“Who The Hell Does This?”: Bride Is Flabbergasted To Discover A Wedding Guest Took 10 Containers Of Food From The Wedding And Left A $5 Gift
Weddings are supposed to be celebrations of love, not opportunities to freeload off the happy couple. It goes without saying that guests are supposed to enjoy themselves during the reception. However, bringing a ton of containers to fill them with food to bring back home seems just plain disrespectful to everyone.
You’re well off. You’re not going hungry. You didn’t bring your husband to the wedding, but you instead managed to sneak in 10 Tupperware containers to get as much of that delicious food as you can. Rude? We think so.
A woman’s story about this exact situation went viral on Facebook and then ended up getting shared on Reddit. Unsurprisingly, people were shocked by this total disregard for any social boundaries, as well as by the cherry on top: the ridiculous ‘gift’ the guest gave the couple. Scroll down for the full story and the reactions, dear Pandas. Oh, and we’d love to hear how you would’ve reacted to such a greedy guest if it was your wedding. Let us know in the comments.
Anna and Sarah, Team Leaders at The Wedding Society, were kind enough to comment on the etiquette of taking home with you from a wedding. Here’s what they told Bored Panda: “To state the obvious, the general etiquette around taking food home from a wedding is to just not. It’s not a restaurant and you didn’t pay for the food, so feel free to eat but not to stash. If someone doesn’t understand this, the couple really should lean on the venue staff to deal with this. It shouldn’t have to be handled by the couple,” they said. Scroll down for the full interview.
A couple was horrified to learn that one of their guests filled container after container with food from their wedding
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Here’s exactly how everything happened on the wedding day
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According to Anna and Sarah from The Wedding Society, it’s best to not bring any food containers to someone’s wedding. It would be disrespectful if you did. Instead, wait to see if you’re given something as a gift.
“Leave the Tupperware at home,” the wedding expert told Bored Panda about how guests should behave. “As a general rule, if it hasn’t been directly gifted to you, don’t take it home with you. This includes floral centerpieces and other reception items,” they stressed.
Meanwhile, the best way to know if a guest is eating far too much food than everyone else is to take a look around the room. “Try to be cognizant of the people around you. Eating your fair share of food, like any social situation, is about reading the room and being able to judge appropriate serving sizes. If you don’t think you can handle this kind of responsibility, ask a fellow guest to keep you in check,” they said.
Probably nobody enjoys telling a guest off at their own wedding. It’s usually best to nip any potential problems in the bud than to have to deal with some awful behavior on the actual day of the event. If you find out that a guest is likely to be very problematic or you learn something unsettling, you might have to uninvite them.
People were horrified by the guest’s behavior. Here’s what some of them had to say, as well as their own experiences with awful wedding guests
Anna and Sarah from The Wedding Society explained to Bored Panda during an earlier interview that the happy couple should evaluate how comfortable they are with confrontation, and then decide if they want to uninvite someone in person, by phone, or via online messaging.
“Sometimes, writing things out makes it easier to say exactly what you want in the way you plan to say it. Others feel better having a personal chat over the phone. Just do what is going to help you be as authentic, diplomatic, and kind as possible,” the wedding expert explained to Bored Panda.
“You also need to expect that there will be some upset, and you need to greet that with acceptance and compassion. If you’re making the decision to uninvite a guest, you need to be ok with handling the consequences of that,” they told us.
“There’s no real way to get around the pain of uninviting or being uninvited to a wedding. The only thing that eases the sting is making it as kind as possible and trying to see your situation from the other person’s perspective.”
They continued: “Try to frame it like you’re doing the best thing for both parties, such as saying, ‘I feel like you’d want to be aligned with people who have the same values as you, and I don’t think we’re those people.’ Just don’t be dishonest. It’s better to give no reason than lying for the sake of an excuse. Everyone deserves honesty.”
However, this only works if you know beforehand that someone who desperately wants to be at your wedding might be very problematic. If the guest is misbehaving at the actual event, it’s a whole different story. And this sort of bad behavior can happen anywhere, not just at weddings.
Very recently, Bored Panda spoke about guests who have overstayed their welcome with food expert, pie artist, and expert hostess Jessica Leigh Clark-Bojin.
“There are any number of unforgivable dinner guest faux-pas, everything from a guest refusing to take off their stiletto heels on your new softwood floors, or bringing extra guests or kids to a dinner party when they were not invited (no, just no), to refusing to try anything served to them, or haranguing others about their diet choices,” she shared just some of the ways that guests can make a dinner party host’s evening miserable.
“But perhaps the most egregious is the guest who, perhaps after imbibing a few adult beverages too many, refuses to take the hint and hit the road after everyone else has left.”
Jessica is a fan of the direct approach of getting guests to hit the road. “‘YAWN! Well, I’m beat. Great party! Can I call you a cab?’ or if that is still too subtle, you can always end with the Seinfeld classic, ‘You must go now,'” she said that humor can be a powerful tool in one’s arsenal.
“If you know you have guests coming over that are prone to this sort of annoying welcome-outstaying, you may want to lay the groundwork in advance by including a start and end time for the dinner party in your invitation (with a bit of humor).”
Here’s an example of how this might work: “‘Appetizers and drinks at 7pm, dinner served at 8pm, dessert at 9pm, followed by ‘you all get the heck out of my house’ at 10pm.'”
Of course, all of this might be simpler to do at a dinner party rather than at a wedding. Though both a host and the happy couple would probably react the same if one of their ‘beloved’ guests turns up with a toppling tower of Tupperware—with horror. With absolute horror.
I brought some "mystery dip" to a pot luck gathering at a private home. Two of the guests, which were extremely obese, not that I care, took the entire container of dip and sat off by themselves to eat it. When I noticed, I got upset. I walked over to them, took the container, and not so politely told them I brought it for EVERYONE and not just them! Did I embarrass them? I sure hope so! Will they pull stunts like that again? Of Course!
I brought a cake once, and one person served themselves a third. A THIRD.
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I'd have given her the leftover food after the party if she really wanted to have it, but she'd have to ASK first like a normal human being instead of just taking everything as she pleases. Some people just have no manners at all.
Yes, it's the assumption she can just turn up and make off with all the food and other stuff that she wants. I would be horrified if it was my wedding or if I was a guest. In fact, if I was a guest, I would be discreetly talking to the bride or groom's family and suggesting they may wish to quietly ask this person to leave. Don't upset the bride or groom, but maybe pull aside a brother or sister (if they have one) and pointing out what's going on. However, I would never allow anyone to be a guest at a wedding or other major event that I didn't at least know in passing. Can't understand where someone gets off asking to invite someone else to a wedding they've been invited to!!
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Sounds like the type who never eats at home but always 'just drops in' on relatives and friends at mealtimes.
One family solved it this way: one fine evening, they put the dirty dishes on the floor for the dog to lick clean, then put the dishes away on the shelves. The freeloaders never came back.
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Send that b***h a bill. This is infuriating! $5 on top of that is a slap in that face.
Why did no one stop her? You'd maybe miss someone filling one container, but SEVEN?
Like maybe her father! Who is supposedly the best friend of the Father of the bride.
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And here I am at work events sneakily taking a small paper plate of finger foods and deserts home to my kids. By sneakily, I mean I linger around with that plate then slowly make my way towards the door and up to my desk. I can’t imagine just brazenly bringing even one Tupperware into one of those events much less a wedding!!
One plate can be justified as irresistible seconds. Piling food into Tupperware containers is freeloading.
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What a trashy person. This isn't like they were poor and unable to afford a proper gift or going home to an empty fridge - if that were the case (and they had ASKED permission to take home the leftovers, NOT the food as it was being served) I don't know that most people would say "no". But when you're someone of means, who is clearly able to afford to get dressed up and attend someone else's wedding at THEIR expense, the very least you can do is be respectful and show some damn decorum. Most folks are happy to give away leftovers at the end of the evening rather than throw the food away. But you damn sure don't just show up and assume the bride and groom's catering order was paid so that you could fill up Tupperware containers and binge on their food at home. I honestly can't imagine how someone like that wouldn't be embarrassed beyond relief to come off so freaking tacky and cheap. Absolutely shameless.
I bet the husband decided not to go when he saw his wife loading up the Tupperware. I'd be embarrassed to be seen with her too!
Damn. Given a cookie or small plate to take if someone tells you to is one thing. Showing up to ravage the buffet an no one stopped her is another. I'd have the dad send a letter to them about being an embarrassment and how a $5 "gift" isn't acceptable. I know she didn't know you guys to actually have to do a gift. But that's a slap. And to think she brought all the Tupperware!!! I can't believe no one caught her an stopped her or tossed her out. Hope ur dad rages them an puts a banner out on their lawn showing how cheap ass she is. On your behalf. Lol
The bride and groom: you can't take that much food and give us $5 as a gift. ---- The woman later on Reddit: ENTITLED NEWLY WED COUPLE REFUSE YO LET ME TAKE FOOD HOME TO MY STARVING FAMILY AND SCOFF AT A $5 GIFT WHICH WAS THE MOST I COULD AFFORD!
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Why didn't the friend stop them when he saw what they were doing? Social media rules our world right now, shame them publicly. Post how they brought a dozen containers, filled them with food, and the late night clean up crew and friends/family had nothing to eat after all that hard work. Let the world know what thieves they are. Warn everybody not to invite them. Deal with your dad afterwards, it's his friend who vetted these jerks, the friend should take care of them, or be shamed along with them.
Some posts on BP just bring up old memories that at the time made me furious,but now make me chuckle...This is one of the posts. My Dad´s funeral was gate-crashed by a woman I never had seen in my life...showed up at the church ceremony and after joined most of the crowd at my parents house for refreshments and talks of their memories/stories of my father...my father had a long life and was very popular.I naturally was grief-stricken and did not pay too much attention 1of 2
2of2 I did though see her stuffing herself and even open her rather large bag and dump food into it...I went up to her and asked where she had met my father...her answer «my father used to ride the train with your father»sic....She finally left as one of the last....and some days later I met the pastor and told him of the incident...he said..«I know her, she attends a lot of funerals» so my take is that funerals are her kind of Food Banks....mind, at weddings and funerals one half ao attendees don´t know the other half...I told the Vicar to look out for her and tell the mourners at other funerals...mind you,my father would have loved the «joke» it was so I did not take the matter any further..
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I wonder if the BFF invited them so that they could shoplift the food.
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Argggh my mom strikes again. Seriously she would bring storage containers and little kids. Kids were not allowed to eat only fill the containers like it was their portion the give it to her and 5 mins later repeat. She carried a GD duffle bag out of weddings, church potlucks,and got banned from family restaurants doing this behavior. It caught up with her in weight and is probably a thing about food insecurity as a kid as she was oldest in a 5 child household that the parents got steak but the kids were served boiled beans, rice and powdered milk
Had something similar happen at a family gathering. My kids, sister, niece, nephew, grandson, baby mama & her mom. We all pitch in- you either cook or clean up. While people were busy cleaning up, baby mama's mom (who didn't cook, clean or bring food) brought out a box of gallon bags and took home a $h1+lo@d of leftovers, including the ham! We couldn't believe the audacity of this lady to load up and leave.
Her (guest's dad) should pony up for food and center pieces. Couple hundred bucks pls and thanks! What utter trash
Wow, the absolute cheek! The audacity! She should've been shoved out as soon as someone noticed the containers. She should be forced to give you the monetary value of the food she took. This has made me so mad, I *hate* entitled scumbags like her.
This happened at my wedding. My husband and I barely got to keep anything. Some people really do lack decorum.
I’d ask for it all back and use words like stole and thief starting with dad’s bff. People like that count on you not wanting to embarrass them or make a scene but that’s what you need to do.
For my wedding present my exbff wanted to give me $200 worth of Amway products. That is he wanted me to purchase $100 of Amway products from him. In return, he promised to THEN give me $100 worth as well. I asked him, "So my present requires me to give you $100?" He didn't come to the wedding and we never spoke again.
Here I thought most people are civilized and then I see this. It seems there are still members of society that have not progress pass the greedy pig phase of evolution. Nevermind manners, these specimens can't even see past their own bellies, just like swines.
One of my sister's have a stock of Tupperware in her trunk for these special occasions. She monitors the room to make sure everyone has visited the spread of food. That's when she needs to go the car for something. She never brings anything but she always leaves with everything.
For my Aunts funeral, my mother (her sister) paid for and prepared all the food for the buffet at the reception thingy afterwards .It was a lot of food because there were quite a few of us, with family and friends and she spent a great deal of money. A whole bunch of people from my Aunts church (that the rest of us didn't know) came. But as soon as they got to the reception, while family etc were still arriving, they all raced up to the buffet, pulled out a bunch of Tupperware containers, seriously, like 20-30 containers ,start reaching over the other guests and filled them all to the top, packed them all in fridge bags they had brought and left!! I've never seen anything like it ,they were like vultures. It was so rude!
Send tghe $5 back with a message that her behavior was not appreciated. Why not. She is a grown up.
My daughters wedding cost me $100k but between the speeches and greeting people and tipping staff I never had a chance to eat. No big deal but at the end of night I tried to get a plate of leftovers to take home and was told I couldn’t because it somehow went against health department rules. I get hungry just thinking about it.
Personally I would return the $5 back to the woman’s father (bride’s father’s bff) and “explain” that due to the sensitive nature, and to avoid any embarrassment, you really didn’t feel right accepting the gift when it appears things must be very difficult for her and her family. It was noted that she had…explain…and that you wished she had felt comfortable to speak to you or your father directly and you would have been more than happy to put a to-go package together once the festivities were finished. End with well wishes that her situation improves. 😶
🙄🙄..these are the people who show up at Planet Fitness on pizza Monday and Bagel Tuesday to eat free food!!
Post on social media so their friends see: "I hope you enjoyed our wedding! Thank you so much for bringing Tupperware and saving us TEN CONTAINERS from the buffet! So glad you were able to fill three of them from the cookie table, those were delicious! But you didn't have to leave us a $5 too! When is a good time for us to swing by and get those?"
Its better than it going to waste, but to not even ask is just bloody rude
Some of the food had just been set out. The cookie table would have been a dessert. Sounds like she cleaned them out & then left. Wonder if she even saw the cake cutting. 🤔
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Settle a bet for me... After reading the headline I said to my husband I bet dishes this happened around here. He said no way, it has to be Florida. When OP says PA, I claimed victory. He says because it was Western PA not North East I'm wrong and neither of us win.... What say you, pandas?
I think he may be right. You didn't specify that it was Pennsyltuckey .
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YOUR FAMILY. This cretin did even know the Bride & Groom.
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They said in the post 5he woman was more financially secure than the wedding couple. Just a mannerless freeloader.
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I brought some "mystery dip" to a pot luck gathering at a private home. Two of the guests, which were extremely obese, not that I care, took the entire container of dip and sat off by themselves to eat it. When I noticed, I got upset. I walked over to them, took the container, and not so politely told them I brought it for EVERYONE and not just them! Did I embarrass them? I sure hope so! Will they pull stunts like that again? Of Course!
I brought a cake once, and one person served themselves a third. A THIRD.
Load More Replies... I'd have given her the leftover food after the party if she really wanted to have it, but she'd have to ASK first like a normal human being instead of just taking everything as she pleases. Some people just have no manners at all.
Yes, it's the assumption she can just turn up and make off with all the food and other stuff that she wants. I would be horrified if it was my wedding or if I was a guest. In fact, if I was a guest, I would be discreetly talking to the bride or groom's family and suggesting they may wish to quietly ask this person to leave. Don't upset the bride or groom, but maybe pull aside a brother or sister (if they have one) and pointing out what's going on. However, I would never allow anyone to be a guest at a wedding or other major event that I didn't at least know in passing. Can't understand where someone gets off asking to invite someone else to a wedding they've been invited to!!
Load More Replies... Sounds like the type who never eats at home but always 'just drops in' on relatives and friends at mealtimes.
One family solved it this way: one fine evening, they put the dirty dishes on the floor for the dog to lick clean, then put the dishes away on the shelves. The freeloaders never came back.
Load More Replies... Send that b***h a bill. This is infuriating! $5 on top of that is a slap in that face.
Why did no one stop her? You'd maybe miss someone filling one container, but SEVEN?
Like maybe her father! Who is supposedly the best friend of the Father of the bride.
Load More Replies... And here I am at work events sneakily taking a small paper plate of finger foods and deserts home to my kids. By sneakily, I mean I linger around with that plate then slowly make my way towards the door and up to my desk. I can’t imagine just brazenly bringing even one Tupperware into one of those events much less a wedding!!
One plate can be justified as irresistible seconds. Piling food into Tupperware containers is freeloading.
Load More Replies... What a trashy person. This isn't like they were poor and unable to afford a proper gift or going home to an empty fridge - if that were the case (and they had ASKED permission to take home the leftovers, NOT the food as it was being served) I don't know that most people would say "no". But when you're someone of means, who is clearly able to afford to get dressed up and attend someone else's wedding at THEIR expense, the very least you can do is be respectful and show some damn decorum. Most folks are happy to give away leftovers at the end of the evening rather than throw the food away. But you damn sure don't just show up and assume the bride and groom's catering order was paid so that you could fill up Tupperware containers and binge on their food at home. I honestly can't imagine how someone like that wouldn't be embarrassed beyond relief to come off so freaking tacky and cheap. Absolutely shameless.
I bet the husband decided not to go when he saw his wife loading up the Tupperware. I'd be embarrassed to be seen with her too!
Damn. Given a cookie or small plate to take if someone tells you to is one thing. Showing up to ravage the buffet an no one stopped her is another. I'd have the dad send a letter to them about being an embarrassment and how a $5 "gift" isn't acceptable. I know she didn't know you guys to actually have to do a gift. But that's a slap. And to think she brought all the Tupperware!!! I can't believe no one caught her an stopped her or tossed her out. Hope ur dad rages them an puts a banner out on their lawn showing how cheap ass she is. On your behalf. Lol
The bride and groom: you can't take that much food and give us $5 as a gift. ---- The woman later on Reddit: ENTITLED NEWLY WED COUPLE REFUSE YO LET ME TAKE FOOD HOME TO MY STARVING FAMILY AND SCOFF AT A $5 GIFT WHICH WAS THE MOST I COULD AFFORD!
Load More Replies... Why didn't the friend stop them when he saw what they were doing? Social media rules our world right now, shame them publicly. Post how they brought a dozen containers, filled them with food, and the late night clean up crew and friends/family had nothing to eat after all that hard work. Let the world know what thieves they are. Warn everybody not to invite them. Deal with your dad afterwards, it's his friend who vetted these jerks, the friend should take care of them, or be shamed along with them.
Some posts on BP just bring up old memories that at the time made me furious,but now make me chuckle...This is one of the posts. My Dad´s funeral was gate-crashed by a woman I never had seen in my life...showed up at the church ceremony and after joined most of the crowd at my parents house for refreshments and talks of their memories/stories of my father...my father had a long life and was very popular.I naturally was grief-stricken and did not pay too much attention 1of 2
2of2 I did though see her stuffing herself and even open her rather large bag and dump food into it...I went up to her and asked where she had met my father...her answer «my father used to ride the train with your father»sic....She finally left as one of the last....and some days later I met the pastor and told him of the incident...he said..«I know her, she attends a lot of funerals» so my take is that funerals are her kind of Food Banks....mind, at weddings and funerals one half ao attendees don´t know the other half...I told the Vicar to look out for her and tell the mourners at other funerals...mind you,my father would have loved the «joke» it was so I did not take the matter any further..
Load More Replies... I wonder if the BFF invited them so that they could shoplift the food.
Load More Replies... Argggh my mom strikes again. Seriously she would bring storage containers and little kids. Kids were not allowed to eat only fill the containers like it was their portion the give it to her and 5 mins later repeat. She carried a GD duffle bag out of weddings, church potlucks,and got banned from family restaurants doing this behavior. It caught up with her in weight and is probably a thing about food insecurity as a kid as she was oldest in a 5 child household that the parents got steak but the kids were served boiled beans, rice and powdered milk
Had something similar happen at a family gathering. My kids, sister, niece, nephew, grandson, baby mama & her mom. We all pitch in- you either cook or clean up. While people were busy cleaning up, baby mama's mom (who didn't cook, clean or bring food) brought out a box of gallon bags and took home a $h1+lo@d of leftovers, including the ham! We couldn't believe the audacity of this lady to load up and leave.
Her (guest's dad) should pony up for food and center pieces. Couple hundred bucks pls and thanks! What utter trash
Wow, the absolute cheek! The audacity! She should've been shoved out as soon as someone noticed the containers. She should be forced to give you the monetary value of the food she took. This has made me so mad, I *hate* entitled scumbags like her.
This happened at my wedding. My husband and I barely got to keep anything. Some people really do lack decorum.
I’d ask for it all back and use words like stole and thief starting with dad’s bff. People like that count on you not wanting to embarrass them or make a scene but that’s what you need to do.
For my wedding present my exbff wanted to give me $200 worth of Amway products. That is he wanted me to purchase $100 of Amway products from him. In return, he promised to THEN give me $100 worth as well. I asked him, "So my present requires me to give you $100?" He didn't come to the wedding and we never spoke again.
Here I thought most people are civilized and then I see this. It seems there are still members of society that have not progress pass the greedy pig phase of evolution. Nevermind manners, these specimens can't even see past their own bellies, just like swines.
One of my sister's have a stock of Tupperware in her trunk for these special occasions. She monitors the room to make sure everyone has visited the spread of food. That's when she needs to go the car for something. She never brings anything but she always leaves with everything.
For my Aunts funeral, my mother (her sister) paid for and prepared all the food for the buffet at the reception thingy afterwards .It was a lot of food because there were quite a few of us, with family and friends and she spent a great deal of money. A whole bunch of people from my Aunts church (that the rest of us didn't know) came. But as soon as they got to the reception, while family etc were still arriving, they all raced up to the buffet, pulled out a bunch of Tupperware containers, seriously, like 20-30 containers ,start reaching over the other guests and filled them all to the top, packed them all in fridge bags they had brought and left!! I've never seen anything like it ,they were like vultures. It was so rude!
Send tghe $5 back with a message that her behavior was not appreciated. Why not. She is a grown up.
My daughters wedding cost me $100k but between the speeches and greeting people and tipping staff I never had a chance to eat. No big deal but at the end of night I tried to get a plate of leftovers to take home and was told I couldn’t because it somehow went against health department rules. I get hungry just thinking about it.
Personally I would return the $5 back to the woman’s father (bride’s father’s bff) and “explain” that due to the sensitive nature, and to avoid any embarrassment, you really didn’t feel right accepting the gift when it appears things must be very difficult for her and her family. It was noted that she had…explain…and that you wished she had felt comfortable to speak to you or your father directly and you would have been more than happy to put a to-go package together once the festivities were finished. End with well wishes that her situation improves. 😶
🙄🙄..these are the people who show up at Planet Fitness on pizza Monday and Bagel Tuesday to eat free food!!
Post on social media so their friends see: "I hope you enjoyed our wedding! Thank you so much for bringing Tupperware and saving us TEN CONTAINERS from the buffet! So glad you were able to fill three of them from the cookie table, those were delicious! But you didn't have to leave us a $5 too! When is a good time for us to swing by and get those?"
Its better than it going to waste, but to not even ask is just bloody rude
Some of the food had just been set out. The cookie table would have been a dessert. Sounds like she cleaned them out & then left. Wonder if she even saw the cake cutting. 🤔
Load More Replies... Settle a bet for me... After reading the headline I said to my husband I bet dishes this happened around here. He said no way, it has to be Florida. When OP says PA, I claimed victory. He says because it was Western PA not North East I'm wrong and neither of us win.... What say you, pandas?
I think he may be right. You didn't specify that it was Pennsyltuckey .
Load More Replies... YOUR FAMILY. This cretin did even know the Bride & Groom.
Load More Replies... They said in the post 5he woman was more financially secure than the wedding couple. Just a mannerless freeloader.
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