Sometimes life kicks me in the nuts, and it's hard to stand up but we have to, right? I mean, the good life isn't the one without suffering, it's the one where it contributes to our development as human beings. When I'm feeling down, a walk through the busy city streets really helps. It kind of reminds me that everything's still in its place and the Earth is still spinning. It clears my head. However, I was wondering - how do you deal with sadness? I'm sure there are other ways to bring back a smile on your face, so it would be interesting to hear yours!
My way of dealing with sadness might sadden a lot of you, who read this, but here's how I do it. The key point is to distract my mind with anything else that would absorb my attention. Getting to do something creative, such as drawing or writing, surely helps, but that is not so easy when you feel sad, demotivated, exhausted, lazy, and guilty. So... The internet and simple video games are the initial answer. Yep, that means I mostly reach for my smartphone/computer to help me deal with it.
Sadness usually creeps up on me at night when it looks like the whole world is asleep. If it's warm outside I open up my window, stick my head out and just breathe in. Deeply. Slowly. Fully... Until it goes away..
And if it's cold, I just sit on the windowsill looking at the stars until the calmness of the night somehow makes it a bit better...
I used to ignore sadness and treat it as something bad and something I must avoid. But when that didn't work I changed my perspective on it (sure, it sounds like no big deal now, but that sentence was years and years in the making).
Now, when I get sad, I look for a reason behind it. And I do it by talking about it. I'm fortunate enough to have people around me who would listen to me blabbering about my stuff until I figure it out. And then, not only can I learn from it, but I can also move on.
I'm dealing with sadness right now. My husband is terminal & I'm waiting on a hospice visit . We are fortunate to have many supportive friends that visit & help with tasks I can't do.... although I was just on a ladder trimming a tree. What helps me is gardening , anything from pulling weeds , planting seeds & flowers. to pruning the climbing roses. Reading is also a nice distraction .So is exercise. Yet, I can't avoid the waves of sadness that grip me. I accept them .
I'm a professional burrito of sadness so usually I just lay on my bed staring at the ceiling until it goes away. I'm not able to force myself into anything else when it happens. This takes time and I really do not recommend this technique, so looking forward to reading some new ideas!
It's not easy.
I doodle, even if its crap. I write my feelings down (even if the writing is no damn good aka "crap") & I listen to music (I have all kinds) but I know it isn't easy.
I hope that you will get an answer to help you through this :)
I start laying around and curling up into an armadillo. Then I think no. I'm not going to let some pr*ck (life) f*ck with me. Because when life gives me lemons, I set them on fire and burn life's house down. And then I go play video games to let all that excess rage out. So basically I just turn sadness into rage. Yep that's it. I'm done.
When I feel sad I play with my daughter. Her laughs and smiles cure me from sadness!
Cat. My cat helps. There are so many things I can't really tell other people yet so when the burden gets too heavy I cuddle my cat who calmly purrs until I feel better.
And if there is something sad that can be voiced, writing about your feelings and the support of the loved ones helps a lot.