Guy Gets Screenshots Proving Girl He’s Dating Is Using Him For Money, Plans A Revenge Date
Dating is hard. Especially the beginning. I mean, watching The Notebook together isn’t enough to figure out the other person and whether they have the same expectations for the relationship as you do. These things don’t happen overnight. They take time and effort.
Recently, redditor redberryberry had been spending a fair amount of time with this one girl. She seemed nice and they were still getting to know each other, but it suddenly turned out that she was interested only in his wallet. Of course, it’s better to learn these things sooner rather than later, so you could say redberryberry dodged a bullet before taking any serious damage. However, he still wanted to make her pay for it. After getting back at the sneaky miss, redberryberry shared the story on r/ProRevenge and their post quickly went viral, receiving over 16K upvotes! Continue scrolling and see everything for yourself.
“I liked this girl mainly because she was sarcastic and beautiful, two things I look for a lot in dating,” redberryberry told Bored Panda. “She seemed really interesting and I wanted to get to know her more so that’s when we exchanged numbers and socials.”
Their dates would always be restaurants or places that sold food and stuff like that. “I tried to recommend other things like taking a walk or just coffee or something, but it would always be met with an excuse as to why she couldn’t or she would just say she didn’t feel up to it. But whenever it was a nice place or something she would be more than eager.”
Reflecting on their conversations, the guy thinks most of the trickery was over text. “She would often say she likes me a lot and can’t wait to see me and things like that, but when we were actually together she seemed disinterested and withdrawn,” he explained. “This would make me self conscious, and she would assure me over text (lying) that there was something between us.”
“Even though I could tell she seemed uninterested, I was blinded by lust admittedly and the texts she would send me, so I would always end up seeing her again just to repeat the cycle. Some of it was definitely my fault for being stupid and keep letting her drag me on.”
After all the texts after their date that he walked out on, he sent her the screenshot and everything and how he found out she was using him. He then told her to fuck off. She blocked him and they haven’t talked ever since.
People had a lot to say about the situation
There are a lot of different opinions when it comes to splitting the bill on a date. However, according to Emily Post’s Etiquette, the “official” rule states that, “for a first date at least, the person who asks for the date should pay unless both parties agree in advance to share expenses.”
Candice Jalili, the Senior Sex + Dating Writer at Elite Daily, seconds this. “As far as I’m concerned, the guy should pay for the first date. And if he really wants this to go somewhere, he should pay for the second as well,” she wrote. “After that, I’ll be more open to splitting the bill. But those first couple of dates are the time for me to be courted a little.”
But this line of who asks who gets a little blurry in the modern age of online dating. Or if the people already know each other and at least one of them isn’t sure whether they’re going out on a date or something more casual.
A possible solution to the tricky situation could be “the reach”. Patricia Garcia wrote, “More than half of the staff [at VOGUE] agreed, you should always reach inside your bag once the check arrives—even if you don’t intend to pay.”
“You do the fiddling, the shuffling, and give them enough time to reach for their own wallets to take care of the bill,” one of the magazine’s editors said. “Or else what’s the option? Just sitting there and staring at them, waiting? No, that’s too awkward.”
So the guy provided us with more information
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Share on FacebookI know I will have a lot of down votes but why is always expected that men's pay the bills of a date ? Why? Why? Normally I always offer myself to split the cost specially on first dates and if I'm sort this month I explain to the person and if he still want to go, he knows before and don't expect me to pay. You have no idea how much men's appreciate that I'm different from other girls. This way I never left nobody thinking that I'm going on a date because "girl have to eat" and avoid any kind of gold digger test. This make first dates so much easier and we can really focus on knowing each other.
Upvote from me. It all stems from when women didn't have their own money to pay for things. We do now and so should share the costs. Dating is about getting to know one another - not about getting what you can from another person.
Load More Replies..."She was absolutely gorgeous and honestly I couldn't even think that she would be manipulative at all." About sums up most men's idiot response to pretty girls. So many good looking girls treat men badly because they think their looks account for everything and make their manipulative behaviour okay. True beauty is inside, as so many people discover too late.
I was gonna comment on that too. He said he really liked her, even tho she was never engaging on dates or was interested in doing anything that didn’t cost money... but she was absolutely gorgeous. Other than her looks I wonder what about her it was that he really liked?
Load More Replies...Hm, I am going to get a lot of hate for this but honestly there were such obvious signs and red flags from the beginning this man described but he just brushed over it because she was gorgeous??? She was quite obvious judging by what he wrote about her, she wasn't even subtle about her intentions. She knew men would handle anything for a girl as long as she is quite beautiful and she was right wan't she? And he reacted and "saw the truth" (which he could see much much before that) when she bruised his little ego over some social media post. If she wasn't gorgeous would he even bother with her from the start? Men can handle anything from girl as long as she is very pretty. My opinion is not popular so downvote me as you want but this is kinda lame. And yes, why not just talk to her from the start, ask her in subtle way about her intentions and why is he paying everything and why isn't relationship moving forward. Talk to her, get to know her as person, not take her out hoping paying for everything why obviously noticing her Channel bag. Is talking to each other dead now? Pulling pranks is ok but just having normal communications is lame? What is wrong with this society?
You're 100% correct, but this guy sounds pretty young, so this is just a lesson learned hopefully. I think it's just as much his fault, because if someone is genuinely interested in you, you'll know it. The same can be said for someone who's not into you, it's usually pretty obvious.
Load More Replies...Gross. My brother was the same way. The only time I'd be able to see him was if I'd invite him to a really expensive concert but otherwise he'd treat me like c**p. Not anymore. Screw that's piece of s**t and screw this girl. Hopefully she learned her lesson. I'm not even talking to my brother now because I'm not even going to bother.
good on you! you shouldn't bother with people who only want to use you
Load More Replies...So some women use men for their money and some men pick women solely cause they are gorgeous. Next time try talking.
She's absolutely gorgeous. So he used her for her looks & she used him for his money. Funny how guys who go out with girls for looks get so pissed when girls go out with them for money. And they wonder why they keep getting these types of girls.
It's not her in the picture. "(not the actual photo)". In most of these articles.
Load More Replies...I don't consider myself a "traditional" guy, but I would assume that I was paying when I was dating. Most women would at least make a gesture, which I appreciated but declined. If a woman didn't, it wouldn't be a deal-killer, but it would be a factor in "the equation" of our [potential] relationship. I can't say why, but long about the 3rd+ date I figured it would be time for the female to start chipping in, and I'd consider it even if she just left the tip. Also let me see what kind of a tipper she was, which is huge. It's up to each of us (woman or man) to look out for ourselves and not be taken advantage of. No one else will.
(female here) I'm of the ilk of if my date pays, then I get the next time (and no I'm not talking steak houses versus McDonalds). it's only fair. and even when the date pays, I still feel awkward about not splitting the tab. I can't imagine how this girl thinks this behavior is acceptable!
Because she has been allowed to think that it is acceptable. According to her friend she had done this many times before.
Load More Replies...I always find the paying etiquette weird...In my mind, if you invite me out then you pay since it was your idea. If I invite you out then I pay since it was my idea. If we mutually decide to go somewhere then we split the bill.....why does one person always have to pay?
Went on a blind date with a girl once that was set up with a mutual friend. She ended up passing on me because I didn't make above a certain amount in salary. She figured out that she only had so much time in her life to date and it was just as easy to fall in love with a rich man. She told our friend that. When the friend explained that I made twice what she was looking for she called me wanting to date about two months later. But I was forewarned. I told her; "no thanks" I was still the guy she dated before.
I had many older women tell me it was just as easy to fall in love with a rich man. This was in my early 20's. And while it is true, I always found this piece of advice truly unsettling. It just felt icky. Had the exact opposite effect, I was far less likely to go out with a man with money because I didn't even want to subconsciously use someone for something as pointless as money.
Load More Replies...I would never expect a guy to pay for me on a date. I make my own money, and that way he can't also make you feel like you owe him something. This chick got what she deserved.
"she was absolutely gorgeous"...... That says most of it. Majority of the time these type of women think they have the right to treat other like this. Mostly shallow, and don't care for the poor sucker. Not saying all women are like this don't get me wrong. But these days, this is all I'm seeing.
If you pick a woman on looks alone, she has an equal right to pick you on money alone. Picking someone on their looks is just as shallow as golddigging.
Load More Replies...I usually pay on the first date. But I do notice if the girl just expects it or if she makes some attempt to offer. I was on one date and and she said; "OK, but I get to pay for the next one" I can't tell you how refreshing that was and the high I got from the compliment that she wanted to have another date with me right off.
As a woman going Dutch on the first few dates is important. It's about self respect. But there are guys who think just because they pay for dinner that night that means you owe them sexual activity. Or at some point you are going to f**k them, and when you are busy with friends that you had before you met them they get jealous. Respect is important and if you don't have it from the start one person will always be exploiting the other for their gain and loss. If you don't have shared values from the start eventually the relationship will fail.
This driving me mad. I remember my first date. We go to the teahouse, have shisha etc. And I was ready to pay my half. Actually nobody told me, that man often paid girls orders. I feel really bad for it because He spent money on me... I always took a money with me, and im ready to pay for myself. I would never go to a fancy restaurant, when I know I cant afford it, so obviously I cant expect that He would paid for me, lets go some where cheaper, or you know what, why dont go to my place and i will cooked something for us. And oh god please dont buy me a Gold or Silver jewelery, Its waste of money for me! And if you want to get mě something, just go on aliexpress a find something with dragon or horse on it, what cost max 2$ and I would be really happy. What I want most is someone Who likes me, understands me, have similiar wiew on the World, likes cats and respected me. And I will do the same. The best gift for me is a time I could spend snuggling with him ☺️
I gotta say chum, it's also kinda your bad for going out with her because she's gorgeous. Set your sights a tad lower and you may find some genuine ladies.
Did great! One thing I would not have done is rat on the mutual friend.
I had a guy use me for dinner and drinks once, I'm pretty sure. Note that I am 52 was only married for 4 years, have gone out tons of times, and I have only had someone pay for me about 4 times in my life. (I have a job.) In fact, I dated one guy for a year where I almost always paid. So, I met this one guy through a dating site. We meet for the first time at Olive Garden (not my favorite place). He showed up 15 minutes late and immediately stated he had forgotten his wallet. I didn't think anything of it and said no problem. Nothing is expensive at Olive Garden, but he ordered four drinks. We had a nice - although distant - conversation (I thought), but after that, he basically ghosted me. It occurred to me about a year later that he had used me to pay for his meal and drinks. Probably figures it's revenge, but for me, who almost always goes dutch (or pays for the other person), he was punishing the wrong person.
I had a ex-friend that was like her. She'd "date" guys that were willing to buy her food or other items. Once, she was dating a guy she loved, dating one that was good in the sack, and dating yet another one that was rich and spent money on her car, furniture and clothes. When she got pregnant, she wasn't sure which "date" was the father, so she got an abortion. Then the guy she loved called me looking for her (she was out on a date with the rich guy). He was a sweet guy and I was tired of lying to him for her..so I told him everything. He ghosted her completely. She never got over it. I hate girls like her that manipulate and lie to men for financial gain. I have no regrets.
I have no sympathy for her, but enthusiastically agree with the person who said you should have sent her the texts and said "free melas are over". Now she can spin it and say to her friends that you "abandoned" her, and left her to pick up a large check. Always take the high road.
He's not wrong 🤷🏻♀️ I would've done that too . I'm petty though . If somebody intentionally treats you this way , they deserve a little just desserts
Why is this so involved? If he likes her company, he will pay. If she does not bring anything to the relationship - like offering to taking him out for dinner, or cook a nice dinner..... drop her and move on - Good God!.
A lot of guys want to be impressive and there are some women (and some gay men) who are good at taking advantage of it. 1. Split the check the first time, okay this when making plans. Keep it cheap. 2. If you don't meet someone's friends, then you're probably being kept out of the loop for easy disposal. 3. Invite them to your place for dinner and cook for them, or cook together.
he "liked" her because she was "absolutely gorgeous". She "liked" him, because he'd pay for everything. Yes, she was an a**e, without doubt. At the same time, his primary reasons (by his own admission) for liking her was "she was absolutely gorgeous", and "SEEMED sweet". Lesson learned: everyone, pay for own meal, and date people whose personality you like, not just because they're "gorgeous" or "paying".
Personally I prefer to pay my own way, or split costs, or take turns ("You got the show tickets last time, I'll get them this time" for eg). I can't imagine using someone for their money.
When you're young then looks account for a lot , but eventually that fades and you need a nice person with a personality so you click........ i guarantee if you take off all her make-up..... fake nails ....hair extensions etc etc she would look very average beneath it all.
I am so confused by women. They keep saying they are independent, emancipated and equal to men. Well they can't have it both ways- either women are equal and pay they share of the bill or they are not in which case fine, I can cover her share of the bill. If you are unable or unwilling to pay for your own meal stay at home, alone.
Unless they more poor then me hell no way I'm paying. One thing to cover family or friends but if I don't f*****g know you it ain't happening.
Ugh that must have made you feel so sick inside to find out her true intentions. Honestly I like this revenge take she got what she deserved! Should have sent her a screenshot of the friends text and tell her the meal train is over
Did she deserve it, yes. Should you have done it, no. Take the high road, don't get down on her level with petty games and revenges.
I never accepted a guy paying for me on a date. I may have ended up being talked into a division of payment (e.g., he pays meal, I pay tip) that wasn't equal, but I never just expected a guy to pay up. And no decent guy would expect me to put out if he paid up. So.... Think of this as a sort of litmus test for "keep their number" or "run for it!"
We need to stop the sexist notion that men are walking atms and should be judged on the size of their..wallets. alot of women dont even carry cash/ card with them when they go out cause they expect the establishment or men to foot the bill
Now that you mention, I do recall that he said she didn't have her money with her.
Load More Replies...So this guy made bad choices based solely on looks and is now a newly hatched incel. This is not cool or funny in any way, keep this guy away from guns.
It was an ugly thing he did, but I can’t really blame him. What a horrible woman.
If this happened as described then it not unjust, although questionable. We all have malicious thoughts, but carrying them out while pretending to be friendly is something this guy needs to think about. The big problem, though, is the third wheel. I could understand his passing on that sort of screenshot, but I do wonder how he is close enough to her to get it. And does the guy have a good reason for trusting the messenger more than he trusts the girl?
I don't really like going dutch on romantic dates. I rather swap who pays for everything. That way, if I am dating someone who likes expensive meals, he can treat me to one, if he really wants to. But i don't have that kind of money so the next meal it'll just be pizza at a place of my choosing or I cook at home.
The person who initiates the first date usually pays for it. If you want to go dutch, agree on the dates activities or price-point so that both parties can afford it. There's a difference between being taken advantage of, or someone not having money for the date because they already spent the last of their money on the clothes, makeup and hair for the date. (looking 'natural' is friggin expensive.) So use your judgment on which is going on. If you keep asking out shallow women, don't be surprised when they want you for a shallow reason.
I'm one of the stupid ones, as it took me 5 years to catch on to this girls ways...
If he went to far it was her own fault. He only gave her a taste of her own medicine.
Load More Replies...Where does it say that he only wanted sex? You're projecting a lot in this comment and it's sad
Load More Replies...What gives anyone the right to use someone the way she did? If we want equality we should share the costs of dates. I personally would have just never contacted the person again once I found out what they were really like but I don't blame him for having a moment where the pain of being used as a walking wallet overcomes him and he extracts some revenge. The only sad thing here is that she probably feels like the injured party and isn't going to learn a thing from it. Mummy shouldn't have bailed her out, she'll never learn to stand on her own two feet if boyfriends and parents constantly pay for her.
Load More Replies...I know I will have a lot of down votes but why is always expected that men's pay the bills of a date ? Why? Why? Normally I always offer myself to split the cost specially on first dates and if I'm sort this month I explain to the person and if he still want to go, he knows before and don't expect me to pay. You have no idea how much men's appreciate that I'm different from other girls. This way I never left nobody thinking that I'm going on a date because "girl have to eat" and avoid any kind of gold digger test. This make first dates so much easier and we can really focus on knowing each other.
Upvote from me. It all stems from when women didn't have their own money to pay for things. We do now and so should share the costs. Dating is about getting to know one another - not about getting what you can from another person.
Load More Replies..."She was absolutely gorgeous and honestly I couldn't even think that she would be manipulative at all." About sums up most men's idiot response to pretty girls. So many good looking girls treat men badly because they think their looks account for everything and make their manipulative behaviour okay. True beauty is inside, as so many people discover too late.
I was gonna comment on that too. He said he really liked her, even tho she was never engaging on dates or was interested in doing anything that didn’t cost money... but she was absolutely gorgeous. Other than her looks I wonder what about her it was that he really liked?
Load More Replies...Hm, I am going to get a lot of hate for this but honestly there were such obvious signs and red flags from the beginning this man described but he just brushed over it because she was gorgeous??? She was quite obvious judging by what he wrote about her, she wasn't even subtle about her intentions. She knew men would handle anything for a girl as long as she is quite beautiful and she was right wan't she? And he reacted and "saw the truth" (which he could see much much before that) when she bruised his little ego over some social media post. If she wasn't gorgeous would he even bother with her from the start? Men can handle anything from girl as long as she is very pretty. My opinion is not popular so downvote me as you want but this is kinda lame. And yes, why not just talk to her from the start, ask her in subtle way about her intentions and why is he paying everything and why isn't relationship moving forward. Talk to her, get to know her as person, not take her out hoping paying for everything why obviously noticing her Channel bag. Is talking to each other dead now? Pulling pranks is ok but just having normal communications is lame? What is wrong with this society?
You're 100% correct, but this guy sounds pretty young, so this is just a lesson learned hopefully. I think it's just as much his fault, because if someone is genuinely interested in you, you'll know it. The same can be said for someone who's not into you, it's usually pretty obvious.
Load More Replies...Gross. My brother was the same way. The only time I'd be able to see him was if I'd invite him to a really expensive concert but otherwise he'd treat me like c**p. Not anymore. Screw that's piece of s**t and screw this girl. Hopefully she learned her lesson. I'm not even talking to my brother now because I'm not even going to bother.
good on you! you shouldn't bother with people who only want to use you
Load More Replies...So some women use men for their money and some men pick women solely cause they are gorgeous. Next time try talking.
She's absolutely gorgeous. So he used her for her looks & she used him for his money. Funny how guys who go out with girls for looks get so pissed when girls go out with them for money. And they wonder why they keep getting these types of girls.
It's not her in the picture. "(not the actual photo)". In most of these articles.
Load More Replies...I don't consider myself a "traditional" guy, but I would assume that I was paying when I was dating. Most women would at least make a gesture, which I appreciated but declined. If a woman didn't, it wouldn't be a deal-killer, but it would be a factor in "the equation" of our [potential] relationship. I can't say why, but long about the 3rd+ date I figured it would be time for the female to start chipping in, and I'd consider it even if she just left the tip. Also let me see what kind of a tipper she was, which is huge. It's up to each of us (woman or man) to look out for ourselves and not be taken advantage of. No one else will.
(female here) I'm of the ilk of if my date pays, then I get the next time (and no I'm not talking steak houses versus McDonalds). it's only fair. and even when the date pays, I still feel awkward about not splitting the tab. I can't imagine how this girl thinks this behavior is acceptable!
Because she has been allowed to think that it is acceptable. According to her friend she had done this many times before.
Load More Replies...I always find the paying etiquette weird...In my mind, if you invite me out then you pay since it was your idea. If I invite you out then I pay since it was my idea. If we mutually decide to go somewhere then we split the bill.....why does one person always have to pay?
Went on a blind date with a girl once that was set up with a mutual friend. She ended up passing on me because I didn't make above a certain amount in salary. She figured out that she only had so much time in her life to date and it was just as easy to fall in love with a rich man. She told our friend that. When the friend explained that I made twice what she was looking for she called me wanting to date about two months later. But I was forewarned. I told her; "no thanks" I was still the guy she dated before.
I had many older women tell me it was just as easy to fall in love with a rich man. This was in my early 20's. And while it is true, I always found this piece of advice truly unsettling. It just felt icky. Had the exact opposite effect, I was far less likely to go out with a man with money because I didn't even want to subconsciously use someone for something as pointless as money.
Load More Replies...I would never expect a guy to pay for me on a date. I make my own money, and that way he can't also make you feel like you owe him something. This chick got what she deserved.
"she was absolutely gorgeous"...... That says most of it. Majority of the time these type of women think they have the right to treat other like this. Mostly shallow, and don't care for the poor sucker. Not saying all women are like this don't get me wrong. But these days, this is all I'm seeing.
If you pick a woman on looks alone, she has an equal right to pick you on money alone. Picking someone on their looks is just as shallow as golddigging.
Load More Replies...I usually pay on the first date. But I do notice if the girl just expects it or if she makes some attempt to offer. I was on one date and and she said; "OK, but I get to pay for the next one" I can't tell you how refreshing that was and the high I got from the compliment that she wanted to have another date with me right off.
As a woman going Dutch on the first few dates is important. It's about self respect. But there are guys who think just because they pay for dinner that night that means you owe them sexual activity. Or at some point you are going to f**k them, and when you are busy with friends that you had before you met them they get jealous. Respect is important and if you don't have it from the start one person will always be exploiting the other for their gain and loss. If you don't have shared values from the start eventually the relationship will fail.
This driving me mad. I remember my first date. We go to the teahouse, have shisha etc. And I was ready to pay my half. Actually nobody told me, that man often paid girls orders. I feel really bad for it because He spent money on me... I always took a money with me, and im ready to pay for myself. I would never go to a fancy restaurant, when I know I cant afford it, so obviously I cant expect that He would paid for me, lets go some where cheaper, or you know what, why dont go to my place and i will cooked something for us. And oh god please dont buy me a Gold or Silver jewelery, Its waste of money for me! And if you want to get mě something, just go on aliexpress a find something with dragon or horse on it, what cost max 2$ and I would be really happy. What I want most is someone Who likes me, understands me, have similiar wiew on the World, likes cats and respected me. And I will do the same. The best gift for me is a time I could spend snuggling with him ☺️
I gotta say chum, it's also kinda your bad for going out with her because she's gorgeous. Set your sights a tad lower and you may find some genuine ladies.
Did great! One thing I would not have done is rat on the mutual friend.
I had a guy use me for dinner and drinks once, I'm pretty sure. Note that I am 52 was only married for 4 years, have gone out tons of times, and I have only had someone pay for me about 4 times in my life. (I have a job.) In fact, I dated one guy for a year where I almost always paid. So, I met this one guy through a dating site. We meet for the first time at Olive Garden (not my favorite place). He showed up 15 minutes late and immediately stated he had forgotten his wallet. I didn't think anything of it and said no problem. Nothing is expensive at Olive Garden, but he ordered four drinks. We had a nice - although distant - conversation (I thought), but after that, he basically ghosted me. It occurred to me about a year later that he had used me to pay for his meal and drinks. Probably figures it's revenge, but for me, who almost always goes dutch (or pays for the other person), he was punishing the wrong person.
I had a ex-friend that was like her. She'd "date" guys that were willing to buy her food or other items. Once, she was dating a guy she loved, dating one that was good in the sack, and dating yet another one that was rich and spent money on her car, furniture and clothes. When she got pregnant, she wasn't sure which "date" was the father, so she got an abortion. Then the guy she loved called me looking for her (she was out on a date with the rich guy). He was a sweet guy and I was tired of lying to him for her..so I told him everything. He ghosted her completely. She never got over it. I hate girls like her that manipulate and lie to men for financial gain. I have no regrets.
I have no sympathy for her, but enthusiastically agree with the person who said you should have sent her the texts and said "free melas are over". Now she can spin it and say to her friends that you "abandoned" her, and left her to pick up a large check. Always take the high road.
He's not wrong 🤷🏻♀️ I would've done that too . I'm petty though . If somebody intentionally treats you this way , they deserve a little just desserts
Why is this so involved? If he likes her company, he will pay. If she does not bring anything to the relationship - like offering to taking him out for dinner, or cook a nice dinner..... drop her and move on - Good God!.
A lot of guys want to be impressive and there are some women (and some gay men) who are good at taking advantage of it. 1. Split the check the first time, okay this when making plans. Keep it cheap. 2. If you don't meet someone's friends, then you're probably being kept out of the loop for easy disposal. 3. Invite them to your place for dinner and cook for them, or cook together.
he "liked" her because she was "absolutely gorgeous". She "liked" him, because he'd pay for everything. Yes, she was an a**e, without doubt. At the same time, his primary reasons (by his own admission) for liking her was "she was absolutely gorgeous", and "SEEMED sweet". Lesson learned: everyone, pay for own meal, and date people whose personality you like, not just because they're "gorgeous" or "paying".
Personally I prefer to pay my own way, or split costs, or take turns ("You got the show tickets last time, I'll get them this time" for eg). I can't imagine using someone for their money.
When you're young then looks account for a lot , but eventually that fades and you need a nice person with a personality so you click........ i guarantee if you take off all her make-up..... fake nails ....hair extensions etc etc she would look very average beneath it all.
I am so confused by women. They keep saying they are independent, emancipated and equal to men. Well they can't have it both ways- either women are equal and pay they share of the bill or they are not in which case fine, I can cover her share of the bill. If you are unable or unwilling to pay for your own meal stay at home, alone.
Unless they more poor then me hell no way I'm paying. One thing to cover family or friends but if I don't f*****g know you it ain't happening.
Ugh that must have made you feel so sick inside to find out her true intentions. Honestly I like this revenge take she got what she deserved! Should have sent her a screenshot of the friends text and tell her the meal train is over
Did she deserve it, yes. Should you have done it, no. Take the high road, don't get down on her level with petty games and revenges.
I never accepted a guy paying for me on a date. I may have ended up being talked into a division of payment (e.g., he pays meal, I pay tip) that wasn't equal, but I never just expected a guy to pay up. And no decent guy would expect me to put out if he paid up. So.... Think of this as a sort of litmus test for "keep their number" or "run for it!"
We need to stop the sexist notion that men are walking atms and should be judged on the size of their..wallets. alot of women dont even carry cash/ card with them when they go out cause they expect the establishment or men to foot the bill
Now that you mention, I do recall that he said she didn't have her money with her.
Load More Replies...So this guy made bad choices based solely on looks and is now a newly hatched incel. This is not cool or funny in any way, keep this guy away from guns.
It was an ugly thing he did, but I can’t really blame him. What a horrible woman.
If this happened as described then it not unjust, although questionable. We all have malicious thoughts, but carrying them out while pretending to be friendly is something this guy needs to think about. The big problem, though, is the third wheel. I could understand his passing on that sort of screenshot, but I do wonder how he is close enough to her to get it. And does the guy have a good reason for trusting the messenger more than he trusts the girl?
I don't really like going dutch on romantic dates. I rather swap who pays for everything. That way, if I am dating someone who likes expensive meals, he can treat me to one, if he really wants to. But i don't have that kind of money so the next meal it'll just be pizza at a place of my choosing or I cook at home.
The person who initiates the first date usually pays for it. If you want to go dutch, agree on the dates activities or price-point so that both parties can afford it. There's a difference between being taken advantage of, or someone not having money for the date because they already spent the last of their money on the clothes, makeup and hair for the date. (looking 'natural' is friggin expensive.) So use your judgment on which is going on. If you keep asking out shallow women, don't be surprised when they want you for a shallow reason.
I'm one of the stupid ones, as it took me 5 years to catch on to this girls ways...
If he went to far it was her own fault. He only gave her a taste of her own medicine.
Load More Replies...Where does it say that he only wanted sex? You're projecting a lot in this comment and it's sad
Load More Replies...What gives anyone the right to use someone the way she did? If we want equality we should share the costs of dates. I personally would have just never contacted the person again once I found out what they were really like but I don't blame him for having a moment where the pain of being used as a walking wallet overcomes him and he extracts some revenge. The only sad thing here is that she probably feels like the injured party and isn't going to learn a thing from it. Mummy shouldn't have bailed her out, she'll never learn to stand on her own two feet if boyfriends and parents constantly pay for her.
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