Husband Tells Wife “They’re Your Clothes” When She Asks Him To Do Laundry, She Chooses Violence
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Here’s a situation: it’s 7 p.m., you just got back from work, stressed and exhausted, waiting to slide into your comfiest pajamas, and instead of a loving, ready-to-cuddle partner you find a bag of unwashed laundry with a note that says “Yours.” Yikes. Mahatma Gandhi or another equally relaxed fellow might take a deep breath and ignore this stinky situation altogether. But for the regular folk, you and us, there are two ways this will end: brush the whole thing off, do your side of the laundry, or retaliate and teach your boo a lesson they sure won’t forget.
Having been put in a similar situation after her husband decided laundry is none of his business if there’re no clothes of his (“They’re YOUR clothes,” argued the culprit), TikTok user ‘mumlifechoseme‘ resolved the little problem in the most entertaining, passive-aggressive fashion — by making a “violent” revenge video that instantly caught on and went stratospherically viral (as of today, it has over 5 million views).
This TikToker mother made a video that quickly went viral after sharing how she handled her husband’s selfish act
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Telling about her eye-opening “this is on you” instance in Time’s article when her own husband couldn’t care less about a bunch of rubbish on their front lawn, Eve Rodsky, the author of ‘Fair Play: A Game-Changing Solution for When You Have Too Much to Do (and More Life to Live)’, wrote the following epiphany: “[I] began to understand acutely why so many women are running against the clock from the moment we wake up.”
Coincidentally, a few months later, Sophie Knight, Amsterdam-based journalist, shared her own story of how her efforts to combat gendered, statistically proven imbalance only resulted in her being paid by the husband to continue doing those same household duties… Are women doomed to surrender to the notion that husbands, however affectionate and reasonable, simply cannot bring themselves to split the chores 50/50?
Learning that wives and mothers still do the bigger bulk of childcare and domestic work — almost twice as much, to be exact — compared to married fathers, it’s hard not to understand why some women are tempted to plot an entertaining revenge plan. That should teach them a lesson, right?
Joshua Klapow, a Ph.D. clinical psychologist and the creator of the program MentalDrive, suggests there are more efficient ways to divide household duties fairly instead of plotting petty revenge plans that can always backfire. “Teaching our partner a lesson is a very paternalistic and disrespectful position to see them from,” he told Bored Panda. Klapow argues that teaching our significant other ‘a lesson’ can be a sign that we don’t want or simply don’t know how to directly communicate with our partner.
Many people related to this situation and shared their support for the author in the comments
Asked what would be the right approach if the partner continues to downplay your complaints, Klapow suggests avoiding ‘idle threats’. In other words, be direct with what you want. “Selfish behaviors often occur not as intentional malice but as self-absorbed and unaware actions. Until you state specifically what you want and why, how it makes you feel, your partner may just continue as if there is no real problem,” he explained.
Another important sidenote Klapow highlights: no one should avoid confrontation if it’s your partner’s emotional wellbeing that you don’t want to jeopardize. He reasons that feeling bad about what they did to make you upset only signals that they care. “Trying to have difficult conversations with the goal of no one feeling distressed is like avoiding the true content of a difficult conversation.”
Of course, some tend to be more stubborn and self-absorbed than others. Should you throw in the towel if the partner is not willing to make compromises, then? Klapow thinks it’s more complicated than that. “The nature of a relationship is not to compromise on everything,” he said. But what if your partner shows no signs of regret or repeatedly refuses to cooperate in renegotiating the household workload? “That means you have a partner who is more invested in themselves and less invested in the well-being of you or the relationship.”
And while that may not be a deal-breaking ‘red flag’, everyone should know their tolerance limits and what they’re willing to sacrifice for the future of the relationship. Just make sure not to bottle up your disappointments because it “will transition into contempt for your partner and their selfishness.”
I think the title is a bit misleading. This is not a violent response, it's a logical response. If you are a family you are a team. So of course you should share the load and take turns of doing laundry/cook/clean for the whole family.
No. The logical response is to have an adult conversation with him, and if he doesn't change his behavior, then divorce him.
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Just remember in a partnership each partner gets the same amount of free time. Its not 'oh i work 8 hrs for pay so the rest of my time is for rest' not if stuff needs doin mate
Badageem Alsoufan So "... the working partner is entitled to more free time due to 8hrs minimum + stress of the job" & you consider this logical??? I've never had children nor have I ever been a stay at home worker. However, I have a house cleaning business. The rate is $30 per hour. Now....imagine (if you can) putting an hourly price to the enormous amount of things a stay at home partner does...childcare $50 p/h minimum, $30 p/h for cleaning, $30p/h for laundry/ironing (which doesn't include picking it all up, folding it AND putting it away) $30p/h for grocery shopping plus travel time AND delivery to the house, $40p/h for meal prep & being a chef, $25p/h for tutoring and/or helping with schoolwork plus, plus, plus....and let's not forget that this job doesn't come close to ending at 8hrs daily nor at 5pm on a Friday. So explain to me again how "logically" the latter partner is entitled to more free time due to their stress from working 8hrs per day???
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My husband at least folds the clothes, but he refuses to put mine or the kid's away. I stopped washing his years ago when he told me I was shrinking everything of his. In reality, he was gaining weight. He went from 135 lbs to 240 lbs, yet his excuse was that I was shrinking his clothes. Denial! 😄 Love him to pieces though. 🤍🥰
My BIL put on a big show about how his pregnant wife of 7 years suddenly started shrinking his clothes. Straight up accused her in front of us on several occasions. I told her not to worry we all knew it was because he was getting fatter, and she smiled knowingly, because she was gonna give him laundry duty for it.
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Every man i've ever dated and seen other women date, is this fuc*ing guy. STOP LOOKING FOR 2ND MOTHER'S YOU CAN ALSO HAVE SEX WITH, YOU CREEPY OEDIPUS FUC*S.
So possible solution for people out there. My husband ruined so many of my clothes doing laundry I would break down sobbing. So I banned him from doing the laundry because it was honestly just not worth him destroying hundreds of dollars of clothing. So on the weekends, he cleans all the floors and I do all the laundry. We still split the tasks but no one has to do the task they hate/suck at most. Not sure it applies here but just a compromise that worked out well for me and others might find useful.
Some advice given to men is: if you don't want to do chores, just do them very badly, then your wife will forbid you from doing them... (in your case it seems the chores were split, so it is ok, but otherwise i'd be eying him suspciously)
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This might be what it looks like a year before a divorce, but it's a crossroads. Lots of partnerships go through a few until they find balance. Quietly brooding and feeling resentful are also unhealthy. At least this way, feelings are out in the open. My only real problem with it is how public it is.
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Like my bf who saw me scrubbing the floor on my hands and knees of HIS house and said I'm not eveb a clean person. Happened more than a year ago once and one time only
OK as someone who survived domestic violence I find the title here disturbing. Has the term violence gained some new meaning, like sick means great now instead of sick/horrible? Or is a country thing? I'm in the UK.
I agree it's not a great use here. They are using it like "nuclear option".
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first week of marriage- "honey i don't have any clean clothes." me, "well did you do your laundry??" he's slipped here and there but pretty much takes care of things as much as i do.
“Teaching our partner a lesson is a very paternalistic and disrespectful position to see them from,”????? And using your partner as a mom isn't disrespectful????? You get what you give and the psychologist dude needs to try and think about this from both points of view. Why should the wife be any more mature than the husband?
When we broke up and I found out that my ex had started spending most nights with the woman who lived behind our house I stopped doing his washing, ironing, food shopping, cooking, stripping his bed (he was refusing to leave the house even though he had a spare house through an inheritance) I actually got a letter from his solicitor to reinstate my duties. Guess my response.....
This isn't "violence". It's settling for a man-baby and calling it violence to preserve the small amount of self-respect you might be clinging to. He could care less about her. Sad.
Can't people simply go to counseling or do this without putting it all over the internet?...
do i think this is funny? hell yeah. marraige is a team effort not oh i get a free servant now. do i think this should have been tiktoked? no =-= sorry but not everything has to be seen by the world
I left my wife for this exact s**t. I used to say I was a single parent to 3 kids... Because I was. Another way I described it was cinderella in my own home with no ball... Not all issues can be talked out. I tried for 10 years to fix the issues to be greeted with laziness, belligerence and a general holier than thou attitude. Bear in mind I was working upto 60 hours as well. She sat on fb 24/7.
The funniest part of this is in the article where the "expert" ironically a MAN, somehow thinks women havent COMMUNICATED THESE THINGS 2 THEIR PARTNER ALREADY! Usually women are at their wits end by the time they do somethin like this! My mom used 2 explain this stuff 2 my dad & even took him 2 therapy (o & HE is a therapist btw so youde think hed be a man who'd "get it" if anyone) to discuss these exact issues but he still never changed! U can communicate till ur blue in the face but guys just keep up the excuses & will say anythin 2 stay out of trouble! They rarely give a crap no matter how upset u say these things make u or how hurt u are! I see it constantly in so many relationships. I see the follow up texts where my friends hav made it PERFECTLY clear how their mans actions make them feel & the guy either flat out doesnt care or says sorry he'll try harder then nothin changes & the cycle continues. If u think all it takes 2 fix this is a good talk, ur an IDIOT!
I dont get this "his and hers laundry" thing. I mean, it your house, every thing is shared. Are you telling me you was only your socks and shirts? Not All the dirty clothes? Who washers the sheets then?
I refuse to touch my husband's work clothes. He works in rental property maintenance and repair, dealing with literal human waste, fleas, drug paraphernalia etc., because the tenants are monsters.
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So I didn't completely understand what she meant by "put laundry away". If she meant pick up the dirty clothes from allover the house and put them in the dirty clothes basket, then he's right, you should put them there in the first place, not allover the place and then expect someone else to pick up after you. No matter if you're a man or a woman. If she meant about folded clothes to put in the closet, well I kind of understand that too, because whenever I did that, she would be pissed that I put everything in the wrong places, even if I was paying attention to put blouses at blouses, pants at pants, so on so forth. If there's another case i might have missed, dunno. But he might be in one of these two cases, at which point she's just looking for reasons to be mean to him.
I love the commenter (I assume it's a guy) who says, maybe he's the provider and he expects better. Just because you "provide" does not mean that your wife is a staff member. In this scenario, what happens I wonder when the wife gets a 9 to 5 job? Since they are both providers, does the husband then pitch in? I'll bet not.
Plus, he obviously skipped over the first sentence in the article that states she just got home from work at 7pm, stressed and exhausted. So, whether he may make more money or not, she obviously works hard too.
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Lol, my husband HATES when I try to put laundry away without him. Literally. I have a horrible back and he has military issues (things need to be a certain way, etc). Works out great. Like last night, he made dinner, so I figured I'd put the laundry away (it's just us and 4 dogs- kiddos in college). He was so upset I put everything away. Then he apologized for getting upset. I was just trying to do something while he cooked. Dude is an angel, I swear
Lol, so... my husband can be like these notorious dudes. BUT, he means well. It was an ugly habit inhibited to him and he does care but is still rather bad in a way. He does do his own laundry but is bad at doing it in time for his own comfort, so, I will randomly throw some of his laundry into mine. I had JUST cleaned the bedroom of ALL clothes, mine, his,and our daughter. Got met with a bad attitude over ONE MISJUDGED shirt, was dirty.. but the other two clean from my laundry. I had placed these folded on his laundry he got washed himself. They ended up thrown back in the room. Claimed because I just "threw" clothes ontop his clean laundry, f*****g it up. Well anyfuckingwho... guess who is never, ever, touching his laundry again? Yup. Never. (I hope).
You would think people knew what they were getting into *before* getting married
Still pissed about the time my husband took a damp load out of the running dryer to put his work clothes in. And he left the wet clothes just sitting there! I've stopped asking if he needs anything washed on laundry day.
I hope that he is only paying for half of the household and kids' expenses
Ladies! Before deciding to marry a man, look at the relationship between he and his mother (and his father for that matter). If he has a mother who does everything for him, he's going to expect you to do everything for him. If the man only ever orders take-out, you KNOW you're going to be doing all the cooking. Please don't expect him to change once you're married. Most likely they won't. (some do - but it doesn't happen that often.) Check out how his mom raised him and make your decision from there.
My husband ruined all of my clothes one day because he washed a new, brightly colored shirt of his with my white clothes. From that day onward, 25 years now, he has washed his own clothes. He ruined my sheets with his filthy body, he has his own bed and bedroom now.
Picture this, I have a 9yr(D) and a 3mth(S), just went back to work after maternity leave(it had been a couple weeks). Come home with my kids, cook dinner like I do everyday after work , I'm sitting on the couch with my son on a pillow beside me feeding him with a bottle in my left hand, have my dinner on my lap eating with my right hand while hooked up to a breast pump. (I had to pump milk bc my son had heath issues as a newborn and wouldn't go back to breastfeeding) my husband walks in from hanging out outside and starts complaining that his clothes weren't washed for the next day. When I said I've been busy he said I should plan better! I lost my sh!t. And since that day I have never done his laundry. My son is now 6yrs old.
I don't get it. Men insist that women take care of their own chores so why is it controversial that they also do their own? Women have to cook for themselves and their children. If he can't make a sandwich just for himself, maybe he needs to starve.
real talk though i had a roomate who liked to call bs plays like 'if i cook you clean' uh no cleaning is 10x as much work and i bought the food you 'whipped up' and it was supposed to be four separate meals you effing jack-A
as long as he isn't paying for everything you're allowancing back to him this was entirely appropriate
If I spent the day cleaning the house my husband would come home and basically reclean everything. So I stopped. I cook. I buy my own snacks but he buys for the house. I give him money every week to the bills. (Even since before we were married I gave him money "rent"). He will say "we need to tear the house apart an deep clean it" I just distract him. It's clean. But the bedroom is a wreck. My goal to reclean it is to buy all new furniture and redo the whole room. Walls to floor an furniture. Then it will be "torn apart" lol.
If husbands don't want to do housework, they can use their disposable income to pay for hired help. Instead of paying for 18-36 holes of golf this week, you get to pay the maid. See how long that goes on LOL
Disposable income for a maid? Who has money for that these days? Get off your a*s and clean up after yourself. You're an adult.
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as long as he isn't paying for everything you're allowancing back to him sure this was entirely appropriate
Oops nevermind I just saw she's your ex. Kudos to her for getting out of that one sided abusive relationship
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I think the title is a bit misleading. This is not a violent response, it's a logical response. If you are a family you are a team. So of course you should share the load and take turns of doing laundry/cook/clean for the whole family.
No. The logical response is to have an adult conversation with him, and if he doesn't change his behavior, then divorce him.
Load More Replies... Just remember in a partnership each partner gets the same amount of free time. Its not 'oh i work 8 hrs for pay so the rest of my time is for rest' not if stuff needs doin mate
Badageem Alsoufan So "... the working partner is entitled to more free time due to 8hrs minimum + stress of the job" & you consider this logical??? I've never had children nor have I ever been a stay at home worker. However, I have a house cleaning business. The rate is $30 per hour. Now....imagine (if you can) putting an hourly price to the enormous amount of things a stay at home partner does...childcare $50 p/h minimum, $30 p/h for cleaning, $30p/h for laundry/ironing (which doesn't include picking it all up, folding it AND putting it away) $30p/h for grocery shopping plus travel time AND delivery to the house, $40p/h for meal prep & being a chef, $25p/h for tutoring and/or helping with schoolwork plus, plus, plus....and let's not forget that this job doesn't come close to ending at 8hrs daily nor at 5pm on a Friday. So explain to me again how "logically" the latter partner is entitled to more free time due to their stress from working 8hrs per day???
Load More Replies... My husband at least folds the clothes, but he refuses to put mine or the kid's away. I stopped washing his years ago when he told me I was shrinking everything of his. In reality, he was gaining weight. He went from 135 lbs to 240 lbs, yet his excuse was that I was shrinking his clothes. Denial! 😄 Love him to pieces though. 🤍🥰
My BIL put on a big show about how his pregnant wife of 7 years suddenly started shrinking his clothes. Straight up accused her in front of us on several occasions. I told her not to worry we all knew it was because he was getting fatter, and she smiled knowingly, because she was gonna give him laundry duty for it.
Load More Replies... Every man i've ever dated and seen other women date, is this fuc*ing guy. STOP LOOKING FOR 2ND MOTHER'S YOU CAN ALSO HAVE SEX WITH, YOU CREEPY OEDIPUS FUC*S.
So possible solution for people out there. My husband ruined so many of my clothes doing laundry I would break down sobbing. So I banned him from doing the laundry because it was honestly just not worth him destroying hundreds of dollars of clothing. So on the weekends, he cleans all the floors and I do all the laundry. We still split the tasks but no one has to do the task they hate/suck at most. Not sure it applies here but just a compromise that worked out well for me and others might find useful.
Some advice given to men is: if you don't want to do chores, just do them very badly, then your wife will forbid you from doing them... (in your case it seems the chores were split, so it is ok, but otherwise i'd be eying him suspciously)
Load More Replies... This might be what it looks like a year before a divorce, but it's a crossroads. Lots of partnerships go through a few until they find balance. Quietly brooding and feeling resentful are also unhealthy. At least this way, feelings are out in the open. My only real problem with it is how public it is.
Load More Replies... Like my bf who saw me scrubbing the floor on my hands and knees of HIS house and said I'm not eveb a clean person. Happened more than a year ago once and one time only
OK as someone who survived domestic violence I find the title here disturbing. Has the term violence gained some new meaning, like sick means great now instead of sick/horrible? Or is a country thing? I'm in the UK.
I agree it's not a great use here. They are using it like "nuclear option".
Load More Replies... first week of marriage- "honey i don't have any clean clothes." me, "well did you do your laundry??" he's slipped here and there but pretty much takes care of things as much as i do.
“Teaching our partner a lesson is a very paternalistic and disrespectful position to see them from,”????? And using your partner as a mom isn't disrespectful????? You get what you give and the psychologist dude needs to try and think about this from both points of view. Why should the wife be any more mature than the husband?
When we broke up and I found out that my ex had started spending most nights with the woman who lived behind our house I stopped doing his washing, ironing, food shopping, cooking, stripping his bed (he was refusing to leave the house even though he had a spare house through an inheritance) I actually got a letter from his solicitor to reinstate my duties. Guess my response.....
This isn't "violence". It's settling for a man-baby and calling it violence to preserve the small amount of self-respect you might be clinging to. He could care less about her. Sad.
Can't people simply go to counseling or do this without putting it all over the internet?...
do i think this is funny? hell yeah. marraige is a team effort not oh i get a free servant now. do i think this should have been tiktoked? no =-= sorry but not everything has to be seen by the world
I left my wife for this exact s**t. I used to say I was a single parent to 3 kids... Because I was. Another way I described it was cinderella in my own home with no ball... Not all issues can be talked out. I tried for 10 years to fix the issues to be greeted with laziness, belligerence and a general holier than thou attitude. Bear in mind I was working upto 60 hours as well. She sat on fb 24/7.
The funniest part of this is in the article where the "expert" ironically a MAN, somehow thinks women havent COMMUNICATED THESE THINGS 2 THEIR PARTNER ALREADY! Usually women are at their wits end by the time they do somethin like this! My mom used 2 explain this stuff 2 my dad & even took him 2 therapy (o & HE is a therapist btw so youde think hed be a man who'd "get it" if anyone) to discuss these exact issues but he still never changed! U can communicate till ur blue in the face but guys just keep up the excuses & will say anythin 2 stay out of trouble! They rarely give a crap no matter how upset u say these things make u or how hurt u are! I see it constantly in so many relationships. I see the follow up texts where my friends hav made it PERFECTLY clear how their mans actions make them feel & the guy either flat out doesnt care or says sorry he'll try harder then nothin changes & the cycle continues. If u think all it takes 2 fix this is a good talk, ur an IDIOT!
I dont get this "his and hers laundry" thing. I mean, it your house, every thing is shared. Are you telling me you was only your socks and shirts? Not All the dirty clothes? Who washers the sheets then?
I refuse to touch my husband's work clothes. He works in rental property maintenance and repair, dealing with literal human waste, fleas, drug paraphernalia etc., because the tenants are monsters.
Load More Replies... So I didn't completely understand what she meant by "put laundry away". If she meant pick up the dirty clothes from allover the house and put them in the dirty clothes basket, then he's right, you should put them there in the first place, not allover the place and then expect someone else to pick up after you. No matter if you're a man or a woman. If she meant about folded clothes to put in the closet, well I kind of understand that too, because whenever I did that, she would be pissed that I put everything in the wrong places, even if I was paying attention to put blouses at blouses, pants at pants, so on so forth. If there's another case i might have missed, dunno. But he might be in one of these two cases, at which point she's just looking for reasons to be mean to him.
I love the commenter (I assume it's a guy) who says, maybe he's the provider and he expects better. Just because you "provide" does not mean that your wife is a staff member. In this scenario, what happens I wonder when the wife gets a 9 to 5 job? Since they are both providers, does the husband then pitch in? I'll bet not.
Plus, he obviously skipped over the first sentence in the article that states she just got home from work at 7pm, stressed and exhausted. So, whether he may make more money or not, she obviously works hard too.
Load More Replies... Lol, my husband HATES when I try to put laundry away without him. Literally. I have a horrible back and he has military issues (things need to be a certain way, etc). Works out great. Like last night, he made dinner, so I figured I'd put the laundry away (it's just us and 4 dogs- kiddos in college). He was so upset I put everything away. Then he apologized for getting upset. I was just trying to do something while he cooked. Dude is an angel, I swear
Lol, so... my husband can be like these notorious dudes. BUT, he means well. It was an ugly habit inhibited to him and he does care but is still rather bad in a way. He does do his own laundry but is bad at doing it in time for his own comfort, so, I will randomly throw some of his laundry into mine. I had JUST cleaned the bedroom of ALL clothes, mine, his,and our daughter. Got met with a bad attitude over ONE MISJUDGED shirt, was dirty.. but the other two clean from my laundry. I had placed these folded on his laundry he got washed himself. They ended up thrown back in the room. Claimed because I just "threw" clothes ontop his clean laundry, f*****g it up. Well anyfuckingwho... guess who is never, ever, touching his laundry again? Yup. Never. (I hope).
You would think people knew what they were getting into *before* getting married
Still pissed about the time my husband took a damp load out of the running dryer to put his work clothes in. And he left the wet clothes just sitting there! I've stopped asking if he needs anything washed on laundry day.
I hope that he is only paying for half of the household and kids' expenses
Ladies! Before deciding to marry a man, look at the relationship between he and his mother (and his father for that matter). If he has a mother who does everything for him, he's going to expect you to do everything for him. If the man only ever orders take-out, you KNOW you're going to be doing all the cooking. Please don't expect him to change once you're married. Most likely they won't. (some do - but it doesn't happen that often.) Check out how his mom raised him and make your decision from there.
My husband ruined all of my clothes one day because he washed a new, brightly colored shirt of his with my white clothes. From that day onward, 25 years now, he has washed his own clothes. He ruined my sheets with his filthy body, he has his own bed and bedroom now.
Picture this, I have a 9yr(D) and a 3mth(S), just went back to work after maternity leave(it had been a couple weeks). Come home with my kids, cook dinner like I do everyday after work , I'm sitting on the couch with my son on a pillow beside me feeding him with a bottle in my left hand, have my dinner on my lap eating with my right hand while hooked up to a breast pump. (I had to pump milk bc my son had heath issues as a newborn and wouldn't go back to breastfeeding) my husband walks in from hanging out outside and starts complaining that his clothes weren't washed for the next day. When I said I've been busy he said I should plan better! I lost my sh!t. And since that day I have never done his laundry. My son is now 6yrs old.
I don't get it. Men insist that women take care of their own chores so why is it controversial that they also do their own? Women have to cook for themselves and their children. If he can't make a sandwich just for himself, maybe he needs to starve.
real talk though i had a roomate who liked to call bs plays like 'if i cook you clean' uh no cleaning is 10x as much work and i bought the food you 'whipped up' and it was supposed to be four separate meals you effing jack-A
as long as he isn't paying for everything you're allowancing back to him this was entirely appropriate
If I spent the day cleaning the house my husband would come home and basically reclean everything. So I stopped. I cook. I buy my own snacks but he buys for the house. I give him money every week to the bills. (Even since before we were married I gave him money "rent"). He will say "we need to tear the house apart an deep clean it" I just distract him. It's clean. But the bedroom is a wreck. My goal to reclean it is to buy all new furniture and redo the whole room. Walls to floor an furniture. Then it will be "torn apart" lol.
If husbands don't want to do housework, they can use their disposable income to pay for hired help. Instead of paying for 18-36 holes of golf this week, you get to pay the maid. See how long that goes on LOL
Disposable income for a maid? Who has money for that these days? Get off your a*s and clean up after yourself. You're an adult.
Load More Replies... as long as he isn't paying for everything you're allowancing back to him sure this was entirely appropriate
Oops nevermind I just saw she's your ex. Kudos to her for getting out of that one sided abusive relationship
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