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Hey Pandas, What’s Something You’re Expected To Like But Actually Hate? (Closed)
It seems like if you're gay, you have to like everything that's gay, strictly because it's gay. I hate, HATE, Will and Grace. The characters have no redeeming qualities and are totally horrible to each other. The jokes are lame. And Jack is the WORST! He's every terrible stereotype rolled into one. Why would Will even be friends with him? It makes zero sense. And if I tell other gay people this, they act like I just murdered someone. So what about you pandas? Let's hear it!
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I don’t necessarily hate it, but (American) football. It’s not my favorite thing in the world, but I’m expected to like destroying myself. It’s just my parents have put so much money into this, I feel like if I turn back now, I’ll disappoint them. Writing this on the way to football practice lol
As an American, out government.
Anime. It feels like everyone likes it. But I don't. The art is weird, and... um... yeah... the art is weird and me no likey.
As an asexual, sex. I'm not like, repulsed by it, but the mere idea of sex sounds so exhausting to me.
Also perfume/fragrance of any kind; makes me nauseous.
Im asexual too, im ok with talking about it and stuff but the idea of having someone touch me in that way makes me just shudder. and I get the perfume thing too, though for me its certain smells that are strong
Dogs. They are scary, especially the little ones
Weddings. Specifically, my own. Because I am female, everyone expected me to gush over the details and feel like my whole life had been leading up to it. I executed a beautiful event that was stressful and a huge waste of money out of obligation to my husband's family. Still salty about it.
I had a very small wedding due to social anxiety and hating being the center of attention, lol I used the money to buy a house instead. Married 21 years now :)
As a person in a very conservative and ultra orthodox family, I am expected to have these weird pro Trump pro religion pro republican pro conservative views. As a gay teen, this messed with me SO MUCH. It made me hate myself for too long. My parents have still not come to terms and my mother refuses to say gay and instead says “what you told us that night” (implying my coming out). I am expected to be the perfect angel, a baby maker. Nothing more than a uterus that can pop out kids like a pez dispenser or something. Yeah of course there are women’s rights here, but not in the sect my fam is in. I am expected to be religious and wear skirts till my knee and long sleeves. God forbid a man sees my collar bone! If you take one look at me that’s what you’ll see because that’s what I have to do. It’s what is expected of me. (Hoping this is a good backbone to some sort of college entrance essay lol)
Get out asap. There are resources at the library to help y ask the librarian for legal aid help
Having kids of my own. I do not *dislike* kids and I am not against become a parent, but I just believe it is a huge responsibility and you need certain other things, like financial stability, you cannot afford not to have. Furthermore, I find myself dreading raising kids in a world that seems to be falling apart. At nearly 40, my partner and I are in no rush and we do not see having kids as a requirement, neither for life or for marriage.
I really dislike comments from people who think children are either chains for keeping couples together or future servants:
-"You'd better hurry, you are getting old"
-"You simply have to mature, you will want eventually"
-"If you don't want kids now, she will, so buckle up!"
-"Who is going to take care of you when you're old?"
Jesus, auntie, I don't know. Why is it that none of your ten children are taking care of you?
Exactly, not to mention that its a life long commitment, not just 18 years as some people say. They are expensive and there is a chance they could be disabled in some way costing even more money. Im one of those kids and its sad knowing my mom could have been better off if I wasn't nearly such an expensive kid
Socializing/interacting with people…
I have pretty much crippling social anxiety and can only interact well with some people, but it feels like everyone expects me to be able to interact with anyone. Thankfully I have a good friend group that doesn’t expect that of me and is super helpful if I need help interacting with someone, but I hate being forced to interact with people that I don’t know.
I agree, though my mental health is doing a bit better now. I'm content with the friends I have and don't feel the need for more.
Comedy movies and tv. With a few exceptions, I can appreciate the humor, but they won't make me giggle or laugh. Generally, I'm the "don't take yourself too damn seriously" type. I can absolutely bust up laughing at my own absurdity or at someone else's if it's something I do or have done too.
Exactly, Life is best when you can laugh at yourself with others I say. I know full well some of the stuff I say its stupid and it can be funny. Are there any exceptions to those types of movies? If so why? ( sorry if I sound like some essay prompt ;w;)
my siblings.
Talking a walk. I couldn't understand why everyone said it would make me feel better so I dragged myself out every day. Then I realised that if you're able bodied and live in a rich area you are strolling along enjoying nature and architecture. If you're disabled and in a poor area you spend the whole time staring at the road surface trying not to die or go over any broken glass. I came back exhausted!
Upvote 100 times (if I could). People just don't get that something that is "good for you" isn't good for everyone. I'm sad thinking about the many times I've tried to force myself to enjoy something that I simply don't enjoy, such as walks.
Driving. As a kid, I always saw it as some sort of symbol of freedom. As an adult, it's scary and dangerous and not fun at all lol
Aroace here. The mindset that we are all supposed to fall in love and develop crushes starts setting in at a very young age. I'll tell someone 'oh, yeah, I'm aromantic.' and then they'll say 'You just haven't found the right person yet!' 'Everyone falls in love eventually, someday, you will too!' 'love is a part of human nature, just accept it.' etc.
I'm tired of being told that we all have to find someone eventually, and that we are supposed to like the idea of a romantic relationship.
I'm not aroace, but I don't see the need for everyone to find someone in the end. I just couldn't be bothered dating, especially since I'm socially anxious anyway, and the thought of having to deal with someone else's feelings and needs when my own are bad enough is exhausting. I also hate the idea that children are being indoctrinated into thinking they should have a partner, especially while they are still young.
Disney. I have so many friends that love it. I have seen a few Disney movies with them I didn't mind, but not that many, and I still consider them children's movies. It doesn't help that I work with children, who are also obsessed with Disney.
Working out/marathons/pelotone, etc. As soon as this topic comes up, people love to talk about their workout goals or routines. My eyes glaze over.
This is really niche and particular to my country and culture but pepper. I can't count how many times I've been ordering food, at a restaurant or street vendors to be asked "pepper?" to which I'd respond "no, no pepper please" and get a look that I can only describe as confused and shocked. I've also had the reply of "Seriously?" many times. I just don't like hot food. Yes, I know my ancestors are from India, that doesn't mean I like spicy food.
cotton candy. fight me.
I love cotton candy, but I can definitely understand why some people don't. It's got a very unusual texture, could easily be WAY oversweet if you don't eat much candy, and it leaves a weird coating on your teeth.
Game of Thrones. When it first came out, everything was raving about it. I tried several times but just couldn't like it.
I tried it once or twice, and eventually did enjoy it, but I think I enjoyed the books better, and I don't think it is as good as the hype around it suggests.
Don't know if I'm allowed to answer twice, and this is definitely an American only thing, but the 4th of July. Not what it stands for obviously, but most people just use it as an excuse to get drunk and blow stuff up. I have come to truly hate fireworks, except maybe the professional shows. It's become a night of no sleep, a panicked dog, and wondering if the moron down the street who's setting of illegal rockets is going to destroy my house or car.
That's kind of how I feel about New Year's. I've had nice New Years at times, but I don't think it's a big deal and I never really liked fireworks, or the crowds to see them. I also choose not to go to packed bars/clubs and get smashed. I'm not saying I won't have a couple drinks, but I know my limits.
I guess this is more of a past thing. But as a teenager I would have said One Direction. As an adult I can appreciate some of their music even though it's still definitely not my style. But as a teen? I did my best to be the stereotypical girly girl, so as to not stand out more than I already did. This meant when all the other girls began gushing about this stupid boy and, I had to join the band wagon. I bought a poster and hung it on the back of my door (no one had to know that my door was usually open and I couldn't see it) I played their music constantly (while basically tuning it out the entire time, treating it like background noise) I even went out of my way to (and yes I'm still a little embarrassed about this one) make flash cards about each member so I could have all the same fun facts and c**p memorized for when someone wanted to talk about them with me. I even had a friend try and convince me to go to their concert with her. I told her my parents told me no. There was no way I would've been able to pretend to enjoy spending way too much money just to stand around in a crowd and listen to girls scream at the top of their lungs while these guys sang songs I wasn't even a fan of.
Now I wouldn't say I hated them by any means. I just wasnt a big fan and forcing myself to pretend to be made me a little more unhappy with them.
As I've gotten older, I've actually found I enjoy some of their solo songs. Harry styles "sign of the times" is brilliant and Louis Tomlinsons "maybe I miss you" is a good one too. I guess I just didn't care for the typical boy band genre. Oh well
Summer. Living in an area that is a major travel destination (Deadwood/ Black Hills) means hours long waits and more traffic (car and atv) there are a ton of great wineries/breweries and restaurants in the area and now we go at 3:30-4 for dinner so we can get a table. It’s still worth it to live here for the rest of the year!!
Ranch dressing. It's just awful.
Country music. It's that God awful half-step off-key twang. It seriously makes my ears hurt.
I like ranch but country music I can’t stand. (To anyone who likes country music I respect your opinion)
I HATE PANTS. Ever since i was small i hated pants. As a nonbianary human prople expect i wear pants. No shorts and skirts only skirts give so much freedom to the leg.
