Girl Openly Flirts With Her ‘Oblivious’ Crush, And It’s Hilarious How He Doesn’t Get The Not-So-Subtle Hints
Some people can’t take a hint. No matter how flirtatious you are with them, they’re hopeless. When a girl named Kuda tried to tell her neighbor that she liked him and wanted him to come over, he just couldn’t understand what she was driving at.
The girl then used increasingly less subtle hints, but couldn’t get her point through her crush’s thick skull. Eventually, her patience ran out, so she finally told the guy in a direct message — he finally got what she was on about! However, some believe that Kuda’s text flirting could be considered a form of ‘harassment.’ Some internet users suggested that Kuda would be in a lot of trouble if she were a man, and kept persistently hinting for her neighbor to come over.
Dear Pandas, has anything similar ever happened to you? Have you ever had a crush who didn’t get your flirting signs? Read on and let us know in the comments below about your most hopeless and oblivious crush. Oh, and check out the hints that somebody might have a crush on you at the very bottom of this post!
The girl named Kuda starts the interaction off by texting her neighbor that she needs his help to make her “soft” bed “firm.” Now, it might just be my overactive imagination, but dropping hints like that should make almost anyone realize that there’s some serious flirting afoot. Unfortunately, Kuda’s neighbor falls into the ‘almost’ category of people because he didn’t get what she was after. [Facepalms and groans with despair]. That’s strike 1.
Kuda must really like the guy because she was undeterred by her temporary setback. She offers him drinks; meanwhile, her crush is more concerned that he might inconvenience her. That’s strike 2. Kuda then suggests the guy should come over and shower at her place to “conserve water.” The. Guy. Still. Doesn’t. Get. It. His hopelessness physically hurts. That’s strike 3. When all hope seems lost, the girl straight-up tells him that she wants him to come over because she likes him. Luckily for everyone involved, he accepted the invitation. I’m all for subtlety and nuance in romance. But this was a ‘Code Red’ kind of situation where directness was mandatory.
Imgur user J0SarkanaksIrSula posted the text messages between Kuda and her neighbor online, and they became very popular almost immediately. The texts were viewed 134,000+ times, upvoted over 5,200 times, and were commented on more than 560 times — all in just 10 hours after being uploaded.
Internet users thought the text messages were very interesting
Cosmopolitan compiled some tips from Reddit about how to tell if somebody has a crush on you. One person explained that crushes “find an excuse” to be physical with you, while another suggested they’re in love with you when they bring you food or small gifts. Asking for help with a basic task can also be a giveaway, as can be liking everything they post on social media and constantly texting them.
Meanwhile, Psychology Today seconds the fact that the people who like us want to be around us and as close to us as they can. Life doesn’t change much after finishing school: the people we leave an impression on try to sit next to us during lunch and want to, metaphorically, pull your pigtails. Furthermore, another clue somebody adores you is that they remember what you like in detail. If someone leaves a chocolate eclair on your desk (my favorite, by the way) or strikes up a discussion about your favorite Star Wars movie, you might just be in luck. Are there any people like that in your life? Well, they might just have a crush on you. Don’t be like Kuda’s neighbor, and take the hint.
That wasn't subtle, and it definitely wasn't flirting! It was a direct invitation for sex. Cringe worthy if you ask me. And I wonder if it would be "cute and funny" if it was a guy making these suggestions.
If a guy did this the woman would be accusing him of sexual harassment.
This is exactly what I was going to say. She is being pushy and pervy.
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and if a guy did this, the cops would be beating down the door and charging him for harassment. dude has to be clueless so he doesn't get f****d and that meant not the good way....
To be fair, women can talk like this and they still think the just being nice and wants to be friends. As a guy, you can't be careful enough.
I'd thought the same and I'm a woman. :S Why people cannot speak clearly?
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And people think I'm crazy for ghosting. It's much simpler than this s**t!
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Maybe this guy isnt clueless..but just gay. And making excuses for not coming over no matter how hard she wants it..I mean her matress
And this is how those falsified rape accusations start... And women wonder why men are now asking for acknowledgement forms to be signed before sex. You brought this on yourself.
@CP And why do you think he missed the point? Could it possibly be that unless she blatantly said "lets f**k" then all that hinting is not good enough case for him in court? Is it worth being labelled a rapist for the rest of his life? No. No woman is worth that risk. And if the societal trends were reversed, no man would be worth that either.
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While I agree "the internet" might think differently about it if the guy was making these comments, it would not be considered harassment unless it was like in the work place. I'm not sating it is good, but men talk like this all the time and women brush it off and move on. They don't call the cops over aggressive flirting.
It might not legally be harassment but common usage is much much broader.
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It wasn't flirty it was very direct. I think the guy didn't get it because he could not think she would be this direct.
We don’t take hints, just be blunt and say what you want to say, and we’ll likely have a much less awkward conversation.
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WHY did she not just ask him to hang out in the first place? I mean, communication is the key to every relationship, even if you just wanna have a banging buddy. 🤦🏻♀️
How about say what you mean and mean what you say. No need for all these “hints”. Just get to the point. I agree with a lot of the other comments, of this was a guy initiating the conversation there would be so much backlash and him being called a creep. This whole conversation was cringe worthy.
Suzi, I never said it was harassment. And it doesn’t matter about the person saying no or not. If the roles were reversed there would be outrage and people calling the guy a creep for 1. Getting the number from a neighbours partner and 2. Messaging out of the blue trying to get the person over for sex. Also why would a gay man hit on me over and over. Gay men like other guys not women so if they were hitting on me, then they aren’t gay.
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Definitely hoping this is fake. Ladies!!! Please!!! Let's not go there.
Well that was an uncomfortable read. Makes me glad I never bothered to tell my crush I exist, because I know I'd say something way worse.
So... the guy doesn't even know her name. She texts him out of the blue, and wants him to come over and help her with her bed. If a dude I didn't know texted me and asked me to come over to inspect his shower facilities, I'd report him to the police or something. This isn't flirting, it's unpleasant.
I'm not so sure he's interested in her as he kept acting uninterested, gave short answers, didn't ask her much, didn't think anything of it or he got it straight away but wasn't interested in her as much but because she was direct he kinda said like "meh what the hell why not.."
to be fair, I wouldn't call that flirting or direct. like girl do you want help with a bed or? if you want to get to know someone as more than friends, just ask them out for coffee or something else low key. and if you're asking for a hookup, Jesus it's like the one time in life you really should be 100 percent clear on what you want lol. because what if he doesn't like her at all, she's not really giving him an easy way out. no one wants to feel obligated or cornered. male or female, it's best to just be like hey I like you and would like to spend more time with you. if you feel the same, lets meet up blah blah blah.
Okaaay... so... thoughts on this. Not really... "hilariously oblivious" - considering the temperature of everything these days... I can easily see this going horribly wrong with different/less laid back people. How often have we seen so far: "Just because I said THIS doesn't mean I meant THAT" and then one side just flipping the F**k out. We're all so afraid to express that we like each other now for fear of being accused of harassment. Honestly - as much as people make fun of it... the ONLY way we can "safely" flirt with someone now is to just say straight up: "I like you. I want to go on a more-than-friends date. You good with this?" - and then have them sign an agreement JUST IN CASE.
This article makes my blood boil, for three reasons: 1: She directly invites him for sex, so not flirting, and extremely creepy. 2: He most likely does get the hint, he just knows not to assume. 3: Because Kuda is a woman, she gets away scot free for being a creep, but I bet if the genders were reversed, people would descend on Kuda and call them a perverted creep.
I honestly would have thought she was just trying to get me to flip her mattress up until that. Although I would’ve gotten slightly suspicious when she refused to ask Randy, then I would have been very suspicious at the shower comment, but would’ve been very suspicious at her shower comment, but would have tried to confirm it without sounding creepy by jokingly txting “but we’d only save water if you jumped in with me? lol” and then I would’ve tried to gauge her response.
I just think if you want something be actually direct. Nothing wrong with flirting but have some class. Also nothing wrong to enjoy sex, that's why God made condoms, but again have some class and be direct but make sure it's reciprocated. He was totally down! Once she made her intentions clear.
Okay I'm completely oblivious as well. How is that flirting? What's like a normal version of flirting where it's not pushy and obvious but easy for someone like me to pick up on?
In this day and age we don't want hints. We need definite proof of what your intentions are because if we misread the cues ... we're in trouble.
I'm a girl and this is something that I'd do. I've always been oblivious to guys flirting with me. I was actually on a date one time and didn't know it. Just thought I was having dinner with a friend. That moment I realized though...I wanted to crawl into a hole. I'm an idiot.
Me taking the plunge and flirt in a text with the guy I was crushing on "Merry Christmas!". He didn't pick up on it. : /
Edit: it was during the holidays. I admit I am not a flirter. lol
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Maby he knew exactly what she ment, and just tried to get rid of her gently...
That wasn't subtle, and it definitely wasn't flirting! It was a direct invitation for sex. Cringe worthy if you ask me. And I wonder if it would be "cute and funny" if it was a guy making these suggestions.
If a guy did this the woman would be accusing him of sexual harassment.
This is exactly what I was going to say. She is being pushy and pervy.
Load More Replies... and if a guy did this, the cops would be beating down the door and charging him for harassment. dude has to be clueless so he doesn't get f****d and that meant not the good way....
To be fair, women can talk like this and they still think the just being nice and wants to be friends. As a guy, you can't be careful enough.
I'd thought the same and I'm a woman. :S Why people cannot speak clearly?
Load More Replies... And people think I'm crazy for ghosting. It's much simpler than this s**t!
Load More Replies... Maybe this guy isnt clueless..but just gay. And making excuses for not coming over no matter how hard she wants it..I mean her matress
And this is how those falsified rape accusations start... And women wonder why men are now asking for acknowledgement forms to be signed before sex. You brought this on yourself.
@CP And why do you think he missed the point? Could it possibly be that unless she blatantly said "lets f**k" then all that hinting is not good enough case for him in court? Is it worth being labelled a rapist for the rest of his life? No. No woman is worth that risk. And if the societal trends were reversed, no man would be worth that either.
Load More Replies... Cute when a woman wants it..flip the script..and if a guy texted this to a woman and we would be calling him a rapistz/ molester
While I agree "the internet" might think differently about it if the guy was making these comments, it would not be considered harassment unless it was like in the work place. I'm not sating it is good, but men talk like this all the time and women brush it off and move on. They don't call the cops over aggressive flirting.
It might not legally be harassment but common usage is much much broader.
Load More Replies... It wasn't flirty it was very direct. I think the guy didn't get it because he could not think she would be this direct.
We don’t take hints, just be blunt and say what you want to say, and we’ll likely have a much less awkward conversation.
Load More Replies... WHY did she not just ask him to hang out in the first place? I mean, communication is the key to every relationship, even if you just wanna have a banging buddy. 🤦🏻♀️
How about say what you mean and mean what you say. No need for all these “hints”. Just get to the point. I agree with a lot of the other comments, of this was a guy initiating the conversation there would be so much backlash and him being called a creep. This whole conversation was cringe worthy.
Suzi, I never said it was harassment. And it doesn’t matter about the person saying no or not. If the roles were reversed there would be outrage and people calling the guy a creep for 1. Getting the number from a neighbours partner and 2. Messaging out of the blue trying to get the person over for sex. Also why would a gay man hit on me over and over. Gay men like other guys not women so if they were hitting on me, then they aren’t gay.
Load More Replies... Definitely hoping this is fake. Ladies!!! Please!!! Let's not go there.
Well that was an uncomfortable read. Makes me glad I never bothered to tell my crush I exist, because I know I'd say something way worse.
So... the guy doesn't even know her name. She texts him out of the blue, and wants him to come over and help her with her bed. If a dude I didn't know texted me and asked me to come over to inspect his shower facilities, I'd report him to the police or something. This isn't flirting, it's unpleasant.
I'm not so sure he's interested in her as he kept acting uninterested, gave short answers, didn't ask her much, didn't think anything of it or he got it straight away but wasn't interested in her as much but because she was direct he kinda said like "meh what the hell why not.."
to be fair, I wouldn't call that flirting or direct. like girl do you want help with a bed or? if you want to get to know someone as more than friends, just ask them out for coffee or something else low key. and if you're asking for a hookup, Jesus it's like the one time in life you really should be 100 percent clear on what you want lol. because what if he doesn't like her at all, she's not really giving him an easy way out. no one wants to feel obligated or cornered. male or female, it's best to just be like hey I like you and would like to spend more time with you. if you feel the same, lets meet up blah blah blah.
Okaaay... so... thoughts on this. Not really... "hilariously oblivious" - considering the temperature of everything these days... I can easily see this going horribly wrong with different/less laid back people. How often have we seen so far: "Just because I said THIS doesn't mean I meant THAT" and then one side just flipping the F**k out. We're all so afraid to express that we like each other now for fear of being accused of harassment. Honestly - as much as people make fun of it... the ONLY way we can "safely" flirt with someone now is to just say straight up: "I like you. I want to go on a more-than-friends date. You good with this?" - and then have them sign an agreement JUST IN CASE.
This article makes my blood boil, for three reasons: 1: She directly invites him for sex, so not flirting, and extremely creepy. 2: He most likely does get the hint, he just knows not to assume. 3: Because Kuda is a woman, she gets away scot free for being a creep, but I bet if the genders were reversed, people would descend on Kuda and call them a perverted creep.
I honestly would have thought she was just trying to get me to flip her mattress up until that. Although I would’ve gotten slightly suspicious when she refused to ask Randy, then I would have been very suspicious at the shower comment, but would’ve been very suspicious at her shower comment, but would have tried to confirm it without sounding creepy by jokingly txting “but we’d only save water if you jumped in with me? lol” and then I would’ve tried to gauge her response.
I just think if you want something be actually direct. Nothing wrong with flirting but have some class. Also nothing wrong to enjoy sex, that's why God made condoms, but again have some class and be direct but make sure it's reciprocated. He was totally down! Once she made her intentions clear.
Okay I'm completely oblivious as well. How is that flirting? What's like a normal version of flirting where it's not pushy and obvious but easy for someone like me to pick up on?
In this day and age we don't want hints. We need definite proof of what your intentions are because if we misread the cues ... we're in trouble.
I'm a girl and this is something that I'd do. I've always been oblivious to guys flirting with me. I was actually on a date one time and didn't know it. Just thought I was having dinner with a friend. That moment I realized though...I wanted to crawl into a hole. I'm an idiot.
Me taking the plunge and flirt in a text with the guy I was crushing on "Merry Christmas!". He didn't pick up on it. : /
Edit: it was during the holidays. I admit I am not a flirter. lol
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