What is something that feels embarrassing to do, but shouldn't feel that way because there's nothing wrong with it?

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"What Feels Embarrassing But Shouldn't": 35 People Delivered An Answer Being overweight and going to the gym. I've actually stopped completely...I just work out at home. The stares and snickering was too much to deal with when I'm just trying to work out.

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"What Feels Embarrassing But Shouldn't": 35 People Delivered An Answer Going to a shop and walking out without buying anything

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"What Feels Embarrassing But Shouldn't": 35 People Delivered An Answer Mispronouncing words, grammar mistakes, and word choice while learning a new language. It's way less tragic than it feels, and most native speakers butcher their own routinely.

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"What Feels Embarrassing But Shouldn't": 35 People Delivered An Answer Admitting you have a severe depression and need to take medsand have therapy to not harm yourself.

(Was told I was "damaged goods" because of my illness)

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Broken Angel
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

'damaged goods'?! i'll show them actual damage! that's awful and i hope you're ok!

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Thank you. It really hurt because I felt like such a failure...I am slowly learning I don't have to "function" perfect to deserve to be alive.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I take both anti-depressants and anti-anxiety meds; I see a psychiatrist. That's why I'm alive. Anyone who thinks you're "damaged goods" is just projecting. You're the healthy one!

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Beth Dubrick-Novicki
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Damaged goods my ass...mental health is like any other health issues. So if your a diabetic your" damaged goods?" Let that sink in all you nabobs of negativity

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Katherine Nicholson
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

OMG WHO SAID THAT AND WHERE DO THEY LIVE I NEED TO MAKE THEM UNDERSTAND HOW YOU FELT

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Youre not damaged goods at all! I'm proud of you for making it this far, its hard <3

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HooowlAtTheMoon
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

And just generally talking about your depression is embarrassing too. When someone wants to talk about it I get awkward and my stutter comes out and i get all red and weird. Like, i understand they're trying to make sure im okay but i dont like talking about it

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Christine
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"Damaged goods" implies the existence of "undamaged goods." With respect to people, there is no such thing! We all have issues, imperfections, and things we struggle with. Some people, like you, are lucky because there other medications and other things that can help. Some people, like the jerk you spoke to, are unlucky because stupid is damn near impossible to fix. No one is perfect. Please do not let other imperfect people make you feel like less of a person. Also, kudos for getting the help you need and being brave enough to admit you needed help.

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Elizabeth Molloy
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Would anyone say such a thing to someone undergoing cancer treatment or recovering from a stroke? No. Those people are asshole and don't deserve your time. Mental illness is just like any other and you should be treated with kindness and respect.

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Sherrill Uliasz
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have a mental illness and live in a group home and it's embarrassing when people ask where I live even though I work and do everything everyone else does.

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Irina
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Damaged Goods?! They are lying because they know you aren't the same person you were and are trying to take advantage of you.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You are not damaged goods. The only damaged one is the person telling other they are damaged goods. I have major anxiety and sometimes I'm depressed, but it isalways to embarrassing to tell anyone.

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eljot
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Correct. Still sucks when you hear from a therapist, quite right after a suicide attempt, that you should be locked up for the rest of your life. And if you finally manage to kill yourself, all the better

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Lindsey Hopkins
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's funny (not funny at all) that I have to explain to people that I suffer with an anxiety disorder... I always feel like I have to preface a relationship (friendship or romantic) because I never know when something will trigger me. This is never something we, as people who suffer from a mental illness, should EVER be embarrassed about, and we ARE NOT damaged goods. THAT PERSON IS DAMAGED.

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Phil Green
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I am a depressive too. I hate that well-meaning hand on my shoulder accompanied with the immortal words "everything will be ok". Last time that happened I just wanted to deck the guy. I know he meant well, but a lot of people have no idea what to do with a depressive, like it's contagious or something? I am my worst critic. Most people will never be as harsh as we are to ourselves.

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Jenn C
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's acceptable to take insulin because your body doesn't produce that chemical correctly. It should also be acceptable to take depression medicine because your brain has a chemical imbalance.

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Jette Wang Wahnon
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have just upvoted each and every-one of you....NO-ONE is «damaged goods» Quite the opposite...You each do what you can to feel better..bring it out into the open,having therapy,doing your own thing.....that is admirable!

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tmw
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

my mom told me I was damaged goods and never ever tell anyone b/c I am a freak. it's taken many years to get over that. I now talk about mental health all the time, even in front of her. She's coming around.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Thank you for sharing this. You are courageous and brave for seeking help for your very real illness! We need more people like you spreading awareness about mental illness. I'm sorry you've encountered haters, and please know that I (and just about everyone in these comments, looks like) support you 100% and am cheering you on. One more thing, as someone who is just now coming out of a 2 year depressive mental health crisis, I promise it will get better. Might take longer than we wish, but everything is always in the process of changing. Much love to you.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't say "it will get better" lightly. It's not meant to be a platitude and I know how deeply horrifying mental illness is, and how impossible it is to find motivation or hope. Just want you to know that as someone who was miserable and experienced suicidal ideation for years, I was able to find the right med with my psych and get some serenity and joy, finally. Depression when you're in it absolutely sucks, and I honor that pain. I also hold hope for you just in case you're not able to hold any for yourself. <3

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James Tartaglione
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

swore awhile back that if anyone writes me off for my mental health struggles, then i can write them off as well. lost a few "friends" that way but oh well

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Literally every human on the face of planet is “damaged good”. Mental and physical traumas are facts of life. They will affect how you live and what you do for the rest of your life. This has been proven scientifically. This person is totally out of touch with the world. This year I found 2 people who fully support me through serious medical problems as well as the mental ones. My bf has seen my trauma loop and physical health at their worst. He’s listened to the pains of my past and present. He knows how they affect my behavior and helps me to realize when I’m in a loop. I can call my friend at any time too. I’ve been scared to face my mental health bc I’ve lived like this since I was 11. Scared that I won’t be able to change. But having the unconditional support of just 2 people has helped me to have the motivation and courage to train and do. OP, you deserve to live a life free from negative and harmful thoughts. You deserve people who will help you do that.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I was born with Spina Bifida, later in life my Mom told me it was natures way of rejecting me. My advice believe in yourself and not in the comments of fools you can do this

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Jo Cooper
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You are not damaged good. You have reached out for help and are a courageous star ⭐️

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Trisha Howson
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wow that is sad no one should feel embarrassed about this. If you need help get help. I have a hard time. I have a dog that really helps me. But this should be very normal life is a struggle.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I had someone who should've been part of my support system tell me that if you need medication just to function, you're not even a whole person. I pointed out that one of their best friends is a diabetic.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

We are not damaged, we are not broken, and our brains still work; they are simply wired differently than other people's. We do not have a disability, we have a different ability.

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Robin Childers
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Whoever told you that needs open-handed slapped until their teeth fall out.

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TheElderNom
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I generally just have to deal with "lazy" and "you need to go out more". But then again I generally don't dare to tell people how bad it sometimes is.

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Giles McArdell
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Admitting you have problem and need help takes strength, putting someone down for something you don't understand seems like the sign of a "damaged" person.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It can be very difficult to talk about this because of people’s reactions. After a long time seriously struggling with severe depression and getting help, I eventually confided in one long term friend - just that I had been diagnosed and was on anti depressants. Her response was just “That will be so damaging if your work ever find out, make sure they don’t”. Our friendship hasn’t been the same since. And ironically now she has depression.

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Tracy Wallick
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

There is no shame in needing medication and therapy; we don't shame people with open wounds for needing stitches, or diabetics for using insulin, and we shouldn't shame mentally ill patients for needing medication. I'm in the same boat as you, and I'm glad that you're still here <3

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Chris Meyers
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

try not to escalate the opinions of one or two people. Assholes are real and live amongst us.

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"What Feels Embarrassing But Shouldn't": 35 People Delivered An Answer Being in a deadly silent bathroom where you know some of the other stalls are occupied and trying to quietly change pads without everyone knowing what your doing.

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"What Feels Embarrassing But Shouldn't": 35 People Delivered An Answer Stretch marks. Body hair, or lack of it. Breast size. Penis size. Mental illness. Starting your life at 40 instead of 16. Niche interests. So many things....

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If I was doing now what I was doing as 16, I'd be monumentally depressed. Nothing you've said here is something to be embarrassed about. I hope you find peace! You deserve it.

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"What Feels Embarrassing But Shouldn't": 35 People Delivered An Answer Buying contraceptives and basically any other sexual wellness products in a physical store.

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"What Feels Embarrassing But Shouldn't": 35 People Delivered An Answer Compliments, at least for me they feel embarrassing.

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"What Feels Embarrassing But Shouldn't": 35 People Delivered An Answer Leaking on a period. Sure, it's annoying and uncomfortable, but it's not like it was a choice.

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#10

"What Feels Embarrassing But Shouldn't": 35 People Delivered An Answer Doing number two in a public washroom. The sounds are one reason why I choose home.

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#11

"What Feels Embarrassing But Shouldn't": 35 People Delivered An Answer Talking about money. I was invited on a girl's trip and had to say no because I couldn't come up with cash in the short amount of time needed to book the trip. My friend said that I embarrassed her by telling the other girls that I couldn't afford it.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NO ONE should make fun, judge, or criticize someone else for not having enough money.

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"What Feels Embarrassing But Shouldn't": 35 People Delivered An Answer asking for help more than once in class

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Alyssa Sweat
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Why is this embarrassing? You are just wanting to understand the material, don't be ashamed to ask questions a lot.

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"What Feels Embarrassing But Shouldn't": 35 People Delivered An Answer Being hungry at a friends house, or having your host offer you something and saying yes, WHY DOES IT SEEM SO SO RUDE AND EMBARASSING!? Haha

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"What Feels Embarrassing But Shouldn't": 35 People Delivered An Answer Talking about feminine things in front of my dad. Example: periods , bras, pads ect

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I talk about stuff like that with my dad all the time. He already knows about it, so its not that awkward, he did marry a woman lol

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enjoying ""childish"" things as an adult

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

people can give others a hard time abt this too, i still feel embarrassed for enjoying animated things and i got a lot of grief abt it over the years but like its so dumb bc? its usually made by adults too lmao??? regardless tho it shouldnt be embarrassing idc

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"What Feels Embarrassing But Shouldn't": 35 People Delivered An Answer Singing in front of other people. I know lots of other people do it, but it just makes me feel really exposed and awkward.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I can't even sing in front of my husband. Only parents and daughter.

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"What Feels Embarrassing But Shouldn't": 35 People Delivered An Answer Practicing any instrument you are learning at home around family. You don't know how to play very well which is why you need to learn and practice but you feel dumb struggling through easy songs with people that can hear you.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

yeah i felt this. i used to play violin but stopped for this exact reason

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"What Feels Embarrassing But Shouldn't": 35 People Delivered An Answer Getting out of the pool Its just so awkward. and also when your crouching in the shallow end and someone goes "you could just stand ya know" LIKE YEA I KNOW IM JUST INSECURE.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Omg the last part is the most relatable thing ive ever seen. and when you swim in the shallow part and someone tells you you could walk but you just dont want people to see you lol

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Wanting to go home because you are done socializing. But if you say so, everyone is offended and it’s embarrassing, even though it barely has anything to do with them.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It is said in our country that best time to leave is when the other people are gonna miss you.

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"What Feels Embarrassing But Shouldn't": 35 People Delivered An Answer Going to a sex shop. And generally everything with sex as a topic is seen as vulgar and a complete Taboo.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I (F) had the same problem - until a friend (F, too) really dragged me me into a sex shop. Simply to make me have a new experience. Found out I felt totally normal...

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When you have to run to catch the bus, you're out of breath, and you start breathing heavily on the bus. Idk why but this just seems to embarrassing to me.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sometimes it happens to me at work. My boss is at the second level of our building and my office is on the ground floor. If I have to go to his office I run on the stairs (no elevator) and when I get there I am breathing very heavily and I feel like it's the only thing you can hear.

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#22

Exercising in your room as a kid. I don't know why.

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#23

"What Feels Embarrassing But Shouldn't": 35 People Delivered An Answer Coming out.
I know it is a little embarassing but I swear I almost died of embarassment.

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#25

when a car is stopped to let you cross the street 🙈

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#26

Opening a gift- expectations of my reaction.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Omg I hate opening presents in front of people! Like, I love watching other people open presents but, please, just let me take my little dragon hoard and open them by myself, in my room, in the dark, where no one can see me.

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Having your period

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Luckily I don't get awkward talking about my period. I used to talk about it with this guy at my school and complain about how annoying it was and how I was running out of feminine products that I liked and he was so weirded out and confused, it was great

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#28

My false teeth. Since high school. I know there's nothing wrong but i still didn't tell to anybody

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Well, don't worry. Nobody will think it's weird, and if they do, then they are jerks.

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#29

A giant zit on your cheek that make up won't even begin to cover.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Haha I hate makeup so I've learned to embrace my zits and if someone comments on them i smile and comment on theirs.

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#30

When your talking to someone and they correct you because you got something wrong. Even if its just the pronounciation of a random word. I always feel so amshamed and I don't know why

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I know that, too. For me, it's helpful to confess about my feelings in these moments - people instantly try to comfort me.

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#31

Public speaking

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#32

puberty

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#33

Asking for the bathroom key at those gas stations that require one, especially when they take a really long time to get it.

Also, mentioning that I'm not ok. Whenever someone thinks im unhappy i get super embarrassed and it makes it all worse

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Asking for anything especially at restaurants

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yesss, whenever I go to a restaurant I always try to bring someone more direct than me so i can ask them to tell the waiter because I dont want to seem rude (even though im not im just asking for what i came there for lol)

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