Doesn't matter what gender you are, I just want to know.
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I'll go first- i was in class, and this guy next to me started "explaining" why women shouldnt be in professional sports. his argument went something like "its just biology. women arent as strong or as fast as men." so, tired of this, i went and pulled out a jar of pickles(dont ask why i had a jar of pickles) and i said "could you please open this for me?" he went "yeah, sure" and he struggled to open it while still sticking with his argument. the best part? HE WAS TWISTING IT BACKWARDS! eventually, i decided ive had my fun, so i took it back, and i just took it back from him and popped it open like it was no big deal. he just stood there. it was so worth it, just seeing the look on his face.
That is hilarious. I did something similar once in the lab, the teacher could not open a jar and a few "machos" jumped to "help" her. Nobody could open it so I shyly asked if I could try (a couple laughted at me). I used the old trick of using a tool against the lid to break the vacumm and opened it.
Once during a staff meeting a male programmer told us he had spent three days understanding a part of the code in order to write something similar, and continued explaining to me (the only woman present) how brilliant that code was and how it worked step by step as if I was a moron, also saying that he still needed a day to fully comprehend some parts and then he’ll do the new feature implementation. I was the person who had written this code and it took me 1 hour by the way. The guy considered himself a senior, and another senior male colleague told him smiling “Dude, she wrote that code and I code reviewed it last year”.
A man on a music course I was on about 20 years ago tried to explain to me and a few of the other women how periods worked . He even tried to convince us that the reason they hurt was because the blood came from the same place our urine come out from. Obviously he had no medical background whatsoever but since when did ignorance ever stop the arrogant ? Certainly never in his case.
I have many but two that are particularly stupid.
First my partner. He is a programmer, I was a biologist and i used to do all the gardening at home. He knows so little abouts plants that a few years ago I needed to explain him that the flowers turn into the fruit and that younshould not water the plants under intense sun because they will get burned. Next year he confidently explained me why I shouldnt water the plants under the sun...
His father is a IT guy also not a biologist. He mansplained me how "you should not drink tap water while pregnant because the hormones in thw water will.make you to only have girls". I said nothing but i saw his wife (a nurse) rolling her eyes. Later at home i explained my partner how sex determination works in humans and why it was not correct. He still believed his father.
My husband tried to mansplain vaginas to me. Years ago. I simply asked him if he had a vagina. He said that he did not. I told him that he should NEVER explain them to anyone again. He huffed but agreed. When I remind him of that conversation now he is so embarassed.
That's awesome. Would be better in public then you could sarcastically support him telling everyone, "listen up, he has a vagina so he knows what he's talking about!"
Self reporter here. I worked with a woman who developed a brilliant solution with an amazing interface who asked my opinion. 5 minutes later after gushing over all the things it could do, I pointed out a feature I really liked. She replied "I know - I made it" and I felt like a total jerk.
congrats on owning up to it. for all the mansplainers - the 1st step in recovery is recognizing you have a problem.
Had a guy friend explain I needed to use only one sheet of paper towel. It was my house.
It only allowed me to type 2 sentences so to add further context....1. The mess easily needed more 2. He was giving me a " breakdown" on finances( that i didnt need or ask for ) and that was the crowning jewl was that id save more if i would just use one sheet instead of two ( these were tear away half sheets) and i guess to me just the whole overall of visiting a friends house just to impose a lesson on "how to do it better" when they have nothing to do with my money nor do they buy any of my products seemed mainsplainy
I have a friend- who is a lawyer btw- explain to me how to deliver a calf, in great detail. (He worked on a farm for a summer when he was a kid). He also explained to me how to properly trim a dog's toenails. I'm a veterinarian.
u better learn all the wrong ways to do it from him.....he has a life experience of 'treating' animals....u r just an amateur veterinary having learned from actual books
My (male) OB discharging me 24 hours after an emergency c-section with 5 oxycodone... but also you'll be in massive pain for the next week or 2 and these should be taken every 6-8 hours for around a week to allow you to get up and move around. As a ICU and ED nurse, I'm well acquainted with the risks of narcotic addiction but when I questioned him, he told me that in his experience, women should only need 5 at most for adequate pain control. He was stubborn and buckling down in his stance so I let it be. The nurse thought it was ridiculous as well so had another OB discharge me. Female OB comes in and rolled her eyes when I told her how the male OB was explaining the pain levels and sensations of recovering from a c section. She said, "As someone who has actually experienced 2 c-sections, here's 25 for you. Take enough that you can get up, move around and enjoy your infant."
First of all, it's ridiculous. We've seen a recent article about doctors (male and female) downplaying women's pain, so I totally get that. But if the pain is telling you to rest, maybe you should (with painkillers), rather than getting up and moving around. C-section is MAJOR surgery. People need recovery time, don't they?
My husband wrote his own birth plan in my hospital notes for our first child I WAS CARRYING. He wanted to be ‘an involved partner’…
I caught ME Mansplaining Alzheimer's and Dementia to my best friend... She's studying to be a nurse... We had a good laugh about it... but still.... *epic f*****g face palm*
I.....don't get this either, it's only mansplaining if it was meant in a demeaning way, you can explain something to someone and then remember they already know about it without being a biggot, it happens to me all the time (a girl). and why is it, when men are jerks to women, they are considered biggatory, but when a woman is a jerk to a woman , it's just being a jerk. It's on an almost sexist level in my opinion. I also hate how it's called 'mansplaining' it just sounds like whenever a man exsplains something, it must be demeaning and awful. I'm not trying to be rude, I just get irked about it.
Worked my way through college in construction. Eventually my job was to read plans and figure out how much of each material was needed. I also did hands on work in everything from electrical and plumbing to framing and finish work. FFwd to when I was employed and I needed a 30 ft long by 9 foot tall wall added to a room. It was easy work but I just didn't have the time. I asked some people for quotes on the job - materials and labor. Some of the estimates were soooo off. Like one guy who did he'd only need 2 sheets of 8ft x 4ft drywall to cover this 30ft x 9 ft wall. I said you sure you mean TWO sheets of drywall? His estimates for 2x4s were also way way off if this was going to be built to code. He proceeded to try to mansplain math and construction to me (and called me little lady). Oh did I mention that college degree I got was a combined bachelor's and master's degree in mathematics from an ivy league?
Hi, I'm Steve's wife: Mansplaining ALL. THE. TIME. Also, he drones on and on; Colin Robinson in 'What We Do in the Shadows' is a motivational speaker compared to him.
My school counselor mansplained sm to me. It went something like this.
Me: *makes meeting with school counselor after first ended in screaming*
SC: So you wanted to discuss something about your sassy mouth.
Me: it’s called selective mutism.
Sc:mhm, you know people with it have a bad attitude.
Me:no it’s an extreme anxiety diso-
SC: LINDA CAN YOU GET THAT PAPER? OH THANK YOU IM DEALING WITH A STUDENT!
Me: disorder. I cant control my attacks, that’s why I was signing in the first meeting.
Sc: ohhh no honey. You see, that’s not sm! Sm is when people are choosing not to speak due to an irrational fear. You’re too young to have it, surely you haven’t gone through abuse.
Me: it’s from trauma I experienced when I was young, please let me explain-
Sc:nononono! You need a good vibes jar! I’ll call the teen center to get you a free spot (teen center is a place where students in grades 5-8 go after school for activities) it will really help.
Me: so my trauma is invalid,
Sc: oh I have to hear about that! It probably has lasting impacts.
Me: YES ITS THE CAUSE OF MY SM!
Sc: ohhhhhhhh. U have sm? I had no idea! So sorry!
Me: wtf, I told u at the beginning of the first meeting.
Used to be a tax collector for the State…had a CPA try to mansplain state law to me. I am trained specifically in state law. Since his client had on file that all tax related issues are to be handled by his POA I had to deal with him, he tried to tell me what the law was and what I’m doing is illegal and that he and his client will sue if we (the State) take action. I explained this isn’t income tax, this is sales tax that your client collected from his customers and was never remitted to the State, which is a felony. He said he knows the law and know that we, the State, can’t do anything. My only response was the deadline is 48 hours and are you going to comply? He yells no and hangs up. I advance the case and guess who calls up 4 days later willing to talk…the CPA! Guess his client didn’t take a liking to the court paperwork and $8000+ freeze on his bank assets. He wanted to know how to resolve quickly and if there was any assistance with the penalties and fees to bring the balance down. I said if you had tried to talk to me 2 days ago or paid within the 48-hour deadline there would have been options to reduce if not eliminate penalties and fees, but you let it go to enforcement so there’s nothing I can do. He said his client doesn’t feel like he should pay the charges and is holding him responsible and needs this worked out. I agreed, his client hired him to handle his financial affairs and shouldn’t have to pay the charges and maybe HE should since it was HIS fault. Informed that hold on the bank account with satisfy the amounts due that were reported and never paid plus penalties, interest, and fees and that however he wants to handle who’s responsible to pay the extras are between him and his client.
The client wound up calling me and told me he wasn’t aware of what the CPA was doing and was upset. He thought everything was being paid since he never received a bill. He asked if there was anything that can be done. Reviewed his file and the CPA has all letters/phone calls going to his office, so his client most likely didn’t know until the bank informed him of the freeze. Since I do have a heart, I did remove 2 of the highest penalties and fees, which reduced the balance greatly. He appreciated it and said he is looking for a new accountant and will have his lawyer contact the CPA to pay the remaining penalties.
So, word of advice…. don’t mansplain to a government entity and keep an eye on the people you hire to handle your business & finances…I’m happier that I promoted out to another department.
The CPA is an idiot. I have no accountancy experience, know only the bare basics about tax law, don't live in the USA, but even I understand that collected sales tax goes to the government.
Years ago as I sat with my work at an art show a young couple strolled by. They stopped, he pointed to my brass wind chimes and asked "What kind of heat do you use?" I said 'Propane". He said "You can't do that with propane".
I had a mansplaining experience that I don't recall and was telling my friend the story and that I got mansplained. He didn't know what that was so I told him. The next day I had another incident and texted him to tell him all about what happened. He deadass texted me back saying "that's called mansplaining by the way". He mansplained mansplaining.
A man on a music course I was on about 20 years ago tried to explain to me and a few of the other women how periods. He even tried to convince us that the reason they hurt was because the blood came from the same place our urine come out from. Obviously he had no medical background whatsoever but since when did ignorance ever stop the arrogant ? Certainly never in his case.
A few times. One notable incident happened to my mom, but I was there. She was at a Hudson Bay wholesale outlet to get a gift off of the registry for a wedding. My mom was just having a bit of trouble getting started with the program. I went to get an employee for help. It was an older man. He told her what to do but seemed annoyed, and he just told her as if she should have know what to do all along then as he walked away he said "That wasn't hard, right?" Rude.
it takes a lot of courage to ask doubts.....please don't be an @$$#ole and ridicule them
My husband explained to me how parallel double light switches work. I have an MSEE.
OK, so this happened very recently.
I'm driving home, and I past a bicyclist. Nothing unusual about him except he was looking down more than up.
I get to the next light, and I'm in the turning lane to go right. I'm waiting for the oncoming turning lane traffic to go by. I look left up the street to make sure no one is coming.
Then. WHAM! That's when the bicyclist that I had previously noticed slammed into the back of my car.
I throw the car into park, turn on my hazard lights, and jump out to see what happened. The bicyclist was just getting up saying, "I'm OK, I'm OK."
Then he angerly proceeds to mansplain to me that I had no business being stopped in the bicycle lane.
(Insert here: very dramatic arm waiving to mansplain that the entire right turning lane is strictly meant for bicycles.)
Usually, I'm pretty good with snappy comebacks but I'm STUNNED! This guy slammed into the back of me, and he's making it MY FAULT?!?!
I mentioned that I was waiting for the oncoming turning lane to go by.
He said he didn't see any oncoming traffic.
Well he did slam into me, so that didn't come as a surprise!
My car is black, and was very dirty at the time of this incident. It was the next day when I took it to the car wash that I noticed the dent where he hit his palm on my car, and the nasty scratches that his bike left.
This happened over the summer, so I've been on the lookout for this jerk ever since.
I had a mansplaining experience that I don't recall and was telling my friend the story and that I got mansplained. He didn't know what that was so I told him. The next day I had another incident and texted him to tell him all about what happened. He deadass texted me back saying "that's called mansplaining by the way". He mansplained mansplaining.
I feel like "mansplaining" is kind of an iffy word, if you are any gender other than male and your are an assertive d-bag then that's what you are but if you are a dude its mansplaining, kinda weird to base it off gender.
I feel like it has to involve the man trying to show his superior intelligence in something based solely on the fact that he's speaking to a woman and saying things he wouldn't say if he were speaking to another man. Especially if he throws in words that specifically mentions gender, like telling a woman not to hurt her pretty head or to leave the job up to the men to do because a woman can't handle it (physically or mentally).
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I feel like "mansplaining" is kind of an iffy word, if you are any gender other than male and your are an assertive d-bag then that's what you are but if you are a dude its mansplaining, kinda weird to base it off gender.
I feel like it has to involve the man trying to show his superior intelligence in something based solely on the fact that he's speaking to a woman and saying things he wouldn't say if he were speaking to another man. Especially if he throws in words that specifically mentions gender, like telling a woman not to hurt her pretty head or to leave the job up to the men to do because a woman can't handle it (physically or mentally).
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