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50 Of The Most ‘Antisocial’ Memes From This Instagram Account Cleverly Titled ‘Fear Of Going Out’
Look, not everyone wants to spend Friday night partying. Some of us want to roll ourselves into a blanket burrito and watch a movie at home. Alone. And without having to justify ourselves for it.
We're not ungrateful if we want to avoid our friends for a day or two. Nor are we defective if our mind goes blank when we meet new people. We're just (a bit) antisocial.
If you're one of these people (or simply want to understand your introverted friend better), there's an Instagram account dedicated to portraying this life in memes.
It's called FOGO. The acronym stands for The Fear of Going Out, and the one running it says this feeling is completely normal.
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The term introversion was popularized by Carl Jung and describes an inwards orientation to one's own mental life rather than the outward orientation of extroverts to social life. Introverts gain energy from reflection and lose energy in social gatherings.
However, it's important to point out that most people are neither total introverts nor pure extroverts but display features of both—they are the so-called ambiverts. Almost everyone needs occasional solitude to replenish their energy.
But cultures differ in how they value certain personality traits, and America, for example, likes its extroverts. This society rewards assertiveness and encourages people to speak up.
Experts are guessing that the number of introverts as extroverts is the same, but the former is less visible and certainly less noisy so it's easy to think they're the minority.
Introverts are drained by too much social interaction and are the first to leave a party. Even as children, they usually observe first and act later.
If I'm ever in one of those horror movie/ thriller situations where my life depends on how quietly I can breath, I'd like donations to charity in lieu of flowers.
Some research claims that the inherent differences between introverts and extroverts lie within the dopamine system in the brain, which makes pleasurable rewards (including social interaction) more salient to extroverts. This suggests that extroverts may be more likely to experience positive emotions.
Even though introverts are generally likely to report lower levels of happiness than extroverts, this does not mean that they are destined to be miserable. The good news is that a consistent theme in happiness research claims our choices and behaviors (the ones that are in our control and changeable) have significant effects on our well-being.
Absolutely! It triggers my sarcastic teacher button and prepare to be subtly sabotaged wherever I can do so.
This is acceptable for adults too. I did this today to someone. I didn't scream it, but still.
According to Derrick Carpenter, a positive psychology coach at Happify, a helpful tip for those with introverted tendencies is to try to see their whole self. "It’s important to note that the scale on which introversion and extroversion are measured is just that: a scale," Carpenter wrote in VeryWell Mind. "Within each of us lies some tendency to recharge our batteries through social interaction and affiliation with others and another tendency to recharge on our own. Be honest with yourself about what you need in a given moment and allow yourself permission to have it."
In other words, when calling a friend to hang out feels right, make a lunch date. But if you’d rather curl up with a good book, go for it.
*Aggressively throws a pair of airplane headphones at the perpetrator*
Carpenter also thinks introverted behavior has an upside that often gets overlooked. "Introverts tend to be better problem solvers, perform better academically, exhibit stronger regulation of their behavior, and are less likely to take risks that may cause them harm," he said.
"Research shows that introverts may experience these benefits as a result of having more gray matter in their prefrontal cortex, the area at the front of the brain that controls complex and abstract thinking, emotion regulation, and decision making."
Teenagers are like the moles in your yard and raccoons in your trash can and ants in your kitchen and yeah, I'll just take the plants and pets, thank you.
Remember that in many classical and theological perspectives on happiness from Aristotle to the Buddha, spending time alone and contemplating the meaning and purpose of our lives is a necessity.
"Learn to embrace your unique introvert qualities and tap into the happiness they bring you, whether that’s teaching yourself something new, exploring nature on a solo trek, or cultivating your creative side," Carpenter said.
Hey that's how my family found half of its current living relatives!
I can't stand most of my relatives, I don't need any more that I have to avoid.
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Mostly hoped there was someone better in my ancestors than in my current relatives.
In my case I was very interested because as it turns out my family used to be uber wealthy and I couldn't believe it because these days we're very middle class, where did all the money go if they were that wealthy? I just HAD to know, who f****d it up for the rest of us.
I'm black and adopted, and I want to connect with my ancestry and roots because I am not as connected as I want to be.
Hopefully a DNA test will give you some answers. I love researching my past. Good luck.
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I had a cousin I didn't know existed contact me on FaceBook a couple of years ago, and that's how I ended up deleting my account.
Did the ancestry DNA test and found out my dad had seeded the entire East Coast of Australia.
Feel like since my brother died I just don't have it in my to find out if I have more family somewhere, I'm just broken inside
He must have been a great person. So sorry for your loss.
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a friend from college recently found a lost brother her parents gave up for adoption more than 30 years ago thanks to an ancestry test. I don't know the details about why they gave him up for adoption, or if my friend knew this beforehand, but at least for him this brought a sense of closure since all his life he wanted to find out his origins, but his adoptive parents weren't given any info about his real family. He took the test and nothing happened, but coincidentally, she took the test too some time later, and she was notified she had a match in the database, so close that it must be her sibling, and that's how they connected.
All those ancestry websites are just a plot from the government to collect your DNA, so they can clone you, vaccinate you and replace you with an identical who doesn't care about their constitutional rights and their freedom and won't refuse to follow like all the sheeple. /S
It can actually be very helpful, medically speaking. Also I'm tempted to do one myself because my father was abandoned as a baby and there are some traits that don't necessarily align to our being Irish. It an intrigue.
I got the 23andme dna test with medical info. It's really interesting and has given me interesting medical info. I opted in to being involved with their genetics research so periodically I answer a few health related questions. If my input can help others I am all for it.
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My great grandfather redesigned the incandescent lightbulb filament (still in use today) and my great great something something uncle was General Sherman. My great grandmother started the first book mobile. History is interesting. Unfortunately most people seem more interested in using their genetic lineage to justify shitty, entitled behavior.
My dad is waaayyyy into genealogy. Found out we are distantly related to Heinrick Himmler. Thanks, dad. 😩
At least you spelled his name wrong. That's a good sign!
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I love working on my family history -- I know 100x more about my great-great-grandfather than I do about my siblings or cousins. As a general rule, dead ancestors don't annoy you (or get annoyed with you) like living family can.
Hey I find it fascinating. Plus I can find out who to blame my negative qualities on
Ancestors are perfect family - lots of them, a few with some pretty cool stories and yet none of them call asking you to a birthday party or family reunion or to babysit - because they're all dead.
You don't have to interact with the dead members of your family though.
I don't know my mother so there's a whole half of me I know nothing about. But I'm also poor so I can't justify spending the money
Did the 23 & ME thing...Oy...waaaay too many new relatives...29 ar last count...
I have three living relatives that I know of - and I don't like any of them!
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I figure the rest of the population is just waiting to find out we are related so they can ask to borrow money from me since we are "family." No thanks.
Really just curious if i have siblings i don't know about because my parents weren't good or faithful to each other and divorced when i was 3
Hoping something in the genetics will explain things, like "Oh we're part Russian. THAT explains why we're all so batshi*".
as someone who has done this, all we get is where our families are from in the last couple hundred years. They don't tell you you're descended from Charlemagne. They tell you you're 37% italian, 53% german and 10% english/scots and you can find some relatives IF they've signed up for that part. You mostly just get their initials and that you're 4th cousins. it costs a lot extra to get involved with researching your family tree.
it's a desperate search for someone in the lineage that is normal
Tbh I find geneology extremely boring lol. My nan got it done as a gift for her 80th and she was showing everyone. I just pretended I was interested lol.
I understand where you're coming from. For me the joy isn't in the individuals, it's the digging for information.
Load More Replies... Yes, it is. The only reason to pursue ancestry is in the admittedly possibility that I might be adopted. **sigh**
Your dead family doesn't haunt you on Thanksgiving and Halloween, doesn't demand gifts on Christmas, doesn't show all their holiday pictures and doesn't talk too much.
It is to brag, like "You know, I am related to George Washington, Shawn Mendez and the king of Belgium."
Not necessarily. My dad does ancestry as a hobby. He loves searching through old records - it's all farmers an fishermen - and his favourite story is about one of our ancestors suing another over a sleeping cap in the 1700s.
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I am a historian and I NEVER understand why people want to know about their "ancestors." You are not responsible for the crap they did nor are you able to "bathe" in their glory when they did something good. Probably they were serfs or slaves or whatever. You and only you are responsible for your life. You are not a tool.
Classism. Knowing noble lineage was important for oppressing the "common" folk.
Yeah, tons of blue blooded people on my tree which has absolutely zero to do with me or my life
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But when you feel like leaving your safe little cave, own it. "Particularly when you are already going to be socializing, act the part of an extrovert," Carpenter suggested.
"This doesn't mean you should be inauthentic. Just bring more of your real self. Be an extroverted introvert. Harness that rich inner world of yours and jump into the conversation more, share your opinion, crack a joke, and take the spotlight every once in a while."
Kind of like the things we all should be doing right now, but here we are reading BoredPanda.
In fact, studies, where introverts were instructed to act like extroverts in a group of people, showed they ended up experiencing greater positive emotion than introverts acting normally (in fact, they rated their positive emotion higher than the naturally extroverted people, too) and reported feeling more authentic at the moment.
There are plenty of ways to go about it. "If you're not socializing much, encourage yourself to connect with others in the ways that work well for you," the psychology coach said.
"Join a group to take part in an activity you already love, like a choir, book club, or fitness class. Even though initiating these decisions may feel like an extra effort, the payoff should be noticeable. When you realize you acted more extroverted in a way that felt good, keep it up."
Whatever happens in these settings, you will always be able to retreat and find memes to scroll through instead!
I aspire to be this much of a character in my senior years.
When it comes to unknown parking situations I'm ALWAYS nervous. Especially in busy inner-city areas. That's why I love my bike...
Early on in the pandemic a woman (typical Karen-ish Anti-Masker) asked me why I moved so far out of her way while walking down the pavement towards her and I said "Oh it has nothing to do with COVID, I would've done it anyway"
Now you tell me! It's already the 10th! How can I plan for this without notice???
You know what is selfish? Bringing children into this mess of a world that we are destroying and doing nothing to help fix it just so they can suffer later on
It's only February and I have my doubts about 2022. I'd like a refund.
Just be a bleached almond like the rest of us, huh? Then people just comment on bare skin exposure instead of bare skin with ink.
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Can we please stop calling each other selfish? No matter if one decides to have or not have kids, saying this to each other is quite rude and not very respectful. You make your decisions and I make mine, and we can still be friends and thankful for each other.
Thank you. I'm sick of it. I love the f*****g hell out of my children. And being a actual antisocial person. They are included in my small group of people I trust.
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I'm really tired of "antisocial" being used incorrectly. As a psychologist in training, it really irks me to see that a rather serious diagnosis is still used jokingly.
As a former therapist, it irks me to see the DSM taken so seriously. It has previously listed things such as diabetes and homosexuality as mental disorders. Diagnoses are in and out with each edition. It's disheartening to realize that so many diagnoses have more to do with culture and current zeitgeist than actual mental impediments. It's good practice to view patients as people instead of labels. It reduces practitioner bias as well as stigmatization. It's best to strive for warmth, authenticity, and being present vs. rubber stamping an ICD-9 code like a label on on a Petrie dish. Always remember not to take the DSM or yourself too seriously. :)
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None of this was "antisocial" you remember the pandemic? And how this is about random things?
When I lived in DC and went out to the clubs (goth/industrial clubs), I used to sit in my car and try to build up the energy to actually go into the club and socialize.
Why would you go to HR? There was a problem, you confronted them directly like an adult, now there is no problem. Maybe we don't always have to act like children and run to mom and dad any time anything is wrong?
I was raised by an interrogator. I learned to read people and see who they really were... I was also taught to be something other than what I am to the ends of such discovery. I am an introvert to the hilt. But I have been broken by needs and expectations to become a gregarious, helpful, self-sacrificing creature...who feels cold at her core because she isn't true to herself. I wonder sometimes--is it my nature to be so duplicitous? Does this help anyone for me to hide my true nature, to try to help them as I suffer? Do I have a proper perspective...?
I really wish people would agree on the correct meaning of words. Social, sociable, anti-social anti-sociable, non-social, introvert, extrovert, quiet, loud, depressed, unhappy, ... So many arguments where person #1 discusses pros and cons of A vs B with person #2 who thinks the argument is about C vs D, while the observer sees the argument as E vs F.
People that know them agree. It's people who throw the terms around without knowing the definitions that don't.
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I feel like there is a creature right behind me everywhere I go, and when I see someone in public who I know, the creature grabs my shoulders and steers me in another direction. I wish I wasn't so shy.
Oh, there is. It's called Kludde. Or sometimes Kledde-me-vel.
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I wish it was a problem that went away a yr ago. But it doesn't and posts like this can remind someone they're not the only one. I wish this stuff was as talked about in the 80s maybe it wouldn't have taken 30 yrs for me to get help
Load More Replies... Can we please stop calling each other selfish? No matter if one decides to have or not have kids, saying this to each other is quite rude and not very respectful. You make your decisions and I make mine, and we can still be friends and thankful for each other.
Thank you. I'm sick of it. I love the f*****g hell out of my children. And being a actual antisocial person. They are included in my small group of people I trust.
Load More Replies... I'm really tired of "antisocial" being used incorrectly. As a psychologist in training, it really irks me to see that a rather serious diagnosis is still used jokingly.
As a former therapist, it irks me to see the DSM taken so seriously. It has previously listed things such as diabetes and homosexuality as mental disorders. Diagnoses are in and out with each edition. It's disheartening to realize that so many diagnoses have more to do with culture and current zeitgeist than actual mental impediments. It's good practice to view patients as people instead of labels. It reduces practitioner bias as well as stigmatization. It's best to strive for warmth, authenticity, and being present vs. rubber stamping an ICD-9 code like a label on on a Petrie dish. Always remember not to take the DSM or yourself too seriously. :)
Load More Replies... None of this was "antisocial" you remember the pandemic? And how this is about random things?
When I lived in DC and went out to the clubs (goth/industrial clubs), I used to sit in my car and try to build up the energy to actually go into the club and socialize.
Why would you go to HR? There was a problem, you confronted them directly like an adult, now there is no problem. Maybe we don't always have to act like children and run to mom and dad any time anything is wrong?
I was raised by an interrogator. I learned to read people and see who they really were... I was also taught to be something other than what I am to the ends of such discovery. I am an introvert to the hilt. But I have been broken by needs and expectations to become a gregarious, helpful, self-sacrificing creature...who feels cold at her core because she isn't true to herself. I wonder sometimes--is it my nature to be so duplicitous? Does this help anyone for me to hide my true nature, to try to help them as I suffer? Do I have a proper perspective...?
I really wish people would agree on the correct meaning of words. Social, sociable, anti-social anti-sociable, non-social, introvert, extrovert, quiet, loud, depressed, unhappy, ... So many arguments where person #1 discusses pros and cons of A vs B with person #2 who thinks the argument is about C vs D, while the observer sees the argument as E vs F.
People that know them agree. It's people who throw the terms around without knowing the definitions that don't.
Load More Replies... I feel like there is a creature right behind me everywhere I go, and when I see someone in public who I know, the creature grabs my shoulders and steers me in another direction. I wish I wasn't so shy.
Oh, there is. It's called Kludde. Or sometimes Kledde-me-vel.
Load More Replies... I wish it was a problem that went away a yr ago. But it doesn't and posts like this can remind someone they're not the only one. I wish this stuff was as talked about in the 80s maybe it wouldn't have taken 30 yrs for me to get help
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