Carl Jung was one of the first people to define the terms introvert and extrovert in a psychological context; Jung described extroverts as preferring to engage with the outside world of objects, sensory perception, and action while introverts, according to him, are more focused on the internal world, are thoughtful and insightful.

The former usually have little to no trouble expressing their thoughts, feelings, and opinions—something we can't really say about the latter, which are often said to be shy or socially awkward and lack strong interpersonal skills. So in an attempt to understand them better, let's take a look at the Instagram account 'Introvert Nation.'

From getting a haircut to work and dating, it touches upon plenty of different aspects of everyday life and paints a pretty accurate picture of what it's like to be your own best friend. Continue scrolling to check out the content that 'Introvert Nation' has to offer and the conversation we had on the topic with writer Sophia Dembling, the author of The Introvert's Way: Living a Quiet Life in a Noisy World and Introverts in Love: The Quiet Way to Happily Ever After as well as psychologist Leon F. Seltzer, Ph.D., who—until October of 2020—had maintained a general private practice with clinical specialties in anger, trauma resolution (using EMDR and IFS), couples conflict, compulsive/addictive behaviors, stress control, and depression.

More info: Instagram

#1

Funny-Introvert-Jokes-Theintrovertnation

theintrovertnation Report

MissyTheUniverse
Community Member
5 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

More importantly my dogs are there. And also, I don't like people.

View More Replies...
View more comments

Seltzer said that many factors make someone an introvert, but the most prominent among them relates to interacting with others, which drains their energy. "It doesn't much matter what their social skills are or whether they actually enjoy the other's company, they still feel depleted after being in another's company for a substantial period of time," the psychologist told Bored Panda.

"Because of this, they require more solitary time to regroup than do extroverts (who are energized, or re-energized, through socializing), which is one reason that, overall, introverts prefer to engage in solitary activities. They also prefer to write rather than speak, listen rather than talk, and small gatherings vs. large, boisterous parties."

Dembling added that introversion is one of what personality psychologists call the Big Five traits (openness to experience, conscientiousness, extroversion—and therefore its opposite, introversion—agreeableness, neuroticism). "Some studies find that the brains of introverts are more active even in resting than those of extroverts, which causes us to be more easily overwhelmed/overstimulated," she explained.

There's also a huge body of research showing that extroverts are happier. But one recent study by the University of California, Riverside, psychologist Sonja Lyubomirsky and U.C. Riverside graduate student Seth Margolis suggests that simply acting like an extrovert might actually boost well-being—even for introverts.

The researchers had 131 undergraduates initially undergo a number of assessments to set a baseline for their health and personality. Next, Lyubomirsky and Margolis asked the students to alter their behaviors in specific ways for one week. Some had to be more "talkative, assertive, and spontaneous"; others were instructed to be "deliberate, quiet, and reserved."

(Although these behaviors were not labeled extroverted or introverted, Margolis and Lyubomirsky essentially pushed the students to act within those categories.) At the week's end, the two groups took the same tests that had established their baseline, and then they reversed roles for the second week. Afterward, they took the assessments one last time.

#7

Funny-Introvert-Jokes-Theintrovertnation

theintrovertnation Report

Markus Holstein
Community Member
5 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

But will they believe me if I wear a coat over my PJs?

View More Replies...
View more comments
#8

Funny-Introvert-Jokes-Theintrovertnation

theintrovertnation Report

troufaki13
Community Member
5 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have a new dream now!

Yvette Desmarais
Community Member
5 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'd be happy w a few million and a smaller house.

Randolph Croft
Community Member
5 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Not 'alone' - just not in romantic relationships. She has housekeepers, cooks, the usual suspects.

Lara Verne
Community Member
5 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Okay, but who's cleaning her castle?

J J
Community Member
5 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That. That would spark joy! Gimme a damn castle.

Lyriqal
Community Member
5 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Does she clean it though

J J
Community Member
5 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Y even clean it? Mess up a wing, move to another wing of the giant damn castle cuz y not???

Load More Replies...
Samiksha
Community Member
5 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's a nightmare for an introvert to live alone.... Atleast for me

GramDB
Community Member
5 months ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My dream is to be very rich, be eternally young and beautiful 👸, have an eternally young and handsome lover🤴, have perfect health, stay slim forever, able to eat and drink anything... and live in a white, hilltop Villa in the Greek Islands overlooking the Sea!

Claire Storace
Community Member
5 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Add to that my 2 sons, a library full of books and an endless amount of chocolate and I would be in heaven!!

LrdSlvrhnd
Community Member
5 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Can I be Enya when I grow up?

Eva Verde
Community Member
5 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I hope she has a good floor heating.

Mike
Community Member
2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Damn. Lucky. Ok, she worked for it, but damn. Luuucky.

Glynn Reid
Community Member
2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Keep the money and the cats. I want that castle though!

Nikki Angulo
Community Member
2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Who can say where the road goes?

Yasmin Janette
Community Member
2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

so lucky, so much space....i am disabled/housebound and I haven't been out in 3 years. My flat is difficult for me to get out without help. I am 80 years old, trying to find somewhere suitable to live, not found anywhere yet. do you think Enya would buy me a small property I could rent from her so I could get out.

Damiens mom
Community Member
5 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

New dream, except with dogs and pet skunks.

Yoga Kitty
Community Member
5 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Does she accept room mates? That come with five cats? Asking for a friend...

LolaTheCannibal
Community Member
5 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Well, my dream is actually have a basement full of co-

Dav Carro-Ripalda
Community Member
5 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Alone? So all the cleaning, the cooking, the bedding... All it is done by herself alone or do the cats lend a hand?

Andrea Dockham
Community Member
5 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

And ghosts. You know that castle is haunted.

Marie Hoover
Community Member
5 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I hope she has a cleaning woman.

ToyWyvern
Community Member
5 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm picturing Aristocats, just a beloved mama cat and kittens. She'd better make sure her butler isn't an idiot.

Load More Replies...
possessed imp
Community Member
5 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

i wanna be a castle, personally

Steve Riddle
Community Member
5 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Another reason the Human race is a Failed Experiment.

phil blanque
Community Member
5 months ago

This comment is hidden. Click here to view.

You know...if you have more than $3 million...you should give the rest away. You do not need it...give it to people who do need it. GREED

Busy Panda
Community Member
5 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Someone's money, like someone's body or properties. NOT YOUR DAMN BUSINESS. Your mentality is the same mentality of the people who want to ban abortion: perceiving themselves as having higher morale than other people, and try to regulate other people's lives. MIND YOUR OWN BUSINESS.

Load More Replies...
View More Replies...
View more comments

The researchers analyzed responses to assess whether acting as an introvert or extrovert had any effect on well-being and discovered that leaning into extroverted behaviors resulted in participants reporting higher measures of well-being, including positive emotions, a sense of social connectedness, and flow (full immersion in an enjoyable activity).

The opposite was also true: people who acted more introverted than usual saw declines in well-being. "I kind of wish the research didn't show that, but it does," Lyubomirsky said.

#11

Funny-Introvert-Jokes-Theintrovertnation

theintrovertnation Report

Adrian
Community Member
5 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If not on my contacts list, I don't answer - that's what answering machines are for. My contacts list has 17 entries.

View More Replies...
View more comments

Writer Sophia Dembling believes that Western society favors extroverts. "For example, many teachers grade students on class participation, which can be difficult for introverts, who do better in small groups, in writing, one-on-one," she explained. "Business also tends to favor extroverts. Introverts can find it difficult to shine in interviews, which are a form of performance, although research has found that while extroverts are better at getting the job, introverts are better at getting the job done."

"And introverts can have difficulty getting their voices heard in professional settings. In her excellent book The Genius of Opposites, Jennifer Kahnweiler suggests that introversion and extroversion should be treated as a diversity issue and that businesses do best with a balance of both and people who understand both," she added.

#17

Funny-Introvert-Jokes-Theintrovertnation

theintrovertnation Report

Anni
Community Member
5 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I get busted sometimes. A colleague will approach and say “Are you okay?” Me: Damn you face!

View More Replies...
View more comments

Psychologist Leon Seltzer also supports this notion, but he doesn't think that extroverts have it better everywhere. "My understanding is that in the U.S., extroverts outnumber introverts, but that the opposite is true in other parts of the world, both in Europe and particularly in Asia," he said. "If you look at ads in this country, you'll see that having a good time is illustrated not by someone sitting quietly reading a book but by eating and drinking with friends, playing sports, riding bikes, and so on."

"Moreover, it does seem to be true that in some subtle and not-so-subtle ways, introverts in America are discriminated against, almost as though their preferences are somewhat perverted. Added to this, creative individuals tend more to be introverts than extroverts, and being alone is less associated with loneliness than it is with extroverts."

#18

Funny-Introvert-Jokes-Theintrovertnation

theintrovertnation Report

Pepper Pots
Community Member
5 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I cant agree more, shoo its a whole day job

View more comments

Being an introvert can be challenging. Because they prefer quiet or alone time, some introverts can seem cold, aloof, or even antisocial to others that are more extroverted in nature.

"Being heard can be difficult; we need time to formulate our thoughts and are often talked over and through," Dembling said. "We also often take heat for our introversion, particularly young people. Kids are chastised if they would rather sit home with a book than go out and play with friends, and the party culture of college can be trying for introverts, who might even find themselves drinking too much in order to keep up with social demands."

#22

Funny-Introvert-Jokes-Theintrovertnation

theintrovertnation , twitter.com Report

Cat Palmer
Community Member
5 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Followed shortly by anxious potato worrying everyone was just laughing out of pity. (Please tell me that's not just me!)

View More Replies...
View more comments
#24

Funny-Introvert-Jokes-Theintrovertnation

theintrovertnation , twitter.com Report

Casey McAlister
Community Member
5 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sleeping at 5 pm? Night is the best time to be alone, I can't miss out on this.

View More Replies...
View more comments

To make their lives easier, Dembling thinks introverts should take control of their socialization and do things they enjoy with people they enjoy rather than allowing themselves to always wait for invitations (which are often extended by extroverts to do extroverted things).

"Figure out what you like to do and do the uncomfortable thing by extending invitations and you might find yourself enjoying people more," she suggested. "Also, the only way I can get myself to go to parties is if I promise myself that I can leave any time I want. Don't let anyone tell you the party will just fall to pieces if you leave; it won’t, and if you let yourself leave when you’re ready, you will find it a lot easier to say yes the next time."

#26

Funny-Introvert-Jokes-Theintrovertnation

theintrovertnation Report

Adrian
Community Member
5 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

As an introvert, I love extroverts talking about their lives. That way I never have to say anything.

View More Replies...
View more comments
See Also on Bored Panda
#27

Funny-Introvert-Jokes-Theintrovertnation

theintrovertnation Report

Java Addict
Community Member
5 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I figure introverts have their own wavelength. Eventually I'll come across someone with a compatible one.

View More Replies...
View more comments

If you need any encouragement, keep in mind that you don't need to reinvent yourself to connect to other people. "Contrary to common belief, introverts are no less skilled than extroverts in socializing," Seltzer said.

"In fact, because they're better listeners than extroverts and think first about what they're going to say before saying it—vs. extroverts, who need to discover what they think about something by first circling around it—as often as not, extroverts can learn as much about effective socializing from introverts as the reverse."

#31

Funny-Introvert-Jokes-Theintrovertnation

RebTamas , twitter.com Report

Abhinc
Community Member
5 months ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Can i have one too even if i'm not a girl ??? It's just amazing !!

View More Replies...
View more comments

The bottom line is that there's nothing wrong with the fact that you're an introvert. Or an extrovert, for that matter.

"The brain's reticular activating system determines whether one leans toward introversion or extroversion, and it's not anything that can change or needs to change," Seltzer added. "As a therapist, I've had people come to me to help me change them from an introvert to its opposite, and my response is that I can't do that, but I can help them to accept—and even celebrate—their introversion, which is not a defect."

"If they do need to develop better social skills, I can help them achieve that, but it won't change their inborn disposition to find introverted thinking and activity more congenial than what's 'natural' to their extroverted counterparts. Nor should it be," the psychologist explained.

See Also on Bored Panda
#37

Funny-Introvert-Jokes-Theintrovertnation

theintrovertnation , twitter.com Report

Cat Palmer
Community Member
5 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Once overheard someone asking a kid of about this age what she wanted for Christmas and she said "peace and quiet", and that kid is clearly my people.

View more comments
#38

Funny-Introvert-Jokes-Theintrovertnation

theintrovertnation , twitter.com Report

Henry Russell
Community Member
5 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

oh the misery im my my worst enemy spare the sympathy im my worst enemy

View More Replies...
View more comments
#39

Funny-Introvert-Jokes-Theintrovertnation

theintrovertnation Report

The IRS
Community Member
5 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Everyone in my first office hated high walled cubicles, I absolutely loved it. Put a door on that 8x8 box room and I'd be in heaven.

View More Replies...
View more comments