Dad Confronts 13 Y.O. Son About Downloading Photos Of Hot Men, He Blames It On His Mom
There are moments from our lives that are so embarrassing that we still feel a hot ball of shame in our chests after many years, even though objectively speaking we have nothing to feel guilty about. Think really hard about your teenage years: everyone has a handful of memories that make us groan, cringe, and facepalm because of how awkward things got. Memories that make us want to emigrate to Northern Greenland and live among the polar bears, away from all of humanity, until the ice caps melt.
Grant Ginder shared a funny, honest, and awkward story from way back in his teenage years about how he spent half a year downloading pictures of hot men onto his family computer. When confronted by his dad, whether it was him who was collecting the photos of the ‘beefcakes,’ Ginder panicked and tried to pin the blame on his mother. Yup. Awkward. But as any 13-year-old boy will know, this was the only strategically sound (300 IQ, 5D chess) move to make in this situation.
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Grant Ginder had an awkward and funny story to share from his youth
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Ginder shared the story as part of the National Coming Out Day, which was on the 11th of October. We’ve got to give it to Ginder, his story really made our day and all those painful memories from our youth sting just a little less.
When he was 13, Ginder downloaded lots of photos of ‘beefcakes,’ which his dad talked to him about…
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The cherry on top? The fact that Ginder’s mother recently called the 36-year-old and complimented him for his “excellent taste” in men during his teenage years.
Dr. Michael C. LaSala, writing on Psychology Today, has some advice for people who want to come out to their parents.
According to the professor, there’ll probably never be a ‘perfect’ moment to do so, but even so, it’s important to pick your timing: you don’t want to tell your parents the news during a family crisis, an important occasion, or during a massive argument.
What’s more, LaSala argues that your priority should be to show your parents that you love them, that you’re happy and healthy.
Do you agree with Dr. LaSala’s advice? What additional advice would you give? What do you think of Ginder shifting blame onto his mom? Has anything similar ever happened to you? Share your thoughts with us in the comment section below!
One Twitter user pointed out Ginder’s obvious mistake
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Here’s a picture of Ginder’s loving and supportive parents
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Lots of people loved the ‘beefcake’ story
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I wish we lived in a world where coming out didn't even need to happen or was a big deal. You could just bring home your loved one and show them to your family and it wasn't a big deal there was no 'you're gay' or 'you're straight' I mean yeah you could obviously be like oh yes I'm bi or trans or whatever you feel like but we keep hearing stories like this and every time it just bugs me. Like in that Love Simon scene where he is like why don't straight people have to come out. Sorry minor rant
I've thought about this a lot and so when my friend came out to me (for the first time ever he casually slid in the conversation that he had a boyfriend) I had basically no reaction at all. I knew he was gathering the courage to do it and I wanted him to see that I didn't find it any more interesting than if he had a girlfriend. It's been about two years and sometimes I wonder if he had wished for me to have a reaction or not. I need to ask him one day.
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Amazing parents for this fellow. Had it been mine, I'd have had the s**t beaten out of me, physically and emotionally. There would have been punishments, constant reminders that I was a piece of garbage, all leading to being disowned by the father and everlasting emotional manipulation by the mother. How do I know? Is what happened but years after I had left home but they had discovered that I was "into dudes".
I'm really sorry u had to deal with that kind of reaction
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That last update post made me laugh out loud! It's really nice to sometimes read about great parents in this sea of stories about terrible ones.
Haha, remembering embarrassing stories to relate to like this as a kid reminds me of the podcast Grown-ups Read Things They Wrote as Kids. It might help a lot with the nervousness of growing up.
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I really want to see the beefcake on the motorcycle that the mother liked XD I'm crying, good lord. Props to the family for accepting him though, even if he did come out at a later time. It seems like they might have respected his privacy and just waited for him to come out on his own, but I don't know the whole story
i think it's great that you had such awesome parents! most mother's would gladly take the heat in a situation like this (at least I like to think so). i hope the lines of communication never get tangled.
I find it almost ironic that if you take the GR from Grants first name and the INDER from his last name you get the word GRINDER which is a gay internet dating website in the UK. But that aside I hope Grant has a long and happy life just being allowed to be himself. He sounds like a wonderful guy and he deserves every happiness.
I'm so happy his parents were supportive. :) I might have gotten caught a few times here or there without any direct explanation required... the night I officially came out there was a freak out period and I thought the world was ending, but a night of sleep did everyone good and it was all better the next day. I totally get the awkwardness though... Noooooo I wasn't looking at your sports illustrated app! What? What desktop?? Oh, and those- I printed those pictures for artistic purposes... You say my drawing has huge boobs, huh? I didn't notice that...
A friend of mine was an alcoholic for a long time as he struggled at coming to terms with being gay. His fear was that, if he came out to his parents, they'd reject him. It all came to a head when he flipped out to his manager, quit his job and checked himself into rehab. He came out to his mother who said "I kinda knew you were, but was waiting until you were ready to tell me." Now he and his mother are closer than ever.
Are girls the only thing you know anything about? Maybe try reading a book so you can have other knowledge to relate with.
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I wish we lived in a world where coming out didn't even need to happen or was a big deal. You could just bring home your loved one and show them to your family and it wasn't a big deal there was no 'you're gay' or 'you're straight' I mean yeah you could obviously be like oh yes I'm bi or trans or whatever you feel like but we keep hearing stories like this and every time it just bugs me. Like in that Love Simon scene where he is like why don't straight people have to come out. Sorry minor rant
I've thought about this a lot and so when my friend came out to me (for the first time ever he casually slid in the conversation that he had a boyfriend) I had basically no reaction at all. I knew he was gathering the courage to do it and I wanted him to see that I didn't find it any more interesting than if he had a girlfriend. It's been about two years and sometimes I wonder if he had wished for me to have a reaction or not. I need to ask him one day.
Load More Replies... Amazing parents for this fellow. Had it been mine, I'd have had the s**t beaten out of me, physically and emotionally. There would have been punishments, constant reminders that I was a piece of garbage, all leading to being disowned by the father and everlasting emotional manipulation by the mother. How do I know? Is what happened but years after I had left home but they had discovered that I was "into dudes".
I'm really sorry u had to deal with that kind of reaction
Load More Replies... That last update post made me laugh out loud! It's really nice to sometimes read about great parents in this sea of stories about terrible ones.
Haha, remembering embarrassing stories to relate to like this as a kid reminds me of the podcast Grown-ups Read Things They Wrote as Kids. It might help a lot with the nervousness of growing up.
Load More Replies... I really want to see the beefcake on the motorcycle that the mother liked XD I'm crying, good lord. Props to the family for accepting him though, even if he did come out at a later time. It seems like they might have respected his privacy and just waited for him to come out on his own, but I don't know the whole story
i think it's great that you had such awesome parents! most mother's would gladly take the heat in a situation like this (at least I like to think so). i hope the lines of communication never get tangled.
I find it almost ironic that if you take the GR from Grants first name and the INDER from his last name you get the word GRINDER which is a gay internet dating website in the UK. But that aside I hope Grant has a long and happy life just being allowed to be himself. He sounds like a wonderful guy and he deserves every happiness.
I'm so happy his parents were supportive. :) I might have gotten caught a few times here or there without any direct explanation required... the night I officially came out there was a freak out period and I thought the world was ending, but a night of sleep did everyone good and it was all better the next day. I totally get the awkwardness though... Noooooo I wasn't looking at your sports illustrated app! What? What desktop?? Oh, and those- I printed those pictures for artistic purposes... You say my drawing has huge boobs, huh? I didn't notice that...
A friend of mine was an alcoholic for a long time as he struggled at coming to terms with being gay. His fear was that, if he came out to his parents, they'd reject him. It all came to a head when he flipped out to his manager, quit his job and checked himself into rehab. He came out to his mother who said "I kinda knew you were, but was waiting until you were ready to tell me." Now he and his mother are closer than ever.
Are girls the only thing you know anything about? Maybe try reading a book so you can have other knowledge to relate with.
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