To us outsiders, being pregnant seems like such a beautiful experience. Months of researching baby names, learning about the human body during doctor's appointments, and bringing a new life into this world. Honestly, it sounds so magical.

But the everyday life of pregnancy is so much more than that. And way less glamorous than the movies want us to believe. Stylish maternity clothes are really expensive and hard to find, and that "glow" that everyone keeps mentioning is more sweat than sprinkles.

To paint you a more accurate picture of what it's really like to grow a human being in your belly, Bored Panda has compiled a list of honest posts that mothers and their loved ones made about them expecting.

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Unsolicited Advice

Unsolicited Advice

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New Prometheus
Community Member
1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's ok to assume one is pregnant if it encourages to be polite (to give a seat, open doors, etc) but if it's used to control and humiliate like in this example... Makes me MAD.

Abhinc
Community Member
1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

just like it's ok to give a pregnant woman unsolicited advices if you think that could make her feel better (like oh when i was pregnant i used to do "this" when my back was hurting maybe you could try to see if it works for you) but if it's to tell her how to behave ... no way !! and pregnancy is just terrible for unsolicited advices !! the amount of people who think they can control your life and decisions and actions is just unbelievable

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NsG
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1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Let's say you encountered someone who was pregnant - unequivocally, previously announced, definitely pregnant - in a coffee shop ordering a drink. One of two scenarios is happening: 1) her doctor has given her the okay to drink a certain level of caffeine up to a point where it won't harm the baby, or 2) she doesn't really give a crap about her onboard passenger and is probably going for a cigarette later too. Guess which scenario requires your input? Trick question! It's neither - unless you are *actually that woman's GP* and you advised ZERO caffeine - your input is neither needed nor wanted.

New Prometheus
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1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Otherwise ok but you don't need a doctor to OK you're caffeine when you are pregnant... You can have up to three cups a day according to recommendations where live. Is there a place in world where it is absolutely forbidden??

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Erica Cochrane
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1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

i am a barista, there's a few drinks we sell that people dont always realise as caffeinated, so if someone is clearly pregnant or buying the drink for a small child, i do tend to say 'just so you know, that does have caffiene in it'. I never say 'you shouldn't be having that!' because it is up to that person to decide for themselves if they want it. But i'd rather tell them, in case it's a real issue and they have been told explicitly to avoid it. I dont want to hurt anyone. But i'd never tell someone off. that being said, someone bought a drink with 3 shots of espresso in it for their 3 year old...

Christel Nellemann
Community Member
1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That is absolutely the right thing to do, and in a respectful way too. Well done .

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wifeofweasley
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1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't get why people stuck their nose in other peoples business 🙄

Louloubelle
Community Member
1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Because everyone wants to think they're smarter or better than other people.

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Zophra
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1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's caffeine- not heroin, for god's sake.

Jo Choto
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1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Some years ago, I lost quite a lot of weight. A customer who I hadn't seen in a while came in and as we were chatting, he asked me how old my child was. "She's nine now," I said. "Oh, you really have lost a lot of weight since having her, haven't you." "Nine YEARS old." I said. "Oh," he says, turning very red, "I thought you were pregnant and had had a baby," now turning purple. "Oh no," I said, "I was just fat." Because I'm direct like that and I don't care. He couldn't stop apologizing. I thought it was funny. However, never, ever assume anyone is pregnant, unless they tell you. My neighbor currently looks about nine months pregnant. She has cancer. Don't. Ever. Assume.

arielzeppelin zeppelin
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9 months ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sad. I've been called pregnant when I was just fat after having my baby. I said it's a food baby. Lmao 🤣 (was getting a burrito at the moment). I was a slender Fox when I found out I was pregnant and 10 years later I'm still trying to lose the weight. Having a baby messed up my hormones permenantly ..so I think it's funny that day said you've lost a lot of weight over 9 years. 🤣 For me that's legit still a struggle even after duet adjustments etc.You never know.

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The Redhead
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1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What nerve; going to complet strangers and giving them 'medical advice' it's none of their damn business. Love your response though.🤣

JessG
Community Member
1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The..."I'm not...pregnant" response??

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Philly Bob Squires
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1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I never ask a woman if she's pregnant even if she's giving birth at the moment! Not a wise move if you want to live a long life! LOL

Tin Woman
Community Member
1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have severe endo... go tell me I'm pregnant and see what happens.

Raven Sheridan
Community Member
1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The only time a man should assume that a woman is pregnant, is when the baby is literally coming out of her!

Louloubelle
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1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Or a woman, for that matter. Made this mistake in my life.

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Katerina Huskova
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1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Even pregnant women can have a cup od coffee

Hassan Ali
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RedOphelia 13
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1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Strangers need to learn to keep both their hands and unwarranted opinions to themselves. If you're in public and no one is asking, then don't pipe up. I can't even count on two hands the amount of times I got unsolicited advice or suggestions from strangers when I was pregnant. It's like people feel compelled to force themselves on you somehow.

Jason Alexander
Community Member
1 year ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Too much caffeine while pregnant is harmful to the fetus though, so that's not an opinion, it's a fact. Sharing facts is a good thing, science is a good thing. The reason we have a raging pandemic is because too many people think facts are opinions. 🙄

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Judith Rimmer
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9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What's with the not drinking coffee when pregnant? I have 4 beautiful daughters, all born healthy, and I drank coffee all the time.

Jessica Macklemoore
Community Member
11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Can I just say that if youre over the age of 21 and you honestly think pregnancy is just some magical thing and you dont understand that its also a life threatening medical condition with so many serious health risks and that it can and usually does involve a lot of pain, illness and emotional suffering at times, then you're a very ignorant peraon and clearly skipped all ur health classes about pregnancy and birth. Ever since I was 4 yrs old and my mom educated me about pregnancy and birth so id be prepared 4 my sister 2 be born, I saw it as a total nightmare...and she didnt even tell me about the fact that you could be totaly young and healthy and still just almost die without any warning or have permanent health complications or any of that really bad stuff! Many women who get pregnant find themselves in a really tough position 4 any # of reasons and its like no 1 ever wants 2 talk about the reality of that either!

Tara Akins
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1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ah yes. Reminds me of the time I was about 7 months preg with my first and was checking out at the grocery store with my hubs Dr pepper and some other stuff when this random woman tells me I can't drink the Dr pepper after I was tAlking with my friend at the register about possibly having gestational diabetes. Turns out I didn't. I just can't with that orange gunk (I kept vomiting it up) anyways. I turned around and told her its none of her business AT ALL. wasn't even my drink. Wasn't even her convo. Smh.

CatWoman312
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1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You’re allowed to drink caffeine when you’re pregnant just not a lot

Lizzy J
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9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Firstly: how do you know they’re pregnant? Secondly; hOw Do YoU kNoW tHeYrE nOt DrInKiNg DeCaF…

Kara Teters-Richmond
Community Member
10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Haha!! Served them right..how rude of anyone save your dr or partner to give opinions of what to put in your body...good for you!!

Amy Ferguson-Shannon
Community Member
11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Its inappropriate to comment to a stranger or anyone really about any personal preference. Why people think it's ok to make comments to pregnant women in this way baffles me. They wouldn't go up to her after she has had the baby and tell her she should be nursing her baby while she is giving it a bottle. Also maybe this coffee is the only thing her body will let her drink right now. Maybe everything else makes her sick. I knew someone that could only drink milk during her pregnancy and people that worked with us commented to her all the time that she should be drinking water although it made her barf every time. It really upset her. I told her she has to do what's best for her and that point in time it was getting enough fluid and if drinking milk(coffee) is the only way than so be it. They needed to mind their own business.

Alexander Thomas
Community Member
1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"You know you should mind your own f******* business" would have been actually a more truthful response.

Terje Hansen
Community Member
8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yeah. Just snap on a stranger bc they cared.. This is how the community dies. Involve, care, dare!

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Louloubelle
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1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My mother gave me some advice years ago, when as a teenager I asked when someone was due to have her baby (which was in a stroller). Never ask a woman if she's pregnant unless you see the baby physically coming out of her.

Kitty Moon
Community Member
6 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Unsolicited advice is always rude in my book. It assumes you know more about a person's situation and is usually a waste of the person's time. A lot of unsolicited advice is usually my clue to stay away from the person. I find those who tend to offer a lot of it are typically very limited in their experiences and just annoying.

Cassie Blymire
Community Member
9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have been drinking (decaf) coffee from 9-16 now (normal) coffee

Heather Wright
Community Member
10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I did that when I WAS 8 months pregnant. Friggin hilarious!

Kiri Tarapipipi
Community Member
11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So many pregnant women drink coffee

Jane TM
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11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Serious question though, is it okay to have caffeine when you're pregnant?

Kitty Ceratto
Community Member
8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Dr.s recommend you limit caffeine consumption during pregnancy. Because caffeine is believed to cause blood vessels in the uterus and placenta to constrict, which could reduce the blood supply to the fetus and inhibit growth.

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Débora Ceia
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11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Am I the only one who tought that the stranger wasn't trying to be controlling. Just offering important advice that the other women might not be aware off, like "don't eat raw fish, because it is armfull for the baby". Listening and knowing to take advice is wise.

J.Norton
Community Member
1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I am the same boat of "mind yer bidness", really I am. But, I had such a hard time not looking with shocked eyes at a woman at a wedding I went to yeeeaaaaarrrs ago who was 9 + months pregnant and drinking a full glass of red wine. Yikes! no one said a word (clearly not our business or place) but it was a tad shocking to see.......

Trialia
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10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

To be fair, at nine months it's not likely to harm the fetus' development anymore.

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