Woman Wants To Adopt A Starved And Terrified Dog, But Her Boyfriend’s Response Will Break Your Heart
Unfortunately, stories about abandoned and unwanted dogs have become daily news, with heartbreaking reports showing up more often than we’d like. All we can hope for is a happy ending for every single pup out there that’s been through hell and heartbreak. Imgur user ilikeduckies recently shared quite a positive story about finding a dog however the happy ending is still yet to come.
Yesterday, the woman shared a story about how she and her boyfriend found a lost pup in the middle of nowhere. They spent hours trying to befriend the poor pooch. “She was very scared and very skinny, and she didn’t have any tags” the woman recalled. After a while, they managed to befriend the pup which they named Blueberry (or shortly, Blue) and she quickly turned into the sweetest dog ever. But the battle wasn’t over yet as the woman reported that her boyfriend’s opinion differed greatly from hers. Scroll down to read the full story and find out what happened!
Yesterday, a woman shared a story how she and boyfriend found an abandoned pup
“First she laid her head in my lap and started dozing off” the woman recalled
“She has such a pretty face” she said
“Halfway through the drive, she lodged her head between my seat and the transmission tunnel/center console and fell asleep”
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Adopt her. You’ll sort out the tricky bits. Just like having a baby at the wrong time. Once she lives with you, you take it day by day and make it work. Not keeping her will very probably mean regretting it forever. And it’s not natural. Life means getting attached and overcoming difficulties, not ticking off items of a neatly planned bucket list. Enjoy the ride that’s offered you by living in tune with what is happening to you!
Ditto ...Once you've had a dog in your life, there is no life without dogs...he'll come around, tomorrow never comes....live today...
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There is a very simple solution to your problem. Looks like you need a new boyfriend ;-)
Destiny is stronger than that douchebag boyfriend. Blue will make her the happiest, theres no doubt about that. Shes been waiting to have a pup all her life. Keep Blue and put the boyfriend in adoption.
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There will never be a "right time" to do anything. Step up and step over. It will work out...one way or another...and it will be fine.
Exactly. The dog you'll have its whole life. The b.f. is likely temporary.
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I would see if the shelter does fostering. If it does, you could foster her. That way you can either a) give her a trial run and allow your boyfriend to bond with her more closely or b) take care of her until she finds a good home that would make you feel better about leaving her. Also, when fostering often the shelter pays for certain amounts of care. You can always "foster fail" and adopt her eventually if your boyfriend comes around. I don't advise adopting her without him knowing, just because a dog IS a huge commitment and that's not fair to do to someone who you're serious about being with, but this could be a good in-between that would work out better for you guys. I hope things work out for all three of you.
Here's what you do: First, you ditch the dog. You don't need it in your life. Secondly, you adopt Blue and the two of you will be very happy together!
How do you convince your boyfriend? Don't bother. It's easier to ask for forgiveness than permission.
I disagree. If she adopts the dog behind his back, he will resent her, and trust is the most important thing in a relationship. They need to be in agreement on this one, like mature adults.
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Years ago I was in the same position as you are now. For quite some time my husband had promised that we could get a dog when we have a large yard. Well we got the yard and no dog. I begged, I pleaded I tried to negotiate. Then I met Ruby. She was just a puppy then. A border collie mix with a heart of gold and a home that she had to get out of because of all who knows why. So one day I told my daughter I'm going on a trip you can come if you want to but I'm not telling you where I'm going. So we got into the car and we drove to a relatively nearby town and picked up Ruby. She came with a collar a leash some toys and a couple of dishes for her water and food. From the first second on she was a natural. Wise, friendly, funny, and loving. We drove home and my daughter said to me you take the dog I'll get the toys. My husband was standing in the open garage. She immediately ran up to him put her paws on his chest and started licking his face when he bent down. From then on she was his dog. Yes she loved me and she loved my daughter and she loved my son. But she was definitely his dog. Three moves later, two homes with even smaller yards, Ruby was still with us. she finally passed away at age 16. The Lost was immeasurable. A few years later my husband also passed away. My heart was broken because I loved him so much. my consolation is I have both his and Ruby's ashes sitting in urns side-by- side, just as they always were
Now you made my cry in my coffee...it's a wonderful stroy.
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definitely, adopt her. do it. things will be better soon with your boyfriend and you two will see tha this new family member is everything you didn't knew you needed....
ADOPT HER!! Dogs need companions, and so do humans! Plus, petting a dog relieves stress! You have a perfect snuggly companion who will understand you, plus she's homeless!
I am appalled at the post that recommend for her to ditch her bf...Some are said in a jokey way, but some sound serious. What? The bloke sound very decent and level-headed. He's the head, she's the heart, which is often the case in a good relationship. They need to discuss it at length, consider all their options, calculate their finances, visualise their future life schedule etc...With a clear picture ahead, it'll reassure him, and she'll get her wish. But if the picture is really, really grey, I'm sure she'll come round to it in the end that the best is to hope for Blue to find a better, happy ever-after family. Who says they can't keep in touch with the new owners anyway? I'm sure they would appreciate a dog sitter every so often ;)
There is no decency in him being annoyed at her heartache. His annoyance speaks of empathy issues.
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I agree with cwa92464. There will never be a "right time" to do anything. Before those five days runs up, do your research. Ask those neighbors you mentioned that have Newfoundlands and Great Danes. Ask them what they did to make it work, and if they regret it. At the same time, though, I think you need to have a full conversation with your boyfriend. Talk to him about his past and the dogs he had. Something obviously happened to make him "eventually" want a dog, and also make up excuses/legitimate reasons. But don't psycho-analyze too much. Just try to understand his perspective.
I'll just share that I got a dog I couldn't afford. That dog got sick. For years I put bills on credit. Yes, I had insurance, but it wasn't enough. Now I have thousands of dollars in debt that I can't pay because I would never deny my best friend care. If you can afford insurance and preventative care, get the dog. (Check to make sure the insurance doesn't do periodic reviews of your claims and reduce coverage - some don't, mine did). If you can't, don't. Make the decision based on what you can afford, and your time that your willing to commit. This will be your dog. You also might want to look into couple therapy ... you guys need to work on communication and conflict resolution. Good luck :-)
It's great you learned the right lesson from your experience. It's like how people have children they can't afford and then demand help and if you don't give it you're an a*****e. This guy insisting on a yard for a big dog, and money to pay for it's medical bills is far from unreasonable.
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How about this - It's not particularly an easy decision and Its not about convincing your boyfriend, its about coming to a decision together in a calm and reasonable manner. Posting about your boyfriends opinion in a completely biased way and asking the online community (who are notoriously aggressive) to give credence to your point is kind of devious, no? I'm sure you could come to a conclusion if you just engaged in civil discourse with your boyfriend. I think we have to stop relying on the internet to fix all of our problems and disputes. In any case, I hope the doggo is ok!
Well, as somone who's had a few dogs, I'm with the boyfriend on this one. I do agree you can keep a big dog in an apartment, but it would need plenty of excercise (3-4 hrs a day). This is a huge and exspensive commitment, you need to be absolutely sure you will be able to take care of it for the next 10+ years. If you can't take care of possible vet bills without taking out a credit, don't do it.
I had a 98lb German Shepherd (since he was 10-months old) and for 8 of his 12 years we lived in rural areas with lots of outdoor space. He loved being outdoors with us (and very active when he was) but when we were inside (a motorhome) even for the better part of several days he was just as happy hanging out there with us too. When he was 8, we had to move into an apartment. He was still as healthy and active as when he was a pup. We made sure he had at least 2 shorter walks and one longer one every day and he seemed just as happy with apartment life--so long as he had his people around. Just always keep in mind, especially in a small home, your dog's entire life is basically under your control and responsibility. With some exceptions (certain breeds) most dogs can be happy and healthy in an apartment if you always ensure he gets the attention, outdoor activity and exercise he deserves (and needs) regardless how inconvenient it can get sometimes.
You are amazing for rescuing her, but if you don't have the money for vet bills and don't have the time to properly care for her, it would be very irresponsible of you to adopted her. Maybe you could foster her, but if there is a person or family that is better equipped to give her the life she deserves then don't deny her that.
Sounds like your boyfriend has common sense. All of his reasons are valid. Yours, not so much. Having a "high credit limit" is a stupid reason to justify something.
How dare he want to be responsible! It's so disgusting how he is concerned that you may not be able to properly care for this dog!
Considering he is the one that has had dogs and she's dismissing all his valid concerns as "not legitimate", I don't think she's ready for a dog or that she realises what responsibility she'll be taking on. She just wants the dog because she's never had one.
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Take the boyfriend to the shelter for adoption he is worse than the dog ! You can always find a new boyfriend but good dogs are hard to find, tell him to find himself a dog and ditch him now !!!!!
Please adopt her. She has already bonded and shown she trusts you. She appears to be a beautiful Boxer or Bull Mastiff mix. Pet insurance is very affordable and well worth it!
Adopt her!!!! Costs occur, but its usually not anything that can't be budgeted for. Its so worth it. Dogs bring so much joy. Mine have helped me get through a lot of rough patches. Adopt her and give her a hug for me.
Your BF is a douche. He should acknowledge that you are super upset about not having this dog. He should support your dream of getting a dog. Instead he is irritated with you because you are unhappy with his decision. Nah nah nah. All the signs are pointing that this is your dog. A totally untrusting nervous dog that you managed to gain the trust of so much so that she felt comfortable to sit in your lap and cuddle. A dog that cried as you left her. You already have a deep relationship with that dog and that dog has a deep relationship with you. This dog was meant for you in this time and place in your life.
I have 3 dogs, a Chow about 15 years old, a Husky about 2 years old, and a German Shepherd about 4 years old. The German Shepherd I'm only babysitting for a few months for a friend. I live in a 1-bedroom apartment on the second floor. I work 40 hours a week, have to carry my Chow up amd down the stairs 3 times a day because she's so old and has bad hips. I got her when she was just a year old from a shelter and had her ever since. Though the German Shepherd isn't mine, I did buy her, name her, and train her for the friend so I'm pretty attached anyways. I've had my husky since she was 6 weeks old. In all the time I've had these dogs I've never run into any of the problems your boyfriend has mentioned and I did 10 years in the Air Force and had to travel a lot. I've been in a few relationships where I was given the "me or the dog" ultimatum and I've never regretted the choices I've made. I'd take a bullet for my dogs and have always been able to make things work. What I'm getting at is if there's a will there's a way. The dog is already in your heart so there isn't much of a way around it. The hardest part about having a dog is getting them out of your heart.
To those who say ditch the boyfriend... What if this post had been made by the guy while talking about adopting a child while the girlfriend does the reasoning? He sounds like a level headed guy, went through the trouble with her of finding a shelter. What she can do is persuade some of the friends she mentioned to adopt the puppy. She can visit her and bring the dog home sometimes.
If this isn't the time to adopt a dog I don't think every will be. Explain to your boyfriend that you feel very strongly about this and it is breaking your heart not to adopt her. If she has not been spade check to see if there are any low cost spay/neuter programs in your community. Does the shelter offer fostering programs? Maybe you could foster to see she is a fit. You have found a dog that is meant for you... you found her for a reason. I wish you luck in persuading you boyfriend.
I've had dogs in apartments, it's a pain but if you love the dog than walking her 3 times a day isn't going to kill anyone and it's great exercise.
Go adopt the dog and this is what it will be. IF the boyfriend wants to continue being a butt plug then replace him with a roommate and have your dog. Sometimes you just have to do things because if you wait for the right time then you'll never do anything
I agree with so many of the other posters here. Just. Go. Get. Her. Yourself. Boyfriend can like it or lump it. If he turns dickish about it, then he's not the right guy for you. Period.
Do you ever feel like a plastic bag drifting through the wind scaring a smol doggo
His arguments are good, but so are yours. You don't need a yard, but you do need to get your dog out of the apartment three times a day. And that can be damn tedious if you live in the 5th floor without an elevator (like I do). Breeds do come with certain temperaments, but pits are usually very loyal and docile. It really takes some serious f*cking around to make a pit aggressive. You already love the dog, so give her a try. BUT make sure it really is a decent fit, long term. You need to love your dog enough to find a better home for her, if she can't live well in yours. A good friend of mine is just finding out how brutal that is.
Oh, PLEASE ADOPT HER. My boyfriend and I live in an apartment in NYC with TWO dogs, both originally strays, and neither of them small. They will never have a house or a yard, and they don't care. She's already picked you. Go get her.
You are an adult. Are you able to be financially independent without the support of your boyfriend? Yes? Go get the dog and dump the boyfriend. No? Either give up on the dog or convince the boyfriend of the benefits of having her as part of your home. The third option is get rid of the boyfriend, get the dog and find a roommate to help with the finances. Options one and three are definitely my strongest suggestions.
Maybe it's not a best time for you to have a dog but it's probably the best time for her to be adopted. Just keep her!
Adopt her. This sort of thing only comes around once in a lifetime. This dog sounds so incredible, sweet and gentle, YOU NEED THIS DOG IN YOUR LIFE. Who cares about the vetbills and such, she'll make the money up to you by being your life companion. Adopt the dog. You won't regret it.
"Who cares about the vetbills and such, she'll make the money up to you by being your life companion." ummmmmm......that's not how life works. You can't tell your cell phone provider "I can't pay you this month, but my dog has a really soft belly so that makes up for it".
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She looks like a sweet Boxer or Bull Mastiff mix. Please adopt her. She has already bonded to you and trusts you. Pet insurance is very affordable and well worth it.
Adopt NOW, things will work out. If you don't, you'll regret it for the rest of your life ... and won't be with apathetic boyfriend for very long either. The bond between humans and animals can be as strong as having children (it takes an animal-lover to understand that). I empathize with your reaction to leaving your new best friend in that dingy cage; I probably would have reacted the same way. JUST DO IT ! (P.S. I believe in guardian angels ... that was doggo's angel doing their job. You were chosen.)
Definitely adopt her. The SO will adjust. Or he won't; but definitely get her.
Adopt the dog! If you have to give up the bf do so. Dogs are way more loyal and loving anyway. Literally millions of dogs world wide live in apartments. Love, care, food and daily walks make any dogs life wonderful. You gained her trust in a very short time. She will love you as long as she lives. Save Blueberry!
My husband didn't want me to adopt a chiweenie as an Emotional Support Animal at first. But we've had him for 3 months now with no issues. He's the sweetest good boy ever!
I can definitely see his point... you're just acting like a toddler finding a stray and whining to her parents to keep it, but not understanding the repercussions
This guy is right. He had dogs before and understands the responsibilities and she is like a small kid, i want and this is all. If she wants a pet at home she should get a cat that dont need to much attention to his personality.
Sister, take it from someone a bit older and hopefully wiser: Men will come and go in your life. That is a fact. Some will be good guys, some bad. Some kind, some unkind. Conversely, The love you get from an animal is unconditional and forever. Read: See ya' later boyfriend.
I THINK YOU SHOULD TOTALLY ADOPT HER!!!! Think of it this way, dogs will love you NO MATTER WHAT. Humans.... Not so much... Dogs are like therapists on all fours. Blueberry would love and care for you until her last breath. Especially since you saved her and gave her another BETTER chance at life. So I say forget your boyfriend's b******t reasonings and ADOPT THAT AMAZING DOG!! 💙
Adopt her. Pets who have been rescued are forever eternal. We have done that to many dogs. If there are behavior issues, they can usually be trained with dog school. There are pet insurance companies that aren't that much but will save you a lot. You'll figure the rest out. We've had 2 cats (I know, slightly different than dogs when looking for places to live) and I know it limits us as to where we can live, but we could never be without our fur babies.
Truthfully I don't think I'd be with a guy that denied me a dog like this if I felt so strongly about her as you so obviously did. Sometimes there's a connection between animal and human that can't be denied. I have it with my 14 year old Pitbull I have now. Oh and tell your Boyfriend he doesn't know s**t about Pitbulls, they are AMAZING dogs, and Blueberry may be 1/4 Pit if that much.
Adopt her Girl ! Eventually she will grow on him and he wont let her go haha. had the same happen with my Tabby Cat "Tiger" and my mum 10 years ago. now she cant fall asleep without him by her side. Dont give up !
So did she or not? Good grief, don't leave us hanging? I have 3 rescue/stray dogs, the vet bills are bad sometimes but I can manage on limited income. They've kept me company through the loss of my husband recently and they are all worth it even when they are buttheads.
Why dont you just adopt her&then show your boyfreind how easy it is&how much fuller life is with a dog? Just go for it, do it&dont procrastinate
My wise grandmother always said, 'If a dog comes to you, it's your dog!'. Many years ago my son and I found a puppy whose owner had dumped her down the road from our house. She was so hungry she squeezed through the 6" gap between our house and the backyard fence post, or so I thought. Many years later my son told me he had coaxed her with puppy bones. My former said absolutely not. This magnificent dog lived well over 16 years! We sadly had to help her go 10 years ago. There was not one day I regretted saving this beautiful dog. Blue came to you!
I will probably get some hate for this, but I'll say it anyway. You both have valid emotions/reasons/ideas for wanting/not wanting a dog at this point. Your boyfriend has had dogs as pets so he has the experience of owning and caring for one, and you don't. He understands what is needed to properly caring for a dog, and you don't. He has a very valid reason for wanting to know what breed or mix this dog is, not because he is wanting to be hateful, but because he wants to protect you both. You have stated you don't have a yard or your own home yet. My suggestion would be to listen to your boyfriend, as difficult as that may be at this time. You both did a lovely thing in rescuing her, but don't use emotion as a weapon to take on something that may be beyond your means or financial abilities at this point.
Adopt your fur baby! If SO just can't deal with the extra love in your life, then he doesn't deserve either of you
Adopt. The. Dog. Dogs love unconditionally. People don't. End of story. The 'tricky bits' will work out. Love always deserves a chance.
DUMP THE BOYFRIEND AND ADOPT THE DOG. She needs you and will love you so so much. I have had friends who have had dogs in apartments before and they were just fine. One had a German Shepherd in a 1 bedroom apartment and she was fine. She just slept in the living room and got her exercise in a nearby dog park and this friend Sarah worked full time as a check-out girl in the local supermarket meaning she worked long hours and for little money and she has had Sasha the dog for 8 years now and she is a really happy healthy dog. Do what YOU want to do NOT what your boyfriend wants. You will only spend the rest of life wondering what had happened to her if you don't.
Just adopt her. Without any thinking because you will always find and excuse. You'll figure it out later. All those reasons that your boyfried said really are not relevant and nothing can compare to saving this dogs life. Trust me, just do it. I asure you it will be the best choice you made, you'll se. I cant describe you what amount of love both of you will recive from that dog so dont miss that.
Adopt her,,,this stigma that pitbulls are bad is nuisance they are the sweetest little things, try to convince your boyfriend the dog is so sweet
men come and go. dogs love you unconditionally forever! if your boyfriend is so insensitive to your love for this dog, who you've obviously already bonded with, then he's not the one for you. you want to be with someone who supports you, not brings you down. adopt blueberry! you need each other!
I agree with everything except for the part pit bull thing. Dogs can be a huge commitment and he brought up valid concerns. You could just tell him you need to adopt this dog. It sounds like so far you are just asking him if its OK (I could have totally misread that). You are ready to take the financial hit, your apartment complex allows animals, which also means there is probably a dog park nearby, you are active people, and you already have a connection with Blue. Go for it!! I have a cat with issues now otherwise I'd love to get a dog. I would much prefer to wait for a yard but that isn't happening anytime soon.
Anybody who's had a strong story with an animal will tell you that they didn't get to wait for the "right moment" to adopt ; most of the times they were not even prepared or thinking about it when it happened. But they instantly knew it was the animal who had chosen them and what they had to tod from then on was obvious, they felt it deep inside. Go get that dog otherwise you'll regret it fro the rest of your life. That moment you spent with her in the car, she put her trust in you, and after all the bad things she might have endured because of human beings, that trust is not something you can ignore. It's too important for both you and her. Your boyfriend should understand and accept it if he is the right person for you actually.
Actually, some people put stories like this just to get attention to themselves.
Load More Replies... Follow your heart and get her. Consider dumping the bf. Anyone who gets annoyed at your sadness for loving something is not someone 4u.
Yes, she should've dumped the dude, unless he's the one supporting her financially. Some women do that.
Load More Replies... Ive had two large dogs in an apartment. In some ways I feel like they got more exercise in the apartment than in the home I live in now. It was required to walk them everyday for the bathroom and such. Now when I let them in my backyard they just lay around :p
You may have to choose between the dog and the boyfriend. The dog will love you forever, the boyfriend, well, maybe not. The dog doesn't care how you look, if you brushed your teeth, if you fart, if you cook or eat cheese and crackers. It just loves you, no strings attached. However, a dog will also poop and pee on your carpet (at least once), will probably chew up some of your furniture, and stink up the place (dogs just have a dog smell). It's your choice. I pick the dog.
Adopt! If she was vicious, you would have found out right away. She was sweet once she got less scared.
Lol what a naïve statement. Dogs are often unpredictable and many people I know (including my mum) found out the hard way
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You have to adopt her. You two are meant for each other, maybe she will never gain trust with anybody else. Blue belongs to you.
We have a 19kg dog and live in a normal apartment. If you can walk her out two or three times per day there's no problem. She will surely feel better in an apartment rather than in a kennel. Dogs need love and I think you have so much love to give her. Leave your boyfriend, he doesn't understand.
Adopt her!! If you keep waiting for a bigger house, for better incomes, for better schedules... you will never do what you really wanna do... That pupuuy is already in love with you and you love her too... Just do it,!
Adopt her ASAP you'll regret if forever and wonder what if if you don't. Breed doesn't mean bad and she obviously has grown to trust you and has attached herself to you as well.
Listen- as someone who considers her dogs family, go get your goddamn pupper. Don't tell him if necessary. Go get her and then surprise him. Nothing he can do then. Obviously this is last resort and not something I'd usually advocate people doing, but I've seen how people can bond with dogs. She's your pupper. Get her home to you.
Sorry I will be telling you about myself but my story might help you. Last year, my bf and I got married, had a nice day... but it all ended when my Mom had a heart attack whilst dancing during the reception. She passed, leaving me completely shattered. I was off work for nearly a year, having to deal with grief, PTSD and depression. At some point though, I felt I needed to foster a cat for a nearby no-kill shelter. My husband, who told me many times before that he didnt want any animal at home, said yes straight away. Why ? Because he knew I am good with pets, he knew I needed to bond with a live being to have a reason to stay alive, and he just compromised. Now, we are the proud parents of a beautiful black cat with FIV, named Cali. To me, that’s what love is about. You can’t choose what will make you sad, but you can choose what makes you happy. And if adopting Blue is what makes you happy, you should do it...
Dump your a*****e boyfriend and figure out how to have that dog in your life!
Tell him to take that anti-pitbull garbage and shove it, pits are some of the sweetest dogs you could ever hope to have.
Did she end up adopting the dog in the end?? I really hope this story had a happy ending, this woman and dog were meant to be together, destiny bought them together such a touching story!!
My husband was the same, we live in a small apartment and gave me all the reasons why we should not adopt...I insisted and he finally accepted half hardheartedly. Fast forward 3 years later he and our dog are in so much love that he hugs me just to make him jealous. I am the third wheel lol. You can never go wrong with dogs...
Adopt the dog.There is no such thing as a bad dog breed, only bad owners, and we KNOW she's had one of those, poor girl.
speaking from experience here; take a step back and listen to what your S.O. is saying from a non emotional point. He has legit concerns (not about the breed deal but anyway) 2nd, take a look at your relationship.... is this experience going to make you have hateful feelings towards him forever? Have there been other things in the past that you wanted to do and thought is was a good idea, then he came in a put a kibosh to it? 3rd, not sure if you believe or not, but did God put that dog in your life for a reason? These are all just opinions, we don't know your life... in the end it's ultimately your decision
Dump the dog and adopt the pup. I may be biased but I'd always take an animal over a man any day!
You shouldn't let other people get in your way of what YOU want to do in life...honestly, if I were you I would DUMP him, get the dog, find a new boyfriend hat loves and is willing to take care of the dog, and live happily ever after with blueberry!!
Think about it ... you found each other, she found someone she could trust, you found a true unconditional love. Sounds like you were meant for each other. There is no replacement for this kind of love.
Your heart is in the right place and I empathise but please be honest with yourself about how you will make it work currently with no garden, insufficient funds for vet bills and leaving a dog with no known history alone for up to 5 hours a day. THEN ask yourself what will happen to the little girl if you break up with b/f and she's left for up to 8 hours a day with even less money for emergencies. As an abandoned dog, she might have particular needs, regardless all dogs need their pack, isolating them while you're out at work is not right. You might need to wait until you're in your 30s or 40s to get a dog - I did but I'm so glad I waited till the time was right for the dogs as well as my need for them. Please continue to do what's best for her rather than you.
My dog was just supposed to be an overnight stay... It's been a year and a half....
Any updates on this? Honestly I know what your going through. I have been in this exact situation and to be honest if I didn't have my pup the last few years life would have been hell. I say adopt her. if he leaves you over this of all things then homeboy is a jackass. there you go two problems cured at once. Last time I checked you were a grown a*s women.
a-c are legitimate concerns (d and e are rubbish). Take them on board, and if you really feel you can overcome them, adopt. The needs of the dog have to come first, not your own.
If you know you can provide a better home for this dog than anyone else, adopt the dog.
please adopt her...I understand your boyfriend...but you didn't found her..she found you both..nothing in life is easy and simple...but if there's love, nothing else matters...give you and her and he a chance to be very f****ing happy together..plase, adopt her
please, adopte her..I can undestand your boyfriend, having dogs his entire life and seeing all of them going in their time...BUT, what means is that this time of this beatiful creature will be fullfilled with your company (you and your boyfriend), your love, your friendship... Nothing in life that matters is simple, but love is...You did'nt found her...she found you both..please, adopt her
adopt her. dump your boy friend you will regret being with him in the future. he is an a*s
I heard it's better to have a dog in an appartment but that you walk him around a lot, than a dog living in a house and staying in a garden and not going out on a walk very often. Go for it and I'm sure that Blue is gonna be a great dog, rescued animals are usually so grateful that they turned out to be the best life partners ever
Adopt her!! You'll regret it forever if you don't. There is never a right time to do anything and if you wait for the right time you'll never get a dog! Your boyfriend might just end up falling in love with her too. If he doesn't then he's not a dog lover and you can do without him.
I think you should put your boyfriend for adoption and keep the dog. Just kidding (I'm not. Am I ?), pitbulls behave the way we treat them and dogs NEVER are agressive, unless they're nuts, which is very rare. She obviously isn't, regarding her behaviour with you. I think you you should tell him what you told us, and for the money issue, just make your counts (I don't know if it's the right way to say it in english) to convince him. Furthermore, if she's young, there's very little chances (just see a vet' to checkup on her) that she's gonna have health issues (for now), so you have enough time to find a full-time job to earn more money. And obviously, if your lifestyle is active, there's no problem with living in a flat with a dog, as long as you take care of it. If unfortunately she feels alone, just adopt another pet. I hope (if you see this message), that it helped a little to convince your bloody stubborn/moron boyfriend.
You are 28 years old, and need this dog. I would suggest you adopt her anyway. You can have a dog in the apartment and you might be able to squeeze out pet insurance for any unforseen bills.
Me and my husband took a dog from a shelter. Poor boy had no history, we knew completely nothing about him, we lived in one-room flat and I was not workind these days. He was scared of everythin. Literally everything: shadows, balls, snacks, paper towels, stairs and noises. Sure it wasn't easy and we had some rough time, but... He is our fluffy sunshine, I cannot image my life without him! And honestly, Your boyfriend arguments are some lame excuses...
Tell your boyfriend he is a big horses a*s and a cheap bastard and dump him Adopt the dog and enjoy your life with Blue....
You need to decide what kind of person you want to have an intimate relationship with. Do you really want this boyfriend, if he is this type of person?
By whose standards? They are in a relationship and not a parent/child one.
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I wish we could have a follow up to this story...did she keep Blue? I hope so.
I agree, foster her for now and who knows maybe she'll be a "foster fail" and live with you guys! Good luck and keep us posted!
God sent her into your life for a reason! She might end up saving both of your lives one day! Everything happens for a reason!
PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE give us an update in what you decided to do. GOOD LUCK. ☺☺♥♥
Is there a way to find out what happened to this dog? Was she adopted?
Many interesting views, all my cats and dogs are, and were rescues and I was blessed. Little girl Blue seems sweet and she trusts you which says a lot. Why wait ???
I think she's yours already and I agree with Sissi - stuff happens - not always on schedule - and you work them out and she looks like and acts like she's one of those stuffs. I thnk her face and eyes are wonderul and dogs are the best. It will work out fine - besides boyfriends come and go - dogs are forever!! (-;
I got my dog by fostering her at first. We had her initially for 2 weeks but she's now a permanent addition. My boy was reluctant at first for very similar reasons but he loves her so much ❤️
OMG, how could this story end without a solution?! I'm sitting here, crying my eyes out!!! You need to adopt this baby girl...forget the boyfriend!!
You've got to adopt her. There's never a right time, you always end up looking back and wishing you'd just gone for it.
Here's how to decide: Lock the boyfriend and the dog in the closet for a couple of hours. When you open the door, notice which one is really, REALLY glad to see you. That's the one you keep.
Lmao! Dude, you're evil! So, how is she supposed to get her man in the closet? Dog will go in there, sure. The man, uh, maybe open the door, push him in and.... close it REALLY fast??!! Lmao!! See, you're evil, you got me thinking about how to get a man in a closet. Bad!!
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Honestly, He is your boyfriend not your boss. If he is that controlling now... he will only be worse in a few years. Get the dog! Ditch the boyfriend.
He is controlling because he doesn't have the same opinion as her? Good lord, you must be a nightmare to deal with. He had extremely valid concerns. You don't have to agree they are insurmountable but to call him controlling is just awful given what he did for the dog and how rational he is.
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Adopt her. We lived in a three room apartment with three dogs and two cats, both working full time but he office hours and I shift + I also had a horse i visited every day. She's already your dog and she trusted you and committed, opened her heart and is now on death row instead. Today I'm single, have three adopted big dogs, work full time, have three cats and three horses, 16 chickens, a big house and a big garden. The love they give me everyday is priceless. It wasn't my ex partners choice to leave, I made it for him and I'm doing great.
Adopt Blue. I know it's a very difficult decision to make specially that you love your boyfriend too much. If your by loves you, he will love Blue. This is the accurate time to measure up how much your boyfriend loves you. Isn't it that if we've
* Isn't it that if we love someone, we also love who they love? So it's just fitting to adopt Blue. You will both do yourselves a great favour, Dear. Goodluck, Honey.
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Adopt adopt adopt her!!!! The hubby will def fall in love with her also in the end and all theee of you will be happy in the long run!
Please, please adopt her. There's a reason you crossed paths. It was meant to be.
To the people that are keeping it real and has been down-voted. Do not worry, this won't kill you in any way. These guys are doing it because they can't stand when somebody has a different opinion than theirs. I have been even labeled as a troll because somebody didn't liked my thoughts. I deeply believe that if you're won't be able to keep a pet, you shouldn't be giving them a false hope of a home. I hope the vet won't put Blue to sleep.
Good god how much does your ego need to be fed? And it’s like my thoughts not liked my thoughts.
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:" not only immaturity but also selfishness." He's immature to have valid reasons like money, work and no yard? Or is he immature and selfish because he doesn't let her have her way? Please look up the definition of hypocrisy in the dictionary and then figure out why people hate modern feminists so much.
Load More Replies... People have had happy dogs in worse conditions.
Load More Replies... Adopt her. You’ll sort out the tricky bits. Just like having a baby at the wrong time. Once she lives with you, you take it day by day and make it work. Not keeping her will very probably mean regretting it forever. And it’s not natural. Life means getting attached and overcoming difficulties, not ticking off items of a neatly planned bucket list. Enjoy the ride that’s offered you by living in tune with what is happening to you!
Ditto ...Once you've had a dog in your life, there is no life without dogs...he'll come around, tomorrow never comes....live today...
Load More Replies... There is a very simple solution to your problem. Looks like you need a new boyfriend ;-)
Destiny is stronger than that douchebag boyfriend. Blue will make her the happiest, theres no doubt about that. Shes been waiting to have a pup all her life. Keep Blue and put the boyfriend in adoption.
Load More Replies... There will never be a "right time" to do anything. Step up and step over. It will work out...one way or another...and it will be fine.
Exactly. The dog you'll have its whole life. The b.f. is likely temporary.
Load More Replies... I would see if the shelter does fostering. If it does, you could foster her. That way you can either a) give her a trial run and allow your boyfriend to bond with her more closely or b) take care of her until she finds a good home that would make you feel better about leaving her. Also, when fostering often the shelter pays for certain amounts of care. You can always "foster fail" and adopt her eventually if your boyfriend comes around. I don't advise adopting her without him knowing, just because a dog IS a huge commitment and that's not fair to do to someone who you're serious about being with, but this could be a good in-between that would work out better for you guys. I hope things work out for all three of you.
Here's what you do: First, you ditch the dog. You don't need it in your life. Secondly, you adopt Blue and the two of you will be very happy together!
How do you convince your boyfriend? Don't bother. It's easier to ask for forgiveness than permission.
I disagree. If she adopts the dog behind his back, he will resent her, and trust is the most important thing in a relationship. They need to be in agreement on this one, like mature adults.
Load More Replies... Years ago I was in the same position as you are now. For quite some time my husband had promised that we could get a dog when we have a large yard. Well we got the yard and no dog. I begged, I pleaded I tried to negotiate. Then I met Ruby. She was just a puppy then. A border collie mix with a heart of gold and a home that she had to get out of because of all who knows why. So one day I told my daughter I'm going on a trip you can come if you want to but I'm not telling you where I'm going. So we got into the car and we drove to a relatively nearby town and picked up Ruby. She came with a collar a leash some toys and a couple of dishes for her water and food. From the first second on she was a natural. Wise, friendly, funny, and loving. We drove home and my daughter said to me you take the dog I'll get the toys. My husband was standing in the open garage. She immediately ran up to him put her paws on his chest and started licking his face when he bent down. From then on she was his dog. Yes she loved me and she loved my daughter and she loved my son. But she was definitely his dog. Three moves later, two homes with even smaller yards, Ruby was still with us. she finally passed away at age 16. The Lost was immeasurable. A few years later my husband also passed away. My heart was broken because I loved him so much. my consolation is I have both his and Ruby's ashes sitting in urns side-by- side, just as they always were
Now you made my cry in my coffee...it's a wonderful stroy.
Load More Replies... definitely, adopt her. do it. things will be better soon with your boyfriend and you two will see tha this new family member is everything you didn't knew you needed....
ADOPT HER!! Dogs need companions, and so do humans! Plus, petting a dog relieves stress! You have a perfect snuggly companion who will understand you, plus she's homeless!
I am appalled at the post that recommend for her to ditch her bf...Some are said in a jokey way, but some sound serious. What? The bloke sound very decent and level-headed. He's the head, she's the heart, which is often the case in a good relationship. They need to discuss it at length, consider all their options, calculate their finances, visualise their future life schedule etc...With a clear picture ahead, it'll reassure him, and she'll get her wish. But if the picture is really, really grey, I'm sure she'll come round to it in the end that the best is to hope for Blue to find a better, happy ever-after family. Who says they can't keep in touch with the new owners anyway? I'm sure they would appreciate a dog sitter every so often ;)
There is no decency in him being annoyed at her heartache. His annoyance speaks of empathy issues.
Load More Replies... I agree with cwa92464. There will never be a "right time" to do anything. Before those five days runs up, do your research. Ask those neighbors you mentioned that have Newfoundlands and Great Danes. Ask them what they did to make it work, and if they regret it. At the same time, though, I think you need to have a full conversation with your boyfriend. Talk to him about his past and the dogs he had. Something obviously happened to make him "eventually" want a dog, and also make up excuses/legitimate reasons. But don't psycho-analyze too much. Just try to understand his perspective.
I'll just share that I got a dog I couldn't afford. That dog got sick. For years I put bills on credit. Yes, I had insurance, but it wasn't enough. Now I have thousands of dollars in debt that I can't pay because I would never deny my best friend care. If you can afford insurance and preventative care, get the dog. (Check to make sure the insurance doesn't do periodic reviews of your claims and reduce coverage - some don't, mine did). If you can't, don't. Make the decision based on what you can afford, and your time that your willing to commit. This will be your dog. You also might want to look into couple therapy ... you guys need to work on communication and conflict resolution. Good luck :-)
It's great you learned the right lesson from your experience. It's like how people have children they can't afford and then demand help and if you don't give it you're an a*****e. This guy insisting on a yard for a big dog, and money to pay for it's medical bills is far from unreasonable.
Load More Replies... How about this - It's not particularly an easy decision and Its not about convincing your boyfriend, its about coming to a decision together in a calm and reasonable manner. Posting about your boyfriends opinion in a completely biased way and asking the online community (who are notoriously aggressive) to give credence to your point is kind of devious, no? I'm sure you could come to a conclusion if you just engaged in civil discourse with your boyfriend. I think we have to stop relying on the internet to fix all of our problems and disputes. In any case, I hope the doggo is ok!
Well, as somone who's had a few dogs, I'm with the boyfriend on this one. I do agree you can keep a big dog in an apartment, but it would need plenty of excercise (3-4 hrs a day). This is a huge and exspensive commitment, you need to be absolutely sure you will be able to take care of it for the next 10+ years. If you can't take care of possible vet bills without taking out a credit, don't do it.
I had a 98lb German Shepherd (since he was 10-months old) and for 8 of his 12 years we lived in rural areas with lots of outdoor space. He loved being outdoors with us (and very active when he was) but when we were inside (a motorhome) even for the better part of several days he was just as happy hanging out there with us too. When he was 8, we had to move into an apartment. He was still as healthy and active as when he was a pup. We made sure he had at least 2 shorter walks and one longer one every day and he seemed just as happy with apartment life--so long as he had his people around. Just always keep in mind, especially in a small home, your dog's entire life is basically under your control and responsibility. With some exceptions (certain breeds) most dogs can be happy and healthy in an apartment if you always ensure he gets the attention, outdoor activity and exercise he deserves (and needs) regardless how inconvenient it can get sometimes.
You are amazing for rescuing her, but if you don't have the money for vet bills and don't have the time to properly care for her, it would be very irresponsible of you to adopted her. Maybe you could foster her, but if there is a person or family that is better equipped to give her the life she deserves then don't deny her that.
Sounds like your boyfriend has common sense. All of his reasons are valid. Yours, not so much. Having a "high credit limit" is a stupid reason to justify something.
How dare he want to be responsible! It's so disgusting how he is concerned that you may not be able to properly care for this dog!
Considering he is the one that has had dogs and she's dismissing all his valid concerns as "not legitimate", I don't think she's ready for a dog or that she realises what responsibility she'll be taking on. She just wants the dog because she's never had one.
Load More Replies... Take the boyfriend to the shelter for adoption he is worse than the dog ! You can always find a new boyfriend but good dogs are hard to find, tell him to find himself a dog and ditch him now !!!!!
Please adopt her. She has already bonded and shown she trusts you. She appears to be a beautiful Boxer or Bull Mastiff mix. Pet insurance is very affordable and well worth it!
Adopt her!!!! Costs occur, but its usually not anything that can't be budgeted for. Its so worth it. Dogs bring so much joy. Mine have helped me get through a lot of rough patches. Adopt her and give her a hug for me.
Your BF is a douche. He should acknowledge that you are super upset about not having this dog. He should support your dream of getting a dog. Instead he is irritated with you because you are unhappy with his decision. Nah nah nah. All the signs are pointing that this is your dog. A totally untrusting nervous dog that you managed to gain the trust of so much so that she felt comfortable to sit in your lap and cuddle. A dog that cried as you left her. You already have a deep relationship with that dog and that dog has a deep relationship with you. This dog was meant for you in this time and place in your life.
I have 3 dogs, a Chow about 15 years old, a Husky about 2 years old, and a German Shepherd about 4 years old. The German Shepherd I'm only babysitting for a few months for a friend. I live in a 1-bedroom apartment on the second floor. I work 40 hours a week, have to carry my Chow up amd down the stairs 3 times a day because she's so old and has bad hips. I got her when she was just a year old from a shelter and had her ever since. Though the German Shepherd isn't mine, I did buy her, name her, and train her for the friend so I'm pretty attached anyways. I've had my husky since she was 6 weeks old. In all the time I've had these dogs I've never run into any of the problems your boyfriend has mentioned and I did 10 years in the Air Force and had to travel a lot. I've been in a few relationships where I was given the "me or the dog" ultimatum and I've never regretted the choices I've made. I'd take a bullet for my dogs and have always been able to make things work. What I'm getting at is if there's a will there's a way. The dog is already in your heart so there isn't much of a way around it. The hardest part about having a dog is getting them out of your heart.
To those who say ditch the boyfriend... What if this post had been made by the guy while talking about adopting a child while the girlfriend does the reasoning? He sounds like a level headed guy, went through the trouble with her of finding a shelter. What she can do is persuade some of the friends she mentioned to adopt the puppy. She can visit her and bring the dog home sometimes.
If this isn't the time to adopt a dog I don't think every will be. Explain to your boyfriend that you feel very strongly about this and it is breaking your heart not to adopt her. If she has not been spade check to see if there are any low cost spay/neuter programs in your community. Does the shelter offer fostering programs? Maybe you could foster to see she is a fit. You have found a dog that is meant for you... you found her for a reason. I wish you luck in persuading you boyfriend.
I've had dogs in apartments, it's a pain but if you love the dog than walking her 3 times a day isn't going to kill anyone and it's great exercise.
Go adopt the dog and this is what it will be. IF the boyfriend wants to continue being a butt plug then replace him with a roommate and have your dog. Sometimes you just have to do things because if you wait for the right time then you'll never do anything
I agree with so many of the other posters here. Just. Go. Get. Her. Yourself. Boyfriend can like it or lump it. If he turns dickish about it, then he's not the right guy for you. Period.
Do you ever feel like a plastic bag drifting through the wind scaring a smol doggo
His arguments are good, but so are yours. You don't need a yard, but you do need to get your dog out of the apartment three times a day. And that can be damn tedious if you live in the 5th floor without an elevator (like I do). Breeds do come with certain temperaments, but pits are usually very loyal and docile. It really takes some serious f*cking around to make a pit aggressive. You already love the dog, so give her a try. BUT make sure it really is a decent fit, long term. You need to love your dog enough to find a better home for her, if she can't live well in yours. A good friend of mine is just finding out how brutal that is.
Oh, PLEASE ADOPT HER. My boyfriend and I live in an apartment in NYC with TWO dogs, both originally strays, and neither of them small. They will never have a house or a yard, and they don't care. She's already picked you. Go get her.
You are an adult. Are you able to be financially independent without the support of your boyfriend? Yes? Go get the dog and dump the boyfriend. No? Either give up on the dog or convince the boyfriend of the benefits of having her as part of your home. The third option is get rid of the boyfriend, get the dog and find a roommate to help with the finances. Options one and three are definitely my strongest suggestions.
Maybe it's not a best time for you to have a dog but it's probably the best time for her to be adopted. Just keep her!
Adopt her. This sort of thing only comes around once in a lifetime. This dog sounds so incredible, sweet and gentle, YOU NEED THIS DOG IN YOUR LIFE. Who cares about the vetbills and such, she'll make the money up to you by being your life companion. Adopt the dog. You won't regret it.
"Who cares about the vetbills and such, she'll make the money up to you by being your life companion." ummmmmm......that's not how life works. You can't tell your cell phone provider "I can't pay you this month, but my dog has a really soft belly so that makes up for it".
Load More Replies... She looks like a sweet Boxer or Bull Mastiff mix. Please adopt her. She has already bonded to you and trusts you. Pet insurance is very affordable and well worth it.
Adopt NOW, things will work out. If you don't, you'll regret it for the rest of your life ... and won't be with apathetic boyfriend for very long either. The bond between humans and animals can be as strong as having children (it takes an animal-lover to understand that). I empathize with your reaction to leaving your new best friend in that dingy cage; I probably would have reacted the same way. JUST DO IT ! (P.S. I believe in guardian angels ... that was doggo's angel doing their job. You were chosen.)
Definitely adopt her. The SO will adjust. Or he won't; but definitely get her.
Adopt the dog! If you have to give up the bf do so. Dogs are way more loyal and loving anyway. Literally millions of dogs world wide live in apartments. Love, care, food and daily walks make any dogs life wonderful. You gained her trust in a very short time. She will love you as long as she lives. Save Blueberry!
My husband didn't want me to adopt a chiweenie as an Emotional Support Animal at first. But we've had him for 3 months now with no issues. He's the sweetest good boy ever!
I can definitely see his point... you're just acting like a toddler finding a stray and whining to her parents to keep it, but not understanding the repercussions
This guy is right. He had dogs before and understands the responsibilities and she is like a small kid, i want and this is all. If she wants a pet at home she should get a cat that dont need to much attention to his personality.
Sister, take it from someone a bit older and hopefully wiser: Men will come and go in your life. That is a fact. Some will be good guys, some bad. Some kind, some unkind. Conversely, The love you get from an animal is unconditional and forever. Read: See ya' later boyfriend.
I THINK YOU SHOULD TOTALLY ADOPT HER!!!! Think of it this way, dogs will love you NO MATTER WHAT. Humans.... Not so much... Dogs are like therapists on all fours. Blueberry would love and care for you until her last breath. Especially since you saved her and gave her another BETTER chance at life. So I say forget your boyfriend's b******t reasonings and ADOPT THAT AMAZING DOG!! 💙
Adopt her. Pets who have been rescued are forever eternal. We have done that to many dogs. If there are behavior issues, they can usually be trained with dog school. There are pet insurance companies that aren't that much but will save you a lot. You'll figure the rest out. We've had 2 cats (I know, slightly different than dogs when looking for places to live) and I know it limits us as to where we can live, but we could never be without our fur babies.
Truthfully I don't think I'd be with a guy that denied me a dog like this if I felt so strongly about her as you so obviously did. Sometimes there's a connection between animal and human that can't be denied. I have it with my 14 year old Pitbull I have now. Oh and tell your Boyfriend he doesn't know s**t about Pitbulls, they are AMAZING dogs, and Blueberry may be 1/4 Pit if that much.
Adopt her Girl ! Eventually she will grow on him and he wont let her go haha. had the same happen with my Tabby Cat "Tiger" and my mum 10 years ago. now she cant fall asleep without him by her side. Dont give up !
So did she or not? Good grief, don't leave us hanging? I have 3 rescue/stray dogs, the vet bills are bad sometimes but I can manage on limited income. They've kept me company through the loss of my husband recently and they are all worth it even when they are buttheads.
Why dont you just adopt her&then show your boyfreind how easy it is&how much fuller life is with a dog? Just go for it, do it&dont procrastinate
My wise grandmother always said, 'If a dog comes to you, it's your dog!'. Many years ago my son and I found a puppy whose owner had dumped her down the road from our house. She was so hungry she squeezed through the 6" gap between our house and the backyard fence post, or so I thought. Many years later my son told me he had coaxed her with puppy bones. My former said absolutely not. This magnificent dog lived well over 16 years! We sadly had to help her go 10 years ago. There was not one day I regretted saving this beautiful dog. Blue came to you!
I will probably get some hate for this, but I'll say it anyway. You both have valid emotions/reasons/ideas for wanting/not wanting a dog at this point. Your boyfriend has had dogs as pets so he has the experience of owning and caring for one, and you don't. He understands what is needed to properly caring for a dog, and you don't. He has a very valid reason for wanting to know what breed or mix this dog is, not because he is wanting to be hateful, but because he wants to protect you both. You have stated you don't have a yard or your own home yet. My suggestion would be to listen to your boyfriend, as difficult as that may be at this time. You both did a lovely thing in rescuing her, but don't use emotion as a weapon to take on something that may be beyond your means or financial abilities at this point.
Adopt your fur baby! If SO just can't deal with the extra love in your life, then he doesn't deserve either of you
Adopt. The. Dog. Dogs love unconditionally. People don't. End of story. The 'tricky bits' will work out. Love always deserves a chance.
DUMP THE BOYFRIEND AND ADOPT THE DOG. She needs you and will love you so so much. I have had friends who have had dogs in apartments before and they were just fine. One had a German Shepherd in a 1 bedroom apartment and she was fine. She just slept in the living room and got her exercise in a nearby dog park and this friend Sarah worked full time as a check-out girl in the local supermarket meaning she worked long hours and for little money and she has had Sasha the dog for 8 years now and she is a really happy healthy dog. Do what YOU want to do NOT what your boyfriend wants. You will only spend the rest of life wondering what had happened to her if you don't.
Just adopt her. Without any thinking because you will always find and excuse. You'll figure it out later. All those reasons that your boyfried said really are not relevant and nothing can compare to saving this dogs life. Trust me, just do it. I asure you it will be the best choice you made, you'll se. I cant describe you what amount of love both of you will recive from that dog so dont miss that.
Adopt her,,,this stigma that pitbulls are bad is nuisance they are the sweetest little things, try to convince your boyfriend the dog is so sweet
men come and go. dogs love you unconditionally forever! if your boyfriend is so insensitive to your love for this dog, who you've obviously already bonded with, then he's not the one for you. you want to be with someone who supports you, not brings you down. adopt blueberry! you need each other!
I agree with everything except for the part pit bull thing. Dogs can be a huge commitment and he brought up valid concerns. You could just tell him you need to adopt this dog. It sounds like so far you are just asking him if its OK (I could have totally misread that). You are ready to take the financial hit, your apartment complex allows animals, which also means there is probably a dog park nearby, you are active people, and you already have a connection with Blue. Go for it!! I have a cat with issues now otherwise I'd love to get a dog. I would much prefer to wait for a yard but that isn't happening anytime soon.
Anybody who's had a strong story with an animal will tell you that they didn't get to wait for the "right moment" to adopt ; most of the times they were not even prepared or thinking about it when it happened. But they instantly knew it was the animal who had chosen them and what they had to tod from then on was obvious, they felt it deep inside. Go get that dog otherwise you'll regret it fro the rest of your life. That moment you spent with her in the car, she put her trust in you, and after all the bad things she might have endured because of human beings, that trust is not something you can ignore. It's too important for both you and her. Your boyfriend should understand and accept it if he is the right person for you actually.
Actually, some people put stories like this just to get attention to themselves.
Load More Replies... Follow your heart and get her. Consider dumping the bf. Anyone who gets annoyed at your sadness for loving something is not someone 4u.
Yes, she should've dumped the dude, unless he's the one supporting her financially. Some women do that.
Load More Replies... Ive had two large dogs in an apartment. In some ways I feel like they got more exercise in the apartment than in the home I live in now. It was required to walk them everyday for the bathroom and such. Now when I let them in my backyard they just lay around :p
You may have to choose between the dog and the boyfriend. The dog will love you forever, the boyfriend, well, maybe not. The dog doesn't care how you look, if you brushed your teeth, if you fart, if you cook or eat cheese and crackers. It just loves you, no strings attached. However, a dog will also poop and pee on your carpet (at least once), will probably chew up some of your furniture, and stink up the place (dogs just have a dog smell). It's your choice. I pick the dog.
Adopt! If she was vicious, you would have found out right away. She was sweet once she got less scared.
Lol what a naïve statement. Dogs are often unpredictable and many people I know (including my mum) found out the hard way
Load More Replies... You have to adopt her. You two are meant for each other, maybe she will never gain trust with anybody else. Blue belongs to you.
We have a 19kg dog and live in a normal apartment. If you can walk her out two or three times per day there's no problem. She will surely feel better in an apartment rather than in a kennel. Dogs need love and I think you have so much love to give her. Leave your boyfriend, he doesn't understand.
Adopt her!! If you keep waiting for a bigger house, for better incomes, for better schedules... you will never do what you really wanna do... That pupuuy is already in love with you and you love her too... Just do it,!
Adopt her ASAP you'll regret if forever and wonder what if if you don't. Breed doesn't mean bad and she obviously has grown to trust you and has attached herself to you as well.
Listen- as someone who considers her dogs family, go get your goddamn pupper. Don't tell him if necessary. Go get her and then surprise him. Nothing he can do then. Obviously this is last resort and not something I'd usually advocate people doing, but I've seen how people can bond with dogs. She's your pupper. Get her home to you.
Sorry I will be telling you about myself but my story might help you. Last year, my bf and I got married, had a nice day... but it all ended when my Mom had a heart attack whilst dancing during the reception. She passed, leaving me completely shattered. I was off work for nearly a year, having to deal with grief, PTSD and depression. At some point though, I felt I needed to foster a cat for a nearby no-kill shelter. My husband, who told me many times before that he didnt want any animal at home, said yes straight away. Why ? Because he knew I am good with pets, he knew I needed to bond with a live being to have a reason to stay alive, and he just compromised. Now, we are the proud parents of a beautiful black cat with FIV, named Cali. To me, that’s what love is about. You can’t choose what will make you sad, but you can choose what makes you happy. And if adopting Blue is what makes you happy, you should do it...
Dump your a*****e boyfriend and figure out how to have that dog in your life!
Tell him to take that anti-pitbull garbage and shove it, pits are some of the sweetest dogs you could ever hope to have.
Did she end up adopting the dog in the end?? I really hope this story had a happy ending, this woman and dog were meant to be together, destiny bought them together such a touching story!!
My husband was the same, we live in a small apartment and gave me all the reasons why we should not adopt...I insisted and he finally accepted half hardheartedly. Fast forward 3 years later he and our dog are in so much love that he hugs me just to make him jealous. I am the third wheel lol. You can never go wrong with dogs...
Adopt the dog.There is no such thing as a bad dog breed, only bad owners, and we KNOW she's had one of those, poor girl.
speaking from experience here; take a step back and listen to what your S.O. is saying from a non emotional point. He has legit concerns (not about the breed deal but anyway) 2nd, take a look at your relationship.... is this experience going to make you have hateful feelings towards him forever? Have there been other things in the past that you wanted to do and thought is was a good idea, then he came in a put a kibosh to it? 3rd, not sure if you believe or not, but did God put that dog in your life for a reason? These are all just opinions, we don't know your life... in the end it's ultimately your decision
Dump the dog and adopt the pup. I may be biased but I'd always take an animal over a man any day!
You shouldn't let other people get in your way of what YOU want to do in life...honestly, if I were you I would DUMP him, get the dog, find a new boyfriend hat loves and is willing to take care of the dog, and live happily ever after with blueberry!!
Think about it ... you found each other, she found someone she could trust, you found a true unconditional love. Sounds like you were meant for each other. There is no replacement for this kind of love.
Your heart is in the right place and I empathise but please be honest with yourself about how you will make it work currently with no garden, insufficient funds for vet bills and leaving a dog with no known history alone for up to 5 hours a day. THEN ask yourself what will happen to the little girl if you break up with b/f and she's left for up to 8 hours a day with even less money for emergencies. As an abandoned dog, she might have particular needs, regardless all dogs need their pack, isolating them while you're out at work is not right. You might need to wait until you're in your 30s or 40s to get a dog - I did but I'm so glad I waited till the time was right for the dogs as well as my need for them. Please continue to do what's best for her rather than you.
My dog was just supposed to be an overnight stay... It's been a year and a half....
Any updates on this? Honestly I know what your going through. I have been in this exact situation and to be honest if I didn't have my pup the last few years life would have been hell. I say adopt her. if he leaves you over this of all things then homeboy is a jackass. there you go two problems cured at once. Last time I checked you were a grown a*s women.
a-c are legitimate concerns (d and e are rubbish). Take them on board, and if you really feel you can overcome them, adopt. The needs of the dog have to come first, not your own.
If you know you can provide a better home for this dog than anyone else, adopt the dog.
please adopt her...I understand your boyfriend...but you didn't found her..she found you both..nothing in life is easy and simple...but if there's love, nothing else matters...give you and her and he a chance to be very f****ing happy together..plase, adopt her
please, adopte her..I can undestand your boyfriend, having dogs his entire life and seeing all of them going in their time...BUT, what means is that this time of this beatiful creature will be fullfilled with your company (you and your boyfriend), your love, your friendship... Nothing in life that matters is simple, but love is...You did'nt found her...she found you both..please, adopt her
adopt her. dump your boy friend you will regret being with him in the future. he is an a*s
I heard it's better to have a dog in an appartment but that you walk him around a lot, than a dog living in a house and staying in a garden and not going out on a walk very often. Go for it and I'm sure that Blue is gonna be a great dog, rescued animals are usually so grateful that they turned out to be the best life partners ever
Adopt her!! You'll regret it forever if you don't. There is never a right time to do anything and if you wait for the right time you'll never get a dog! Your boyfriend might just end up falling in love with her too. If he doesn't then he's not a dog lover and you can do without him.
I think you should put your boyfriend for adoption and keep the dog. Just kidding (I'm not. Am I ?), pitbulls behave the way we treat them and dogs NEVER are agressive, unless they're nuts, which is very rare. She obviously isn't, regarding her behaviour with you. I think you you should tell him what you told us, and for the money issue, just make your counts (I don't know if it's the right way to say it in english) to convince him. Furthermore, if she's young, there's very little chances (just see a vet' to checkup on her) that she's gonna have health issues (for now), so you have enough time to find a full-time job to earn more money. And obviously, if your lifestyle is active, there's no problem with living in a flat with a dog, as long as you take care of it. If unfortunately she feels alone, just adopt another pet. I hope (if you see this message), that it helped a little to convince your bloody stubborn/moron boyfriend.
You are 28 years old, and need this dog. I would suggest you adopt her anyway. You can have a dog in the apartment and you might be able to squeeze out pet insurance for any unforseen bills.
Me and my husband took a dog from a shelter. Poor boy had no history, we knew completely nothing about him, we lived in one-room flat and I was not workind these days. He was scared of everythin. Literally everything: shadows, balls, snacks, paper towels, stairs and noises. Sure it wasn't easy and we had some rough time, but... He is our fluffy sunshine, I cannot image my life without him! And honestly, Your boyfriend arguments are some lame excuses...
Tell your boyfriend he is a big horses a*s and a cheap bastard and dump him Adopt the dog and enjoy your life with Blue....
You need to decide what kind of person you want to have an intimate relationship with. Do you really want this boyfriend, if he is this type of person?
By whose standards? They are in a relationship and not a parent/child one.
Load More Replies... I wish we could have a follow up to this story...did she keep Blue? I hope so.
I agree, foster her for now and who knows maybe she'll be a "foster fail" and live with you guys! Good luck and keep us posted!
God sent her into your life for a reason! She might end up saving both of your lives one day! Everything happens for a reason!
PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE give us an update in what you decided to do. GOOD LUCK. ☺☺♥♥
Is there a way to find out what happened to this dog? Was she adopted?
Many interesting views, all my cats and dogs are, and were rescues and I was blessed. Little girl Blue seems sweet and she trusts you which says a lot. Why wait ???
I think she's yours already and I agree with Sissi - stuff happens - not always on schedule - and you work them out and she looks like and acts like she's one of those stuffs. I thnk her face and eyes are wonderul and dogs are the best. It will work out fine - besides boyfriends come and go - dogs are forever!! (-;
I got my dog by fostering her at first. We had her initially for 2 weeks but she's now a permanent addition. My boy was reluctant at first for very similar reasons but he loves her so much ❤️
OMG, how could this story end without a solution?! I'm sitting here, crying my eyes out!!! You need to adopt this baby girl...forget the boyfriend!!
You've got to adopt her. There's never a right time, you always end up looking back and wishing you'd just gone for it.
Here's how to decide: Lock the boyfriend and the dog in the closet for a couple of hours. When you open the door, notice which one is really, REALLY glad to see you. That's the one you keep.
Lmao! Dude, you're evil! So, how is she supposed to get her man in the closet? Dog will go in there, sure. The man, uh, maybe open the door, push him in and.... close it REALLY fast??!! Lmao!! See, you're evil, you got me thinking about how to get a man in a closet. Bad!!
Load More Replies... Honestly, He is your boyfriend not your boss. If he is that controlling now... he will only be worse in a few years. Get the dog! Ditch the boyfriend.
He is controlling because he doesn't have the same opinion as her? Good lord, you must be a nightmare to deal with. He had extremely valid concerns. You don't have to agree they are insurmountable but to call him controlling is just awful given what he did for the dog and how rational he is.
Load More Replies... Adopt her. We lived in a three room apartment with three dogs and two cats, both working full time but he office hours and I shift + I also had a horse i visited every day. She's already your dog and she trusted you and committed, opened her heart and is now on death row instead. Today I'm single, have three adopted big dogs, work full time, have three cats and three horses, 16 chickens, a big house and a big garden. The love they give me everyday is priceless. It wasn't my ex partners choice to leave, I made it for him and I'm doing great.
Adopt Blue. I know it's a very difficult decision to make specially that you love your boyfriend too much. If your by loves you, he will love Blue. This is the accurate time to measure up how much your boyfriend loves you. Isn't it that if we've
* Isn't it that if we love someone, we also love who they love? So it's just fitting to adopt Blue. You will both do yourselves a great favour, Dear. Goodluck, Honey.
Load More Replies... Adopt adopt adopt her!!!! The hubby will def fall in love with her also in the end and all theee of you will be happy in the long run!
Please, please adopt her. There's a reason you crossed paths. It was meant to be.
To the people that are keeping it real and has been down-voted. Do not worry, this won't kill you in any way. These guys are doing it because they can't stand when somebody has a different opinion than theirs. I have been even labeled as a troll because somebody didn't liked my thoughts. I deeply believe that if you're won't be able to keep a pet, you shouldn't be giving them a false hope of a home. I hope the vet won't put Blue to sleep.
Good god how much does your ego need to be fed? And it’s like my thoughts not liked my thoughts.
Load More Replies... :" not only immaturity but also selfishness." He's immature to have valid reasons like money, work and no yard? Or is he immature and selfish because he doesn't let her have her way? Please look up the definition of hypocrisy in the dictionary and then figure out why people hate modern feminists so much.
Load More Replies... People have had happy dogs in worse conditions.
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