Sometimes people get lucky and find the love of their life in school and continue staying together until they grow old. Unfortunately, there are others who realize after time that they’re not with the right person. This is especially scary when you are a bit older and you might think that you missed your chance for happiness.
Kelsey Huse experienced just that: her boyfriend broke up with her and wanting to feel better about it, she asked people on Twitter to share their stories of how they found their partners in their 30s. And the people delivered. Kelsey Huse got 157.6K likes and a wave of positivity from others who have been in her situation.
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So these are some of the stories that people shared in response to Kelsey’s tweet.
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Kelsey Huse is a software engineer from Austin, Texas. She loves to read and go for adventures in her area. On Twitter she describes herself as a “girl who codes and climbs.”
lmao. That's what a relationship is about being able to joke about eachother
The tweet Kelsey wrote kind of blew up. It received 157.6K likes, 7.3K retweets, and almost 10K responses. Kelsey has never received so much engagement on a tweet before and she wasn’t expecting this at all, but she was very grateful for all the people that shared their stories and reassured her that she can find love at any age.
After receiving so much positive responses Kelsey felt uplifted and changed her mindset to being happy with herself and being full of love, no matter if she is single or in a relationship. This tweet helped not only Kelsey to stay positive towards the future, as she believes that everyone who shared their experience helped someone else reading the thread to feel hope and comfort.
Wow, they both look so young!!! Never would have guessed they were in their 40's!!!
The response Kelsey received was overwhelmingly positive and people were saying so many kind words, comforting Kelsey. People who didn’t have stories to share were encouraging her that she has plenty of time to get in another relationship, there were some mothers suggesting their sons as partners, and others were convincing her that being single is as great as being in a relationship. So if you are feeling down, reading this thread will lift you up.
And also, looking for a new relationship in your 30s could become the norm. Scientists are seeing tendencies that millennials are settling down later in life. The median age of marriage in 1970 was 23 for men and 20.8 for women, while in 2017, it had risen to 29.5 for men and 27.4 for women.
Plus, there are some definite benefits of dating when you're over 30. People are then more mature and already have an understanding of what will make them happy. They know what to look for in a partner so that their qualities will complement the other person’s qualities best. They are more secure in themselves and will rarely settle for someone that doesn’t meet their expectations.
Oh wow. so glad you landed in a safe place. That you married such lovely man is so wonderful.
Not even a month of knowing each other and you proposed, wow that's incredible!
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People in their early 30s worried about being single? Please, come to Spain... Here if you get married and start having children before turning 30 we think you're too young! :) I had my boy at 41 (yeah, I know it's not the best age...) and I'm not by far the only one...
I feel you !Same in Greece. This is not right, making single people even a week over 30, feel old and failed.
Load More Replies...my wife told me 3 month ago she wanna divorce because she realise she was gay. after 20 years together, 3 kids, house, dogs, etc... feel like s**t but the hard part is that i can't be mad at her because it's not really a choice if she feel trapped in something where she didn't belong. it was a shitty year and it doesn't feel like 2021 gotta be better. live one day at a time since few month. my responsability toward my kids it the only thing who gets me going these last month
I am sorry kjorn. Sounds like you are being really decent about it, good on you. Hope things improve for you.
Load More Replies...After 2 previous long-term partners (one was my ex wife, we had kids together) cheated on me, I met my current partner. She is my soul-mate, my best friend, and everything I ever wanted in a person to share my life with. I was 45 when we met. It's never too late to find true love. :)
I wasn't in my 30's, I was in my 40's... but I was tired of online dating and bored so I joined an online chat site just to chat with someone. Looked through the list of online profiles, picked a pictureless profile at random woman that lived halfway across the country from me, so I knew there was no chance of romantic involvement, as I really just wanted to chat. Well, 9 months later we were chatting nearly daily and we decided to meet. A few months after that, she moved to my state (where she'd already wanted to move to anyway) and a couple years after that, we were married. We just celebrated our 10th wedding anniversary.
After a terrible break up in my early 30's, I stayed single. I was 46 and gloriously single. I had the best life ever. I traveled, I took classes, I had (still have) a career I truly love. I decided that I didn't need anyone to make my life complete, I was enough. And then an old friend messaged me Happy Birthday on my 47th and suggested coffee when the pandemic restrictions eased some. We decided we couldn't wait and met in a park and wore masks and talked for seven and half hours. I am deliriously happy! At this age, we are past the drama, the games, the BS...we communicate openly, we are honest with ourselves and each other, and I have found my love. There is no expiration date on love or a person.
I've actually known my future husband since we were 5 years old and met in kindergarten. Went to school with each other for 13 years, he was best man at my first wedding, we grew apart, each had other relationships, bumped into each other at the grocery store, he asked me to dinner to catch up. It's now 3 years since that dinner and we're getting married this August 2021. Life happens when it's suppose to. We'll be 47 when we walk down that isle.
Went to college at 17, worked in parallel full time since 20, failed college, went to college again at 27, came financial crisis could not afford after 2 years out of 5, had heart problems, got a job instead at 29. Met online at 29, met in real at 30, got married at 32, graduated college at 33, moved to his place in another country at 33, got job 1 in the new country at 33, moved within that country at 34 left job 1 at 37 after a miscarriage, got job 2 with 3 hours commute time a day had a miscarriage, got job 3 at 38, baby at 39 trying for 2nd at 40.
baby is now 10 months born during corona. Both grandparents still haven't been able to fly to our country to visit the baby due to corona. Originally was planned they come for 1 Months/3 Months respectively right after birth.
Load More Replies...So since I'm 32 and single, and haven't had a real boyfriend in my life I'm f***ed up? I must say that I do feel bad sometimes for being alone, but I live with what I have, and if being single is what I have to be right now so be it. I do hope I find someone one day.
Don't get hung up on the idea of soulmates either though. There are definitely people out there who seem to find their soulmate, but it isn't as common as disney wants you to believe. I always think of my grandparents as soulmates, but they still bicker and get on each others' nerves sometimes. My grandma recently told me that once, early in their relationship, they broke up for a couple for a couple of days, but when questioned about it my grandpa said "Huh? That was a breakup?" xD. Anyways, the point is soulmates aren't people who are brought together by the universe and are exactly perfect for each other with no issues. I think real soulmates are people who are able to work through their issues and low points together and come out stronger in the end. Relationships are hard work, so don't expect a perfect person who can accommodate you, find a partner who you can work with. Actually finding them may take years, but who cares, right? It's worth the wait and the effort, I promise.
I was complaining about something on my computer at work, and his mom said her son could fix it. I was like, sounds great. We were 32 when we met, texted for a couple of weeks after he fixed my computer before he asked me out. Our first date was Mexican on the Fourth of July, followed by watching fireworks on an old dirt road. We got engaged on my birthday two months later and were married the following year. One nearly 6-year-old daughter and 12 years in April, we finally decided we were serious enough to adopt a puppy we named Pi cause she only has three legs, and my husband has been teaching our daughter 3.14159. I love a good, punny name for pets.
Met my first husband at 2014 I was 33 years old he was 34 years old we got married and I moved Denmark after 2 boys and 5 years of marriage and 3 year of mental abuse I finally left in 2019. Got myself together for 2 years and dated off and on for 2 year susing dating sites. Got lots of BS games from men and started to accept I would be alone. Then in 2021 I gave up hope and went through more abuse from my ex husband using the system and have suffered mental health issues because of it. I gave up hope in finding a good match. Met my now boy friend on my last attempt at a dating site we have been together a month and he does not know yet how much I love him. But I feel confident we are ment for eachother. It has been honesty from the start no games no will we /won't BS. I am 40 and he is 41.
Met my partner when I was about 32, he was married at the time, but we just hung out, were friends first, then he left his wife. Had our daughter when I was 35.
I was 33 and I wasn't looking for a relationship because all I had were bad examples. Twenty-one years later ( including me immigrating from the USA to Canada) I wouldn't want to be in Covid quarantine with any other person on this planet. He is the best person I have ever met.
widowed at 25 (common-law). met my husband the year i turned 30. married at 32. now am 54. we have two healthy young adult sons. let yourself heal, then live your best life. don't even think about "finding" a new partner. it can and does happen you meet "The One" when least expected.
Well this does give me a glimmer of hope, i'll be 39 in 6 weeks, and have zero options for companionship at the moment. if all else fails I guess a dog or 2 are in my future.
Divorced at 28 after a brief bad marriage. Single for what felt like forever. In 2006, I joined eHarmony for my 45th birthday. Met a 42 yr old never married cutie 3 months later. 2 months after that, he took me home to England to meet his family. 3 more months, we moved in, 15 years later, married for 11, 2 cats and a nice house.
A lot of my friends have met and married their soulmates in their 40s. Live your life, learn who you are and love yourself, then someone will love you!
Great, now I super hate myself. Didn't realize everyone thought I was a sad old maiden.
People in their early 30s worried about being single? Please, come to Spain... Here if you get married and start having children before turning 30 we think you're too young! :) I had my boy at 41 (yeah, I know it's not the best age...) and I'm not by far the only one...
I feel you !Same in Greece. This is not right, making single people even a week over 30, feel old and failed.
Load More Replies...my wife told me 3 month ago she wanna divorce because she realise she was gay. after 20 years together, 3 kids, house, dogs, etc... feel like s**t but the hard part is that i can't be mad at her because it's not really a choice if she feel trapped in something where she didn't belong. it was a shitty year and it doesn't feel like 2021 gotta be better. live one day at a time since few month. my responsability toward my kids it the only thing who gets me going these last month
I am sorry kjorn. Sounds like you are being really decent about it, good on you. Hope things improve for you.
Load More Replies...After 2 previous long-term partners (one was my ex wife, we had kids together) cheated on me, I met my current partner. She is my soul-mate, my best friend, and everything I ever wanted in a person to share my life with. I was 45 when we met. It's never too late to find true love. :)
I wasn't in my 30's, I was in my 40's... but I was tired of online dating and bored so I joined an online chat site just to chat with someone. Looked through the list of online profiles, picked a pictureless profile at random woman that lived halfway across the country from me, so I knew there was no chance of romantic involvement, as I really just wanted to chat. Well, 9 months later we were chatting nearly daily and we decided to meet. A few months after that, she moved to my state (where she'd already wanted to move to anyway) and a couple years after that, we were married. We just celebrated our 10th wedding anniversary.
After a terrible break up in my early 30's, I stayed single. I was 46 and gloriously single. I had the best life ever. I traveled, I took classes, I had (still have) a career I truly love. I decided that I didn't need anyone to make my life complete, I was enough. And then an old friend messaged me Happy Birthday on my 47th and suggested coffee when the pandemic restrictions eased some. We decided we couldn't wait and met in a park and wore masks and talked for seven and half hours. I am deliriously happy! At this age, we are past the drama, the games, the BS...we communicate openly, we are honest with ourselves and each other, and I have found my love. There is no expiration date on love or a person.
I've actually known my future husband since we were 5 years old and met in kindergarten. Went to school with each other for 13 years, he was best man at my first wedding, we grew apart, each had other relationships, bumped into each other at the grocery store, he asked me to dinner to catch up. It's now 3 years since that dinner and we're getting married this August 2021. Life happens when it's suppose to. We'll be 47 when we walk down that isle.
Went to college at 17, worked in parallel full time since 20, failed college, went to college again at 27, came financial crisis could not afford after 2 years out of 5, had heart problems, got a job instead at 29. Met online at 29, met in real at 30, got married at 32, graduated college at 33, moved to his place in another country at 33, got job 1 in the new country at 33, moved within that country at 34 left job 1 at 37 after a miscarriage, got job 2 with 3 hours commute time a day had a miscarriage, got job 3 at 38, baby at 39 trying for 2nd at 40.
baby is now 10 months born during corona. Both grandparents still haven't been able to fly to our country to visit the baby due to corona. Originally was planned they come for 1 Months/3 Months respectively right after birth.
Load More Replies...So since I'm 32 and single, and haven't had a real boyfriend in my life I'm f***ed up? I must say that I do feel bad sometimes for being alone, but I live with what I have, and if being single is what I have to be right now so be it. I do hope I find someone one day.
Don't get hung up on the idea of soulmates either though. There are definitely people out there who seem to find their soulmate, but it isn't as common as disney wants you to believe. I always think of my grandparents as soulmates, but they still bicker and get on each others' nerves sometimes. My grandma recently told me that once, early in their relationship, they broke up for a couple for a couple of days, but when questioned about it my grandpa said "Huh? That was a breakup?" xD. Anyways, the point is soulmates aren't people who are brought together by the universe and are exactly perfect for each other with no issues. I think real soulmates are people who are able to work through their issues and low points together and come out stronger in the end. Relationships are hard work, so don't expect a perfect person who can accommodate you, find a partner who you can work with. Actually finding them may take years, but who cares, right? It's worth the wait and the effort, I promise.
I was complaining about something on my computer at work, and his mom said her son could fix it. I was like, sounds great. We were 32 when we met, texted for a couple of weeks after he fixed my computer before he asked me out. Our first date was Mexican on the Fourth of July, followed by watching fireworks on an old dirt road. We got engaged on my birthday two months later and were married the following year. One nearly 6-year-old daughter and 12 years in April, we finally decided we were serious enough to adopt a puppy we named Pi cause she only has three legs, and my husband has been teaching our daughter 3.14159. I love a good, punny name for pets.
Met my first husband at 2014 I was 33 years old he was 34 years old we got married and I moved Denmark after 2 boys and 5 years of marriage and 3 year of mental abuse I finally left in 2019. Got myself together for 2 years and dated off and on for 2 year susing dating sites. Got lots of BS games from men and started to accept I would be alone. Then in 2021 I gave up hope and went through more abuse from my ex husband using the system and have suffered mental health issues because of it. I gave up hope in finding a good match. Met my now boy friend on my last attempt at a dating site we have been together a month and he does not know yet how much I love him. But I feel confident we are ment for eachother. It has been honesty from the start no games no will we /won't BS. I am 40 and he is 41.
Met my partner when I was about 32, he was married at the time, but we just hung out, were friends first, then he left his wife. Had our daughter when I was 35.
I was 33 and I wasn't looking for a relationship because all I had were bad examples. Twenty-one years later ( including me immigrating from the USA to Canada) I wouldn't want to be in Covid quarantine with any other person on this planet. He is the best person I have ever met.
widowed at 25 (common-law). met my husband the year i turned 30. married at 32. now am 54. we have two healthy young adult sons. let yourself heal, then live your best life. don't even think about "finding" a new partner. it can and does happen you meet "The One" when least expected.
Well this does give me a glimmer of hope, i'll be 39 in 6 weeks, and have zero options for companionship at the moment. if all else fails I guess a dog or 2 are in my future.
Divorced at 28 after a brief bad marriage. Single for what felt like forever. In 2006, I joined eHarmony for my 45th birthday. Met a 42 yr old never married cutie 3 months later. 2 months after that, he took me home to England to meet his family. 3 more months, we moved in, 15 years later, married for 11, 2 cats and a nice house.
A lot of my friends have met and married their soulmates in their 40s. Live your life, learn who you are and love yourself, then someone will love you!
Great, now I super hate myself. Didn't realize everyone thought I was a sad old maiden.