‘I Had A Very Scary Experience With My Friend And I Wanted To Share This ‘Cause It Could Stop This From Happening To Someone Else’
Date rape drugs are substances that make it easier for predators to sexually assault another person and take advantage of them. After consumption, the victim might become confused, have trouble defending themselves, and even not be able to remember what happened. But date rape doesn’t happen just on dates — an attacker can be someone you just met. Unfortunately, TikTok user @aili.likes.adventure had to find out about it firsthand.
Two days ago, Aili shared a video, where she recalled the time she and her friend went out to have some fun. Everything was going fine at first and they were enjoying themselves but suddenly their evening took a dangerous turn. A group of men started casting their nets over the ladies. Aili and her friend didn’t make a big deal out of it. Why would they? However, the women got suspicious when their “admirers” started forcefully shoving drinks into their hands.
Aili said she made the video because she hopes it can help people to avoid falling into a similar trap
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Estimates suggest that at least 25 percent or 1 in 4 American women have been sexually assaulted or raped.
According to experts, knowing the most common date rape drugs and their side effects (as well as the signs of a perpetrator planning to use one) can help the general public fight off these attacks.
The most common date rape drugs are alcohol, benzodiazepines, ketamine, and GHB. Some, however, are more popular than others.
“When it comes to the most popular date rape drugs, number 1, 2, 3, and four is alcohol,” general practitioner, medical researcher, and founder of PrimeHealth Clinical Research, Iris Gorfinkel, M.D., told Bored Panda. “If you take a look at alcohol, it’s kind of interesting. Three out of four attackers are drinking when they sexually assault someone. Also about half of the sexual assault victims have been drinking. So alcohol plays a tremendous role in there.”
According to Gorfinkel attackers can also mix substances together. For example, Rohypnol, ketamine, and GHB are all colorless and flavorless, so they can be added not only to food but alcoholic beverages as well, simply because alcohol will increase the effects of all of these date rape drugs.
“What [these substances] have in common is that they will all cause people to feel more relaxed, and dissociated, or even detached,” the doctor added. “And on top of it, date rape drugs make it harder to remember what is going on later. They all work relatively quickly. And they can be in the body for anywhere from just a few hours to an entire day or sometimes beyond that.
Usually, everyone who has recently accepted a drink from another person, even someone they know, or who has left their drink unattended in a public place, should be cautious.
In certain scenarios, it can be difficult to distinguish the effects of a date rape drug from those of alcohol, especially after a person has consumed a large quantity of it.
Those who are accustomed to the effects of alcohol should consider how they normally feel after drinking or when intoxicated; any unexplained changes in their reactions to alcohol could mean a date rape drug was involved.
A person who feels significantly drunker than they should be may have been drugged. The only way to know for sure is to get medically tested.
Iris Gorfinkel said “the onset is sometimes sudden, and it’s very different in terms of how a person was feeling just minutes ago. Sudden dizziness, problems with speaking, having difficulties moving muscles that normally move easily, nausea, and vomiting are all clear signals that something is wrong. [You should also take notice if you’re friend is] feeling their heart racing or skipping beats, if they get sleepy or confused, or are having trouble breathing and are passing out.”
Gorfinkel said there are some things we can do to minimize our chances of falling victim to these dirty practices. “You have to be really aware of punch bowls and other containers that could easily be spiked and not to accept drinks from other people, especially at bars,” she explained. “You should watch [your drink] get poured at a bar, carry it around yourself. And don’t drink anything that smells or looks strange.”
“In terms of longer-term harms, people do experience post-traumatic sexual assault disorder, a form of PTSD. We also see an increased risk of clinical depression and clinical levels of anxiety. We may see problems, establishing long-term relationships or problems having a satisfying sexual relationship later on because of the horror and memories that are associated with having been sexually assaulted.”
There’s a lot to take in, but Gorfinkel thinks the goal is not to overly-emphasize each and every one of the drugs (knowing those names isn’t really helpful to the person) but the warning signals of hearing what sounds like fun, like ‘Here, try this.’
Here’s the discussion people had after listening to the story
I read a lot of "she should have gone to the bar/bouncer/police/etc." I just wanna say, she did the most important thing: she got herself and her friend out of a dangerous situation, she 'survived'. Nobody knows how they will react in a treatening situation, she did the right thing.
Exactely! Especially when the guys followed them out of the bar. First get yourself to safety, then take the next steps.
Load More Replies...So many victim blaming here... They did what they thought was best at the time. Later when they thought about it they called the police and they put this story in social media. Maybe this post will make some girls and bar staff aware.
Exactly. It's disgusting how people are so quick to attack them about it.
Load More Replies...Bartenders should be aware. When I was tending bar a man asked me to give his date doubles (twice the alcohol). It wasn't my date, I wasn't the victim so I could think clearly. He got doubles, her drinks didn't contain alcohol. I looked her in the eyes when she took the first sip to tell her the lack of alcohol was intentional. Eventually I was able to tell her. Her expression was one of anger with the intention of embarrassing him. I don't know if was illegal in 1979. I did know the macho, women chasing managers would agree with my actions. Bar management attitudes make a difference too.
Uncommon Boston I was a bartender when I was younger too and I can say that if a women came to me and told me what was happening I would help her as for my male colleagues I wouldn't trust them at all. Nor would I have trusted the bouncers or the male managers. Either they would have dismissed these women questioned them to death and a couple may have tried to take advantage. We don't know who we can trust whose going to believe us at all. The best we can do when we're in danger is get away from the predator. People on here really love to blame women.
Load More Replies...There was an update on her TikTok that she and her friend went to Urgent Care and filed a police report. Hopefully something comes out of it.
See guys, before you say "not all men" pay attention and be aware that this kind of s**t happens all the time. And it´s up to us to stop that.
My partner (a man) got his drink spiked once (maybe he drunk from the drink intended for his friends or so). He was terrified the next day because he couldn't remeber anything and very very sick. Back then nobody supported him and all ignored it. I am glad that nowadays we take this things more seriously.
And this is why I don't go out to bars / clubs and IF I do, I'm with my fiance or best friends and I only drink drinks I get from the bar myself. (or my fiance / friends) To all the men / women out here pulling this stunt. You're a vile human being and I pray to God one day that you have daughters / sons and they narrowly escape some pos doing this to them so maybe, just maybe you can get a dose of your own bullshit.
Why are men like this? Why can't women having a good time just be left alone?
She did the right thing and hit her feiend to safety before doing anything else. If those guys had seen her hand over the drink, talk to management etc they could have become MORE aggressive. That's why it's safety first in these situations. Are bartenders even supposed to seal ans save a possibly drugged drink as evidence for the police? I'm not sure that's a part of their job description. They certainly can't test it at the bar. (Though maybe that should become a thing). What I'm saying is that she did right by her friend. They're alive. Maybe with the police report filed later while they were safe they can use bar security footage to track down the guys. Also, on a side note, it's a sad world we live in where girls have to say
That they are gay just to get guys to leave them alone. We've all done this BECAUSE we can't assume they won't become more aggressive when we say no. I am sure that this is why they didn't feel safe reporting the moment it happened. Get safe, stay safe, then you contact authorities. If you get mugged or attacked do you just stand there waiting for the police? No, you hightail it to a safe spot ans then call. It's common sense. Okay rant over.
Load More Replies...She had the presence of mind to get herself and her friend out. At the time, that's all she needed to worry about. Job well done.
This happened to me, except I drank the alcohol. Woke up with no memory of what happened but I owe my life to my male friend who noticed I was stumbling, so out of character, so followed me and caught me as I was being led to a car by people he didn't know. It was a miracle as the club was so dark, he was also drunk but alert enough to keep an eye out. Please watch out for each other! Never leave any of your friends to wonder off alone. Little things can save a life.
Any son-of-a-bitch who is willing to drug a women’s drink is capable of doing anything. It’s a fair bet they “ain’t no nice guy”. She did the smartest thing, get her and her already drugged friend the hell to a safe place. You never know if the bartender is in on it themselves or maybe friends of these guys. Best bet is to always get your own drinks. I started doing that “back in the day”, 80’s/90’s, because I got sick of guys thinking I owed them a f*€k or a B.J. because I accepted a drink. Or if you accept the drink, they just sit down at your table! They’d actually say things like, “Oh, you’ll take my drink but I can’t sit down with you?” I always said, “What, you think you purchased me for a lousy drink? Do I have a red light above my head? You think I’m a prostitute? If I were you’d be paying a lot more than that drinks worth! I didn’t ask for a drink from you so piss off.” But even then things were getting dangerous, so I decided to stop even accepting drinks.
Despite being careful (only drink what I ordered, keep glass covered with my hand/napkin, discard it if left alone, etc), I've been drugged. The bartender of a nice jazz bar was the one who put the drug in my drink. I later found out that he was old friends with the dude who assaulted me. Luckily, I half-way came to before all my clothes were off (thank you liver). I managed to get away, surely helped by adrenaline. No, I didn't go to the police that night. I was panicked, couldn't think clearly, had no idea where I was, who the guy was, when I had left the bar, what time it was, how I got to my car, much less manage to safely drive home, or even what I did when I did got home. All I remember is flashes of me bawling as I drove home. It took a full day for me to feel normal-ish and piece together what happened. No evidence by then, so it would've been a weak case at best. My sense of safety and trust in bar staff was completely shattered.
Load More Replies...My son was rufied at a bar playing darts with his wife- happened to take a sip of her drink. Wiped him out. Stealthy bastards.
I once ordered a drink that was spiked and I honestly think it was a mistake. I luckily was in the ladies room when I passed out. I took the fall literally so someone else didn’t. I told the waitress and she took it VERY seriously. Hopefully no one else was hurt that night.
1st time: got to my hotel room safely, thanks to the hotel staff. 2nd time: my friend and the bar staff got me home safely. 3rd time: regained consciousness while I was being raped. So yeah, I don't go out much anymore.
This happened to me, luckily my friends got me out of there.. could have gone much worse
Spot on. Please do not be afraid to ask the bar owner or an employee to help you by escorting you to the Uber or Lyft or standing with you. And thank God you listened to your intuition so many women just dismiss it and then find themselves in trouble because they don’t wanna appear to be weak or discourteous. My friend has it really bad back she got into an elevator, There was a man already in the elevator and she really didn’t feel comfortable instead of exiting the elevator immediately and saying oh my God I’m such an idiot I forgot some thing she chose to ride in the elevator with this guy. It takes seconds for somebody with bad intent to overpower a person. Kudos to you for protecting your friend and yourself and thanks to your intuition!!
The why you didn't took the drink to the police. who have to pay for the lab test, us not the f cop. Getting in a safe place ASAP is what did mattered in this case.
At this point, all bars and bartenders are aware of drinks being tampered with. Do not leave your drinks unattended. Do not accept drinks from anyone you do not know. And if someone is getting pushy with you, let the bar staff know. They will keep an eye on them and bounce them out. They will help you get out safely into an uber and home if you ask. They will call the cops too.
To the people saying she should have taken the beer for evidence, told the bartender, etc. She was in practically a life or death situation. There was no time to think about other things, she needed to get her friend out ASAP, while possibly tipsy/intoxicated. Please stop blaming her
I lost my virginity to a "date rape" when I was 13. I went to a party at a friends house with a boy I thought I knew & could trust. He slipped a Vicodin into my beer and then proceeded to rape me under the pool table in full view of everyone. Tim Hell from Seattle, WA - I wish a slow and painful death upon you.
Never drink s**t from other people. Never leave your drink unattended. Carry pepper spray.
This isn't a new problem, either. When my grandmother went out to a bar with her girlfriends, she'd only order a Coke, and then she wouldn't drink it because she had heard about Micky Finns. That was the 1940s. Yet I still see women in bars who will leave an unfinished drink on the bar to have a smoke or restroom break, and then come back and finish it. Not a smart thing to do.
Next level is keeping the drink, calling the cops, tell the guys to come out, giving the drink and the guys to the cops. That's rare when it's so obvious. I've never had any proof, just realized later that was not normal after 1 drink to feel like that / black out. And after hours it's useless to get tested for ghb since it doesn't last long enough in your blood. So if you can prove it, then please do it. We are so often dismissed because of the lack of proof, so they can pretend it doesn't exist...
It's nothing new, and still women are careless. Choose these night establishments carefully. I would call ahead, ask to speak to the manager and ask him/her what are they doing to protect their female customers from sexual predators.. Isn't there better way to have fun than have drinks in a night clubs????
If you're at the bar having a good time, things might be different. Maybe you're already tipsy, maybe you just think, "Hey, free drink!" You don't know.
Load More Replies...The police very often don't do anything. That's why only a very tiny percentage of reported rapes ever get investigated and an even smaller amount get prosecuted.
Load More Replies...Sorry Hans but it is no good saying you don't mean to say something and then say it anyway. Every single part of your comment is about what the girls did wrong or what they should have done. I think they did pretty good. They kept themselves safe. It seemed like this woman's main objective in that moment was getting her friend home in an Uber. In the moment, you do what you feel you need to do to remove yourself from the situation. She has later contacted the police and the bar. Your comment is like many, many we hear. We skip the outrage about what these men are doing and go straight to what women should be doing to protect themselves. Then there are people (and I don't mean you) who would criticise these women for not protecting themselves and then in another post, comment that women shouldn't be wary of men because not all men do things like this.
Load More Replies...Yes yes women are to blame for everything that happens. We know the perpetrators are never to blame. Women deserve what they get we know we've heard it a million times. It's not good enough to survive we must do everything like you say bc you were in this situation with us right? Bc you know what happened right? Bc you were there right? Bc you know exactly how women are to blame no matter what we do. It's never good enough that we did what we had to do in the moment to stay safe. It's always what we could do. Sometimes we are not equipped to do everything victim blamers want us to do.
Load More Replies...Or maybe we could raise and teach people not to drug other people.....
Load More Replies...Didn't your mother teach you to never drug women at bars? Why did you have to think about it? Seriously, isn't this taught anymore?
Load More Replies...Why is it always "women should change their behavior so this doesn't happen" instead of "men should change their behavior"?
Load More Replies...I read a lot of "she should have gone to the bar/bouncer/police/etc." I just wanna say, she did the most important thing: she got herself and her friend out of a dangerous situation, she 'survived'. Nobody knows how they will react in a treatening situation, she did the right thing.
Exactely! Especially when the guys followed them out of the bar. First get yourself to safety, then take the next steps.
Load More Replies...So many victim blaming here... They did what they thought was best at the time. Later when they thought about it they called the police and they put this story in social media. Maybe this post will make some girls and bar staff aware.
Exactly. It's disgusting how people are so quick to attack them about it.
Load More Replies...Bartenders should be aware. When I was tending bar a man asked me to give his date doubles (twice the alcohol). It wasn't my date, I wasn't the victim so I could think clearly. He got doubles, her drinks didn't contain alcohol. I looked her in the eyes when she took the first sip to tell her the lack of alcohol was intentional. Eventually I was able to tell her. Her expression was one of anger with the intention of embarrassing him. I don't know if was illegal in 1979. I did know the macho, women chasing managers would agree with my actions. Bar management attitudes make a difference too.
Uncommon Boston I was a bartender when I was younger too and I can say that if a women came to me and told me what was happening I would help her as for my male colleagues I wouldn't trust them at all. Nor would I have trusted the bouncers or the male managers. Either they would have dismissed these women questioned them to death and a couple may have tried to take advantage. We don't know who we can trust whose going to believe us at all. The best we can do when we're in danger is get away from the predator. People on here really love to blame women.
Load More Replies...There was an update on her TikTok that she and her friend went to Urgent Care and filed a police report. Hopefully something comes out of it.
See guys, before you say "not all men" pay attention and be aware that this kind of s**t happens all the time. And it´s up to us to stop that.
My partner (a man) got his drink spiked once (maybe he drunk from the drink intended for his friends or so). He was terrified the next day because he couldn't remeber anything and very very sick. Back then nobody supported him and all ignored it. I am glad that nowadays we take this things more seriously.
And this is why I don't go out to bars / clubs and IF I do, I'm with my fiance or best friends and I only drink drinks I get from the bar myself. (or my fiance / friends) To all the men / women out here pulling this stunt. You're a vile human being and I pray to God one day that you have daughters / sons and they narrowly escape some pos doing this to them so maybe, just maybe you can get a dose of your own bullshit.
Why are men like this? Why can't women having a good time just be left alone?
She did the right thing and hit her feiend to safety before doing anything else. If those guys had seen her hand over the drink, talk to management etc they could have become MORE aggressive. That's why it's safety first in these situations. Are bartenders even supposed to seal ans save a possibly drugged drink as evidence for the police? I'm not sure that's a part of their job description. They certainly can't test it at the bar. (Though maybe that should become a thing). What I'm saying is that she did right by her friend. They're alive. Maybe with the police report filed later while they were safe they can use bar security footage to track down the guys. Also, on a side note, it's a sad world we live in where girls have to say
That they are gay just to get guys to leave them alone. We've all done this BECAUSE we can't assume they won't become more aggressive when we say no. I am sure that this is why they didn't feel safe reporting the moment it happened. Get safe, stay safe, then you contact authorities. If you get mugged or attacked do you just stand there waiting for the police? No, you hightail it to a safe spot ans then call. It's common sense. Okay rant over.
Load More Replies...She had the presence of mind to get herself and her friend out. At the time, that's all she needed to worry about. Job well done.
This happened to me, except I drank the alcohol. Woke up with no memory of what happened but I owe my life to my male friend who noticed I was stumbling, so out of character, so followed me and caught me as I was being led to a car by people he didn't know. It was a miracle as the club was so dark, he was also drunk but alert enough to keep an eye out. Please watch out for each other! Never leave any of your friends to wonder off alone. Little things can save a life.
Any son-of-a-bitch who is willing to drug a women’s drink is capable of doing anything. It’s a fair bet they “ain’t no nice guy”. She did the smartest thing, get her and her already drugged friend the hell to a safe place. You never know if the bartender is in on it themselves or maybe friends of these guys. Best bet is to always get your own drinks. I started doing that “back in the day”, 80’s/90’s, because I got sick of guys thinking I owed them a f*€k or a B.J. because I accepted a drink. Or if you accept the drink, they just sit down at your table! They’d actually say things like, “Oh, you’ll take my drink but I can’t sit down with you?” I always said, “What, you think you purchased me for a lousy drink? Do I have a red light above my head? You think I’m a prostitute? If I were you’d be paying a lot more than that drinks worth! I didn’t ask for a drink from you so piss off.” But even then things were getting dangerous, so I decided to stop even accepting drinks.
Despite being careful (only drink what I ordered, keep glass covered with my hand/napkin, discard it if left alone, etc), I've been drugged. The bartender of a nice jazz bar was the one who put the drug in my drink. I later found out that he was old friends with the dude who assaulted me. Luckily, I half-way came to before all my clothes were off (thank you liver). I managed to get away, surely helped by adrenaline. No, I didn't go to the police that night. I was panicked, couldn't think clearly, had no idea where I was, who the guy was, when I had left the bar, what time it was, how I got to my car, much less manage to safely drive home, or even what I did when I did got home. All I remember is flashes of me bawling as I drove home. It took a full day for me to feel normal-ish and piece together what happened. No evidence by then, so it would've been a weak case at best. My sense of safety and trust in bar staff was completely shattered.
Load More Replies...My son was rufied at a bar playing darts with his wife- happened to take a sip of her drink. Wiped him out. Stealthy bastards.
I once ordered a drink that was spiked and I honestly think it was a mistake. I luckily was in the ladies room when I passed out. I took the fall literally so someone else didn’t. I told the waitress and she took it VERY seriously. Hopefully no one else was hurt that night.
1st time: got to my hotel room safely, thanks to the hotel staff. 2nd time: my friend and the bar staff got me home safely. 3rd time: regained consciousness while I was being raped. So yeah, I don't go out much anymore.
This happened to me, luckily my friends got me out of there.. could have gone much worse
Spot on. Please do not be afraid to ask the bar owner or an employee to help you by escorting you to the Uber or Lyft or standing with you. And thank God you listened to your intuition so many women just dismiss it and then find themselves in trouble because they don’t wanna appear to be weak or discourteous. My friend has it really bad back she got into an elevator, There was a man already in the elevator and she really didn’t feel comfortable instead of exiting the elevator immediately and saying oh my God I’m such an idiot I forgot some thing she chose to ride in the elevator with this guy. It takes seconds for somebody with bad intent to overpower a person. Kudos to you for protecting your friend and yourself and thanks to your intuition!!
The why you didn't took the drink to the police. who have to pay for the lab test, us not the f cop. Getting in a safe place ASAP is what did mattered in this case.
At this point, all bars and bartenders are aware of drinks being tampered with. Do not leave your drinks unattended. Do not accept drinks from anyone you do not know. And if someone is getting pushy with you, let the bar staff know. They will keep an eye on them and bounce them out. They will help you get out safely into an uber and home if you ask. They will call the cops too.
To the people saying she should have taken the beer for evidence, told the bartender, etc. She was in practically a life or death situation. There was no time to think about other things, she needed to get her friend out ASAP, while possibly tipsy/intoxicated. Please stop blaming her
I lost my virginity to a "date rape" when I was 13. I went to a party at a friends house with a boy I thought I knew & could trust. He slipped a Vicodin into my beer and then proceeded to rape me under the pool table in full view of everyone. Tim Hell from Seattle, WA - I wish a slow and painful death upon you.
Never drink s**t from other people. Never leave your drink unattended. Carry pepper spray.
This isn't a new problem, either. When my grandmother went out to a bar with her girlfriends, she'd only order a Coke, and then she wouldn't drink it because she had heard about Micky Finns. That was the 1940s. Yet I still see women in bars who will leave an unfinished drink on the bar to have a smoke or restroom break, and then come back and finish it. Not a smart thing to do.
Next level is keeping the drink, calling the cops, tell the guys to come out, giving the drink and the guys to the cops. That's rare when it's so obvious. I've never had any proof, just realized later that was not normal after 1 drink to feel like that / black out. And after hours it's useless to get tested for ghb since it doesn't last long enough in your blood. So if you can prove it, then please do it. We are so often dismissed because of the lack of proof, so they can pretend it doesn't exist...
It's nothing new, and still women are careless. Choose these night establishments carefully. I would call ahead, ask to speak to the manager and ask him/her what are they doing to protect their female customers from sexual predators.. Isn't there better way to have fun than have drinks in a night clubs????
If you're at the bar having a good time, things might be different. Maybe you're already tipsy, maybe you just think, "Hey, free drink!" You don't know.
Load More Replies...The police very often don't do anything. That's why only a very tiny percentage of reported rapes ever get investigated and an even smaller amount get prosecuted.
Load More Replies...Sorry Hans but it is no good saying you don't mean to say something and then say it anyway. Every single part of your comment is about what the girls did wrong or what they should have done. I think they did pretty good. They kept themselves safe. It seemed like this woman's main objective in that moment was getting her friend home in an Uber. In the moment, you do what you feel you need to do to remove yourself from the situation. She has later contacted the police and the bar. Your comment is like many, many we hear. We skip the outrage about what these men are doing and go straight to what women should be doing to protect themselves. Then there are people (and I don't mean you) who would criticise these women for not protecting themselves and then in another post, comment that women shouldn't be wary of men because not all men do things like this.
Load More Replies...Yes yes women are to blame for everything that happens. We know the perpetrators are never to blame. Women deserve what they get we know we've heard it a million times. It's not good enough to survive we must do everything like you say bc you were in this situation with us right? Bc you know what happened right? Bc you were there right? Bc you know exactly how women are to blame no matter what we do. It's never good enough that we did what we had to do in the moment to stay safe. It's always what we could do. Sometimes we are not equipped to do everything victim blamers want us to do.
Load More Replies...Or maybe we could raise and teach people not to drug other people.....
Load More Replies...Didn't your mother teach you to never drug women at bars? Why did you have to think about it? Seriously, isn't this taught anymore?
Load More Replies...Why is it always "women should change their behavior so this doesn't happen" instead of "men should change their behavior"?
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