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Mom Asks The Internet If She’s A Jerk For Abandoning Stepson And Husband At His Sister’s Wedding After Stepson Pulls A Cruel Prank On Cancer Survivor Daughter
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Mom Asks The Internet If She’s A Jerk For Abandoning Stepson And Husband At His Sister’s Wedding After Stepson Pulls A Cruel Prank On Cancer Survivor Daughter

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There’s no excuse for bullying others, no matter how you try to spin it. While some gentle teasing is almost always unavoidable when kids interact with each other, it’s usually very clear when someone has crossed the line and is doing something malicious.

A mom asked the AITA community on Reddit for their opinion, on whether or not she did the right thing by taking her daughter and leaving a wedding they were attending because her stepbrother pulled off her wig in front of everyone.

It was humiliating. It was mean. And it destroyed what remained of the teenager’s self-esteem. She has beaten cancer, which is why she wore the wig, and now she had a room full of people (her relatives no less!) laughing at her. Scroll down for the full story, Pandas. But a gentle note of warning: this will likely make you really mad, especially if you have kids.

A teenager who beat cancer wore a wig when she went a wedding ceremony

Image credits: Scott Webb (not the actual photo)

Her mom shared how her stepbrother bullied her in front of everyone, and what happened next

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Image credits: Samantha Gades (not the actual photo)

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This is one of those situations where it’s perfectly clear that the mom did absolutely nothing wrong. And the AITA community agrees, for the most part. The redditor stepped in to protect her daughter from some truly malicious behavior. However, some redditors thought that the mom was in the wrong for having stayed in a toxic relationship for so long.

Nobody enjoys being made fun of, even if they’re incredibly emotionally resilient. However, it’s a truly low-blow to kick someone while they’re down, with very low self-esteem, and who didn’t even want to go to the wedding in the first place.

Would it be fair to say that the OP’s stepson is out of control? We try not to judge people without seeing all sides of the story, but in this case, it’s obvious that something needs to change parenting-wise to make sure everyone feels safe at home. The stepson needs to learn that there are consequences to bad behavior. What the situation in this family will be like in the future is anyone’s guess. Hopefully, everything will change for the better.

Previously, Bored Panda spoke about bullying with Lauren Seager-Smith, the CEO of Kidscape, a charity based in the United Kingdom that aims to protect kids from harm and abuse.

She said it loud and clear: “Bullying is never acceptable.”

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There’s never a good reason for someone to bully someone else. However, bullying itself can happen for practically any reason. If a child has a difficult family situation, has a ‘weird’ name, wears glasses, or is slightly overweight, they can be more likely to become targets. But bullies can (and will) use absolutely any reason to victimize others.

“Never underestimate the impact of bullying, understand what your child needs to feel safe and if the bullying is in school—make sure you let the school know the impact of the situation,” Lauren told Bored Panda.

“You may also want to seek out opportunities to build your child’s confidence and assertiveness skills so they can feel proud of who they are,” she said that parents can help their kids improve their emotional resilience to prepare them for what might come.

Meanwhile, relationship coach Alex Scot explained to us during an earlier interview that it’s important to have boundaries in all relationships, including with your romantic partners and family members. The closer you are to someone, the more flexible these boundaries have to be. However, as a rule of thumb, they need to exist and be enforced for the sake of healthy relationships.

“Without them [boundaries], we live our lives at the expense of ourselves. The mindset for many when it comes to setting boundaries is that they feel selfish, or that they aren’t being a good partner when they implement them, so they avoid doing it altogether.”

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She continued: “This only causes resentment to build and overwhelm to set in both within the individual and the relationship as a whole. Boundaries are there for us to be able to take care of and to protect ourselves so that we can show up and operate within our lives as successfully as possible.”

Most people were completely disgusted by the stepbrother and stepdad’s behavior

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However, some people called out the OP for having stayed in a toxic relationship for so long

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Iifa A.
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

And you're still married to him? And you brought the two a-holes back into the house? And you're wondering are you a-hole? Look in the mirror, your flesh and blood survived cancer and you let abusers back in. My dad hit me once when I was 8, mum saw it from the window while walking home. Then I got to see my mum flying home, taking the belt and chasing the bastard out of the house while beating his a*s with the belt used on me. A year later through court my dad lost everything. It took my mum less than a minute to make a decision. But you let them back into house, I'm sure your daughter is better than me and won't held it against you or cut you out. I haven't seen my dad's family since 1999, because they never spoke up. But my mum is my best friend, she chose to protect me, her decision made us poor, homeless and hungry, but there was no violence and a year later we were doing a lot better than ever before.

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New Nemo
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If dad really thinks that his son joking about cancer and having no regards for the selfesteem of his stepsister is bonding, you should protect your kid and take her out of that situation. If mom is really that worried about the selfesteem of her daughter they shouldn't stay

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Rod
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You have to be a very special kind of PoS to act like that, even laugh about it.

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PSimms
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Your husband is a pig, and his entire family sound despicable. Divorce him and give thanks that you got rid of the lot of them.

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Bella V
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I would've left him with his disgusting family (birds of a feather) got my kid home and packed the car and left. Then I would've ONLY went back for my stuff and what the judge awarded me. This is just gross. Teasing is one thing my kids tease eachother about everything, you know what they WOULD NEVER tease about? An injury or illness. My son would've taken his sister shopping for a wig and would probably would try to pummel anyone that laughed at her. (not advocating violence he's just fiercely protective of her) Please get out and give your daughter and yourself the life you deserve. Find a caring and gentle man who raised kind and gentle kids.

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xolitaire
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

How can you stay married to a guy who literally shows ZERO empathy for his stepdaughter? It's like he sees her as "worth less" than his son. If this is how his own sun is "bonding" with others, then the son has the same problem. This is toxic bully behavior and you have to get your daughter and yourself out of there.

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Deborah B
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What a toxic, bullying family. Why are you with this guy? Why are you letting this young man be in the same house as your daughter? He's not only bullying her peeping on her to take and post photos of her when she's vulnerable. That's horrific; she should be able to have privacy and safety in her own home. Then he publicly humiliates her. And your husband clearly takes his side. You need to stand up for your daughter, and leave. Remember that you are modeling relationships for her. Teach her that the two of you are strong, independent women, who don't deserve or accept that kind of disrespect and cruelty. Securely single is better than in living in an abusive relationship.

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Barbara Cass
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Huge red flag sister!!! Your husband has zero respect for you or your daughter. Be an example for your daughter, and get out.

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LH25
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Even if she wasn't a cancer survivor, the bullying is unacceptable. They are amused by her pain, that is so terrible.

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Lara Verne
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ben is despicable bully, and the apple doesn't fall far from the tree.

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Moezzzz
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I had a step brother who tormented me- called me names, tried to tell people I was his "slave" (he even called me "peaches" as my slave name). Then when I had a falling out with my father (he didn't care one bit), he told our whole school (and my father) that I was pregnant my senior year (I'd moved in with my grandmother by that point). I was humiliated. I already had low self esteem and I was actually still a virgin. After my step mom passed away, I stopped speaking to him. I have no idea where he is or what he's doing, though I heard he wanted to reach out to me. Apparently he's changed, but I have no desire to speak to him. He was an a*****e to me and the things he spread about me were atrocious. He can go to hell

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deanna woods
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You are not required to reach out to him just because he supposedly has changed. It would nothing for you but only revisit that pain. If he wanted to reach out to you, he could have done so a long time ago.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

There's no hope that the situation will improve. The bonding experience is strictly between the father and son and they're bonding over bullying someone who's pretty much helpless. Is the mother staying for the medical insurance?

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Iam Knucks
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Normally these stories feel pretty one-sided, but I'm struggling to envision any version of this story that is redeeming for the stepfather or stepson. They seem like world-class scum. I feel horrible for your daughter. To go through so much and have people make it worse on purpose is just unimaginably cruel. Please leave this man for the sake of your child.

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deanna woods
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My sister and I do a kind of jokey banter with one another, but right now she is recovering from surgery and there is no time for that right now. I have moved back into my parents' house for a week to help her recover. If I am not working, I am taking care of my sister. This kid and his dad are both malicious bullies and the OP needs to get her daughter and herself out of this insane situation.

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Lucky2BAlive
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You’re a particular brand of horse excrement if you poke fun any anyone tough enough and brave enough to combat and whoop cancer butt. Not only was it NOT poking fun but mom did the right thing. I would have made the pit stop to change the locks, packed up the sons things and placed them at the curb, and when these two braying jackasses got upset? I would simply have unlocked the door and said ohhh it’s in fun. Like it much ****h?

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eed_thelast_haw
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

In what sort of s**t place do you have to live that laughing at a cancer kid is somehow acceptable? Adults? What sort of backwater hellhole is that? Adults laughing at a cancer kid having their wig pulled off by another kid. Man, we as humanity should burn. Whatever s**t comes to get us I am sure we fully deserve it.

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CL Rowan
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Your daughter does not need to be exposed to that type of behavior, period. The fact that you let them back into her life shows how little spine *you* have in your homelife~ whether you experienced this yourself while growing up or you're just passive, IDK. You have to be STRONG and not allow any more of this abuse. It IS ABUSE. The boy~brat will escalate this abuse as far as he can push it; up to sexual assault. Is his father going to laugh at your daughter then, too? Get them AWAY FROM HER. If it is your house, then THROW THEM OUT. If not, THEN YOU AND SHE MOVE. But *never* let her feel as if she caused this. SHE did NOT. YOU DID by not shutting this c**p down immediately with that freak's father. Also, take your daughter to self~defense classes. The meanest dirty~street fighting classes you can find. She (and You) will need them.

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Winter Eleven
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm someone who gives a second chance but in half... Like half a second chance. I'd be divorcing this husband the second he dismissed the daughter being bullied by his son. There's no second chances regarding children being hurt. It baffles me. At the first hint of something being wrong i remove myself out of the situation the best i can or if can't literally leave, wait it out and take the first chance out, no looking back. If they promise to change it's already over. You can say it but will you actually do it? It shouldn't have happened in the first place

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willi santiago
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm constantly shocked at the level of abuse people are willing to take. Man and son are f-ing monsters

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Dirk Daring
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

He's 18, a legal adult. Pulling her wig off wasn't teasing, it was assault.

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S
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If you stay with him, you get what you get. For your daughter's sake, I hope you leave. He and his son are not good people.

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Carla Olavarría
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

OMG f*****g shitty people!!!!!! excuse my French, but I have no other words for this behavior

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Brenda
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

As a survivor myself, losing my hair was hard. Having it not grow back the way it used to be was even harder. That kid will end up in trouble for sure

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Penny Lost
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Kids teasing each other? 18 is not a kid, it's a legal adult! Then again, judging by the husband's reaction, the apple doesn't fall far from the tree. Why is she still communicating with these people? This made my blood boil >

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Cookie
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The people who said NTA would also say Will Smith is the a-hole for standing up for Jada against her bully.

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Emma
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I automatically hated them both when they BOTH laughed at her wig. The son I expected but the husband too?! Nope leave them both.

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John Anderson
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

There is only one victim in this and it's the daughter. When the mom refuses to leave the step-dad and step-son, she becomes complicit in the abuses. All the abuses. What else does the (adult) step-son do for fun? Start fires? Abuse, torture or kill neighborhood animals? Sounds like psychopath.

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Novleska
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Btw your being mentally abused to think that your even wrong for one second... like I said Run.

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Novleska
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Take your daughter and make sure she knows your thankful she survived the hell she's gone through. Divorce that heartless human and never look back. Build a new life on a new beginning with her. Maybe her self esteem is so broken because of the things she's told that no one else hears from both father & son. No soul should ever treat another this way. This is not sibling bonding or any other b******t this is a disturbed individual raising and instilling mindsets on another. RUN.

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Zitronella
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

There's no need to ask if the stepson is the a*****e. Of course he is.

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Valerie Witter
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have to think from your husband’s comments that he was a bully also since he thinks his son’s actions are harmless teasing. I would not stay in this relationship. You will never get him to realize the harm he and his son are doing to your daughter.

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Jennifer Germain
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

he humiliated her at a big event and many people thought it was funny? Poor kid must have been mortified. Every single person who laughed is an a*****e.

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Kantami Blossom
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If it's just "harmless teasing" then get your daughter to reciprocate by shaving the step-brothers head in his sleep, turn abouts fair play so we if the wee bawbag thinks it's so funny when he has no hair.

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h to da izzle
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

how do people come to think cancer and the treatment of it is a thing to make fun about? if someone would have done this to my fiance i would have beaten the living hell out of that POS. The Husband is really a douche for letting his son treat that poor girl that way and even a bigger one for joining in on the laughter. i can't imagine how that poor girl must have felt. i feel bad for her, it saddens me that people think that its "harmless teasing". its a freckin deadly illness.

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Courtney
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Okay... listen. You're human. You fell in love with someone. It turns out he is an a*****e raising an a*****e. Protect your child and yourself (because if it wasn't her they made fun of, it would be you). You daughter literally could have died of cancer. And they are teasing her about her hair? First of all if anyone in my family faced this type of struggle and lost their hair, me and all my kids would be bald in support. I wouldn't even have to ask them, they would just do it out of kindness and support. And for reference, I have 3 step kids and 1 bio. Never ever would I allow such terrible treatment in either direction. Sit your husband down and show him this thread. Show him how terrible he and his son are for being so cruel to your daughter. If you do stay married to this person, make sure the abuse stops. Perhaps couple and family therapy. If that can't happen, gtfo. They will NEVER treat either of you (or any other women is my guess) with any sort of respect.

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Sammie 19
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Kick them both out and divorce your husband immediately. If you don't and allow them to continue to bully your daughter then you will end up losing her because she won't want anything to do with her mother because you didn't protect her.

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Belle Miles
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Well You could have His son shave dad's hair the next time dad has surgery with anesthesia/ passed out COLD. Head, mustache and beard. You'd have to do the rest of that, (don't tell the nurses TOO much, seriously). Son say's "STEPMOTHER said it was a bonding experiencing like for sister at aunt SO and SO'S when I was too old to make someone feel naked and think that's funny....You remember right DADDY? At Aunt So and SO's wedding 12 or 14 years ago? Daddy didn't say any thing was wrong about that,. So surprise. Justice? The only justice is the peace we felt before we carry our burdens. Or the peace we felt when our burdens were held up by others.

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Mr. Pigeon
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1 year ago

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BookCrazyTeen
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Jesus Christ she needs to get her and her daughter the hell out of there. An 18 year old and grown adult should know better than to do that, it’s disgusting behavior.

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Diane Knight
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

After the mom purchased the wig, and the two guys laughed at it, I would have noped her out of needed to go to the wedding. If this was the behavior prior to the day, is it really a quantum leap that the a**wipe wouldn't do things to her? He took pictures of her to post and degrade her. A wedding is not a required event if the bridal party wasn't her blood relative, her presence wasn't critical, so she should have been allowed to sit it out and at 16, could be left home. I wonder why the bride/groom didn't reprimand the 'kid' and dad for causing 'drama' on their day. VERY rude and is not the time/day for such assinine pranks. As a parent of a grown man, I would have let him know how this was totally uncalled for and to leave, being she left already, would have found someone to get them the h**l out of event. No doubt ruined the moments following.

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Casey McAlister
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You have to be the lowest scum of the earth to mock a cancer survivor for losing their hair. And a grown-a*s man also thinks it's somehow okay? She and her daughter are living with the family of psychos, they (her husband and his brat)are messed up in their heads and it runs in the family.

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John Formal
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

As a cancer patient (losing hair soon it looks like) and a man who grew up with this kind of teasing, yea, I think I could handle it... Now that I'm in my 30's. At 16? That would have scarred me for life. This is already miserable enough without caring about my looks anymore. No one, regardless of their age or relation, has the right to take the dignity of another person. This isn't about cancer, just basic decency.

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Deborah Harris
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I would be absolutely furious too, how dare her husband side with his son over something so horrifying. What a total arsehole of a bully her step son is, to not only tease her daughter about losing her hair but to try and shame her publicly for losing her hair to cancer!!! As for her husband laughing along with him I would kick him to the kerb, what an insensitive pos for not protecting or defending her. Cancer is not a joke, no illness is

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Sueet2b
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I do believe in karma. This father and son just laughed at this. They don't realize the impact it takes to literally HAVE cancer and beat all the odds to survive and not DIE. And they take it like a grain of salt. I don't know what their future is, but I do know life will catch up with them, maybe not cancer, but anything else that will make them suffer the same anguish this poor girl has been growing through.

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Jaclyn Ciocco
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She’s an a*****e for forcing her child to be near these assholes. Divorce is the only option

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Tina Hugh
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

File a police report for battery. Get therapy for yourself and daughter. Divorce

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Pumpkin Spice
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

YTA, you're a horrible mother for letting the abusers back into your goddamn house. I bet Megan looked absolutely STUNNING in that wig. My dead pet fish could probably be more active and more responsible than you.

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Ocha
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90% of the aita posts: "Am i the a*****e for being a hero? (give me praise pls)" Just tell the story, dont act like you dont know if it was the right thing to do.

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you taught your daughter to run. There were people at that event who would have rallied around and supported her. But instead you showed her how to hide.

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propgamer XL
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It was a wedding from his family and they laughed. No need to stay. If it was her family, they could have kicked the stepson and his dad out.

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Iifa A.
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

And you're still married to him? And you brought the two a-holes back into the house? And you're wondering are you a-hole? Look in the mirror, your flesh and blood survived cancer and you let abusers back in. My dad hit me once when I was 8, mum saw it from the window while walking home. Then I got to see my mum flying home, taking the belt and chasing the bastard out of the house while beating his a*s with the belt used on me. A year later through court my dad lost everything. It took my mum less than a minute to make a decision. But you let them back into house, I'm sure your daughter is better than me and won't held it against you or cut you out. I haven't seen my dad's family since 1999, because they never spoke up. But my mum is my best friend, she chose to protect me, her decision made us poor, homeless and hungry, but there was no violence and a year later we were doing a lot better than ever before.

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New Nemo
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If dad really thinks that his son joking about cancer and having no regards for the selfesteem of his stepsister is bonding, you should protect your kid and take her out of that situation. If mom is really that worried about the selfesteem of her daughter they shouldn't stay

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Rod
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You have to be a very special kind of PoS to act like that, even laugh about it.

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PSimms
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Your husband is a pig, and his entire family sound despicable. Divorce him and give thanks that you got rid of the lot of them.

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Bella V
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I would've left him with his disgusting family (birds of a feather) got my kid home and packed the car and left. Then I would've ONLY went back for my stuff and what the judge awarded me. This is just gross. Teasing is one thing my kids tease eachother about everything, you know what they WOULD NEVER tease about? An injury or illness. My son would've taken his sister shopping for a wig and would probably would try to pummel anyone that laughed at her. (not advocating violence he's just fiercely protective of her) Please get out and give your daughter and yourself the life you deserve. Find a caring and gentle man who raised kind and gentle kids.

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xolitaire
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

How can you stay married to a guy who literally shows ZERO empathy for his stepdaughter? It's like he sees her as "worth less" than his son. If this is how his own sun is "bonding" with others, then the son has the same problem. This is toxic bully behavior and you have to get your daughter and yourself out of there.

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Deborah B
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What a toxic, bullying family. Why are you with this guy? Why are you letting this young man be in the same house as your daughter? He's not only bullying her peeping on her to take and post photos of her when she's vulnerable. That's horrific; she should be able to have privacy and safety in her own home. Then he publicly humiliates her. And your husband clearly takes his side. You need to stand up for your daughter, and leave. Remember that you are modeling relationships for her. Teach her that the two of you are strong, independent women, who don't deserve or accept that kind of disrespect and cruelty. Securely single is better than in living in an abusive relationship.

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Barbara Cass
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Huge red flag sister!!! Your husband has zero respect for you or your daughter. Be an example for your daughter, and get out.

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LH25
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Even if she wasn't a cancer survivor, the bullying is unacceptable. They are amused by her pain, that is so terrible.

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Lara Verne
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ben is despicable bully, and the apple doesn't fall far from the tree.

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Moezzzz
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I had a step brother who tormented me- called me names, tried to tell people I was his "slave" (he even called me "peaches" as my slave name). Then when I had a falling out with my father (he didn't care one bit), he told our whole school (and my father) that I was pregnant my senior year (I'd moved in with my grandmother by that point). I was humiliated. I already had low self esteem and I was actually still a virgin. After my step mom passed away, I stopped speaking to him. I have no idea where he is or what he's doing, though I heard he wanted to reach out to me. Apparently he's changed, but I have no desire to speak to him. He was an a*****e to me and the things he spread about me were atrocious. He can go to hell

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deanna woods
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You are not required to reach out to him just because he supposedly has changed. It would nothing for you but only revisit that pain. If he wanted to reach out to you, he could have done so a long time ago.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

There's no hope that the situation will improve. The bonding experience is strictly between the father and son and they're bonding over bullying someone who's pretty much helpless. Is the mother staying for the medical insurance?

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Iam Knucks
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Normally these stories feel pretty one-sided, but I'm struggling to envision any version of this story that is redeeming for the stepfather or stepson. They seem like world-class scum. I feel horrible for your daughter. To go through so much and have people make it worse on purpose is just unimaginably cruel. Please leave this man for the sake of your child.

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deanna woods
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My sister and I do a kind of jokey banter with one another, but right now she is recovering from surgery and there is no time for that right now. I have moved back into my parents' house for a week to help her recover. If I am not working, I am taking care of my sister. This kid and his dad are both malicious bullies and the OP needs to get her daughter and herself out of this insane situation.

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Lucky2BAlive
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You’re a particular brand of horse excrement if you poke fun any anyone tough enough and brave enough to combat and whoop cancer butt. Not only was it NOT poking fun but mom did the right thing. I would have made the pit stop to change the locks, packed up the sons things and placed them at the curb, and when these two braying jackasses got upset? I would simply have unlocked the door and said ohhh it’s in fun. Like it much ****h?

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eed_thelast_haw
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

In what sort of s**t place do you have to live that laughing at a cancer kid is somehow acceptable? Adults? What sort of backwater hellhole is that? Adults laughing at a cancer kid having their wig pulled off by another kid. Man, we as humanity should burn. Whatever s**t comes to get us I am sure we fully deserve it.

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CL Rowan
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Your daughter does not need to be exposed to that type of behavior, period. The fact that you let them back into her life shows how little spine *you* have in your homelife~ whether you experienced this yourself while growing up or you're just passive, IDK. You have to be STRONG and not allow any more of this abuse. It IS ABUSE. The boy~brat will escalate this abuse as far as he can push it; up to sexual assault. Is his father going to laugh at your daughter then, too? Get them AWAY FROM HER. If it is your house, then THROW THEM OUT. If not, THEN YOU AND SHE MOVE. But *never* let her feel as if she caused this. SHE did NOT. YOU DID by not shutting this c**p down immediately with that freak's father. Also, take your daughter to self~defense classes. The meanest dirty~street fighting classes you can find. She (and You) will need them.

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Winter Eleven
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm someone who gives a second chance but in half... Like half a second chance. I'd be divorcing this husband the second he dismissed the daughter being bullied by his son. There's no second chances regarding children being hurt. It baffles me. At the first hint of something being wrong i remove myself out of the situation the best i can or if can't literally leave, wait it out and take the first chance out, no looking back. If they promise to change it's already over. You can say it but will you actually do it? It shouldn't have happened in the first place

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willi santiago
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm constantly shocked at the level of abuse people are willing to take. Man and son are f-ing monsters

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Dirk Daring
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

He's 18, a legal adult. Pulling her wig off wasn't teasing, it was assault.

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S
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If you stay with him, you get what you get. For your daughter's sake, I hope you leave. He and his son are not good people.

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Carla Olavarría
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

OMG f*****g shitty people!!!!!! excuse my French, but I have no other words for this behavior

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Brenda
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

As a survivor myself, losing my hair was hard. Having it not grow back the way it used to be was even harder. That kid will end up in trouble for sure

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Penny Lost
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Kids teasing each other? 18 is not a kid, it's a legal adult! Then again, judging by the husband's reaction, the apple doesn't fall far from the tree. Why is she still communicating with these people? This made my blood boil >

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Cookie
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The people who said NTA would also say Will Smith is the a-hole for standing up for Jada against her bully.

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Emma
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I automatically hated them both when they BOTH laughed at her wig. The son I expected but the husband too?! Nope leave them both.

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John Anderson
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

There is only one victim in this and it's the daughter. When the mom refuses to leave the step-dad and step-son, she becomes complicit in the abuses. All the abuses. What else does the (adult) step-son do for fun? Start fires? Abuse, torture or kill neighborhood animals? Sounds like psychopath.

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Novleska
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Btw your being mentally abused to think that your even wrong for one second... like I said Run.

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Novleska
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Take your daughter and make sure she knows your thankful she survived the hell she's gone through. Divorce that heartless human and never look back. Build a new life on a new beginning with her. Maybe her self esteem is so broken because of the things she's told that no one else hears from both father & son. No soul should ever treat another this way. This is not sibling bonding or any other b******t this is a disturbed individual raising and instilling mindsets on another. RUN.

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Zitronella
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

There's no need to ask if the stepson is the a*****e. Of course he is.

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Valerie Witter
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have to think from your husband’s comments that he was a bully also since he thinks his son’s actions are harmless teasing. I would not stay in this relationship. You will never get him to realize the harm he and his son are doing to your daughter.

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Jennifer Germain
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

he humiliated her at a big event and many people thought it was funny? Poor kid must have been mortified. Every single person who laughed is an a*****e.

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Kantami Blossom
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If it's just "harmless teasing" then get your daughter to reciprocate by shaving the step-brothers head in his sleep, turn abouts fair play so we if the wee bawbag thinks it's so funny when he has no hair.

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h to da izzle
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

how do people come to think cancer and the treatment of it is a thing to make fun about? if someone would have done this to my fiance i would have beaten the living hell out of that POS. The Husband is really a douche for letting his son treat that poor girl that way and even a bigger one for joining in on the laughter. i can't imagine how that poor girl must have felt. i feel bad for her, it saddens me that people think that its "harmless teasing". its a freckin deadly illness.

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Courtney
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Okay... listen. You're human. You fell in love with someone. It turns out he is an a*****e raising an a*****e. Protect your child and yourself (because if it wasn't her they made fun of, it would be you). You daughter literally could have died of cancer. And they are teasing her about her hair? First of all if anyone in my family faced this type of struggle and lost their hair, me and all my kids would be bald in support. I wouldn't even have to ask them, they would just do it out of kindness and support. And for reference, I have 3 step kids and 1 bio. Never ever would I allow such terrible treatment in either direction. Sit your husband down and show him this thread. Show him how terrible he and his son are for being so cruel to your daughter. If you do stay married to this person, make sure the abuse stops. Perhaps couple and family therapy. If that can't happen, gtfo. They will NEVER treat either of you (or any other women is my guess) with any sort of respect.

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Sammie 19
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Kick them both out and divorce your husband immediately. If you don't and allow them to continue to bully your daughter then you will end up losing her because she won't want anything to do with her mother because you didn't protect her.

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Belle Miles
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Well You could have His son shave dad's hair the next time dad has surgery with anesthesia/ passed out COLD. Head, mustache and beard. You'd have to do the rest of that, (don't tell the nurses TOO much, seriously). Son say's "STEPMOTHER said it was a bonding experiencing like for sister at aunt SO and SO'S when I was too old to make someone feel naked and think that's funny....You remember right DADDY? At Aunt So and SO's wedding 12 or 14 years ago? Daddy didn't say any thing was wrong about that,. So surprise. Justice? The only justice is the peace we felt before we carry our burdens. Or the peace we felt when our burdens were held up by others.

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BookCrazyTeen
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Jesus Christ she needs to get her and her daughter the hell out of there. An 18 year old and grown adult should know better than to do that, it’s disgusting behavior.

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Diane Knight
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

After the mom purchased the wig, and the two guys laughed at it, I would have noped her out of needed to go to the wedding. If this was the behavior prior to the day, is it really a quantum leap that the a**wipe wouldn't do things to her? He took pictures of her to post and degrade her. A wedding is not a required event if the bridal party wasn't her blood relative, her presence wasn't critical, so she should have been allowed to sit it out and at 16, could be left home. I wonder why the bride/groom didn't reprimand the 'kid' and dad for causing 'drama' on their day. VERY rude and is not the time/day for such assinine pranks. As a parent of a grown man, I would have let him know how this was totally uncalled for and to leave, being she left already, would have found someone to get them the h**l out of event. No doubt ruined the moments following.

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Casey McAlister
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You have to be the lowest scum of the earth to mock a cancer survivor for losing their hair. And a grown-a*s man also thinks it's somehow okay? She and her daughter are living with the family of psychos, they (her husband and his brat)are messed up in their heads and it runs in the family.

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John Formal
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

As a cancer patient (losing hair soon it looks like) and a man who grew up with this kind of teasing, yea, I think I could handle it... Now that I'm in my 30's. At 16? That would have scarred me for life. This is already miserable enough without caring about my looks anymore. No one, regardless of their age or relation, has the right to take the dignity of another person. This isn't about cancer, just basic decency.

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Deborah Harris
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I would be absolutely furious too, how dare her husband side with his son over something so horrifying. What a total arsehole of a bully her step son is, to not only tease her daughter about losing her hair but to try and shame her publicly for losing her hair to cancer!!! As for her husband laughing along with him I would kick him to the kerb, what an insensitive pos for not protecting or defending her. Cancer is not a joke, no illness is

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Sueet2b
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I do believe in karma. This father and son just laughed at this. They don't realize the impact it takes to literally HAVE cancer and beat all the odds to survive and not DIE. And they take it like a grain of salt. I don't know what their future is, but I do know life will catch up with them, maybe not cancer, but anything else that will make them suffer the same anguish this poor girl has been growing through.

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Jaclyn Ciocco
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She’s an a*****e for forcing her child to be near these assholes. Divorce is the only option

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Tina Hugh
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

File a police report for battery. Get therapy for yourself and daughter. Divorce

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Pumpkin Spice
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

YTA, you're a horrible mother for letting the abusers back into your goddamn house. I bet Megan looked absolutely STUNNING in that wig. My dead pet fish could probably be more active and more responsible than you.

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Ocha
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90% of the aita posts: "Am i the a*****e for being a hero? (give me praise pls)" Just tell the story, dont act like you dont know if it was the right thing to do.

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Deborah
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you taught your daughter to run. There were people at that event who would have rallied around and supported her. But instead you showed her how to hide.

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propgamer XL
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It was a wedding from his family and they laughed. No need to stay. If it was her family, they could have kicked the stepson and his dad out.

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