Mother Has Brilliant Response To Woman In Walmart Who Called Her 2-Year-Old Son ‘Repulsive’
What was supposed to be a regular trip to Walmart turned out to be an awful experience for one mother. The woman decided to post her story on Facebook where it went viral and got nearly 70K likes.
Everything started while Dallas Lynn and her two-year-old son Jameus were waiting at the check out. Jameus wanted to hug his mom so – like any mother – Lynn picked up her child for a cuddle, exposing his stomach. This was where things got messy.
Scroll down to read Lynn’s touching story below.
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What was supposed to be a regular trip to Walmart turned out to be an awful experience for one mother
The woman decided to post her story on Facebook where it went viral and got nearly 70K likes
Kudos to the mom who didn’t make a scene but decided to educate the public
Her story reached thousands of people
But most importantly, it proves that Jameus couldn’t wish for a better, more loving mom
I am not sure whether such a social media story will do the trick; it merely reaches those who are interested anyway, and are not ignorant. What we rather need is moral courage: if anyone of us whitnesses a situation like described by this woman, we ought to intervene and loudly tell the unfriendly person "You are the only one with this opinion. If you do not like the sight, you are free to change line.".
it might not do the trick, but it is part of doing the trick.
Load More Replies...'People at Walmart'.... We seen enough pictures to know that some customers have lost all grip on reality and no longer have a general idea about what is acceptable behaviour and what isn't.
So sorry. People can be so cruel. My middle son was diagnosed at age 3 with a brain tumor. He's endured 5 surgeries, including one 15 hour, marathon brain surgery, over 70 weeks of chemotherapy and countless scans and tests. I took him and my older son to a restaurant for Easter dinner. Given all we'd been going through, it was nice to do something not doctor related. My son was on powerful steroids. I've seen first hand how they alter personality, a common side effect. He was grumpy. He was crying and didn't want to sit at the table. Very unusual for him. Soon he stopped fussing and just wanted to lie down. He sat in his chair, leaned over and put his head in my lap. An elderly woman, appearing so sweet walked up to the table and told me I should "beat his a*s." I was so mad but I'm certain she 'll think twice before doing this again. Morale of the story: Be kind, dont judge. You never know what someone else is going through.
Wow...this is actually worse than the story of the post. Inappropriate _and_ unwarranted advise. I guess in your situation it was hard to not have beaten *her* a*s.
Load More Replies...Only by talking about stomas and other medical procedures as the normal things they are can we reduce public ignorance.
Hans, you are kind. I might have said "She's just jealous because you got your colonostomy bag first."
I think it is enough to say she has a "repulsing" character. ;)
Load More Replies...The height of ignorance is too ignore the suffering of others because of our pretentious sensibilities. I had a person close to me who had a child with a handicap. I was describing it in a Bible study and a woman said that she did not want to hear it. I let her have it good. To believe your stuffy proprieties are more important than education and compassion is 180 degree opposite of the Christian message. Good luck to you and your wonderful child.
My mom has Chrones Disease. She has had a stoma for the entire time I have been alive. This is a normal thing for me. Your son is a beautiful boy. He should be proud of those bags. Those bags mean he odds that a lot of people don't. God bless you all.
I worked for a gastroenterologist for 25 years and saw hundreds of patients with ostomy bags. Most of those people were critically ill with IBD or Crohn's disease. All I could ever think of when I saw one was "thank God someone invented this operative system to create stomas and attach bags to them; otherwise ALL of these patients would have died". This little boy is happy, loving, and obviously enjoying life. It's unthinkable to imagine if this operative procedure hadn't been available to him.
....She literally did that? like??? How foolish and blind is she?? Oh, so sorry! Are my glasses repulsive to you? Sorry, I guess I'll take them off and fall down the stairs with my lack of depth perception, just to not disgust you with a little trinket that keeps me safe and alive :) No biggie!!
Another post that promotes how normal parents should behave. Are they really so rare that we have to like everything 1000000000 times and retweet 3000000 times that would be nothing special, just normal?
My neighborhood is filled with old people like this who are always giving us unsolicited parenting comments. They are lonely and starved for conversation. They also are very concerned and scared of how much has changed since they were parents of young kids. I try to be not judgmental of them but sometimes they something like this and I have to call them out and tell them that they have to deal with the changing world no matter how uncomfortable it makes them.
I'll have to remember this for when I'm old and lonely -- don't give unsolicited advice!!
Load More Replies...I've always found that the best response to any idiotic comment is what Heinrich Dorfmann said to Frank Towns in "The Flight of the Phoenix": You behave as if stupidity were a virtue. Why is that ??"
My husband's ex and friends all told him his stoma is repulsive and he should hide it but it's difficult when he travels with colleagues for work extensively, so for years he endured all the teasing of being girly wanting to go to toilet cubicles rather than urinal and how he takes girly long time to go off to toilet and how often he goes all got him into trouble because at workplace they thought he was slacking by taking a longer time for such. Then he met my friends and I who showed him that not everyone is judgmental and so he finally opened up and his colleagues who knew are all supportive and he no longer gets criticized, therefore you are perfectly right that positive body image is very important and it is sad that so many people cannot understand and accept others for their differences. Also, I hope it helps to know that there are many others who are supportive.
People can be disgusting. Kudos to this mother for what she did for her little boy. I have a rare neurological disorder called neurofibromatosis type 2 (or NF2, as us cool kids call it). It has taken my hearing, balance, and left the right side of my face paralyzed after 10 surgeries to remove various tumors. I cannot smile. I can barely move the side of my face. It is like having Bell's Palsy, I imagine. My eye on that side is lazy and "pops out" a bit. It cannot blink. So I am self conscious when I go out. Yes, people stare unless I arrange my face into a perfect mask of indifference. If I try to make any kind of expression, I look like a freak and get gawked at. I can't smile in photos, so when someone tells me "Smile! It can't be that bad!" it's twice as aggravating.
I just want to play with that bundle of joy.I will never understand why people are so mean.
The mother is very wise to take it in such a calm way... most people would have turned into rage super saiyan mode (myself included). Her action of posting the story on social media might not reach out a lot of people, but at least more people know about it. :) Her son is super cute by the way <3
I am 48 and never had kids--don't even like them. I've never held a baby and never want to. But even so, I think this woman who made these disparaging comments is a complete and utter p.o.s. for acting out and saying what she said. Clearly she has never had her own child-- and like I said, I haven't had any either, but I have enough wisdom, common sense, and compassion to understand that this little boy clearly needed these stomas for a damn good effing reason! That woman should be publicly flogged for her ignorance and judgmental behavior! She's clearly young, ignorant, and has gained no wisdom during her lifetime yet. Hopefully, there's still time to educate her. Good job, Mom, for keeping your cool and not blowing up on her, because I think even I would have had to have told that idiot off, had I heard / seen what was going on! No human ever wants a stoma, much less TWO of them, and certainly no child would ever want to deal with having them. Hang tough, little Jameus!
Bet that woman goes to church and pats herself on the back about what a good little christian she is
My husband had laryngectomee, removal of his larynx, do to cancer in 2004' he, therefore has a Stimson his neck through which he breaths. Now, 13 years later, the radiation that he received is still working. In March he needed to have his esophagus removed and his trachea repaired. He now needs to wear an existing bag on his neck to cover the stoma there, where his esophagus ends. I have a terrible time making the posting bags work because they are meant to go on a flat surface...and a neck is not flat and smooth. We deal with leaks all the time and use a lot of paste just to get through a day. People don't understand the trauma to families as well as the person who is different. We learn to accept it as perfectly normal and the rest of the world just needs to stop judging us.
I'm hoping that this woman is to old to understand modern Healthcare and what things might look like, cuz clearly she's an insensitive witch with absolutely no filter on her mouth. Amybody who finds a condition like that repulsive or a health necessity like that scary should walk off a cliff. Looks like my friends getting grossed out by me me for using the washroom a 30-50 times a day (o.b.d. is annoying)
*It's like my friends getting grossed out*
Load More Replies...This happened to my grandma and she struggles everyday because of people like that mean woman
Good for this mom for taking the high road. That's the best teacher for this beautiful child.
No, I don't think that's how it works. I think it can only be from birth. If it is, someone please correct me.
Load More Replies...My mom was told by a woman once when I was little. Why would she bring me to mall for people to see. And I remember putting my arm up to block my mom from going after this woman. And I told woman she better leave quick because no telling what my mom may do to you if I move my arm. There loads of jerks out there who don't know how to keep their two cents to themselves
First of all - kudos to you. Your son needs love like any other & is lucky to have you. It's demanding being a mother to the 'average' kid, let alone a child with a medical issue. I find HER, the older woman repulsive - doesn't she know that in a few years there are some who would look at her & think the same? If she didn't understand, she could have asked TO GET INFORMED. She will find herself at the receiving end one day. In the meantime, take care of you too - your son really needs you - your love & emotional INTELLIGENCE. You have also spoken for many others who meet these ignorant farts & are too shocked or decent to know how to react. Your pics are absolutely beautiful & say ALL :) Thank you for sharing <3
When I look at your son, I see a beautiful Being who radiates Joy and Love!!!!
Your son is not "repulsing", he is beautiful and miraculous. You both must have amazing strength to go through all the surgeries and treatments. It is wonderful that Jameus survived and is now a sweet, healthy boy!
OMGosh how ignorant some people are. It was and is no one business what your little boy goes through every day of his young life. God bless him and you. You are a great mother and I'm sure you are going to be just fine with preparing him for his life ahead. He is as much God's little Angle as every other child but, he is special. He is alive to give you years of joy with his smile and his comedy. God bless you both.
I cannot imagine the type of person that would tell a young mother her child was repulsive. How much that woman must hate herself to strike out at beautiful child? When life decides to dish out karma to that woman I sincerely hope that it does in one huge bloody lump. I would be so ashamed if I was related or friends with that monster. She should have been named and publicly shamed. People today think they can say or do anything. It is wrong we should be going back to the days of the public stocks and rotten fruit and vegetables. Our laws protect the wrong doer and there is no justice for the innocent. I am not advocating people dish out punishment themselves but showing us revulsion and disgust with other's behaviors is our way of getting justice for these people's victims.
Henry; Praying, that the cute little boy will heal to be just like nothing ever happened. He went through enough, Mean Old Bag Lady, does not know any better.
That's awful and he's gorgeous, thankyou for sharing (and for not lashing out...a brilliant example 😊) bless you both x
So sorry for your awful experience. People can be very cruel - but I must admit I am disgusted at her attitude. WHAT A HEARTLESS SELFISH WOMAN. I think you are a wonderful, caring Mum and lots of love and hugs to you both. xxoo
Your boy and is like lucky to have you as his mother! He is a beautiful boy and I hope he grows up knowing that and that the ignorance of so
For god sake, in the age of that adult woman in the supermarket you are not supposed to be educated about these thing. It has to be so tiring for anyone who got these stupid comments from an adult. From kids? Sure, ask. But from adult? I'm just so mad.
This makes me despair at people. How could someone say something so horrible about an innocent child. Particularly about a such a sweet looking little boy with a gorgeous smile (and adorably curly hair). The thing that really gets me is that she said 'sorry but I think that's repulsing'. Well clearly she's not sorry, or she wouldn't have said it.
All I want to say is he is beautiful with his top on and just as beautiful with his top of and has a beautiful mum,horrible negative people like her don't matter. Hugs to you both ❤️
God...I hope this mum knows that woman is the exception not the rule.He's utterly gorgeous & he's so lucky,lucky to be alive,to have her!!
He is a beautiful happy little man..i love his smile it reaches his eyes. People can be crule and this woman was out of line to say that. My mom was an amputee and watching her was inspiring she taught me that it doesnt matter whats on the outside it matters what is on the inside that counts. You are a great mother to a beautiful son so forget what rude people say they are not important people in your life. He is a brave little guy who has been threw a lot and you are doing a great job which shows in his smile..
he is so cute I can not believe that woman even had a thought to say such a thing if she was going through the same thing she would hate it if someone said that to her
"But instead, I told her to have a good night and went to another line." And then later I virtue signaled all over the internet. :X
He is neither repulsing nor repulsive. Hes got a beautiful happy smile and a future ahead of him.
God bless your sweet little boy and your family. It is so hard to see ignorance of some people and try not to let it affect you but when someone talks about your child, especially one with a health issue, the only thing to do is exactly what you did. You are a shining example of what grace is.
This story literally made me cry... OOPS! I meant... Ahem hem... Who put me in a room full of onions??!
It is good to see this story. I've never photographed my own son, or his bag (he's had various types now) or given out the details on any kind of social media, but most of my friends know what he's going through. That we're ALL going through. This stuff isn't easy, but it exists. Be very glad we have the medical ability to achieve these simple, but life-saving procedures. Be glad that beautiful human beings can have a life, an *extended* life. Yup, it looks hideous. You adapt. It becomes no more dramatic than having a s**t and then wiping your bum. Just takes a bit more time. This is about *life*, people. Nothing more. Is there anything else?
I feel sad for the little guy cause of people like that woman who comment about what she saw instead of being happy for little guy doing so good. You can tell he is happy and she is a good mom. I would of told her off in a heart beat. No one should be treated that way.
Wow. You are a great mother for taking the high road. I wouldnt have been able to be kind. I am sooo happy this little little boy gets to have a life..@---)---
this lady doesn't look to the mirror example here in puerto rico old lady like to say you are fat but she doesn't look like a cow
What a horrible woman - you are so lovely to stand up for your boy. And he's super cute!
That little boy looks so cuuuutee!!! He has a beautiful face, and mother, of course :)
What does she expect from the average Walmart shopper? When you walk through the front doors it is noticeably different than walking into a Target, Macy's, Kroger, Costco or other large retailer.
I agree, it's Walmart and you have to expect to find terrible people at that store. Funny how the story starts with, "Just expecting a normal shopping trip at Walmart". Wasn't that what she got? It's interesting that people are so concerned about saving a buck on the items they need, but go buy $8 coffees each morning. I don't make much money and I avoid Walmart like the plague. I'd rather spend more on food and home items at another store, than ever give money to Walmart. Walmart is not just a terrible shopping experience, but you're literally perpetuating people getting horrible salaries, goods imported from China and helping a company that just wants to take advantage of everyone's desire to keep that going all in the name of saving a buck.
Load More Replies...This is a wonderful story; however, it isn't wonderful when that woman didn't know what was going on with ur son. She was quite impulsive.
Why was this down voted all that was said was the woman was intolerable, and that the story behind it was a good story maybe not a happy story but a good story.
Load More Replies...He is beautiful. Many people are ignorant, meaning they judge without information, and really should keep their opinions to themselves at times
Your children are a mothers most treasured possession & the nerve of this old bitter bity saying anything negative against this beautiful little child makes me sick. I hope she does not have to end up with a colon bag someday to learn her lesson on judging others who have a medical condition. There is an old saying " A Fool Speaks & A Wise Man Listens " obviously she just spouts off at the mouth & she needs to keep her pie hole shut !!
Wow, what an old bitter bitty . I feel nothing but pity for this negative old busy body lady. I sure hope she watches what she says because god might make her end up with a colon bag. Great job Mom !!!
I'm tremendously happy she came forward to educate people on a condition like this. I would never have shrieked or went ewwww, but I would have been curious. Now if I meet someone with a similar condition, I'll feel a lot less ignorant and more courageous about speaking out for them or just chatting to them.
First of all Ms. Lyn, the way that you handled the situation speaks volumes about you. I admire that quality. Although I am much older than your son, I have survived 5 cancers over the past 22 years, the most recent a brain tumor in March 2017. All of the radiation over the years and the medications have left me with a tremor in my hands. You would not believe how many times complete strangers have come up to me while I'm in a store and asked why I shake. In the beginning I used to get embarrassed and start to explain. Now, when people ask me why I'm shaking, I look at them, smile, and say I am? I had no idea. I think they get the message it's none of your business without actually saying it. God bless you and your little sweetheart.
Well I can tell you what you BIG mistake was, shopping in Walmart. I'm not sure what happens to people who begin to shop there or maybe it just draws in every nut job, fruit cake, absolute loser that ever walks on the earth but they sure do have a 1000 times more than any other place in the universe. My niece worked there for several years. I REALLY didn't want her to, but, she's always been extremely bullheaded, just like BOTH her parents, including my brother. She said EVERY DAY, EVERY SINGLE DAY they called the police to come and get complete crackpots and everything else. And this isn't some big metropolitan city, this is a town of about 70,000. We've all seen the endless scroll of complete nuts online. People who wear the most bizarre outfits ever seen, and they believe they're normally and appropriately dressed. It doesn't surprise me one bit you ran into a wacko woman at Walmart. I do everything within my power to NEVER shop at that store. I advise you to do the same.
I wish I were there...I would not have been able to hold back from the opportunity to explain to her a thing called manners at the very least. Also, I wish I were there simply to meet that adorable boy and Shake his mom's Hand
Good work, mama, for taking the high road. That is the greatest teacher for your child.
As a mom I can say you have more self control that I imagine I would have had in that situation. People are cruel and ignorant. That woman needs a bag surgically attached to her rude mouth. A place for her insensitive comments to be held. Society is so focused on looks and ignores the best parts of people. Their hearts and kindness and happiness, the things that really matter. Good job mom, he will need your strength to learn that he is strong and beautiful no matter what ANYONE says!
Although I'm much older than this child, and his mother too, I share the "ostomy experience" with them. I had mine permanently attached at age 2, and the other only about 8yrs ago: when bowel management became impossible due to aging, surgeries, and illnesses. My only regret in getting the 2nd placed: I wish that I'd done it sooner, like the first. TMI for those who don't know..one is for #1, the other: #2. Though I'm a paraplegic, no doctor ever informed me of "option 2." I researched, and decided, out of sheer desperation: and the desire to, one day, leave the house again. I struggled with it in my teens,(what teen doesn't struggle over something) now they're a blessing. Ostomies don't hinder your life, they give you back your life. Whenever I'm asked, by strangers, "how do you go to the bathroom, (w/chairs make people curious too) I'm tempted to lift up my skirt and show them! Ostomies lead to funny experiences too: share them..just 4 fun. Oh,the stories I could tell! LOL!
He's a handsome young man. Who's got a wonderful mommy. Let them talk people are a******s
Wow, shame on that lady, and I hope she reads these, my ex husband has hershrungs disease, severely, and a good friend of mind's new son has it too, mildly thank goodness, but there is nothing gross or disgusting about it, it's life, and he can have a regular life, I would say normal but what's normal lol, still, he is cute, and 1 day he's gonna be a handsome man, and eventually have a love in his life maybe, screw the old woman, good on u mama, and kick butt mini man ^.^
I spent many a days in the hospital with my children, One had NG feedings for 18months. Sad but true people just have their own opinions when seeing something different and become very hurting. I can't change the fat that the doctors didn't know what was wrong with my first born 41 years ago (age 10 months) and ended up in isolation and quarantine and then 16 lbs at a years old. Or that the 4th had to have NG feedings to sustain life. People did not like the sight of the NG tube or the slightness of a 16 lb (skinny) 1 year old and stated so. It hurt beyond belief and I remained uncommenting. This included my in laws! The middle ones didn't need such invasive interventions. But: I had my babies. They eventual grew to be healthy and did everything any other "normal" thought of child would do. Your baby is beautiful and perfect. And your proudness is his sunshine. Regardless of reason, people fear "different" and "the unknown". It's their short coming. The power of being the advocate
I feel so bad for this kid and his mum a kid should not be put through being called repulsive about something he cant change some people don't have a brain
Seriously what kind of an asshat makes a derogatory comment about a child?! Kudos to awesome mom and a million kisses to cutie patootie
He is a beautiful little boy and that woman's behavior is deplorable.
I'm just glad your boy has a mother who advocated so well for him. because of that, he will one day do it for himself. Try not to be too harsh on the ignorant woman. If we have patience with such people, they can be educated. If we just ridicule them, they walk off thinking nothing different. If we teach them something, they have a chance at become advocates themselves. We fear what we don't understand Yeah, she was rude, but you can't let that win.
people are f****d up. i'm sorry for my language, but how can you be so cruel towards a kid that is sick and a mom doing her best? i'd love to give that lady my piece of mind...
so sweet! cute kid. horrible thing to say... I would of punched her right in the face.
You have a wonderful child and this woman is just plain ignorant and repulsive herself for making such a statement.
I too had a stoma. Got one when my colon ruptured. I almost died so having a colostomy definitely was better than death. Luckily I was able to have it reversed. This is not always possible. This story of the two year old boy was very touching. How could anyone be so ignorant?
Your son is so so beautiful and she just sounds horrific and nasty. I am sickened to tears at her behaviour how dare she talk to your beautiful son like e that
I'm so sorry that happened to you. I had a bad experience last week at a restaurant when a proprietor tried to deny me access to a bathroom. I was so humiliating. https://www.facebook.com/Ally.Robertson2011/posts/10155178144050569
He is such a sweet baby! I wish you all the best! Our body is just the Shell we live in and sometimes needs to be helped to function properly. I feel sorry for the ignorant woman that does not have the capacity to put herself in other peoples shoes, and even imagine what suffering it must be for a child to bare something strange attached to his little body when all he wants to do is play and have fun! All the best for you!
All I can say is that your very handsome little boy is so lucky to have you as his mama. You handled the situation with far more grace than I ever could have.
It makes me sick when people make comments like this without knowing someone's situation. When my brother was 10, he contracted a rare muscle disease that paralyzed him from the waist down for a couple of months. My mother had to carry him into the grocery store to find a wheelchair. This woman looked disapprovingly at my mother and said, "You really shouldn't be babying your son like that. He's old enough to walk in here on his own." My mother is so kind and mild-mannered but I've never in my life seen her as angry as she looked that day.
You know this woman faces some honest-to-God problems. We have to stop thinking some rude person is Walmart is her biggest challenge. I'm am sure I would have been mad too and I support the mom's posting her sadness/anger defiance, but we spend SOOOOO much time worrying what other people think instead of worrying about REAL challenges in our life.
Well done lady, there is nothing wrong with what we see about your son apart from life giving him a rough start but I am sure he will grow into a fine strong man that will do well in this world he will grow up in.
He is beautiful. I would not have handled it with as much grace as dignity as his Mama.
Your little boy is absolutely adorable and I would play a game with him to let him know that everything is gonna be just fine. Great Mom!!
He is a beautiful, adorable little boy with a terrific smile!! Anyone with a brain would assume that these are medically necessary. My neighbor and friend has this too. He is lucky to have such a loving mom!! And she is lucky to have such a loving toddler!! I once babysat for a little girl who had a port in her chest because she had cancer. I sometimes forgot it was there and hugged her too hard!! Her mom said that was a frequent problem!!
What a stupid old misery guts!! If she thinks she has the right to comment she should at least use the correct word which is "repulsive" not "repulsing". Repulsing generally means to drive back or repel so she is profoundly ignorant as well as rude. I wouldn't spare another thought for her. Your boy is super super cute and is so fortunate to have a great mother such as you. Hope that ignorant old biddy didn't have children and if she did, they have my sympathy.
Beautiful baby!!!! Don't listen to ignorant people! You are awesome!!
I just wish I could have been in that line. That rude, ignorant b__tch would have been running out the door, tail tucked between her cowardly legs!!!!!
look at his smile... aaahhh... he is just beautiful. kiss from Indonesia little boy :*
Mother of pearl. Is a colostomy bag disgusting? Hell yeah it is. Would I make that opinion known to a mother and her small child who's obviously having a rough go of things as it is? Hell no. What's wrong with people? The problem is not in having the opinion. You should never, ever be faulted for having an opinion. You should be faulted for lacking the social skills to not be a d**k to people who've done nothing to you other than be an eyesore in your opinion. Giant ear hoops where they destroy their earlobe gross me out too. I'm not going to randomly tell someone who has one that though. That's unnecessary and mean. You do you, I'll do me.
I think she was tremendously polite. People who are rude don't merit a respectable response. I may have chosen some choice language for her unwanted editorial. Civility is nice but not always appropriate either. In short, some people need to be verbally slapped. Enough said.
Calling a 2-year-old "repulsive" is considered "polite"?? I've never heard that one before... 😕
Load More Replies...Well... I wouldn't say it out loud for politeness' sake, but stomas are pretty unpleasant to look at. I can also be quite... callous, for want of a better term, "social Darwinist", so I'm not the person to ask about such things...
Why does everyone say "it's viral" when it's not. I'm sure a couple people liked this story. I found it long winded
I am not sure whether such a social media story will do the trick; it merely reaches those who are interested anyway, and are not ignorant. What we rather need is moral courage: if anyone of us whitnesses a situation like described by this woman, we ought to intervene and loudly tell the unfriendly person "You are the only one with this opinion. If you do not like the sight, you are free to change line.".
it might not do the trick, but it is part of doing the trick.
Load More Replies...'People at Walmart'.... We seen enough pictures to know that some customers have lost all grip on reality and no longer have a general idea about what is acceptable behaviour and what isn't.
So sorry. People can be so cruel. My middle son was diagnosed at age 3 with a brain tumor. He's endured 5 surgeries, including one 15 hour, marathon brain surgery, over 70 weeks of chemotherapy and countless scans and tests. I took him and my older son to a restaurant for Easter dinner. Given all we'd been going through, it was nice to do something not doctor related. My son was on powerful steroids. I've seen first hand how they alter personality, a common side effect. He was grumpy. He was crying and didn't want to sit at the table. Very unusual for him. Soon he stopped fussing and just wanted to lie down. He sat in his chair, leaned over and put his head in my lap. An elderly woman, appearing so sweet walked up to the table and told me I should "beat his a*s." I was so mad but I'm certain she 'll think twice before doing this again. Morale of the story: Be kind, dont judge. You never know what someone else is going through.
Wow...this is actually worse than the story of the post. Inappropriate _and_ unwarranted advise. I guess in your situation it was hard to not have beaten *her* a*s.
Load More Replies...Only by talking about stomas and other medical procedures as the normal things they are can we reduce public ignorance.
Hans, you are kind. I might have said "She's just jealous because you got your colonostomy bag first."
I think it is enough to say she has a "repulsing" character. ;)
Load More Replies...The height of ignorance is too ignore the suffering of others because of our pretentious sensibilities. I had a person close to me who had a child with a handicap. I was describing it in a Bible study and a woman said that she did not want to hear it. I let her have it good. To believe your stuffy proprieties are more important than education and compassion is 180 degree opposite of the Christian message. Good luck to you and your wonderful child.
My mom has Chrones Disease. She has had a stoma for the entire time I have been alive. This is a normal thing for me. Your son is a beautiful boy. He should be proud of those bags. Those bags mean he odds that a lot of people don't. God bless you all.
I worked for a gastroenterologist for 25 years and saw hundreds of patients with ostomy bags. Most of those people were critically ill with IBD or Crohn's disease. All I could ever think of when I saw one was "thank God someone invented this operative system to create stomas and attach bags to them; otherwise ALL of these patients would have died". This little boy is happy, loving, and obviously enjoying life. It's unthinkable to imagine if this operative procedure hadn't been available to him.
....She literally did that? like??? How foolish and blind is she?? Oh, so sorry! Are my glasses repulsive to you? Sorry, I guess I'll take them off and fall down the stairs with my lack of depth perception, just to not disgust you with a little trinket that keeps me safe and alive :) No biggie!!
Another post that promotes how normal parents should behave. Are they really so rare that we have to like everything 1000000000 times and retweet 3000000 times that would be nothing special, just normal?
My neighborhood is filled with old people like this who are always giving us unsolicited parenting comments. They are lonely and starved for conversation. They also are very concerned and scared of how much has changed since they were parents of young kids. I try to be not judgmental of them but sometimes they something like this and I have to call them out and tell them that they have to deal with the changing world no matter how uncomfortable it makes them.
I'll have to remember this for when I'm old and lonely -- don't give unsolicited advice!!
Load More Replies...I've always found that the best response to any idiotic comment is what Heinrich Dorfmann said to Frank Towns in "The Flight of the Phoenix": You behave as if stupidity were a virtue. Why is that ??"
My husband's ex and friends all told him his stoma is repulsive and he should hide it but it's difficult when he travels with colleagues for work extensively, so for years he endured all the teasing of being girly wanting to go to toilet cubicles rather than urinal and how he takes girly long time to go off to toilet and how often he goes all got him into trouble because at workplace they thought he was slacking by taking a longer time for such. Then he met my friends and I who showed him that not everyone is judgmental and so he finally opened up and his colleagues who knew are all supportive and he no longer gets criticized, therefore you are perfectly right that positive body image is very important and it is sad that so many people cannot understand and accept others for their differences. Also, I hope it helps to know that there are many others who are supportive.
People can be disgusting. Kudos to this mother for what she did for her little boy. I have a rare neurological disorder called neurofibromatosis type 2 (or NF2, as us cool kids call it). It has taken my hearing, balance, and left the right side of my face paralyzed after 10 surgeries to remove various tumors. I cannot smile. I can barely move the side of my face. It is like having Bell's Palsy, I imagine. My eye on that side is lazy and "pops out" a bit. It cannot blink. So I am self conscious when I go out. Yes, people stare unless I arrange my face into a perfect mask of indifference. If I try to make any kind of expression, I look like a freak and get gawked at. I can't smile in photos, so when someone tells me "Smile! It can't be that bad!" it's twice as aggravating.
I just want to play with that bundle of joy.I will never understand why people are so mean.
The mother is very wise to take it in such a calm way... most people would have turned into rage super saiyan mode (myself included). Her action of posting the story on social media might not reach out a lot of people, but at least more people know about it. :) Her son is super cute by the way <3
I am 48 and never had kids--don't even like them. I've never held a baby and never want to. But even so, I think this woman who made these disparaging comments is a complete and utter p.o.s. for acting out and saying what she said. Clearly she has never had her own child-- and like I said, I haven't had any either, but I have enough wisdom, common sense, and compassion to understand that this little boy clearly needed these stomas for a damn good effing reason! That woman should be publicly flogged for her ignorance and judgmental behavior! She's clearly young, ignorant, and has gained no wisdom during her lifetime yet. Hopefully, there's still time to educate her. Good job, Mom, for keeping your cool and not blowing up on her, because I think even I would have had to have told that idiot off, had I heard / seen what was going on! No human ever wants a stoma, much less TWO of them, and certainly no child would ever want to deal with having them. Hang tough, little Jameus!
Bet that woman goes to church and pats herself on the back about what a good little christian she is
My husband had laryngectomee, removal of his larynx, do to cancer in 2004' he, therefore has a Stimson his neck through which he breaths. Now, 13 years later, the radiation that he received is still working. In March he needed to have his esophagus removed and his trachea repaired. He now needs to wear an existing bag on his neck to cover the stoma there, where his esophagus ends. I have a terrible time making the posting bags work because they are meant to go on a flat surface...and a neck is not flat and smooth. We deal with leaks all the time and use a lot of paste just to get through a day. People don't understand the trauma to families as well as the person who is different. We learn to accept it as perfectly normal and the rest of the world just needs to stop judging us.
I'm hoping that this woman is to old to understand modern Healthcare and what things might look like, cuz clearly she's an insensitive witch with absolutely no filter on her mouth. Amybody who finds a condition like that repulsive or a health necessity like that scary should walk off a cliff. Looks like my friends getting grossed out by me me for using the washroom a 30-50 times a day (o.b.d. is annoying)
*It's like my friends getting grossed out*
Load More Replies...This happened to my grandma and she struggles everyday because of people like that mean woman
Good for this mom for taking the high road. That's the best teacher for this beautiful child.
No, I don't think that's how it works. I think it can only be from birth. If it is, someone please correct me.
Load More Replies...My mom was told by a woman once when I was little. Why would she bring me to mall for people to see. And I remember putting my arm up to block my mom from going after this woman. And I told woman she better leave quick because no telling what my mom may do to you if I move my arm. There loads of jerks out there who don't know how to keep their two cents to themselves
First of all - kudos to you. Your son needs love like any other & is lucky to have you. It's demanding being a mother to the 'average' kid, let alone a child with a medical issue. I find HER, the older woman repulsive - doesn't she know that in a few years there are some who would look at her & think the same? If she didn't understand, she could have asked TO GET INFORMED. She will find herself at the receiving end one day. In the meantime, take care of you too - your son really needs you - your love & emotional INTELLIGENCE. You have also spoken for many others who meet these ignorant farts & are too shocked or decent to know how to react. Your pics are absolutely beautiful & say ALL :) Thank you for sharing <3
When I look at your son, I see a beautiful Being who radiates Joy and Love!!!!
Your son is not "repulsing", he is beautiful and miraculous. You both must have amazing strength to go through all the surgeries and treatments. It is wonderful that Jameus survived and is now a sweet, healthy boy!
OMGosh how ignorant some people are. It was and is no one business what your little boy goes through every day of his young life. God bless him and you. You are a great mother and I'm sure you are going to be just fine with preparing him for his life ahead. He is as much God's little Angle as every other child but, he is special. He is alive to give you years of joy with his smile and his comedy. God bless you both.
I cannot imagine the type of person that would tell a young mother her child was repulsive. How much that woman must hate herself to strike out at beautiful child? When life decides to dish out karma to that woman I sincerely hope that it does in one huge bloody lump. I would be so ashamed if I was related or friends with that monster. She should have been named and publicly shamed. People today think they can say or do anything. It is wrong we should be going back to the days of the public stocks and rotten fruit and vegetables. Our laws protect the wrong doer and there is no justice for the innocent. I am not advocating people dish out punishment themselves but showing us revulsion and disgust with other's behaviors is our way of getting justice for these people's victims.
Henry; Praying, that the cute little boy will heal to be just like nothing ever happened. He went through enough, Mean Old Bag Lady, does not know any better.
That's awful and he's gorgeous, thankyou for sharing (and for not lashing out...a brilliant example 😊) bless you both x
So sorry for your awful experience. People can be very cruel - but I must admit I am disgusted at her attitude. WHAT A HEARTLESS SELFISH WOMAN. I think you are a wonderful, caring Mum and lots of love and hugs to you both. xxoo
Your boy and is like lucky to have you as his mother! He is a beautiful boy and I hope he grows up knowing that and that the ignorance of so
For god sake, in the age of that adult woman in the supermarket you are not supposed to be educated about these thing. It has to be so tiring for anyone who got these stupid comments from an adult. From kids? Sure, ask. But from adult? I'm just so mad.
This makes me despair at people. How could someone say something so horrible about an innocent child. Particularly about a such a sweet looking little boy with a gorgeous smile (and adorably curly hair). The thing that really gets me is that she said 'sorry but I think that's repulsing'. Well clearly she's not sorry, or she wouldn't have said it.
All I want to say is he is beautiful with his top on and just as beautiful with his top of and has a beautiful mum,horrible negative people like her don't matter. Hugs to you both ❤️
God...I hope this mum knows that woman is the exception not the rule.He's utterly gorgeous & he's so lucky,lucky to be alive,to have her!!
He is a beautiful happy little man..i love his smile it reaches his eyes. People can be crule and this woman was out of line to say that. My mom was an amputee and watching her was inspiring she taught me that it doesnt matter whats on the outside it matters what is on the inside that counts. You are a great mother to a beautiful son so forget what rude people say they are not important people in your life. He is a brave little guy who has been threw a lot and you are doing a great job which shows in his smile..
he is so cute I can not believe that woman even had a thought to say such a thing if she was going through the same thing she would hate it if someone said that to her
"But instead, I told her to have a good night and went to another line." And then later I virtue signaled all over the internet. :X
He is neither repulsing nor repulsive. Hes got a beautiful happy smile and a future ahead of him.
God bless your sweet little boy and your family. It is so hard to see ignorance of some people and try not to let it affect you but when someone talks about your child, especially one with a health issue, the only thing to do is exactly what you did. You are a shining example of what grace is.
This story literally made me cry... OOPS! I meant... Ahem hem... Who put me in a room full of onions??!
It is good to see this story. I've never photographed my own son, or his bag (he's had various types now) or given out the details on any kind of social media, but most of my friends know what he's going through. That we're ALL going through. This stuff isn't easy, but it exists. Be very glad we have the medical ability to achieve these simple, but life-saving procedures. Be glad that beautiful human beings can have a life, an *extended* life. Yup, it looks hideous. You adapt. It becomes no more dramatic than having a s**t and then wiping your bum. Just takes a bit more time. This is about *life*, people. Nothing more. Is there anything else?
I feel sad for the little guy cause of people like that woman who comment about what she saw instead of being happy for little guy doing so good. You can tell he is happy and she is a good mom. I would of told her off in a heart beat. No one should be treated that way.
Wow. You are a great mother for taking the high road. I wouldnt have been able to be kind. I am sooo happy this little little boy gets to have a life..@---)---
this lady doesn't look to the mirror example here in puerto rico old lady like to say you are fat but she doesn't look like a cow
What a horrible woman - you are so lovely to stand up for your boy. And he's super cute!
That little boy looks so cuuuutee!!! He has a beautiful face, and mother, of course :)
What does she expect from the average Walmart shopper? When you walk through the front doors it is noticeably different than walking into a Target, Macy's, Kroger, Costco or other large retailer.
I agree, it's Walmart and you have to expect to find terrible people at that store. Funny how the story starts with, "Just expecting a normal shopping trip at Walmart". Wasn't that what she got? It's interesting that people are so concerned about saving a buck on the items they need, but go buy $8 coffees each morning. I don't make much money and I avoid Walmart like the plague. I'd rather spend more on food and home items at another store, than ever give money to Walmart. Walmart is not just a terrible shopping experience, but you're literally perpetuating people getting horrible salaries, goods imported from China and helping a company that just wants to take advantage of everyone's desire to keep that going all in the name of saving a buck.
Load More Replies...This is a wonderful story; however, it isn't wonderful when that woman didn't know what was going on with ur son. She was quite impulsive.
Why was this down voted all that was said was the woman was intolerable, and that the story behind it was a good story maybe not a happy story but a good story.
Load More Replies...He is beautiful. Many people are ignorant, meaning they judge without information, and really should keep their opinions to themselves at times
Your children are a mothers most treasured possession & the nerve of this old bitter bity saying anything negative against this beautiful little child makes me sick. I hope she does not have to end up with a colon bag someday to learn her lesson on judging others who have a medical condition. There is an old saying " A Fool Speaks & A Wise Man Listens " obviously she just spouts off at the mouth & she needs to keep her pie hole shut !!
Wow, what an old bitter bitty . I feel nothing but pity for this negative old busy body lady. I sure hope she watches what she says because god might make her end up with a colon bag. Great job Mom !!!
I'm tremendously happy she came forward to educate people on a condition like this. I would never have shrieked or went ewwww, but I would have been curious. Now if I meet someone with a similar condition, I'll feel a lot less ignorant and more courageous about speaking out for them or just chatting to them.
First of all Ms. Lyn, the way that you handled the situation speaks volumes about you. I admire that quality. Although I am much older than your son, I have survived 5 cancers over the past 22 years, the most recent a brain tumor in March 2017. All of the radiation over the years and the medications have left me with a tremor in my hands. You would not believe how many times complete strangers have come up to me while I'm in a store and asked why I shake. In the beginning I used to get embarrassed and start to explain. Now, when people ask me why I'm shaking, I look at them, smile, and say I am? I had no idea. I think they get the message it's none of your business without actually saying it. God bless you and your little sweetheart.
Well I can tell you what you BIG mistake was, shopping in Walmart. I'm not sure what happens to people who begin to shop there or maybe it just draws in every nut job, fruit cake, absolute loser that ever walks on the earth but they sure do have a 1000 times more than any other place in the universe. My niece worked there for several years. I REALLY didn't want her to, but, she's always been extremely bullheaded, just like BOTH her parents, including my brother. She said EVERY DAY, EVERY SINGLE DAY they called the police to come and get complete crackpots and everything else. And this isn't some big metropolitan city, this is a town of about 70,000. We've all seen the endless scroll of complete nuts online. People who wear the most bizarre outfits ever seen, and they believe they're normally and appropriately dressed. It doesn't surprise me one bit you ran into a wacko woman at Walmart. I do everything within my power to NEVER shop at that store. I advise you to do the same.
I wish I were there...I would not have been able to hold back from the opportunity to explain to her a thing called manners at the very least. Also, I wish I were there simply to meet that adorable boy and Shake his mom's Hand
Good work, mama, for taking the high road. That is the greatest teacher for your child.
As a mom I can say you have more self control that I imagine I would have had in that situation. People are cruel and ignorant. That woman needs a bag surgically attached to her rude mouth. A place for her insensitive comments to be held. Society is so focused on looks and ignores the best parts of people. Their hearts and kindness and happiness, the things that really matter. Good job mom, he will need your strength to learn that he is strong and beautiful no matter what ANYONE says!
Although I'm much older than this child, and his mother too, I share the "ostomy experience" with them. I had mine permanently attached at age 2, and the other only about 8yrs ago: when bowel management became impossible due to aging, surgeries, and illnesses. My only regret in getting the 2nd placed: I wish that I'd done it sooner, like the first. TMI for those who don't know..one is for #1, the other: #2. Though I'm a paraplegic, no doctor ever informed me of "option 2." I researched, and decided, out of sheer desperation: and the desire to, one day, leave the house again. I struggled with it in my teens,(what teen doesn't struggle over something) now they're a blessing. Ostomies don't hinder your life, they give you back your life. Whenever I'm asked, by strangers, "how do you go to the bathroom, (w/chairs make people curious too) I'm tempted to lift up my skirt and show them! Ostomies lead to funny experiences too: share them..just 4 fun. Oh,the stories I could tell! LOL!
He's a handsome young man. Who's got a wonderful mommy. Let them talk people are a******s
Wow, shame on that lady, and I hope she reads these, my ex husband has hershrungs disease, severely, and a good friend of mind's new son has it too, mildly thank goodness, but there is nothing gross or disgusting about it, it's life, and he can have a regular life, I would say normal but what's normal lol, still, he is cute, and 1 day he's gonna be a handsome man, and eventually have a love in his life maybe, screw the old woman, good on u mama, and kick butt mini man ^.^
I spent many a days in the hospital with my children, One had NG feedings for 18months. Sad but true people just have their own opinions when seeing something different and become very hurting. I can't change the fat that the doctors didn't know what was wrong with my first born 41 years ago (age 10 months) and ended up in isolation and quarantine and then 16 lbs at a years old. Or that the 4th had to have NG feedings to sustain life. People did not like the sight of the NG tube or the slightness of a 16 lb (skinny) 1 year old and stated so. It hurt beyond belief and I remained uncommenting. This included my in laws! The middle ones didn't need such invasive interventions. But: I had my babies. They eventual grew to be healthy and did everything any other "normal" thought of child would do. Your baby is beautiful and perfect. And your proudness is his sunshine. Regardless of reason, people fear "different" and "the unknown". It's their short coming. The power of being the advocate
I feel so bad for this kid and his mum a kid should not be put through being called repulsive about something he cant change some people don't have a brain
Seriously what kind of an asshat makes a derogatory comment about a child?! Kudos to awesome mom and a million kisses to cutie patootie
He is a beautiful little boy and that woman's behavior is deplorable.
I'm just glad your boy has a mother who advocated so well for him. because of that, he will one day do it for himself. Try not to be too harsh on the ignorant woman. If we have patience with such people, they can be educated. If we just ridicule them, they walk off thinking nothing different. If we teach them something, they have a chance at become advocates themselves. We fear what we don't understand Yeah, she was rude, but you can't let that win.
people are f****d up. i'm sorry for my language, but how can you be so cruel towards a kid that is sick and a mom doing her best? i'd love to give that lady my piece of mind...
so sweet! cute kid. horrible thing to say... I would of punched her right in the face.
You have a wonderful child and this woman is just plain ignorant and repulsive herself for making such a statement.
I too had a stoma. Got one when my colon ruptured. I almost died so having a colostomy definitely was better than death. Luckily I was able to have it reversed. This is not always possible. This story of the two year old boy was very touching. How could anyone be so ignorant?
Your son is so so beautiful and she just sounds horrific and nasty. I am sickened to tears at her behaviour how dare she talk to your beautiful son like e that
I'm so sorry that happened to you. I had a bad experience last week at a restaurant when a proprietor tried to deny me access to a bathroom. I was so humiliating. https://www.facebook.com/Ally.Robertson2011/posts/10155178144050569
He is such a sweet baby! I wish you all the best! Our body is just the Shell we live in and sometimes needs to be helped to function properly. I feel sorry for the ignorant woman that does not have the capacity to put herself in other peoples shoes, and even imagine what suffering it must be for a child to bare something strange attached to his little body when all he wants to do is play and have fun! All the best for you!
All I can say is that your very handsome little boy is so lucky to have you as his mama. You handled the situation with far more grace than I ever could have.
It makes me sick when people make comments like this without knowing someone's situation. When my brother was 10, he contracted a rare muscle disease that paralyzed him from the waist down for a couple of months. My mother had to carry him into the grocery store to find a wheelchair. This woman looked disapprovingly at my mother and said, "You really shouldn't be babying your son like that. He's old enough to walk in here on his own." My mother is so kind and mild-mannered but I've never in my life seen her as angry as she looked that day.
You know this woman faces some honest-to-God problems. We have to stop thinking some rude person is Walmart is her biggest challenge. I'm am sure I would have been mad too and I support the mom's posting her sadness/anger defiance, but we spend SOOOOO much time worrying what other people think instead of worrying about REAL challenges in our life.
Well done lady, there is nothing wrong with what we see about your son apart from life giving him a rough start but I am sure he will grow into a fine strong man that will do well in this world he will grow up in.
He is beautiful. I would not have handled it with as much grace as dignity as his Mama.
Your little boy is absolutely adorable and I would play a game with him to let him know that everything is gonna be just fine. Great Mom!!
He is a beautiful, adorable little boy with a terrific smile!! Anyone with a brain would assume that these are medically necessary. My neighbor and friend has this too. He is lucky to have such a loving mom!! And she is lucky to have such a loving toddler!! I once babysat for a little girl who had a port in her chest because she had cancer. I sometimes forgot it was there and hugged her too hard!! Her mom said that was a frequent problem!!
What a stupid old misery guts!! If she thinks she has the right to comment she should at least use the correct word which is "repulsive" not "repulsing". Repulsing generally means to drive back or repel so she is profoundly ignorant as well as rude. I wouldn't spare another thought for her. Your boy is super super cute and is so fortunate to have a great mother such as you. Hope that ignorant old biddy didn't have children and if she did, they have my sympathy.
Beautiful baby!!!! Don't listen to ignorant people! You are awesome!!
I just wish I could have been in that line. That rude, ignorant b__tch would have been running out the door, tail tucked between her cowardly legs!!!!!
look at his smile... aaahhh... he is just beautiful. kiss from Indonesia little boy :*
Mother of pearl. Is a colostomy bag disgusting? Hell yeah it is. Would I make that opinion known to a mother and her small child who's obviously having a rough go of things as it is? Hell no. What's wrong with people? The problem is not in having the opinion. You should never, ever be faulted for having an opinion. You should be faulted for lacking the social skills to not be a d**k to people who've done nothing to you other than be an eyesore in your opinion. Giant ear hoops where they destroy their earlobe gross me out too. I'm not going to randomly tell someone who has one that though. That's unnecessary and mean. You do you, I'll do me.
I think she was tremendously polite. People who are rude don't merit a respectable response. I may have chosen some choice language for her unwanted editorial. Civility is nice but not always appropriate either. In short, some people need to be verbally slapped. Enough said.
Calling a 2-year-old "repulsive" is considered "polite"?? I've never heard that one before... 😕
Load More Replies...Well... I wouldn't say it out loud for politeness' sake, but stomas are pretty unpleasant to look at. I can also be quite... callous, for want of a better term, "social Darwinist", so I'm not the person to ask about such things...
Why does everyone say "it's viral" when it's not. I'm sure a couple people liked this story. I found it long winded
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