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As an autistic person I'm supposed to hate small talk. I do, about meaningless things, but people are surprised that I'm willing to chat about shared interests. I notice details like if someone in person is wearing their pride flag somehow or if someone online has a profile picture of a character I like. I pretend not to be certain and ask if it is what I think it is, and if the other person feels like talking they'll tell me about the thing.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You sound like my son, also autistic.... he has no interest in small talk but like you, he knows how to keep up or start a conversation ;)

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I hardly ever get out into "the real world" as we live in the middle of nowhere so no need for small talk.
However, if I would, it would most certainly be about dogs, cats or art ;p
And once the conversation is on the go, there are no more problems.
I can talk with strangers if I have to, but I prefer not to ;)

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Hobbies and interests. It's a great way to learn more about people - learn things you didn't know about hobby wise - and you can usually get a lot of people talking for a long while once they're on a topic they like.

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#4

Are you gay? That's all I say than I start dancing. Got to show them my weird side of we're going to be friends

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I've started asking if they listen to podcasts and if so, which ones they like and why.

I also usually comment positively on outfit, jewelry, color of outfit "oh that color looks great on you", shoes, hair etc. I am a not very stylish middle-aged women, so I am not sure if the 20 somethings like my compliment or not. Do teenagers like anything that someone my age likes?!

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I guess it depends on the person, but I think in general people will appreciate a compliment about a specific fashion choice, regardless of who/ what age the person who gives it is. I know when I am complimented on clothing etc it usually leads me to saying I bought it from an op shop and most other people are keen to say if they also have a second hand find :)

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There are places in the USA where the majority of people living there now moved from elsewhere. I always ask, "So, where are you from originally?" This usually leads to a landslide of information that, if you listen carefully, can give clues about topics to discuss further.

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#7

I think I speak for most people when I say my go-to icebreaker breaking is "So ... How's life?"

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#8

I talk about my beloved rescue dog, Brutus Augustus.

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