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Woman Finds Her Boyfriend Of 5 Years In Bed With Another Woman, Shares How She Completely Ghosted Him
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Woman Finds Her Boyfriend Of 5 Years In Bed With Another Woman, Shares How She Completely Ghosted Him

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Even though some people are lucky or smart enough to get it right the first time when it comes to relationships, most of us humans that were ever in one know the bitter taste of heartbreak and have heard the forever classic phrase “it’s not you, it’s me”. But some break-ups are probably way worse than others and of course, we’re talking about those where a third person is involved. All the while most of us choose to go through the pain quietly or in the company of those closest to us, some choose to share their experience with the wide world of the Internet, so we can all fall asleep a little bit calmer, knowing we don’t have the worst of it.

This woman anonymously took over Reddit by sharing her break-up story

Even after seeing what she saw, she decided not to make a fuss

She decided to cut herself off from him completely right there at that moment

Furthermore, she even asked her family and friends to cut him off as well

She not only ghosted him on social media but in real life, too

She didn’t leave any opportunities for them to have a dialogue, ever

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It seemed it wasn’t only the best option for her but the best kind of revenge also

Most people praised her for what she did but there were some who were not so approving

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deanna woods
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She did the right thing. He would probably want to talk about what happened and make a whole bunch of excuses. As for the people who said that he won because she didn't confront him: getting a free video game and breakfast doesn't make him the winner here. He will realize that she was there and saw what he was doing and she is done with him.

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Ms.GB
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

People saying he won...have you never cared about someone before, if he really didn't give a s**t at all he wouldn't have been with her for 5 years and would have just broken up with her before sleeping with his ex. Imagine anyone that you've been in a relationship with for 5 years just vanishing forever after you hurt them...but know you're right a game is totally worth it?!

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WaitingtokissGregDavis
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This screams class. Also suggests she was sort of ready for the opportunity to move on if she changed her life so drastically. What a total BIRD. What she did was pure poetry.

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CherryAmy
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I would love to know how the guy reacted when he realized she found out what was going on...

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Spikey Bunny
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm glad she respected herself enough to just walk away. Who knows what their relationship was like, what else she's already put up with. I hope she's able to rebuild her life and have better relationships in the future. She deserves it.

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WilvanderHeijden
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm a man and thumbs up for her. Any guy telling this lady that she done him wrong is either an incel or a delusional POS. Hope she finds a real man that knows how to treat a real lady.

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deanna woods
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That was a very kind thing for you to say. You need to teach a class in how to be a gentleman.

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Kirsty Fleming
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I did the same with a 4 year relationship. He left himself logged into fb on the iPad. I went to use it and the 1st thing I saw was a convo to a girl we knew. He was saying how he couldn't stop thinking about her and he was glad that I miscarried our twins. He was at work I left the iPad in a place so 'he knew', walked out the door and never spoke to him again. It drove him CRAZY! He posted me a million letters, sent so many flowers, would get his family and friends to say they wanted me to do their nails and all the time there was more flowers and letters there. He did so so many other possessive horrible and creepy things I won't go in to. I started seeing someone else and he started threatening him saying he best look after me! Ironic right ha. He lost everything after us. Job, house, the plot lol. I think someone was looking down on me that day, I dodged a crazy bullet he was such an awful bf I just couldn't see it then. After everything he put me though I got the best revenge!

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NeverGoWoke
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Good for her - fighting and arguing won't solve anything; it's better to walk away with your head held high.

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Vicki Lowers
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

As someone who HAD a spouse that cheated, I'm ambivalent about her handling of this but she did what felt right for her. I wager that she was wrong about at least one thing. He DOES NOT look back at how "good he had it with her". Chances are he was relieved that she disappeared without the messy confrontation. Chances are his "ex" wasn't his "ex" but his "now". She was certainly his "extra". He came out with everything he wanted, including a parting gift. But most revenge is rarely as sweet as they say. The. Real best revenge is moving on and succeeding without looking back and I'm speaking from experience.

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Lisa
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

IDK. The way she did it was a m***********g statement, he won't forget that. Even if he tries, it'll be like when you suddenly remember an embarrassing moment and are rendered gobsmacked.

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Caroline Hennessy
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I wouldn't do this but I don't condemn her for doing it. Seems to me like she acted instinctively and protected herself from further pain.

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Ms.GB
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm really passive aggressive I can see myself doing the same...probably would have eaten the breakfast and given the game to someone else though.

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Carol Emory
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I wouldn't have left the video game. I would have taken a picture of everything..sent it to his phone...returned the game or sold it, dumped breakfast in the trash...then I would have done the rest of what she mentioned.

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Luisa Vasconcelos
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If he had it good with her in the last 5 years, he would not have hurt her as he did. He woke up, went to the kitchen, said his ex that he made breakfast and they played video game together, then sex and sleep again . She should have told his ex what for a son of a b*** he is and then ghost him. She just did him a favour. He didn't deserve this behavior because she was having his keys, but he still took his ex there and even fell asleep. He did not respect her.

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AzKhaleesi
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Although I feel she did the right thing, going through all of the changing of the number and deactivating stuff and changing jobs and such, that seems like more work than just blocking his number and blocking him on FB. If she had the job lined up already ok fine but it still seemed like a lot of extra work. But good for her.

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Sagtiya Sieelan
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I would do the same thing too. In fact, I have done it before to a relative who tried to backstab me .. .

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Onna Ariya
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

i did the same thing to my ex which we are together for 8 years. He proposed to me when he started to cheat with a "prostitute". I only found out from his phone and his hallucination confession while taking care of him for the 1 whole month in hospital. I arranged everything i could for him with his family, and then i left, silently without further explanation. left him in the hospital with his family to deal with him as I could not take it anymore. after 2 months he rang my doorbell and ask back the engagement ring. i gave it back without saying anything and then he left. i have to deal with all the haunting part of memories, trauma and even seeing a psychologist after 2 years. i didnt shed a tear, i did nothing. all my emotions have suddenly been vacuum sealed. it seems like nothing outside but eventually my health is signaling me another thing. i took a huge step to see a psychologist and learn how to deal with my own emotion. i am much better now :)

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deanna woods
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I am so sorry that happened to you, but I am glad that you are doing better now. I don't know why a guy would propose to a woman and then cheat on her. This is just me, but I would have said, "Are you about to propose to your prostitute?"

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Tim Cardy
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I call this one "nope", five years and not living together, yet they shared utility bills? What an immature relationship. Changed everything in one minute and disappeared? Took a job in another city? What a stupid story. Why would you give him all the power and sneak away? Stories like this should be about respecting yourself, empowering yourself, strengthening yourself, growing with Life experience, not about giving away all your power and sneaking away in the night like a little immature hurt child.

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Octavia Hansen
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This man has no feeling for her and will not remember this. She did well to move on. Time wasted on this creep means the one who will love her is going unloved. This man will fade from memory. Living well is the best revenge.

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Belinda_Vikingheart_🇧🇻
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think this is awsome. Graceful. I had a friend (a boy) who did excactly like her: I do admire him so much 👏👏🍾🎶🎈🎈❤

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Louise B
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm sorry, but this story shows up on multiple websites as an example of a 'this didn't happen' story. Think about it logically, she just changed her phone number on the way home? Everyone agreed to ghost him too, no questions asked? Yeah, this didn't happen - at least not as quickly and neatly this.

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Louise B
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Whatever changes she made were all based around him, so he still wins. Maybe it's a relief to him, he hasn't had to do anything - out of sight out of mind. He gets to wake up next to his new girl, no explaining to do, no hassle, no consequences. Who really suffered here?

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

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Jos Tiguidou
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is some next level s**t. How many people here could say that they'd have the kind of mental fortitude to do that?? Do you know how much self-control one has to have to go through with all that she did and not even bat an eye about it? Although...5 years and you weren't even living together? That seems odd to me. Like how serious was this relationship if you'd been together for that long and weren't even living together (although in this case, that's a bonus).

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Lana Jig-maker
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

See part of me would be like "he probably doesn't even notice I disappeared, perfectly happy with whatever chick he had" also, I would have broken the game and placed it back in the box. Then ghosted.

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Je souhaite
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Thats the way people should handle the situation, i mean really why should she waste her time, break up move on... Otherwise you miss out on something great

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Carol Emory
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sometimes it does work out like she hoped. A friend of mine said her husband came home one night saying he didn't want to make the marriage work anymore. I think he was hoping she'd get on her knees begging him not to leave. Instead, he was surprised when she went into survival mode, canceling credit cards, severing bank accounts and packing up the entire house to move (they were in student housing while he went to college.) She filed the paperwork for the separation and, within a month, she was working a different job in a different town. Funny thing was, it took the better part of 18 months to get him to sign the divorce papers, even while he was dating another woman. Sometimes people don't realize how good they had it until the one they actually loved is gone. SMH.

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Sergey Fraimovich
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Her: Lost her apartment, her job and a computer game. Him: Got a free breakfast and is now back shagging his ex. And she considers this a victory?! I must be missing something.

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Donna Cheung
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Why would people be disagreeing with what she did? She was cheated on, she responded not with hostility (I mean she could have publicly let everybody know what happened but she didn't). This was her form of closure (although some people may prefer to "talk it over" but let's be honest, what is there to talk about with a cheater?). I feel like the man deserved a lot worse, but karma's probably gonna catch up with him one day anyway...

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Johnny
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She probably did the right thing for herself, but I don't think he's going to feel particularly bad about being cut off, the guy was already sleeping with another woman, not just a quickie in the car but sleeping all night and cuddling. The relationship was already over in his mind.

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Eva Verde
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4 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She obviously thinks about him so much more than he about her. She is the one sharing her story with us, looking for approval and confirmation about how amazingly well she did. Like someone already said, the guy was probably relieved there was no big argument and she just conveniently disappeared. If he cheated on her, not really hiding it much (in his own flat that she had a key to), it means he wanted her to find out, just didn't want to start all the breakup drama himself. Said that, he is a f.cking cheater and she should stop thinking about him. He is not sorry and he doesn't spend time thinking how wonderful she was, believe me.

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MaryBored Pasaribu
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The best move on ever... That Closure thing is sh** No advantage come from it

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Ben Smith
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If he’s cheating on you then he probably doesn’t care so much that you left. It’s an easy break up for him. I know you think you made some grand statement, but he’s a guy: he moved on by the next weekend.

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laura gilman
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I would have crawled in bed naked with them. Seen their reaction then punched him the face. Much more satisfying

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Jenny Lee
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

They were together for 5 years and not even living together?...He was clearly not committed to her and probably did not care much that she went through all the trouble to totally alter her life.

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Lip
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Some people prefer to live apart. This a lot to glean from a small detail.

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Gary Rhodes
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I always go full nuclear when I throw someone out of my life, friends or a SO. I don't want them back and don't care about their butthurt, screw'em

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Courtney Christelle
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think she handled that in a classy way. He's going to wake up, see the breakfast and the video game and know he messed up. He'll try to contact he but discover he can't. He's the one not getting closure here.

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Carol Roeder
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think this woman rocks! He is such a slim ball, I wouldn't give him the sweat from my pits if he was dying of thirst!

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Ruth Beaty
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yeah, I'm with the commenters who say take the breakfast and game with you. I'd return the game and give the breakfast to someone, not piece of s**t cheater like that. He'll just consider it a bonus and won't think he's done anything wrong.

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Mandy Delaforce (PC Girl)
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

THIS is how you end a relationship. Revenge is petty and pointless, as it just makes the cheater feel validated. Totally ghosting him shows him without any doubt that trust has been irreversibly broken.

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Octavia Hansen
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This man sleeping with someone else means he doesn't care about consequences and certainly not about this woman's feelings, or a future that could have been. She did very well. Don't waste another second on someone who doesn't love you. ANY time you spend thinking about someone who does not care about you means someone you could be loving is going without your love. And later, this incident will be a hazy memory and a stepping stone to the rest of your life . . .

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m m
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's gonna hurt and haunt him for sure to loose a girl like that. My ex came crying to me after 4 months of no contact, but I had nothing else to tell him and didn't wanna hear any of his s**t, so I closed the door in his face. He was furious. Left me a note calling me names and other nasty stuff. But it's just the maturity of people who cheat and turn they heads after other women/men - it's not existent.

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Jaded Queen
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Seriously! She should have taken revenge like that condom lady, she uprooted her life coz of him. Just gave up her life. It was ok if her relationship was actually hindering her move nd better opportunities, but that's just impulsive and irrational. Even by not giving him the time of day she literally made so many changes coz of him, effectively giving him the unconscious importance. I am not one for talking/closure, but getting a good revenge should always be done. God what a waste of 5 years, cheaters are the worst. Should be allowed to skin them slowly for all eternity.

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Sinkvenice
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

@deanna woods - Pretty much everything on this site is ridiculous :-)

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Kayla Albert
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I wish more woman would do this honestly! Even if not to the extent but "oh he cheated on me!! I'm going to destroy his car or his life forever!!! Instead just leave!! Leave him alone for good!!

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m. b
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Majestic. The only question left since he is a man, can he play the game without any memories or regrets?

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Chancey
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Not the video game!!!! I would have never left the game!

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Id row
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Oh, to be a fly on the wall when that moment of realization hit him.

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Meghan
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

To those hating on the OP: 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 That shows you're the type of person that would be the most hurt by this. People only hit out with that weak s**t when they are the most likely to get hurt and don't want to show it. They think making those weak hits makes them look untouchable or manly but it shows the exact opposite. The OP is strong and didn't need him to make her happy, that threatens weak mens imagined manliness. " She didn't want or need anything from a man? She didn't beg him for love? HA! Well the man didn't need her first so nah nah nah!" Such a childish response, that's why I call them weak.

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An Opinion
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I know this couple. She cheated on him about 6 months earlier with one of his friends (I won't say who). People should really get the full story before they make assumptions and start to lay blame. Just saying.

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Charlotte Sandoval
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sounds like ending that relationship without a fuss was definitely the best for them both, then. It may have been a toxic relationship, but it didn't end toxicly, so win win?

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I don't know either person, obviously. But if I had been in a satisfactory relationship with someone for five years I think I would not want to give up that investment without knowing a few details. Yes, he cheated on her and he was entirely in the wrong, but sometimes there are mitigating circumstances and sometimes people make bad mistakes. I would have wanted to know his side of the story and how he felt about what had happened. He might be a bad person to be in a relationship with, but someone as rigid as she is might not be a day in the park either.

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This is so fake. After 5 years you don't just have nothing at the house to get, no entwined bills, etc. It's a fantasy. Nice job faking out reddit, though. Sucker born every minute and two to take him.

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Would've been better if she never left any sign that she was there at all.

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NMN
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yeah, i thought that is what she would do. Do all except leaving the keys, breakfast and videogame. Thus she would just have vanished.

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Aside from the rest of the story, asking others to block him is childish.

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For me, this seems a bit too much - she changed her whole life and living because of his fault and to have revenge on him. Why change all that, this seems much more punishment and pain for her than for him. Besides - hopefully a longtime relationship is stronger than breaking up when someone cheated.

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Aunt Messy
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When she moved on, she moved on in a serious way. This way, he has no idea where she is or even where to look for her. It's gotta be driving him bonkers. ...///... Why should she hang around the same town and hear about his fuckpuppets? She definitely wins.

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Stupid as f**k post and with that attitude she deserves all the cheating she can get for being so immature instead of calling it out then leaving like a adult

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deanna woods
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She did the right thing. He would probably want to talk about what happened and make a whole bunch of excuses. As for the people who said that he won because she didn't confront him: getting a free video game and breakfast doesn't make him the winner here. He will realize that she was there and saw what he was doing and she is done with him.

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Ms.GB
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

People saying he won...have you never cared about someone before, if he really didn't give a s**t at all he wouldn't have been with her for 5 years and would have just broken up with her before sleeping with his ex. Imagine anyone that you've been in a relationship with for 5 years just vanishing forever after you hurt them...but know you're right a game is totally worth it?!

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WaitingtokissGregDavis
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This screams class. Also suggests she was sort of ready for the opportunity to move on if she changed her life so drastically. What a total BIRD. What she did was pure poetry.

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CherryAmy
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I would love to know how the guy reacted when he realized she found out what was going on...

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Spikey Bunny
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm glad she respected herself enough to just walk away. Who knows what their relationship was like, what else she's already put up with. I hope she's able to rebuild her life and have better relationships in the future. She deserves it.

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WilvanderHeijden
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm a man and thumbs up for her. Any guy telling this lady that she done him wrong is either an incel or a delusional POS. Hope she finds a real man that knows how to treat a real lady.

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deanna woods
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That was a very kind thing for you to say. You need to teach a class in how to be a gentleman.

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Kirsty Fleming
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I did the same with a 4 year relationship. He left himself logged into fb on the iPad. I went to use it and the 1st thing I saw was a convo to a girl we knew. He was saying how he couldn't stop thinking about her and he was glad that I miscarried our twins. He was at work I left the iPad in a place so 'he knew', walked out the door and never spoke to him again. It drove him CRAZY! He posted me a million letters, sent so many flowers, would get his family and friends to say they wanted me to do their nails and all the time there was more flowers and letters there. He did so so many other possessive horrible and creepy things I won't go in to. I started seeing someone else and he started threatening him saying he best look after me! Ironic right ha. He lost everything after us. Job, house, the plot lol. I think someone was looking down on me that day, I dodged a crazy bullet he was such an awful bf I just couldn't see it then. After everything he put me though I got the best revenge!

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NeverGoWoke
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Good for her - fighting and arguing won't solve anything; it's better to walk away with your head held high.

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Vicki Lowers
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

As someone who HAD a spouse that cheated, I'm ambivalent about her handling of this but she did what felt right for her. I wager that she was wrong about at least one thing. He DOES NOT look back at how "good he had it with her". Chances are he was relieved that she disappeared without the messy confrontation. Chances are his "ex" wasn't his "ex" but his "now". She was certainly his "extra". He came out with everything he wanted, including a parting gift. But most revenge is rarely as sweet as they say. The. Real best revenge is moving on and succeeding without looking back and I'm speaking from experience.

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Lisa
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

IDK. The way she did it was a m***********g statement, he won't forget that. Even if he tries, it'll be like when you suddenly remember an embarrassing moment and are rendered gobsmacked.

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Caroline Hennessy
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I wouldn't do this but I don't condemn her for doing it. Seems to me like she acted instinctively and protected herself from further pain.

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Ms.GB
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm really passive aggressive I can see myself doing the same...probably would have eaten the breakfast and given the game to someone else though.

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Carol Emory
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I wouldn't have left the video game. I would have taken a picture of everything..sent it to his phone...returned the game or sold it, dumped breakfast in the trash...then I would have done the rest of what she mentioned.

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Luisa Vasconcelos
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If he had it good with her in the last 5 years, he would not have hurt her as he did. He woke up, went to the kitchen, said his ex that he made breakfast and they played video game together, then sex and sleep again . She should have told his ex what for a son of a b*** he is and then ghost him. She just did him a favour. He didn't deserve this behavior because she was having his keys, but he still took his ex there and even fell asleep. He did not respect her.

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AzKhaleesi
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Although I feel she did the right thing, going through all of the changing of the number and deactivating stuff and changing jobs and such, that seems like more work than just blocking his number and blocking him on FB. If she had the job lined up already ok fine but it still seemed like a lot of extra work. But good for her.

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Sagtiya Sieelan
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I would do the same thing too. In fact, I have done it before to a relative who tried to backstab me .. .

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Onna Ariya
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

i did the same thing to my ex which we are together for 8 years. He proposed to me when he started to cheat with a "prostitute". I only found out from his phone and his hallucination confession while taking care of him for the 1 whole month in hospital. I arranged everything i could for him with his family, and then i left, silently without further explanation. left him in the hospital with his family to deal with him as I could not take it anymore. after 2 months he rang my doorbell and ask back the engagement ring. i gave it back without saying anything and then he left. i have to deal with all the haunting part of memories, trauma and even seeing a psychologist after 2 years. i didnt shed a tear, i did nothing. all my emotions have suddenly been vacuum sealed. it seems like nothing outside but eventually my health is signaling me another thing. i took a huge step to see a psychologist and learn how to deal with my own emotion. i am much better now :)

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deanna woods
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I am so sorry that happened to you, but I am glad that you are doing better now. I don't know why a guy would propose to a woman and then cheat on her. This is just me, but I would have said, "Are you about to propose to your prostitute?"

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Tim Cardy
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I call this one "nope", five years and not living together, yet they shared utility bills? What an immature relationship. Changed everything in one minute and disappeared? Took a job in another city? What a stupid story. Why would you give him all the power and sneak away? Stories like this should be about respecting yourself, empowering yourself, strengthening yourself, growing with Life experience, not about giving away all your power and sneaking away in the night like a little immature hurt child.

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Octavia Hansen
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This man has no feeling for her and will not remember this. She did well to move on. Time wasted on this creep means the one who will love her is going unloved. This man will fade from memory. Living well is the best revenge.

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Belinda_Vikingheart_🇧🇻
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think this is awsome. Graceful. I had a friend (a boy) who did excactly like her: I do admire him so much 👏👏🍾🎶🎈🎈❤

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Louise B
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm sorry, but this story shows up on multiple websites as an example of a 'this didn't happen' story. Think about it logically, she just changed her phone number on the way home? Everyone agreed to ghost him too, no questions asked? Yeah, this didn't happen - at least not as quickly and neatly this.

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Louise B
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Whatever changes she made were all based around him, so he still wins. Maybe it's a relief to him, he hasn't had to do anything - out of sight out of mind. He gets to wake up next to his new girl, no explaining to do, no hassle, no consequences. Who really suffered here?

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Ar osh
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

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Jos Tiguidou
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is some next level s**t. How many people here could say that they'd have the kind of mental fortitude to do that?? Do you know how much self-control one has to have to go through with all that she did and not even bat an eye about it? Although...5 years and you weren't even living together? That seems odd to me. Like how serious was this relationship if you'd been together for that long and weren't even living together (although in this case, that's a bonus).

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Lana Jig-maker
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

See part of me would be like "he probably doesn't even notice I disappeared, perfectly happy with whatever chick he had" also, I would have broken the game and placed it back in the box. Then ghosted.

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Je souhaite
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Thats the way people should handle the situation, i mean really why should she waste her time, break up move on... Otherwise you miss out on something great

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Carol Emory
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sometimes it does work out like she hoped. A friend of mine said her husband came home one night saying he didn't want to make the marriage work anymore. I think he was hoping she'd get on her knees begging him not to leave. Instead, he was surprised when she went into survival mode, canceling credit cards, severing bank accounts and packing up the entire house to move (they were in student housing while he went to college.) She filed the paperwork for the separation and, within a month, she was working a different job in a different town. Funny thing was, it took the better part of 18 months to get him to sign the divorce papers, even while he was dating another woman. Sometimes people don't realize how good they had it until the one they actually loved is gone. SMH.

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Sergey Fraimovich
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Her: Lost her apartment, her job and a computer game. Him: Got a free breakfast and is now back shagging his ex. And she considers this a victory?! I must be missing something.

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Donna Cheung
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Why would people be disagreeing with what she did? She was cheated on, she responded not with hostility (I mean she could have publicly let everybody know what happened but she didn't). This was her form of closure (although some people may prefer to "talk it over" but let's be honest, what is there to talk about with a cheater?). I feel like the man deserved a lot worse, but karma's probably gonna catch up with him one day anyway...

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Johnny
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She probably did the right thing for herself, but I don't think he's going to feel particularly bad about being cut off, the guy was already sleeping with another woman, not just a quickie in the car but sleeping all night and cuddling. The relationship was already over in his mind.

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Eva Verde
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4 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She obviously thinks about him so much more than he about her. She is the one sharing her story with us, looking for approval and confirmation about how amazingly well she did. Like someone already said, the guy was probably relieved there was no big argument and she just conveniently disappeared. If he cheated on her, not really hiding it much (in his own flat that she had a key to), it means he wanted her to find out, just didn't want to start all the breakup drama himself. Said that, he is a f.cking cheater and she should stop thinking about him. He is not sorry and he doesn't spend time thinking how wonderful she was, believe me.

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MaryBored Pasaribu
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The best move on ever... That Closure thing is sh** No advantage come from it

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Ben Smith
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If he’s cheating on you then he probably doesn’t care so much that you left. It’s an easy break up for him. I know you think you made some grand statement, but he’s a guy: he moved on by the next weekend.

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laura gilman
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I would have crawled in bed naked with them. Seen their reaction then punched him the face. Much more satisfying

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Jenny Lee
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

They were together for 5 years and not even living together?...He was clearly not committed to her and probably did not care much that she went through all the trouble to totally alter her life.

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Lip
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Some people prefer to live apart. This a lot to glean from a small detail.

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Gary Rhodes
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I always go full nuclear when I throw someone out of my life, friends or a SO. I don't want them back and don't care about their butthurt, screw'em

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Courtney Christelle
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think she handled that in a classy way. He's going to wake up, see the breakfast and the video game and know he messed up. He'll try to contact he but discover he can't. He's the one not getting closure here.

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Carol Roeder
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think this woman rocks! He is such a slim ball, I wouldn't give him the sweat from my pits if he was dying of thirst!

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Ruth Beaty
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yeah, I'm with the commenters who say take the breakfast and game with you. I'd return the game and give the breakfast to someone, not piece of s**t cheater like that. He'll just consider it a bonus and won't think he's done anything wrong.

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Mandy Delaforce (PC Girl)
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

THIS is how you end a relationship. Revenge is petty and pointless, as it just makes the cheater feel validated. Totally ghosting him shows him without any doubt that trust has been irreversibly broken.

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Octavia Hansen
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This man sleeping with someone else means he doesn't care about consequences and certainly not about this woman's feelings, or a future that could have been. She did very well. Don't waste another second on someone who doesn't love you. ANY time you spend thinking about someone who does not care about you means someone you could be loving is going without your love. And later, this incident will be a hazy memory and a stepping stone to the rest of your life . . .

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m m
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's gonna hurt and haunt him for sure to loose a girl like that. My ex came crying to me after 4 months of no contact, but I had nothing else to tell him and didn't wanna hear any of his s**t, so I closed the door in his face. He was furious. Left me a note calling me names and other nasty stuff. But it's just the maturity of people who cheat and turn they heads after other women/men - it's not existent.

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Jaded Queen
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Seriously! She should have taken revenge like that condom lady, she uprooted her life coz of him. Just gave up her life. It was ok if her relationship was actually hindering her move nd better opportunities, but that's just impulsive and irrational. Even by not giving him the time of day she literally made so many changes coz of him, effectively giving him the unconscious importance. I am not one for talking/closure, but getting a good revenge should always be done. God what a waste of 5 years, cheaters are the worst. Should be allowed to skin them slowly for all eternity.

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Sinkvenice
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

@deanna woods - Pretty much everything on this site is ridiculous :-)

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Kayla Albert
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I wish more woman would do this honestly! Even if not to the extent but "oh he cheated on me!! I'm going to destroy his car or his life forever!!! Instead just leave!! Leave him alone for good!!

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m. b
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Majestic. The only question left since he is a man, can he play the game without any memories or regrets?

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Chancey
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Not the video game!!!! I would have never left the game!

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Id row
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Oh, to be a fly on the wall when that moment of realization hit him.

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Meghan
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

To those hating on the OP: 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 That shows you're the type of person that would be the most hurt by this. People only hit out with that weak s**t when they are the most likely to get hurt and don't want to show it. They think making those weak hits makes them look untouchable or manly but it shows the exact opposite. The OP is strong and didn't need him to make her happy, that threatens weak mens imagined manliness. " She didn't want or need anything from a man? She didn't beg him for love? HA! Well the man didn't need her first so nah nah nah!" Such a childish response, that's why I call them weak.

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An Opinion
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I know this couple. She cheated on him about 6 months earlier with one of his friends (I won't say who). People should really get the full story before they make assumptions and start to lay blame. Just saying.

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Charlotte Sandoval
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sounds like ending that relationship without a fuss was definitely the best for them both, then. It may have been a toxic relationship, but it didn't end toxicly, so win win?

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elfin
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I don't know either person, obviously. But if I had been in a satisfactory relationship with someone for five years I think I would not want to give up that investment without knowing a few details. Yes, he cheated on her and he was entirely in the wrong, but sometimes there are mitigating circumstances and sometimes people make bad mistakes. I would have wanted to know his side of the story and how he felt about what had happened. He might be a bad person to be in a relationship with, but someone as rigid as she is might not be a day in the park either.

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4 years ago

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This is so fake. After 5 years you don't just have nothing at the house to get, no entwined bills, etc. It's a fantasy. Nice job faking out reddit, though. Sucker born every minute and two to take him.

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Tammy Ralph
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Would've been better if she never left any sign that she was there at all.

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NMN
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yeah, i thought that is what she would do. Do all except leaving the keys, breakfast and videogame. Thus she would just have vanished.

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Aside from the rest of the story, asking others to block him is childish.

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Bored Birgit
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4 years ago

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For me, this seems a bit too much - she changed her whole life and living because of his fault and to have revenge on him. Why change all that, this seems much more punishment and pain for her than for him. Besides - hopefully a longtime relationship is stronger than breaking up when someone cheated.

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Aunt Messy
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When she moved on, she moved on in a serious way. This way, he has no idea where she is or even where to look for her. It's gotta be driving him bonkers. ...///... Why should she hang around the same town and hear about his fuckpuppets? She definitely wins.

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Stupid as f**k post and with that attitude she deserves all the cheating she can get for being so immature instead of calling it out then leaving like a adult

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