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Groom Is Stood Up By His Parents At His Own Wedding Because Of Sister, His Best Friend Comes Up With The Best Revenge Plan
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Groom Is Stood Up By His Parents At His Own Wedding Because Of Sister, His Best Friend Comes Up With The Best Revenge Plan

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Your wedding day should be one of the most exciting days of your life. You get to publicly profess your love for your other half, and all of your friends and family gather around to celebrate you and your partner. You’re in a beautiful setting, you’re looking your best, and you get to dance the night away and eat delicious cake with all of the people you love most in the world. The night should be pure magic. 

A wedding is often very exciting for parents of the bride and groom as well, as they get to welcome a new member into their family and celebrate their child’s joy. Unfortunately, however, one groom recently found out that he was never going to be his parents’ priority, even on his wedding day. Below, you can read the full story that was recently shared on Reddit by a newlywed who is wondering if he should have handled the events following his wedding differently. We’ve also gathered some of the replies his post received, so you can read them and then let us know in the comments how you feel about this situation. Then if you’re interested in another Bored Panda piece featuring family drama surrounding a wedding, you can check out this story next.    

After his parents missed one of the happiest days of his life, the drama was just beginning for this newlywed

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The best man shared a video from the wedding online that the groom found heartwarming, but his parents did not feel the same way

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Regardless of these parents’ track record, a wedding is one of those life events that should trump almost anything else that is going on. Unless you’re in the hospital, there are not very many valid excuses for missing your child’s wedding. Especially when it was the sister’s dog who was allegedly ill, not the parents’. My heart aches for this groom because, although he thankfully was able to have friends and his wife’s family at the wedding, that day will never be repeated. It is hard to comprehend that his parents and sister were not concerned about missing such a major life event. 

Unfortunately, sometimes parents just favor one child. And while they might not even realize it, they end up prioritizing one and treating the other very differently. But this can be detrimental to the mental health and self-confidence of the child who is not favored. According to Dr. Yelena Gidenko, a licensed professional counselor, “The unfavored child can feel defeated, and unmotivated, as a result of working hard to get parental affirmation and support, with no success. He or she may also suffer from depression and become angry, bitter, resentful, or jealous.”

At the same time, a child who is shown special treatment might let that go to their head. “Favored children may feel a sense of entitlement, and that rules do not apply to them,” Dr. Gidenko explained. That sounds very similar to the sister in this situation. According to the groom, his sister frequently has meltdowns and ruins his most important days. Perhaps she cannot handle not being in the spotlight, so she, consciously or subconsciously, sabotages his most important days. 

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Whatever the justification may be for this newlywed’s family trying to taint one of the happiest days of his life, it is not a valid reason. Your wedding day should take priority over almost anything else, and I’m just glad that the best man was able to be there to support his friend. Let us know what you think about this situation in the comments and if the groom should remove the video or not. And whether you are married or not, would you forgive your parents or your close family members if they skipped your wedding last minute?   

Despite the family drama, readers unanimously agreed that the groom is not at fault

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Jihana
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sooo, the sister is older than her little brother who got married. She does not have any developmental issues. So why the heck couldn't she stay home alone with her dog? Why did the parents have to stay home as well?

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aj
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Exactly my thoughts! I absolutely understand wanting to stay with her sick dog (if that's the truth and not just an excuse to manipulate her parents) but unless her dog was severely sick I don't see why the parents would've needed to stay home with her either.

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Beth L
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Parents have been enabling sister. Extended family has been enabling parents into thinking that's ok. Chickens came home to roost. I hope the groom married into a good family that will treat him as an equal instead of an afterthought.

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William Beier
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Powerful words! "Afterthought" ...very profound. Applies to so many of us. Your last sentence says it all. I feel sorry for people who are bound to toxic families. They say, "but they're family". Sad.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Never take it down. Repost it every year on your anniversary. Stop speaking to your sister and only speak to your parents when necessary. This is how I'd handle it, anyway. I hope your wedding was beautiful and genuinely a wonderful time for all who came to support you and your bride <3

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GMc
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Add the link URL / QR to the back of your Christmas cards and make sure to send one to sister and the parents. Nothing better than giving a big FU over the holidays.

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Helen Waight
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Frankly I applaud this. If your own parents decide that you’re not important to them then by all means mock them and cut them out of your life (if possible). I doubt they’ll do anything to ‘make it up’ and instead just whine about how haaaard life is for *them*. (Some of my friends have toxic family and I’ve heard a LOT worse than this)

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Jane Doe
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The other story if the mom who was taking three of her kids’ college funds to pay for the one daughter’s wedding! It all came out when the one sister told the dad she couldn’t afford the $5,000 sister demanded she pay to be in and attend the wedding.

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Mrs. Jan Glass
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is my main takeaway, too. When you've had shitty parents who made you feel worthless, having someone who loves you stand up for you is an incredible feeling.

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Solidhog
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The best advice I ever saw was on here from a fellow panda. It does not matter if they are family. Would you bother with them if they were not? Despite what people say, you can choose your family.

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The Starsong Princess
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Not attending your son's wedding because your daughter’s dog is sick is relationship ending behavior. Let’s assume that there is something so wrong with this girl that she cannot be trusted alone or to behave at the wedding. Then the parents should have made arrangements for her to be cared for and attended the wedding.

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Casey McAlister
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

They didn't even take a dog to the vet, meaning there was no emergency. They literally missed their son's wedding to coddle to a grown-a*s woman who was upset.

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Seedy Vine
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Now I'm wondering how the OP's sister treats her dog. What a "convenient" time for doggo to be sick... Hope it was just a lie on the sister's part.

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Brooke Weber
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Throw out the whole family. You found a new one that will show up.

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deanna woods
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Everytime I read an article like this, I realize that I essentially have the most perfect parents in the world. No matter what has been going on in the lives of my siblings and I, they are there for us. I got in a car accident and they came back to town to be by my side. My sister had surgery and they have been there for her every step of her recovery. My parents treat every single one of their children equally. They are there for us and don't treat anyone person better than the others. I hope the OP keeps the video up and goes no contact. They don't deserve to be in his life if they are not interested because of sister's meltdowns.

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Roddfergg
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My parents did the same. Graduation from high-school... She got a car, i got a set of luggage. My graduation from USMC basic. Missed it. The money My grandfather left me for college... Gave it to her for a down-payment on a house. Got married... Sister needed them to watch her kids, because she decided to take a trip. She couldn't afford to come to my wedding. They refused to ever visit me. Flew across the country 4 times a year to visit her. They wonder why I don't have anything to do with them.

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Erik Ivan
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sounds heartbreaking to not have your family at your wedding. I, for one, missed my twin brothers wedding in 1993 and have not forgotten. I came down with a bad case of stomach flu, and all parties agreed that spreading that on a wedding was a bad idea. So no har feelings - but it is that one huge thing I missed.

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Iam Knucks
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Really seems like the parents don't know how to be parents. Being a parent isn't just coddling them until they feel better. The ultimate goal of being a parent, is to raise someone who does not need you. It's a very difficult thing to do. But it seems like they've raised a codependent child. I'm guessing they like it that way

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Martha Vazquez
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

They will do the same, when your wife gets pregnant and has a baby shower. I wouldn’t invite them, since you know they won’t come.

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SuperChicken
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If I only know who the best man is - I'd buy him a drink or two. He, rocks! I say, leave the video up and don't ever take it down. Just like everyone else, I would love to see the video, too.

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Jane Doe
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Remember the show The Middle? They called it “floating” like we will float christmas to next month. We will float Sue’s birthday till spring. How are they going to float the wedding? “we will make it up to you! Take down the video!” I love that OP asked this! How will you make it up to me? “i will make it up to you!” Exactly

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Clara Stallworth
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Because that's a way to get the aggrieved party to shut up, by promising something they possibly couldn't keep!! And if they manage to follow through?? (Cricket sounds.) So unless they can find a way to go back into time for each event missed, that's not gonna happen!! One, they'll forget, and, two, they push it back to a more "convenient" time!!

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Jack
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

As someone who has been regularly told by my own mother that I'm her "favourite" and that she loves and likes me more. I'm with the the husband on this. I've always hated that barrier that's been set between me and my sister and its ruined so many things in our lives because of it. My story is somewhat different as I love my sister to bits. It's sad and hurtful that this seems to be more normal than I ever realised.

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Loreitta M Tuthill
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NTA. Don't take the video down. They are seeing the consequences to their actions. A lot of good suggestions in the thread. Love your wife, new family, and all the future events in your life. You may like to invite your parents and sister to some of those events but don't be disappointed if history repeats itself, it's their loss. At least you're the bigger person for rising above their inconsiderate and hurtful actions.

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Gabriela Cink
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I was always sad, that my mom can't come to many of my once in a life moments, but she is sick and can't stand from bed and father is taking care of her. It is simply not possible. But this is just .... it makes me angry 😠

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Mine Truly
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

They don't want to make up anything to OP, they just want to save face... Or, more likely, they just want to pacify the crying sister the way they always bend over backwards when she cries. I agree on a sequel to the video providing the parents with beautiful scenes of all the other events they missed (captioned with their excuse for easy reference) and some sentiment like "I'm sorry you missed so much of my life here it is so you can finally see it." Trying to think of a more devastating song to pair it with than Green Day's Good Riddance. Then go NC for your own sanity, let them put 100% of their attention on their face crybaby instead of only 99%. Surround yourself with people who aren't trash from here on in, OP.

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Seedy Vine
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Bwahahaha OP's best man made a classic move! So sad OP even thinks he is an a$$hole. He is NTA! I think his mom, dad and sister should seek therapy to find out why they hate the son so much and coddle the daughter.

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Morgan blackwell
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NTA!!! Wtf is wrong with your parents! Is there some back story or is your sister just a massive spoilt brat???

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Bill Allen
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think I’d take it down. The point was made and every one who needed to see it has seen it. Just don’t ever include your parents in important things in your life anymore unless you are ok with them disappointing you. If you have kids, don’t ever leave them alone with your sister around. Take the video down and move on with your lives. The video staying up is just a constant reminder of what your family is like.

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Justacrow
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I disagree. He doesn't have to watch the video. It is up as a constant reminder to EVERYONE of exact;y what his parents are, s**t

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JL
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I just hope the sister didn't do something to make the dog sick.

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Jackie Lulu
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Among the other things going on here, I think the parents are being manipulated by the sister. Do they realize this? The parents and sister seriously need counseling.

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Yettichild
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I feel for this guy. My dad was the same. Never came to a single important event in my life after promising to. But it wasn't because of a sibling for me. It was because he is an alcoholic. He would always say he'd make it up to me. It hurts. It really hurts. I'm super LC with him now and am much better off.

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David Brown
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I hold grudges longer than most marriages last. I'd never forgive my parents or sibling for missing my wedding over a "sick" animal. Most weddings don't last more than a few hours including the reception so there's no excuse for them to have missed the thing. And honestly it sounds to me like it was a well timed move on the sisters part in order to make sure she ruined the brothers big day. There's no way it was just a coincidence with the timing of it. Dude should just cut his losses with his family and move on. I'm sure in the long run he'd me much happier for it. By the sound of it his parents constantly were flaking out on him due to his sister anyway so why should he set himself up for disappointment again when his next big life moment comes about?

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Tito Goon Goon Smith
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I had to reread the beginning because I thought he must have said his sister was 6 years old, not 6 years older. Honestly not all family is worth continuing to try to hold on to. Sometimes going no contact and moving on with your life is the best option. Shouldn't be a knee-jerk reaction but it sounds like he's been dealing with it long enough. Graduations and weddings are things people will show up to if you matter to them but family isn't only about blood relations. Sounds like he's got family in his wife and his best friend/best man. Have a feeling his life would improve leeps and bounds if he put his sister and parents behind him.

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Kelly Graham
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Holy smokes... me, too! I was thinking the sister had to be a little kid, but 6 years older? That is f*****g ridiculous.

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Kimberly Feddema
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I lived this life as well -- my sister is 7 years younger and the "Golden Child." I encourage you to research narcissistic families, you will learn SO much!! LOVING how justice was served by your bff!!! Excited for you as you begin a new healthy family!

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Michael Largey
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

How do you tell someone that they're an orphan and don't know it? Well, his parents managed to find a way

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Alysoun Learmonth
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ask your father WHY he wants it taken down....because it makes them look bad??? So it shows them in their true light. Then tell him the way to not be seen as awful is maybe he should try NOT being awful. Then nobody will think badly of them. Can't show someone being a d**khead if they don't behave like one.

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Anička
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7 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ha, I said this to someone recently. He's always scared of 'getting what he deserves.' Like, if you're scared it means you know how to behave AND you know you are behaving badly...if you don't treat people like s**t you don't have to be scared of their reactions 🤷

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Stacy B
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

WOW! Some parents are real a**holes! I feel so bad for the OP. Again, just because you can have kids doesn't mean you should and these "parents" prove it. He should cut them all off and enjoy his life with his new bride and her family. How do you not show up to your child's wedding, one of the most important days of their life, because your adult daughter's dog is sick?! Gross! My Mom refused to attend my wedding and threatened my family members into not attending either. Trust me when I say I know how badly this hurts.

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Windtree
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The sister must be really dehydrated if she is constantly crying. If she suffers from a mental and/or emotional problem, at least one of the parents could have stayed with her and the other go to the wedding. Doesn't matter if the OP decides to remove the video, what they did will be forever in everyone's memories.

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CL Rowan
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Never give those disgusting 'parents' a chance to do that to your future children. They will, absolutely, drop your children like hot rocks because either their spoilt brat will sulk or *her* brats will. Dump the whole batch and never look back. You have amazing friends and a beautiful wife who are your family~~not those three losers you were forced to grow up with.

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gerald baum
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

OMG 😳! I can really feel for this guy. So lucky to have great in-laws. I'm a middle child and both brothers were always in the spotlight no matter how hard I tried to get some recognition from parents. Parents gone and brothers have continued parents ways. I'm 78 and I wish you and your family a long and happy life. Make sure your parents get nowhere near your family and DO NOT HAVE ANY REGRETS!!!!!

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Norma Novia
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If you didn't post it, it's not your responsibility to take it down.

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GMc
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Time to cut the lot of them out of your life. No invites, no visits, no seeing the eventual grandkids & no visiting them when they are alone and scared in a care home. If even one of them couldn't be bothered to show up for even part of the wedding, why have them in your life? 8 billion people on earth, somebody out there would love to be added to your RL friends list.

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Hoodoo
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Oh Honey now NO!! Please leave it up til there's cobwebs on it. And please go on & have a happy life...w/o expecting your immediate family to change. As it's put, Ya can't choose your parents, but ya can choose your friends. Sounds like you picked a gem of a best man.

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GoGoPDX
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Parents deserved it 110%! What a toxic dynamic! Accept that you deserve better, limit contact unless it is with more of these videos, and live a wonderful life with an amazing best friend and awesome wife by your side! Also, Is it just me, or does anyone else want to see this video?

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Kathy E Spotts
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

LOVE the idea of additional videos to the original! Where can I watch this wonderfully created video??????Definitely NTA

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Carol Seal
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I am disabled and often miss family events. I missed my sisters wedding due to illness as well, but I would NEVER ask or expect my other family members to skip these events on my behalf. This situation is sad and ridiculous.

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Michael Wilmer
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

yes, he's the A because everyone knows a sick dog and a whiney, privileged, over-protected girl trumps a man getting married for the first and last time in his life!! Keep video up!!

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Claudia Dugral
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

We once came to wedding of a friend of ours even when our own dog got sick. We left the dog in the car outside and cared for him every half hour and hab to leave early. But we showed up. And yes, we were worried about our dog and didn't enjoy the party as much. But we showed up. So it could have been done.

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Brenda Butler
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Congratulations to you in your new wife. I would not take down the video.. In a way you lost one set of parents but you gained a new set someone who will treat you better than your parent did. You deserve to be surrounded by people who loves you and will be there for you. Your ex-parents showed that didn't give a d_m about you. Why put yourself through anymore agony whether they will show up or not. I would not let your parents or sister have anything to do with your baby/children if you have them. Life is to short and yoy should make the best of it with your new family. What goes around comes around and they will get theirs.

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lone dragon
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I wish everyone had a best friend like that! He sounds amazing! NTA Those a-hole parents who have allowed their daughter to upstage everything in their son's life do not deserve any consideration. They are all jerks and don't deserve to have this young man in their lives.

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Denise Lewis
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

does the sister have some mental issue? that she can't be left alone? why is everything focused on her? she is not a child i take it she also still lives at home. i sense a mental issue that is not being brought up. tell your dad he can buy you a house if he wants to make it up to you. because that is how important the day was for you.

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Gail Lynn
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

One far, far, far away from them with a moat!! Hey, they might show up! Ya never know!

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Joe Average
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sibling stories would be a good thread. Heartbreaking too I'm sure.

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Gail Lynn
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

7 siblings growing up on a ranch. Had family all round, sounds great, huh? Nope!! A pit of asps after our dad passed in 2000. I kinda talk to 2 of my brothers...that leaves behind 2 more brothers & 2 sisters. Our mom is 95 years old & slowing waaaaaay down. When she's gone, we're moving away...

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Eric Sebastian
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Just invite them to have lunch at a park and never show up. Do things similar to this for at least a year. Then when mom and dad are yelling at you from being stood up, politely stop them and say "I hope you two outlive me so you can be paul bearers at my funeral and let me down one last time." No contact after that 🎤 drop

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michelle dalton
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What is truly sad is this guy's "nuclear dna pool" cares more about how they "appear" to others on social than their sons feelings. Your best man did you a favor of course they didn't attend narcissists don't like not being the center of attention watch out for that family of yours

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Ondrea Richardson
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Your friend is awesome for thinking of that and you had every right to keep it up. I can't believe your parents would miss your wedding for a sister who did not have a medically diagnosed condition that required them to stay with her. And shame on your sister for being so selfish! I wish you and your wife the best. She is your new family and ai am sure you will be a priority for her.

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AshErika Michaela
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Oh, hell no. OP is NTA. Those parents have had favoritism written all over them in neon for OP's entire life. The only difference now is that their toxicity is public information. Boo hoo for them. Let them and their precious princess cry all they want. OP should go NC and live his best life with people who actually care about him, like his wife, his best friend and all the people who ACTUALLY SHOWED UP WHEN THEY SAID THEY WOULD.

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Clara Stallworth
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NTA! It seems whenever there's an event involving you, whether major, like a graduation or wedding (BTW, congrats!), or relatively minor, like a game or performance you're participating in, sister conveniently has her meltdowns, and mom and dad had to deal with it, leaving you out in the cold! One, she's six years older! She's an adult, she doesn't need mommy and daddy to hold her hand; she needs psychological help!! Two, why did BOTH parents have to tend to her, when only one of them could've, while the other attended YOUR events?? I mean, dad could've attended your sporting events, mom could've gone to your graduation and wedding, both could've provided the other with an account of the events ("He scored a touchdown!" "He hit a home run!" "He looked so stately in his cap and gown, and had gotten so many awards!" "He looked so handsome in his tux, and the bride was beautiful!"), as well as having photos and videos. And, three, they want to "make it up" to you??? How, I wonder??

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Maceo Moore
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Neither one of them need mommy and daddy to hold their hands, just be an adult, stop whining, and focus on the wedding.

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Linda Hopson
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Out of the parents, sister, and the dog the only one of the three thats nta is the dog.

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A falz
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NEVER TAKE DOWN THAT VIDEO!!! Such a good idea on the best man's part. Congratulations on your marriage. Definitely go no contact

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Saltea
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Looks like sister want to hoard all of their parents attention to herself, wife and best friend are mvp

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BonnyDK
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Soooo the dog is more important than your own son's wedding? WTH???

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Babsywabs
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If ever there was a good reason estrangement, this sure seems like it.

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ohjojo (you/your's)
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What's nc? It says go and nc with them. It would be great if you could send us a link. I'd love to see it. Congratulations on your marriage.

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Paula Glasscoe
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NC is no contact, lc is low contact. Basically limiting the damage such toxicity can bring to your life

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Joanne Spin
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

joannern This is "PERSONALLY HURTFUL & INSULTING". There are many brides and/or grooms that have parents that are deceased and are present at their child's wedding spiritually. Here are two living parents who "CANCELLED" at the last minute none the less. I would remove them from my life, live my life as an orphan and surround my life with my spouse's family and my friends. I always felt that revenge was stooping to their level but not this time. Revenge was "BEAUTIFUL" leave it up forever. It is the absolute truth and the truth hurts. Enjoy your life with your new family. "CONGRATULATIONS" on your wedding & "GOOD LUCK".

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Ronnie Beaton
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Let me get this straight. OP's parents missed his wedding on account of sister's *dog*???? What is *wrong* with people?

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Kristina Davis
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I would tell them I will take it down and then everytime they ask why it has not been taken down, I would give them a version of one of their excuses. "Oh yeah. I couldn't. My mailman's cat had a hang nail." 'oh sorry, it was a bad night"

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Shanda LaPointe
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm glad I am not the only one experiencing these exact situations. I would hedge about 90% of the time my sister is/was chosen over me or my time with my parents was cut short/interrupted by her immature, lunatic behavior. My parents have never wanted to take full responsibility for the person they created and have always made excuses. Even now my dad is in denial when it suits him and gets mad at me for pointing out the truth essentially gaslighting me. Stand up to your family and as much as it may hurt or be difficult you don't need that drama and toxicity in your life especially now that you're married and may start a family.

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Patty Tripenfeldas
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I know how this guy feels I won't go into detail but I have a younger sister who is just like this guy's sister and a mother who is just like his parents I'm one of eight kids and a single parent home raised by my mom who treats my little sister like gold. He is definitely in the right the sister has been favored for so long being older she can't stand when he does anything good and takes the attention from him I feel she purposely used her dog to sabotage his wedding because she is a sad excuse of a human being and a single and cannot stand to see her little brother live a wonderful life with a wonderful woman. I can already see where this is going she's a spoiled little brat who can't keep a relationship so she's going to try and sabotage her brother's life like everyone says man keep your head up enjoy your wife enjoy the family you will have and whatever you do do not lose that best friend forget your sister you've got a wonderful brother.

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Bill Beckley
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Your best man was absolutely rockstar! The fact that your folks didn't show up because your sister's dog was sick is absolutely pathetic! Pure human scum. I think that not only you should leave it up, but if I were your best man, I'd make sure to comment it once a week so it pops to the top of the feed so everybody sees it over and over again. They should be mortified. And if Dad wants to make it up to you, tell him he can try, but until and unless he does in huge fashion, you won't even consider taking it down

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Sylvia Bates
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My in-laws skipped our wedding too. They chose my husband's little sister over their son. They always chose her. She has paid them back by ignoring them in their golden years. As mean as it sounds, they are getting payback for choosing one child over another. I tell my husband that my family may not share his blood lines but they will always be there for him.

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Rhonda Marie
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Definitely NTA. If they truly regretted missing the wedding, wouldn’t they LUV to see what they missed to somehow share in your special day. Sounds like they and your sister fall short on emotional intelligence. They can chose a dysfunctional relationship if they want, you don’t need to be taken down in the process even. Props to your bestie. He clearly has your 6. Keep surrounding yourself with people like him and your wife; those with genuine unconditional love. Reminds me of the saying There are two kinds of family: the one you’re born with and the one you choose. Keep choosing well. Oh and Congratulations to you and your Bride! Take the hurt and pain from the years of being disappointed and apply them to your own parenting if you have kids. We learn what to do as keenly as what not to do from our parents.

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Angela Weaver
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I know the father of two daughters by different mothers refused to walk his daughter down the aisle because she wanted the stepfather who raised her to walk her halfway. When his other daughter married he refused to attend because he didn't want to offend the first one married. How selfish can you be?

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Kris Stoeffler
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

They'll make it up to you? Not possible in this situation. Sorry, your parents/sister are messed up!

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Fast Rob
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Leave it up. This is something they will NEVER be able to live down. Their hypocrisy was exposed . I certainly hope you have NO RELATIONSHIP with the sister either. She too knew exactly what she was doing...A SICK DOG...THE NERVE

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Sonja Smith
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

How old is the sister? It sounds like she deliberately tries to sabotage her brother. They need to make that girl grow up or they'll never get rid of her. And no one will have her. They are doing her a huge disservice.

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T5n
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don’t usually weigh in on post like these, but you are definitely NTA. Your sister is and your parents are. Congratulations on the wedding though.

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Annie Johnston
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NTA, but it wouldn't hurt to take down the video. Not for the parents. You'll still have it and all the pictures (which they are not in). I, too, had parents who would cancel out of commitments to/with me for my sister. Like for instance scheduling my sister's friend's wedding for the day I graduated (they did send me the money for the air tickets I'd sent them. Rah) So I have empathy. I would have loved what your best man did. And I would have ridden it for a bit. But then I'd move on. (FWIW they made the same asinine promise - to make it up. I told them - straight up and not in anger - not to bother, can't be done. Chance missed, move on.)

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beverly ledbetter
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Apparently this guy has a very good friend. Kudos to him for that alone! And that sister is impossible and her parents just indulge her. Got what they deserved!😡

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Karl Baxter
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have a younger brother (in his 40s) with a variety of manageable medical conditions and who lives with my mother paying not a penny for bed and board. He realises this and refuses to chip in at all - when I suggested he ought to do a bit more, he laughed in my face. It’s a bone of contention between us as my mother is in her 80s yet does all the shopping, cleaning and cooking for him. What is worse is that, if my mother comes to visit us, his various complaints seem to mysteriously flare up, causing her to cut her trip short and return home. She has missed many significant birthdays and events as a result and doesn’t seem to realise how he’s manipulating her. He’s basically a jealous manchild who is terrified his lifelong grift will be discovered. I have little respect left for either of them. Families eh? 🙂

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Peanut Butter the Skelepanda
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Not the AH. Its their PARENTS who weren’t at the wedding. It’s their SISTER who made everything all about her. It’s the people the OP has known for THEIR WHOLE LIFE, that didn’t come to THE MOST important day of it. They can’t “make up” missing their child’s wedding. She can’t “make up” missing her sibling’s wedding. It just can’t happen, unless they plan the OP a new wedding, but with the way the parents and sister acted in the past, it definitely looks like they all wouldn’t do that.

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Salty Wild Hair
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So they let a grown person who is a perpetual child rule their lives, ruin relationships with their other children, and are mad that someone made a tribute video to that decision? NTA. Go live your life. You deserved better, but you got what you got, so do whatever you want now.

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Susanne B
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That story about the sisters dog is the sickest excuse for staying away, that I ever heard. Drop them. They don't need you, and you don't need them.

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Eiram
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I had to tell my own father not to come to my wedding. Too many family members hated him, or were uncomfortable with the idea of him being there. Not one person agreed to have him. It was actually a relief when I was able to tell him no. He would have made it about himself anyway, and I already had to deal with my crazy narcissistic sister.

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Nathan Shipman
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

In my opinion, the original poster should have cut his parents and sister out after they missed his graduation! WHO ON EARTH MISSES THE GRADUATION OF THEIR IMMEDIATE FAMILY MEMBER! ESPECIALLY THEIR OWN OFFSPRING!

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Anna Harding
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My grandfather didn't want to go to my sister's wedding and said he and our grandmother wouldn't go. The morning of the wedding, I drove my grandmother to the wedding. Just because "Grumpy" didn't want to go, that didn't mean she had to miss out, too. These parents could have left their daughter home. It was their choice, and it sounds like they had made that choice over and over.

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Jaybird3939
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Congratulations on your marriage & NTA. The only thing I will add is that if you and your wife decide to have children, do NOT let Grandma & Grandpa anywhere near them. They'll either spoil that child and it will not turn out well, or they'll bad mouth you to the kid every chance they get. For awkward reasons, never let your kid play with any cousins they may have. Your sister doesn't sound stable.

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john kavanagh
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sorry, don't mean to offend, but your parents are idiots. It's unbelievably stupid not to invest in your son's happiness. I've never heard anything so utterly stupid in my life. And it sounds like your sister matters to them more than you do. Tell them I said it. If your sister cries, tell her (from me) to grow up and stop being so selfish. Tell your 'parents' the internet is embarrassed for you having such parents.

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Bella V
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I can't even. As a mother I would be beyond pissed if one of my daughters EVER ruined one of my sons events. And vice versa. And for NONE of them to show up? I am just flabbergasted.

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Tola Otter
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I would like to know how old is that sister. If she is 6 years older than OP, i would assume that at least she is near 30... And she can't go for her brothers wedding because of dog? Dogs are better than humans, but damn - get your proritates straight!! SHE and parents are in desperate need of therapy.

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Tricia Georgetti
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Anyone else really really wanna see this video??? I feel awful for him! His best friend sounds like an amazing guy and the best bff ever! He did this whole thing out of love for his friend bc no one should ever have to feel like s**t on their own wedding day bc of anyone else. Sounds like he finally had enough of watching his bff be let down by his shitty parents and spoiled af older sister. It also sounds like his sister has serious mental issues and should be in therapy and on meds if everything in her life is that excessively traumatizing to her where she needs her mommy and daddy with her 24/7. They have no one to blame but themselves, now the whole world knows what shitty people they really are and they wanted to keep it a secret. Cat's out of the bag now no point in taking the video down.

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NearioNL
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If your parent apparently don't care about you, break off contact. Be done with it. Rather have people around you who want to be with you. It's that simple.

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No One
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My parents favored my two older brothers and those brothers bullied me mercilessly. I was like a chew toy given to a couple of golden retrievers. The golden retrievers turned out great, the chew toy not so much. Excise these people from your life. The day I decided to cut all ties with my parents and brothers was the happiest day of my life. Never looked back.

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Annette Hachey
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You know, I completely agree with calling out the parents behavior and the fact that the sister instigated it. I would let them sweat too. That really hurts and until the really apologize, not just make it up to him (which is impossible as we can't turn back the clock) but sincerely apologize by admitting they were wrong, what they did was terribly hurtful and unforgivable, along with all the other times too. They need a hard lesson on how they are treating their son. One day he could be gone before them and then what?. Relationships are difficult to maintain in this day and age, especially in today's world. If he doesn't stand up for himself and choose his and his wife's best interests, it's going to keep happening. Abuse is abuse, don't tolerate it or your setting yourself up for more. He's better than that, so is his wife!. What will happen when grandchildren come along, will he have answer questions from his precious children as to why grandma and grampa don't love us?.

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Amanda Gibbs
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

People hate when they are put on display when they f**k up....you have done nothing wrong. FAMILY CAN BE AN AWFUL INSTITUTION and I will forever refer to them as such because they act like a f****d up cooperation. When confronted they refuse to take accountability and turn the page or pointers back to you. Don't feel bad

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D. Asher-K
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It’s sad that this happened. It would hurt a great deal & be difficult to get past. My concern is this pain becoming a thorn impacting your marriage. I agree that it was not appropriate for you to be treated this way. It would be great to hear how you’re able to restructure your life to build off the beautiful, loving blessings/memories of your new family and each moment you two are sharing. What a great foundation to focus on building for today & always. Wishing you happy times ahead & a strong friendship too.

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Jude Fire
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That's such a d**k move from the parents. Like,you miss many important things in your sons life and he puts up with it because his older sister throws tantrums whenever the spotlight won't be on her. She must have been the worst role.model ever. No wonder she hasn't gotten married ,probably doesn't have friends eithee

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Leah Landry
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It sounds like both your parents and your sister have very dysfunctional behavior. People like that don't like to be called on their BS, BUT THEY NEED TO BE...for their own good as well as yours! I would distance myself from them until they ALL make an appropriate apology to you and genuinely behave as a loving support to you. If the situation were reversed and it was your sister's wedding that YOU missed...they'd probably never let you hear the end of it! I am happy that you have a new family with your wonderful wife and that you are blessed with great friends. I've noticed when people in our own family fall short we are many times blessed with other people in our lives to make up for it. All the best!

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Raini Way
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

He needs to cut his parents and sister off. Their behavior isn't even forgivable if the sister WERE DD (she is not). If she had a legitimate disability, all they would require is a quiet room at the venue to accommodate her meltdowns. Weddings are overwhelming, so that is a reasonable accommodation. But as it turns out, the sister is just a raging narcissist who loathes her brother, and her parents encourage that vile hatred. So all three of them need to be kicked to the curb.

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Sean Francisco
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Your family doesn't have to be the family you were born into...it can often be the one you create. Friends, in-laws, and others can become the family you choose, especially after you exorcize the toxic ones from your life. Live long, be happy, and by all means...create the new family with your wife.

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Laura Ketteridge
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Oh my. It sounds like the groom needs to give his parents space to process what has happened. Perhaps around 20-40 years worth of space.

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T1Oracle
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The sister is a vulnerable narcissist and the parents are likely narcissistic too as they indulge this behavior. Stop speaking to them, they're only going to cause you pain and attempt to destroy your marriage. Let them have their misery without you.

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Liam Lowenthal
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

All I'm reading is the parents thinking "Oh we can just do whatever he'll deal with it - oh s**t he's not dealing with it?! HOW DARE HE!!!". That's... Literally all I'm reading with them. They're useless. Make sure they're not in the kids life if you guys decide to have any. They'll just constantly cancel on them too and possibly traumatize the poor things.

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skippy lenny
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sounds like you made your point so maybe it's time to be the bigger man and take it down? Plan a family vacation but don't invite mom, dad ,sister and dog then post a video of the great time you had with your new family. Then tell your parents that you would have invited them but ......you know... they will start to see that they didn't gain a daughter they lost a son.

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Pamela Blue
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

No-one mentioned the obvious. The groom DIDN'T put the video up! His friend did. When parents started carrying on about it, I would have simply said "I didn't put it up - so I can't take it down."

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Don't tread on me
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Well she must be developmentally disabled. Because what grown woman needs their mommy and daddy still well into adult hood?

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Sherry Lynn Burke
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I can't figure out why the bride's family asked them to take it down. He's NTA.

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Jen O
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What’s just as disturbing is why the wife’s family would want you to take it down??? They should be on your side. Also, I agree, no contact with your family until you & your wife have time to start building your lives together, you don’t need that kind of negativity in your life, this is a time to be happy, celebrate, build strong bonds & hopefully start a family, one that will ALWAYS be by your side! Kudos to your best friend!

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Craig Reynolds
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NTA. I can be petty, so if and when it was time for the sister (unlikely anyone would want her) to get married, I would on the day of the wedding text and say I can't make it because my best friend's cat is constipated and he is a wreck over it, then block all family for the day.

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Firstname Lastname
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Definitely a fake situation. If the hilarity of this situation revolves around that video and no one has been able to find it, then it doesn't exist. Most of these IATA situations are fake drama created just for likes, karma, and entertainment. It's like scripted reality shows.

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Miranda Daugherty
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

These shitty parents made their choice now they can live with it. Your psycho spoiled sister needs to go to the Brat Ranch

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blatherskitenoir
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What kills me is that they didn't even speak with him personally to say they couldn't come to his wedding. They left a voicemail.

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Bljurg
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Absolutely NTA! To hell with your narcissistic sister and parents, and pretty much any of the family that sides with them. You're kind enough to even take their calls after they consistently ignore you as a human being. I would have been far less gracious. Don't take the video down, they deserve it all!

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Michelle Trousil
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Listen, I love my dogs more than anything! But, I would entrust my qualified veterinarian to care for my dog and that they would call me if I needed to leave my only sister's wedding. I certainly wouldn't tell my sister or my parents and try to muddle through the wedding because I love my sister. If, God forbid, the worst were to happen, I would excuse myself early and be with my dog. I wouldn't wreck my only sibling's day and would explain everything after the honeymoon. Again, I love my dogs like they are my children. But, I am not a veterinarian and I wouldn't be able to do anything for my dog. I would be worried the entire time, but, I am not about to alienate my only sister and have my parents alienate her over something that I can't control. When my last dog died, I didn't get out of bed for 10 days. I didn't even tell my parents then and somehow managed to get to my therapist. Sometimes, you don't need to be the center of attention no matter how horribly you feel.

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Vanessa Delrue
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think, I wouldn't take down the video either, why because my mother did the same c**p on me for my wedding and even more to the point I was crying for 2hrs wile in the shop doing the fitting for my wedding dress. She manipulate my sister into the situation to the point that I got a nice heartwarming ( not) message how bad of a daughter I got and I should feel guilty and awful... And that wasn't the first time she also drop me of any of life events, like graduations etc etc... It is sad but maybe take a bit of emotional distance from your parents for some time. It is not in advantage of your system for them to treat her to all her moody spoiled demands, they will regret it later in life....

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Hobbes Dogz
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NTA. But revenge acts aren't the best way to go. I would have just sent the parents & sister the video showing them what they missed and stating they are cut out of my life. I mean, the extra drama the video caused isn't worth the energy. OP's family is so screwed up, I'd just concentrate on having a good life without them.

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Bernard Kostrzab
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

First thing first any parents that miss every big and small moment of a child's life because of a spoiled sibling is no parent. As for what I think I haven't seen the video but definitely never take it down and disown them and never speak to them again . You gained a lovely wife and a wonder family with her enjoy your happiness with them and your best man and friends.

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Rannveig Ess
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NTA. My family has been the same way with my sister and I. Sis is just a stunted, spoiled Drama queen and their codependent lives revolve around her. There is a point. It's wonderful you learned to move on, OP, and have a wonderful, healthy, loving life with your true family. Lesson from my Grandpa: No matter how much you care, some people are just a$$h0les

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Ade Bakare
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Lot of holes here. Was your sister also invited to the wedding? Why are you upset with your parents only and not her? Does she have a mental condition or developmental disability? Something is missing here.

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Susan Carter
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Hmmm, sounds like they use their daughter as an excuse not to attend functions! NO WAY would I miss my child’s wedding unless I was incapacitated. Their daughter is old enough to deal with her emotions ….. allow her to grow the He** up!

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Cat Balwanz
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wow, they can't make it because a daughter's dog is sick and she's upset. Not only the parents are just idiots parents but the sister isn't a piller either. She obviously likes to sabotage his events and she knows she can do it so she keeps doing it. Really a sick dog and she his parents can't come to a wedding. Never heard of anything is stupid in my life. I think that just shows him how his parents feel about him.

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Beatriz Mendoza
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

First of all, Congratulations on your new life; Second, your parents acted very insensitively on your most important day because of your sister; Third, kudos to your best man for his idea for the video; and finally, you're NTA; leave the video up so they can see how insensitive they were to skip your most important day because of your sister! 👍

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Beatriz Mendoza
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I agree with everyone else; NTA; your best man knew how hurt you were because of your parents' favoritism of your entitled, spoiled sister; Just because your sister's dog was sick is not a valid reason for your parents skipping the most important event of your life; don't you take down that video; let them realize how insensitive it was to prioritize your sister's issue over your wedding; Congratulations on your marriage; you have two blessings; your new life with your wife and a wonderful friend that took the sting out of the hurt your parents caused by skipping your most important day! Shame on them!

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Antonia
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think the sister suffers from Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD). NPD’s are manipulative, selfish, attention seeking and lack empathy for others (like psychopaths). NPD’s can mimic (act like they have it) empathy but they don’t feel it at all. They, the parents, should see a therapist as well as the daughter.

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Rukkia
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You are not the AH. Your friend, maybe a little, but only for the right reasons. You deserve better.

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Gijs van Gaans
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You got hurt on multiple occasions. And while you made clear you didn't want them missing because of some 'crisis' of your sister, your parents did exactly that. Now, you are choosing for yourself and setting boundaries by letting them share in the pain. If they would be mindful of your needs and have enough empathy expected within a family they would make amends quickly. The fact that the are not doing that, might tell you the haven't learned anthing. I am afraid give in and taking the video offline would not make them change their ways. Allthoug a bold and mean move, NTA

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Candice Cook
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Please, do yourself a favor and cut all three of them off. Do not waste even one more single solitary nanosecond allowing these so-called "family members" to make you feel like you aren't just as important and your feelings aren't valid. You are absolutely NOT the ah here. How incredibly childish and pathetic of your sister to pull a stunt like that on your wedding day and your parents SHOULD be ashamed of themselves for being a part of it! I would literally never take the video down so long as we both shall live I will not, but you are clearly a nicer person than I. I understand that it might seem petty to your in-laws, but it feels pretty justified to me to call them out over something that they cannot now nor ever undo or "make up for". It's literally impossible! The damage is done. You knew it would happen and it did. I hope you can at least take some consolation in the fact that your best man and your wife are two people that truly care about you. That's your real family.

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Lily
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Oh dearest, you are not an AH, your family is. Your sister is a Drama Queen Narcissist and isn't happy unless ALL the attention is on her, not you. It is utterly magnificent you have such a good friend would do something so amazing for you. Nothing, and I mean not a damn thing can make up for the parents who minimize their other child's important life events. I'm so sorry for you, and so very glad you have had a wonderful friend to support you, and a wife that clearly understands.

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Daycare Attendant Sun
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Streisand Effect. Know all of Twitter knows about your parents, and I'm living for it.

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BluEyedSeoulite
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

How can this be real? Like srsly? 6 years older? This is a grown a*s woman, an ADULT and they are all acting like this? Nah, leave it up, cut them off. Try it for a month and if you are happier, extend it.

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DeAnn Trevathan
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

OMG This is my sister and I to a tee. I am so sorry for this groom. Unfortunately it will never change. I wouldn't take the video down if he thinks it serves a purpose. The one thing he needs to do is set boundaries with his family. Don't involve them in any major events anymore. He has a new family and t hff at is who he should concentrate on.

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Misty Souders
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NTA. Bro. DO NOT take down that video. YOUR parents got cought playing FAVORITES with YOUR sister. AND sister got caught PUBLICLY acting like a SPOILED. SELFISH BRAT who FLAT OUT refuses to GROW UP. YEA. Their going to be EMBARRASSED. Their ANTICS are on FULL DISPLAY for EVERYONE and EVERYBODY to see. A TRUE parent DOES NOT miss their son or daughters wedding . YOUR sister is NOT ONLY ENTITLED Their IS SOMETHING ELSE going on with her mentally.. THAT BEING said YOUR now married. Wash YOUR hands of ALL THREE OF THEM and go on down the road with your WONDERFUL WIFE

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Houseof No
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Flip the script. At the next special moment in your life, might be time to leave these problematic family members off your guest list. Birth of a grandchild? Send photos instead of an invite. You're NTA but it might be time to stop enabling this behavior.

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Ron H.
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I not only would leave the video up, I would post it on every media site I could find! 😅

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kassandra walsh lopez
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Like how do you even make up for missing a wedding, that's kinda hard to make up for

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Josh Raymer
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sounds like the parents are straight up douchebags he should have kicked to the curb long ago. Family is not that important.

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Kimberly Quinn
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What I don't understand is why both sides of the family want him to take the video down.

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Maisey Myles
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'd tell your parents that you are going to sell the video and the story to such and such magazine or news site, so you can make enough money to pay for your sister's therapy, because she def needs it.

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Kelly Graham
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Hah! You're a bit of a d**k, but you're sure not the a*****e. I think the whole thing is hysterical. Your best man is amazing to do that for you and your new wife sounds like a keeper. I'm so proud of all of you. Your Father is embarrassed, probably humiliated, but he is going to go along with what his wife/your mother and his daughter/your sister have always expected him to do... be on their side. Try to find a way to reconcile with your Dad. Block your sister (and Mom?) from your account for the time being, so she'll stop watching the video over and over and using it as fodder. You can always re-friend them after your sister finally pulls her head out of her a*s. They're getting exactly the attention that they wanted. Your sister sounds like a c*nt, and your Mom is holding on to her for dear life, because She likes the attention, too. It sounds like your Sister and Mom need to find a new hobby. I wish the best for you and your Wife.

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m.w.
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Nah... The dad is in the damage control mode. As soon as the danger is removed, everything will conveniently fall in the old comfortable rut again.

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CD goodin
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sis needs to get a life and stop trying to ruin yours and your parents need to stop enabling her to Do so. It's odd when she knows you have important things going on she cause drama and needs attention that is definitely on purpose. The parents should recognize that and be like oh you will be fine until we get back she would stop the drama then

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NushNush
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The best man is a keeper! But I wonder where he got the voicemail though. Also I can bet that the OP was a surprise baby. It's the only possible explanation I've got to their parents' dreadful behavior

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Jennifer Lee
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Leave the video up forever. Tell your parents you *might* consider taking it down only after they show you proof that they have gone through ten sessions with a family therapist, together with your sister.

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m.w.
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I would keep it until they make it up to him for all the missed milestones. But I'm afraid the universe will die first.

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Joshua Shamblin
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

He's training his parents the same way you train a dog that shits on the carpet. Sticking their effing nose in that steamy turd to the point sinks in. After reading this im glad my cat knows how to c**p in the box 😂

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Coffeemama05
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1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Congrats to you and your wife!! I’m sorry your parents missed such a huge event. But I don’t disagree with what your friend did and I actually think it’s really smart. I hope things are getting better for you after this. I’d like an update

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giulia monteguti benelli
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12 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I just hope he finds affection with his in laws. His parents are a lost cause, sister is jealous and malicious

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James McLeod
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If they were ever going to acknowledge the fact that the sister is NOT really an only child it should have been for their son's wedding. After all the promises his mom kept making cuz he knew they didn't give a s**t about him and wouldn't show up they still decided that promises to their son aren't worth the air they're spoken with. I'll be the 1st person to say that if you don't think of your pets as part of the family then you probably shouldn't have pets, but it's the sister's dog, not the parents, and in the end you disappointed your son just like you have his entire life on the most important day of his life over a dog that was sick. Not a dog that had to be put down even, just a dog that was sick. Someone else's dog. That probably either wasn't really sick or was made sick on purpose just to avoid having her parents acknowledge their other child and her having to spend a moment not being in the spotlight.

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Krysta Pandoo
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I love the best man. This was just perfect. What a cow of a sister and d**k parents - get rid of them all .

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CHRISTY SMITH
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

He also shouldn’t allow his parents around their grandchildren since they’ve been completely incapable to be there anytime before that.

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GLO SAINT-AIME
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NTA, YOUR parents and sister are, don't take the video down at all, good job best friend

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Julie Ham
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The sister was likely always emotional, and the parents overprotected her because she was a girl instead of helping her learn to deal with her feelings. Instead, she learned how to manipulate her parents. Seriously, they didn't notice she had a crisis whenever her brother had a special moment? Now, they've estranged their son and are stuck with her Royal Neediness. If they're smart and choose to learn from this trainwreck, they'll work on their relationship with their son; and celebrate future milestones with him and his family. Otherwise, their nursing home years will be handled by their entitled princess. Yikes!

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Julie Ham
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Thinking the sister had always been emotional, and the parents tolerated it and overprotected her. Instead of teaching her how to deal with her feelings. Sister also learned to manipulate hey parents to get her way, and their attention.

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Bron
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

How, in this scenario, does the OP even entertain the idea that he may be the AH?

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C Randolph
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Probably because he didn't make the situation any better. All he did was add fuel to the fire. How did that help?

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JuliaV
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I agree, the parents deserve what they got. However, at some point you need to be the bigger person or risk a feud that will not only hurt them, but will consume you and make you equally unhappy and perhaps more so; especially as you give up the high ground. You can't change others, only yourself. Don't waste your time or energies on negatives.

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Skeeter
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have an older sister who should have been an only child. We are only 18 months apart. She is the most spiteful, vindictive person I have ever known. Sweet as sugar candy to everyone else, but she will pour her hatred all over me at the drop of a hat. It is devastating.

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M3era
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I feel like the parents made excuses for the sister or at least put the blame on her because they did not want to attend anything of their son's either.

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natalie cohen
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think both the older sister and the parents need a psych evaluation. I’m wondering is “sis” has problems her brother doesn’t know about, and how old are Mom and Dad ? Could they be becoming too old to cope with her ? I would use this situation to get some straight answers.

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arielzeppelin zeppelin
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm disgusted in how many entitled brats think this grown baby is in the right. It hurts, I get it. My husband hurts, his parents refused to see our newborn at hospital but did for his sister twice. Because they wanted to party. My own mom wouldn't stay even an hour when my baby was in NICU. It's upsetting but really...grow up. It's not all about you. As a parent of a disabled child it's terrible to think this woman has no grip on the reality of that after being a sibling. Sad if she developed narcissism from it...but was lucky enough to afford a WEDDING in the 1st place and is deluded to think that's so important. What a contrast to the groom that let his disabled sis dress like the bride. You know this b**** wouldn't stand for that. I hope she is not tested with her own special needs child. God save any of her children if she's diagnosably narcissistic. Seems at least very close to.

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Vivi
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Stop allowing your family to bring you down. Obviously there are some serious problems with the family dynamics here. They got what has been a long time coming and they all should be ashamed of themselves! They've missed other milestones for you why did you expect this to be different? Go and enjoy your new life!

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jennifer crabtree
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So nta, I'm not sure death could keep me from my kids wedding. Truly shame on your parents and sister for this abhorrent behavior.

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Aynsley Brown
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

His sister sucks all the oxygen out of the room. She is a narcissist and his parents enable her.

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Leslie Agostino
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Keep the video up. Go NC on parents until they cut the cord with your Grown sister. Congratulations on your wedding

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JoAnn Quigley
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So sorry it happened on your wedding. I think your response was somewhat necessary. Leaving your message on was a bit too long- BUT- clearly they needed you to set healthy boundaries. It’s time they felt some of the pain they caused you. Now, stick to them. Let them know it is no longer acceptable to keep hitting YOU over the head! The sooner you keep it going the sooner maybe your whole family can be a real loving family!! Do not give in! Trust me, setting up this plan now will save you much grief or total estrangement. Being a grown up has its perks! You get to be active in the betterment of you family as they realize YOU ARE RIGHT!!

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Joe Jung
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If the parents advise on how they'd make up for missing their sons wedding... I might then be reluctant to accept but might have... This seems like there's no way they will or want to.

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Ivanka van der Reest
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The sister sounds to me like she's on the spectrum, in a way high functioning enough to pay rent, cook her own food, and care for a dog, maybe even have a job, but unable to deal with anything out of the ordinary or overwhelming, leading to tantrums. The fact that she wasn't invited also hints that her brother knows she wouldn't be able to cope with such a overwhelming event. Another fact that gives it away is that the girl clearly has no support system beyond her parents, so she's probably socially disabled. Otherwise she could have called a friend to support her with her sick dog. The biggest problem is that the parents don't deal with this properly. They are there for her when she needs them because she has no one else to fall back on. Yet the son gets neglected, even on his wedding day. Parents don't have eternal life. If they don't get the right help for their daughter soon to have others to lean on, it's going to end in disaster for everyone.

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Julia Purdy
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is my story exactly, but in different contexts... it has taken me 73 years to figure it out...Something else is goingvon in this family...that accounts for the sister blocking the poster's participation in the family, which will bectraced to the parents and some cause for shame on their part... they seem to be always "making it up" to the wrong child... while she holds the reins...there is a Big Kie somewhere...possibly a skeleton in the closet or under the bed....

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Maceo Moore
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Who cares! I never understood people who need to have there parents or friends to come to things, or get upset because “They never came to one of my games!” I just don’t get the guilt trip people put other people through. I just never cared, if I’m doing something it’s because I want to do it, it doesn’t matter to me who comes.

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CF RN
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NTA. Sounds like your parents’ coddling behavior towards your sister’s meltdowns supported her feeling of entitlement and manipulative behavior over the years whenever she wanted her way. Your parents are the enablers that will allow her behavior to continue at your expense. It appears you have the self-confidence to know that you are better off limiting any contact with them at all and allowing you to become a stronger person rather than a bitter one. Keep the video up. Keep them at a distance, but keep your best man forever.

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Tom Smith
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Take it down and post it on the sister’s social media page.

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Aura Espinosa
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I would no longer have a relationship with my parents or sister. Sad.NTA

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Amber Jennings
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Leave it up! Sometimes parents need to see what they are doing to their children, when they clearly don’t care and are not listening to what really matters to you and what is important. Sounds like the older sister is a real piece of work!! BRAT.. GTFU They needed to be called out! Congratulations to you and your wife❤️

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JACS CLEANING LLC
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So your best friend is the best for a reason and he definitely rocks, your sister is disgusting and apparently a tragic mental patient and your parents are pathetic to this point and possibly need to seek help for themselves as well as your sister. As for the video I’d say the audacity of them to ask you to remove it is like your wedding day happening again and them not showing up again over and over and over. The most important part is you can’t pick your family yet you can always decide how to deal with them and I’d most definitely keep that video up so every time they wonder why they never met their grandchildren they can reflect on their poor parenting skills. The hell you and your wife have children you parents baby set are they going to forget to feed the baby because that heffer had another melt down 🤦🏻 Nope your better off without them and sometimes God will bless you as he did with others to love and to love you properly and honestly it sounds like you deserve nothing less 💙

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April Starling
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Firstly you have great people in your life that are tired of you being hurt by those supposed to love you. Secondly you need to have a come to Jesus meeting with your parents. Keep it simple. Tell them you reap what you sow. You sow nothing you reap nothing. They sow moments they reap memories. They so favoritism they reap distance. My kids asked me not to invite Gma anymore cause Aunt Christina was more important. I felt like I failed my kids cause I didn’t keep them from feeling what I felt from my mom. I made excuses for her absence. When I had the come to Jesus meeting it didn’t bode to well after a few years my dad came around. My kids and I got a a year with him before cancer took him. But he sowed moments in that year and they have memories. It’s never to late to be told when you I feel. I pray your parents see the light. If not we’ll the Apple can fall far from the tree when the tree is on a hill. Sounds like you already rolled down hill to a healthier tree.

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April Starling
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

From an unseen daughter: we are raised to treat people the way we want to be treated. To respect our elders and follow the 10 commandments and lastly our actions have consequences. Or every action has a reaction. Hell even parents that don’t approve show up, dressed in black to show their disapproval. But they still show up!!! Your best friend stood up for you and put them on blast. Them being upset means they didn’t see anything wrong. Save your future kids from toxic grandparents. Trust me mine missed 3 births and I still tried. Good luck praying 4 you and your wife and your best friend rocks!!! Invite them to things but tell them if you show you show. I already know something will come up. But you reap what you sow. If you don’t sow moments you won’t reap memories. Especially with your future grandchildren. My kids no longer ask me to invite Gma cuz Aunt Christina is more important. Gpa got a year with them before he passed and they got memories.

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Cali Fornia
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It will never feel the same anymore. My parents didn't come to my graduation because they thought I was lying. Next morning they woke up to my diploma on thr kitchen table.

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Lunar
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NTA. What kind of parents missed their children's big days? AH parents.

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Reid McClanahan
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NTA, but please rethink taking down the video if it ends up hurting you and your new family. I have had similar experiences however not as brutal as that one with my own sister. I learned that you focus on the people In Your life that try to be a part of it and give less focus (or power) to those that don’t try. You will be happier.

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Tricia Neville
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"You get to publicly profess your love for your other half" - Doesn't that mean that you outwardly claim to love someone, but really that's not the case?

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Amanda Gibbs
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My husband's family never attended our wedding purposely because I was never the 1 they chose to marry their son i wasn't good enough. To today, they try to intrude and make me uncomfortable. My family were living overseas and wasn't able to attain a visa for the occasion.

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Annette Hachey
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That's their problem, not yours. Sad but don't allow their intusions, speak to your husband, he needs to stand up for you. Sorry this happened. Terrible and they sound like controlling, ignorant people.

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Colleen Vincent
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I feel so sorry for you that this has happened. The hurt it has caused. Give them all a big miss. Unforgivable.

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Brit Saunders
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sounds to me like she is struggling with her mental health. Mental illness unfortunately effects the people around you too. It is unfortunate and unfair, but not worthy of revenge. People with mental health struggles already hate themselves enough. Sorry the parents ditched. That's incredibly unfair.

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Pam Salberg Woebke
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I guess I am different. I would, as an adult, taken the video down. But I would also set healthy boundaries up afterwards so it doesn’t cause a problem in the future with my wife or future children.

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Patricia Mills
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I feel your pain. I had parents and a sister exactly like yours. Both parents are gone now, but sister is still around. I have not had any communication with her since 2007. Don’t miss her drama one bit.

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Sara George
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I am saving this page and I will be Praying for him,his wife and there Families. Thank you.

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Candice Blanton
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My grandparents did this all the time. His older sister was the only one they cared about. He wasn't planned and they always let him know he wasn't wanted. My dad is very family oriented and always cooked fried fish to get us all together. My aunt, granny, and papa always complained about coming to our house. It's not like we lived a nine mile hike away or anything. It took em 10 minutes tops

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Kota Ball
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So I agree on the NTA part. However, just because someone isn't diagnosed with something doesn't mean they don't have it. There's a lot of work to get a psychiatric diagnosis and the sister may have either been kept from going to therapy or other relevant services or has not yet been able to recognize that she needs to. Getting help when you are sick in any way in most places is a privilege. Either way, still not being handled the right way by OP's parents

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kassandra walsh lopez
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

How do you even make up for missing a wedding? Especially when it wasn't even for a good reason, that is kinda hard to make up for.

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Candy Berg
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

There are times when family isn’t family. Just because your parents were responsible for you being born does not mean you owe them anything. Cut your losses. From. Now on, invite but don’t expect them to anything. If they show treat them as any other guest. That is what they’ve been reduced to. Do not allow them the place of honor in your lives. I had to do this and it was definitely for my sanity. I saw over and over how right I was. I still sent cards for mothers and Father’s Day, none of the sappy oh you gave me everything ones. But I kept in mind what place I held in their life. Keep in mind who has been there for you when you’ve needed them. Do not let others guilt you into anything. Actions do speak louder than words.

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Mora Chilis
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have an older sister like this too. many missed milestones and celebrations so we don't upset your sister.

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Kevin Garren
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sorta torn, it is kind of an a-hole reaction... but his parents were the a-holes in the first place so I feel like sometimes it's ok to react in an a-hole way, sometimes those people deserve it. He can get married more than once, and have multiple weddings if they wanted... but graduation is legitimately a once in a lifetime thing and they missed that too. I'd have stopped inviting them and the sister to things long ago. Never introduce them to the girlfriend or anything, just randomly talk to them one day and drop some "wife"s into the conversation and then explain to them how I didn't mean enough to them, so I figured I'd stop letting them into my life.

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Dizzie D
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That is actually very sad. Having parents that pander to the whims of his sister for years is bad enough but to actually do that for his own wedding is appalling. The vast majority of loving parents would only have the excuse of personal hospitalisation/ accidents or major emergency to miss their kids wedding. I would leave the video up and for quite a few years I would also cancel last minute on them, especially the sister, see how they like being treated like that. I wouldn't go to the sisters future wedding out of revenge. I'm glad he has a good wife and best friend because his parents and sister are selfish idiots.

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Ian Brock
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I can understand the favoritism dealt with my sister in that regard , either mom or dad favors the other sibling and the other has no back bone. An goes along with it. You sister sounds like a suck on society love how you handled it. F em it's your life you don't need them to be happy

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Vera Abelsen
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NTA. OP might like to consider taking the video down anyway. Digging trenches is rarely conductive to conflict resolution. But clearly the parents need to realise the severity of the situation and that eventually their blatant favoritism may result in No Contact. Nobody is content on feeding on scraps forever, and conditional love is exhausting. Even if the situation with the OP's sister was awful and somebody needed to stay with her for whatever reason, they were two people. They could have split up and had 1 of them attend the wedding at the very least.

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Judith Lawlor
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"Eventually" their blatant favoritism? Sounds like it happens with regularity and if a wedding isn't the time to show up, I don't know what is?! Take a break from them and get your married life off to a wonderful beginning without the drama. Best wishes for much happiness. ♥️

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C Randolph
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

ESH. Sister needs to grow up. Parents should not be catering to the sister. Best man should have never thought of the concept of that video. Wife should have never given permission to do the video. When the husband found out about it (the OP) he should have taken the video down. What was accomplished by shaming the parents? Two wrongs don't make a right. 100 wrongs damn sure don't make a right! If they just had to make the video it could have been delivered to the groom's family for their private viewing if they needed to make a point. Again, esh!

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similarly
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The sister may have mental problems. Considering her "needs" always cause the parents to abandon the brother to pay attention to her, I wouldn't put it past her to make the dog sick in order to get them to stay home. Maybe have her watched for other incidents of Munchausen's-by-proxy.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

YNTA but the post needs to come down. It has been up long enough for everyone who should see it to have seen it. The point has been made and they know that they are horrific. In the long run, they will not care. Everyone is the hero of their own story. Leaving the post up allows these narcissistic, selfish family members to continue to play victims. This will quickly turn into a narrative where you will be blamed, and labeled the tormentor. The focus will turn away from what they did wrong, and will focus on what YOU did to tear the family apart. Take it down and take away their power. But take it down only once you have accepted that they are not your family. Your family is that best man, your new wife and those would support you no matter what. You can be cordial to these people if you want. You are the lucky one-you got out of that house with a soul. I hope you can reach a place where their actions are not relevant to your life, and that you can peacefully coexist. ❤️

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Eliza
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

In my mind this probably deserves to be on r/pettyrevenge more than r/aita.

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Scott Cendali
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NTA, just a pussy. You're a dude. Who cares about weddings? That's for the girls anyhow, brah

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Shylah Harley
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11 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sexist attitudes like this are the reason men have trouble properly expressing emotions and r@pe women instead. If you want to “man up” you have to grow up first.

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"Once in a lifetime thing" says he. Doubtful. Only a small percentage of marriages go the distance. It is highly likely another wedding is in his future. The parents will have an opportunity to attend then. He needs to quit crying about it. Cut the apron strings already. The most important person was there and she's all that mattered.

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Shylah Harley
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11 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Who cares? They basically abandoned him. They deserve shame. He has every right to be upset.

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I want there to be some reason that maybe OP isn't aware of. Does it excuse the emotional neglect OP has experienced? No. Do parents hide things from their children because they don't want them to worry? Yes. Their sister might have a more serious problem that the parents are bad at making excuses for while tending to it.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Maybe parents do sometimes hide serious things like one sibling's mental disorder from the other when they're children, but there's really no need to keep something like that a secret when they're both full-grown adults. If something was wrong with sis then OP would've certainly been able to handle knowing about it by now. Plus he's not blind; he likely would've figured out that his parents were trying to keep this huge bombshell from him once he got older.

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NTA... ok I get the comments on NC. However, never speaking to your parents again is horrible! If you really hate them then ok. It doesn't sound like you don't love your parents and you've given them multiple passes on bad behavior & your sister is a pain in the backside. I blame this on your sister and parents. They behave badly and they know they did. Even if I wasn't speaking to my son and I had a sick dog (and my dog is human btw) I would either have somebody come dogsit or take it to a vet to get it the care that it needs. I don't care how much $ it would've been. I would not have missed his wedding. My suggestion is give it some time. I wouldn't reach out to them, they know where you are they know how to get a hold of you. The balls in their court(s). They need to prove to you that they got the message and are ready for a big plate of crow! Leave the video up it doesn't matter. It will quickly fade into oblivion. Maybe invite them to a BBQ in 2023, test them, see if they deliver

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John Dough
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I would like to rephrase something you said to see if you still think this... "However, never speaking to your abusers again is horrible!" Family should never be allowed to be abusive just because they are family.

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Yes you are. Your parents may have favoured your sister over you, is that a good enough reason to hurt them? They still raised and took care of you. They missed your life events, alright, what did you do for their life events? Think about what you have done for them before trying to hurt them more. I don't support what they did, but you ignoring them is enough for that, making them look terrible online is just too far

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yikes you are brainwashed into believing parents must be respected, no matter how terrible they are. Glad you're happy with yours....

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Jihana
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sooo, the sister is older than her little brother who got married. She does not have any developmental issues. So why the heck couldn't she stay home alone with her dog? Why did the parents have to stay home as well?

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Exactly my thoughts! I absolutely understand wanting to stay with her sick dog (if that's the truth and not just an excuse to manipulate her parents) but unless her dog was severely sick I don't see why the parents would've needed to stay home with her either.

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Beth L
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Parents have been enabling sister. Extended family has been enabling parents into thinking that's ok. Chickens came home to roost. I hope the groom married into a good family that will treat him as an equal instead of an afterthought.

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William Beier
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Powerful words! "Afterthought" ...very profound. Applies to so many of us. Your last sentence says it all. I feel sorry for people who are bound to toxic families. They say, "but they're family". Sad.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Never take it down. Repost it every year on your anniversary. Stop speaking to your sister and only speak to your parents when necessary. This is how I'd handle it, anyway. I hope your wedding was beautiful and genuinely a wonderful time for all who came to support you and your bride <3

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GMc
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Add the link URL / QR to the back of your Christmas cards and make sure to send one to sister and the parents. Nothing better than giving a big FU over the holidays.

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Helen Waight
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Frankly I applaud this. If your own parents decide that you’re not important to them then by all means mock them and cut them out of your life (if possible). I doubt they’ll do anything to ‘make it up’ and instead just whine about how haaaard life is for *them*. (Some of my friends have toxic family and I’ve heard a LOT worse than this)

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Jane Doe
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The other story if the mom who was taking three of her kids’ college funds to pay for the one daughter’s wedding! It all came out when the one sister told the dad she couldn’t afford the $5,000 sister demanded she pay to be in and attend the wedding.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is my main takeaway, too. When you've had shitty parents who made you feel worthless, having someone who loves you stand up for you is an incredible feeling.

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Solidhog
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The best advice I ever saw was on here from a fellow panda. It does not matter if they are family. Would you bother with them if they were not? Despite what people say, you can choose your family.

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The Starsong Princess
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Not attending your son's wedding because your daughter’s dog is sick is relationship ending behavior. Let’s assume that there is something so wrong with this girl that she cannot be trusted alone or to behave at the wedding. Then the parents should have made arrangements for her to be cared for and attended the wedding.

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Casey McAlister
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

They didn't even take a dog to the vet, meaning there was no emergency. They literally missed their son's wedding to coddle to a grown-a*s woman who was upset.

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Seedy Vine
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Now I'm wondering how the OP's sister treats her dog. What a "convenient" time for doggo to be sick... Hope it was just a lie on the sister's part.

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Brooke Weber
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Throw out the whole family. You found a new one that will show up.

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deanna woods
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Everytime I read an article like this, I realize that I essentially have the most perfect parents in the world. No matter what has been going on in the lives of my siblings and I, they are there for us. I got in a car accident and they came back to town to be by my side. My sister had surgery and they have been there for her every step of her recovery. My parents treat every single one of their children equally. They are there for us and don't treat anyone person better than the others. I hope the OP keeps the video up and goes no contact. They don't deserve to be in his life if they are not interested because of sister's meltdowns.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My parents did the same. Graduation from high-school... She got a car, i got a set of luggage. My graduation from USMC basic. Missed it. The money My grandfather left me for college... Gave it to her for a down-payment on a house. Got married... Sister needed them to watch her kids, because she decided to take a trip. She couldn't afford to come to my wedding. They refused to ever visit me. Flew across the country 4 times a year to visit her. They wonder why I don't have anything to do with them.

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Erik Ivan
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sounds heartbreaking to not have your family at your wedding. I, for one, missed my twin brothers wedding in 1993 and have not forgotten. I came down with a bad case of stomach flu, and all parties agreed that spreading that on a wedding was a bad idea. So no har feelings - but it is that one huge thing I missed.

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Iam Knucks
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Really seems like the parents don't know how to be parents. Being a parent isn't just coddling them until they feel better. The ultimate goal of being a parent, is to raise someone who does not need you. It's a very difficult thing to do. But it seems like they've raised a codependent child. I'm guessing they like it that way

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Martha Vazquez
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

They will do the same, when your wife gets pregnant and has a baby shower. I wouldn’t invite them, since you know they won’t come.

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SuperChicken
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If I only know who the best man is - I'd buy him a drink or two. He, rocks! I say, leave the video up and don't ever take it down. Just like everyone else, I would love to see the video, too.

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Jane Doe
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Remember the show The Middle? They called it “floating” like we will float christmas to next month. We will float Sue’s birthday till spring. How are they going to float the wedding? “we will make it up to you! Take down the video!” I love that OP asked this! How will you make it up to me? “i will make it up to you!” Exactly

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Clara Stallworth
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Because that's a way to get the aggrieved party to shut up, by promising something they possibly couldn't keep!! And if they manage to follow through?? (Cricket sounds.) So unless they can find a way to go back into time for each event missed, that's not gonna happen!! One, they'll forget, and, two, they push it back to a more "convenient" time!!

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

As someone who has been regularly told by my own mother that I'm her "favourite" and that she loves and likes me more. I'm with the the husband on this. I've always hated that barrier that's been set between me and my sister and its ruined so many things in our lives because of it. My story is somewhat different as I love my sister to bits. It's sad and hurtful that this seems to be more normal than I ever realised.

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Loreitta M Tuthill
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NTA. Don't take the video down. They are seeing the consequences to their actions. A lot of good suggestions in the thread. Love your wife, new family, and all the future events in your life. You may like to invite your parents and sister to some of those events but don't be disappointed if history repeats itself, it's their loss. At least you're the bigger person for rising above their inconsiderate and hurtful actions.

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Gabriela Cink
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I was always sad, that my mom can't come to many of my once in a life moments, but she is sick and can't stand from bed and father is taking care of her. It is simply not possible. But this is just .... it makes me angry 😠

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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

They don't want to make up anything to OP, they just want to save face... Or, more likely, they just want to pacify the crying sister the way they always bend over backwards when she cries. I agree on a sequel to the video providing the parents with beautiful scenes of all the other events they missed (captioned with their excuse for easy reference) and some sentiment like "I'm sorry you missed so much of my life here it is so you can finally see it." Trying to think of a more devastating song to pair it with than Green Day's Good Riddance. Then go NC for your own sanity, let them put 100% of their attention on their face crybaby instead of only 99%. Surround yourself with people who aren't trash from here on in, OP.

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Seedy Vine
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Bwahahaha OP's best man made a classic move! So sad OP even thinks he is an a$$hole. He is NTA! I think his mom, dad and sister should seek therapy to find out why they hate the son so much and coddle the daughter.

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Morgan blackwell
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NTA!!! Wtf is wrong with your parents! Is there some back story or is your sister just a massive spoilt brat???

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Bill Allen
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think I’d take it down. The point was made and every one who needed to see it has seen it. Just don’t ever include your parents in important things in your life anymore unless you are ok with them disappointing you. If you have kids, don’t ever leave them alone with your sister around. Take the video down and move on with your lives. The video staying up is just a constant reminder of what your family is like.

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Justacrow
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I disagree. He doesn't have to watch the video. It is up as a constant reminder to EVERYONE of exact;y what his parents are, s**t

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I just hope the sister didn't do something to make the dog sick.

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Jackie Lulu
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Among the other things going on here, I think the parents are being manipulated by the sister. Do they realize this? The parents and sister seriously need counseling.

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Yettichild
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I feel for this guy. My dad was the same. Never came to a single important event in my life after promising to. But it wasn't because of a sibling for me. It was because he is an alcoholic. He would always say he'd make it up to me. It hurts. It really hurts. I'm super LC with him now and am much better off.

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David Brown
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I hold grudges longer than most marriages last. I'd never forgive my parents or sibling for missing my wedding over a "sick" animal. Most weddings don't last more than a few hours including the reception so there's no excuse for them to have missed the thing. And honestly it sounds to me like it was a well timed move on the sisters part in order to make sure she ruined the brothers big day. There's no way it was just a coincidence with the timing of it. Dude should just cut his losses with his family and move on. I'm sure in the long run he'd me much happier for it. By the sound of it his parents constantly were flaking out on him due to his sister anyway so why should he set himself up for disappointment again when his next big life moment comes about?

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Tito Goon Goon Smith
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I had to reread the beginning because I thought he must have said his sister was 6 years old, not 6 years older. Honestly not all family is worth continuing to try to hold on to. Sometimes going no contact and moving on with your life is the best option. Shouldn't be a knee-jerk reaction but it sounds like he's been dealing with it long enough. Graduations and weddings are things people will show up to if you matter to them but family isn't only about blood relations. Sounds like he's got family in his wife and his best friend/best man. Have a feeling his life would improve leeps and bounds if he put his sister and parents behind him.

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Kelly Graham
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Holy smokes... me, too! I was thinking the sister had to be a little kid, but 6 years older? That is f*****g ridiculous.

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Kimberly Feddema
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I lived this life as well -- my sister is 7 years younger and the "Golden Child." I encourage you to research narcissistic families, you will learn SO much!! LOVING how justice was served by your bff!!! Excited for you as you begin a new healthy family!

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Michael Largey
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

How do you tell someone that they're an orphan and don't know it? Well, his parents managed to find a way

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Alysoun Learmonth
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ask your father WHY he wants it taken down....because it makes them look bad??? So it shows them in their true light. Then tell him the way to not be seen as awful is maybe he should try NOT being awful. Then nobody will think badly of them. Can't show someone being a d**khead if they don't behave like one.

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Anička
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7 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ha, I said this to someone recently. He's always scared of 'getting what he deserves.' Like, if you're scared it means you know how to behave AND you know you are behaving badly...if you don't treat people like s**t you don't have to be scared of their reactions 🤷

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Stacy B
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

WOW! Some parents are real a**holes! I feel so bad for the OP. Again, just because you can have kids doesn't mean you should and these "parents" prove it. He should cut them all off and enjoy his life with his new bride and her family. How do you not show up to your child's wedding, one of the most important days of their life, because your adult daughter's dog is sick?! Gross! My Mom refused to attend my wedding and threatened my family members into not attending either. Trust me when I say I know how badly this hurts.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The sister must be really dehydrated if she is constantly crying. If she suffers from a mental and/or emotional problem, at least one of the parents could have stayed with her and the other go to the wedding. Doesn't matter if the OP decides to remove the video, what they did will be forever in everyone's memories.

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CL Rowan
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Never give those disgusting 'parents' a chance to do that to your future children. They will, absolutely, drop your children like hot rocks because either their spoilt brat will sulk or *her* brats will. Dump the whole batch and never look back. You have amazing friends and a beautiful wife who are your family~~not those three losers you were forced to grow up with.

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gerald baum
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

OMG 😳! I can really feel for this guy. So lucky to have great in-laws. I'm a middle child and both brothers were always in the spotlight no matter how hard I tried to get some recognition from parents. Parents gone and brothers have continued parents ways. I'm 78 and I wish you and your family a long and happy life. Make sure your parents get nowhere near your family and DO NOT HAVE ANY REGRETS!!!!!

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Norma Novia
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If you didn't post it, it's not your responsibility to take it down.

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GMc
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Time to cut the lot of them out of your life. No invites, no visits, no seeing the eventual grandkids & no visiting them when they are alone and scared in a care home. If even one of them couldn't be bothered to show up for even part of the wedding, why have them in your life? 8 billion people on earth, somebody out there would love to be added to your RL friends list.

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Hoodoo
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Oh Honey now NO!! Please leave it up til there's cobwebs on it. And please go on & have a happy life...w/o expecting your immediate family to change. As it's put, Ya can't choose your parents, but ya can choose your friends. Sounds like you picked a gem of a best man.

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GoGoPDX
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Parents deserved it 110%! What a toxic dynamic! Accept that you deserve better, limit contact unless it is with more of these videos, and live a wonderful life with an amazing best friend and awesome wife by your side! Also, Is it just me, or does anyone else want to see this video?

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Kathy E Spotts
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

LOVE the idea of additional videos to the original! Where can I watch this wonderfully created video??????Definitely NTA

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Carol Seal
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I am disabled and often miss family events. I missed my sisters wedding due to illness as well, but I would NEVER ask or expect my other family members to skip these events on my behalf. This situation is sad and ridiculous.

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Michael Wilmer
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

yes, he's the A because everyone knows a sick dog and a whiney, privileged, over-protected girl trumps a man getting married for the first and last time in his life!! Keep video up!!

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Claudia Dugral
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

We once came to wedding of a friend of ours even when our own dog got sick. We left the dog in the car outside and cared for him every half hour and hab to leave early. But we showed up. And yes, we were worried about our dog and didn't enjoy the party as much. But we showed up. So it could have been done.

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Brenda Butler
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Congratulations to you in your new wife. I would not take down the video.. In a way you lost one set of parents but you gained a new set someone who will treat you better than your parent did. You deserve to be surrounded by people who loves you and will be there for you. Your ex-parents showed that didn't give a d_m about you. Why put yourself through anymore agony whether they will show up or not. I would not let your parents or sister have anything to do with your baby/children if you have them. Life is to short and yoy should make the best of it with your new family. What goes around comes around and they will get theirs.

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lone dragon
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I wish everyone had a best friend like that! He sounds amazing! NTA Those a-hole parents who have allowed their daughter to upstage everything in their son's life do not deserve any consideration. They are all jerks and don't deserve to have this young man in their lives.

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Denise Lewis
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

does the sister have some mental issue? that she can't be left alone? why is everything focused on her? she is not a child i take it she also still lives at home. i sense a mental issue that is not being brought up. tell your dad he can buy you a house if he wants to make it up to you. because that is how important the day was for you.

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Gail Lynn
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

One far, far, far away from them with a moat!! Hey, they might show up! Ya never know!

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Joe Average
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sibling stories would be a good thread. Heartbreaking too I'm sure.

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Gail Lynn
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

7 siblings growing up on a ranch. Had family all round, sounds great, huh? Nope!! A pit of asps after our dad passed in 2000. I kinda talk to 2 of my brothers...that leaves behind 2 more brothers & 2 sisters. Our mom is 95 years old & slowing waaaaaay down. When she's gone, we're moving away...

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Eric Sebastian
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Just invite them to have lunch at a park and never show up. Do things similar to this for at least a year. Then when mom and dad are yelling at you from being stood up, politely stop them and say "I hope you two outlive me so you can be paul bearers at my funeral and let me down one last time." No contact after that 🎤 drop

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michelle dalton
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What is truly sad is this guy's "nuclear dna pool" cares more about how they "appear" to others on social than their sons feelings. Your best man did you a favor of course they didn't attend narcissists don't like not being the center of attention watch out for that family of yours

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Ondrea Richardson
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Your friend is awesome for thinking of that and you had every right to keep it up. I can't believe your parents would miss your wedding for a sister who did not have a medically diagnosed condition that required them to stay with her. And shame on your sister for being so selfish! I wish you and your wife the best. She is your new family and ai am sure you will be a priority for her.

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AshErika Michaela
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Oh, hell no. OP is NTA. Those parents have had favoritism written all over them in neon for OP's entire life. The only difference now is that their toxicity is public information. Boo hoo for them. Let them and their precious princess cry all they want. OP should go NC and live his best life with people who actually care about him, like his wife, his best friend and all the people who ACTUALLY SHOWED UP WHEN THEY SAID THEY WOULD.

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Clara Stallworth
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NTA! It seems whenever there's an event involving you, whether major, like a graduation or wedding (BTW, congrats!), or relatively minor, like a game or performance you're participating in, sister conveniently has her meltdowns, and mom and dad had to deal with it, leaving you out in the cold! One, she's six years older! She's an adult, she doesn't need mommy and daddy to hold her hand; she needs psychological help!! Two, why did BOTH parents have to tend to her, when only one of them could've, while the other attended YOUR events?? I mean, dad could've attended your sporting events, mom could've gone to your graduation and wedding, both could've provided the other with an account of the events ("He scored a touchdown!" "He hit a home run!" "He looked so stately in his cap and gown, and had gotten so many awards!" "He looked so handsome in his tux, and the bride was beautiful!"), as well as having photos and videos. And, three, they want to "make it up" to you??? How, I wonder??

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Maceo Moore
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Neither one of them need mommy and daddy to hold their hands, just be an adult, stop whining, and focus on the wedding.

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Linda Hopson
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Out of the parents, sister, and the dog the only one of the three thats nta is the dog.

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A falz
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NEVER TAKE DOWN THAT VIDEO!!! Such a good idea on the best man's part. Congratulations on your marriage. Definitely go no contact

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Saltea
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Looks like sister want to hoard all of their parents attention to herself, wife and best friend are mvp

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BonnyDK
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Soooo the dog is more important than your own son's wedding? WTH???

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Babsywabs
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If ever there was a good reason estrangement, this sure seems like it.

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ohjojo (you/your's)
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What's nc? It says go and nc with them. It would be great if you could send us a link. I'd love to see it. Congratulations on your marriage.

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Paula Glasscoe
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NC is no contact, lc is low contact. Basically limiting the damage such toxicity can bring to your life

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Joanne Spin
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

joannern This is "PERSONALLY HURTFUL & INSULTING". There are many brides and/or grooms that have parents that are deceased and are present at their child's wedding spiritually. Here are two living parents who "CANCELLED" at the last minute none the less. I would remove them from my life, live my life as an orphan and surround my life with my spouse's family and my friends. I always felt that revenge was stooping to their level but not this time. Revenge was "BEAUTIFUL" leave it up forever. It is the absolute truth and the truth hurts. Enjoy your life with your new family. "CONGRATULATIONS" on your wedding & "GOOD LUCK".

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Ronnie Beaton
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Let me get this straight. OP's parents missed his wedding on account of sister's *dog*???? What is *wrong* with people?

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Kristina Davis
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I would tell them I will take it down and then everytime they ask why it has not been taken down, I would give them a version of one of their excuses. "Oh yeah. I couldn't. My mailman's cat had a hang nail." 'oh sorry, it was a bad night"

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Shanda LaPointe
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm glad I am not the only one experiencing these exact situations. I would hedge about 90% of the time my sister is/was chosen over me or my time with my parents was cut short/interrupted by her immature, lunatic behavior. My parents have never wanted to take full responsibility for the person they created and have always made excuses. Even now my dad is in denial when it suits him and gets mad at me for pointing out the truth essentially gaslighting me. Stand up to your family and as much as it may hurt or be difficult you don't need that drama and toxicity in your life especially now that you're married and may start a family.

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Patty Tripenfeldas
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I know how this guy feels I won't go into detail but I have a younger sister who is just like this guy's sister and a mother who is just like his parents I'm one of eight kids and a single parent home raised by my mom who treats my little sister like gold. He is definitely in the right the sister has been favored for so long being older she can't stand when he does anything good and takes the attention from him I feel she purposely used her dog to sabotage his wedding because she is a sad excuse of a human being and a single and cannot stand to see her little brother live a wonderful life with a wonderful woman. I can already see where this is going she's a spoiled little brat who can't keep a relationship so she's going to try and sabotage her brother's life like everyone says man keep your head up enjoy your wife enjoy the family you will have and whatever you do do not lose that best friend forget your sister you've got a wonderful brother.

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Bill Beckley
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Your best man was absolutely rockstar! The fact that your folks didn't show up because your sister's dog was sick is absolutely pathetic! Pure human scum. I think that not only you should leave it up, but if I were your best man, I'd make sure to comment it once a week so it pops to the top of the feed so everybody sees it over and over again. They should be mortified. And if Dad wants to make it up to you, tell him he can try, but until and unless he does in huge fashion, you won't even consider taking it down

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Sylvia Bates
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My in-laws skipped our wedding too. They chose my husband's little sister over their son. They always chose her. She has paid them back by ignoring them in their golden years. As mean as it sounds, they are getting payback for choosing one child over another. I tell my husband that my family may not share his blood lines but they will always be there for him.

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Rhonda Marie
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Definitely NTA. If they truly regretted missing the wedding, wouldn’t they LUV to see what they missed to somehow share in your special day. Sounds like they and your sister fall short on emotional intelligence. They can chose a dysfunctional relationship if they want, you don’t need to be taken down in the process even. Props to your bestie. He clearly has your 6. Keep surrounding yourself with people like him and your wife; those with genuine unconditional love. Reminds me of the saying There are two kinds of family: the one you’re born with and the one you choose. Keep choosing well. Oh and Congratulations to you and your Bride! Take the hurt and pain from the years of being disappointed and apply them to your own parenting if you have kids. We learn what to do as keenly as what not to do from our parents.

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Angela Weaver
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I know the father of two daughters by different mothers refused to walk his daughter down the aisle because she wanted the stepfather who raised her to walk her halfway. When his other daughter married he refused to attend because he didn't want to offend the first one married. How selfish can you be?

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Kris Stoeffler
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

They'll make it up to you? Not possible in this situation. Sorry, your parents/sister are messed up!

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Fast Rob
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Leave it up. This is something they will NEVER be able to live down. Their hypocrisy was exposed . I certainly hope you have NO RELATIONSHIP with the sister either. She too knew exactly what she was doing...A SICK DOG...THE NERVE

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Sonja Smith
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

How old is the sister? It sounds like she deliberately tries to sabotage her brother. They need to make that girl grow up or they'll never get rid of her. And no one will have her. They are doing her a huge disservice.

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T5n
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don’t usually weigh in on post like these, but you are definitely NTA. Your sister is and your parents are. Congratulations on the wedding though.

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Annie Johnston
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NTA, but it wouldn't hurt to take down the video. Not for the parents. You'll still have it and all the pictures (which they are not in). I, too, had parents who would cancel out of commitments to/with me for my sister. Like for instance scheduling my sister's friend's wedding for the day I graduated (they did send me the money for the air tickets I'd sent them. Rah) So I have empathy. I would have loved what your best man did. And I would have ridden it for a bit. But then I'd move on. (FWIW they made the same asinine promise - to make it up. I told them - straight up and not in anger - not to bother, can't be done. Chance missed, move on.)

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beverly ledbetter
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Apparently this guy has a very good friend. Kudos to him for that alone! And that sister is impossible and her parents just indulge her. Got what they deserved!😡

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Karl Baxter
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have a younger brother (in his 40s) with a variety of manageable medical conditions and who lives with my mother paying not a penny for bed and board. He realises this and refuses to chip in at all - when I suggested he ought to do a bit more, he laughed in my face. It’s a bone of contention between us as my mother is in her 80s yet does all the shopping, cleaning and cooking for him. What is worse is that, if my mother comes to visit us, his various complaints seem to mysteriously flare up, causing her to cut her trip short and return home. She has missed many significant birthdays and events as a result and doesn’t seem to realise how he’s manipulating her. He’s basically a jealous manchild who is terrified his lifelong grift will be discovered. I have little respect left for either of them. Families eh? 🙂

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Peanut Butter the Skelepanda
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Not the AH. Its their PARENTS who weren’t at the wedding. It’s their SISTER who made everything all about her. It’s the people the OP has known for THEIR WHOLE LIFE, that didn’t come to THE MOST important day of it. They can’t “make up” missing their child’s wedding. She can’t “make up” missing her sibling’s wedding. It just can’t happen, unless they plan the OP a new wedding, but with the way the parents and sister acted in the past, it definitely looks like they all wouldn’t do that.

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Salty Wild Hair
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So they let a grown person who is a perpetual child rule their lives, ruin relationships with their other children, and are mad that someone made a tribute video to that decision? NTA. Go live your life. You deserved better, but you got what you got, so do whatever you want now.

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Susanne B
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That story about the sisters dog is the sickest excuse for staying away, that I ever heard. Drop them. They don't need you, and you don't need them.

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Eiram
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I had to tell my own father not to come to my wedding. Too many family members hated him, or were uncomfortable with the idea of him being there. Not one person agreed to have him. It was actually a relief when I was able to tell him no. He would have made it about himself anyway, and I already had to deal with my crazy narcissistic sister.

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Nathan Shipman
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

In my opinion, the original poster should have cut his parents and sister out after they missed his graduation! WHO ON EARTH MISSES THE GRADUATION OF THEIR IMMEDIATE FAMILY MEMBER! ESPECIALLY THEIR OWN OFFSPRING!

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Anna Harding
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My grandfather didn't want to go to my sister's wedding and said he and our grandmother wouldn't go. The morning of the wedding, I drove my grandmother to the wedding. Just because "Grumpy" didn't want to go, that didn't mean she had to miss out, too. These parents could have left their daughter home. It was their choice, and it sounds like they had made that choice over and over.

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Jaybird3939
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Congratulations on your marriage & NTA. The only thing I will add is that if you and your wife decide to have children, do NOT let Grandma & Grandpa anywhere near them. They'll either spoil that child and it will not turn out well, or they'll bad mouth you to the kid every chance they get. For awkward reasons, never let your kid play with any cousins they may have. Your sister doesn't sound stable.

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john kavanagh
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sorry, don't mean to offend, but your parents are idiots. It's unbelievably stupid not to invest in your son's happiness. I've never heard anything so utterly stupid in my life. And it sounds like your sister matters to them more than you do. Tell them I said it. If your sister cries, tell her (from me) to grow up and stop being so selfish. Tell your 'parents' the internet is embarrassed for you having such parents.

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Bella V
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I can't even. As a mother I would be beyond pissed if one of my daughters EVER ruined one of my sons events. And vice versa. And for NONE of them to show up? I am just flabbergasted.

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Tola Otter
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I would like to know how old is that sister. If she is 6 years older than OP, i would assume that at least she is near 30... And she can't go for her brothers wedding because of dog? Dogs are better than humans, but damn - get your proritates straight!! SHE and parents are in desperate need of therapy.

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Tricia Georgetti
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Anyone else really really wanna see this video??? I feel awful for him! His best friend sounds like an amazing guy and the best bff ever! He did this whole thing out of love for his friend bc no one should ever have to feel like s**t on their own wedding day bc of anyone else. Sounds like he finally had enough of watching his bff be let down by his shitty parents and spoiled af older sister. It also sounds like his sister has serious mental issues and should be in therapy and on meds if everything in her life is that excessively traumatizing to her where she needs her mommy and daddy with her 24/7. They have no one to blame but themselves, now the whole world knows what shitty people they really are and they wanted to keep it a secret. Cat's out of the bag now no point in taking the video down.

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NearioNL
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If your parent apparently don't care about you, break off contact. Be done with it. Rather have people around you who want to be with you. It's that simple.

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No One
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My parents favored my two older brothers and those brothers bullied me mercilessly. I was like a chew toy given to a couple of golden retrievers. The golden retrievers turned out great, the chew toy not so much. Excise these people from your life. The day I decided to cut all ties with my parents and brothers was the happiest day of my life. Never looked back.

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Annette Hachey
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You know, I completely agree with calling out the parents behavior and the fact that the sister instigated it. I would let them sweat too. That really hurts and until the really apologize, not just make it up to him (which is impossible as we can't turn back the clock) but sincerely apologize by admitting they were wrong, what they did was terribly hurtful and unforgivable, along with all the other times too. They need a hard lesson on how they are treating their son. One day he could be gone before them and then what?. Relationships are difficult to maintain in this day and age, especially in today's world. If he doesn't stand up for himself and choose his and his wife's best interests, it's going to keep happening. Abuse is abuse, don't tolerate it or your setting yourself up for more. He's better than that, so is his wife!. What will happen when grandchildren come along, will he have answer questions from his precious children as to why grandma and grampa don't love us?.

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Amanda Gibbs
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

People hate when they are put on display when they f**k up....you have done nothing wrong. FAMILY CAN BE AN AWFUL INSTITUTION and I will forever refer to them as such because they act like a f****d up cooperation. When confronted they refuse to take accountability and turn the page or pointers back to you. Don't feel bad

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D. Asher-K
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It’s sad that this happened. It would hurt a great deal & be difficult to get past. My concern is this pain becoming a thorn impacting your marriage. I agree that it was not appropriate for you to be treated this way. It would be great to hear how you’re able to restructure your life to build off the beautiful, loving blessings/memories of your new family and each moment you two are sharing. What a great foundation to focus on building for today & always. Wishing you happy times ahead & a strong friendship too.

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Jude Fire
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That's such a d**k move from the parents. Like,you miss many important things in your sons life and he puts up with it because his older sister throws tantrums whenever the spotlight won't be on her. She must have been the worst role.model ever. No wonder she hasn't gotten married ,probably doesn't have friends eithee

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Leah Landry
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It sounds like both your parents and your sister have very dysfunctional behavior. People like that don't like to be called on their BS, BUT THEY NEED TO BE...for their own good as well as yours! I would distance myself from them until they ALL make an appropriate apology to you and genuinely behave as a loving support to you. If the situation were reversed and it was your sister's wedding that YOU missed...they'd probably never let you hear the end of it! I am happy that you have a new family with your wonderful wife and that you are blessed with great friends. I've noticed when people in our own family fall short we are many times blessed with other people in our lives to make up for it. All the best!

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Raini Way
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

He needs to cut his parents and sister off. Their behavior isn't even forgivable if the sister WERE DD (she is not). If she had a legitimate disability, all they would require is a quiet room at the venue to accommodate her meltdowns. Weddings are overwhelming, so that is a reasonable accommodation. But as it turns out, the sister is just a raging narcissist who loathes her brother, and her parents encourage that vile hatred. So all three of them need to be kicked to the curb.

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Sean Francisco
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Your family doesn't have to be the family you were born into...it can often be the one you create. Friends, in-laws, and others can become the family you choose, especially after you exorcize the toxic ones from your life. Live long, be happy, and by all means...create the new family with your wife.

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Laura Ketteridge
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Oh my. It sounds like the groom needs to give his parents space to process what has happened. Perhaps around 20-40 years worth of space.

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T1Oracle
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The sister is a vulnerable narcissist and the parents are likely narcissistic too as they indulge this behavior. Stop speaking to them, they're only going to cause you pain and attempt to destroy your marriage. Let them have their misery without you.

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Liam Lowenthal
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

All I'm reading is the parents thinking "Oh we can just do whatever he'll deal with it - oh s**t he's not dealing with it?! HOW DARE HE!!!". That's... Literally all I'm reading with them. They're useless. Make sure they're not in the kids life if you guys decide to have any. They'll just constantly cancel on them too and possibly traumatize the poor things.

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skippy lenny
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sounds like you made your point so maybe it's time to be the bigger man and take it down? Plan a family vacation but don't invite mom, dad ,sister and dog then post a video of the great time you had with your new family. Then tell your parents that you would have invited them but ......you know... they will start to see that they didn't gain a daughter they lost a son.

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Pamela Blue
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

No-one mentioned the obvious. The groom DIDN'T put the video up! His friend did. When parents started carrying on about it, I would have simply said "I didn't put it up - so I can't take it down."

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Don't tread on me
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Well she must be developmentally disabled. Because what grown woman needs their mommy and daddy still well into adult hood?

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Sherry Lynn Burke
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I can't figure out why the bride's family asked them to take it down. He's NTA.

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Jen O
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What’s just as disturbing is why the wife’s family would want you to take it down??? They should be on your side. Also, I agree, no contact with your family until you & your wife have time to start building your lives together, you don’t need that kind of negativity in your life, this is a time to be happy, celebrate, build strong bonds & hopefully start a family, one that will ALWAYS be by your side! Kudos to your best friend!

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Craig Reynolds
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NTA. I can be petty, so if and when it was time for the sister (unlikely anyone would want her) to get married, I would on the day of the wedding text and say I can't make it because my best friend's cat is constipated and he is a wreck over it, then block all family for the day.

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Firstname Lastname
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Definitely a fake situation. If the hilarity of this situation revolves around that video and no one has been able to find it, then it doesn't exist. Most of these IATA situations are fake drama created just for likes, karma, and entertainment. It's like scripted reality shows.

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Miranda Daugherty
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

These shitty parents made their choice now they can live with it. Your psycho spoiled sister needs to go to the Brat Ranch

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blatherskitenoir
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What kills me is that they didn't even speak with him personally to say they couldn't come to his wedding. They left a voicemail.

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Bljurg
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Absolutely NTA! To hell with your narcissistic sister and parents, and pretty much any of the family that sides with them. You're kind enough to even take their calls after they consistently ignore you as a human being. I would have been far less gracious. Don't take the video down, they deserve it all!

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Michelle Trousil
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Listen, I love my dogs more than anything! But, I would entrust my qualified veterinarian to care for my dog and that they would call me if I needed to leave my only sister's wedding. I certainly wouldn't tell my sister or my parents and try to muddle through the wedding because I love my sister. If, God forbid, the worst were to happen, I would excuse myself early and be with my dog. I wouldn't wreck my only sibling's day and would explain everything after the honeymoon. Again, I love my dogs like they are my children. But, I am not a veterinarian and I wouldn't be able to do anything for my dog. I would be worried the entire time, but, I am not about to alienate my only sister and have my parents alienate her over something that I can't control. When my last dog died, I didn't get out of bed for 10 days. I didn't even tell my parents then and somehow managed to get to my therapist. Sometimes, you don't need to be the center of attention no matter how horribly you feel.

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Vanessa Delrue
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think, I wouldn't take down the video either, why because my mother did the same c**p on me for my wedding and even more to the point I was crying for 2hrs wile in the shop doing the fitting for my wedding dress. She manipulate my sister into the situation to the point that I got a nice heartwarming ( not) message how bad of a daughter I got and I should feel guilty and awful... And that wasn't the first time she also drop me of any of life events, like graduations etc etc... It is sad but maybe take a bit of emotional distance from your parents for some time. It is not in advantage of your system for them to treat her to all her moody spoiled demands, they will regret it later in life....

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Hobbes Dogz
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NTA. But revenge acts aren't the best way to go. I would have just sent the parents & sister the video showing them what they missed and stating they are cut out of my life. I mean, the extra drama the video caused isn't worth the energy. OP's family is so screwed up, I'd just concentrate on having a good life without them.

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Bernard Kostrzab
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

First thing first any parents that miss every big and small moment of a child's life because of a spoiled sibling is no parent. As for what I think I haven't seen the video but definitely never take it down and disown them and never speak to them again . You gained a lovely wife and a wonder family with her enjoy your happiness with them and your best man and friends.

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Rannveig Ess
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NTA. My family has been the same way with my sister and I. Sis is just a stunted, spoiled Drama queen and their codependent lives revolve around her. There is a point. It's wonderful you learned to move on, OP, and have a wonderful, healthy, loving life with your true family. Lesson from my Grandpa: No matter how much you care, some people are just a$$h0les

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Ade Bakare
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Lot of holes here. Was your sister also invited to the wedding? Why are you upset with your parents only and not her? Does she have a mental condition or developmental disability? Something is missing here.

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Susan Carter
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Hmmm, sounds like they use their daughter as an excuse not to attend functions! NO WAY would I miss my child’s wedding unless I was incapacitated. Their daughter is old enough to deal with her emotions ….. allow her to grow the He** up!

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Cat Balwanz
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wow, they can't make it because a daughter's dog is sick and she's upset. Not only the parents are just idiots parents but the sister isn't a piller either. She obviously likes to sabotage his events and she knows she can do it so she keeps doing it. Really a sick dog and she his parents can't come to a wedding. Never heard of anything is stupid in my life. I think that just shows him how his parents feel about him.

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Beatriz Mendoza
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

First of all, Congratulations on your new life; Second, your parents acted very insensitively on your most important day because of your sister; Third, kudos to your best man for his idea for the video; and finally, you're NTA; leave the video up so they can see how insensitive they were to skip your most important day because of your sister! 👍

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Beatriz Mendoza
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I agree with everyone else; NTA; your best man knew how hurt you were because of your parents' favoritism of your entitled, spoiled sister; Just because your sister's dog was sick is not a valid reason for your parents skipping the most important event of your life; don't you take down that video; let them realize how insensitive it was to prioritize your sister's issue over your wedding; Congratulations on your marriage; you have two blessings; your new life with your wife and a wonderful friend that took the sting out of the hurt your parents caused by skipping your most important day! Shame on them!

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Antonia
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think the sister suffers from Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD). NPD’s are manipulative, selfish, attention seeking and lack empathy for others (like psychopaths). NPD’s can mimic (act like they have it) empathy but they don’t feel it at all. They, the parents, should see a therapist as well as the daughter.

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Rukkia
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You are not the AH. Your friend, maybe a little, but only for the right reasons. You deserve better.

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Gijs van Gaans
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You got hurt on multiple occasions. And while you made clear you didn't want them missing because of some 'crisis' of your sister, your parents did exactly that. Now, you are choosing for yourself and setting boundaries by letting them share in the pain. If they would be mindful of your needs and have enough empathy expected within a family they would make amends quickly. The fact that the are not doing that, might tell you the haven't learned anthing. I am afraid give in and taking the video offline would not make them change their ways. Allthoug a bold and mean move, NTA

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Candice Cook
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Please, do yourself a favor and cut all three of them off. Do not waste even one more single solitary nanosecond allowing these so-called "family members" to make you feel like you aren't just as important and your feelings aren't valid. You are absolutely NOT the ah here. How incredibly childish and pathetic of your sister to pull a stunt like that on your wedding day and your parents SHOULD be ashamed of themselves for being a part of it! I would literally never take the video down so long as we both shall live I will not, but you are clearly a nicer person than I. I understand that it might seem petty to your in-laws, but it feels pretty justified to me to call them out over something that they cannot now nor ever undo or "make up for". It's literally impossible! The damage is done. You knew it would happen and it did. I hope you can at least take some consolation in the fact that your best man and your wife are two people that truly care about you. That's your real family.

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Lily
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Oh dearest, you are not an AH, your family is. Your sister is a Drama Queen Narcissist and isn't happy unless ALL the attention is on her, not you. It is utterly magnificent you have such a good friend would do something so amazing for you. Nothing, and I mean not a damn thing can make up for the parents who minimize their other child's important life events. I'm so sorry for you, and so very glad you have had a wonderful friend to support you, and a wife that clearly understands.

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Daycare Attendant Sun
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Streisand Effect. Know all of Twitter knows about your parents, and I'm living for it.

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BluEyedSeoulite
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

How can this be real? Like srsly? 6 years older? This is a grown a*s woman, an ADULT and they are all acting like this? Nah, leave it up, cut them off. Try it for a month and if you are happier, extend it.

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DeAnn Trevathan
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

OMG This is my sister and I to a tee. I am so sorry for this groom. Unfortunately it will never change. I wouldn't take the video down if he thinks it serves a purpose. The one thing he needs to do is set boundaries with his family. Don't involve them in any major events anymore. He has a new family and t hff at is who he should concentrate on.

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Misty Souders
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NTA. Bro. DO NOT take down that video. YOUR parents got cought playing FAVORITES with YOUR sister. AND sister got caught PUBLICLY acting like a SPOILED. SELFISH BRAT who FLAT OUT refuses to GROW UP. YEA. Their going to be EMBARRASSED. Their ANTICS are on FULL DISPLAY for EVERYONE and EVERYBODY to see. A TRUE parent DOES NOT miss their son or daughters wedding . YOUR sister is NOT ONLY ENTITLED Their IS SOMETHING ELSE going on with her mentally.. THAT BEING said YOUR now married. Wash YOUR hands of ALL THREE OF THEM and go on down the road with your WONDERFUL WIFE

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Houseof No
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Flip the script. At the next special moment in your life, might be time to leave these problematic family members off your guest list. Birth of a grandchild? Send photos instead of an invite. You're NTA but it might be time to stop enabling this behavior.

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Ron H.
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I not only would leave the video up, I would post it on every media site I could find! 😅

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kassandra walsh lopez
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Like how do you even make up for missing a wedding, that's kinda hard to make up for

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Josh Raymer
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sounds like the parents are straight up douchebags he should have kicked to the curb long ago. Family is not that important.

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Kimberly Quinn
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What I don't understand is why both sides of the family want him to take the video down.

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Maisey Myles
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'd tell your parents that you are going to sell the video and the story to such and such magazine or news site, so you can make enough money to pay for your sister's therapy, because she def needs it.

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Kelly Graham
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Hah! You're a bit of a d**k, but you're sure not the a*****e. I think the whole thing is hysterical. Your best man is amazing to do that for you and your new wife sounds like a keeper. I'm so proud of all of you. Your Father is embarrassed, probably humiliated, but he is going to go along with what his wife/your mother and his daughter/your sister have always expected him to do... be on their side. Try to find a way to reconcile with your Dad. Block your sister (and Mom?) from your account for the time being, so she'll stop watching the video over and over and using it as fodder. You can always re-friend them after your sister finally pulls her head out of her a*s. They're getting exactly the attention that they wanted. Your sister sounds like a c*nt, and your Mom is holding on to her for dear life, because She likes the attention, too. It sounds like your Sister and Mom need to find a new hobby. I wish the best for you and your Wife.

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m.w.
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Nah... The dad is in the damage control mode. As soon as the danger is removed, everything will conveniently fall in the old comfortable rut again.

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CD goodin
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sis needs to get a life and stop trying to ruin yours and your parents need to stop enabling her to Do so. It's odd when she knows you have important things going on she cause drama and needs attention that is definitely on purpose. The parents should recognize that and be like oh you will be fine until we get back she would stop the drama then

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NushNush
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The best man is a keeper! But I wonder where he got the voicemail though. Also I can bet that the OP was a surprise baby. It's the only possible explanation I've got to their parents' dreadful behavior

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Jennifer Lee
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Leave the video up forever. Tell your parents you *might* consider taking it down only after they show you proof that they have gone through ten sessions with a family therapist, together with your sister.

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m.w.
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I would keep it until they make it up to him for all the missed milestones. But I'm afraid the universe will die first.

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Joshua Shamblin
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

He's training his parents the same way you train a dog that shits on the carpet. Sticking their effing nose in that steamy turd to the point sinks in. After reading this im glad my cat knows how to c**p in the box 😂

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Coffeemama05
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1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Congrats to you and your wife!! I’m sorry your parents missed such a huge event. But I don’t disagree with what your friend did and I actually think it’s really smart. I hope things are getting better for you after this. I’d like an update

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giulia monteguti benelli
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12 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I just hope he finds affection with his in laws. His parents are a lost cause, sister is jealous and malicious

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James McLeod
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If they were ever going to acknowledge the fact that the sister is NOT really an only child it should have been for their son's wedding. After all the promises his mom kept making cuz he knew they didn't give a s**t about him and wouldn't show up they still decided that promises to their son aren't worth the air they're spoken with. I'll be the 1st person to say that if you don't think of your pets as part of the family then you probably shouldn't have pets, but it's the sister's dog, not the parents, and in the end you disappointed your son just like you have his entire life on the most important day of his life over a dog that was sick. Not a dog that had to be put down even, just a dog that was sick. Someone else's dog. That probably either wasn't really sick or was made sick on purpose just to avoid having her parents acknowledge their other child and her having to spend a moment not being in the spotlight.

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Krysta Pandoo
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I love the best man. This was just perfect. What a cow of a sister and d**k parents - get rid of them all .

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CHRISTY SMITH
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

He also shouldn’t allow his parents around their grandchildren since they’ve been completely incapable to be there anytime before that.

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GLO SAINT-AIME
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NTA, YOUR parents and sister are, don't take the video down at all, good job best friend

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Julie Ham
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The sister was likely always emotional, and the parents overprotected her because she was a girl instead of helping her learn to deal with her feelings. Instead, she learned how to manipulate her parents. Seriously, they didn't notice she had a crisis whenever her brother had a special moment? Now, they've estranged their son and are stuck with her Royal Neediness. If they're smart and choose to learn from this trainwreck, they'll work on their relationship with their son; and celebrate future milestones with him and his family. Otherwise, their nursing home years will be handled by their entitled princess. Yikes!

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Julie Ham
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Thinking the sister had always been emotional, and the parents tolerated it and overprotected her. Instead of teaching her how to deal with her feelings. Sister also learned to manipulate hey parents to get her way, and their attention.

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Bron
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

How, in this scenario, does the OP even entertain the idea that he may be the AH?

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C Randolph
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Probably because he didn't make the situation any better. All he did was add fuel to the fire. How did that help?

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JuliaV
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I agree, the parents deserve what they got. However, at some point you need to be the bigger person or risk a feud that will not only hurt them, but will consume you and make you equally unhappy and perhaps more so; especially as you give up the high ground. You can't change others, only yourself. Don't waste your time or energies on negatives.

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Skeeter
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have an older sister who should have been an only child. We are only 18 months apart. She is the most spiteful, vindictive person I have ever known. Sweet as sugar candy to everyone else, but she will pour her hatred all over me at the drop of a hat. It is devastating.

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M3era
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I feel like the parents made excuses for the sister or at least put the blame on her because they did not want to attend anything of their son's either.

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natalie cohen
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think both the older sister and the parents need a psych evaluation. I’m wondering is “sis” has problems her brother doesn’t know about, and how old are Mom and Dad ? Could they be becoming too old to cope with her ? I would use this situation to get some straight answers.

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arielzeppelin zeppelin
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm disgusted in how many entitled brats think this grown baby is in the right. It hurts, I get it. My husband hurts, his parents refused to see our newborn at hospital but did for his sister twice. Because they wanted to party. My own mom wouldn't stay even an hour when my baby was in NICU. It's upsetting but really...grow up. It's not all about you. As a parent of a disabled child it's terrible to think this woman has no grip on the reality of that after being a sibling. Sad if she developed narcissism from it...but was lucky enough to afford a WEDDING in the 1st place and is deluded to think that's so important. What a contrast to the groom that let his disabled sis dress like the bride. You know this b**** wouldn't stand for that. I hope she is not tested with her own special needs child. God save any of her children if she's diagnosably narcissistic. Seems at least very close to.

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Vivi
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Stop allowing your family to bring you down. Obviously there are some serious problems with the family dynamics here. They got what has been a long time coming and they all should be ashamed of themselves! They've missed other milestones for you why did you expect this to be different? Go and enjoy your new life!

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jennifer crabtree
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So nta, I'm not sure death could keep me from my kids wedding. Truly shame on your parents and sister for this abhorrent behavior.

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Aynsley Brown
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

His sister sucks all the oxygen out of the room. She is a narcissist and his parents enable her.

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Leslie Agostino
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Keep the video up. Go NC on parents until they cut the cord with your Grown sister. Congratulations on your wedding

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JoAnn Quigley
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So sorry it happened on your wedding. I think your response was somewhat necessary. Leaving your message on was a bit too long- BUT- clearly they needed you to set healthy boundaries. It’s time they felt some of the pain they caused you. Now, stick to them. Let them know it is no longer acceptable to keep hitting YOU over the head! The sooner you keep it going the sooner maybe your whole family can be a real loving family!! Do not give in! Trust me, setting up this plan now will save you much grief or total estrangement. Being a grown up has its perks! You get to be active in the betterment of you family as they realize YOU ARE RIGHT!!

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Joe Jung
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If the parents advise on how they'd make up for missing their sons wedding... I might then be reluctant to accept but might have... This seems like there's no way they will or want to.

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Ivanka van der Reest
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The sister sounds to me like she's on the spectrum, in a way high functioning enough to pay rent, cook her own food, and care for a dog, maybe even have a job, but unable to deal with anything out of the ordinary or overwhelming, leading to tantrums. The fact that she wasn't invited also hints that her brother knows she wouldn't be able to cope with such a overwhelming event. Another fact that gives it away is that the girl clearly has no support system beyond her parents, so she's probably socially disabled. Otherwise she could have called a friend to support her with her sick dog. The biggest problem is that the parents don't deal with this properly. They are there for her when she needs them because she has no one else to fall back on. Yet the son gets neglected, even on his wedding day. Parents don't have eternal life. If they don't get the right help for their daughter soon to have others to lean on, it's going to end in disaster for everyone.

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Julia Purdy
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is my story exactly, but in different contexts... it has taken me 73 years to figure it out...Something else is goingvon in this family...that accounts for the sister blocking the poster's participation in the family, which will bectraced to the parents and some cause for shame on their part... they seem to be always "making it up" to the wrong child... while she holds the reins...there is a Big Kie somewhere...possibly a skeleton in the closet or under the bed....

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Maceo Moore
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Who cares! I never understood people who need to have there parents or friends to come to things, or get upset because “They never came to one of my games!” I just don’t get the guilt trip people put other people through. I just never cared, if I’m doing something it’s because I want to do it, it doesn’t matter to me who comes.

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CF RN
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NTA. Sounds like your parents’ coddling behavior towards your sister’s meltdowns supported her feeling of entitlement and manipulative behavior over the years whenever she wanted her way. Your parents are the enablers that will allow her behavior to continue at your expense. It appears you have the self-confidence to know that you are better off limiting any contact with them at all and allowing you to become a stronger person rather than a bitter one. Keep the video up. Keep them at a distance, but keep your best man forever.

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Tom Smith
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Take it down and post it on the sister’s social media page.

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Aura Espinosa
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I would no longer have a relationship with my parents or sister. Sad.NTA

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Amber Jennings
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Leave it up! Sometimes parents need to see what they are doing to their children, when they clearly don’t care and are not listening to what really matters to you and what is important. Sounds like the older sister is a real piece of work!! BRAT.. GTFU They needed to be called out! Congratulations to you and your wife❤️

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JACS CLEANING LLC
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So your best friend is the best for a reason and he definitely rocks, your sister is disgusting and apparently a tragic mental patient and your parents are pathetic to this point and possibly need to seek help for themselves as well as your sister. As for the video I’d say the audacity of them to ask you to remove it is like your wedding day happening again and them not showing up again over and over and over. The most important part is you can’t pick your family yet you can always decide how to deal with them and I’d most definitely keep that video up so every time they wonder why they never met their grandchildren they can reflect on their poor parenting skills. The hell you and your wife have children you parents baby set are they going to forget to feed the baby because that heffer had another melt down 🤦🏻 Nope your better off without them and sometimes God will bless you as he did with others to love and to love you properly and honestly it sounds like you deserve nothing less 💙

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April Starling
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Firstly you have great people in your life that are tired of you being hurt by those supposed to love you. Secondly you need to have a come to Jesus meeting with your parents. Keep it simple. Tell them you reap what you sow. You sow nothing you reap nothing. They sow moments they reap memories. They so favoritism they reap distance. My kids asked me not to invite Gma anymore cause Aunt Christina was more important. I felt like I failed my kids cause I didn’t keep them from feeling what I felt from my mom. I made excuses for her absence. When I had the come to Jesus meeting it didn’t bode to well after a few years my dad came around. My kids and I got a a year with him before cancer took him. But he sowed moments in that year and they have memories. It’s never to late to be told when you I feel. I pray your parents see the light. If not we’ll the Apple can fall far from the tree when the tree is on a hill. Sounds like you already rolled down hill to a healthier tree.

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April Starling
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

From an unseen daughter: we are raised to treat people the way we want to be treated. To respect our elders and follow the 10 commandments and lastly our actions have consequences. Or every action has a reaction. Hell even parents that don’t approve show up, dressed in black to show their disapproval. But they still show up!!! Your best friend stood up for you and put them on blast. Them being upset means they didn’t see anything wrong. Save your future kids from toxic grandparents. Trust me mine missed 3 births and I still tried. Good luck praying 4 you and your wife and your best friend rocks!!! Invite them to things but tell them if you show you show. I already know something will come up. But you reap what you sow. If you don’t sow moments you won’t reap memories. Especially with your future grandchildren. My kids no longer ask me to invite Gma cuz Aunt Christina is more important. Gpa got a year with them before he passed and they got memories.

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Cali Fornia
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It will never feel the same anymore. My parents didn't come to my graduation because they thought I was lying. Next morning they woke up to my diploma on thr kitchen table.

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Lunar
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NTA. What kind of parents missed their children's big days? AH parents.

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Reid McClanahan
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NTA, but please rethink taking down the video if it ends up hurting you and your new family. I have had similar experiences however not as brutal as that one with my own sister. I learned that you focus on the people In Your life that try to be a part of it and give less focus (or power) to those that don’t try. You will be happier.

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Tricia Neville
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"You get to publicly profess your love for your other half" - Doesn't that mean that you outwardly claim to love someone, but really that's not the case?

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Amanda Gibbs
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My husband's family never attended our wedding purposely because I was never the 1 they chose to marry their son i wasn't good enough. To today, they try to intrude and make me uncomfortable. My family were living overseas and wasn't able to attain a visa for the occasion.

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Annette Hachey
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That's their problem, not yours. Sad but don't allow their intusions, speak to your husband, he needs to stand up for you. Sorry this happened. Terrible and they sound like controlling, ignorant people.

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Colleen Vincent
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I feel so sorry for you that this has happened. The hurt it has caused. Give them all a big miss. Unforgivable.

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Brit Saunders
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sounds to me like she is struggling with her mental health. Mental illness unfortunately effects the people around you too. It is unfortunate and unfair, but not worthy of revenge. People with mental health struggles already hate themselves enough. Sorry the parents ditched. That's incredibly unfair.

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Pam Salberg Woebke
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I guess I am different. I would, as an adult, taken the video down. But I would also set healthy boundaries up afterwards so it doesn’t cause a problem in the future with my wife or future children.

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Patricia Mills
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I feel your pain. I had parents and a sister exactly like yours. Both parents are gone now, but sister is still around. I have not had any communication with her since 2007. Don’t miss her drama one bit.

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Sara George
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I am saving this page and I will be Praying for him,his wife and there Families. Thank you.

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Candice Blanton
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My grandparents did this all the time. His older sister was the only one they cared about. He wasn't planned and they always let him know he wasn't wanted. My dad is very family oriented and always cooked fried fish to get us all together. My aunt, granny, and papa always complained about coming to our house. It's not like we lived a nine mile hike away or anything. It took em 10 minutes tops

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Kota Ball
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So I agree on the NTA part. However, just because someone isn't diagnosed with something doesn't mean they don't have it. There's a lot of work to get a psychiatric diagnosis and the sister may have either been kept from going to therapy or other relevant services or has not yet been able to recognize that she needs to. Getting help when you are sick in any way in most places is a privilege. Either way, still not being handled the right way by OP's parents

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kassandra walsh lopez
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

How do you even make up for missing a wedding? Especially when it wasn't even for a good reason, that is kinda hard to make up for.

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Candy Berg
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

There are times when family isn’t family. Just because your parents were responsible for you being born does not mean you owe them anything. Cut your losses. From. Now on, invite but don’t expect them to anything. If they show treat them as any other guest. That is what they’ve been reduced to. Do not allow them the place of honor in your lives. I had to do this and it was definitely for my sanity. I saw over and over how right I was. I still sent cards for mothers and Father’s Day, none of the sappy oh you gave me everything ones. But I kept in mind what place I held in their life. Keep in mind who has been there for you when you’ve needed them. Do not let others guilt you into anything. Actions do speak louder than words.

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Mora Chilis
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have an older sister like this too. many missed milestones and celebrations so we don't upset your sister.

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Kevin Garren
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sorta torn, it is kind of an a-hole reaction... but his parents were the a-holes in the first place so I feel like sometimes it's ok to react in an a-hole way, sometimes those people deserve it. He can get married more than once, and have multiple weddings if they wanted... but graduation is legitimately a once in a lifetime thing and they missed that too. I'd have stopped inviting them and the sister to things long ago. Never introduce them to the girlfriend or anything, just randomly talk to them one day and drop some "wife"s into the conversation and then explain to them how I didn't mean enough to them, so I figured I'd stop letting them into my life.

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Dizzie D
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That is actually very sad. Having parents that pander to the whims of his sister for years is bad enough but to actually do that for his own wedding is appalling. The vast majority of loving parents would only have the excuse of personal hospitalisation/ accidents or major emergency to miss their kids wedding. I would leave the video up and for quite a few years I would also cancel last minute on them, especially the sister, see how they like being treated like that. I wouldn't go to the sisters future wedding out of revenge. I'm glad he has a good wife and best friend because his parents and sister are selfish idiots.

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Ian Brock
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I can understand the favoritism dealt with my sister in that regard , either mom or dad favors the other sibling and the other has no back bone. An goes along with it. You sister sounds like a suck on society love how you handled it. F em it's your life you don't need them to be happy

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Vera Abelsen
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NTA. OP might like to consider taking the video down anyway. Digging trenches is rarely conductive to conflict resolution. But clearly the parents need to realise the severity of the situation and that eventually their blatant favoritism may result in No Contact. Nobody is content on feeding on scraps forever, and conditional love is exhausting. Even if the situation with the OP's sister was awful and somebody needed to stay with her for whatever reason, they were two people. They could have split up and had 1 of them attend the wedding at the very least.

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Judith Lawlor
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"Eventually" their blatant favoritism? Sounds like it happens with regularity and if a wedding isn't the time to show up, I don't know what is?! Take a break from them and get your married life off to a wonderful beginning without the drama. Best wishes for much happiness. ♥️

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C Randolph
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

ESH. Sister needs to grow up. Parents should not be catering to the sister. Best man should have never thought of the concept of that video. Wife should have never given permission to do the video. When the husband found out about it (the OP) he should have taken the video down. What was accomplished by shaming the parents? Two wrongs don't make a right. 100 wrongs damn sure don't make a right! If they just had to make the video it could have been delivered to the groom's family for their private viewing if they needed to make a point. Again, esh!

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similarly
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The sister may have mental problems. Considering her "needs" always cause the parents to abandon the brother to pay attention to her, I wouldn't put it past her to make the dog sick in order to get them to stay home. Maybe have her watched for other incidents of Munchausen's-by-proxy.

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Debbie Champion
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

YNTA but the post needs to come down. It has been up long enough for everyone who should see it to have seen it. The point has been made and they know that they are horrific. In the long run, they will not care. Everyone is the hero of their own story. Leaving the post up allows these narcissistic, selfish family members to continue to play victims. This will quickly turn into a narrative where you will be blamed, and labeled the tormentor. The focus will turn away from what they did wrong, and will focus on what YOU did to tear the family apart. Take it down and take away their power. But take it down only once you have accepted that they are not your family. Your family is that best man, your new wife and those would support you no matter what. You can be cordial to these people if you want. You are the lucky one-you got out of that house with a soul. I hope you can reach a place where their actions are not relevant to your life, and that you can peacefully coexist. ❤️

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Eliza
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

In my mind this probably deserves to be on r/pettyrevenge more than r/aita.

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Scott Cendali
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NTA, just a pussy. You're a dude. Who cares about weddings? That's for the girls anyhow, brah

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Shylah Harley
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11 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sexist attitudes like this are the reason men have trouble properly expressing emotions and r@pe women instead. If you want to “man up” you have to grow up first.

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Sylvia Cortez
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"Once in a lifetime thing" says he. Doubtful. Only a small percentage of marriages go the distance. It is highly likely another wedding is in his future. The parents will have an opportunity to attend then. He needs to quit crying about it. Cut the apron strings already. The most important person was there and she's all that mattered.

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Shylah Harley
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11 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Who cares? They basically abandoned him. They deserve shame. He has every right to be upset.

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I want there to be some reason that maybe OP isn't aware of. Does it excuse the emotional neglect OP has experienced? No. Do parents hide things from their children because they don't want them to worry? Yes. Their sister might have a more serious problem that the parents are bad at making excuses for while tending to it.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Maybe parents do sometimes hide serious things like one sibling's mental disorder from the other when they're children, but there's really no need to keep something like that a secret when they're both full-grown adults. If something was wrong with sis then OP would've certainly been able to handle knowing about it by now. Plus he's not blind; he likely would've figured out that his parents were trying to keep this huge bombshell from him once he got older.

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NTA... ok I get the comments on NC. However, never speaking to your parents again is horrible! If you really hate them then ok. It doesn't sound like you don't love your parents and you've given them multiple passes on bad behavior & your sister is a pain in the backside. I blame this on your sister and parents. They behave badly and they know they did. Even if I wasn't speaking to my son and I had a sick dog (and my dog is human btw) I would either have somebody come dogsit or take it to a vet to get it the care that it needs. I don't care how much $ it would've been. I would not have missed his wedding. My suggestion is give it some time. I wouldn't reach out to them, they know where you are they know how to get a hold of you. The balls in their court(s). They need to prove to you that they got the message and are ready for a big plate of crow! Leave the video up it doesn't matter. It will quickly fade into oblivion. Maybe invite them to a BBQ in 2023, test them, see if they deliver

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John Dough
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I would like to rephrase something you said to see if you still think this... "However, never speaking to your abusers again is horrible!" Family should never be allowed to be abusive just because they are family.

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Yes you are. Your parents may have favoured your sister over you, is that a good enough reason to hurt them? They still raised and took care of you. They missed your life events, alright, what did you do for their life events? Think about what you have done for them before trying to hurt them more. I don't support what they did, but you ignoring them is enough for that, making them look terrible online is just too far

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yikes you are brainwashed into believing parents must be respected, no matter how terrible they are. Glad you're happy with yours....

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