Husband Throws Temper Tantrums Whenever He Gets Sick, Wife Can’t Handle It And Calls His Mother To Collect Him
When you’re tying the knot with someone, you’re automatically committing to their every flaw. Some folks don’t fully open up until something big triggers them – others are like an open book, but chances are you’ll still end up learning something completely new about your significant other.
Being in a relationship is hard in general, two people with absolutely different mindsets and contrasting qualities trying to make it work – it’s a job and a half. Though, when partners are aware of their wrongdoings, they tend to fix the broken and live happily ever after. But that’s not always the case, as sometimes people frankly don’t understand that they’re hurting their other halves.
This online user shared her fairly aggravating story on one of Reddit’s communities. The author is a proud owner of a husband that tends to have temper tantrums whenever he gets sick, and when the woman couldn’t handle it anymore, she decided to reach out to her mother-in-law and persuade her to collect her child.
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“…In sickness and in health” but only until your partner begins to act like a fool
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The post itself received 12K upvotes and 1.3K worth of comments debating over the man’s behavior. Many users were puzzled as to why the OP kept enduring her significant other’s temper tantrums, as he clearly shows no signs of remorse since he kept repeating the same “mistakes” over and over again.
Woman’s husband keeps disrespecting her whenever he falls sick, so she called her MIL to pick him up
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The author began her story by expressing some gratitude to her mother-in-law. She mentioned that despite the fact that she was a struggling single mom, she did an outstanding job raising her husband. However, there was a slightly irritating issue that the OP wanted to talk about.
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The author’s husband struggles with a man-child syndrome that only comes out whenever he happens to get sick. She mentioned that it’s practically impossible to be in a room with him, as he will not hesitate to make everyone’s life a total hell. The OP then proceeded to give some examples: those include him blatantly disrespecting her, demanding that she cook and clean while being extremely passive aggressive with his words.
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Although the wife makes sure to say that as soon as the sickness leaves him, the man becomes very apologetic and even admits that the way he acted was embarrassing, at the very least. However, it doesn’t change the fact that he keeps expressing his aggression at her simply because he feels uncomfortable.
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The OP then begins to tell the story that practically made her lose her mind. On a lovely morning, when her husband was suffering from agonizing pain (because what else could explain his behavior), she was cooking him breakfast when the man decided to throw a temper tantrum and violently push his plate off the table as he couldn’t taste his food.
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The plate, of course, shattered into a million pieces, which instantly infuriated the man even more. But without any second thoughts, he decided to just leave his wife to it. Naturally, the woman couldn’t handle his childish outbursts, so she decided to contact her mother-in-law to come and collect him. The mother gladly came to the rescue, however the wife did get called a “stupid a-hole” for involving his precious mother.
Fellow Redditors questioned the man’s behavior but fully supported the OP
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Share on FacebookNTA and this is a form of abuse. He can't act like a total POS for days on end, use being sick as an excuse, then apologize and expect all to be forgiven.
Probably a narccassist. He just can't regulate his emotions when he is sick. Bet he has other signs of it when he's not sick. Dump him
Load More Replies...Okay flus aren’t like pms where there’s just weird hormone surges coursing through your body. There’s literally no reason he should be cursing and yelling and throwing things if he has the flu. She should tell him if he has so much energy to act like that, he can take care of himself.
Not an Ahole, but why is she pandering to him? From what she says it's not a new thing or one off. He is an adult, if he behaves like a d*ck when sick, then he can look after himself, just walk away and leave him to it
If this is a repeat incident, I really don't understand why they haven't sat down when he isn't sick and discussed this. If she doesn't know how to communicate or stand up for herself, maybe they need therapy.
Load More Replies...Reminds me of Sheldon Cooper on Big Bang Theology who acted the same way when sick. People would hide when they knew he was sick. Glad MIL thinks it's funny because she's his problem now. She obviously babied him when he was sick causing his abusive entitlement. Maybe hubby should live with him permanently.
That's a huge assumption. Maybe he doesn't act that way with his mother, because he knows it won't fly. We don't know.
Load More Replies...Honestly, this made me laugh. In my experience, all the men I've encountered are babies when sick. This guy is at least aware of it and apologizes afterwards. Granted, he needs to work on some self-growth and be aware of himself while he's sick, but in the mean time, it's a simple solution. Like my mom said, he wants to act like a baby while he's sick, then treat him like a baby and don't take it personal. My husband used to be this way while sick. I treated him like a baby and when I got sick, I behaved the same way. Now he makes his own food when sick and politely asks for help if he needs it. *Sigh* Women are so much more powerful than they know and it's sad to see them struggle with such basic man behavior. You have your God given tools at your disposal girl. "Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned" are words to live by. Just don't let men f**k with you and stand your ground. Make it a habit and you will see how much more he respects you.
This is a big problem that needs to be talked about more. Women are expected to give 100% even when they are ill or in intense pain. But men get the smallest cold and act as if they are in their deathbed. I have extremely painful menstruations and I am still expected to do everything at home, be kind, be social, go to family parties etc. When my boyfriend has the smallest cold he is the entire day closed in the bedroom whining as if he will die soon. I hate it.
Load More Replies...I don't get how this woman can say the MIL did a fine job raising this cranky, temper tantrum throwing man-baby. This type of behavior is totally the MIL's fault - she raised him to believe that he could act like this when he's sick with a cold or flu & as long as he says "sorry" afterwards, it's okay. Bullsh*t. She needs to pack her bags & run. What's gonna happen if they have kids & one of them gets sick at the same time? Just thinking about that makes me cringe.
You don't know that. You just don't. But here and now, this a great way of taking crazy and fight it with crazy. You're partners, not each other's parent.
Load More Replies...Why would the mom think its hilarious? Don't quite understand that reaction.
That her dil had the guts to find a fitting solution. His behavior is the kind that needs corrective measures by a parent, not a partner. So sticking to your guns there, seems hilarious and hopefully it's effective.
Load More Replies...If he was right, everyone with chronic illness would be as*holes. Sadly for him, we learn to be functionnal respectfull adults because suffering is not an excuse to treat others like trash.
Exactly. Also when you are chronically ill nobody gives you a break. They even judge you more. For not being thin, not looking good, not having a job, not having an impecable house...
Load More Replies...Personally I'd get a good divorce lawyer. You are not his slave. Make a life for yourself before it's too late. Or you could leave him for a while and let him look after himself.
In my family, we spend a great deal of our time sick. We have a lot of health issues. The three people that handle being sick the worst are my dad, my sister, and my brother. My dad has spinal stenosis and even though he has been told to move around to make him feel better, he refuses. He thinks that walking into the kitchen or going to the bathroom is enough movement. My brother has a torn ligament in his knee, but refuses to ice it multiple times a day because he wants to play on his VR set. The first time my sister had an allergy attack, she whined for days and days.
If he's "embarrassed" afterwards then he needs to change his behavior. I have had Omicron, the flu, bronchitis, and a variety of colds (not all at the same time, obviously). Not once have I ever felt so poorly that I couldn't control my own temper, thoughts, or reactions to things. Not even while on pain medication and IN LABOR was I so outside of my own control. This man needs help and/or a severe wakeup call.
If he's using his being sick as an excuse I'd insist he sees not only a doctor, but a therapist as well. Maybe the shame of being told he's in the wrong and it's all in his head will inspire him to think before throwing a tantrum.
jesus, i thought my hubby was bad because he complains constantly about being sick when he's sick. i can't imagine living with someone who acts like this.
NTA. If my man acted like that, I'd be yelling right back in his face. I wish she wouldnt put up with someone like that, its disrespectful to her in so many ways.
You picked him and married him, he's your problem now, leave his mother out of it.
It’s a very simple lesson to teach. Next time he's sick just check into a hotel for a week. Come back after he's better. I bet he’ll never speak to you like that again. He does it cause you let him.
NTA my dad gets very self righteous when he's ill my mum don't take it she's like you don't want to help yourself then that's on you.
🚩 🚩 Film him, tell him it's unacceptable, leave the house. He can apologize, but doing it again means HE ISN'T SORRY. Soon he will act this way all the time because he can. It isn't funny, it's abuse.
All I know is if I tried this with my wife she would piss off to her sister's house until I was ready to act like a reasonable human being, and same goes for her, I wouldn't put up with this nonsense, even on her worse bouts of PMS she doesn't act like this, and I will gladly do anything for her.
Spouses do this on purpose. It is a narcissistic trait and a "test." I sometimes feel very sorry for myself when I'm sick but I have to learn often i see things for worse than theyvare when I'm in that headspace
I'm a baby when I'm sick and still take care of myself. I've actually said I want a service where I can get a grandmotherly woman to come to my house, feed me some homemade soup, and tuck me into bed when I'm sick. Just need to figure out a way to do that without making the lovely woman get sick too
The MIL is not a good women and she did not do a fine job of raising him.
I was married (thankfully VERY briefly) to a man who was bi-polar. Whenever he got upset he'd stop taking his meds to "punish" me. I'd had enough. We hadn't even been married a year. He threw some little b***h fit and FLIPPED my solid oak dining room table, causing a huge gash in the wall. Nope. I called his Dad & literally told him, "Burton you get over here & get this nutcase out of my house or I swear to God, I'm going to MAKE him hit me & he's going to jail". I filed a restraining order the very next morning.
I'm going to get a lot of flak for this but sod it. What a f*****g mama's boy.
I love how the advice on these posts is always divorce. So quick to just say give up on your marriage don't bother to try and fix it. Some of you need to look at the true definition of marriage. It's never perfect because people are not perfect. It takes work and compromise. Yes my husband has had the dreaded man cold and he was crabby and it sucks to be sick. But he's also carried me like a baby when I broke my ankle and our apartment was upstairs (no elevator). You take care of each other. You don't give up and call a divorce attorney just because they had a bad day and did something you didn't like.
Why the hell is it his mother's issue? You chose to marry him. Deal with it like an adult. Personally, I would go and stay with friends or maybe even the mother in law and leave him to his own bad behaviour and you come home when he's over it.
Why? Because it is! This is behavior normally dealt with when people are children. If normal discussion about it doesn't work, you take it to that level. Fight crazy with logic. You know what I think is b******t? Having to leave your house because your spouse is acting like an a*****e. _he_ can stay at a friend, or his mom. Get some context from the outside world.
Load More Replies...This AITA thing has got to be baiting. As in baiting people into arguments. Does no one else realize this?
Sort of, but isn't it kinda fun to debate sometimes?
Load More Replies...You're assuming Man-Child will respect boundaries.
Load More Replies...NTA and this is a form of abuse. He can't act like a total POS for days on end, use being sick as an excuse, then apologize and expect all to be forgiven.
Probably a narccassist. He just can't regulate his emotions when he is sick. Bet he has other signs of it when he's not sick. Dump him
Load More Replies...Okay flus aren’t like pms where there’s just weird hormone surges coursing through your body. There’s literally no reason he should be cursing and yelling and throwing things if he has the flu. She should tell him if he has so much energy to act like that, he can take care of himself.
Not an Ahole, but why is she pandering to him? From what she says it's not a new thing or one off. He is an adult, if he behaves like a d*ck when sick, then he can look after himself, just walk away and leave him to it
If this is a repeat incident, I really don't understand why they haven't sat down when he isn't sick and discussed this. If she doesn't know how to communicate or stand up for herself, maybe they need therapy.
Load More Replies...Reminds me of Sheldon Cooper on Big Bang Theology who acted the same way when sick. People would hide when they knew he was sick. Glad MIL thinks it's funny because she's his problem now. She obviously babied him when he was sick causing his abusive entitlement. Maybe hubby should live with him permanently.
That's a huge assumption. Maybe he doesn't act that way with his mother, because he knows it won't fly. We don't know.
Load More Replies...Honestly, this made me laugh. In my experience, all the men I've encountered are babies when sick. This guy is at least aware of it and apologizes afterwards. Granted, he needs to work on some self-growth and be aware of himself while he's sick, but in the mean time, it's a simple solution. Like my mom said, he wants to act like a baby while he's sick, then treat him like a baby and don't take it personal. My husband used to be this way while sick. I treated him like a baby and when I got sick, I behaved the same way. Now he makes his own food when sick and politely asks for help if he needs it. *Sigh* Women are so much more powerful than they know and it's sad to see them struggle with such basic man behavior. You have your God given tools at your disposal girl. "Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned" are words to live by. Just don't let men f**k with you and stand your ground. Make it a habit and you will see how much more he respects you.
This is a big problem that needs to be talked about more. Women are expected to give 100% even when they are ill or in intense pain. But men get the smallest cold and act as if they are in their deathbed. I have extremely painful menstruations and I am still expected to do everything at home, be kind, be social, go to family parties etc. When my boyfriend has the smallest cold he is the entire day closed in the bedroom whining as if he will die soon. I hate it.
Load More Replies...I don't get how this woman can say the MIL did a fine job raising this cranky, temper tantrum throwing man-baby. This type of behavior is totally the MIL's fault - she raised him to believe that he could act like this when he's sick with a cold or flu & as long as he says "sorry" afterwards, it's okay. Bullsh*t. She needs to pack her bags & run. What's gonna happen if they have kids & one of them gets sick at the same time? Just thinking about that makes me cringe.
You don't know that. You just don't. But here and now, this a great way of taking crazy and fight it with crazy. You're partners, not each other's parent.
Load More Replies...Why would the mom think its hilarious? Don't quite understand that reaction.
That her dil had the guts to find a fitting solution. His behavior is the kind that needs corrective measures by a parent, not a partner. So sticking to your guns there, seems hilarious and hopefully it's effective.
Load More Replies...If he was right, everyone with chronic illness would be as*holes. Sadly for him, we learn to be functionnal respectfull adults because suffering is not an excuse to treat others like trash.
Exactly. Also when you are chronically ill nobody gives you a break. They even judge you more. For not being thin, not looking good, not having a job, not having an impecable house...
Load More Replies...Personally I'd get a good divorce lawyer. You are not his slave. Make a life for yourself before it's too late. Or you could leave him for a while and let him look after himself.
In my family, we spend a great deal of our time sick. We have a lot of health issues. The three people that handle being sick the worst are my dad, my sister, and my brother. My dad has spinal stenosis and even though he has been told to move around to make him feel better, he refuses. He thinks that walking into the kitchen or going to the bathroom is enough movement. My brother has a torn ligament in his knee, but refuses to ice it multiple times a day because he wants to play on his VR set. The first time my sister had an allergy attack, she whined for days and days.
If he's "embarrassed" afterwards then he needs to change his behavior. I have had Omicron, the flu, bronchitis, and a variety of colds (not all at the same time, obviously). Not once have I ever felt so poorly that I couldn't control my own temper, thoughts, or reactions to things. Not even while on pain medication and IN LABOR was I so outside of my own control. This man needs help and/or a severe wakeup call.
If he's using his being sick as an excuse I'd insist he sees not only a doctor, but a therapist as well. Maybe the shame of being told he's in the wrong and it's all in his head will inspire him to think before throwing a tantrum.
jesus, i thought my hubby was bad because he complains constantly about being sick when he's sick. i can't imagine living with someone who acts like this.
NTA. If my man acted like that, I'd be yelling right back in his face. I wish she wouldnt put up with someone like that, its disrespectful to her in so many ways.
You picked him and married him, he's your problem now, leave his mother out of it.
It’s a very simple lesson to teach. Next time he's sick just check into a hotel for a week. Come back after he's better. I bet he’ll never speak to you like that again. He does it cause you let him.
NTA my dad gets very self righteous when he's ill my mum don't take it she's like you don't want to help yourself then that's on you.
🚩 🚩 Film him, tell him it's unacceptable, leave the house. He can apologize, but doing it again means HE ISN'T SORRY. Soon he will act this way all the time because he can. It isn't funny, it's abuse.
All I know is if I tried this with my wife she would piss off to her sister's house until I was ready to act like a reasonable human being, and same goes for her, I wouldn't put up with this nonsense, even on her worse bouts of PMS she doesn't act like this, and I will gladly do anything for her.
Spouses do this on purpose. It is a narcissistic trait and a "test." I sometimes feel very sorry for myself when I'm sick but I have to learn often i see things for worse than theyvare when I'm in that headspace
I'm a baby when I'm sick and still take care of myself. I've actually said I want a service where I can get a grandmotherly woman to come to my house, feed me some homemade soup, and tuck me into bed when I'm sick. Just need to figure out a way to do that without making the lovely woman get sick too
The MIL is not a good women and she did not do a fine job of raising him.
I was married (thankfully VERY briefly) to a man who was bi-polar. Whenever he got upset he'd stop taking his meds to "punish" me. I'd had enough. We hadn't even been married a year. He threw some little b***h fit and FLIPPED my solid oak dining room table, causing a huge gash in the wall. Nope. I called his Dad & literally told him, "Burton you get over here & get this nutcase out of my house or I swear to God, I'm going to MAKE him hit me & he's going to jail". I filed a restraining order the very next morning.
I'm going to get a lot of flak for this but sod it. What a f*****g mama's boy.
I love how the advice on these posts is always divorce. So quick to just say give up on your marriage don't bother to try and fix it. Some of you need to look at the true definition of marriage. It's never perfect because people are not perfect. It takes work and compromise. Yes my husband has had the dreaded man cold and he was crabby and it sucks to be sick. But he's also carried me like a baby when I broke my ankle and our apartment was upstairs (no elevator). You take care of each other. You don't give up and call a divorce attorney just because they had a bad day and did something you didn't like.
Why the hell is it his mother's issue? You chose to marry him. Deal with it like an adult. Personally, I would go and stay with friends or maybe even the mother in law and leave him to his own bad behaviour and you come home when he's over it.
Why? Because it is! This is behavior normally dealt with when people are children. If normal discussion about it doesn't work, you take it to that level. Fight crazy with logic. You know what I think is b******t? Having to leave your house because your spouse is acting like an a*****e. _he_ can stay at a friend, or his mom. Get some context from the outside world.
Load More Replies...This AITA thing has got to be baiting. As in baiting people into arguments. Does no one else realize this?
Sort of, but isn't it kinda fun to debate sometimes?
Load More Replies...You're assuming Man-Child will respect boundaries.
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