Healing after a breakup takes time. And it doesn't matter if you were dumped or did the dumping or that everyone is telling you that you will eventually start feeling better, you can't help but think that no one could have ever experienced the things you went through. So give yourself the green light to get over it your way.

Bored Panda has compiled a list of ways people are dealing with their exes and it proves that there is no perfect recipe. From passive-aggressive gestures to constructive conversations, scroll down to check out the entries and upvote your faves.

#1

Found The Heart Of My Ex

Found The Heart Of My Ex

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I’m Foxxy and I know it 😉
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8 months ago

That actually looks cool.

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Susan Krauss Whitbourne Ph.D., a Professor Emerita of Psychological and Brain Sciences at the University of Massachusetts Amherst, said there’s very little scientific evidence on that emotional limbo in which separated couples find themselves. However, one recent study by psychologists David Sbarra and Jessica Borelli does stand out.

#2

My Uncle's Halloween Costume Is The Scariest Thing He's Ever Known, His Ex-Wife

My Uncle's Halloween Costume Is The Scariest Thing He's Ever Known, His Ex-Wife

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Emerald Joanna
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8 months ago

That is nice make up skills!

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The researchers explored the question of which partners are able to reorganize their sense of self during the separation and which are not. The 89 adults who participated in the study (two-thirds female) were separated for about 3 months from their partners. Their marriages had lasted on average 14 years and they were about 40 years old. Roughly half had initiated the separation. Also, the participants were tested more than once. A few months after completing the initial study, they returned to allow the researchers to evaluate how they were adapting to their separations throughout the time.

#3

When Love Is Over

When Love Is Over

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Lauren Caswell
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8 months ago

Ok that 'after' tattoo is really cool

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The follow-up showed that attachment style and emotional self-control did, in fact, influence self-concept outcomes. "The partners whose sense of self remained in disarray were the ones who were high in attachment avoidance (i.e. who preferred to remain distant) and who also had difficulty regulating their emotions while completing the lab task measuring their distress when talking about their partner," Whitbourne explained the results. "In contrast, the avoidantly attached who could control their emotional responsiveness were able to reorganize their sense of identity more successfully over time. Attachment anxiety, somewhat surprisingly, did not play a significant role in determining the adjustment to separation."

#4

It's Valentine's Day And My Ex-Girlfriend Sent Me This, So I Replied With This

It's Valentine's Day And My Ex-Girlfriend Sent Me This, So I Replied With This

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8 months ago

Hahaha in many cases this is so true.

CrunChewy McSandybutt
Community Member
8 months ago

I always wonder why people keep exes contact info when they aren't on good terms. Not judging, just curious.

Monika Soffronow
Community Member
8 months ago

Where does it say that they are not on good terms? It is not unusual for couples to stay on friendly terms after they have ceased to be a couple.

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Id row
Community Member
8 months ago

Yeah, I'd rather have the cash over balloons and flowers, too.

Audrey Bob-The-Builder
Community Member
7 months ago

Single as a pringle! Wait, pringles aren't single (in fact, they are almost always spooning!)

Zaza Tomique
Community Member
7 months ago

That's so passive-agressive from her, good reply though!

Lynn Morello
Community Member
7 months ago

He wins, hands down.

Shull GaRett
Community Member
8 months ago

Materialism as bright as day... and where is love?!

Roberto Durante
Community Member
8 months ago

yeah this is so true, love it and not Brock anymore too

Porto DaMartinica
Community Member
8 months ago

definitely over one anothet /s

Lululoohoo
Community Member
8 months ago

if she felt the need to send him that, 1) the balloons were probably for her co-worker and 2) she's obviously not over it/him and was 3) trying to get a rise out of him. How lame

Lex Ellyss
Community Member
8 months ago

Or they have a healthy post-romantic relationship where they can joke around with each other? Way to jump to conclusions.

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Susan Gardner
Community Member
8 months ago

Purrfect

Stille20
Community Member
8 months ago

She seems kind of nasty.. unless they joke now... Also, what is with girlfriends being expensive. Pay for a meal occasionally!

Lex Ellyss
Community Member
8 months ago

Way to generalize all girlfriends into one pool. I support my partner, as I'm sure many girlfriends do.

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Faith Olson
Community Member
8 months ago

that is savage

Minnie-me
Community Member
8 months ago

it's kind of sad to buy yourself balloons and flowers on vday.

Lex Ellyss
Community Member
8 months ago

Why? Why is it sad to buy yourself anything? If you want flowers and balloons, then buy flowers and balloons. What's sad about getting what you want?

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Kjorn
Community Member
8 months ago

this is people just be mean to each other. guess it's not ended well

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When you think about it, if a person is high on avoidance, why should he or she suffer any ill effects at all during a separation? Wouldn’t the person who tends to remain cold and distant do OK after the relationship ends? "This is where emotional control comes into play. If you can keep your closest relationship from penetrating your sense of self, you can survive the breakup, but only if you can also keep thoughts about your partner and the relationship out of your awareness," Whitbourne said. "Otherwise, they’ll haunt you, threaten your sense of self, and prolong your sense of distress. The only way that a highly dismissive person can survive a breakup is if that person can also “deactivate” or turn off all thoughts of the partner."

#5

Came Across A 10-Year-Old Photo That Had My Brothers Ex-Wife In It And My Ex In It. Instead Of Deleting It I "Fixed" It

Came Across A 10-Year-Old Photo That Had My Brothers Ex-Wife In It And My Ex In It. Instead Of Deleting It I "Fixed" It

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Supac Takur
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8 months ago

help, I shrunk my brother

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Basically, the study suggests that people high in attachment avoidance don't really make great marital partners. "They can be cold and distant, especially - as we’ve just learned - if they can also switch their emotions to the off position when things become stressful."

Once the breakup happens, however, this research shows that it’s vital to find a way to put the pieces of your identity back together. "If you can’t find a way to incorporate the breakup into your sense of who you are as a person, moving on will become even more challenging than it might otherwise be. As distressing as your thoughts may be, by allowing them to filter back into your consciousness, perhaps ever so slowly you will be able to move on and emerge with a new – and stronger- sense of self."

#6

Netflix & Zero Chills

Netflix & Zero Chills

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Hermione Granger
Community Member
8 months ago

This is so smart

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#7

Best Ex Ever

Best Ex Ever

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I’m Foxxy and I know it 😉
Community Member
8 months ago

That is actually quite a nice gift from an ex unless it is poisoned or laden with spit or other bodily fluids.

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#8

My Wife Sent Me Our Son's Music Results With The Comment "I Can Think Of, Like, 7 Ex-Boyfriends Who Needed A Scoresheet Like This"

My Wife Sent Me Our Son's Music Results With The Comment "I Can Think Of, Like, 7 Ex-Boyfriends Who Needed A Scoresheet Like This"

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Radek Suski
Community Member
8 months ago

that cracked me up

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#9

I Kicked My Loser Ex Out Of My House And Got A New Piece Of Art

I Kicked My Loser Ex Out Of My House And Got A New Piece Of Art

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Asi Bassey
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8 months ago

Here in Nigeria, all our walls are made of cement blocks and mortar. Partners learnt very long ago not to kick or punch them when angry.

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#10

Ex-Fiancée And Ex Best Man Are Now Dating. He Left His Wii At My Place. I Made Sure To Get It Back To Him

Ex-Fiancée And Ex Best Man Are Now Dating. He Left His Wii At My Place. I Made Sure To Get It Back To Him

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ADHORTATOR
Community Member
8 months ago

hmmmm...glitter bomb

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#11

I Am Not A Graphic Designer. I Needed To Remove My Ex-Wife From A Vacation Picture In Mexico. How Did I Do?

I Am Not A Graphic Designer. I Needed To Remove My Ex-Wife From A Vacation Picture In Mexico. How Did I Do?

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Pittsburgh rare
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8 months ago

My longest and best relationship so far

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#12

I Went To A Party Where My Ex Girlfriend Was Present With Her New Boyfriend. This Was What I Was Wearing

I Went To A Party Where My Ex Girlfriend Was Present With Her New Boyfriend. This Was What I Was Wearing

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Emerald Joanna
Community Member
8 months ago

Bahahahaha...thats grand

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#13

My Favorite Picture Of My Ex-Wife

My Favorite Picture Of My Ex-Wife

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Monty Glue
Community Member
8 months ago

She is a keeper! (The photo that is)

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#14

Found My Ex In The Natural History Museum

Found My Ex In The Natural History Museum

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Iris
Community Member
8 months ago

Good one 😂😂

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#15

Wish You Were Here

Wish You Were Here

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ADHORTATOR
Community Member
8 months ago

Made me laugh so hard .... I should feel guilty now :-)

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#16

I Split Up With My Boyfriend Yesterday. I Fell Asleep While He Was Packing And He Stole My Toilet

I Split Up With My Boyfriend Yesterday. I Fell Asleep While He Was Packing And He Stole My Toilet

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chi-wei shen
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8 months ago

Now it requires expert level aiming skills, and flushing is a problem.

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#17

My Friend Was Just Cheated On. This Is The Valentine's Card She's Sending Her Ex

My Friend Was Just Cheated On. This Is The Valentine's Card She's Sending Her Ex

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That one marvel fan
Community Member
8 months ago

Genius

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#18

Damn Ex-Wives

Damn Ex-Wives

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Id row
Community Member
8 months ago

Ouch. Hope he actually deserved it.

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#19

Bitter Man Buys The House Next Door To His Ex-Wife And Installs An Interesting Sculpture

Bitter Man Buys The House Next Door To His Ex-Wife And Installs An Interesting Sculpture

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Olga Antonova
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8 months ago

Looks like he has sick obsession with her

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#20

My Ex-Wife Just Gave Me This For My Birthday

My Ex-Wife Just Gave Me This For My Birthday

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D. Pitbull
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8 months ago

Omg. I need that mug. Uncle Iroh is. the. BEST.

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#21

This Guy Had Pictures Of Him And His New Wife Printed On His Checks So He Could Write His Ex Alimony With Them

This Guy Had Pictures Of Him And His New Wife Printed On His Checks So He Could Write His Ex Alimony With Them

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Tiari
Community Member
8 months ago

Checks seem like such an outdated concept to me. Why would anyone use them?

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#22

Finally Found The Perfect Gift For My Ex

Finally Found The Perfect Gift For My Ex

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A Water Bottle
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8 months ago

Gold digger

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#23

My Ex Was Bitter About Our Break Up And Started Comparing Me To Taylor Swift. This Was My Response

My Ex Was Bitter About Our Break Up And Started Comparing Me To Taylor Swift. This Was My Response

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Beeps
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8 months ago

Nice handwriting!

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#24

My Friend Received Some Flowers From Her Ex The Other Day

My Friend Received Some Flowers From Her Ex The Other Day

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I’m Foxxy and I know it 😉
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8 months ago

Pffft bahaha

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#25

My Ex Sent Me A Postcard

My Ex Sent Me A Postcard

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Karen Dyer
Community Member
8 months ago

Why even stay in touch, or send them anything? Be done with them as soon as you walk out the door.

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#26

While Preparing For My Garage Sale, I Found A Pendant My Ex Gave Me. I Decided To Be A Little Creative With Selling It

While Preparing For My Garage Sale, I Found A Pendant My Ex Gave Me. I Decided To Be A Little Creative With Selling It

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Laura Zappenduster
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8 months ago

I dont´t like that one. I woul´d have sold it for the real price. A better "revenge" in my opinion.

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#27

Paid For My Ex’s Glasses And Decided To Spend A Little Extra For An Engraving

Paid For My Ex’s Glasses And Decided To Spend A Little Extra For An Engraving

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Supac Takur
Community Member
8 months ago

but can he/she read it without glasses?

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#28

Just Returned My Ex-Girlfriend To The Store

Just Returned My Ex-Girlfriend To The Store

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Jace
Community Member
8 months ago

From what I’ve seen, usually it’s the guys who call women “hoes” that are the problem...

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#29

When You Get A Divorce

When You Get A Divorce

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I’m Foxxy and I know it 😉
Community Member
8 months ago (edited)

Getting a tattoo of your significant other or their name is silly. I am happily married and I would never do it. You never know what the future holds and tattoos are forever. This person was lucky that the tattoo was able to be covered up but it’s not always the case.

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#30

Pulling The Plug On My Ex-GF

Pulling The Plug On My Ex-GF

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ƒιѕн
Community Member
8 months ago

All you have to do is log everyone out and change the password.

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