Scary Girlfriend Set 22 Rules For Her Boyfriend, So The Internet Gave Him Some Surprising Advice
Every relationship has its own rules. Mostly implied, sometimes spoken. But one scary girlfriend decided to put it in writing and list every demand she had for her man. The insane dating rules probably would have remained between the two of them, if it wasn’t for a surprising turn of events. You wouldn’t share such intimate details yourself, no matter how crazy your girlfriend was, right?
The guy traded in his car and left the “contract” inside. Later, Twitter user @kkeyes96 found the proof of an abusive relationship and uploaded it online. As it went viral, men all over the internet had moments of silence for their brother, hoping he eventually separated from the overly attached girlfriend. In another twist of the bizarre story, @kkeyes96 had to end up deleting the post. “Too many people who couldn’t read” had mistakenly thought that this clingy girlfriend was his own and started to talk trash about her.
Scroll down to read the rules of a crazy ex-girlfriend and tell us in the comments if at least two of them sound reasonable.
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One guy was so shocked to find a ridiculous relationship “contract” in a used car, he just had to post it online
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Share on FacebookI hate the comments like "Maybe he cheated and this was the negotiation". Excuse me, what negotiation?! She is an abusive person! And she literally threats the guy! "If I catch you around girls, I kill you". That's a serious threat. My ex boyfriend was like that. He wanted me to send him photos of my outfits every morning so he could see if I am dressed modestly enough. He didn't want me to paint my nails red, because it was "slutty". He thought in his paranoic mind that I would go take the garbage out and cheat on him in the meantime. I never, ever gave him a reason to be jealous. He was anyway. I broke up with him when he tried to beat me in a club because I wasn't dancing holding hands with him all the time. That's right. No dancing with other guys, just standing freaking NEXT TO HIM and dancing. Please please please, anyone whose partner starts giving hints of a controlling or abusive behaviour, run away and save yourselves.
Flipping heck! No-one should treat people like this! Rule setters will never be happy, whatever you do. If someone cheats than you can only really forgive or walk away - setting rules won't stop a person doing it again. You can't control someone without it being damaging. Ola - I'm very pleased you are out of that relationship. May you find happiness.
Load More Replies...Jesus, I've seen Dom/ sub contracts with more leeway and caring for the other person.
My thought was this is some sort of dom/sub contract, but then I realised it's too f--ing scary for that... Holy c**p!!!
Load More Replies...This is horrible!! Yea it's a list now but what happens when it becomes physical?? My cousin was DRIVING down a highway and his gf just went off on him and sprayed air freshener in his face and when he pulled over she beat him with a bat. Broke a couple ribs, serious bruises on the face. And then she tore her shirt and started running down the median yelling "rape" and an officer stopped to help her. Luckily, seeing how banged up my cousin was and she didn't have a mark, she was arrested and he came home to recoup. Women are just as capable to abuse men as men are to abuse women. Stand up to abuse!!
Happened to my bro in law. Beat him with a bat,bite marks all over his body, calls the cops after ripping her shirt and yells battery. Cops were sooo nice to him when they saw not a mark on her. Yes, women batterers do exist.
Load More Replies...This was all found in a used car. Sooo the dude was soo creeped out that he moved and sold his car so that the girl couldn't find him anymore? I'm not sure that's what really happened but maybe no one knows so this is my theory. Good for him for RUNNING. This list is something to run fast and far from.
Maybe they had a joint loan on the vehicle and he went "missing" after looking at another girl. She then traded in her vehicle and his for a larger down payment on something nicer.
Load More Replies...Insecurity is the biggest turn off. Grow up. Guys will look at other girls/guys and so will girls. It doesn't mean anything other than the person is curious. We're all curious. That's how we found America and how stuff gets invented.
I've been married 44 years. I have men I'm friends with, my husband has girls he's friends with, so what's wrong with that. If I was him, my old man would have run and divorced me years ago.
Load More Replies...I mean...sometimes there are unspoken "rules" in relationships, but this is controlling and insane!!! lol omg.
The first one being "Don't stick your d**k in crazy". This list is a perfect example why.
Load More Replies...Don't need to read the rules, though I will in a minute, to know that anyone setting rules is bad news.
If you're a nice, interesting and kind person, the people you love will naturally want to spend time with you. If you're boring, mean and nasty, you'll have to force them to do so. It's as easy as that. I'd wager this girl falls into the latter category. If she had friends and a social life beyond her boyfriend/human pet, she'd need alone time away from him to persue it and would be to preoccupied with it to begrudge him hangimg out with his friends.
...I hope not. I mean, I just hope that a 12 year old doesn't know about getting/giving head. (yes, I know it still happens, but still. this isn't Brave New World,)
Load More Replies...Why are we getting outraged by a thing some guy found in a car? We have NO IDEA what the context is. When my friend got married she sent us all fake rules so we could laugh about how other brides are crazy. Who knows, but totally, let's freak out about a piece of paper.
Doesn't matter what the context is. Whoever wrote it for who is still f****d up. You don't set stipulations like this. B***h is crazy no matter what the guy did. Walk away.
Load More Replies...This is not a crazy woman situation. This is a controlling, manipulative, and abusive person. Period. Whether a man or woman wrote this is not relevant. If someone treats you like this, save the note as evidence, and get the hell away.
"I'm notifying the police, please do not call me'. would be even better. Cuz, if he looks at another woman... what's gonna happen if he dumps her? I mean, really.
Load More Replies...I'm with the one saying that it's not cute or funny coming from a man, so we should'nt tolerate it either when it's coming from a woman. Men put up with a lot of s**t from women. Abusive behavior has no gender...
I once went out with a girl who was controlling as this. 1 week after she started being (how do I put this?) 'difficult', I walked and never looked back. Had to change my phone number because she kept calling me. Lucky escape I think.
You did get lucky. A lot of these people start stalking the ex.
Load More Replies...My ex-husband would have added even more demands to this list. This only proves that women can be abusers, to. If anyone is faced with - well I was going to say unreasonable, but most "demands" are unreasonable - then get out as soon as you safely can. Keep anything like this list as proof. Document behavior. This list isn't a funny thing. It's a warning.
And these women could win an Academy Award for their acting skills. They play the poor victim, and he gets arrested. Runnnnn!!!!
Load More Replies...Sorry Mom, but I can't make it to your birthday party. You're a girl and I don't want to be murdered.
and Keegan and Mo and ... what I really want to know is who goes to Honda all the time like that?
Load More Replies...If Kayne West gets his way and the 13th Amendment is abolished this is what an indentured servitude contract might look like.
Was this for real? All I can think about when I read this, is that is joke and it was meant in a playful way, and that there is another list with rules for her, too... I don't know! I don't like things without context! :(
Except there's nothing "playful" about the tone of a single thing in that screed.
Load More Replies...That woman needs therapy ASAP! And that guy needs to get the hell out of that relationship.
Nooo...nooooo... omg why would anyone do that? I srsly hope they just came up with all of this as a game or something... Even if he cheated on her and that's her reaction - just...don't be together? This clearly doesn't work and those demands are off the charts, no matter what...In no way is this a healthy thing to do. How are you even suppose to follow all this? And - what happens if you don't? Murder time or what? Man people are weird..
I think this list showed up on the net years ago. Anyway, I've known three girls who were as controlling with their boyfriends as this one and every single one of them was a cheater. I've come to believe people who are that bothered about their partner interacting with the opposite sex are just projecting, because cheaters tend to believe everyone is like them. If your partner is the type to cheat stupid rules like that won't stop them and even if they are not that kind of person your controlling behaviour and lack of trust in them will push them away.
Controlling people are scary. What if they have kids? How controlling will she be of them as well? I have one request of any dude I hang out with: Try and love me as long as you can. If you can't for some reason, let's talk about it. If it sucks, we can leave.
Pretty sure this was written by my cheating ex-wife.... She was so controlling I had to tell her what I was going to buy her for Christmas so she would allow me to leave the house to get it.
Glad you got out, man! Hope you're doing alright. :)
Load More Replies...Don't complicate a simple thing. Only one word of advice necessary ...... R U N ! ! !
he might need therapy to.... I mean, dating that has to be traumatic.
Load More Replies...It isn't an excuse by any means, but it sounds like it was written by someone quite young and not really experienced in relationships of the heart. It also sounds like a "We'll get back together if you REALLY want...but you have to follow these rules to keep me because I am 16 and a little immature."
she's threatening his very soul. i don't believe he ever cheated. i can't really relate to this but she is a major b***h and an abusive girlfriend i agree with "run!!" but then again i would't cuz that could make you lose your life i would call the police on someone else's phone also i would keep that paper.
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Where the actual f*** is this girl!? Imma go over there and give her a piece of her mind. This is NOT ok. I would never ever do this and nobody should
I'd like to think that whoever wrote this wasn't being serious, but nothing here, except maybe "how high princess" strikes me as a joke.
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Sounds like he cheated on her and she took him back. Granted, to be demanding of some of these things is a bit outlandish. If, IF, that is the case (cheating), then IMO he should be willing to do whatever is necessary to keep her/repair relationship or whatever IF they're both in agreement. But, he can ask for just as much from her. Controlling? Absolutely. Healthy? Absolutely not. But not my relationship. Just my perception of what might be going on here. Careful with the judgments, y'all. All we can see is one side of this and choose to make a comment based upon our own experience and not the actual circumstances.
I'm a woman and let me offer this... this list was something I would write years ago, before my divorce. I've been taken down a peg or 10 now in life and learned this is Completly ridiculous to act this way.
At least two were reasonable? Sure. 13. I am allowed to do a phone check when EVER I please 17. You are NOT to ditch me for your friends 18. Austin does NOT CONTROL WHEN I HANG OUT WITH YOU! 19. We are to go on a legit date once every two weeks at least However, the Caps and hysteria kind of make even these reasonable items sound CRAY. Run.
#6. Well, if he wasn't allowed to look at a single girl, then I think that frees him up to look at all of them. Just sayin'.
It's called "borderline personality disorder," maybe with a touch of histrionic personality disorder. My advice to either one of them is to start drinking... heavily.
This is demonic control, and any guy/girl would be a fool to get with anyone damaged this bad. Only God can heal her hurt! 😎
I have been married for 10yrs now with three boys, all ours. My wife told me when we got married, just be loyal to our marriage. She think it's sad that a woman would go this bad for a guy.
This is one of many reasons why I don't interact with society unless I have to this day an age.....
Um half the list is don't be around other girls ...which is what I expect of my girl not to be around other guys. The other half is don't hang out with your friends which you clearly get drunk and make bad choices with. I can follow the first half of this list
EXACTLY what my ex-Russian wife of 15 years said across many pages and phone calls. However, the same DID NOT APPLY to her. She had a stable of at least 41 men before I found out and divorced her. She married the first "John" another Russian, a couple of years ago. Now they have a new baby from Hell. Karma is wonderful!
EXACTLY what my ex-Russian wife of 15 years said across many pages and phone calls. However, the same DID NOT APPLY to her. She had a stable of at least 41 men before I found out and divorced her. She married the first "John" another Russian, a couple of years ago.
That woman is nuts. Doesn't she know that a man can tell you he loves you ten times a day and STILL cheat on you? Lawsy. I feel sorry for this guy though - he doesn't deserve someone like her. Trust and communication are extremely important in a marriage - so are friends. I hope he found someone that truly cared about him.
I think this was like not a real list. Like, she didn't want to get back with him, but if she did, here are the things that would be x'd out of the relarionship because they always led to arguments
If you have an ounce of sanity in you now. use it to get far far away from this insane B***H. If you can't you will be a puppet on a short string for the rest of your life. But then some people, thrive on this kind of abuse. Either way I feel sorry for you.
this is BS. someone just sat down and wrote this for fun. no way, a woman would write: you cheat on me, i kill you. a smart woman enjoys the relationship as long as everything goes well. when the problems occur, she talks to “him.”. if he hurt her for no reason, (let us say she gave him everything and was always there for him especially all those times he threatend to kill himself if she doesn’t come back to him), then it is time to walk away with a most terrible pain in your heart. but then...then she remembers that:” der hölle zorn ist nichts gegen die rache einer verletzen frau” and wait for that moment where he actually wished that one if his suicide attempts, worked.
how come a mean crazy woman like this can get a boyfriend and I can't?
Love the advice from leeferal, well worth listening to whoever you are.
Whatever, dump the b***h or you will live on your knees until the divorce.
The only one that I would say is reasonable is about dating at least once every 2 weeks. That is helpful in a long term relationship. Other than that is is abusive and possessive.
After reading that list a second time, I'm convinced that it was written after the guy was caught cheating. The items on the list suggest that the guy was drunk, and with some friends, at a Honda dealership, and he was hit-on by some girl, and he hooked-up with her and was caught. He then begged his GF to take him back, and she responded with that list. Good for her! ... maybe?
Wow. Just wow. I really hope this guy the f**k away from this psycho b***h.
Anyone giving a list like that to me, would be turfed out before they even knew what happened, as this is nothing but abusive behavior.
I'm a woman, but I say dump her and run, but as someone said, keep it as evidence if you end up belting her.
this girl needs to watch "the handmade's tale" and learn some humility, before aunt Lydia shows up at her door... =)
This actually looks like the response to something that happened, by the line "you are not to get angry with me ever again." Possibly he was a jealous boyfriend and she found out he, himself, was unfaithful. Who knows. Bottom line is this is not a healthy response and relationships just don't work this way. She needed to walk away and so did hue.
I don't quite understand, is it the guy who's car it is now, or the previous person's car?
Even if she found that he had cheated or he was just spending loads more time with his friends, this in no way a healthy relationship. It's completely toxic and it should be over.
He should rather join the French Foreign Legion, they have less rules :-)
Time to grow up little girl or you will live a long life all alone.
Exactly!While I was reading this I was like GROW UP!
Load More Replies...Anyone thought that maybe he's done something awful and begged her for another chance and she's made an extreme list to see how serious he is? I very much doubt these are all stuck to or enforced but without knowing the background and circumstances it's never good to judge someone. It could be a joke, it could be made up, it could be anything
To me it seems like this was a list created after he cheated...if so, of course she's having some trust issues. She'll get past this "list phase" with time. She's probably just hurt.
There is NO excuse for manipulation & abusive behavior — EVER. He cheated? Dump him.Simple as that.
Load More Replies...Even if the guy did cheat and that's some "negotiation" that's still abusive behavior and that's b******t. The thing about cheating is, you either forgive someone or you don't. Period. Sure, you aren't going to totally trust them right away. It's going to be normal for you to have your doubts, but ultimately, you have a decision to make. Either have faith in them that they're going to do the right thing and NOT cheat or leave them. If you can't trust them you sure as hell don't have the right to turn into an abusive piece of c**p like the woman that wrote this list of "rules". Don't put up with this s**t from ANYONE, EVER.
Whether he'd been cheating or not, this is the wrong response. Either you can trust your partner, in which case this stuff is absolutely unnecessary, or you can't, in which case you should be out the door. Even the best intended "behavior contracts" are just a Band-Aid to hide the real problem.
This isn't new, and I swear I originally saw it posted on BP a year ago or more...
Reminds me of Courtney and Duncan but I really didn't think ANYONE was like this for real
How do people like this get into relationships? Who reads a list like that, or deals with a person like that and thinks it is in anyway preferable to just being alone? Sounds like a young teenage couple, probably in high school and thinks that this sort of thing is in anyway normal or acceptable. Teenagers watch all of these TV shows and movies where Hollywood has made the controlling wife/girlfriend as a norm so inexperienced teenagers think that this is how relationships work. If that woman is an adult, well she still hasn't figured that out. As for it sounding like he cheated on her and she took him back...than she is a huge idiot for thinking that anything that she said is going to make any sort of difference. I would rather be celibate and left alone for the rest of my life than date someone who thought they had some sort of right to control my actions.
This behaviour seems super prevalent. Like I was briefly seeing this guy and he was constantly fussing about us getting together "for real", because he then wouldn't be able to hang with his friends. I was like what sort of control freaks have you been dating until now?! Plus he pretty much demanded that we show each other our phones and stuff "for fun". Gladly. I mean you wouldn't be understanding s**t because most of my communication is in my first language which you don't speak, but hey.
He sounds like a jerk. Even my husband of 27 years would NEVER look at my phone. It's just rude.
Load More Replies...I highly feel the need to apologize in the name of all (normal) women to all boys and men who ever experienced something like this. I'm very, very sorry that someone did this to you. This is not ok, under no circumstance. And please, if you are currently in a relationship like this: Walk away. For your own good, please walk away. That girl probably is just some delusional maniac with low selfesteem, but following those orders on her list will lead to the boyfriend's isolation from friends and probably family. This is a kind of behavior is often found in psychopaths...
Not really a male/female issue - men do it to their partners too. It's an awful way to treat someone.
Load More Replies...I've personally known women like that. One was telling me all about how she would never let her boyfriend talk with his exes (I mean if they parted as friends who are you to tell him he has to cut her out of his life?). The same woman had cheated on her ex-husband repeatedly and a coworker and I had to twice persuade her not to meet a dude from work at a bar, because we knew what would happen.
Load More Replies...This just seems to me a girl just trying to be funny with his bf, no psycho at all.
doubtful, honestly. There was no sense of humor in any of those things. there were no catchy smilies, no indications it was meant as ironic.
Load More Replies...This list is so wrong in so many ways. If someone gives you a list like this leave. And if you are in a relationship that makes you feel you want to demand these types of things you should not be in a relationship and might want to get help.
Sooooo, this is working for them?? LOL, they are OBVIOUSLY (hopefully) VERY young!!!
Even if this particular case IS a joke, I've known quite a few women who make laundry lists like this for their significant others. It's disgusting, abusive and manipulative.
Load More Replies...Personal opinion. He cheated on her, and she took him back and she wrote these "rules" to feel in control after. Either way, not healthy and shouldnt stay together
If this was real It would show how idiot people can be. The girl who wrote this "contract" for being an abusive control freak, the guy who has to obey the contract for tolerating a girlfriend to behave like she's the personification of an evil mother and and evil mother in law in one person. But as I said, this is just a joke.
i used to have to get receipts and bus tickets no more than 20 mins apart - to prove i had genuinely been shopping - if you havent lived like that then you really dont know what you are talking about
Load More Replies...I just have one word for this guy: RUN!!! For the girl: If you love something, let it go. If it never comes back, it was never yours in the first place. If it does come back, cherish it forever.
Sounds like he f****d up major and it's her over-the-top list of what he needs to do to get her back. Bad relationship. They need to say "see ya"
Damn... I need a list! Never in 20 years thought of it. Something like: 1. Hugs with females may last no longer than 10 seconds. Hugging longer is presumed as forplay. 2. No kissing on the lips with whom ever than me (or maybe the kids). 3. No sex (including oral or showing/touching private parts, unless you need to for a medical needs with a legit preferably non sexy doctor) with whom ever than me (but like... that one is obvious right...?) 4. No holding hands with whom ever than me and the kids. 5. No bad talking about me or our relationship to any female (especially you mom) 6. No leading on other woman, when they laugh just assume that it’s because they like you, you’re not that funny. Stop making jokes and talk about your kids and wife and how happy you are. 7. Stop those puppy eyes, I know you know what i’ Talking about. Damn... this s**t needs to be specific... any suggestions?
well, in normal relationships this list is ridiculous, but what if this is some kind of (naughty) game and girl also have same list? :D sadly it looks like girl was serious, she had big problems and i'm sorry for her a bit more than for guy, which can leave her anytime. but she will suffer till she realizes that she needs professional help (or he really cheated and she's trying to look like if she had self esteem ).
Anyone - male or female - who writes c**p like this for another person to obey is nothing more than human trash.
Load More Replies...Would she let him? As my hubby said this morning, "Sounds like a bunny boiler to me!"
Load More Replies...I hate the comments like "Maybe he cheated and this was the negotiation". Excuse me, what negotiation?! She is an abusive person! And she literally threats the guy! "If I catch you around girls, I kill you". That's a serious threat. My ex boyfriend was like that. He wanted me to send him photos of my outfits every morning so he could see if I am dressed modestly enough. He didn't want me to paint my nails red, because it was "slutty". He thought in his paranoic mind that I would go take the garbage out and cheat on him in the meantime. I never, ever gave him a reason to be jealous. He was anyway. I broke up with him when he tried to beat me in a club because I wasn't dancing holding hands with him all the time. That's right. No dancing with other guys, just standing freaking NEXT TO HIM and dancing. Please please please, anyone whose partner starts giving hints of a controlling or abusive behaviour, run away and save yourselves.
Flipping heck! No-one should treat people like this! Rule setters will never be happy, whatever you do. If someone cheats than you can only really forgive or walk away - setting rules won't stop a person doing it again. You can't control someone without it being damaging. Ola - I'm very pleased you are out of that relationship. May you find happiness.
Load More Replies...Jesus, I've seen Dom/ sub contracts with more leeway and caring for the other person.
My thought was this is some sort of dom/sub contract, but then I realised it's too f--ing scary for that... Holy c**p!!!
Load More Replies...This is horrible!! Yea it's a list now but what happens when it becomes physical?? My cousin was DRIVING down a highway and his gf just went off on him and sprayed air freshener in his face and when he pulled over she beat him with a bat. Broke a couple ribs, serious bruises on the face. And then she tore her shirt and started running down the median yelling "rape" and an officer stopped to help her. Luckily, seeing how banged up my cousin was and she didn't have a mark, she was arrested and he came home to recoup. Women are just as capable to abuse men as men are to abuse women. Stand up to abuse!!
Happened to my bro in law. Beat him with a bat,bite marks all over his body, calls the cops after ripping her shirt and yells battery. Cops were sooo nice to him when they saw not a mark on her. Yes, women batterers do exist.
Load More Replies...This was all found in a used car. Sooo the dude was soo creeped out that he moved and sold his car so that the girl couldn't find him anymore? I'm not sure that's what really happened but maybe no one knows so this is my theory. Good for him for RUNNING. This list is something to run fast and far from.
Maybe they had a joint loan on the vehicle and he went "missing" after looking at another girl. She then traded in her vehicle and his for a larger down payment on something nicer.
Load More Replies...Insecurity is the biggest turn off. Grow up. Guys will look at other girls/guys and so will girls. It doesn't mean anything other than the person is curious. We're all curious. That's how we found America and how stuff gets invented.
I've been married 44 years. I have men I'm friends with, my husband has girls he's friends with, so what's wrong with that. If I was him, my old man would have run and divorced me years ago.
Load More Replies...I mean...sometimes there are unspoken "rules" in relationships, but this is controlling and insane!!! lol omg.
The first one being "Don't stick your d**k in crazy". This list is a perfect example why.
Load More Replies...Don't need to read the rules, though I will in a minute, to know that anyone setting rules is bad news.
If you're a nice, interesting and kind person, the people you love will naturally want to spend time with you. If you're boring, mean and nasty, you'll have to force them to do so. It's as easy as that. I'd wager this girl falls into the latter category. If she had friends and a social life beyond her boyfriend/human pet, she'd need alone time away from him to persue it and would be to preoccupied with it to begrudge him hangimg out with his friends.
...I hope not. I mean, I just hope that a 12 year old doesn't know about getting/giving head. (yes, I know it still happens, but still. this isn't Brave New World,)
Load More Replies...Why are we getting outraged by a thing some guy found in a car? We have NO IDEA what the context is. When my friend got married she sent us all fake rules so we could laugh about how other brides are crazy. Who knows, but totally, let's freak out about a piece of paper.
Doesn't matter what the context is. Whoever wrote it for who is still f****d up. You don't set stipulations like this. B***h is crazy no matter what the guy did. Walk away.
Load More Replies...This is not a crazy woman situation. This is a controlling, manipulative, and abusive person. Period. Whether a man or woman wrote this is not relevant. If someone treats you like this, save the note as evidence, and get the hell away.
"I'm notifying the police, please do not call me'. would be even better. Cuz, if he looks at another woman... what's gonna happen if he dumps her? I mean, really.
Load More Replies...I'm with the one saying that it's not cute or funny coming from a man, so we should'nt tolerate it either when it's coming from a woman. Men put up with a lot of s**t from women. Abusive behavior has no gender...
I once went out with a girl who was controlling as this. 1 week after she started being (how do I put this?) 'difficult', I walked and never looked back. Had to change my phone number because she kept calling me. Lucky escape I think.
You did get lucky. A lot of these people start stalking the ex.
Load More Replies...My ex-husband would have added even more demands to this list. This only proves that women can be abusers, to. If anyone is faced with - well I was going to say unreasonable, but most "demands" are unreasonable - then get out as soon as you safely can. Keep anything like this list as proof. Document behavior. This list isn't a funny thing. It's a warning.
And these women could win an Academy Award for their acting skills. They play the poor victim, and he gets arrested. Runnnnn!!!!
Load More Replies...Sorry Mom, but I can't make it to your birthday party. You're a girl and I don't want to be murdered.
and Keegan and Mo and ... what I really want to know is who goes to Honda all the time like that?
Load More Replies...If Kayne West gets his way and the 13th Amendment is abolished this is what an indentured servitude contract might look like.
Was this for real? All I can think about when I read this, is that is joke and it was meant in a playful way, and that there is another list with rules for her, too... I don't know! I don't like things without context! :(
Except there's nothing "playful" about the tone of a single thing in that screed.
Load More Replies...That woman needs therapy ASAP! And that guy needs to get the hell out of that relationship.
Nooo...nooooo... omg why would anyone do that? I srsly hope they just came up with all of this as a game or something... Even if he cheated on her and that's her reaction - just...don't be together? This clearly doesn't work and those demands are off the charts, no matter what...In no way is this a healthy thing to do. How are you even suppose to follow all this? And - what happens if you don't? Murder time or what? Man people are weird..
I think this list showed up on the net years ago. Anyway, I've known three girls who were as controlling with their boyfriends as this one and every single one of them was a cheater. I've come to believe people who are that bothered about their partner interacting with the opposite sex are just projecting, because cheaters tend to believe everyone is like them. If your partner is the type to cheat stupid rules like that won't stop them and even if they are not that kind of person your controlling behaviour and lack of trust in them will push them away.
Controlling people are scary. What if they have kids? How controlling will she be of them as well? I have one request of any dude I hang out with: Try and love me as long as you can. If you can't for some reason, let's talk about it. If it sucks, we can leave.
Pretty sure this was written by my cheating ex-wife.... She was so controlling I had to tell her what I was going to buy her for Christmas so she would allow me to leave the house to get it.
Glad you got out, man! Hope you're doing alright. :)
Load More Replies...Don't complicate a simple thing. Only one word of advice necessary ...... R U N ! ! !
he might need therapy to.... I mean, dating that has to be traumatic.
Load More Replies...It isn't an excuse by any means, but it sounds like it was written by someone quite young and not really experienced in relationships of the heart. It also sounds like a "We'll get back together if you REALLY want...but you have to follow these rules to keep me because I am 16 and a little immature."
she's threatening his very soul. i don't believe he ever cheated. i can't really relate to this but she is a major b***h and an abusive girlfriend i agree with "run!!" but then again i would't cuz that could make you lose your life i would call the police on someone else's phone also i would keep that paper.
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Where the actual f*** is this girl!? Imma go over there and give her a piece of her mind. This is NOT ok. I would never ever do this and nobody should
I'd like to think that whoever wrote this wasn't being serious, but nothing here, except maybe "how high princess" strikes me as a joke.
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Sounds like he cheated on her and she took him back. Granted, to be demanding of some of these things is a bit outlandish. If, IF, that is the case (cheating), then IMO he should be willing to do whatever is necessary to keep her/repair relationship or whatever IF they're both in agreement. But, he can ask for just as much from her. Controlling? Absolutely. Healthy? Absolutely not. But not my relationship. Just my perception of what might be going on here. Careful with the judgments, y'all. All we can see is one side of this and choose to make a comment based upon our own experience and not the actual circumstances.
I'm a woman and let me offer this... this list was something I would write years ago, before my divorce. I've been taken down a peg or 10 now in life and learned this is Completly ridiculous to act this way.
At least two were reasonable? Sure. 13. I am allowed to do a phone check when EVER I please 17. You are NOT to ditch me for your friends 18. Austin does NOT CONTROL WHEN I HANG OUT WITH YOU! 19. We are to go on a legit date once every two weeks at least However, the Caps and hysteria kind of make even these reasonable items sound CRAY. Run.
#6. Well, if he wasn't allowed to look at a single girl, then I think that frees him up to look at all of them. Just sayin'.
It's called "borderline personality disorder," maybe with a touch of histrionic personality disorder. My advice to either one of them is to start drinking... heavily.
This is demonic control, and any guy/girl would be a fool to get with anyone damaged this bad. Only God can heal her hurt! 😎
I have been married for 10yrs now with three boys, all ours. My wife told me when we got married, just be loyal to our marriage. She think it's sad that a woman would go this bad for a guy.
This is one of many reasons why I don't interact with society unless I have to this day an age.....
Um half the list is don't be around other girls ...which is what I expect of my girl not to be around other guys. The other half is don't hang out with your friends which you clearly get drunk and make bad choices with. I can follow the first half of this list
EXACTLY what my ex-Russian wife of 15 years said across many pages and phone calls. However, the same DID NOT APPLY to her. She had a stable of at least 41 men before I found out and divorced her. She married the first "John" another Russian, a couple of years ago. Now they have a new baby from Hell. Karma is wonderful!
EXACTLY what my ex-Russian wife of 15 years said across many pages and phone calls. However, the same DID NOT APPLY to her. She had a stable of at least 41 men before I found out and divorced her. She married the first "John" another Russian, a couple of years ago.
That woman is nuts. Doesn't she know that a man can tell you he loves you ten times a day and STILL cheat on you? Lawsy. I feel sorry for this guy though - he doesn't deserve someone like her. Trust and communication are extremely important in a marriage - so are friends. I hope he found someone that truly cared about him.
I think this was like not a real list. Like, she didn't want to get back with him, but if she did, here are the things that would be x'd out of the relarionship because they always led to arguments
If you have an ounce of sanity in you now. use it to get far far away from this insane B***H. If you can't you will be a puppet on a short string for the rest of your life. But then some people, thrive on this kind of abuse. Either way I feel sorry for you.
this is BS. someone just sat down and wrote this for fun. no way, a woman would write: you cheat on me, i kill you. a smart woman enjoys the relationship as long as everything goes well. when the problems occur, she talks to “him.”. if he hurt her for no reason, (let us say she gave him everything and was always there for him especially all those times he threatend to kill himself if she doesn’t come back to him), then it is time to walk away with a most terrible pain in your heart. but then...then she remembers that:” der hölle zorn ist nichts gegen die rache einer verletzen frau” and wait for that moment where he actually wished that one if his suicide attempts, worked.
how come a mean crazy woman like this can get a boyfriend and I can't?
Love the advice from leeferal, well worth listening to whoever you are.
Whatever, dump the b***h or you will live on your knees until the divorce.
The only one that I would say is reasonable is about dating at least once every 2 weeks. That is helpful in a long term relationship. Other than that is is abusive and possessive.
After reading that list a second time, I'm convinced that it was written after the guy was caught cheating. The items on the list suggest that the guy was drunk, and with some friends, at a Honda dealership, and he was hit-on by some girl, and he hooked-up with her and was caught. He then begged his GF to take him back, and she responded with that list. Good for her! ... maybe?
Wow. Just wow. I really hope this guy the f**k away from this psycho b***h.
Anyone giving a list like that to me, would be turfed out before they even knew what happened, as this is nothing but abusive behavior.
I'm a woman, but I say dump her and run, but as someone said, keep it as evidence if you end up belting her.
this girl needs to watch "the handmade's tale" and learn some humility, before aunt Lydia shows up at her door... =)
This actually looks like the response to something that happened, by the line "you are not to get angry with me ever again." Possibly he was a jealous boyfriend and she found out he, himself, was unfaithful. Who knows. Bottom line is this is not a healthy response and relationships just don't work this way. She needed to walk away and so did hue.
I don't quite understand, is it the guy who's car it is now, or the previous person's car?
Even if she found that he had cheated or he was just spending loads more time with his friends, this in no way a healthy relationship. It's completely toxic and it should be over.
He should rather join the French Foreign Legion, they have less rules :-)
Time to grow up little girl or you will live a long life all alone.
Exactly!While I was reading this I was like GROW UP!
Load More Replies...Anyone thought that maybe he's done something awful and begged her for another chance and she's made an extreme list to see how serious he is? I very much doubt these are all stuck to or enforced but without knowing the background and circumstances it's never good to judge someone. It could be a joke, it could be made up, it could be anything
To me it seems like this was a list created after he cheated...if so, of course she's having some trust issues. She'll get past this "list phase" with time. She's probably just hurt.
There is NO excuse for manipulation & abusive behavior — EVER. He cheated? Dump him.Simple as that.
Load More Replies...Even if the guy did cheat and that's some "negotiation" that's still abusive behavior and that's b******t. The thing about cheating is, you either forgive someone or you don't. Period. Sure, you aren't going to totally trust them right away. It's going to be normal for you to have your doubts, but ultimately, you have a decision to make. Either have faith in them that they're going to do the right thing and NOT cheat or leave them. If you can't trust them you sure as hell don't have the right to turn into an abusive piece of c**p like the woman that wrote this list of "rules". Don't put up with this s**t from ANYONE, EVER.
Whether he'd been cheating or not, this is the wrong response. Either you can trust your partner, in which case this stuff is absolutely unnecessary, or you can't, in which case you should be out the door. Even the best intended "behavior contracts" are just a Band-Aid to hide the real problem.
This isn't new, and I swear I originally saw it posted on BP a year ago or more...
Reminds me of Courtney and Duncan but I really didn't think ANYONE was like this for real
How do people like this get into relationships? Who reads a list like that, or deals with a person like that and thinks it is in anyway preferable to just being alone? Sounds like a young teenage couple, probably in high school and thinks that this sort of thing is in anyway normal or acceptable. Teenagers watch all of these TV shows and movies where Hollywood has made the controlling wife/girlfriend as a norm so inexperienced teenagers think that this is how relationships work. If that woman is an adult, well she still hasn't figured that out. As for it sounding like he cheated on her and she took him back...than she is a huge idiot for thinking that anything that she said is going to make any sort of difference. I would rather be celibate and left alone for the rest of my life than date someone who thought they had some sort of right to control my actions.
This behaviour seems super prevalent. Like I was briefly seeing this guy and he was constantly fussing about us getting together "for real", because he then wouldn't be able to hang with his friends. I was like what sort of control freaks have you been dating until now?! Plus he pretty much demanded that we show each other our phones and stuff "for fun". Gladly. I mean you wouldn't be understanding s**t because most of my communication is in my first language which you don't speak, but hey.
He sounds like a jerk. Even my husband of 27 years would NEVER look at my phone. It's just rude.
Load More Replies...I highly feel the need to apologize in the name of all (normal) women to all boys and men who ever experienced something like this. I'm very, very sorry that someone did this to you. This is not ok, under no circumstance. And please, if you are currently in a relationship like this: Walk away. For your own good, please walk away. That girl probably is just some delusional maniac with low selfesteem, but following those orders on her list will lead to the boyfriend's isolation from friends and probably family. This is a kind of behavior is often found in psychopaths...
Not really a male/female issue - men do it to their partners too. It's an awful way to treat someone.
Load More Replies...I've personally known women like that. One was telling me all about how she would never let her boyfriend talk with his exes (I mean if they parted as friends who are you to tell him he has to cut her out of his life?). The same woman had cheated on her ex-husband repeatedly and a coworker and I had to twice persuade her not to meet a dude from work at a bar, because we knew what would happen.
Load More Replies...This just seems to me a girl just trying to be funny with his bf, no psycho at all.
doubtful, honestly. There was no sense of humor in any of those things. there were no catchy smilies, no indications it was meant as ironic.
Load More Replies...This list is so wrong in so many ways. If someone gives you a list like this leave. And if you are in a relationship that makes you feel you want to demand these types of things you should not be in a relationship and might want to get help.
Sooooo, this is working for them?? LOL, they are OBVIOUSLY (hopefully) VERY young!!!
Even if this particular case IS a joke, I've known quite a few women who make laundry lists like this for their significant others. It's disgusting, abusive and manipulative.
Load More Replies...Personal opinion. He cheated on her, and she took him back and she wrote these "rules" to feel in control after. Either way, not healthy and shouldnt stay together
If this was real It would show how idiot people can be. The girl who wrote this "contract" for being an abusive control freak, the guy who has to obey the contract for tolerating a girlfriend to behave like she's the personification of an evil mother and and evil mother in law in one person. But as I said, this is just a joke.
i used to have to get receipts and bus tickets no more than 20 mins apart - to prove i had genuinely been shopping - if you havent lived like that then you really dont know what you are talking about
Load More Replies...I just have one word for this guy: RUN!!! For the girl: If you love something, let it go. If it never comes back, it was never yours in the first place. If it does come back, cherish it forever.
Sounds like he f****d up major and it's her over-the-top list of what he needs to do to get her back. Bad relationship. They need to say "see ya"
Damn... I need a list! Never in 20 years thought of it. Something like: 1. Hugs with females may last no longer than 10 seconds. Hugging longer is presumed as forplay. 2. No kissing on the lips with whom ever than me (or maybe the kids). 3. No sex (including oral or showing/touching private parts, unless you need to for a medical needs with a legit preferably non sexy doctor) with whom ever than me (but like... that one is obvious right...?) 4. No holding hands with whom ever than me and the kids. 5. No bad talking about me or our relationship to any female (especially you mom) 6. No leading on other woman, when they laugh just assume that it’s because they like you, you’re not that funny. Stop making jokes and talk about your kids and wife and how happy you are. 7. Stop those puppy eyes, I know you know what i’ Talking about. Damn... this s**t needs to be specific... any suggestions?
well, in normal relationships this list is ridiculous, but what if this is some kind of (naughty) game and girl also have same list? :D sadly it looks like girl was serious, she had big problems and i'm sorry for her a bit more than for guy, which can leave her anytime. but she will suffer till she realizes that she needs professional help (or he really cheated and she's trying to look like if she had self esteem ).
Anyone - male or female - who writes c**p like this for another person to obey is nothing more than human trash.
Load More Replies...Would she let him? As my hubby said this morning, "Sounds like a bunny boiler to me!"
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