Woman Enrages Boyfriend’s Sexist Uncle By Bringing Flowers To A Family Get-Together
What do you do when you have an irreconcilable difference with a member of your significant other’s family? It’s a tough one. Because like or not, there will be occasions when you are forced to try to be civil to one another. It’s either that or a potential lifetime of frosty silences and less-than-pleasant family get-togethers.
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Reddit user u/shygirlturnedsassy has different ideas, however.
Instead of pretending that everything is OK and her boyfriend’s uncle’s misogynist behavior can be tolerated, she chose to instead go on the attack and show him that she doesn’t approve and that she doesn’t care what he thinks about it either.
Together with her supportive and understanding boyfriend, they hatched a plan. A plan that would make their feelings about his attitudes crystal clear, whilst making him apoplectic with impotent rage in the process.
Sometimes it’s necessary to put principles ahead of family and stand your ground. Shygirlturnedsassy told Bored Panda that the incident, which happened a year ago, has caused a rupture in the family. “Since then, he and his family have acted in some bizarrely entitled ways,” she told us. “This has caused my boyfriend and his sister to sever ties with them.”
“I believe that the uncle’s attitude is a product of his upbringing,” she continues. “His brother, ie. my boyfriend’s father, was able to change his worldview when he met his wife, who is from a very progressive family. So now, he’s the exact opposite of his brother. And yes, my boyfriend and I do have the support of his parents, his sister and his mother’s side of the family.”
“I’m from India and yes people here can be sexist. But I don’t believe that sexism is endemic to my culture. It’s something women deal with almost everywhere. Just look at the way so-called developed nations are taking away reproductive rights.”
She has a good point.
The post received applause all round, with over 50K upvotes on Reddit and a ton of positive and supportive comments. What do you think? Have you ever had to confront an awkward and unpleasant family member? How did you go about it? Let us know in the comments below!
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Maybe but we know for certain that he is VERY insecure!
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Use caution when poking that awful family member. I had a uncle who hated "f**s" and he never let me forget it. At a family wedding, I gave back to him as good as I've been getting for years. I went on a vicious screed, letting that sob know exactly what I thought of him. Later that day he died of a stroke, AND It WAS ALL MY FAULT! Not really, but that's what many of the haters said. That incident was 12 or so years ago and a lot of the extended family still won't talk to me. Ask me if I care?
It's called karma. I'm glad you don't care. He deserved no respect from anyone.
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Now wait a minute, giving a man flowers is an old tradition of showing ones respect and admiration for that man back in medieval times, you know when pink was a masculine color and roses in particular represented manhood. And cooking? Doesnt that uncle know most professional chefs are men, cooking is a very masculine task. I mean what is masculine or not is subjective to the times and changes all the time. People need to stop pigeonholing things
Yep. Pink used to be considered a very masculine colour, since it was close to red, which is seen as a colour symbolizing strength (still is). While blue was considered a feminine colour, since it's much more 'gentle'. It didn't change until fairly recently, when people arbitrarily decided to switch them. It's all about perception. Colour is just a spectrum of light, people!
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I love it when people find ways to shut out the hurtful people in their lives. Fortunately, there are still some good people in the world. For example, my father has always been on the old fashioned side and believes in being the “alpha male” and strong man of the family. Recently however, my parents and I found reason to believe that my brother may be gay or bi. Despite his beliefs of how he wants himself to appear, my dad said, when I asked him, that despite what he thinks, he would love and except my brother and I for who we are. We still disagree on many topics such as this, but he is always polite and can accept the fact that he might be wrong about some things. Is he perfect? No. But like the rest of us he is trying his hardest and doing so with love.
He's being accepting, loving, and, most importantly, he's trying to understand. That makes all the difference in the world.
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My husband cooked dinner for me for our third date and I didn't think it was weird at all! It was super sweet, especially because he knew I'm vegetarian and made sure to find a delicious meat-free dish to make. Honestly, it made me really happy after just getting divorced from a guy whose cooking repertoire mostly focused on frozen french fries.
This woman sounds like a really smart lady and her boyfriend is a keeper. The uncle needs to realize that we don't live in 1955 anymore and that no one appreciates his backwards, misogynistic views. Although some people here are claiming that she made things worse in the family, I don't think that's what happened. Clearly her boyfriend's family supported their relationship and supported her trolling the uncle.
I think you should purchase the uncle a caveman costume and sew pink flowers all over it and gift it to him at Christmas.
I can just imagine her bringing the UNCLE pink flowers and a teddy bear
my husband had to get a procedure at the hospital and while he was home recovering i ran out to get all his favorite snacks. i came across a really pretty bouquet so i decided to buy them for him. when i walked in the living room his eyes lit up and he asked what the flowers were for u. i said for u, they're get well flowers. he was so happy. not sure why nice gestures and pretty things are considered a woman's domain.
Congrats to this lady for finding such a decent guy. It's rare to find one who cooks and isn't insecure in his manhood. I rought my once boyfriend flowers at work, not to p**s anyone off but because it's a nice thing to do. If people get upset over nice gesture that makes them a creep.
they didn't say it was the biggest problem in their life.
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If he didn't want to get trolled, he shouldn't have tried to insert himself into someone else's relationship on multiple occasions. I might see your point if he'd minded his own business, but that ain't the case.
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But uncle challenging them and not leaving them alone is okay?
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Masculinity and Femininity become toxic when they are used to define socially acceptable roles, emotions, and interests based solely on gender. i.e. the uncle freaking out over the boyfriend cooking. People should just be allowed to be who they are without someone saying "be a man/woman". Labeling it "Toxic Masculinity/Femininity" acknowledges that this is a societal problem, not an individual problem.
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Could be a german story. That guy sounds like my uncle.
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Please reread. You are all kinds of confused. Helpful hint: it's not the grandfather
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Tell us why you think the uncle was right to be so hateful. Thanks.
Load More Replies... Maybe but we know for certain that he is VERY insecure!
Load More Replies... Use caution when poking that awful family member. I had a uncle who hated "f**s" and he never let me forget it. At a family wedding, I gave back to him as good as I've been getting for years. I went on a vicious screed, letting that sob know exactly what I thought of him. Later that day he died of a stroke, AND It WAS ALL MY FAULT! Not really, but that's what many of the haters said. That incident was 12 or so years ago and a lot of the extended family still won't talk to me. Ask me if I care?
It's called karma. I'm glad you don't care. He deserved no respect from anyone.
Load More Replies... Now wait a minute, giving a man flowers is an old tradition of showing ones respect and admiration for that man back in medieval times, you know when pink was a masculine color and roses in particular represented manhood. And cooking? Doesnt that uncle know most professional chefs are men, cooking is a very masculine task. I mean what is masculine or not is subjective to the times and changes all the time. People need to stop pigeonholing things
Yep. Pink used to be considered a very masculine colour, since it was close to red, which is seen as a colour symbolizing strength (still is). While blue was considered a feminine colour, since it's much more 'gentle'. It didn't change until fairly recently, when people arbitrarily decided to switch them. It's all about perception. Colour is just a spectrum of light, people!
Load More Replies... I love it when people find ways to shut out the hurtful people in their lives. Fortunately, there are still some good people in the world. For example, my father has always been on the old fashioned side and believes in being the “alpha male” and strong man of the family. Recently however, my parents and I found reason to believe that my brother may be gay or bi. Despite his beliefs of how he wants himself to appear, my dad said, when I asked him, that despite what he thinks, he would love and except my brother and I for who we are. We still disagree on many topics such as this, but he is always polite and can accept the fact that he might be wrong about some things. Is he perfect? No. But like the rest of us he is trying his hardest and doing so with love.
He's being accepting, loving, and, most importantly, he's trying to understand. That makes all the difference in the world.
Load More Replies... My husband cooked dinner for me for our third date and I didn't think it was weird at all! It was super sweet, especially because he knew I'm vegetarian and made sure to find a delicious meat-free dish to make. Honestly, it made me really happy after just getting divorced from a guy whose cooking repertoire mostly focused on frozen french fries.
This woman sounds like a really smart lady and her boyfriend is a keeper. The uncle needs to realize that we don't live in 1955 anymore and that no one appreciates his backwards, misogynistic views. Although some people here are claiming that she made things worse in the family, I don't think that's what happened. Clearly her boyfriend's family supported their relationship and supported her trolling the uncle.
I think you should purchase the uncle a caveman costume and sew pink flowers all over it and gift it to him at Christmas.
I can just imagine her bringing the UNCLE pink flowers and a teddy bear
my husband had to get a procedure at the hospital and while he was home recovering i ran out to get all his favorite snacks. i came across a really pretty bouquet so i decided to buy them for him. when i walked in the living room his eyes lit up and he asked what the flowers were for u. i said for u, they're get well flowers. he was so happy. not sure why nice gestures and pretty things are considered a woman's domain.
Congrats to this lady for finding such a decent guy. It's rare to find one who cooks and isn't insecure in his manhood. I rought my once boyfriend flowers at work, not to p**s anyone off but because it's a nice thing to do. If people get upset over nice gesture that makes them a creep.
they didn't say it was the biggest problem in their life.
Load More Replies... If he didn't want to get trolled, he shouldn't have tried to insert himself into someone else's relationship on multiple occasions. I might see your point if he'd minded his own business, but that ain't the case.
Load More Replies... But uncle challenging them and not leaving them alone is okay?
Load More Replies... Masculinity and Femininity become toxic when they are used to define socially acceptable roles, emotions, and interests based solely on gender. i.e. the uncle freaking out over the boyfriend cooking. People should just be allowed to be who they are without someone saying "be a man/woman". Labeling it "Toxic Masculinity/Femininity" acknowledges that this is a societal problem, not an individual problem.
Load More Replies... Could be a german story. That guy sounds like my uncle.
Load More Replies... Please reread. You are all kinds of confused. Helpful hint: it's not the grandfather
Load More Replies... Tell us why you think the uncle was right to be so hateful. Thanks.
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