There are times when words hurt more than actions do. Especially so if they come from the mouth of someone you thought you were close with. Bonus points if the addressee doesn't quite * get * why their words were hurtful. Mix these three things—hurtful words coming from your loved one without them being aware of being an a-hole—and you get the perfect combination to mess with someone's self-esteem.

When one young woman asked people on Twitter "what are things a guy has said to you that he has no idea severely hurt your feelings?" dozens of people delivered. While we're not saying that only guys say offensive things, this list is precisely about that—30 people sharing the times that a man has hurt their feelings without being aware of it. So scroll down to see the full list and tell us in the comments below whether * you * have ever been offended by a guy who thought he was just being honest!

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#1

sheyxpeare Report

Emma B
Community Member
1 year ago

Wow! Just... Wow!

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#2

Rrrrohini Report

boredpanDaman
Community Member
1 year ago

bichy. better to get this feedback from such a person, than have him/her like ("like") you

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#3

Levndrv Report

boredpanDaman
Community Member
1 year ago

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cooL

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#4

matchu_chutrain Report

Emma B
Community Member
1 year ago (edited)

Same, bro! Same!

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#5

SoapHeadass Report

Viviane
Community Member
1 year ago

Oh dear, I'll bet he had to do real chores to get past that one. Does backpedaling count?

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#6

pngreddr Report

hobbitly
Community Member
1 year ago

I understand why he is an ex, haha.

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#7

LitLisa_ Report

Prince Maroochy
Community Member
1 year ago

I would've said, "Well, that's because you are."

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#8

loveemegan Report

boredpanDaman
Community Member
1 year ago

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he said it was crazy. so, yes

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#9

pastryarm Report

Ryo Bakura
Community Member
1 year ago

I hope you burned the bridge that was between you. Along with the rest of his stuff.

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#10

mutablemama Report

boredpanDaman
Community Member
1 year ago

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clothes really do look nice on people...

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#11

maybemaeve Report

Emma B
Community Member
1 year ago

"Thanks bro" LMFAO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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#12

maggieeashIeyy Report

Emma B
Community Member
1 year ago

"ED" in this case means Eating Disorder. (Not Erectile Dysfunction)

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#13

AreBurgers Report

boredpanDaman
Community Member
1 year ago

poor kid...

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#14

natcmau Report

hobbitly
Community Member
1 year ago

There is no such thing as 'too much garlic' <3 GARLIC

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#15

eleanorgolson Report

Bean59
Community Member
1 year ago

How rude! -stephanie

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#16

miaelkay Report

boredpanDaman
Community Member
1 year ago

hard to say no to s butternut squash...

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#17

heyooitschany Report

Isle_of_stressed_pilots
Community Member
1 year ago

You really should have. He's a dickwad

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#18

micaela_saucy Report

Zara VP
Community Member
1 year ago

Ooof. What a d*ck.

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#19

aanyuhh Report

CelSlade
Community Member
1 year ago

Dump. Block. Delete.

Noemie Houtekie-N'Da
Community Member
1 year ago

Then try not to cry yourself to sleep.

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Beamer Alert
Community Member
1 year ago (edited)

I won't name any names here but someone in the comments is being very quick to judge this girl. To that person: I don't know if she was being annoying. Neither do you. All we can see from this exchange is some shitbag putting her down by DICTATING TO HER how SHE feels, and using some poorly fabricated philosophy to justify his lack of feeling for her. And then expecting her to apologize for it. Maybe you'd like to date someone like this, but you can't blame anyone else if they don't.

Sinkvenice
Community Member
1 year ago

Yeah, *she's* the one being weird. That dude needs professional help.

Perpetual Peripheral Persons
Community Member
1 year ago

You're Being Weird

Natalie Blenkhorn
Community Member
1 year ago

Gaslighting.

Kinderschau
Community Member
1 year ago (edited)

He's blaming her for everything and try to put her down on purpose. 100% a narcissist. Run.

Guy MacGregor
Community Member
1 year ago

ok, that guy have issues

Lip
Community Member
1 year ago

This text is exchange is like it's coming from Ryan from the Office. oO

fainasKeturatis
Community Member
1 year ago

oh, I see, he is playing dr. House. Dr House's credo was "annoying bitch"

Sea Urchin
Community Member
1 year ago

one of my friends is like this... he is infuriating and kept trying to get me to date him for a while... luckily he found someone else and leaves me alone for the most part

Sergio Bicerra Descalzi
Community Member
1 year ago

A complete asshole

Celtic Pirate Queen
Community Member
1 year ago

If you have to try that hard, he is SO not worth it.

Elijah Snow
Community Member
1 year ago

Two bipolar fucks trying to have a decent relationship.

Susan Mercurio
Community Member
1 year ago

I notice that he makes a lot of "you" statements. And the only "I" statement he made was hurtful.

Tina Harbour
Community Member
1 year ago

Another narcissist....boy,BYE.

Koeri Svrcek
Community Member
1 year ago

Creep.

mummy pig
Community Member
1 year ago

Please tell me he is ex now

Edo Alva
Community Member
1 year ago

Both seemed bigot, tho.

Katinka Min
Community Member
1 year ago

God. Girls are still taugth to be doormats :-/

Iapetos
Community Member
1 year ago

A wet bag of shit you found there.

Felicia Dale
Community Member
1 year ago

DTMF

ShadyMcshaderson
Community Member
1 year ago

Guys suck

hobbitly
Community Member
1 year ago

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The guy may be unkind, but she also acts like a doormat.

Tiny Dynamine
Community Member
1 year ago

He probably reduced her to that or already knew she was insecure so capitalised on it, like a class A shitbag.

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Edward Doherty
Community Member
1 year ago

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She’s a loser. He’s sick of her shit. Not his fault

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#20

Suurrahhh Report

Daniel da Silva
Community Member
1 year ago

Point to his penis and say "you're a large? really? are you... sure?"

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#21

itsmaddieeeeee Report

N G
Community Member
1 year ago

I always block cookies

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#22

kristennevanns Report

Daniel da Silva
Community Member
1 year ago

She should have called him out instantly

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#23

franmascookies Report

Ryo Bakura
Community Member
1 year ago

What's wrong with both? Having a scholar for a girlfriend would be awesome. Sitting by the fire, drinking cognac, discussing why Freud made everything about Penis Envy, and how much acid Piet Mondrian must have dropped when he started with his grid-based paintings.

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#24

dontevenok Report

J Rob
Community Member
1 year ago

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Ha Haw

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#25

Marleeejeann Report

Ryo Bakura
Community Member
1 year ago

That guy was one of those things that women are getting unsolicited pics of.

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#26

Misbah20911049 Report

boredpanDaman
Community Member
1 year ago

thats cute...

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#27

jellyvernon Report

J Rob
Community Member
1 year ago

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At least he is being honest.

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#28

peytonnns Report

Leilani Ortiz
Community Member
1 year ago

oof

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#29

rkellysucks Report

Marcellus the Third
Community Member
1 year ago

"... in a certain light and at a certain angle."

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