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Guy Refuses To Pay $126 For His Date’s Food, So She Shows Him Her True Colors
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Guy Refuses To Pay $126 For His Date’s Food, So She Shows Him Her True Colors

In the old days, when women were less likely to work and earn their own money, it became normal for the man to pick up the bill while on a dinner date. In some cultures, this hangover from the past is still very much the accepted norm, while in gender equality-progressive countries like Denmark for example, men insisting on paying for everything can be seen as rude and sexist.

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First dates can be an awkward social minefield in general, and this little ambiguity only adds to the confusion. Reddit user u/CuteBananaMuffin decided to share his story recently, and it’s fair to say, his date definitely had some old-fashioned first date ideas. After doing the progressive (and frankly, fair) thing on the first date, he thought he’d try to ask her out again. He obviously thought it had gone pretty well, and perhaps it had, up until the fateful moment the restaurant bill appeared, and he learned how rude people could truly be.

“The date was fun at first until she started talking about another guy and how much he liked him, but I thought ‘let’s eat, talk and leave’ since she’s into another guy, and it all crumbled when it came to the bill,” he told Bored Panda. “She was shocked that I let her pay. She didn’t say anything at the time, but from her facial expression, I realized she was furious for not getting free food.”

“I usually pay for both sides when it comes to the bill, but I’m a student, and I work 60 hours a week to pay for food, books, etc. so I obviously couldn’t afford to pay 110 euros for her food. I asked her out again to apologize pretty much for the previous time, hoping we can go to a cheaper place so I could make up for it, but as you can see, the result was awful…

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Mama Panda
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3 years ago

My thing has always been that whoever invites is the one that pays. Unless it is discussed prior to whoever accepts the invite that we are going dutch. I think it's only fair and I have never had any complaints. Btw if you can't tell by my name already, I am a Woman. =)

Ronel du Plessis
Community Member
3 years ago

In my friend circle we also do that. An unspoken rule is that you never order more than a certain amount. This lady is clearly a gold digger who only wants to be wine and dined by those with some money! SHAME ON HER!

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Matt Palmer
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3 years ago

When my wife and I were dating, we took it in turns to pay. We still do that now :D

Wezbie
Community Member
3 years ago

Same! It has never been an issue with us at all. We'd take turns but would never go 'I paid last time so you pay'. It would just be that if one paid for dinner, the other would get the cinema tickets and snacks. Guess we just knew we'd stay together so it never crossed our minds as being an issue. We also never really went on dates as we started going out pretty quickly and pre tinder etc. I can imagine it being an absolute nightmare to deal with some people like the one in the post...

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Justina Garlaitė
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3 years ago

The biggest question is why would he ask her out after that dinner? I mean, yeah sex and stuff but it was soooo not worth it...

S.
Community Member
3 years ago

As he said — he knew she was mad, so he wanted to make it up for it on a second date.

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Mama Panda
Community Member
3 years ago

My thing has always been that whoever invites is the one that pays. Unless it is discussed prior to whoever accepts the invite that we are going dutch. I think it's only fair and I have never had any complaints. Btw if you can't tell by my name already, I am a Woman. =)

Ronel du Plessis
Community Member
3 years ago

In my friend circle we also do that. An unspoken rule is that you never order more than a certain amount. This lady is clearly a gold digger who only wants to be wine and dined by those with some money! SHAME ON HER!

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Matt Palmer
Community Member
3 years ago

When my wife and I were dating, we took it in turns to pay. We still do that now :D

Wezbie
Community Member
3 years ago

Same! It has never been an issue with us at all. We'd take turns but would never go 'I paid last time so you pay'. It would just be that if one paid for dinner, the other would get the cinema tickets and snacks. Guess we just knew we'd stay together so it never crossed our minds as being an issue. We also never really went on dates as we started going out pretty quickly and pre tinder etc. I can imagine it being an absolute nightmare to deal with some people like the one in the post...

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Justina Garlaitė
Community Member
3 years ago

The biggest question is why would he ask her out after that dinner? I mean, yeah sex and stuff but it was soooo not worth it...

S.
Community Member
3 years ago

As he said — he knew she was mad, so he wanted to make it up for it on a second date.

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