” She noted that “Of course, you should wash your hands before and after inserting a cup, but there’s no reason to put period blood into a special gross-out category.”
Education around periods is still woefully lacking worldwide and it’s time to destigmatize them
Education around periods is still woefully lacking worldwide, especially for young adults at the very brink of puberty, Zagar said. “Intimina, as a brand dedicated to women’s intimate health, is on a mission to educate about periods and the importance of good reproductive health. Periods should be destigmatized and discussed as a normal function of the female body.” Recently, they issued a book called “The Wonder Girls Guide Book” which aims to fill the hole left by inadequate educational programs, shame, and taboos around periods, to strike up the conversation about an entirely normal part of growing up.
Moreover, Zagar argues that education is key when it comes to menstrual hygiene products. “Intimina’s survey on young girls conducted for Women’s Day showed that 87% of respondents had guidance through menstrual product options. 87% use pads, and 36% prefer tampons, but the majority of respondents are well aware of the benefits of using menstrual cups.”
And this is what people thought of this whole situation
"he hates a lot of stuff that I do but "puts up" with it anyway." That to me reads like a giant huge red flag before we even get to the tampon issue.
Thought the same. Girl has to run while she can.
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You've only been married two months, which means the divorce will be comparatively easy. Heck, after such a short marriage, you might be able to simply get an annulment! Which I recommend you start now, because this self-absorbed idiot control freak is only going to get worse.
Im Spain at least the annulment is possible in the first three months. Obviously this post is likely to be older but i hope that she got it in time.
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Huge red flag! *snicker* If you want kids, please don't have them with this controlling, gaslighting, insecure man. Imagine a young girl having her first period, is that the father you want for her? Don't even get a hamster with him, you deserve better! If you do want to work this out, because he has a ton of good qualities that you somehow forgot to mention and is normally a decent man, which you also forgot to mention, drag him to pair therapy. Best of luck!
FORGET THERAPY! THERE IS NO HELP FOR AN ABUSIVE A*****E LIKE HIM!
Load More Replies... Oh, honey, just free bleed all OVER the house! Then pack up a leave this little boy in your rear view mirror.
I would rather advise that she used sanitary napkins and leaves the used ones unwrapped in a bin near the toilet.
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So he "hates a lot of things you do but puts up with them"??? Like, why on earth are you married to this guy??? That screams controlling and abuse. What kind of person would even think they get to have an opinion about a woman's menstrual hygiene???? Geez, I really can't with those posts.
I stopped reading half way through, I do not understand the nature of their relationship. Why is his opinion on the matter even a matter of consideration? Also aside from something being dangerous there is no justification for a person to throw away something that is owed by their partner without their permission.
How on earth is the choice of tampons vs pads even his business ?! Has she a say in his choice of underwear ? Smh...
If she does I vote for a lacy g string just so he knows how uncomfortable it can be to have others make decisions about what you wear
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OMG the gaslighting is strong with this one. And he's 'uncomfortable' with tampons? He doesn't have to use them so there's nothing to be uncomfortable with. Just throw the whole man away and get a new one, this one is not fit for purpose.
Every boyfriend I ever had—-including the one who is now my husband—-never ever had a problem with what I used for my periods. In fact, none of them had any problem buying tampons or pads for me. Hell, until I went through menopause, my husband would not only pick up my tampons, he’d get a bottle of ibuprofen and some chocolate because he knew I’d be crappy and headachy, and craving chocolate.
That’s because they all knew how to be human beings. It is surprising in this day and age that bodily functions and choices are still creating issues. Where are these people picking up these ill-informed and entitled opinions on what women can or can’t do with their own bodies?
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That is so weird. What does he think that its like a dildo?
Does the husband have a mental health issue?! This is not normal or okay. Divorce!
"...he hates a lot of stuff that I do but "puts up" with it anyway..." You married this clown.
He's jealous. This behavior is stemming from insecurity, jealousy. To him, it is akin to masturbating without his participation.
Exactly what I thought. What a pure excuse of a male being. Pitiful and disgusting at the same time! I would agree to the other commenters: she should let run her blood freely then - in the couch, the kitchen chairs, the mattress, the toilet seat, bathroom tiles etc.
Load More Replies... What the actual fark? If I told my wife what to do with her body the very minimum I would expect is a slap round the head and a torrent of abuse. Get the hell out of there.
Where do people find these men? If these articles are not fake, humanity is doomed.
I don't even get why someone would be "uncomfortable" with something that doesn't even affect them? The only possible reason would be if he doesn't like having sex while she wore one but he should be able to say so in that case so she could take it out for that. Or look at other options. Other than that the only thing would be some type of control aspect over her body and that's a huge red flag and very concerning.
WTH did I just read? Please tell me this is made up? NO MEN should ever make decision when it comes to what women do with their body during period, or at all! I hope OP continue to stood up herself and the husband can find a way to learn to grow up and realize that his wife is her own person.
If he doesn’t like tampons, he could use pads when he menstruates. Oh, no. Hang on a minute……..he’s a giant wank stain.
Can’t believe that BP didn’t censor “wank stain” lol
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Even before reading the story I thought, "oh hell no! No man (or woman for that matter)has the right to tell you what form you use for your periods... pads, tampons, cups, whatever. Until you have your period, then you can't decide that for me.
Throw out his games or tools or what ever he is into and tell him you hate them
Why the f**k would you, even for a second, assign yourself even the smallest blame here?
Wait a minute!! She says, "Together for 3, married for 2 months.". Ok, LOGIC tells me she meant 3 YEARS...BUT if she really meant 3 months, WTF is she expecting?? Together a bit longer beforehand may have shed some light on the subject.
Maybe. If they didn't live together before marriage she might not have known about this odd obsession. Also, she said that she's only recently been able to use tampons due to a health issue. So it may not have even come up before marriage.
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It did imply that, didn't it. No wonder she is confused. She doesn't even KNOW him and is making excuses for his bizarre behavior already, to keep "the love", true. Baby girl, it isn't.
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I know how she feels,I am past that point,I could never use tampons myself but a man has no business what so ever telling a woman what to use for her period.
Imagine being such a *ahem* d***head, that feels insecure by the long rolls of cotton.... Lol
I agree, WTF did I just read. This is a troll post right? He couldn't even give you any reason why he hates tampons and plays the sensitivity card? It's your body! Is nothing else allowed inside you except him? Does he think tampons are enjoyable? That they'll stretch you out?! I just can't....
Sounds to me like she needs to LEAVE HIS ASS IMMEDIATELY! WTH? He does know is a natural thing women go through right? "Puts up with it anyway" Man he better get over himself, and with the quickness. He think it all just stops once women get married? I'm not a woman and I'M heated! The gall!
Throw away his food. When he says something say you're uncomfortable with him eating it
She married this moron? Just wait till he finds her vibrator lol
What the purple-pink-velociraptor did I just read? Does he think that tampons are some evil witchcraft item that taints the purity of women or some similar hocus-pocus b******t?
Wtf.... he is probably one of those men who think women get satisfaction in using tampons. Like some kind of menstrual dildo we get to wear 24/7.
Sorry but that is an insult to me. Even though I'm a girl. Still it is an insult to all 12 year olds try 5 maybe
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Need an update here. Kinda hope she asks for a divorce, seeing as there’s no kids involved. RUN!
It's probably because he's inadequate and doesn't want anything bigger than him inside of her. #justsaying
Does he, a grown ass man, believe you're somehow being "violated" by a tube of cotton? Because when I'm full of tampon, the literal last thing on my mind is sexy time.
Either he is stupid or he is uneducated for the best. Take him to the doctor and let him have lessons about the female body, try those machines that indicate labour pain... you can set the pain to how your period pain is... IF he doesn't want to understand.... leave... My husband listen to every discomfort i have and try to make it better for me. My first husband did that too... and if I called him now... he would still do it after 10 years of divorce. Educate your Boys! They will be men someday...
F*****g run away from this man. Why would you even marry someone like this??
You have to even ask? Hubby has a screw loose and it isn't going to get any tighter.
With his attitude, I surprised he lets her have access to the internet. RUN!
This guy is not just an a-hole, he's a giant baby. Any man that feels discomfort about his wife wearing tampons doesn't need to be married. She isn't wearing them for fun,she's wearing them during her period. He needs to grow up and she needs to get out of this marriage.
Honey, do not walk away, RUN AWAY. At top speed. Straight to a good divorce lawyer for you and hopefully a psychiatrist for him. This guy is deeply nuts, and could easily tip over to actively dangerous.
He obviously feels like that only he should access to that part of your body, internally. She needs to get him out of her life. This is a just ridiculous.
..you say he said, you should be take each other's discomforts into consideration as a couple. Well, let him know he's not taking your discomfort into consideration with how he's acting. And I dare say yours is of more relevance here than his, you're the one going through the pains and literal discomfort of a period, whereas his objections are not even clear.he shouldn't even have a say as to ur product choice.I still wonder why he cares what you use even.
Start using a menstrual cup to really f**k with him. Oh and then leave him as fast as humanly possible because seriously WTF?!?!
When he said that as a couple they should take each other's discomfort in consideration I think he was only speaking of his discomfort.
Don't have kids with him that's for sure, figure this out ASAP because red flags for gaslighting and controlling behaviors are waving. Need an annulment or a divorce, these behaviors will likely escalate since the marriage began just two months ago... (Abusers feel more secure that you're not going to just leave). If you have a kid I'll definitely escalate to another level and then you can't leave him forever since he'll be permanently attached to you in some way.
For him to marry someone who he hates a lot of what they do...he doesn't want a spouse, he wants someone to control and belittle. Glad he stopped at walking out, afraid that's just the start. "You know how I feel about this" is patronizing and condescending. He isn't treating her like an equal. Hope she gets away from him
Man is threatened with his wife using tampons. Wow. Fragile masculinity will find anything to make about themselves lol
I am reading this thinking is this even real? Not because I dont believe the story, but because how could anyone be this big of a dipshit. This guy is a problem period. Get out now..His issues aren't about regular relationship irritations and compromise. This is toxi and it is only going to get worse. Much worse. Starts with tampo ends with complete control over everything you do. He is already trying to emotionally manipulate you with his, tampons are about me. Seriously, you need to exit this situation asap. I am not even going to suggest couple counseling, get counseling for yourself if you can though. Once you leave and get some distance you'll start to see more things that were screaming red flags that you manipulated and conditioned to think was normal that abosultely not. Find the strength to protect and own yourself worth. You cant fix people, but you can decide what is a deal breaker and this is a deal breaker. On another not who tf is teaching these men this is ok?
This cannot be fucken real. I have never hated a man whose name I don't even know.. as much as I hate this fucken F**k head. There's so many things wrong with this that I just don't even know where to start. Please tell me you left this psychos ass. Jesus Christ.
Revenge: take the week off, don't replace your tampons, wear only his clothes and sit in his spots. See how long till he goes to the store to replace it. Probably not long after she starts bleeding over his first pair of tightly whities.
I th8nk he is a nutter and only 2 months into your marriage.I see a bad bad future for you get out while you can.
Almost tearing up, playing the victim, and then trying to make you feel guilty has a few hallmarks of narcissism. You have only been married for 2 months. I'm hoping I'm wrong, but if I'm not, then please end this marriage and get out of there asap, as things are only going to get worse. And whatever you do, don't have children with this creep. I would predict that it won't be long before he outright forbids you to do all those things that you say he "puts up with." Then you'll know it's time.
I don't even have to read last the "puts up with it" part. Drop him before something really serious happens because that man is walking red flag
wow...guess I have to buy my bf flowers. when his female friend got her period in his house he went to the store to buy tampons.
NTA - If he can't articulate why it makes him uncomfortable he has more issues than you might be aware of. If this is his reaction to a strong woman who holds her ground, what would he be like as a father to a daughter where he has all the control?
Use one of those menstrual cups and then show him after every use. This is just weird. And tampons make like so much easier! I stopped having periods years ago (never had regular ones to begin with), but I remember pads.... oh god.... I still shudder at the time I stood up and blood went literally everywhere. It was awful and embarrassing. F**k this guy.
I would maliciously comply and use the reusable one that you launder. See if he likes those better...
Hang on a minute... no one's picking up on 'been together 3, married for 2 months' at the start... so... only together 5 months and already married?!? That is faaaaar too quick, you don't know anyone well enough to be married in that time. Get out now! My other half and I have been together 5 YEARS and he buys me my tampons!
It's not confirmed by the OP, but the Reddit commentariate came to the conclusion that they missed out the word "years". Together for three years, married for 2 months. Which further begs the question why she married this twerp if the red flags weren't remotely near the pole in the three years prior to the wedding? No clues at all?
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Wow, this is seriously pathetic, this guy obviously doesn't have sisters, if he's uncomfortable with tampon use, he shouldn't use them, but that's a far as his say goes. If I knew this guy and knew about this aversion, I'd start making fake used tampons (ketchup, water and dark food dye) and tie them to his door handle when he's late for work.
Dumb husband is probably jealous that a tampon is bigger than his hilariously tiny weenor.
Not enough of an excuse, man. I’m pretty heavily autistic and this is absolutely f*cking outlandish to me. I work with autistic people as well and I have autistic friends - I seem to be a regular autism magnet - and this is not autism, this is either stupidity or lunacy. This guy is seriously whack.
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The fact that she felt she needed to post an AITA query about this...and his warped viewpoint...I'm sorry, but they both sound like utter morons. Why would you even marry a person like that?
It doesn't matter how HE feels when it comes to what YOU choose as feminine hygiene. HE has NO say in ANYTHING when it comes to YOUR BODY! You BELONG to NO ONE! He is VERY controlling, and you need to realize this is going to get worse. He is trying to tell you what to use for your feminine hygiene. Like it should matter to him. He doesn't have a uterus! And you have to LEAVE your home to use tampons! NO! Next he will be coming into the bathroom to tell you how to wipe your a*s! GET OUT OF THIS RELATIONSHIP NOW! This is just him warming up on his controlling abuse. Please, GET HELP and BE SAFE. This man is a danger!
Well most women don't like tampons or pads for that matter but WE HAVE NO CHOICE BUT TO USE THEM, run for the hills woman.
He absolutely has penis problems My sperm donor was the same way He used to say that my stepmother used douche more than she used him It wasn't until I was much older that I understood what he was talking about and then realized what a complete moron he was
I am so confused. Was this man somehow brutalized by a pack of wild tampons at some point in his life or what on earth is going on? It sounds a bit unwell, to be frank, some sort of strange fixation that this guy - seriously - needs to seek some sort of help with. Especially since it makes him cross such basic boundaries between human beings. I’m not even sure if he’s just an assh*le or if he’s disturbed or both. This is outlandish - how does this guy not know that his hangup and behaviour is strange way beyond what is healthy? Oh, and lady? Leave. I know you’ll never read this but I’ll write it anyway in blind hope. Buy new tampons, pack them in a bag and leave.
This guy has abusive psycho written all over him. This is not a question regarding tampons, but a question regarding the sense of entitlement this man has in his belief he can control how a woman manages her own body and periods. Is the tampon too much competition for him? This is a man who has simply sexualised his partner's body to the point whereby he has fetishised periods in some way in his screwed up head. This woman needs to ditch this loser and fast.
Run, run fast, run far. With this insecure attitude from him now, it WILL get far worse than you can possibly imagine. If you stayed with him and had children, he would be uncomfortable with your child being birthed, breast fed, and getting your affection. Don't allow yourself or future children to be abused. Cut him out of your life before it gets to that point. You will never regret it unlike the alternative.
Make a deal with him. For every day YOU have to wear a pad HE has to wear a pad and add 3 tbs of liquid to it each hour. Let HIM discover for HIMSELF how uncomfortable they are compared to tampons. Me and my bf had that argument before but after an entire cycle he realized what it was really like. I am friends with a few of his female coworkers so they made sure he added the liquid every hour (we used water with a little soap and food coloring.) He actually had two leaks and a rash. But he is now more understanding.
together for three months, married for two. Did one of you need a vida? Why the hell woudl anybody do that? They are both insane and deserve each other.
god u need 2 run NOW!! If u refuse to & wanna stay then u need 2 force him into therapy as an ultimatum 4 staying. 1st of all he owes u a MUCH more detailed & truthful explanation 4 WHY they make him uncomfortable otherwise hes not communicating nor being truthful. Once thats out there THEN with therapy maybe he can b educated & this can b solved. However if hes already trying 2 control ur body & ur choices by THROWING OUT ur tampons, leaving u sittin on the toilet with NOTHING 2 use, then this is sadly, a much bigger, deeper issue/problem. Wat if u get pregnant! Is he gonna try 2 control everything about the pregnancy & birth as well!? Its NONE OF HIS BUSINESS! Wat if u suddenly started hiding all the toilet paper after giving some vague reason 4 hating it & wanting him 2 only use flushable wipes or sumthin then HE was left 2 sit aftr pooping wit NUTHIN 2 use! How would HE feel!? Ur the 1 "putting up" with HIS crap. Hes WAY outta line
Is your husband a control freak? He puts up with a lot of stuff you do? Why? Because he's such a loving, understanding hubby? Umm, no I'm not thinking that's it. My mind is boggled that any man would throw away your tampons, not knowing or caring when that time comes. That's rude, inconsiderate, selfish and he's Tah. You don't have much time invested in this marriage. I can tell you by experience that what they do now only gets more extreme with time. I have learned this lesson over 30 plus years. Some I can put up with and some has me looking elsewhere to go. Don't waste your young like. Just my opinion 😊
NTA! Your husband is wrong on so many levels, it's hard to know where to start! He has no right to make your feminine hygiene decisions for you - first off it's none of his business, as your decisions regarding what menstrual products to use don't affect hm in any physical way (I would not have thought they would affect a spouse psychologically, either!), & he is dead wrong to make it his business! Since your decision to use tampons only affects you & your body, it is 100% your decision. Secondly, he has no right to throw away your any of your personal belongings! That's just WRONG & selfish!! He is also wrong to be so insistent about invading your own personal issue & not give any reason for his weird & abnormal behavior. He totally closed down all discussion & a chance to be educated as to why he need not be "uncomfortable" about your tampon use. You are NTA, but he surely is! He seriously needs to grow up!
I presume, that the husband and has no idea of just what menstruation is! I would suggest them going teogether to a con[ouncelloe who will not be afrain to theml the silly ignorant bloke about female anatonmy. One cannot assume that the man you marry knows much at all. My (now) husband's mother had simply shown him her cesarian scar when he asked about sex and pregnancy. He TRULY believed that babies were born through the belly button. He also believed that it took a whole year for a woman to become pregnant.
My first that was that he's the AH, but then I thought, what would actually make him care about this so much? Maybe he had a bullying incident in High School and got a bunch of used tampons shoved in his face. If he literally has a panic attack when he sees a box of tampons, this might actually not be a huge ask. At least until he can get through therapy about it. If that's not it, though, then yeah, major red flag.
The fact that she has to ask the internet is in itself pathetic. You reap what sow. Hope she gets it all. Idiot
Sounds like he had some serious mis-education in his past. I'd press the issue- WHY does it make him "uncomfortable"?
Together for 3 (months?), married for two? S**t can only go south from this sentence on.
IDC- IMMA SAY IT ME THIS is why you DONT get married after A month .... W TF?!
I'm sometimes really wondering if these stories are true and also wondering, if you don't recognize your husband is an a*hole before you marry him...
"he hates a lot of stuff that I do but "puts up" with it anyway." That to me reads like a giant huge red flag before we even get to the tampon issue.
Thought the same. Girl has to run while she can.
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Im Spain at least the annulment is possible in the first three months. Obviously this post is likely to be older but i hope that she got it in time.
Load More Replies... Huge red flag! *snicker* If you want kids, please don't have them with this controlling, gaslighting, insecure man. Imagine a young girl having her first period, is that the father you want for her? Don't even get a hamster with him, you deserve better! If you do want to work this out, because he has a ton of good qualities that you somehow forgot to mention and is normally a decent man, which you also forgot to mention, drag him to pair therapy. Best of luck!
FORGET THERAPY! THERE IS NO HELP FOR AN ABUSIVE A*****E LIKE HIM!
Load More Replies... Oh, honey, just free bleed all OVER the house! Then pack up a leave this little boy in your rear view mirror.
I would rather advise that she used sanitary napkins and leaves the used ones unwrapped in a bin near the toilet.
Load More Replies... So he "hates a lot of things you do but puts up with them"??? Like, why on earth are you married to this guy??? That screams controlling and abuse. What kind of person would even think they get to have an opinion about a woman's menstrual hygiene???? Geez, I really can't with those posts.
I stopped reading half way through, I do not understand the nature of their relationship. Why is his opinion on the matter even a matter of consideration? Also aside from something being dangerous there is no justification for a person to throw away something that is owed by their partner without their permission.
How on earth is the choice of tampons vs pads even his business ?! Has she a say in his choice of underwear ? Smh...
If she does I vote for a lacy g string just so he knows how uncomfortable it can be to have others make decisions about what you wear
Load More Replies... OMG the gaslighting is strong with this one. And he's 'uncomfortable' with tampons? He doesn't have to use them so there's nothing to be uncomfortable with. Just throw the whole man away and get a new one, this one is not fit for purpose.
Every boyfriend I ever had—-including the one who is now my husband—-never ever had a problem with what I used for my periods. In fact, none of them had any problem buying tampons or pads for me. Hell, until I went through menopause, my husband would not only pick up my tampons, he’d get a bottle of ibuprofen and some chocolate because he knew I’d be crappy and headachy, and craving chocolate.
That’s because they all knew how to be human beings. It is surprising in this day and age that bodily functions and choices are still creating issues. Where are these people picking up these ill-informed and entitled opinions on what women can or can’t do with their own bodies?
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Does the husband have a mental health issue?! This is not normal or okay. Divorce!
"...he hates a lot of stuff that I do but "puts up" with it anyway..." You married this clown.
He's jealous. This behavior is stemming from insecurity, jealousy. To him, it is akin to masturbating without his participation.
Exactly what I thought. What a pure excuse of a male being. Pitiful and disgusting at the same time! I would agree to the other commenters: she should let run her blood freely then - in the couch, the kitchen chairs, the mattress, the toilet seat, bathroom tiles etc.
Load More Replies... What the actual fark? If I told my wife what to do with her body the very minimum I would expect is a slap round the head and a torrent of abuse. Get the hell out of there.
Where do people find these men? If these articles are not fake, humanity is doomed.
I don't even get why someone would be "uncomfortable" with something that doesn't even affect them? The only possible reason would be if he doesn't like having sex while she wore one but he should be able to say so in that case so she could take it out for that. Or look at other options. Other than that the only thing would be some type of control aspect over her body and that's a huge red flag and very concerning.
WTH did I just read? Please tell me this is made up? NO MEN should ever make decision when it comes to what women do with their body during period, or at all! I hope OP continue to stood up herself and the husband can find a way to learn to grow up and realize that his wife is her own person.
If he doesn’t like tampons, he could use pads when he menstruates. Oh, no. Hang on a minute……..he’s a giant wank stain.
Can’t believe that BP didn’t censor “wank stain” lol
Load More Replies... Even before reading the story I thought, "oh hell no! No man (or woman for that matter)has the right to tell you what form you use for your periods... pads, tampons, cups, whatever. Until you have your period, then you can't decide that for me.
Throw out his games or tools or what ever he is into and tell him you hate them
Why the f**k would you, even for a second, assign yourself even the smallest blame here?
Wait a minute!! She says, "Together for 3, married for 2 months.". Ok, LOGIC tells me she meant 3 YEARS...BUT if she really meant 3 months, WTF is she expecting?? Together a bit longer beforehand may have shed some light on the subject.
Maybe. If they didn't live together before marriage she might not have known about this odd obsession. Also, she said that she's only recently been able to use tampons due to a health issue. So it may not have even come up before marriage.
Load More Replies... It did imply that, didn't it. No wonder she is confused. She doesn't even KNOW him and is making excuses for his bizarre behavior already, to keep "the love", true. Baby girl, it isn't.
Load More Replies... I know how she feels,I am past that point,I could never use tampons myself but a man has no business what so ever telling a woman what to use for her period.
Imagine being such a *ahem* d***head, that feels insecure by the long rolls of cotton.... Lol
I agree, WTF did I just read. This is a troll post right? He couldn't even give you any reason why he hates tampons and plays the sensitivity card? It's your body! Is nothing else allowed inside you except him? Does he think tampons are enjoyable? That they'll stretch you out?! I just can't....
Sounds to me like she needs to LEAVE HIS ASS IMMEDIATELY! WTH? He does know is a natural thing women go through right? "Puts up with it anyway" Man he better get over himself, and with the quickness. He think it all just stops once women get married? I'm not a woman and I'M heated! The gall!
Throw away his food. When he says something say you're uncomfortable with him eating it
She married this moron? Just wait till he finds her vibrator lol
What the purple-pink-velociraptor did I just read? Does he think that tampons are some evil witchcraft item that taints the purity of women or some similar hocus-pocus b******t?
Wtf.... he is probably one of those men who think women get satisfaction in using tampons. Like some kind of menstrual dildo we get to wear 24/7.
Sorry but that is an insult to me. Even though I'm a girl. Still it is an insult to all 12 year olds try 5 maybe
Load More Replies... Need an update here. Kinda hope she asks for a divorce, seeing as there’s no kids involved. RUN!
It's probably because he's inadequate and doesn't want anything bigger than him inside of her. #justsaying
Does he, a grown ass man, believe you're somehow being "violated" by a tube of cotton? Because when I'm full of tampon, the literal last thing on my mind is sexy time.
Either he is stupid or he is uneducated for the best. Take him to the doctor and let him have lessons about the female body, try those machines that indicate labour pain... you can set the pain to how your period pain is... IF he doesn't want to understand.... leave... My husband listen to every discomfort i have and try to make it better for me. My first husband did that too... and if I called him now... he would still do it after 10 years of divorce. Educate your Boys! They will be men someday...
F*****g run away from this man. Why would you even marry someone like this??
You have to even ask? Hubby has a screw loose and it isn't going to get any tighter.
With his attitude, I surprised he lets her have access to the internet. RUN!
This guy is not just an a-hole, he's a giant baby. Any man that feels discomfort about his wife wearing tampons doesn't need to be married. She isn't wearing them for fun,she's wearing them during her period. He needs to grow up and she needs to get out of this marriage.
Honey, do not walk away, RUN AWAY. At top speed. Straight to a good divorce lawyer for you and hopefully a psychiatrist for him. This guy is deeply nuts, and could easily tip over to actively dangerous.
He obviously feels like that only he should access to that part of your body, internally. She needs to get him out of her life. This is a just ridiculous.
..you say he said, you should be take each other's discomforts into consideration as a couple. Well, let him know he's not taking your discomfort into consideration with how he's acting. And I dare say yours is of more relevance here than his, you're the one going through the pains and literal discomfort of a period, whereas his objections are not even clear.he shouldn't even have a say as to ur product choice.I still wonder why he cares what you use even.
Start using a menstrual cup to really f**k with him. Oh and then leave him as fast as humanly possible because seriously WTF?!?!
When he said that as a couple they should take each other's discomfort in consideration I think he was only speaking of his discomfort.
Don't have kids with him that's for sure, figure this out ASAP because red flags for gaslighting and controlling behaviors are waving. Need an annulment or a divorce, these behaviors will likely escalate since the marriage began just two months ago... (Abusers feel more secure that you're not going to just leave). If you have a kid I'll definitely escalate to another level and then you can't leave him forever since he'll be permanently attached to you in some way.
For him to marry someone who he hates a lot of what they do...he doesn't want a spouse, he wants someone to control and belittle. Glad he stopped at walking out, afraid that's just the start. "You know how I feel about this" is patronizing and condescending. He isn't treating her like an equal. Hope she gets away from him
Man is threatened with his wife using tampons. Wow. Fragile masculinity will find anything to make about themselves lol
I am reading this thinking is this even real? Not because I dont believe the story, but because how could anyone be this big of a dipshit. This guy is a problem period. Get out now..His issues aren't about regular relationship irritations and compromise. This is toxi and it is only going to get worse. Much worse. Starts with tampo ends with complete control over everything you do. He is already trying to emotionally manipulate you with his, tampons are about me. Seriously, you need to exit this situation asap. I am not even going to suggest couple counseling, get counseling for yourself if you can though. Once you leave and get some distance you'll start to see more things that were screaming red flags that you manipulated and conditioned to think was normal that abosultely not. Find the strength to protect and own yourself worth. You cant fix people, but you can decide what is a deal breaker and this is a deal breaker. On another not who tf is teaching these men this is ok?
This cannot be fucken real. I have never hated a man whose name I don't even know.. as much as I hate this fucken F**k head. There's so many things wrong with this that I just don't even know where to start. Please tell me you left this psychos ass. Jesus Christ.
Revenge: take the week off, don't replace your tampons, wear only his clothes and sit in his spots. See how long till he goes to the store to replace it. Probably not long after she starts bleeding over his first pair of tightly whities.
I th8nk he is a nutter and only 2 months into your marriage.I see a bad bad future for you get out while you can.
Almost tearing up, playing the victim, and then trying to make you feel guilty has a few hallmarks of narcissism. You have only been married for 2 months. I'm hoping I'm wrong, but if I'm not, then please end this marriage and get out of there asap, as things are only going to get worse. And whatever you do, don't have children with this creep. I would predict that it won't be long before he outright forbids you to do all those things that you say he "puts up with." Then you'll know it's time.
I don't even have to read last the "puts up with it" part. Drop him before something really serious happens because that man is walking red flag
wow...guess I have to buy my bf flowers. when his female friend got her period in his house he went to the store to buy tampons.
NTA - If he can't articulate why it makes him uncomfortable he has more issues than you might be aware of. If this is his reaction to a strong woman who holds her ground, what would he be like as a father to a daughter where he has all the control?
Use one of those menstrual cups and then show him after every use. This is just weird. And tampons make like so much easier! I stopped having periods years ago (never had regular ones to begin with), but I remember pads.... oh god.... I still shudder at the time I stood up and blood went literally everywhere. It was awful and embarrassing. F**k this guy.
I would maliciously comply and use the reusable one that you launder. See if he likes those better...
Hang on a minute... no one's picking up on 'been together 3, married for 2 months' at the start... so... only together 5 months and already married?!? That is faaaaar too quick, you don't know anyone well enough to be married in that time. Get out now! My other half and I have been together 5 YEARS and he buys me my tampons!
It's not confirmed by the OP, but the Reddit commentariate came to the conclusion that they missed out the word "years". Together for three years, married for 2 months. Which further begs the question why she married this twerp if the red flags weren't remotely near the pole in the three years prior to the wedding? No clues at all?
Load More Replies... Wow, this is seriously pathetic, this guy obviously doesn't have sisters, if he's uncomfortable with tampon use, he shouldn't use them, but that's a far as his say goes. If I knew this guy and knew about this aversion, I'd start making fake used tampons (ketchup, water and dark food dye) and tie them to his door handle when he's late for work.
Dumb husband is probably jealous that a tampon is bigger than his hilariously tiny weenor.
Not enough of an excuse, man. I’m pretty heavily autistic and this is absolutely f*cking outlandish to me. I work with autistic people as well and I have autistic friends - I seem to be a regular autism magnet - and this is not autism, this is either stupidity or lunacy. This guy is seriously whack.
Load More Replies... The fact that she felt she needed to post an AITA query about this...and his warped viewpoint...I'm sorry, but they both sound like utter morons. Why would you even marry a person like that?
It doesn't matter how HE feels when it comes to what YOU choose as feminine hygiene. HE has NO say in ANYTHING when it comes to YOUR BODY! You BELONG to NO ONE! He is VERY controlling, and you need to realize this is going to get worse. He is trying to tell you what to use for your feminine hygiene. Like it should matter to him. He doesn't have a uterus! And you have to LEAVE your home to use tampons! NO! Next he will be coming into the bathroom to tell you how to wipe your a*s! GET OUT OF THIS RELATIONSHIP NOW! This is just him warming up on his controlling abuse. Please, GET HELP and BE SAFE. This man is a danger!
Well most women don't like tampons or pads for that matter but WE HAVE NO CHOICE BUT TO USE THEM, run for the hills woman.
He absolutely has penis problems My sperm donor was the same way He used to say that my stepmother used douche more than she used him It wasn't until I was much older that I understood what he was talking about and then realized what a complete moron he was
I am so confused. Was this man somehow brutalized by a pack of wild tampons at some point in his life or what on earth is going on? It sounds a bit unwell, to be frank, some sort of strange fixation that this guy - seriously - needs to seek some sort of help with. Especially since it makes him cross such basic boundaries between human beings. I’m not even sure if he’s just an assh*le or if he’s disturbed or both. This is outlandish - how does this guy not know that his hangup and behaviour is strange way beyond what is healthy? Oh, and lady? Leave. I know you’ll never read this but I’ll write it anyway in blind hope. Buy new tampons, pack them in a bag and leave.
This guy has abusive psycho written all over him. This is not a question regarding tampons, but a question regarding the sense of entitlement this man has in his belief he can control how a woman manages her own body and periods. Is the tampon too much competition for him? This is a man who has simply sexualised his partner's body to the point whereby he has fetishised periods in some way in his screwed up head. This woman needs to ditch this loser and fast.
Run, run fast, run far. With this insecure attitude from him now, it WILL get far worse than you can possibly imagine. If you stayed with him and had children, he would be uncomfortable with your child being birthed, breast fed, and getting your affection. Don't allow yourself or future children to be abused. Cut him out of your life before it gets to that point. You will never regret it unlike the alternative.
Make a deal with him. For every day YOU have to wear a pad HE has to wear a pad and add 3 tbs of liquid to it each hour. Let HIM discover for HIMSELF how uncomfortable they are compared to tampons. Me and my bf had that argument before but after an entire cycle he realized what it was really like. I am friends with a few of his female coworkers so they made sure he added the liquid every hour (we used water with a little soap and food coloring.) He actually had two leaks and a rash. But he is now more understanding.
together for three months, married for two. Did one of you need a vida? Why the hell woudl anybody do that? They are both insane and deserve each other.
god u need 2 run NOW!! If u refuse to & wanna stay then u need 2 force him into therapy as an ultimatum 4 staying. 1st of all he owes u a MUCH more detailed & truthful explanation 4 WHY they make him uncomfortable otherwise hes not communicating nor being truthful. Once thats out there THEN with therapy maybe he can b educated & this can b solved. However if hes already trying 2 control ur body & ur choices by THROWING OUT ur tampons, leaving u sittin on the toilet with NOTHING 2 use, then this is sadly, a much bigger, deeper issue/problem. Wat if u get pregnant! Is he gonna try 2 control everything about the pregnancy & birth as well!? Its NONE OF HIS BUSINESS! Wat if u suddenly started hiding all the toilet paper after giving some vague reason 4 hating it & wanting him 2 only use flushable wipes or sumthin then HE was left 2 sit aftr pooping wit NUTHIN 2 use! How would HE feel!? Ur the 1 "putting up" with HIS crap. Hes WAY outta line
Is your husband a control freak? He puts up with a lot of stuff you do? Why? Because he's such a loving, understanding hubby? Umm, no I'm not thinking that's it. My mind is boggled that any man would throw away your tampons, not knowing or caring when that time comes. That's rude, inconsiderate, selfish and he's Tah. You don't have much time invested in this marriage. I can tell you by experience that what they do now only gets more extreme with time. I have learned this lesson over 30 plus years. Some I can put up with and some has me looking elsewhere to go. Don't waste your young like. Just my opinion 😊
NTA! Your husband is wrong on so many levels, it's hard to know where to start! He has no right to make your feminine hygiene decisions for you - first off it's none of his business, as your decisions regarding what menstrual products to use don't affect hm in any physical way (I would not have thought they would affect a spouse psychologically, either!), & he is dead wrong to make it his business! Since your decision to use tampons only affects you & your body, it is 100% your decision. Secondly, he has no right to throw away your any of your personal belongings! That's just WRONG & selfish!! He is also wrong to be so insistent about invading your own personal issue & not give any reason for his weird & abnormal behavior. He totally closed down all discussion & a chance to be educated as to why he need not be "uncomfortable" about your tampon use. You are NTA, but he surely is! He seriously needs to grow up!
I presume, that the husband and has no idea of just what menstruation is! I would suggest them going teogether to a con[ouncelloe who will not be afrain to theml the silly ignorant bloke about female anatonmy. One cannot assume that the man you marry knows much at all. My (now) husband's mother had simply shown him her cesarian scar when he asked about sex and pregnancy. He TRULY believed that babies were born through the belly button. He also believed that it took a whole year for a woman to become pregnant.
My first that was that he's the AH, but then I thought, what would actually make him care about this so much? Maybe he had a bullying incident in High School and got a bunch of used tampons shoved in his face. If he literally has a panic attack when he sees a box of tampons, this might actually not be a huge ask. At least until he can get through therapy about it. If that's not it, though, then yeah, major red flag.
The fact that she has to ask the internet is in itself pathetic. You reap what sow. Hope she gets it all. Idiot
Sounds like he had some serious mis-education in his past. I'd press the issue- WHY does it make him "uncomfortable"?
Together for 3 (months?), married for two? S**t can only go south from this sentence on.
IDC- IMMA SAY IT ME THIS is why you DONT get married after A month .... W TF?!
I'm sometimes really wondering if these stories are true and also wondering, if you don't recognize your husband is an a*hole before you marry him...
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