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Husband Books 1st Class Tickets For Himself And His Friend For A Trip While Wife Only Gets Economy, Drama Ensues When Wife Decides Not To Go
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Husband Books 1st Class Tickets For Himself And His Friend For A Trip While Wife Only Gets Economy, Drama Ensues When Wife Decides Not To Go

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Here’s a quick test for you, Pandas: if you were flying out on holiday with your partner, your soulmate, the love of your life, what kind of plane ticket would you give them? Would you a) get them a seat right next to you so you can hold hands and enjoy the fabulous view as you fly, or b) get them an economy ticket while you’re living it up in first class with your best friend? Hopefully, you all chose the first option, Pandas. Unfortunately, a stay-at-home mom raising three kids shared how her husband picked the second one.

The woman went on the AITA subreddit and asked people to tell her if she was wrong to call her husband out for the way that he disrespected her. He was sending very mixed signals by ‘letting her’ come on the trip, but then showing her that she wasn’t as important as his friend. A friend that he goes on an awful lot of trips to sports events with. Scroll down for the full story and to see just how bad the relationship drama got. Oh, and yes, the husband actually could afford to get first-class tickets for all of them. This was a choice, not a way to save money.

What do you think of the entire situation, dear Pandas? Why do you think the husband is so reluctant to go on holiday with his wife? How would you react if your partner would constantly choose their best friend over you? Share your thoughts in the comments.

A stay-at-home mom shared how she completely lost it when she realized what her husband had done

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She wanted to know if she was wrong to call him out for buying her an economy class plane ticket while he was flying first-class with his buddy

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Quite a few redditors found it suspicious that the husband kept picking his best friend over spending quality time with his wife.

Some thought that he might be in a clandestine relationship with his BFF, others believed that he was simply more interested in having a ‘nanny’ instead of a wife, taking care of the kids at home.

Moreover, some internet users suggested that this was most likely a toxic relationship that probably had no future. Whatever the truth might be, clearly, the couple needs to sit down and have a long, in-depth discussion about their relationship, where they stand, and what kind of future they want together.

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Look, the rules from back in school still sort of apply in adult life. If you intentionally choose to sit next to your friend instead of your girlfriend or boyfriend on a regular basis, you’re sending out some not-so-subtle hints that, hey, you might not really want to be in this relationship after all. That’s not to say that you shouldn’t spend quality time with your friends (remember, you’re not just a parent or a spouse), but there’s clearly an issue with how someone balances things.

Recently, dating and relationship expert Dan Bacon, the founder of The Modern Man, explained to Bored Panda that not all guys will take the time and energy to grow and mature. Instead, they’ll keep pretending to be the victim and blaming everyone else for their own mistakes.

“Unfortunately, some people never get past that level of personal development and as a result, ruin relationships their entire life. It really takes a lot of motivation and follow-through to overcome that kind of behavior, which a lot of people simply don’t have,” the expert told us.

“However, if a man were to have that kind of motivation and willingness to follow through, he should set goals for himself and work towards achieving them no matter what. When he does that, he will begin to realize the amount of personal control and influence he has over his life,” Dan said.

“A man like that will rarely overcome his victim mentality the first time he achieves a goal though. In almost all cases, he’ll need to keep achieving goals and will then gradually become a man who feels totally accountable for his life and doesn’t need to play the victim and blame others for his problems, or lack of success,” he said that there’s hope for everyone, but that real, meaningful change doesn’t happen overnight.

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Keith O
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is Fu@king ridiculous. HE didn't PAY for your ticket, you raise the kids and hold the entire household down. YOU both payed for the ticket as this is MARITAL money. I don't mean for this to come out this way, but this sounds like some Brokeback Mountain sh!t. The friend who takes a trip with YOUR husband every year didn't want you to come, even though you don't get to take a yearly trip. Just fu@king wow man. This dude is trash, he doesn't treat you as an equal. Lawyer up, get alimony and child support and live your own life as a first class citizen instead of the second class one he treats you as.

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Candice Cook
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So right! I mean my mind is scrambled after just reading about it. What I really can't fathom though is how does one end up with a husband like this? They must put on a really good show and play the long game. I guess I've just learned the hard way too many times so I'm probably cynical and seeing red flags where there are none these days(prob why I'm middle aged, single, and never been married), but how does a blatant disregard for one's feelings go unnoticed? I am not nice enough to put up with a person like that even with my admittedly lower than average self esteem. I think not.

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Bill Allen
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Let me guess, your husband and his “friend” share a great room in a four star hotel and you get Motel 6? If a friend of mine ever called my wife “entitled” he would not be my friend any longer. Being a spouse is a lot more involved than making money.

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Brandon Marlowe
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I agree 100%, Bill. Treating her as "less than" and allowing his "friend" to speak to her in an abusive manner is unacceptable. #teamwillsmith

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Casey McAlister
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NTA. It sounds like your husband is married to his best friend, and they see you just as...a housemaid? You deserve much better than that.

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There Is No Planet B
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The amount of gaslighting this poor woman is subjected to by these two troglodytes is astounding! She needs a therapist and a lawyer ASAP

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Trillian
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She doesn't work? Who does he think is raising his children? I am sorry, probably I have very little tolerance for assholey bahavior, but I would leave him. Not only does he disrespect the work she does, but obviously he doesn't value her as a person.

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StayClassy
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I can't believe he lets his friend talk about/text his wife like that. RED FLAG

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UpupaEpops
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

He most likely bitched to this friend in the first place. How else would he know. And why does he even have her number? Tbh it kind of sounds more than a friendship to me.. I mean, yearly overseas trips just the two of them?

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Jan Ahlmann
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She’s in an abusive relationship and needs gets to get the hell out! Chances are husband and best “friend” are in a relationship. Husband just doesn’t want to pay alimony and child support. Let him and his buddy go on the trip, while he’s gone, get a lawyer, drain the bank accounts, put all his stuff in a POD, change the locks .

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Justme
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When your significant others friends are rude to you - it’s often because your SO is rude to you behind your back.

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Miss Kat O
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Start charging him for all the childcare and household task you perform if he wants to be like that

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Caro Caro
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is humiliating. I presume they agreed that she would be a sahm so all income is shared. Next step would be the a$$hole husband controlling her more and more. The selfishness of husband and his friend is horrible, maybe those 2 nitwits should get married !!!!

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Johnny
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My wife and I went for a trip once where we were able to get one of our tickets upgraded for first class -- we split it, I took the first class seat on the way there, she took it on the way home (her choice - she had to go to work the next day so wanted the more relaxing first class seat). We used "my" miles to upgrade the ticket, but really, they are "our" miles since we're a normal married couple and share our income and expenses.

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Sarah Bell
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Stay at home mom here . It makes me irate when they claim we don't work . I stay home because of my health but that doesn't mean that I'm not the primary parent 90 percent of the time because of my husband's work schedule. I do 80 percent of the house work . Stay at home mom is exhausting and emotionally challenging. I don't get to clock out , I don't get breaks . It's very hard to be a sahm and on top of that being medically screwed when it comes to my health . I do have a job and it is to keep my kids healthy, safe , and as happy as they can be .. on top of that of we sent the kids to a daycare or nanny if I worked . Why are they ok with recognizing that they should be paid and it's WORK to take care of children but when a parent does it then it has no value. My husband has no idea how to handle the kids for am extended amount of time but when he does he gets a good taste of it . When he has a bad day he can come home and decompress but when I have a bad day it's considered being a mom and to suck it up. It's a partnership. He brings in the money and I manage the house so he doesn't have to worry about a lot when he's home .

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Kiryn Silverwing
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Seriously. Do people even understand how much daycare/nanny for multiple kids costs so that the other parent can focus on work? Not many people can earn enough to pay for that. I live in a very expensive area and several friends with kids decided to have one person be a SAHP purely because they'll save a ton of money on daycare that way. And it's a lot of work to keep a house clean and plan out/prepare meals, that's why only rich people can afford to have a housekeeper and a personal chef. It's awful enough to do all these things for no extra household income when they're clearly highly valued by society, but the disrespect needs to stop.

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Brenda
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If my husband ever THOUGHT about treating me like I was a "lesser" person than he or his friends ot that I simply wasn't important enough to him to get me the same accommodations he got for himself, he'd never have to worry about me going ANYWHERE with him ever again. The kids and I would be gome when he returned. Or his new room would be in the garage until he learned to respect me & the job I do for our family. I became a SAHM after #2 came along (6 years between them), quitting school & giving up my honor society activities became daycare was too expensive. I NEVER wanted to be a SAHM, I wanted to be a working mom. Luckily, hubby went out of his way to make sure I knew how much he appreciated what I did for the family. If your hubby is that disrespectful towards you and thinks you don't need or deserve to be treated equally, then he needs his butt kicked. He might make the money, but you BOTH work and your job is way more important. 💜💙💛

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Kim Contreras
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Your husband is probably gay. Why else would he choose his guy friend over his wife for years, and then sit with him instead of you? He is likely using you to put on a straight front for others - he has a wife and kids, trappings of a 'normal' straight guy. I have nothing against his being gay, but own it!

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SMom
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Someone pointed out their trips are for sex tourism, helluva sport they're after! 🤬

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Bernd Herbert
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"and this is what happens when he finally decides to include." Wrong--he didn't include OP, he put her way back. figuratively and literally

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April Dancer
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You could almost hear the sigh in his voice then, couldn't you. I finally let you come along and even then you're not satisfied! Does make me wonder what would have happened on that holiday, would she have been stuck in the room all day with no money for food and drinks?

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Elyse Korwel
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Get out now this man is not your partner. Let the little b***h go live with his boyfriend.

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Rosie Cat
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I wonder what else is wrong within their relationship, because this is no where near normal. The wife is being treated like a side chick, the best friend like a spouse. She had better watch herself, this is the type of person that if she were to die first, he would plant her in potters field, toss her belongings in the trash and be off to start his new life.....with the best friend.

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Will I Will-Ham
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Op should get a good divorce lawyer. This is clear a toxic relationship where she is only a second class person. Please op should leaf asap!

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Delilah Evil
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Hubby is on the dl. However progressive society may seem, there are a lot of people value presenting a traditional family. Depending on where you live and what you do it can be financially important. Buddy sounds like a jealous side piece

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Rogers Hunter
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Keith O right down there just spoke every word that was going through my mind. Especially the Brokeback Mountain thing. I don't fathom this at all. I'm single and 60 so I'll never have a real relationship again, but if I had been lucky enough to have had a loving wife such as you she would be by my side before anyone else.

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jkenby
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

60 years old is too young to say "I'll never have a real relationship again!" Many, many people have found a special person in their "golden years." I've known two people, who coincidentally were each with their partners - one married and one gay relationship - for 32 years before being widowed. Each found a good, loving relationship after that. Don't write it off yet.

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Sarah Bell
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Again if you're willing to recognize that a daycare/nanny/anyone who cares for children is seen as a valid job and deserving of respect and pay but a stay at home parent it's not worth anything because they are your kids...kids thst take the same amount of work if not more . My kids are better when they are at someone else's house. At home they limit test yes I love my children but it is hard to be a parent. Especially when you can't leave them for a break like you can leave your job to get away from the stress and pressure.

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Jodee Rebecca Davey
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What an A*****e of a Husband,I Hope She Divorced His Sorry A*s After That

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Erik Ivan
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

A partner is your lover, your best friend, your family. Why would anyone want to go 1 class while putting the spouce in a less luxury position? Is the guy even taking his family serious?

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Deborah Harris
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What a total T***t he is, i'm wondering why he finally invited her along with his 'best friend'. No doubt she would have been expected to stay alone in the hotel room during the day, whilst he did best bud things with his friend ...what a horrible man

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Michelle Trousil
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Totally NTA! This is like a flashback to my mom ex-husband who has three sons from his first marriage. (I don't have any kids with none upcoming because of fertility). After we did our entire pre wedding life in a major City, he told me that I no longer needed to work and we were living on an island off the coast of Portland, ME and I am a glorified Nanny. He used money as a form of emotional abuse. I am sure that you feel that it's a privilege to get to be with your kids 24/7, but it is also a FT job with very few breaks. Financial Control IS Abuse. You need to go to couples' therapy and explain to him that he is abusive.

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Hubert Martin
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Jeez, tell him you're going on the trip, first-class, end of discussion. If not, change the locks. Any other problems, divorce him and make a judge see how equal you two are. Unless there is a pre-nup in play. I mean, just look at relationships nowadays. Would not surprise me in the least. If you're considering a pre-nup, my poor fool, you are nowhere near ready to be married because you have not found a partner, you just found a body.

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Rachel Adorno
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This triggered me. He feels entitled to control you, when or if you get a vacation and how you will spend it, not next to him. He feels you should be grateful for economy, for even being invited along? After years of maintaining the house and children with no PTO OR Paid time on for that matter. What makes him think he is entitled to a vacation at all? I suspect financial abuse is just the tip of the iceberg, the fact that he's upset you didn't play his game and his friend feels entitled to both solo vacations with him, a married man and to bully you. While he's gone call the domestic violence holiness. It's not just for physical abuse. Explain what you've written here. See if they can help you put together a safe exit plan before he returns.

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Seedy Vine
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When a spouse demands that the other spouse not work for whatever reason, they don't get to fault or abuse that spouse for not receiving a paycheck. It sounds like the OP's husband is in love with his friend.

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Ashley Kelly
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

He DID exclude you, his friend is entitled and wildly inappropriate and I would bet a body part he is having se* with your man. Boy, BYEEEEE

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IKaRu
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My mom was a sahm for years of her life. And because of it, me and my brothers had a good education, we always ate well, and had someone who would watch after us. Taking care of kids is a lot hard than people may think(plus house). Everything my father owns, half is my mom's. Because when he arrive at home he has a clean house, with food made, clean clothes and everything done. You don't deserve this s**t girl, divorce this bastard and get the money you own by law. People thinks marrying a sahm is getting a free nanny for life??? This ticket he bought is basically his obligation. Why he thinks his friend worth more than you? He should marry his friend instead

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Sarah Bell
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I also believe that the friend doesn't like her and had a hand to play on putting her away from them . He probably resents the fact that she's coming at all . He thinks she's going to interrupt his guys trip . The husband is trash for not recognizing his wife has a valid job and if he wants to pay for child care so she can work then he can foot the bill for that . She hasn't been om any trips with the girls yearly, leaving him in charge of the kids for a week. She is not valued and is treated as a burden or a brood mare . She is an object that cooks ,cleansing, watches the children, and an object he can have sex with . I also bet anything that he's never looked after his kids for any amount of time .

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April Dancer
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

One of my first thoughts was to book a week away somewhere (at a relatives if necessary, but don't tell him where) and leave him with the kids and no support from family, just as he's due to go back to work. Let him see what his money is actually worth then, when there's no last minute day care available.

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Johnathan Walton
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I remember this exact same story except it was a girlfriend in economy and her boyfriend's entire family in first class. She ended up not going on the trip.

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Bri James
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She should tell his friend who texted her to FU and never contact her again or show up at their house

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Chris
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You need to divorce take the kids an live a happy life....and he can get married to his man wife

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Vickyfrench0717#1 French
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You need to speak with a divorce lawyer, learn your right in your state, then you will not be saying you have no money. If you leave, it could be him who has no money. Do not let him control you with money! He will never stop.

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Tana Threadgill
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

As a Mother, Housewife, and SAHM, you are invaluable. It's sad that your husband doesn't think so! If we really break it down your job is priceless and more valuable than any job in the world! As a SAHM your job description is: Caregiver, Chef, Housekeeper, Shopper, Taxi-driver, Sexual Satisfier, Counselor....do you see where I'm going? He can NEVER pay you enough for what you do for him. The least he can do is take you on a nice vacation every year. But, instead he prefers to go with his buddy. The writing is on the wall, chica! Get a divorce and take him to the cleaners. Don't be nice to him! He doesn't even like you from the sound of it. Teach him a huge lesson! Go ahead....it's time!

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Sinkvenice
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Soooo, he can pay for his friend to fly first class but not his wife? And then throws a hissy fit when his wife is understandably upset by it. Wow, he sounds like a wonderful husband.

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Wendy Schkade
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is not a marriage. Personally I would book my own vacation first class leave him to take care of the house. Put cameras up you may find the truth about "hubby and friend " . Get a good lawyer and wave him goodbye. How dare his boyfriend text you and tell you how to conduct your relationship. Hubby should have made him apologize I'm almost sure he didnt.. Your are a convenient maid nanny and all around slave for this self centered Jerk get rid of him. Trust the other posts he does not love you.

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James Butcher
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Guys a clearly a self important selfish scumbag who clearly a homosexual in denial. That said I hate these articles never tell us the outcome of these situations we don't know if the got divorced or what.

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Ben
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Michele Allen
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I am in agreement with other commenters that your husband is in a relationship with his best friend. If this is the kind of relationship you can live with they stay with your husband. You deserve to be treated better by your husband and if you can’t see things will change you need to go see an divorce attorney and discuss your financial options and move on. Sending you hugs!!

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Katerina Huskova
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't get the overall attitude "a working husband who goes abroad every year and a stay at home wife who looks after the kids" They are married, they handle life together, for me (and also my husband) this means we also share the money somehow - we have enough to go on holiday as a family or we stay at home. Yes there are some minor exceptions but still 🤷🏻‍♀️

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kirara2516
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Guess he forgot the golden rule of marriage: "Happy wife, happy life." It'd be the equivalent of comparing it to ship travel. He'd be cruise level and you'd be stuck in the galley or the brig. OP is not entitled, the husband is just a jerk.

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Marnie
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

He didn't "pay for her ticket"!! They are a household. She is not a slave. Their money is THEIR money. Who is raising women these days???!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! My parents were born in the 20s and my Dad would NEVER HAVE called it "his" money. WTF??!!

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Jenifer Halpern
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Use your so called husband as long as you can. Get an education while using him. Get a job and kick him out!

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Mer☕️🧭☕️
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If hubster didn't want wifester to sit in the same area as him and friendster, I'd be wondering what was going on between hubster and friendster...

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Brent Kaufman
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm suspicious of the entire story. It's so over-the-top it seems made up for internet traffic sake.

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De Nilla
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Divorce him, get alimony. Don't disservice your kids by letting them think it's ok to treat people this way, let alone a spouse

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Travis Stoller
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is a true scumbag man. I would put my wife in first class and sit in economy myself if it was a money or booking issue. To throw money in her face Is very painful and degrading, I know this from experience. My wife makes significant amount more than I and I live a lifestyle well above by means because of this. When we fight, as all couples do, she throws it in my face sometimes and I don't really have a good response. Being a SAHM is a job that doesn't stop and is stressful. I would address his actions and request a nanny(just to screw with him). I would also ask him to reach out to his friend and act like a true partner....unless maybe that friend IS HIS partner. You may have disturbed the friends "Beoke Back Mountain" excursions or he was upset that couldn't get hookers. Either way none of my wife's friends would speak to me like that without an immediate response from her.

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Dean Turner
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I honestly get the feeling that her being a stay at home mom wasn't exactly a mutual decision and that he holds some resentment toward her for it. All I know is that we only have her side of the story, and we don't know what may have been left out, or what she is unaware of from his side. We're all guilty of tailoring our stories to maximize the likelihood of people taking our side, and a bunch of strangers have no business telling her what kind of relationship she's in or how horrible a person he is. Do I think it was a messed up decision on his part? As a husband, yes, but I'm not him, nor do I have the same family situation.

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Firstname Lastname
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You feminists need to stop with your bull$h1t. You keep acting like staying at home raising kids is the hardest job in the world, and a father having to actually go deal with the daily grind is so much less than being comfy at home in charge of some kids. I guarantee you, your kids aren’t more difficult than having to go to work, deal with people, and be a slave to some heartless company. Feminists have been pushing the agenda that being a stay-at-home Mom is so difficult and demanding because they don’t want society to wise up to how fkn easy they’ve got it. Maybe you need to go get a real job and you can both pay for daycare, then when you split the bills evenly you can both have first class tickets. Until then STFU and stop trying to overplay how difficult it is to be home and do housework while the kids watch cartoons all day. Why do you think with covid everyone wants to work from home now? Because doing anything from home is just EASIER!!!

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MJ
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

For a majority of relationships, if a woman stopped doing the things that she typically does as a STAHM, the house would be a complete mess, things would be ridiculously dirty, etc. Being a STAHM is hard and it is a job. They have 3 children and 2 of them are with her all day everyday. You're just as much of an a**hole as he is. Do you even realise how many women are single parents even though they're married?

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Pavel von Szebin
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't believe most AITA stories.. A LOT of them seem made up for attention, from boredom, to troll, etc.. But, there's so much here that I can't help but roll my eyes about (which will cause most people who read this to get mad and make incorrect assumptions about me, but whatever).. First, the line about not going on any trips out of the country in a few years... OH MY! I'm surprised she hasn't divorced him already, or AT LEAST filed abuse charges over just that!.. MOST people don't have the money, or the opportunity, to travel out of the country, EVER. Considering wage stagnation and the amount of jobs that don't provide paid time off in the US, I'd imagine most Americans never even get to go on trips out of STATE. People WISH for those problems. Second, EVERY time I see stories like this with the roles reversed, EVERYONE is like, "NTA, girl! That's YOUR money and he's a BUM! You DESERVE time with your FRIENDS! If he wants an upgrade, tell him to get a JOB and pay for it HIMSELF!"

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Swear Wolfe
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

He's definitely being mentally and financially abusive. But by her responses to others... she's not ready to see the truth of what he is. She's become so dependent on him she doesn't even realize how much control over her he has. She doesn't even have the confidence to accept what people are telling her in mass.

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Emeline
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Well obviously you are not the priority for him. If he chose to put you in economy while he sits in first class with his "friend," he doesn't want to sit next to you and maybe just felt obligated to bring you with him for some reason. If it were me, I'd cut my losses and get out of that relationship. No one wants to be someone's second choice.

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SupernaturalPanda
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

F**k this s**t!!!! F**k him and his f****d up friend!!! You are a sahm. You raise his kids you do not need to be treated this way. Where the hell does he even get off treating you this way. I would say divorce his a*s take him for everything he’s got and let go off and enjoy his life with his boyfriend oh I’m sorry his best friend . NTA!!!

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Rosemarie Cruz
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That is not fair, I don’t care, If you don’t work, But you are taking care of your 3 kids, It’s like, Who am I to you, A decorations in the house, If we’re you, Give him some thing that he will regret it for the rest of his lives fe, Give him an ultimatum!

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Michelle Maskell-Sutton
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Divorce. Take him for half, alimony, child support. Tell him to go live with his friend. See how he likes living with No money for being a narcissist husband.

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Michelle Maskell-Sutton
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Divorce him. Take him for half, child support and alimony. Good luck affording his trips then. No women needs a narcissist in their life.

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Heather Renee
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm wondering what culture/ race or faith this couple are ? Either way it's not right at all and the poor wife is being used and mistreated. I agree with others to divorce and take to cleaners. If in a cultural situation around overall safety seek a women's shelter for help. Or find family support of Friends outside of culture to help.

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Whos Whoo
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think like many on here that you're husband may be gay and his friend means more to him than you do. You're just his beard as gay men describe other gay men who are married to woman it's just to hide the fact they're gay. Get a good lawyer get everything you can and don't rush into another relationship take time out learn to live independently away from any man . Get counselling to help you move past this. It's not uncommon. Lots of men who are gay still get married because for whatever reason they're afraid to come out as gay . It's really not a big happy tolerant world we live in .In many countries you can still be jailed for being gay . In time you and he may become good friends your children will be better for it make them your priority

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António Margalho
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ah, the elusive feminazi wetdream, what a marvelous fantasy to embarc in. Just remember, always ask "why", "what" and "who", have a critical thought process. Only then you can filter all the b******t we're being fed. Stay safe friends.

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Joe calbery
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Your husband is homosexual, and is having an affair with his "best friend"

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sami saag
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Children all over the world need both of their parents. If they are happy with their father and he too cares for them and keeps the environment good ,then analyze this bone of of contention ,his friend, he is the one who should go not you ,its your home,your children and your husband.He has misguided your husband. Life is never straight. So work out ,find the ways and kick this person out of your lives .but for this you have to be patient as he holds a strong position in the eyes of you husband but you too have a strong hold being the mother of three kids.

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SW Dad
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I knew a guy like this. Went on trips all the time with his single friend and left his SAHM wife behind. More specifically, they traveled to the Philippines. It's honestly sad that you all, and this woman, don't recognize why the friend is so vehemently opposed to her going on this trip.

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KdramaQ Alexander
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

SATHM, I’m sorry but you husband needs you for his cover of a happily married ma with children and maid and nanny! He needs to keep you there so he and his “ friend” can enjoy each other’s company without you there. The so called friend is now thinking he gets to order you around too, or even degrade you verbally! Put a painful but very much needed stop to this horrible cycle! He probably needs your cover for work around others mainly, I think after you split him and the so called friend will move in together!! No shocker there! You and your children deserve better treatment, not that being gay is a strike against him, but his and his friends actions are sickening! Praying you wake up out of this nightmare of marriage and start living a better life for you and your children , with half of everything this bloke has in the bank and house!

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Daniel Williams
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I would need to know a few more things. Is this considered his 'time with the bois' during the year? Does it happen often or very very regularly every year around the same time? If so you shouldn't of asked to go along really xD and since he said yes I'ma guessing the whole first class and other was more to just have some time to still at least have a little of that time while still having you come along at the same time, etc. maybe those two every year get first class and do this etc? And did they have time to buy first class when they found out you were coming with? Or were they all sold out already or now like 2-3x the prices they were months ago when they made the bookings?

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NTAH!!! I think you should stop doing his laundry, etc. and when it’s dinner time afford him an economy bag of peanuts while you give you and the kids a first class meal every night!

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Karen Weed
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Dump him. He will never change. U r not his equal in the relationship, u r his subordinate.

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DN X
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

These lemming white middle class republicans who thinking making 100k a year makes you rich like lil dik trumps are turning gay and disrespecting their wife's Fk these lame lemming white middle class republicans who suk dik.

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Matt Mosher
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Not his money. Its their money. Anyone with half a brain could see this would not end well. Its a very straightforward insult to his wife and that is exactly what the husband wanted it to be. She probably deals with demeaning situations like this on a regular basis. He clearly has zero respect for his wife. Its unlikely he will change. Only choice now is do you stay till the kids leave home or divorce him immediately? Either way she should make sure to know what their financial situation is before filing because he will do everything he can to hide money and screw his wife out of what is hers.

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Annie Steele
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Start invoicing him for the work that you do at home, cleaning, washing, ironing, cooking, shopping then book your own seat on a trip without him !

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Terrell Dean
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That’s terrible… I couldn’t even imagine treating my wife this way smh… That gotta be more than his so called “best friend” ..

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Suzanne Giglio
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This couple clearly needs marriage counseling. Or she can leave. No one should treat you like this. I’m sure this isn’t the first time he treated you this way. His behavior has a pattern. Don’t ever act subservient to him. Ever. You are his equal. If marriage counseling doesn’t work, then leave. Find someone who treats you like a lady.

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Peach Paree
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is why I can never let myself be in such a dependent state as sahp when the other half can always change for the worse. It's what my ex wanted for us yet our relationship turned into parent/child instead. I hope for the best for her...

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Beth Niska
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Your husband is too immature to be a good spouse. He needs to grow up and drop the "I am the victim " attitude. If my husband tried this with me, he would come back to an empty house and divorce papers on the dining room table.

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Charlette Bowman
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

First your Husband is a jerk. Second, the best friend is a jerk. I am going to assume that they both went on trips without you until this one time. He has not taken you on a trip anywhere and you are being called entitled and what is really happening is you are being NEGLECTED. I'm not sure what happens on a daily basis but being someone who was married to a man just like this and tried to flip the script so you are the "bad guy". I will tell you one thing you must not do and that is "do not take his c**p". You must not forget that you are important and valuable. I'm not going to tell you what to do with your marriage because that is not my place but what I can tell you is you are being mistreated in this situation and I hope that it does not apply in other situations. Your husband should learn to value you or lose you. And my suggestion would be to find a destination and take a best friend who values you. The only person acting entitled is your self absorbed husband.

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patricia sandoval
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Your "husband" must be having more than a friendship with his "best friend"

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Gordon Waite
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Your husband is either a closeted homosexual or he uses these trips for extramarital affairs with other women. Divorce him as he thinks very little of you. I put my wife not only above others but above myself, always have, always will.

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Gail Lynn
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The actions of the husband & "his best friend" is disgusting!! The both deserve a huge slap to the back of the head!!! She is THE WIFE!! Not the hired help! How do these 2 morons see their actions as being even close to acceptable? The "husband" is TAH & does not deserve a wife. He has zero respect for his wife. If I was in the wife's position, he'd be on the curb with the rest of the trash!!! Now, for "the friend". OH, HELL NAH!!! The moment he stuck his nose into the marriage, he should've gotten the boot!! How dare he be rude & disrespectful of "his best friend's" wife!! That would never, ever fly in my life! When I married my husband, some of my family members were rude, even cruel, to him. I apologized to my hubby for them being TAHs. Then I made it crystal clear that their opinions/comments were not welcomed. Those who kept the BS going? They got the boot from my life. So the OP is NTAH. The "husband" & "best friend" get that title!!

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Tam hall
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Well, well, well. Sounds to me he "let" you go on this one trip overseas. Let's just drop you off in a foreign country with no money and leave you. Kids are taken care of and he is free to spend the rest of his life with his lover. Hmmmmm. D. I. V. O. R. C. E. Him. As for being a SAHM, it is the most honorable job you could ever have. And half his money is your money.

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Louise Martin
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think she needs to find a divorce attorney and demand alimony and child support and keep the house and kick his sorry a*s out so he can go have a life with his lover.

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James Butcher
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

He self important and I suspect a homosexual in denial. That said I hate these articles as you don't know what he opened next, we don't don't know if he saw the error of his ways or they seperated permanently. If you gonna post articles like this at least say what the outcome is.

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KM
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is painful. It's time to get a divorce. I'm sorry, but when you're treated with less respect and dignity than a friend it's time to go. This "Friend" also has no right to have any opinion in this situation. This "Friend" has over stepped their relationship and should had offered the wife the seat in first class without a word. This is not ok. I would never sit in first class with this man's wife sotting in economy. This friend is a princess. And, this husband is ridiculous. Out they go! You deserve better!

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Gabriel Gawrada
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Hang the ungrateful sob out to dry and soak him for every last coin you can get.

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Rebecca Burrer
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Your husband is TBAH ever!! How dare he talk down to you, his friend is also a major AH. You do a lot by taking care of the household/kids. He owed you first class and to take his "friend" on yearly trips but not you. Something fishy is going on. I see red flags waving at very corner.

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Daniel Diaz
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Omg sweetheart I feel so bad for you. Let this man go . Ask for a divorce. They are gay and you are in the way of their relationship. The fact the guy butted in the argument and told you see I told him you were no good. It's very clear he's doing some Greek style s**t. Have a woman at home take care of everything while dude goes out and does his thing with a man. As a gay man who has dated several married men I can tell you that's exactly what's going on. Divorce will give you back your happiness.

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Chris Simms
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Shut up f****t. You're not helping anyone by saying you've slept with their husband's.

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Linda Powder
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Once two people are married, friends are put on the back burner, period. "Best friends" are no longer top priority. This jealous a*****e of a friend is having a hard time accepting that fact. As far as being a stay at home mom, she's working, just like anyone on the outside. Only diff is that she doesn't get any money or respect for it. Her husband is a disgusting POS, and she should divorce him ASAP. You simply can't trust men like that, and it wouldn't surprise me if that jealous a*****e "friend" of his would convince him to cheat on her. What a life...

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Wendy Gould
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

By putting ypu on economy, he gaslit you. Set you up for a reaction. He played you for a fool Run like hell. Life is short.

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Alex Freetime
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I mean he's not forced to take her anywhere and to pay for it, but if you invite her do it properly. It was, all things considered, a stupid move.

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Carmen Rita Peters
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think he has a homosexual relationship with his friend and you need to talk to your gynecologist and then your lawyer. Even if you don't get a divorce he should be educated on what your rights are as his wife. And if he cannot come to terms in the marriage then give him the terms for the divorce.

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Marilyn Russell
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wow - I hope this woman wakes up about how her husband is treating her and viewing her contributions to their union with disrespect and frankly abuse. Reminds me of how my husband would invite his buddies along to see FarmAid with us and making sure they were happy and enjoying themselves became more important to him and I was being ignored and neglected on the trip. So I stopped going because it was just no fun for me. Same would be when he invited his parents to go on our trips. I remember going to see a movie by myself in Texas being the best time I had on the whole trip while they all slept off a hangover (I’m not a drinker.) Or I was told his parents weren’t interested in seeing man attraction I wanted to visit, but we would go to outlet malls and eat at pub style restaurants. Why did we even leave Canada if we aren’t going to check out Texas-y stuff? Just saying.

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Deidre Westover
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Her husband is a homosexual. His "friend" is his boyfriend. There is no other logical explanation for any of this.

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Johnathan McFadden
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

He's definitely in a relationship with the "friend"... This is exactly how my relationship ended.

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B-b-bird
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Don’t understand dynamics here. It sounds sus when he out of sudden wants you to come along (after many years) to new location. I’d question if he needs you for something there, like cooking? Because how he treated you is how people treating their personal assistants/domestic help. Its a guess, but that’s suspicion that I’ve got.

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Erin E
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

“He paid for my ticket” really threw me. Sounds like she needs to start charging for maid service, day care, laundry service, … etc.

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Robin Roper
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Send him on his way and while he is gone, find an affordable apartment, hire a divorce lawyer, and circle your friends.

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BadKitty
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NTA Just so you know, "Salary.com’s Annual Mom Salary Survey from May 2021, moms should be paid — $184,820". Does hubby pay you that much? No. Value you that much? No. Quietly get that divorce lawyer and take him to the cleaners like he's been doing to you. Child support, Alimony. Half his money and income forever. Let's see if his boyfriend loves him after that.

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Jan Caisse
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I can tell you by 10 years experience, you are not important to your husband. I worked & took care of the house & our child. I was told my money really didn't make a big difference but he insisted I work. I did everything but pay the bills & go grocery shopping (I spend too much money so he started doing it). When I wanted a certain thing from the grocery store, he always had an excuse why he didn't by it. That man made me so insecure that I stayed for 10 years. It just got worse as the years went by. RUN! Don't waste anymore time on a man that feels you have no real value. NTA

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Clara Stallworth
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NTA!!!! The way he responded when you addressed the issue of being in economy while he and his "friend" getting first-class, first by yelling at you, then by begging you to come anyway, then by acting like HE'S the victim??? And to top it off, his "friend" actually had the nerve to call YOU entitled (and the fact that hubby didn't even tell his "friend" to stay out of it, and defend YOU, the wife and mother of his kids, tells us all we need to know!! Good for you in blocking him on social media!!)!! Time to teach him a REAL lesson: When he gets off work, hand the kids off to him and tell him you're "on strike"!! He wants to travel to a game with his buddy? Nope, sorry, YOU got a spa day at an exclusive resort with YOUR sisters, girlfriends, heck, even your MIL!! Let him have fun taking care of the household and the kids, and watch disaster unfold in 3,2,1...!! He'll try to get a hold of you, but wouldn't you know it, you left your phone in your locker at the spa!!

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Shayla Katherina
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Probably a good thing they didn't end up going because OP would've just been the third wheel throughout the whole trip.

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Jasperina Witty
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She needs to leave his a*s. Call all the expensive lawyers for a consult. So he will be left with the crappy ones. Divorce him and get alimony

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Scott Wilkinson
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have to say that while I was too, a SAHM, that it is hard to look at that is your money too. While I had to learn that I was a free babysitter/maid/wife, take it from me, your services are worth more than anything. What would happen if you left him with the kids during a work week and he had to find a babysitter for the kids, be the maid, and you take that pay and go on a vacation without him? In order to know how much you do, he can't leave the kids with parents or have a babysitter to hang with his friends. My husband is a stay at home Dad and I would never treat him that way. It is our money. In fact, I would sacrifice and put him in first class, while friend and I sat in economy. You deserved to be pampered.

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Sara Gomez
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I agree with Keith O on this one. It seems others in your circle are suspecting that there is more to their vacation trips. My theory is your husband insisted you still go because he thought it might throw everyone off. Another tell is the friend calling YOU entitled when he gets to ride in first class. Get a good attorney and tell them to have the courage to live their truth instead of making you undeserving while trying to make you their beard.

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Tracy Rieon Hall
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

For him to treat you like you're such a bother and book you economy instead having you right next to him since you're his wife what nerve. Then the comment it's his money no dear heart by law it belongs to both of you because you take care of his children, run and clean the house, pay all the bills, do laundry, all while taking care of the children. So it's obvious that he values his friend over you his wife. If you're smart you will immediately file for divorce and sue him for child support as well as spousal support. Cutt your losses and never allow this "man" into your bed again because you don't deserve to be treated like this. Also go get tested because this entire situation seems like some down low c**p. Also close out all accounts and credit cards immediately

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Tracy Rieon Hall
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I wish my husband would put me in economy while he and his friend sit in 1st class. Nope he would go on that trip and wouldn't have a home to come back to. Plus he would get served with divorce papers, child support as well as alimony. There isn't no his money you're married so half of it is yours. Now as for him putting his friend above you and he's your husband then there's something else going on here sounds like so down low secret relationship. His friend even has the nerve to text and be disrespectful to you wow. Couldn't be me. Cutt your losses file for divorce and get that sorry sack of c**p out of your life because that's just disrespectful and no amount of counseling is gonna make this go away. Also never allow this piece of c**p back in your bed let alone your life also go get tested.

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Dharma Webber
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NTA! Here's the short answer - You have all the pussy and half the money. Leave immediately with both!

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Mikey Kliss
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

People have such little respect for the SAHP position. It's really sad and maybe someday we'll have a society that can properly respect that

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Jose Garcia
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sorry but no male or female should go through what you went through. Divorce him and BLOCK him too.

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Matthew Zornig
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The olds, not the news. BP is allowed to get up on their high horse when they post something original.

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Shereé Knight
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Psychically, there's more going on with his bff. Why is his bff entitled to belittle you? Do you get monthly vacations? Bc his money IS your money. S**t, take the kids back to your moms, book a getaway in the opposite direction, and show him WTF you are and what you CAN DO with "y'alls" money. Your nicer than me. Bc I'd have both mfrs crying and he definitely wouldn't spend anymore of "y'alls money" on his friend. Actually, you should reply to his friend asking why y'all are financially supporting him. That would make heads roll! And not yours. 😘

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Klara Lorinczi
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You should remind him that half the income belongs to you because you’re married. He sounds like an arrogant man. If my husband treated me like that, I would plot my revenge. It goes both ways. Please don’t let him get away with this disrespectful behavior.

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CL Rowan
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Husband is screwing his 'best friend' and wife was to accompany in order to put others (who figured it out first) off their scent. Get a PI, gather the proof, and send his cheating a*s to the cleaners!

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Jeff Brock
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I really think that a 3rd response needs to added to this reddit. In addition to NTA & YTA, we need TNWTFH (there's no way this f*****g happened)

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Evelyn Chambers
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

He booked a ticket for first class for him and his friend which means he paid for both of them while he got you an economy ticket also why is his friend calling you and going off on you about how you responded to your husband about this. Sweetie please take some time and think about why your husband is definitely putting his BOY FRIEND ahead of you.

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Connie Richardson
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I smelled a rat. Real loving husbands dont play games like that. I know several couples that vacation together or take mini trips without children or do staycations in the same city that they live in. He does not own you. Where did he get his idea about marriage from? Evaluate the relationship to see if your needs and expectations are being met and give no excuses to the other couple

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Monique Williams
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Huh??? Everyone is being so nice and I guess I'm going to have to be the meanie here...hon, he's banging his friend and you aren't even a thought anymore.. Your being used as a "front" to hide his true nature and please leave

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Angela Reyes
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Did he pay for his BF's First class ticket too?he needs to pay it back. you know the money he used for buying his trip/trips are family money, which if he wants you to work, he needs to find a Nanny or day care.He's living a bachealor life with his ehem "BOY-FRIEND".As a Family, you the sahm needs to handle the FINANCES so you can make a BUDGET.Did he not learn "Happy wife Happy Life". as a family you both should be saving for your kids College expenses, medical expenses, school and activities, insurance etc. before going to trips.also forward all his "BOY-FRIEND'S" txt messages to him and ask him is that the kind of friend he wants to hang out with? disrespecting you! means disrespecting the mother of his children, means disrepecting his kids, means belittleing his Choice w/c is supposed to be you, beloved wife.He brought Shame on you.remind him he hasnt paid enough for the ripped Vagina just to give birth to his kids.Your Vajayjay deserved more than economy. NTA1000%

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Marsha Putnam
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

To add to the level of disrespect the “husband” has for the OP, why is he allowing his “friend” to be so disrespectful to the OP? Friend has no right to enter into the argument between husband and wife. He has passed normal boundaries and hubby sits back and allows this? IMO: OP doesn’t have a marriage, an equal partnership, or love and support. OP—>RUN to the nearest good divorce lawyer. It won’t be pretty but you deserve better. Then see how hubby reacts. At least he will be free to spend as much time with his “friend” as they want. Good luck.

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Seth NoWai
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

In family, there is no room for me, it is only us. Meaning everything is shared, everyone does their brst to help each other, to support each other, to contribure, and to also help by funding way to meet in the middle, not just my way, but also sone sacrifices to make other side happy. And clearly here is husband that seed wife more as someone who he is stuck with, rather than wife. Like if you will travel in 1st class, then wife also travels in 1st class, or both go for economy. Also just because she isn't contributing money, this doesn't mean she isn't contributing. Though I don't know their exact situation, I definitely am sure there is no way this attitude can be portrayed in any way to look good for husband. And as marriage says in good and in bad, he clearly never heard of latter. I hope she can somehow get him to realize that this is not the way, but looking at it, she might need to get up on her feet and just go seperate way.

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Lorrie Rothstein
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Your his wife. Of course you are entitled to sit in first class. Maybe your husband is gay.

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Randy Perez
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

But you say he's a just friend... We've all heard that before. I get the boys trip idea, but this was different therefore should be treated differently. NTA

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Denise Porter
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

All thru life we look for comfort and a dedication of a soul mate that we can comfortably grow old with. This guy isn't it.You deserve way better than this, I wouldn't go.And honestly ,I'd start getting myself together to break away from this narcissistic guy. No more vacations with his friend would even help at this point, I wouldn't want to be his second choice ever again. Maybe get into a child care job where you can bring your kids, start getting a degree in child care and start planning a life around your kids for nowl. In a short time you can be self sufficient and find that guy (or person) you CAN grow old with comfortably but obviously this dude ain't it !

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Lu Harris
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Agreed. He neither loves nor even likes her and she deserves a mate who does. Also agree her joining the workforce is likely a good idea, though not necessarily in childcare; HOWEVER, if they're US citizens the jerk husband can be made to kick in child support and alimony. If he's that loaded there's no reason for her and the kids to be destitute.

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Misty Souders
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

N T A. Sweet heart. YOUR Husband and HIS best are MOST DEFINITELY in a BRO MANCE. AND it has PROBABLY gone further then that but now. Your Husband has MADE it clear how HE FEELS ABPUT his BFF AND ABOUT YOU. His BEST friend is NOW texting Fowl texts. HE is BASICALLY telling YOU to GO AWAY. WE want to BE TOGETHER. YOUR "Husband: does NOTHING about it. THEIR tickets were FIRST CLASS. YOURS????? THEY DIDN'T want you their. BOTH of them have MADE IT CLEAR. All you are to the BOTH of them is A NANNY and an INCONVENIENCE. YOU my dear ARE not THE NANNY. YOU are THE MOTHER of HIS CHILDREN. WHO DESERVES to be TREATED with RESPECT. THAT. PLAIN TICKET Should SHOW you how MUCH RESPECTS YOU. HE DOESN'T. WHILE THEIR GONE. THINK . THEN GET an attorney. FILE. THEN GET SPOUSAL SUPPORT as well as CHILD SUPPORT. THEN. Move on and go get a MUCH BETTER LIFE. GOOD LUCK

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Kate
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

While I agree with you somewhat, your method of using the caps lock is giving me a headache.

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Rachel Smith
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Honestly kinda suspect to me. It sounds like husband is having an affair with this "friend". I know he's a guy friend but in the closet gay men get married all the time ( to women ). My uncle is exactly like this, has kids and everything but only me and my mom know he's gay. That's what happens when you are raised super religious and don't want to disappoint your parents

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Marco Davalos
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

His friend is who Freddy Mercury was singing about in "you're my best friend"

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angel B
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Divorces a*s interview every single high priced attorney in the area so that he can't use them

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PhillyGirl1
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NTA. She had a right to ask, the friend needs to mind their business, the boyfriend needs to give a straight answer as to why. That wasn't including her, and basically looked like he didn't want her to be there anyway

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Brian Michael
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If the story is real the man is having an affair with his "friend".

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joop
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yeah eeww that bothers me more than thinking he's all that and flying first class, while the maid must be happy with economy and he never takes the kids on a holiday? They're even worse off than mom. Eeeww. Stay there, go live together w your friend.

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DaFetus
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Nta it's not his money you are sahm meaning his money is your money as you are a tram and you work 24/7. There is no my money and my wife's money. Not even sure why you say he is paying are you jot married? If you are together with kids then you are both paying it doesn't matter whose name is on the pay it's both your lines you are a team and if that's not how he sees it tell him he can stay home with the kids then it he can stfu. This would jot fly in my home my wife would kill me, as she would be right to..he is treating you like a child not a partner.

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joop
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The kids are treated worse. They may not even go on a holiday. He goes himself. He treats her like a maid with benefits.

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Charlie
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Holy cra*p! I would never accept this BS!!!! If I’m not nr 1 on my husband’s list on a JOINT trip with others, I’m out.

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Amber V
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Let me start this by saying I hate how often commenters just jump straight to "divorce him" or "leave him". How about work through the issue together and resolve it? Yes, he is the a*****e. But at least he didn't take off on the trip without you. Talk through these issues. Being a SAHM doesn't mean you deserve less, you're running the entire household freeing him up to work. If anything you two deserve a vacation together, without the a*****e friend (he was way out of line with those texts)

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MJ
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

He paid for his friend's first class ticket. Threw a hissy fit just because she asked if she could go. Brought up paying for her ticket as if it was a first date. Let his friend disrespect her by texting her that she's "entitled" for being upset. He does not respect her as his wife. She is a glorified girlfriend doing wife level duties.

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Ted Wrigt
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Kudos to him. I don't want mine on the same vacation with me.

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Caramel Kreme
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is why I really hate this PC society. Lady if your husband takes all his trips with his friend and not you, you need to find out where they sleep on these trips it's time to hire a PI because if he can afford these trips then he's got money. Stop crying and start getting your evidence together so that when you take him to court you will be a permanent SAHM with benefits. Stop crying!!!! Your husband is GAY!!! Now you know it's time for you to hit him where it hurts. You have choices do not be a lifelong victim and stop posting this s**t what are you waiting for for him to jump out of the closet Bruce Jenner style!!! SMH

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Hope Tirendi
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When are women going to learn to keep your finances separate and NEVER be a stay at home wife/mother. This givesidiot men all the control. Not all men are like this but a lot are!!! Plus your husband and his friend are a couple!

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Lu Harris
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Plenty of marriages are true partnerships that function beautifully with a breadwinner and a stay-at-home parent taking care of the kids and running the household. I'm a widow now and have always been a feminist but choosing to spend those few precious years at home when our son was little remain the happiest of my life.

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Ckshock
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I see no one asking a few key questions here. There's no information given on past relationship roles. She says she's a SAHM , is this a choice they ce to as a couple? Or is this rather she has never work a job and just took on the role of SAHM because she didn't want to contribute in any other way. The entitled comment from the husband's friend. Coupled the husband anger at claiming he paid for it. To me sounds more like he's not on board with her being SAHM to begin with. There's multiple sides to every story and this one only includes hers. To note not saying the husband is right. I'm just throwing out questions.

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Rob Eman
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I'm so tired of all these "divorce him and take half". Responses that the nice people of the internet always give to things like these; glad they are so confident giving such family shattering advice from 3 paragraphs for someone's one-sided story... Kinda makes me sick...

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Ed Bangor
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I have one question that doesn't seem addressed in the article: when was each ticket purchased? If the husband got a freak of 1st class tickets purchasing them way in advance, and when the wife's fuckery was purchased later at a crazy price hike, she might be stuck with flying coach. The full timeline matters here. If you bought three tickets in one go but decided your spouse Will sit in the back, then the husband is the a*****e. If the tickets were purchased months apart and a third first class ticket was no longer affordable, then the wife is at least partially to blame. And I'm getting the feeling that this may be the case. After all, the husband has gone on repeated trips with his friend. It's not all that uncommon for couples, even happily married ones, to want a couple of days apart. I know that my mom regularly goes on girls weekends with my grandmother and aunts. If it was that kind of situation, and the wife insisted on inserting herself, then most of the blame falls on her. R

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Just withhold the 1st class sex and let him have his way for the first time. All this hate and wanting him to have nothing is ridiculous. Why would anyone take a chance on a woman these days. Men can't have anything to them selves, not even a thought. If you don't believe me just go home and start laughing for no reason. Don't explain what you're laughing at and watch her start acting like a witch. MGTOW

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Keith O
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is Fu@king ridiculous. HE didn't PAY for your ticket, you raise the kids and hold the entire household down. YOU both payed for the ticket as this is MARITAL money. I don't mean for this to come out this way, but this sounds like some Brokeback Mountain sh!t. The friend who takes a trip with YOUR husband every year didn't want you to come, even though you don't get to take a yearly trip. Just fu@king wow man. This dude is trash, he doesn't treat you as an equal. Lawyer up, get alimony and child support and live your own life as a first class citizen instead of the second class one he treats you as.

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Candice Cook
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So right! I mean my mind is scrambled after just reading about it. What I really can't fathom though is how does one end up with a husband like this? They must put on a really good show and play the long game. I guess I've just learned the hard way too many times so I'm probably cynical and seeing red flags where there are none these days(prob why I'm middle aged, single, and never been married), but how does a blatant disregard for one's feelings go unnoticed? I am not nice enough to put up with a person like that even with my admittedly lower than average self esteem. I think not.

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Bill Allen
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Let me guess, your husband and his “friend” share a great room in a four star hotel and you get Motel 6? If a friend of mine ever called my wife “entitled” he would not be my friend any longer. Being a spouse is a lot more involved than making money.

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Brandon Marlowe
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I agree 100%, Bill. Treating her as "less than" and allowing his "friend" to speak to her in an abusive manner is unacceptable. #teamwillsmith

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Casey McAlister
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NTA. It sounds like your husband is married to his best friend, and they see you just as...a housemaid? You deserve much better than that.

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There Is No Planet B
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The amount of gaslighting this poor woman is subjected to by these two troglodytes is astounding! She needs a therapist and a lawyer ASAP

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Trillian
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She doesn't work? Who does he think is raising his children? I am sorry, probably I have very little tolerance for assholey bahavior, but I would leave him. Not only does he disrespect the work she does, but obviously he doesn't value her as a person.

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StayClassy
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I can't believe he lets his friend talk about/text his wife like that. RED FLAG

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UpupaEpops
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

He most likely bitched to this friend in the first place. How else would he know. And why does he even have her number? Tbh it kind of sounds more than a friendship to me.. I mean, yearly overseas trips just the two of them?

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Jan Ahlmann
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She’s in an abusive relationship and needs gets to get the hell out! Chances are husband and best “friend” are in a relationship. Husband just doesn’t want to pay alimony and child support. Let him and his buddy go on the trip, while he’s gone, get a lawyer, drain the bank accounts, put all his stuff in a POD, change the locks .

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Justme
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When your significant others friends are rude to you - it’s often because your SO is rude to you behind your back.

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Miss Kat O
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Start charging him for all the childcare and household task you perform if he wants to be like that

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Caro Caro
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is humiliating. I presume they agreed that she would be a sahm so all income is shared. Next step would be the a$$hole husband controlling her more and more. The selfishness of husband and his friend is horrible, maybe those 2 nitwits should get married !!!!

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Johnny
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My wife and I went for a trip once where we were able to get one of our tickets upgraded for first class -- we split it, I took the first class seat on the way there, she took it on the way home (her choice - she had to go to work the next day so wanted the more relaxing first class seat). We used "my" miles to upgrade the ticket, but really, they are "our" miles since we're a normal married couple and share our income and expenses.

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Sarah Bell
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Stay at home mom here . It makes me irate when they claim we don't work . I stay home because of my health but that doesn't mean that I'm not the primary parent 90 percent of the time because of my husband's work schedule. I do 80 percent of the house work . Stay at home mom is exhausting and emotionally challenging. I don't get to clock out , I don't get breaks . It's very hard to be a sahm and on top of that being medically screwed when it comes to my health . I do have a job and it is to keep my kids healthy, safe , and as happy as they can be .. on top of that of we sent the kids to a daycare or nanny if I worked . Why are they ok with recognizing that they should be paid and it's WORK to take care of children but when a parent does it then it has no value. My husband has no idea how to handle the kids for am extended amount of time but when he does he gets a good taste of it . When he has a bad day he can come home and decompress but when I have a bad day it's considered being a mom and to suck it up. It's a partnership. He brings in the money and I manage the house so he doesn't have to worry about a lot when he's home .

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Kiryn Silverwing
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Seriously. Do people even understand how much daycare/nanny for multiple kids costs so that the other parent can focus on work? Not many people can earn enough to pay for that. I live in a very expensive area and several friends with kids decided to have one person be a SAHP purely because they'll save a ton of money on daycare that way. And it's a lot of work to keep a house clean and plan out/prepare meals, that's why only rich people can afford to have a housekeeper and a personal chef. It's awful enough to do all these things for no extra household income when they're clearly highly valued by society, but the disrespect needs to stop.

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Brenda
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If my husband ever THOUGHT about treating me like I was a "lesser" person than he or his friends ot that I simply wasn't important enough to him to get me the same accommodations he got for himself, he'd never have to worry about me going ANYWHERE with him ever again. The kids and I would be gome when he returned. Or his new room would be in the garage until he learned to respect me & the job I do for our family. I became a SAHM after #2 came along (6 years between them), quitting school & giving up my honor society activities became daycare was too expensive. I NEVER wanted to be a SAHM, I wanted to be a working mom. Luckily, hubby went out of his way to make sure I knew how much he appreciated what I did for the family. If your hubby is that disrespectful towards you and thinks you don't need or deserve to be treated equally, then he needs his butt kicked. He might make the money, but you BOTH work and your job is way more important. 💜💙💛

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Kim Contreras
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Your husband is probably gay. Why else would he choose his guy friend over his wife for years, and then sit with him instead of you? He is likely using you to put on a straight front for others - he has a wife and kids, trappings of a 'normal' straight guy. I have nothing against his being gay, but own it!

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SMom
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Someone pointed out their trips are for sex tourism, helluva sport they're after! 🤬

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Bernd Herbert
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"and this is what happens when he finally decides to include." Wrong--he didn't include OP, he put her way back. figuratively and literally

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April Dancer
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You could almost hear the sigh in his voice then, couldn't you. I finally let you come along and even then you're not satisfied! Does make me wonder what would have happened on that holiday, would she have been stuck in the room all day with no money for food and drinks?

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Elyse Korwel
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Get out now this man is not your partner. Let the little b***h go live with his boyfriend.

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Rosie Cat
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I wonder what else is wrong within their relationship, because this is no where near normal. The wife is being treated like a side chick, the best friend like a spouse. She had better watch herself, this is the type of person that if she were to die first, he would plant her in potters field, toss her belongings in the trash and be off to start his new life.....with the best friend.

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Will I Will-Ham
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Op should get a good divorce lawyer. This is clear a toxic relationship where she is only a second class person. Please op should leaf asap!

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Delilah Evil
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Hubby is on the dl. However progressive society may seem, there are a lot of people value presenting a traditional family. Depending on where you live and what you do it can be financially important. Buddy sounds like a jealous side piece

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Rogers Hunter
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Keith O right down there just spoke every word that was going through my mind. Especially the Brokeback Mountain thing. I don't fathom this at all. I'm single and 60 so I'll never have a real relationship again, but if I had been lucky enough to have had a loving wife such as you she would be by my side before anyone else.

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jkenby
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

60 years old is too young to say "I'll never have a real relationship again!" Many, many people have found a special person in their "golden years." I've known two people, who coincidentally were each with their partners - one married and one gay relationship - for 32 years before being widowed. Each found a good, loving relationship after that. Don't write it off yet.

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Sarah Bell
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Again if you're willing to recognize that a daycare/nanny/anyone who cares for children is seen as a valid job and deserving of respect and pay but a stay at home parent it's not worth anything because they are your kids...kids thst take the same amount of work if not more . My kids are better when they are at someone else's house. At home they limit test yes I love my children but it is hard to be a parent. Especially when you can't leave them for a break like you can leave your job to get away from the stress and pressure.

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Jodee Rebecca Davey
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What an A*****e of a Husband,I Hope She Divorced His Sorry A*s After That

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Erik Ivan
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

A partner is your lover, your best friend, your family. Why would anyone want to go 1 class while putting the spouce in a less luxury position? Is the guy even taking his family serious?

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Deborah Harris
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What a total T***t he is, i'm wondering why he finally invited her along with his 'best friend'. No doubt she would have been expected to stay alone in the hotel room during the day, whilst he did best bud things with his friend ...what a horrible man

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Michelle Trousil
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Totally NTA! This is like a flashback to my mom ex-husband who has three sons from his first marriage. (I don't have any kids with none upcoming because of fertility). After we did our entire pre wedding life in a major City, he told me that I no longer needed to work and we were living on an island off the coast of Portland, ME and I am a glorified Nanny. He used money as a form of emotional abuse. I am sure that you feel that it's a privilege to get to be with your kids 24/7, but it is also a FT job with very few breaks. Financial Control IS Abuse. You need to go to couples' therapy and explain to him that he is abusive.

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Hubert Martin
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Jeez, tell him you're going on the trip, first-class, end of discussion. If not, change the locks. Any other problems, divorce him and make a judge see how equal you two are. Unless there is a pre-nup in play. I mean, just look at relationships nowadays. Would not surprise me in the least. If you're considering a pre-nup, my poor fool, you are nowhere near ready to be married because you have not found a partner, you just found a body.

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Rachel Adorno
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This triggered me. He feels entitled to control you, when or if you get a vacation and how you will spend it, not next to him. He feels you should be grateful for economy, for even being invited along? After years of maintaining the house and children with no PTO OR Paid time on for that matter. What makes him think he is entitled to a vacation at all? I suspect financial abuse is just the tip of the iceberg, the fact that he's upset you didn't play his game and his friend feels entitled to both solo vacations with him, a married man and to bully you. While he's gone call the domestic violence holiness. It's not just for physical abuse. Explain what you've written here. See if they can help you put together a safe exit plan before he returns.

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Seedy Vine
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When a spouse demands that the other spouse not work for whatever reason, they don't get to fault or abuse that spouse for not receiving a paycheck. It sounds like the OP's husband is in love with his friend.

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Ashley Kelly
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

He DID exclude you, his friend is entitled and wildly inappropriate and I would bet a body part he is having se* with your man. Boy, BYEEEEE

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IKaRu
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My mom was a sahm for years of her life. And because of it, me and my brothers had a good education, we always ate well, and had someone who would watch after us. Taking care of kids is a lot hard than people may think(plus house). Everything my father owns, half is my mom's. Because when he arrive at home he has a clean house, with food made, clean clothes and everything done. You don't deserve this s**t girl, divorce this bastard and get the money you own by law. People thinks marrying a sahm is getting a free nanny for life??? This ticket he bought is basically his obligation. Why he thinks his friend worth more than you? He should marry his friend instead

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Sarah Bell
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I also believe that the friend doesn't like her and had a hand to play on putting her away from them . He probably resents the fact that she's coming at all . He thinks she's going to interrupt his guys trip . The husband is trash for not recognizing his wife has a valid job and if he wants to pay for child care so she can work then he can foot the bill for that . She hasn't been om any trips with the girls yearly, leaving him in charge of the kids for a week. She is not valued and is treated as a burden or a brood mare . She is an object that cooks ,cleansing, watches the children, and an object he can have sex with . I also bet anything that he's never looked after his kids for any amount of time .

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April Dancer
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

One of my first thoughts was to book a week away somewhere (at a relatives if necessary, but don't tell him where) and leave him with the kids and no support from family, just as he's due to go back to work. Let him see what his money is actually worth then, when there's no last minute day care available.

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Johnathan Walton
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I remember this exact same story except it was a girlfriend in economy and her boyfriend's entire family in first class. She ended up not going on the trip.

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Bri James
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She should tell his friend who texted her to FU and never contact her again or show up at their house

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Chris
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You need to divorce take the kids an live a happy life....and he can get married to his man wife

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Vickyfrench0717#1 French
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You need to speak with a divorce lawyer, learn your right in your state, then you will not be saying you have no money. If you leave, it could be him who has no money. Do not let him control you with money! He will never stop.

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Tana Threadgill
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

As a Mother, Housewife, and SAHM, you are invaluable. It's sad that your husband doesn't think so! If we really break it down your job is priceless and more valuable than any job in the world! As a SAHM your job description is: Caregiver, Chef, Housekeeper, Shopper, Taxi-driver, Sexual Satisfier, Counselor....do you see where I'm going? He can NEVER pay you enough for what you do for him. The least he can do is take you on a nice vacation every year. But, instead he prefers to go with his buddy. The writing is on the wall, chica! Get a divorce and take him to the cleaners. Don't be nice to him! He doesn't even like you from the sound of it. Teach him a huge lesson! Go ahead....it's time!

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Sinkvenice
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Soooo, he can pay for his friend to fly first class but not his wife? And then throws a hissy fit when his wife is understandably upset by it. Wow, he sounds like a wonderful husband.

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Wendy Schkade
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is not a marriage. Personally I would book my own vacation first class leave him to take care of the house. Put cameras up you may find the truth about "hubby and friend " . Get a good lawyer and wave him goodbye. How dare his boyfriend text you and tell you how to conduct your relationship. Hubby should have made him apologize I'm almost sure he didnt.. Your are a convenient maid nanny and all around slave for this self centered Jerk get rid of him. Trust the other posts he does not love you.

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James Butcher
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Guys a clearly a self important selfish scumbag who clearly a homosexual in denial. That said I hate these articles never tell us the outcome of these situations we don't know if the got divorced or what.

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Michele Allen
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I am in agreement with other commenters that your husband is in a relationship with his best friend. If this is the kind of relationship you can live with they stay with your husband. You deserve to be treated better by your husband and if you can’t see things will change you need to go see an divorce attorney and discuss your financial options and move on. Sending you hugs!!

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Katerina Huskova
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't get the overall attitude "a working husband who goes abroad every year and a stay at home wife who looks after the kids" They are married, they handle life together, for me (and also my husband) this means we also share the money somehow - we have enough to go on holiday as a family or we stay at home. Yes there are some minor exceptions but still 🤷🏻‍♀️

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kirara2516
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Guess he forgot the golden rule of marriage: "Happy wife, happy life." It'd be the equivalent of comparing it to ship travel. He'd be cruise level and you'd be stuck in the galley or the brig. OP is not entitled, the husband is just a jerk.

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Marnie
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

He didn't "pay for her ticket"!! They are a household. She is not a slave. Their money is THEIR money. Who is raising women these days???!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! My parents were born in the 20s and my Dad would NEVER HAVE called it "his" money. WTF??!!

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Jenifer Halpern
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Use your so called husband as long as you can. Get an education while using him. Get a job and kick him out!

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Mer☕️🧭☕️
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If hubster didn't want wifester to sit in the same area as him and friendster, I'd be wondering what was going on between hubster and friendster...

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Brent Kaufman
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm suspicious of the entire story. It's so over-the-top it seems made up for internet traffic sake.

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De Nilla
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Divorce him, get alimony. Don't disservice your kids by letting them think it's ok to treat people this way, let alone a spouse

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Travis Stoller
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is a true scumbag man. I would put my wife in first class and sit in economy myself if it was a money or booking issue. To throw money in her face Is very painful and degrading, I know this from experience. My wife makes significant amount more than I and I live a lifestyle well above by means because of this. When we fight, as all couples do, she throws it in my face sometimes and I don't really have a good response. Being a SAHM is a job that doesn't stop and is stressful. I would address his actions and request a nanny(just to screw with him). I would also ask him to reach out to his friend and act like a true partner....unless maybe that friend IS HIS partner. You may have disturbed the friends "Beoke Back Mountain" excursions or he was upset that couldn't get hookers. Either way none of my wife's friends would speak to me like that without an immediate response from her.

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Dean Turner
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I honestly get the feeling that her being a stay at home mom wasn't exactly a mutual decision and that he holds some resentment toward her for it. All I know is that we only have her side of the story, and we don't know what may have been left out, or what she is unaware of from his side. We're all guilty of tailoring our stories to maximize the likelihood of people taking our side, and a bunch of strangers have no business telling her what kind of relationship she's in or how horrible a person he is. Do I think it was a messed up decision on his part? As a husband, yes, but I'm not him, nor do I have the same family situation.

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Firstname Lastname
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You feminists need to stop with your bull$h1t. You keep acting like staying at home raising kids is the hardest job in the world, and a father having to actually go deal with the daily grind is so much less than being comfy at home in charge of some kids. I guarantee you, your kids aren’t more difficult than having to go to work, deal with people, and be a slave to some heartless company. Feminists have been pushing the agenda that being a stay-at-home Mom is so difficult and demanding because they don’t want society to wise up to how fkn easy they’ve got it. Maybe you need to go get a real job and you can both pay for daycare, then when you split the bills evenly you can both have first class tickets. Until then STFU and stop trying to overplay how difficult it is to be home and do housework while the kids watch cartoons all day. Why do you think with covid everyone wants to work from home now? Because doing anything from home is just EASIER!!!

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MJ
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

For a majority of relationships, if a woman stopped doing the things that she typically does as a STAHM, the house would be a complete mess, things would be ridiculously dirty, etc. Being a STAHM is hard and it is a job. They have 3 children and 2 of them are with her all day everyday. You're just as much of an a**hole as he is. Do you even realise how many women are single parents even though they're married?

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Pavel von Szebin
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't believe most AITA stories.. A LOT of them seem made up for attention, from boredom, to troll, etc.. But, there's so much here that I can't help but roll my eyes about (which will cause most people who read this to get mad and make incorrect assumptions about me, but whatever).. First, the line about not going on any trips out of the country in a few years... OH MY! I'm surprised she hasn't divorced him already, or AT LEAST filed abuse charges over just that!.. MOST people don't have the money, or the opportunity, to travel out of the country, EVER. Considering wage stagnation and the amount of jobs that don't provide paid time off in the US, I'd imagine most Americans never even get to go on trips out of STATE. People WISH for those problems. Second, EVERY time I see stories like this with the roles reversed, EVERYONE is like, "NTA, girl! That's YOUR money and he's a BUM! You DESERVE time with your FRIENDS! If he wants an upgrade, tell him to get a JOB and pay for it HIMSELF!"

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Swear Wolfe
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

He's definitely being mentally and financially abusive. But by her responses to others... she's not ready to see the truth of what he is. She's become so dependent on him she doesn't even realize how much control over her he has. She doesn't even have the confidence to accept what people are telling her in mass.

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Emeline
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Well obviously you are not the priority for him. If he chose to put you in economy while he sits in first class with his "friend," he doesn't want to sit next to you and maybe just felt obligated to bring you with him for some reason. If it were me, I'd cut my losses and get out of that relationship. No one wants to be someone's second choice.

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SupernaturalPanda
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

F**k this s**t!!!! F**k him and his f****d up friend!!! You are a sahm. You raise his kids you do not need to be treated this way. Where the hell does he even get off treating you this way. I would say divorce his a*s take him for everything he’s got and let go off and enjoy his life with his boyfriend oh I’m sorry his best friend . NTA!!!

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Rosemarie Cruz
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That is not fair, I don’t care, If you don’t work, But you are taking care of your 3 kids, It’s like, Who am I to you, A decorations in the house, If we’re you, Give him some thing that he will regret it for the rest of his lives fe, Give him an ultimatum!

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Michelle Maskell-Sutton
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Divorce. Take him for half, alimony, child support. Tell him to go live with his friend. See how he likes living with No money for being a narcissist husband.

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Michelle Maskell-Sutton
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Divorce him. Take him for half, child support and alimony. Good luck affording his trips then. No women needs a narcissist in their life.

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Heather Renee
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm wondering what culture/ race or faith this couple are ? Either way it's not right at all and the poor wife is being used and mistreated. I agree with others to divorce and take to cleaners. If in a cultural situation around overall safety seek a women's shelter for help. Or find family support of Friends outside of culture to help.

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Whos Whoo
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think like many on here that you're husband may be gay and his friend means more to him than you do. You're just his beard as gay men describe other gay men who are married to woman it's just to hide the fact they're gay. Get a good lawyer get everything you can and don't rush into another relationship take time out learn to live independently away from any man . Get counselling to help you move past this. It's not uncommon. Lots of men who are gay still get married because for whatever reason they're afraid to come out as gay . It's really not a big happy tolerant world we live in .In many countries you can still be jailed for being gay . In time you and he may become good friends your children will be better for it make them your priority

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António Margalho
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ah, the elusive feminazi wetdream, what a marvelous fantasy to embarc in. Just remember, always ask "why", "what" and "who", have a critical thought process. Only then you can filter all the b******t we're being fed. Stay safe friends.

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Joe calbery
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Your husband is homosexual, and is having an affair with his "best friend"

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sami saag
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Children all over the world need both of their parents. If they are happy with their father and he too cares for them and keeps the environment good ,then analyze this bone of of contention ,his friend, he is the one who should go not you ,its your home,your children and your husband.He has misguided your husband. Life is never straight. So work out ,find the ways and kick this person out of your lives .but for this you have to be patient as he holds a strong position in the eyes of you husband but you too have a strong hold being the mother of three kids.

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SW Dad
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I knew a guy like this. Went on trips all the time with his single friend and left his SAHM wife behind. More specifically, they traveled to the Philippines. It's honestly sad that you all, and this woman, don't recognize why the friend is so vehemently opposed to her going on this trip.

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KdramaQ Alexander
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

SATHM, I’m sorry but you husband needs you for his cover of a happily married ma with children and maid and nanny! He needs to keep you there so he and his “ friend” can enjoy each other’s company without you there. The so called friend is now thinking he gets to order you around too, or even degrade you verbally! Put a painful but very much needed stop to this horrible cycle! He probably needs your cover for work around others mainly, I think after you split him and the so called friend will move in together!! No shocker there! You and your children deserve better treatment, not that being gay is a strike against him, but his and his friends actions are sickening! Praying you wake up out of this nightmare of marriage and start living a better life for you and your children , with half of everything this bloke has in the bank and house!

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Daniel Williams
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I would need to know a few more things. Is this considered his 'time with the bois' during the year? Does it happen often or very very regularly every year around the same time? If so you shouldn't of asked to go along really xD and since he said yes I'ma guessing the whole first class and other was more to just have some time to still at least have a little of that time while still having you come along at the same time, etc. maybe those two every year get first class and do this etc? And did they have time to buy first class when they found out you were coming with? Or were they all sold out already or now like 2-3x the prices they were months ago when they made the bookings?

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NTAH!!! I think you should stop doing his laundry, etc. and when it’s dinner time afford him an economy bag of peanuts while you give you and the kids a first class meal every night!

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Karen Weed
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Dump him. He will never change. U r not his equal in the relationship, u r his subordinate.

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DN X
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

These lemming white middle class republicans who thinking making 100k a year makes you rich like lil dik trumps are turning gay and disrespecting their wife's Fk these lame lemming white middle class republicans who suk dik.

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Matt Mosher
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Not his money. Its their money. Anyone with half a brain could see this would not end well. Its a very straightforward insult to his wife and that is exactly what the husband wanted it to be. She probably deals with demeaning situations like this on a regular basis. He clearly has zero respect for his wife. Its unlikely he will change. Only choice now is do you stay till the kids leave home or divorce him immediately? Either way she should make sure to know what their financial situation is before filing because he will do everything he can to hide money and screw his wife out of what is hers.

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Annie Steele
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Start invoicing him for the work that you do at home, cleaning, washing, ironing, cooking, shopping then book your own seat on a trip without him !

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Terrell Dean
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That’s terrible… I couldn’t even imagine treating my wife this way smh… That gotta be more than his so called “best friend” ..

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Suzanne Giglio
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This couple clearly needs marriage counseling. Or she can leave. No one should treat you like this. I’m sure this isn’t the first time he treated you this way. His behavior has a pattern. Don’t ever act subservient to him. Ever. You are his equal. If marriage counseling doesn’t work, then leave. Find someone who treats you like a lady.

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Peach Paree
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is why I can never let myself be in such a dependent state as sahp when the other half can always change for the worse. It's what my ex wanted for us yet our relationship turned into parent/child instead. I hope for the best for her...

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Beth Niska
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Your husband is too immature to be a good spouse. He needs to grow up and drop the "I am the victim " attitude. If my husband tried this with me, he would come back to an empty house and divorce papers on the dining room table.

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Charlette Bowman
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

First your Husband is a jerk. Second, the best friend is a jerk. I am going to assume that they both went on trips without you until this one time. He has not taken you on a trip anywhere and you are being called entitled and what is really happening is you are being NEGLECTED. I'm not sure what happens on a daily basis but being someone who was married to a man just like this and tried to flip the script so you are the "bad guy". I will tell you one thing you must not do and that is "do not take his c**p". You must not forget that you are important and valuable. I'm not going to tell you what to do with your marriage because that is not my place but what I can tell you is you are being mistreated in this situation and I hope that it does not apply in other situations. Your husband should learn to value you or lose you. And my suggestion would be to find a destination and take a best friend who values you. The only person acting entitled is your self absorbed husband.

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patricia sandoval
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Your "husband" must be having more than a friendship with his "best friend"

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Gordon Waite
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Your husband is either a closeted homosexual or he uses these trips for extramarital affairs with other women. Divorce him as he thinks very little of you. I put my wife not only above others but above myself, always have, always will.

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Gail Lynn
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The actions of the husband & "his best friend" is disgusting!! The both deserve a huge slap to the back of the head!!! She is THE WIFE!! Not the hired help! How do these 2 morons see their actions as being even close to acceptable? The "husband" is TAH & does not deserve a wife. He has zero respect for his wife. If I was in the wife's position, he'd be on the curb with the rest of the trash!!! Now, for "the friend". OH, HELL NAH!!! The moment he stuck his nose into the marriage, he should've gotten the boot!! How dare he be rude & disrespectful of "his best friend's" wife!! That would never, ever fly in my life! When I married my husband, some of my family members were rude, even cruel, to him. I apologized to my hubby for them being TAHs. Then I made it crystal clear that their opinions/comments were not welcomed. Those who kept the BS going? They got the boot from my life. So the OP is NTAH. The "husband" & "best friend" get that title!!

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Tam hall
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Well, well, well. Sounds to me he "let" you go on this one trip overseas. Let's just drop you off in a foreign country with no money and leave you. Kids are taken care of and he is free to spend the rest of his life with his lover. Hmmmmm. D. I. V. O. R. C. E. Him. As for being a SAHM, it is the most honorable job you could ever have. And half his money is your money.

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Louise Martin
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think she needs to find a divorce attorney and demand alimony and child support and keep the house and kick his sorry a*s out so he can go have a life with his lover.

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James Butcher
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

He self important and I suspect a homosexual in denial. That said I hate these articles as you don't know what he opened next, we don't don't know if he saw the error of his ways or they seperated permanently. If you gonna post articles like this at least say what the outcome is.

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KM
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is painful. It's time to get a divorce. I'm sorry, but when you're treated with less respect and dignity than a friend it's time to go. This "Friend" also has no right to have any opinion in this situation. This "Friend" has over stepped their relationship and should had offered the wife the seat in first class without a word. This is not ok. I would never sit in first class with this man's wife sotting in economy. This friend is a princess. And, this husband is ridiculous. Out they go! You deserve better!

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Gabriel Gawrada
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Hang the ungrateful sob out to dry and soak him for every last coin you can get.

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Rebecca Burrer
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Your husband is TBAH ever!! How dare he talk down to you, his friend is also a major AH. You do a lot by taking care of the household/kids. He owed you first class and to take his "friend" on yearly trips but not you. Something fishy is going on. I see red flags waving at very corner.

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Daniel Diaz
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Omg sweetheart I feel so bad for you. Let this man go . Ask for a divorce. They are gay and you are in the way of their relationship. The fact the guy butted in the argument and told you see I told him you were no good. It's very clear he's doing some Greek style s**t. Have a woman at home take care of everything while dude goes out and does his thing with a man. As a gay man who has dated several married men I can tell you that's exactly what's going on. Divorce will give you back your happiness.

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Chris Simms
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Shut up f****t. You're not helping anyone by saying you've slept with their husband's.

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Linda Powder
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Once two people are married, friends are put on the back burner, period. "Best friends" are no longer top priority. This jealous a*****e of a friend is having a hard time accepting that fact. As far as being a stay at home mom, she's working, just like anyone on the outside. Only diff is that she doesn't get any money or respect for it. Her husband is a disgusting POS, and she should divorce him ASAP. You simply can't trust men like that, and it wouldn't surprise me if that jealous a*****e "friend" of his would convince him to cheat on her. What a life...

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Wendy Gould
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

By putting ypu on economy, he gaslit you. Set you up for a reaction. He played you for a fool Run like hell. Life is short.

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Alex Freetime
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I mean he's not forced to take her anywhere and to pay for it, but if you invite her do it properly. It was, all things considered, a stupid move.

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Carmen Rita Peters
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think he has a homosexual relationship with his friend and you need to talk to your gynecologist and then your lawyer. Even if you don't get a divorce he should be educated on what your rights are as his wife. And if he cannot come to terms in the marriage then give him the terms for the divorce.

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Marilyn Russell
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wow - I hope this woman wakes up about how her husband is treating her and viewing her contributions to their union with disrespect and frankly abuse. Reminds me of how my husband would invite his buddies along to see FarmAid with us and making sure they were happy and enjoying themselves became more important to him and I was being ignored and neglected on the trip. So I stopped going because it was just no fun for me. Same would be when he invited his parents to go on our trips. I remember going to see a movie by myself in Texas being the best time I had on the whole trip while they all slept off a hangover (I’m not a drinker.) Or I was told his parents weren’t interested in seeing man attraction I wanted to visit, but we would go to outlet malls and eat at pub style restaurants. Why did we even leave Canada if we aren’t going to check out Texas-y stuff? Just saying.

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Deidre Westover
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Her husband is a homosexual. His "friend" is his boyfriend. There is no other logical explanation for any of this.

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Johnathan McFadden
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

He's definitely in a relationship with the "friend"... This is exactly how my relationship ended.

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B-b-bird
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Don’t understand dynamics here. It sounds sus when he out of sudden wants you to come along (after many years) to new location. I’d question if he needs you for something there, like cooking? Because how he treated you is how people treating their personal assistants/domestic help. Its a guess, but that’s suspicion that I’ve got.

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Erin E
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

“He paid for my ticket” really threw me. Sounds like she needs to start charging for maid service, day care, laundry service, … etc.

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Robin Roper
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Send him on his way and while he is gone, find an affordable apartment, hire a divorce lawyer, and circle your friends.

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BadKitty
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NTA Just so you know, "Salary.com’s Annual Mom Salary Survey from May 2021, moms should be paid — $184,820". Does hubby pay you that much? No. Value you that much? No. Quietly get that divorce lawyer and take him to the cleaners like he's been doing to you. Child support, Alimony. Half his money and income forever. Let's see if his boyfriend loves him after that.

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Jan Caisse
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I can tell you by 10 years experience, you are not important to your husband. I worked & took care of the house & our child. I was told my money really didn't make a big difference but he insisted I work. I did everything but pay the bills & go grocery shopping (I spend too much money so he started doing it). When I wanted a certain thing from the grocery store, he always had an excuse why he didn't by it. That man made me so insecure that I stayed for 10 years. It just got worse as the years went by. RUN! Don't waste anymore time on a man that feels you have no real value. NTA

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Clara Stallworth
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NTA!!!! The way he responded when you addressed the issue of being in economy while he and his "friend" getting first-class, first by yelling at you, then by begging you to come anyway, then by acting like HE'S the victim??? And to top it off, his "friend" actually had the nerve to call YOU entitled (and the fact that hubby didn't even tell his "friend" to stay out of it, and defend YOU, the wife and mother of his kids, tells us all we need to know!! Good for you in blocking him on social media!!)!! Time to teach him a REAL lesson: When he gets off work, hand the kids off to him and tell him you're "on strike"!! He wants to travel to a game with his buddy? Nope, sorry, YOU got a spa day at an exclusive resort with YOUR sisters, girlfriends, heck, even your MIL!! Let him have fun taking care of the household and the kids, and watch disaster unfold in 3,2,1...!! He'll try to get a hold of you, but wouldn't you know it, you left your phone in your locker at the spa!!

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Shayla Katherina
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Probably a good thing they didn't end up going because OP would've just been the third wheel throughout the whole trip.

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Jasperina Witty
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She needs to leave his a*s. Call all the expensive lawyers for a consult. So he will be left with the crappy ones. Divorce him and get alimony

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Scott Wilkinson
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have to say that while I was too, a SAHM, that it is hard to look at that is your money too. While I had to learn that I was a free babysitter/maid/wife, take it from me, your services are worth more than anything. What would happen if you left him with the kids during a work week and he had to find a babysitter for the kids, be the maid, and you take that pay and go on a vacation without him? In order to know how much you do, he can't leave the kids with parents or have a babysitter to hang with his friends. My husband is a stay at home Dad and I would never treat him that way. It is our money. In fact, I would sacrifice and put him in first class, while friend and I sat in economy. You deserved to be pampered.

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Sara Gomez
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I agree with Keith O on this one. It seems others in your circle are suspecting that there is more to their vacation trips. My theory is your husband insisted you still go because he thought it might throw everyone off. Another tell is the friend calling YOU entitled when he gets to ride in first class. Get a good attorney and tell them to have the courage to live their truth instead of making you undeserving while trying to make you their beard.

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Tracy Rieon Hall
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

For him to treat you like you're such a bother and book you economy instead having you right next to him since you're his wife what nerve. Then the comment it's his money no dear heart by law it belongs to both of you because you take care of his children, run and clean the house, pay all the bills, do laundry, all while taking care of the children. So it's obvious that he values his friend over you his wife. If you're smart you will immediately file for divorce and sue him for child support as well as spousal support. Cutt your losses and never allow this "man" into your bed again because you don't deserve to be treated like this. Also go get tested because this entire situation seems like some down low c**p. Also close out all accounts and credit cards immediately

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Tracy Rieon Hall
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I wish my husband would put me in economy while he and his friend sit in 1st class. Nope he would go on that trip and wouldn't have a home to come back to. Plus he would get served with divorce papers, child support as well as alimony. There isn't no his money you're married so half of it is yours. Now as for him putting his friend above you and he's your husband then there's something else going on here sounds like so down low secret relationship. His friend even has the nerve to text and be disrespectful to you wow. Couldn't be me. Cutt your losses file for divorce and get that sorry sack of c**p out of your life because that's just disrespectful and no amount of counseling is gonna make this go away. Also never allow this piece of c**p back in your bed let alone your life also go get tested.

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Dharma Webber
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NTA! Here's the short answer - You have all the pussy and half the money. Leave immediately with both!

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Mikey Kliss
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

People have such little respect for the SAHP position. It's really sad and maybe someday we'll have a society that can properly respect that

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Jose Garcia
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sorry but no male or female should go through what you went through. Divorce him and BLOCK him too.

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Matthew Zornig
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The olds, not the news. BP is allowed to get up on their high horse when they post something original.

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Shereé Knight
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Psychically, there's more going on with his bff. Why is his bff entitled to belittle you? Do you get monthly vacations? Bc his money IS your money. S**t, take the kids back to your moms, book a getaway in the opposite direction, and show him WTF you are and what you CAN DO with "y'alls" money. Your nicer than me. Bc I'd have both mfrs crying and he definitely wouldn't spend anymore of "y'alls money" on his friend. Actually, you should reply to his friend asking why y'all are financially supporting him. That would make heads roll! And not yours. 😘

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Klara Lorinczi
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You should remind him that half the income belongs to you because you’re married. He sounds like an arrogant man. If my husband treated me like that, I would plot my revenge. It goes both ways. Please don’t let him get away with this disrespectful behavior.

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CL Rowan
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Husband is screwing his 'best friend' and wife was to accompany in order to put others (who figured it out first) off their scent. Get a PI, gather the proof, and send his cheating a*s to the cleaners!

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Jeff Brock
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I really think that a 3rd response needs to added to this reddit. In addition to NTA & YTA, we need TNWTFH (there's no way this f*****g happened)

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Evelyn Chambers
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

He booked a ticket for first class for him and his friend which means he paid for both of them while he got you an economy ticket also why is his friend calling you and going off on you about how you responded to your husband about this. Sweetie please take some time and think about why your husband is definitely putting his BOY FRIEND ahead of you.

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Connie Richardson
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I smelled a rat. Real loving husbands dont play games like that. I know several couples that vacation together or take mini trips without children or do staycations in the same city that they live in. He does not own you. Where did he get his idea about marriage from? Evaluate the relationship to see if your needs and expectations are being met and give no excuses to the other couple

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Monique Williams
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Huh??? Everyone is being so nice and I guess I'm going to have to be the meanie here...hon, he's banging his friend and you aren't even a thought anymore.. Your being used as a "front" to hide his true nature and please leave

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Angela Reyes
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Did he pay for his BF's First class ticket too?he needs to pay it back. you know the money he used for buying his trip/trips are family money, which if he wants you to work, he needs to find a Nanny or day care.He's living a bachealor life with his ehem "BOY-FRIEND".As a Family, you the sahm needs to handle the FINANCES so you can make a BUDGET.Did he not learn "Happy wife Happy Life". as a family you both should be saving for your kids College expenses, medical expenses, school and activities, insurance etc. before going to trips.also forward all his "BOY-FRIEND'S" txt messages to him and ask him is that the kind of friend he wants to hang out with? disrespecting you! means disrespecting the mother of his children, means disrepecting his kids, means belittleing his Choice w/c is supposed to be you, beloved wife.He brought Shame on you.remind him he hasnt paid enough for the ripped Vagina just to give birth to his kids.Your Vajayjay deserved more than economy. NTA1000%

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Marsha Putnam
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

To add to the level of disrespect the “husband” has for the OP, why is he allowing his “friend” to be so disrespectful to the OP? Friend has no right to enter into the argument between husband and wife. He has passed normal boundaries and hubby sits back and allows this? IMO: OP doesn’t have a marriage, an equal partnership, or love and support. OP—>RUN to the nearest good divorce lawyer. It won’t be pretty but you deserve better. Then see how hubby reacts. At least he will be free to spend as much time with his “friend” as they want. Good luck.

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Seth NoWai
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

In family, there is no room for me, it is only us. Meaning everything is shared, everyone does their brst to help each other, to support each other, to contribure, and to also help by funding way to meet in the middle, not just my way, but also sone sacrifices to make other side happy. And clearly here is husband that seed wife more as someone who he is stuck with, rather than wife. Like if you will travel in 1st class, then wife also travels in 1st class, or both go for economy. Also just because she isn't contributing money, this doesn't mean she isn't contributing. Though I don't know their exact situation, I definitely am sure there is no way this attitude can be portrayed in any way to look good for husband. And as marriage says in good and in bad, he clearly never heard of latter. I hope she can somehow get him to realize that this is not the way, but looking at it, she might need to get up on her feet and just go seperate way.

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Lorrie Rothstein
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Your his wife. Of course you are entitled to sit in first class. Maybe your husband is gay.

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Randy Perez
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

But you say he's a just friend... We've all heard that before. I get the boys trip idea, but this was different therefore should be treated differently. NTA

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Denise Porter
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

All thru life we look for comfort and a dedication of a soul mate that we can comfortably grow old with. This guy isn't it.You deserve way better than this, I wouldn't go.And honestly ,I'd start getting myself together to break away from this narcissistic guy. No more vacations with his friend would even help at this point, I wouldn't want to be his second choice ever again. Maybe get into a child care job where you can bring your kids, start getting a degree in child care and start planning a life around your kids for nowl. In a short time you can be self sufficient and find that guy (or person) you CAN grow old with comfortably but obviously this dude ain't it !

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Lu Harris
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Agreed. He neither loves nor even likes her and she deserves a mate who does. Also agree her joining the workforce is likely a good idea, though not necessarily in childcare; HOWEVER, if they're US citizens the jerk husband can be made to kick in child support and alimony. If he's that loaded there's no reason for her and the kids to be destitute.

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Misty Souders
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

N T A. Sweet heart. YOUR Husband and HIS best are MOST DEFINITELY in a BRO MANCE. AND it has PROBABLY gone further then that but now. Your Husband has MADE it clear how HE FEELS ABPUT his BFF AND ABOUT YOU. His BEST friend is NOW texting Fowl texts. HE is BASICALLY telling YOU to GO AWAY. WE want to BE TOGETHER. YOUR "Husband: does NOTHING about it. THEIR tickets were FIRST CLASS. YOURS????? THEY DIDN'T want you their. BOTH of them have MADE IT CLEAR. All you are to the BOTH of them is A NANNY and an INCONVENIENCE. YOU my dear ARE not THE NANNY. YOU are THE MOTHER of HIS CHILDREN. WHO DESERVES to be TREATED with RESPECT. THAT. PLAIN TICKET Should SHOW you how MUCH RESPECTS YOU. HE DOESN'T. WHILE THEIR GONE. THINK . THEN GET an attorney. FILE. THEN GET SPOUSAL SUPPORT as well as CHILD SUPPORT. THEN. Move on and go get a MUCH BETTER LIFE. GOOD LUCK

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Kate
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

While I agree with you somewhat, your method of using the caps lock is giving me a headache.

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Rachel Smith
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Honestly kinda suspect to me. It sounds like husband is having an affair with this "friend". I know he's a guy friend but in the closet gay men get married all the time ( to women ). My uncle is exactly like this, has kids and everything but only me and my mom know he's gay. That's what happens when you are raised super religious and don't want to disappoint your parents

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Marco Davalos
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

His friend is who Freddy Mercury was singing about in "you're my best friend"

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angel B
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Divorces a*s interview every single high priced attorney in the area so that he can't use them

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PhillyGirl1
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NTA. She had a right to ask, the friend needs to mind their business, the boyfriend needs to give a straight answer as to why. That wasn't including her, and basically looked like he didn't want her to be there anyway

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Brian Michael
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If the story is real the man is having an affair with his "friend".

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joop
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yeah eeww that bothers me more than thinking he's all that and flying first class, while the maid must be happy with economy and he never takes the kids on a holiday? They're even worse off than mom. Eeeww. Stay there, go live together w your friend.

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DaFetus
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Nta it's not his money you are sahm meaning his money is your money as you are a tram and you work 24/7. There is no my money and my wife's money. Not even sure why you say he is paying are you jot married? If you are together with kids then you are both paying it doesn't matter whose name is on the pay it's both your lines you are a team and if that's not how he sees it tell him he can stay home with the kids then it he can stfu. This would jot fly in my home my wife would kill me, as she would be right to..he is treating you like a child not a partner.

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joop
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The kids are treated worse. They may not even go on a holiday. He goes himself. He treats her like a maid with benefits.

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Charlie
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Holy cra*p! I would never accept this BS!!!! If I’m not nr 1 on my husband’s list on a JOINT trip with others, I’m out.

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Amber V
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Let me start this by saying I hate how often commenters just jump straight to "divorce him" or "leave him". How about work through the issue together and resolve it? Yes, he is the a*****e. But at least he didn't take off on the trip without you. Talk through these issues. Being a SAHM doesn't mean you deserve less, you're running the entire household freeing him up to work. If anything you two deserve a vacation together, without the a*****e friend (he was way out of line with those texts)

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MJ
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

He paid for his friend's first class ticket. Threw a hissy fit just because she asked if she could go. Brought up paying for her ticket as if it was a first date. Let his friend disrespect her by texting her that she's "entitled" for being upset. He does not respect her as his wife. She is a glorified girlfriend doing wife level duties.

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Ted Wrigt
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Kudos to him. I don't want mine on the same vacation with me.

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Caramel Kreme
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is why I really hate this PC society. Lady if your husband takes all his trips with his friend and not you, you need to find out where they sleep on these trips it's time to hire a PI because if he can afford these trips then he's got money. Stop crying and start getting your evidence together so that when you take him to court you will be a permanent SAHM with benefits. Stop crying!!!! Your husband is GAY!!! Now you know it's time for you to hit him where it hurts. You have choices do not be a lifelong victim and stop posting this s**t what are you waiting for for him to jump out of the closet Bruce Jenner style!!! SMH

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Hope Tirendi
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When are women going to learn to keep your finances separate and NEVER be a stay at home wife/mother. This givesidiot men all the control. Not all men are like this but a lot are!!! Plus your husband and his friend are a couple!

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Lu Harris
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Plenty of marriages are true partnerships that function beautifully with a breadwinner and a stay-at-home parent taking care of the kids and running the household. I'm a widow now and have always been a feminist but choosing to spend those few precious years at home when our son was little remain the happiest of my life.

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Ckshock
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I see no one asking a few key questions here. There's no information given on past relationship roles. She says she's a SAHM , is this a choice they ce to as a couple? Or is this rather she has never work a job and just took on the role of SAHM because she didn't want to contribute in any other way. The entitled comment from the husband's friend. Coupled the husband anger at claiming he paid for it. To me sounds more like he's not on board with her being SAHM to begin with. There's multiple sides to every story and this one only includes hers. To note not saying the husband is right. I'm just throwing out questions.

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Rob Eman
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1 year ago

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I'm so tired of all these "divorce him and take half". Responses that the nice people of the internet always give to things like these; glad they are so confident giving such family shattering advice from 3 paragraphs for someone's one-sided story... Kinda makes me sick...

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Ed Bangor
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1 year ago

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I have one question that doesn't seem addressed in the article: when was each ticket purchased? If the husband got a freak of 1st class tickets purchasing them way in advance, and when the wife's fuckery was purchased later at a crazy price hike, she might be stuck with flying coach. The full timeline matters here. If you bought three tickets in one go but decided your spouse Will sit in the back, then the husband is the a*****e. If the tickets were purchased months apart and a third first class ticket was no longer affordable, then the wife is at least partially to blame. And I'm getting the feeling that this may be the case. After all, the husband has gone on repeated trips with his friend. It's not all that uncommon for couples, even happily married ones, to want a couple of days apart. I know that my mom regularly goes on girls weekends with my grandmother and aunts. If it was that kind of situation, and the wife insisted on inserting herself, then most of the blame falls on her. R

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Marc Hackett
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Just withhold the 1st class sex and let him have his way for the first time. All this hate and wanting him to have nothing is ridiculous. Why would anyone take a chance on a woman these days. Men can't have anything to them selves, not even a thought. If you don't believe me just go home and start laughing for no reason. Don't explain what you're laughing at and watch her start acting like a witch. MGTOW

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