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50 Of The Most ‘Antisocial’ Memes From This Instagram Account Cleverly Titled ‘Fear Of Going Out’
Look, not everyone wants to spend Friday night partying. Some of us want to roll ourselves into a blanket burrito and watch a movie at home. Alone. And without having to justify ourselves for it.
We're not ungrateful if we want to avoid our friends for a day or two. Nor are we defective if our mind goes blank when we meet new people. We're just (a bit) antisocial.
If you're one of these people (or simply want to understand your introverted friend better), there's an Instagram account dedicated to portraying this life in memes.
It's called FOGO. The acronym stands for The Fear of Going Out, and the one running it says this feeling is completely normal.
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Yep. And I am not shy. Or arrogant. Maybe a bit. The point is, it's okay not to talk.
I get real sick and tired of my daughter (the quiet kid in class) being called out for her quiet thoughtfulness by Teachers. She gets excellent grades, she takes part when she has something to say but at every single parents' evening it's the same bullcrap "Oh if only she'd talk up a bit more in class" (most of the time she can't because the loud mouthy kids talk over her but the teachers aren't interested in dealing with that).
My kid is the loud mouthy one. I know he's not in your daughter's class, but I'd still like to say sorry on behalf of my little punk of a son.
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I don't think Keanu has any social media accounts... he said this, but it was an interview and not that he just decided to write it down
I was thinking the same... I was like since when does Keanu have a Twitter account when he said that he doesn't have any social media? Hmmm... maybe he changed his mind about Twitter!
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People always want me to talk more. But when i say something, they don't listen. So what's the point of talking?
Someone I had just met (but already had made me dislike her) said to me in front of a bunch of people: "You're awfully quiet." I gave no reaction and remained silent. After a while she said, "Why aren't you talking?" I said - very slowly - "Well, you said I was quiet, and I didn't want to show everyone how wrong you were." Whether you're an introvert or an extrovert, no one is entitled to your thoughts.
People see quietness as some kind of fault - shy and insecure. Some people are just naturally quiet and prefer quietness. Unfortunately LOUD trumps QUIET every time. If you are ever on a committee make sure you are the minutes secretary; that way every word you say will be recorded. People just don't listen to quiet people.
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Many people are garrulous. They speak much, but often have little to say of any importance. For many of them, being with a person who appreciates silence is unnerving. I see this all the time, because I am one who appreciates silence.
it's all fun and games until you meet someone even quieter than yourself, then it feels like aha! checkmate!
Load More Replies... Choose silence of all virtues, for by it you hear other men's imperfections and Conceal your own! G.B. Shaw.
There is an great book ("QUIET" by Susan Cain) on the topic, which makes excellent reading. I am 75 yo and have had a speech impediment since the first words I ever uttered, according to my mum. (now that's a whole new topic for discussion). The point is I am quiet, but not shy. I lead adventure tourism trips as a hobby, I was an IT systems development manager, a client services officer, and several other roles requiring client interaction, even an IT lecturer at uni. But I am quiet and everyone wants me to speak up. I hate loud music (a pop concert or a disco is my personal form of hell). I have the TV volume set low, but anyone who joins me turns it up to painful levels and I leave the room. Thanks for ear buds so I can pretend to be listening to something else and just cut the volume down. So I commiserate with others in the same situation - and there is little I have found that gets others to be QUIET.
I was told in my face by an office mate: "the quiet ones like you are dangerous". It was because I refused to discuss my private family goings with said person who loves rolling around the company private info about people's lives. It quickly escalated in a whole blast with me being accused of trying to silence the other person, even though I tried to explain them (to no avail) that they could talk all they liked, they just didn't have to expect me doing the same. It ended with the person threatening me to never speak to me again other than strictly on office-related matters. For OVER HALF AN HOUR!!! I begged them to act on their threat.😖🙏🏻
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The first time I met my wife's sister, she talked non-stop. I finally asked her, "Do you ever stop talking?" Turned out she did, at least to me. My wife was impressed because nobody had ever done that before.
YES. And don't tell people they're skinny if you wouldn't tell someone they're fat
This happened to me during my last haircut. "You don't talk much," the barber said, "you're very quiet". Yes, thank you for highlighting my insecurity. It's like saying to someone, "You have big belly. You're very fat."
I wouldn't worry about it for a second, I'm sure you're fine around the people you like. That's all that matters. If people can't endure a bit of quiet time now and again it says more about them than you.
Load More Replies... With Keanu on this one. I've been asked that soo many times. It's annoying as hell because in truth there's really two questions being asked here. First one in unsaid. "What's wrong with you?", followed by the outloud one. "Why are you so quiet?". Nice to know I'm in such excellent company. Edited again because I forgot about the one where the drunkest person in the room lasers in on you and asks loud enough for the entire room to hear, "What's wrong with you? You hardly talk to anybody! Think you're too good for us or something!?" I've always wanted to answer "No, not everybody. Maybe just you.", but I figure it would cause even more of a scene, so I just head for the bathroom.
I feel you! All my life, people have said to me, "You're so quiet," and, "you should talk more". When I was a teenager, I thought I would become more outgoing when I hit my 20s. In my 20s, I thought it would probably happen in my 40s. I'm 40 in four months' time, and I'm still waiting for my transformation.
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I have loved this man since Permanent Record. It triggered me, made me put him on a pedestal that no other actor quite made it to.
I think it creeps some people out. you know the old saying, "It's ALWAYS the quiet ones!" I prefer to be quiet, even though I wish I had "the gift of gab" because it makes things easier somehow. But the "Chatty Cathies" as Mom calls them can be so Annoying!
If you're chatty people always comment and ask why too. Is there a happy median?
Better to be quiet and let people think you are a fool than speak and remove all doubt.
I find people who talk a lot exhausting --- except for my best friend. We can, and do talk a lot with each other. But acquaintances or strangers...nope
Sometimes I'm going over what I need to do. It needs to be okay to think to yourself.
Had this all through school. I'm just quiet, not very social and I've got nothing to say.
I much prefer to sit back and take it all in. I'm a good listener. I do love to share my knowledge that I've learned in my medical career. Especially to help seniors understand Medicare and all the benefits they may know know they qualify for. Or how to locate prescription assistance programs and apply for them.
People have asked me for years, "What's wrong?" Nothing, I'm just pensive...
Who dared ask this question of him? When it comes to Keanu, you do not quibble with who he is and what he does, you stand nearby with a smile, feeling the aura of kindness radiating off him, and you wait for the rare and beautiful moments when he opens his mouth to give you a nugget of philosophical wisdom like it was just plucked from the brain of Buddha. Leave our lord and savior alone! I WILL do a "Leave Brittney alone" video for Keanu.
I get this question a lot, I always say its because I am a great listener. It sounds a little conceited but it makes them drop it, its always the talkers that ask this and it gives them free reign.
Exactly! I've had two co-workers asking others about this in the last month..."why is he so quiet, he doesn't talk much" like...just leave me be. I'm here to do my work and go home.
My husband is playing cyber punk right now and I make sure he has the volume on so I can hear it because I am SO WEIRDED OUT by Keanu reeves’ character in the game who has actual dialogue! Like, FULL SENTENCES! I love it but it’s soooo strange! I’ve never heard him speak so much in any movie. Ever. :D
I'm a misanthropic introvert, so sometimes i'm just quiet and in my head, and a lot of the time i'm just quietly enduring searing back pain. Not a solvable thing, just not up to talking or being entertaining all the time. Whenever i'm like this, my wife asks me at least once an hour "what's wrong" and i tell her "nothing except my back hurts" or "i'm exhausted....and my back hurts" she asks if i need anything i tell her "no" but she keeps prodding and prodding until i inevitably say "i've answered that question X number of times already....and now you're quickly moving towards making the problem YOU" I know it's out of love, but every time the same scenario plays out it gets a little more grating.
The term introversion was popularized by Carl Jung and describes an inwards orientation to one's own mental life rather than the outward orientation of extroverts to social life. Introverts gain energy from reflection and lose energy in social gatherings.
However, it's important to point out that most people are neither total introverts nor pure extroverts but display features of both—they are the so-called ambiverts. Almost everyone needs occasional solitude to replenish their energy.
But cultures differ in how they value certain personality traits, and America, for example, likes its extroverts. This society rewards assertiveness and encourages people to speak up.
Experts are guessing that the number of introverts as extroverts is the same, but the former is less visible and certainly less noisy so it's easy to think they're the minority.
Introverts are drained by too much social interaction and are the first to leave a party. Even as children, they usually observe first and act later.
If I'm ever in one of those horror movie/ thriller situations where my life depends on how quietly I can breath, I'd like donations to charity in lieu of flowers.
Some research claims that the inherent differences between introverts and extroverts lie within the dopamine system in the brain, which makes pleasurable rewards (including social interaction) more salient to extroverts. This suggests that extroverts may be more likely to experience positive emotions.
Even though introverts are generally likely to report lower levels of happiness than extroverts, this does not mean that they are destined to be miserable. The good news is that a consistent theme in happiness research claims our choices and behaviors (the ones that are in our control and changeable) have significant effects on our well-being.
Absolutely! It triggers my sarcastic teacher button and prepare to be subtly sabotaged wherever I can do so.
This is acceptable for adults too. I did this today to someone. I didn't scream it, but still.
According to Derrick Carpenter, a positive psychology coach at Happify, a helpful tip for those with introverted tendencies is to try to see their whole self. "It’s important to note that the scale on which introversion and extroversion are measured is just that: a scale," Carpenter wrote in VeryWell Mind. "Within each of us lies some tendency to recharge our batteries through social interaction and affiliation with others and another tendency to recharge on our own. Be honest with yourself about what you need in a given moment and allow yourself permission to have it."
In other words, when calling a friend to hang out feels right, make a lunch date. But if you’d rather curl up with a good book, go for it.
*Aggressively throws a pair of airplane headphones at the perpetrator*
Carpenter also thinks introverted behavior has an upside that often gets overlooked. "Introverts tend to be better problem solvers, perform better academically, exhibit stronger regulation of their behavior, and are less likely to take risks that may cause them harm," he said.
"Research shows that introverts may experience these benefits as a result of having more gray matter in their prefrontal cortex, the area at the front of the brain that controls complex and abstract thinking, emotion regulation, and decision making."
Teenagers are like the moles in your yard and raccoons in your trash can and ants in your kitchen and yeah, I'll just take the plants and pets, thank you.
Remember that in many classical and theological perspectives on happiness from Aristotle to the Buddha, spending time alone and contemplating the meaning and purpose of our lives is a necessity.
"Learn to embrace your unique introvert qualities and tap into the happiness they bring you, whether that’s teaching yourself something new, exploring nature on a solo trek, or cultivating your creative side," Carpenter said.
Hey that's how my family found half of its current living relatives!
But when you feel like leaving your safe little cave, own it. "Particularly when you are already going to be socializing, act the part of an extrovert," Carpenter suggested.
"This doesn't mean you should be inauthentic. Just bring more of your real self. Be an extroverted introvert. Harness that rich inner world of yours and jump into the conversation more, share your opinion, crack a joke, and take the spotlight every once in a while."
Kind of like the things we all should be doing right now, but here we are reading BoredPanda.
In fact, studies, where introverts were instructed to act like extroverts in a group of people, showed they ended up experiencing greater positive emotion than introverts acting normally (in fact, they rated their positive emotion higher than the naturally extroverted people, too) and reported feeling more authentic at the moment.
There are plenty of ways to go about it. "If you're not socializing much, encourage yourself to connect with others in the ways that work well for you," the psychology coach said.
"Join a group to take part in an activity you already love, like a choir, book club, or fitness class. Even though initiating these decisions may feel like an extra effort, the payoff should be noticeable. When you realize you acted more extroverted in a way that felt good, keep it up."
Whatever happens in these settings, you will always be able to retreat and find memes to scroll through instead!
I aspire to be this much of a character in my senior years.
When it comes to unknown parking situations I'm ALWAYS nervous. Especially in busy inner-city areas. That's why I love my bike...
Early on in the pandemic a woman (typical Karen-ish Anti-Masker) asked me why I moved so far out of her way while walking down the pavement towards her and I said "Oh it has nothing to do with COVID, I would've done it anyway"
Now you tell me! It's already the 10th! How can I plan for this without notice???
You know what is selfish? Bringing children into this mess of a world that we are destroying and doing nothing to help fix it just so they can suffer later on
It's only February and I have my doubts about 2022. I'd like a refund.
Just be a bleached almond like the rest of us, huh? Then people just comment on bare skin exposure instead of bare skin with ink.
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Can we please stop calling each other selfish? No matter if one decides to have or not have kids, saying this to each other is quite rude and not very respectful. You make your decisions and I make mine, and we can still be friends and thankful for each other.
Thank you. I'm sick of it. I love the f*****g hell out of my children. And being a actual antisocial person. They are included in my small group of people I trust.
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I'm really tired of "antisocial" being used incorrectly. As a psychologist in training, it really irks me to see that a rather serious diagnosis is still used jokingly.
As a former therapist, it irks me to see the DSM taken so seriously. It has previously listed things such as diabetes and homosexuality as mental disorders. Diagnoses are in and out with each edition. It's disheartening to realize that so many diagnoses have more to do with culture and current zeitgeist than actual mental impediments. It's good practice to view patients as people instead of labels. It reduces practitioner bias as well as stigmatization. It's best to strive for warmth, authenticity, and being present vs. rubber stamping an ICD-9 code like a label on on a Petrie dish. Always remember not to take the DSM or yourself too seriously. :)
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None of this was "antisocial" you remember the pandemic? And how this is about random things?
When I lived in DC and went out to the clubs (goth/industrial clubs), I used to sit in my car and try to build up the energy to actually go into the club and socialize.
Why would you go to HR? There was a problem, you confronted them directly like an adult, now there is no problem. Maybe we don't always have to act like children and run to mom and dad any time anything is wrong?
I was raised by an interrogator. I learned to read people and see who they really were... I was also taught to be something other than what I am to the ends of such discovery. I am an introvert to the hilt. But I have been broken by needs and expectations to become a gregarious, helpful, self-sacrificing creature...who feels cold at her core because she isn't true to herself. I wonder sometimes--is it my nature to be so duplicitous? Does this help anyone for me to hide my true nature, to try to help them as I suffer? Do I have a proper perspective...?
I really wish people would agree on the correct meaning of words. Social, sociable, anti-social anti-sociable, non-social, introvert, extrovert, quiet, loud, depressed, unhappy, ... So many arguments where person #1 discusses pros and cons of A vs B with person #2 who thinks the argument is about C vs D, while the observer sees the argument as E vs F.
People that know them agree. It's people who throw the terms around without knowing the definitions that don't.
Load More Replies... I feel like there is a creature right behind me everywhere I go, and when I see someone in public who I know, the creature grabs my shoulders and steers me in another direction. I wish I wasn't so shy.
Oh, there is. It's called Kludde. Or sometimes Kledde-me-vel.
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I wish it was a problem that went away a yr ago. But it doesn't and posts like this can remind someone they're not the only one. I wish this stuff was as talked about in the 80s maybe it wouldn't have taken 30 yrs for me to get help
Load More Replies... Can we please stop calling each other selfish? No matter if one decides to have or not have kids, saying this to each other is quite rude and not very respectful. You make your decisions and I make mine, and we can still be friends and thankful for each other.
Thank you. I'm sick of it. I love the f*****g hell out of my children. And being a actual antisocial person. They are included in my small group of people I trust.
Load More Replies... I'm really tired of "antisocial" being used incorrectly. As a psychologist in training, it really irks me to see that a rather serious diagnosis is still used jokingly.
As a former therapist, it irks me to see the DSM taken so seriously. It has previously listed things such as diabetes and homosexuality as mental disorders. Diagnoses are in and out with each edition. It's disheartening to realize that so many diagnoses have more to do with culture and current zeitgeist than actual mental impediments. It's good practice to view patients as people instead of labels. It reduces practitioner bias as well as stigmatization. It's best to strive for warmth, authenticity, and being present vs. rubber stamping an ICD-9 code like a label on on a Petrie dish. Always remember not to take the DSM or yourself too seriously. :)
Load More Replies... None of this was "antisocial" you remember the pandemic? And how this is about random things?
When I lived in DC and went out to the clubs (goth/industrial clubs), I used to sit in my car and try to build up the energy to actually go into the club and socialize.
Why would you go to HR? There was a problem, you confronted them directly like an adult, now there is no problem. Maybe we don't always have to act like children and run to mom and dad any time anything is wrong?
I was raised by an interrogator. I learned to read people and see who they really were... I was also taught to be something other than what I am to the ends of such discovery. I am an introvert to the hilt. But I have been broken by needs and expectations to become a gregarious, helpful, self-sacrificing creature...who feels cold at her core because she isn't true to herself. I wonder sometimes--is it my nature to be so duplicitous? Does this help anyone for me to hide my true nature, to try to help them as I suffer? Do I have a proper perspective...?
I really wish people would agree on the correct meaning of words. Social, sociable, anti-social anti-sociable, non-social, introvert, extrovert, quiet, loud, depressed, unhappy, ... So many arguments where person #1 discusses pros and cons of A vs B with person #2 who thinks the argument is about C vs D, while the observer sees the argument as E vs F.
People that know them agree. It's people who throw the terms around without knowing the definitions that don't.
Load More Replies... I feel like there is a creature right behind me everywhere I go, and when I see someone in public who I know, the creature grabs my shoulders and steers me in another direction. I wish I wasn't so shy.
Oh, there is. It's called Kludde. Or sometimes Kledde-me-vel.
Load More Replies... I wish it was a problem that went away a yr ago. But it doesn't and posts like this can remind someone they're not the only one. I wish this stuff was as talked about in the 80s maybe it wouldn't have taken 30 yrs for me to get help
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