“AITA? I Went On Vacation With My Friend And Her Family, They Kicked Me Out So I Got My Own Room And Stayed On”
Whenever you think of vacation time, you think of resting in your own special way. So, that’s either lying on the beach, getting the occasional sunburn, or going hiking. Or actually going anywhere other than the location you’re staying at because resorts are boring. Maybe.
But, apparently, a vacation doesn’t necessarily mean it’s time to relax. Take this one family, for instance. The extended group of 8 invited a daughter’s friend, seemingly all-expenses-paid, to vacation with them. What they failed to mention was their expectation that the daughter and her friend would cook for the entire group for the entirety of the vacation. Entirely.
Oh, it gets better. Or worse. Depending on how you look at it.
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Whenever you think vacation, you probably think relaxation, right? Well, no, as this one family needs someone to be cooking all the time
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Redditor u/imonvacaaation, who introduced herself as a female student, has a roommate, Meg, whose entire family—i.e. the friend, her mother, her father, two of her father’s friends, and her three brothers—invited her to vacation with them.
The family offered to buy her ticket and book a resort for all of them to stay at. Sounds sweet, right? The young woman, in turn, started saving up for some activities while on vacation, and a little bit extra to treat the family to some dinner for being so generous.
But, there had to be a catch, right? There was. A pretty sneaky one, surprisingly.
A woman who was invited to go on vacation with a “traditional” family got the short end of the deal and was “asked” to cook meals for 9 people
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First off, everyone flew first class. Except for the friend. The friend got economy. But why complain, it’s free, right?
It didn’t stop there. The first night they were there, they all went grocery shopping. Turns out, they wanted to cook all of the meals in-house. And, actually, correction. They wanted their daughter Meg and the OP to cool all of the meals in-house. Yep, all 3 square meals throughout the day, for 9 people. Every day.
You see, Meg’s family is one of those “traditional” ones that believe that a woman’s place is in the kitchen and, unfortunately, Meg and the OP fit that description. The OP admitted to not being a very good cook and only knew a handful of recipes, so she tried her best.
At first, it seemed like they would all have a really good time, but the economy ticket and grocery shopping soon proved otherwise
This is why you should always have "f*ck off" money. So you can pay your way out of a difficult situation. Well done OP
Well said. You're so right.
100%. Especially with a large group of people that you don't know, when they are in charge of all the arrangements. Of course, you would hope everything goes right, but if it does go wrong and you aren't prepared, you could be in serious trouble. OP was amazing.
At the very least have an emergency credit card or something that can be used.
I save up money when I go on vacation with my own family, because I was also raised in a pretty fundamental environment and as the black sheep, I never know when I'm going to need to take care of myself, but it's much different because I'm fully aware of my family and what they expect.
My Grandma would occasionally refer to her "mad money" stash. I assumed that she meant "go mad money!!! woooo!!!"(some money on hand for if she really wanted something out of budget). When I was a teen she clarified, "No, it's so if you're pissed off you don't have to take anyone's s**t."
Your grandmother is my hero ❤️
Why didn't the 'friend' warn her in advance or have their sexist ways just been drummed into the 'friends' head so much that she just took it for granted that every family acts this way?
That is why OP was third choice. The first female friend who was vetoed probably knew the score, told them to suck it. Friend didn’t tell OP because she was afraid OP wouldn’t attend and and she (friend) would be stuck doing everything on her own.
How sad :(
Yeah, friend probably didn't want to be alone but brainwashed by her a$$hole father to "know her place". I hope he gets stung by a jellyfish.
That daughter should grow a pair and learn how to stand up for herself, unless she enjoys being used as a doormat.
Likely, because she is "only" a girl, she has been brainwashed to believe that it was her place, and that everyone else believes the same. Tell *anyone* a lie often enough, they accept it as Gospel.
She could be so used to it and treated so poorly for so long she didn’t even think it needed to be said. It’s her “normal” and if she can’t speak up for herself in that situation, she definitely can’t do it for someone else.
Probably…
NTA, they failed to clarify duties required and left you in a foreign country not knowing you had any money. Creepy and hateful must be the new traditional family values.
This is why you should always have "f*ck off" money. So you can pay your way out of a difficult situation. Well done OP
Well said. You're so right.
100%. Especially with a large group of people that you don't know, when they are in charge of all the arrangements. Of course, you would hope everything goes right, but if it does go wrong and you aren't prepared, you could be in serious trouble. OP was amazing.
At the very least have an emergency credit card or something that can be used.
I save up money when I go on vacation with my own family, because I was also raised in a pretty fundamental environment and as the black sheep, I never know when I'm going to need to take care of myself, but it's much different because I'm fully aware of my family and what they expect.
My Grandma would occasionally refer to her "mad money" stash. I assumed that she meant "go mad money!!! woooo!!!"(some money on hand for if she really wanted something out of budget). When I was a teen she clarified, "No, it's so if you're pissed off you don't have to take anyone's s**t."
Your grandmother is my hero ❤️
Why didn't the 'friend' warn her in advance or have their sexist ways just been drummed into the 'friends' head so much that she just took it for granted that every family acts this way?
That is why OP was third choice. The first female friend who was vetoed probably knew the score, told them to suck it. Friend didn’t tell OP because she was afraid OP wouldn’t attend and and she (friend) would be stuck doing everything on her own.
How sad :(
Yeah, friend probably didn't want to be alone but brainwashed by her a$$hole father to "know her place". I hope he gets stung by a jellyfish.
That daughter should grow a pair and learn how to stand up for herself, unless she enjoys being used as a doormat.
Likely, because she is "only" a girl, she has been brainwashed to believe that it was her place, and that everyone else believes the same. Tell *anyone* a lie often enough, they accept it as Gospel.
She could be so used to it and treated so poorly for so long she didn’t even think it needed to be said. It’s her “normal” and if she can’t speak up for herself in that situation, she definitely can’t do it for someone else.
Probably…
NTA, they failed to clarify duties required and left you in a foreign country not knowing you had any money. Creepy and hateful must be the new traditional family values.