Man Reveals That His House Belongs To His Teen Daughter As An Inheritance From Her Late Mother, Fiancée Causes A Scene
Do you remember that old tale about the evil stepmother who married the king and then began to bully his daughter? Well, you definitely know this girl – she was also called Snow White. The plot is an all-time classic – and it is really repeated from year to year.
However, it often turns out that women who find themselves in the position of that very “evil stepmother” sometimes do not even realize what exactly they are doing, acting unconsciously. And then, when it is pointed out to them how unacceptable their behavior is, they are very offended anyway.
As, for instance, was the author of a thread in the AITA Reddit community. Her post received over 14K upvotes and almost 2K different comments so far. The 28-year-old woman was trying to figure out if she had done the right thing by quarreling with her 38-year-old fiancé.
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The Original Poster dated a man for two years until he finally made a proposal, which she accepted
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So, the Original Poster dated a man for two years until he finally made a proposal, which she gladly accepted. Later, the couple began discussing their plans for life after the wedding – or rather, where they should live.
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Her fiancé’s first wife passed away five years earlier, leaving a 15-year-old daughter
It should be clarified that at that time, the woman had a 6-year-old son, and her fiancé had a 15-year-old daughter from his first marriage. Her mother had passed away five years earlier, and since then, the girl has occupied the master bedroom in the house, which always surprised the OP. She somehow even asked the man about it, to which he replied – this is his daughter’s house, so she herself decides where to sleep.
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The OP wanted the man’s daughter out of the master bedroom after their wedding
So, during this discussion, the OP said that she wanted to permanently move into his house, and would like his daughter out of the master bedroom for the couple. The man replied that in fact, the house was officially registered to his daughter, and they would most likely have to buy themselves a new one.
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It turned out that the house was officially registered to the daughter since her mother passed away
True, as he noted, in the five years that have passed since the death of his wife, he has saved money, so now he has about 60 percent of the required amount – well, they would pay the rest together. The OP was indignant and said that if he wants to marry her and adopt her son, then the house should not only be his daughter’s, but theirs as well.
The woman got very angry and called him a jerk, saying he should have told her about it right off the bat. The man objected that they still would not be homeless because they still had three years before his daughter came of age, and then probably another four years until she graduated from college. In any case, he always knew that sooner or later, he would have to move out, so he deliberately set aside money for a new house.
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The car which OP used to drive was also registered to the girl
The OP asked what else is also registered to his daughter. He replied that the car the OP used to drive would be taken by the girl when she leaves for college. Then the woman called him a jerk once more, took her son and went to her parents’ house. However, when she told her story in tears, her brother just laughed and said that she behaved like a gold digger and, of course, like the real jerk.
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Commenters were almost completely unanimous – the OP really behaved like a gold digger
Now, we must say that the opinion of the commenters was almost completely unanimous – and they massively condemned the woman, telling her she really behaved like a gold digger. The Redditors could not resist reminding her of the tale of the Snow White and the fact that the OP almost became the very evil stepmother of a 15-year-old girl.
People on Reddit also noted that the late wife prudently agreed with her husband about guarantees for their daughter for the future, and that in any case, they could be calm for the girl.
The man read the OP’s post and immediately wanted his ring back
Which, however, cannot be said about the OP. The fact is that her fiancé read her post on Reddit and demanded the ring back. As the woman herself wrote, one of these days he will arrive, take the ring and the car back – and everything will be over.
While, on one hand, the story looks very sad, on the other hand, perhaps the girl and her father were lucky that he did not share his fate with a woman like this. Anyway, we, as always, will highly appreciate your comments, as well as opinions on who is right and who is wrong in this particular situation.
Looks like the fiancé dodged a bullet here. Imagine demanding ownership of someone else's inheritance, and it's so much worse when it's your fiancé's child.
I don't know who needs to hear this but if your getting married is dependent on you becoming half owner of the other person's stuff, you are a gold digger. Male or female, that is what you are. Situations similar to this are why prenups became a thing.
That's what I was thinking, their love falls apart because she can't have the house she wants? Twu wuv.
Load More Replies...Redditt to the rescue!!! Not only did the internet think you're an AH but your own family said you're a GOLDDIGGER. To go ballistic over a home & car you don't own definitely makes it look like you weren't marrying for the sake of love.
YTA...in more ways than one. Glad he dumped your gold digging a*s . Better luck next time .
Lmao, she disabled comments bc ppl just kept flooding in calling her an a*****e even after the update. Good on dad for putting his kid first!
Nobody said anything about it being the wife's house/money... They could have come to this agreement before she past. Besides everyone keeps saying because it's the daughters house she and her son aren't entitled to it. Let's get something else straight... Even if it was the fiance's house her and her son still aren't entitled to it even if married. People need to stop getting married for security reasons and start getting married for love.
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Load More Replies...The guy even have 60% for a new place, that probably will, one day stay for her kid, since his own kid already have a house. You come with nothing and drive his car, now you want also the master bedroom if the house ? Wow. I'm glad guy open his eyes before it was too late.
Kudos to rhe father for respecting and protect what the wife left fir the daughter.
Interesting how she made up her own story and assumed she could have the house and kick the child out. Doesn't listen, only sees dollar signs and entitlement.
Ohhhh, you have no idea the level of greediness and entitlement of some people. I've seen these kinds of things with my own eyes, and family.
Load More Replies...And women like this is exactly why her mother wanted the house to go directly to her daughter.
Yeah. A lot of men seem very clueless and there's entirely too many stories of children getting jipped out of inheritance because of evil stepmother like wtf
Load More Replies...YTA OP. Daughter let you use her car and didn't seem to have a problem with you and your son moving in. You're completely ungrateful, spoiled and entitled. So glad fiance quickly saw who you really are before the wedding.
I find this narrative strange. The daughter is 15...who is paying the taxes? Who is maintaining the property? It may be "her house" but someone is paying the bills. I would like to know more about this situation and how it functions.
If I was going to guess, the late wife’s money was family money and was in a trust. That trust is probably for the benefit of the daughter now and any money is being spent is for her benefit only by the trustees (probably the late wife’s family) and the assets remain the property of the trust and therefore the daughter. Things like a house won’t be needed by the daughter once she goes to college so the trust would then sell it or rent it out.
Load More Replies...Am I the only one that think it's weird she always says "her daughter" and not "his daughter"?
She refers to the daughter as "his daughter" several times, but there are some grammatical inconsistencies that suggest perhaps not English as a first language or perhaps doesn't GAS because honestly ... reddit. Anyway, where she says "her daughter" it appears there was a preceding sentence in the undisclosed conversation where the girl's mother is the subject matter in which case it follows that "her daughter" is the correct reference. ETA.... regardless of the technicalities of the language, she is the the arsehole.
Load More Replies...YTA Sound like you a gold digger The girl lost here mom Was okay with your moving in her house She let you drive her car What a b***h you are Wanted her to move her room Your man never lied to you Never assume anything Sounds like you missed out having a great daughter Your loss Poor thing liked you enough to share
You are, indeed, the AH...your fiance told you the truth but you chose to not believe him. Now, you're angry because you look foolish and like all you care about is access to whatever assets you can get your hands on. This man and hus daughter have seriously dodged the proverbial bullet. They deserve much better than a woman who demands a child surrender her inherited property to them, just because she's marrying her father. It's reprehensible you would even consider making such a demand and essentially trying to steal from a child who has already lost her mother. Not only are you the a*****e, you're a terrible rile model for your young son. Grow up and get your own instead of trying to take it from someone else.
I hope she returns the ring and the car with a HUGE apology for her crappy behavior... but I sincerely doubt it...
I can't help but think this is (another) story that exists only in somebody's imagination.
just because nothing interesting ever happens to you, doesn't mean this is fake.
Load More Replies...I don't get why commenters are talking about "maybe he could have clarified" if someone were to ask about a dress, and was told it was hers, then the question was answered. If you ask about a curling iron, and are told that it's hers, the question was answered. Ask about a house, and get told it's hers, and you need clarification?? The question was answered!! The fiance seems to be a stand up guy, and indeed dodged a bullet. Good riddance!!! If that Gold digger is already acting that entitled, imagine what it's going to be like 10 years down the road!! And to be so oblivious that she went to the internet thinking people were going to side with her!?!? Life with her would have been hell!!!
You should always talk about the big things - finances, where you're living, attitude to work, attitude to kids etc BEFORE you get engaged, or big disappointment or divorce will follow pretty soon after. So many people on the reddit AITA page (whether made up or not) end up in these situations because they've made too many assumptions before getting married, the biggest one being that 'of course my partner will want what I want.'
I can’t get over that he had 60% to put out on a house and she was mad that they would have to pay of 40%!!!! That would be a dream to every single person I know!!! She is beyond entitled and childish!!!
And it wasn't even a guarantee that she would have to pay the remaining 40. Just that he had saved 60 at this point, but they wouldn't be moving yet, so there was time for both of them to save more.
Load More Replies...I wish I'd seen this before the comments were locked. It's not just wanting to take a child's inheritance from her late mother that makes her the AH, it's... expecting her ex fiance adopt her son, but did you notice her language concerning HIS daughter?!? "Her daughter"... She couldn't even bring herself to acknowledge the girl, and rightful owner of the house, was HIS daughter. Bravo to him for getting his ring back, and seeing this c**p before legally binding himself to the witch!
She came in demanding to take over the house, the car and the master bedroom. Sounds like a gold digger to me.
*Gold digger tune intensifies* But with all honesty, what did you want from this relationship to begin with? You wanted a partner, a father for your child or his possessions? If a house and a car are so important to you, why don't you get it yourself? Then you won't need to go through all this trouble of getting a husband.
It's amazing how she totally ignored the savings for a new home. Did she say yes to the proposal or to the property?
So J-E-R-K is bleeped on here now too?!?! This place is becoming the word police at an alarming rate.
Obvious YTA, but there's a little detail I don't understand: I get why the house is hers, but if the mother passed away five years ago why is the 2020 car, which was obviously purchased long after that, hers?
Possibly purchased in her name from the daughter's inherited money on the agreement he could use it until she was old enough to drive.
Load More Replies...What's she even bringing to the table? She's driving his daughters vehicle - basically neither bring anything to the table - luckily her mom did and ensured she'd be ok. I cannot get past the part where this lady is angry that basically she's not getting a home and car she put nothing into. She must really feel her 'gina is worth a home and a car - and a free ride. Even if it wasn't the daughters - exactly what entitles her to what her fiancée has?
YTA and you're a gold digger to look at a house that's not yours and demanded it for yourself. He's a lucky b@$t@rd to find out now before he's stuck with you forever.
Peoples entitlement and inability to just stay calm till you have all the information in a situation is crazy...like everyone said her mom wanted to make sure someone like you didnt do what you were trying to do to her child...you are def the AH and beyond here...and glad glad we got the update and he wants the ring back...and i would have called the cops and reported the car you took stolen
Karma couldn't have come quicker. Sometimes it's better to just shut your mouth and appreciate what you have. In wanting more and more, she now has absolutely nothing.
Yes yta and you really need to work on your moral and ethical scope of reality. What do you think gives you the right to ask him that? And what's worse is you got mad at him for saying no it belongs to his daughter. You don't deserve to have either of them in your life ever again after that.
I've read enough stories about evil stepparents. I'm glad this father took his daughter's side and not the fiancée. Best line was the last - she had to give the ring back and it's over. Hooray!!!
Unbelievable. What an entitled, greedy, b*tch. I'm so glad for the daughter that her father didn't marry this horrible woman. I feel sorry for her son. If he ends up making big $$ someday, she's going to be a barnacle.
The rare story from TAH side, interesting stuff m. Also - how on gods name do these people exist?
Glad the dad got out when he did. You would have been a horrible stepmom-and you did not listen when he told you the truth. Would you like for some woman to put your son out of his house/room? Shame on you for being so selfish.
Sorry, what is a master bedroom? I'm not American, whenever I've helped people move into their new flats/houses or furnished my own home, we just put the bed in the most convenient room. Is a master bedroom special in some kind of way?
I'm from the UK so could be wrong but the way I take it, it's the largest or 'best' bedroom of the house. For example in my house the master bedroom would probably be 'bedroom 1' as it's the largest and has an en suite so also qualifies as the 'best' since it has its own bathroom. The other bedrooms are all smaller and you'd have to then share the family bathroom. Hope that helps.
Load More Replies...This is awful. I lost my Mum aged 12 and it devastated me so his daughter is his top priority - would be anyway but even more so in the circumstances. I think the OP is incredibly insensitive and needs to work on themselves before commiting to any future relationship because to have a healthy relationship you need to respect your partner's point of view even when you don't understand it.
My father has to deal with this so often, my parents are split, but my dad has always made sure his kids have always had a place to go back to, and so where he lives is bought under his and his kids (I’m pretty sure it’s “his kids” and not just me and my full sibling, as he has a kid from a previous relationship that grew up elsewhere generally), and every woman that finds interest in my father to try to pursue him, wants to have his property shared with them and not us kids. Even my bio mother is like that. Apparently everyone thinks it’s a dealbreaker (from experience) but will be labelled the bad guy if they pick up a fuss (from this post not experience).
I thoroughly agree with all the commenters that you, OP, are absolutely Wrong. Your fiance Told you that the car and house belong Only to his daughter; Not to him. She inherited both items from her mom. You may as well forget about marrying him. If I were him I would have called it quits with you too. You are very definitely the embodiment of an evil stepmother.
Since she wanna walk out of his life let her walk don't stop her. It's plenty of good woman out there that will love him unconditionally.
The sense of entitlement is simply off the scale. Par for the course these days
Love dad thinking correctly, started saving for own house. As for giving the 10yr old master bedroom, how big are other rooms. Funny never mentions "relationship" with daughter.
Op- play foolish games; win stupid prizes....! You dated for 2 years & never had these important conversations about your lives together? Do you(OP) have some type of career, training/education? Haven't you made any type of provisions for your minor child, should you pass unexpectedly? Maybe some sessions with a therapist and financial advisor should be next for you....help you to see what you couldn't before; and start yourself on a more proactive path going forward. You will improve your role as a partner for the future. Be well.
Load More Replies...BTA. There's literally nothing he could do... except tell you BEFORE the engagement that he's saving up for a house... and why.
Ho with a kid ..... sorry but you showed your true colors before you trapped him. Respect to the bf and brother for calling your a*s out .... Cant imagine what hell the daughter dodged here ...
After so many posts of people describing how one parent screwed over their children when someone passed inheritances to them . This is finally one where the surviving parent does right by their child and she swoops in and trys this ridiculous s**t. God bless him. For taking the ring back . She dint deserve to be apart of their lives . Unfortunately that means that her son will loose out on a positive father figure because of her horse c**p . They could have built a new life in a new house and left that one to her son if she was so worried about him being left out of a potential future and she took that away with her behavior
Having been in a toxic relationship before, I'm so glad this guy got wise and ended this relationship!! He didn't even think twice about bringing a toxic female around his daughter! Father of the year for that alone!! This woman would have eventually tore that family apart. Definitely better off moving on. Some people's entitlement is outrageous.
ESH. Fiance gave a vague and incomplete answer on purpose. As much as comments say otherwise, few would take "it's her house" as "the 15 year old's name is on the deed", so it's ridiculous to flay her for not digging further. Most would assume that it's "her" house in the sense that she lives there, and that the dad spoiled her by giving her the master. Which is a red flag about how he would behave towards new wife and step kid after marrying. I find it odd that he gave her his bedroom, even if she did inherit the property. It's his room. And he's likely paying all taxes and upkeep on the property to ensure daughter keeps until 18. It would be 100% untenable to be a 15 year old's tenant for 3 years. Who the hell wants to live with their in laws and follow their rules? No one. And this put a teen in that position of power. The whole set up and dynamic, with daughter in charge, is uncomfortable. And frankly, it is NOT gold digging to consider finances and be upset at being mislead
Gold digger played this the wrong way. She should have done what my niece's ex-BF did. Live in the house for 15 years and act like it's yours. After that time it magically becomes yours through adverse possession. My niece now has to pay $30,000 to get him out of the house that her grandmother willed to her.
The fairy tale where there is an evil stepmother involved is Cinderella, not Snow White. How could you get that one wrong?!
I find it really hard to believe that in the two whole years they were dating this never came up - especially with the car she is driving. For insurance and other stuff the owner of the vehicle would be listed. It's also curious that the mother left the house to the daughter, and not her husband and that the husband wasn't listed as an owner prior to the mothers death. Or perhaps there is a reason for that, and the OP is the one that dodged a bullet.
The car purchase was probably part of the will/trust set up by the deceased mother. The daughter is 15 and eventually gonna be old enough to drive. And need a car. The daughter let OP drive the car, no issues. The 15 year old is more mature than OP. And what is OP bringing to the table other than her son? Why doesn’t she have a car? Is she saving to buy a home? Where is her money if she’s been with the dad for 2 years? Women like her give the rest of us a bad rep.
Load More Replies...I don't think this is *necessarily* gold digging. She is the a*****e and comedically "evil" in her demands and attitude. But I think it has more to do with an extremely ageist/adultist mindset and the kind of social norms and entitlement that she is unwilling to part with, particularly when it's made more and more absurd to cling to such norms and mindsets. Oh she's a minor, so whatever is hers is really just for her parents to decide to give or take away whenever they want. And she's sleeping with her dad that automatically puts her in the position of "parent" (for some reason) and thus able to make such demands for changes and subservience so her preferences and expectations are prioritized, at least above the child. And he's the adult so these big box items that require legal contracts and s credit history, so these things should be in his name and thus at least partly hers because marriage. Yes the mindset and attitude is awful, but it's also extremely common. More so than a child inheriting a house and car. She is an a*****e and can't get out of personal responsibility. But we also need to be critical of the systems. Plus ourselves and those in our lives who behave or think similarly, even if on a much smaller scale.
I certainly can see where she was upset about how the fiance told her. However, she has no right to throw a fit and try to take the daughter's inheritance. In this situation, he was never a jerk about it, just unclear.
He was never unclear. He flat out said "it's her house.". OP just made assumptions about what that meant and never asked for clarification.
Load More Replies...Who wrote this story, a 2 year old? It was painful to read this poorly written trash.
Further red flags are the massive age gap, dad wanting to move out of the home he shares with the 15 year old now (wtf?), dad not being clear on the financial situation until he was forced to explain because his fiancee was making arrangements, dad being afraid of asking daughter to move out of the biggest room so it could be shared (not to mention dad giving her his room in the first place) and the dad not telling the OP they'd be a 15 year old's tenants. I don't expect this guy will find many women, if any, willing to put up with this arrangement. Adults want their own space they can control. It's why living with MILs is so fraught.
The moment I saw a kid sleeping in the Master bedroom I would have wanted my own place.
This doesn't sound real... And I also don't think she's the a*shole bc a 15yo doesn't need a master freaking bedroom guys. Child does not need a giant bedroom and a whole house AND a relatively new car. Idk why wife left all this to her teen daughter like that's really strange. Idk about a golddigger but I think I would care too if my teen step daughter gets this house AND new car AND master bedroom like what?? Dad sounds like a pushover and wife seemed maybe immature to leave all this to daughter. I'm happy she got out of that honestly
I'm calling BS. Minors can't legally own real property here. It can be placed in a trust in their name, but anything given to them reverts to their legal guardian's ownership, and no professional with half a brain is going to sign off on a deed transfer to a minor....
You've never heard of a trust fund? When my Dad died, his familial property was already in a Family trust & his part of the property legally became his kids. With his insurance, he did the same thing -- money is in trust until we turned 18,25 & 30; OR if we were to have kids between 25 - 30 We could automatically get everything owed. If no kids, final payout at 30.
Load More Replies...She may be a gold digger, but he was lying to her without a doubt. Obviously he gave his 2020 car to his daughter, and that had nothing to do with his late wife who has been gone 5 years. So if he gave his car to her, I'm betting he also gave the house to his daughter. Not to mention I find it hard to believe his name wasn't on the deed, to even allow the house to go to his daughter without his say so. There's more to this story than what he was telling her, and it sounds like he was protecting his assets by putting everything in his daughter's name, which is understandable if he didn't trust his fiancée
If his wife came from money and inherited the house herself, why would he be on the deed? The car also could have been bought from her trust on the condition she gets it when she goes off to college.
Load More Replies...Or maybe he's a father that loves his daughter more than some gold digger he's been dating for two years. Sounds like you've only dated/married losers.
Load More Replies...No HE dodged the gold digger bullet. The house was left to the "kid" by her mother, she is the owner and has the right to the master regardless of age. He saved up to buy a house with her - HE deserves someone willing to put in her own money to thier future and not want to sponge off his family and late wife's estate.
Load More Replies...Looks like the fiancé dodged a bullet here. Imagine demanding ownership of someone else's inheritance, and it's so much worse when it's your fiancé's child.
I don't know who needs to hear this but if your getting married is dependent on you becoming half owner of the other person's stuff, you are a gold digger. Male or female, that is what you are. Situations similar to this are why prenups became a thing.
That's what I was thinking, their love falls apart because she can't have the house she wants? Twu wuv.
Load More Replies...Redditt to the rescue!!! Not only did the internet think you're an AH but your own family said you're a GOLDDIGGER. To go ballistic over a home & car you don't own definitely makes it look like you weren't marrying for the sake of love.
YTA...in more ways than one. Glad he dumped your gold digging a*s . Better luck next time .
Lmao, she disabled comments bc ppl just kept flooding in calling her an a*****e even after the update. Good on dad for putting his kid first!
Nobody said anything about it being the wife's house/money... They could have come to this agreement before she past. Besides everyone keeps saying because it's the daughters house she and her son aren't entitled to it. Let's get something else straight... Even if it was the fiance's house her and her son still aren't entitled to it even if married. People need to stop getting married for security reasons and start getting married for love.
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Load More Replies...The guy even have 60% for a new place, that probably will, one day stay for her kid, since his own kid already have a house. You come with nothing and drive his car, now you want also the master bedroom if the house ? Wow. I'm glad guy open his eyes before it was too late.
Kudos to rhe father for respecting and protect what the wife left fir the daughter.
Interesting how she made up her own story and assumed she could have the house and kick the child out. Doesn't listen, only sees dollar signs and entitlement.
Ohhhh, you have no idea the level of greediness and entitlement of some people. I've seen these kinds of things with my own eyes, and family.
Load More Replies...And women like this is exactly why her mother wanted the house to go directly to her daughter.
Yeah. A lot of men seem very clueless and there's entirely too many stories of children getting jipped out of inheritance because of evil stepmother like wtf
Load More Replies...YTA OP. Daughter let you use her car and didn't seem to have a problem with you and your son moving in. You're completely ungrateful, spoiled and entitled. So glad fiance quickly saw who you really are before the wedding.
I find this narrative strange. The daughter is 15...who is paying the taxes? Who is maintaining the property? It may be "her house" but someone is paying the bills. I would like to know more about this situation and how it functions.
If I was going to guess, the late wife’s money was family money and was in a trust. That trust is probably for the benefit of the daughter now and any money is being spent is for her benefit only by the trustees (probably the late wife’s family) and the assets remain the property of the trust and therefore the daughter. Things like a house won’t be needed by the daughter once she goes to college so the trust would then sell it or rent it out.
Load More Replies...Am I the only one that think it's weird she always says "her daughter" and not "his daughter"?
She refers to the daughter as "his daughter" several times, but there are some grammatical inconsistencies that suggest perhaps not English as a first language or perhaps doesn't GAS because honestly ... reddit. Anyway, where she says "her daughter" it appears there was a preceding sentence in the undisclosed conversation where the girl's mother is the subject matter in which case it follows that "her daughter" is the correct reference. ETA.... regardless of the technicalities of the language, she is the the arsehole.
Load More Replies...YTA Sound like you a gold digger The girl lost here mom Was okay with your moving in her house She let you drive her car What a b***h you are Wanted her to move her room Your man never lied to you Never assume anything Sounds like you missed out having a great daughter Your loss Poor thing liked you enough to share
You are, indeed, the AH...your fiance told you the truth but you chose to not believe him. Now, you're angry because you look foolish and like all you care about is access to whatever assets you can get your hands on. This man and hus daughter have seriously dodged the proverbial bullet. They deserve much better than a woman who demands a child surrender her inherited property to them, just because she's marrying her father. It's reprehensible you would even consider making such a demand and essentially trying to steal from a child who has already lost her mother. Not only are you the a*****e, you're a terrible rile model for your young son. Grow up and get your own instead of trying to take it from someone else.
I hope she returns the ring and the car with a HUGE apology for her crappy behavior... but I sincerely doubt it...
I can't help but think this is (another) story that exists only in somebody's imagination.
just because nothing interesting ever happens to you, doesn't mean this is fake.
Load More Replies...I don't get why commenters are talking about "maybe he could have clarified" if someone were to ask about a dress, and was told it was hers, then the question was answered. If you ask about a curling iron, and are told that it's hers, the question was answered. Ask about a house, and get told it's hers, and you need clarification?? The question was answered!! The fiance seems to be a stand up guy, and indeed dodged a bullet. Good riddance!!! If that Gold digger is already acting that entitled, imagine what it's going to be like 10 years down the road!! And to be so oblivious that she went to the internet thinking people were going to side with her!?!? Life with her would have been hell!!!
You should always talk about the big things - finances, where you're living, attitude to work, attitude to kids etc BEFORE you get engaged, or big disappointment or divorce will follow pretty soon after. So many people on the reddit AITA page (whether made up or not) end up in these situations because they've made too many assumptions before getting married, the biggest one being that 'of course my partner will want what I want.'
I can’t get over that he had 60% to put out on a house and she was mad that they would have to pay of 40%!!!! That would be a dream to every single person I know!!! She is beyond entitled and childish!!!
And it wasn't even a guarantee that she would have to pay the remaining 40. Just that he had saved 60 at this point, but they wouldn't be moving yet, so there was time for both of them to save more.
Load More Replies...I wish I'd seen this before the comments were locked. It's not just wanting to take a child's inheritance from her late mother that makes her the AH, it's... expecting her ex fiance adopt her son, but did you notice her language concerning HIS daughter?!? "Her daughter"... She couldn't even bring herself to acknowledge the girl, and rightful owner of the house, was HIS daughter. Bravo to him for getting his ring back, and seeing this c**p before legally binding himself to the witch!
She came in demanding to take over the house, the car and the master bedroom. Sounds like a gold digger to me.
*Gold digger tune intensifies* But with all honesty, what did you want from this relationship to begin with? You wanted a partner, a father for your child or his possessions? If a house and a car are so important to you, why don't you get it yourself? Then you won't need to go through all this trouble of getting a husband.
It's amazing how she totally ignored the savings for a new home. Did she say yes to the proposal or to the property?
So J-E-R-K is bleeped on here now too?!?! This place is becoming the word police at an alarming rate.
Obvious YTA, but there's a little detail I don't understand: I get why the house is hers, but if the mother passed away five years ago why is the 2020 car, which was obviously purchased long after that, hers?
Possibly purchased in her name from the daughter's inherited money on the agreement he could use it until she was old enough to drive.
Load More Replies...What's she even bringing to the table? She's driving his daughters vehicle - basically neither bring anything to the table - luckily her mom did and ensured she'd be ok. I cannot get past the part where this lady is angry that basically she's not getting a home and car she put nothing into. She must really feel her 'gina is worth a home and a car - and a free ride. Even if it wasn't the daughters - exactly what entitles her to what her fiancée has?
YTA and you're a gold digger to look at a house that's not yours and demanded it for yourself. He's a lucky b@$t@rd to find out now before he's stuck with you forever.
Peoples entitlement and inability to just stay calm till you have all the information in a situation is crazy...like everyone said her mom wanted to make sure someone like you didnt do what you were trying to do to her child...you are def the AH and beyond here...and glad glad we got the update and he wants the ring back...and i would have called the cops and reported the car you took stolen
Karma couldn't have come quicker. Sometimes it's better to just shut your mouth and appreciate what you have. In wanting more and more, she now has absolutely nothing.
Yes yta and you really need to work on your moral and ethical scope of reality. What do you think gives you the right to ask him that? And what's worse is you got mad at him for saying no it belongs to his daughter. You don't deserve to have either of them in your life ever again after that.
I've read enough stories about evil stepparents. I'm glad this father took his daughter's side and not the fiancée. Best line was the last - she had to give the ring back and it's over. Hooray!!!
Unbelievable. What an entitled, greedy, b*tch. I'm so glad for the daughter that her father didn't marry this horrible woman. I feel sorry for her son. If he ends up making big $$ someday, she's going to be a barnacle.
The rare story from TAH side, interesting stuff m. Also - how on gods name do these people exist?
Glad the dad got out when he did. You would have been a horrible stepmom-and you did not listen when he told you the truth. Would you like for some woman to put your son out of his house/room? Shame on you for being so selfish.
Sorry, what is a master bedroom? I'm not American, whenever I've helped people move into their new flats/houses or furnished my own home, we just put the bed in the most convenient room. Is a master bedroom special in some kind of way?
I'm from the UK so could be wrong but the way I take it, it's the largest or 'best' bedroom of the house. For example in my house the master bedroom would probably be 'bedroom 1' as it's the largest and has an en suite so also qualifies as the 'best' since it has its own bathroom. The other bedrooms are all smaller and you'd have to then share the family bathroom. Hope that helps.
Load More Replies...This is awful. I lost my Mum aged 12 and it devastated me so his daughter is his top priority - would be anyway but even more so in the circumstances. I think the OP is incredibly insensitive and needs to work on themselves before commiting to any future relationship because to have a healthy relationship you need to respect your partner's point of view even when you don't understand it.
My father has to deal with this so often, my parents are split, but my dad has always made sure his kids have always had a place to go back to, and so where he lives is bought under his and his kids (I’m pretty sure it’s “his kids” and not just me and my full sibling, as he has a kid from a previous relationship that grew up elsewhere generally), and every woman that finds interest in my father to try to pursue him, wants to have his property shared with them and not us kids. Even my bio mother is like that. Apparently everyone thinks it’s a dealbreaker (from experience) but will be labelled the bad guy if they pick up a fuss (from this post not experience).
I thoroughly agree with all the commenters that you, OP, are absolutely Wrong. Your fiance Told you that the car and house belong Only to his daughter; Not to him. She inherited both items from her mom. You may as well forget about marrying him. If I were him I would have called it quits with you too. You are very definitely the embodiment of an evil stepmother.
Since she wanna walk out of his life let her walk don't stop her. It's plenty of good woman out there that will love him unconditionally.
The sense of entitlement is simply off the scale. Par for the course these days
Love dad thinking correctly, started saving for own house. As for giving the 10yr old master bedroom, how big are other rooms. Funny never mentions "relationship" with daughter.
Op- play foolish games; win stupid prizes....! You dated for 2 years & never had these important conversations about your lives together? Do you(OP) have some type of career, training/education? Haven't you made any type of provisions for your minor child, should you pass unexpectedly? Maybe some sessions with a therapist and financial advisor should be next for you....help you to see what you couldn't before; and start yourself on a more proactive path going forward. You will improve your role as a partner for the future. Be well.
Load More Replies...BTA. There's literally nothing he could do... except tell you BEFORE the engagement that he's saving up for a house... and why.
Ho with a kid ..... sorry but you showed your true colors before you trapped him. Respect to the bf and brother for calling your a*s out .... Cant imagine what hell the daughter dodged here ...
After so many posts of people describing how one parent screwed over their children when someone passed inheritances to them . This is finally one where the surviving parent does right by their child and she swoops in and trys this ridiculous s**t. God bless him. For taking the ring back . She dint deserve to be apart of their lives . Unfortunately that means that her son will loose out on a positive father figure because of her horse c**p . They could have built a new life in a new house and left that one to her son if she was so worried about him being left out of a potential future and she took that away with her behavior
Having been in a toxic relationship before, I'm so glad this guy got wise and ended this relationship!! He didn't even think twice about bringing a toxic female around his daughter! Father of the year for that alone!! This woman would have eventually tore that family apart. Definitely better off moving on. Some people's entitlement is outrageous.
ESH. Fiance gave a vague and incomplete answer on purpose. As much as comments say otherwise, few would take "it's her house" as "the 15 year old's name is on the deed", so it's ridiculous to flay her for not digging further. Most would assume that it's "her" house in the sense that she lives there, and that the dad spoiled her by giving her the master. Which is a red flag about how he would behave towards new wife and step kid after marrying. I find it odd that he gave her his bedroom, even if she did inherit the property. It's his room. And he's likely paying all taxes and upkeep on the property to ensure daughter keeps until 18. It would be 100% untenable to be a 15 year old's tenant for 3 years. Who the hell wants to live with their in laws and follow their rules? No one. And this put a teen in that position of power. The whole set up and dynamic, with daughter in charge, is uncomfortable. And frankly, it is NOT gold digging to consider finances and be upset at being mislead
Gold digger played this the wrong way. She should have done what my niece's ex-BF did. Live in the house for 15 years and act like it's yours. After that time it magically becomes yours through adverse possession. My niece now has to pay $30,000 to get him out of the house that her grandmother willed to her.
The fairy tale where there is an evil stepmother involved is Cinderella, not Snow White. How could you get that one wrong?!
I find it really hard to believe that in the two whole years they were dating this never came up - especially with the car she is driving. For insurance and other stuff the owner of the vehicle would be listed. It's also curious that the mother left the house to the daughter, and not her husband and that the husband wasn't listed as an owner prior to the mothers death. Or perhaps there is a reason for that, and the OP is the one that dodged a bullet.
The car purchase was probably part of the will/trust set up by the deceased mother. The daughter is 15 and eventually gonna be old enough to drive. And need a car. The daughter let OP drive the car, no issues. The 15 year old is more mature than OP. And what is OP bringing to the table other than her son? Why doesn’t she have a car? Is she saving to buy a home? Where is her money if she’s been with the dad for 2 years? Women like her give the rest of us a bad rep.
Load More Replies...I don't think this is *necessarily* gold digging. She is the a*****e and comedically "evil" in her demands and attitude. But I think it has more to do with an extremely ageist/adultist mindset and the kind of social norms and entitlement that she is unwilling to part with, particularly when it's made more and more absurd to cling to such norms and mindsets. Oh she's a minor, so whatever is hers is really just for her parents to decide to give or take away whenever they want. And she's sleeping with her dad that automatically puts her in the position of "parent" (for some reason) and thus able to make such demands for changes and subservience so her preferences and expectations are prioritized, at least above the child. And he's the adult so these big box items that require legal contracts and s credit history, so these things should be in his name and thus at least partly hers because marriage. Yes the mindset and attitude is awful, but it's also extremely common. More so than a child inheriting a house and car. She is an a*****e and can't get out of personal responsibility. But we also need to be critical of the systems. Plus ourselves and those in our lives who behave or think similarly, even if on a much smaller scale.
I certainly can see where she was upset about how the fiance told her. However, she has no right to throw a fit and try to take the daughter's inheritance. In this situation, he was never a jerk about it, just unclear.
He was never unclear. He flat out said "it's her house.". OP just made assumptions about what that meant and never asked for clarification.
Load More Replies...Who wrote this story, a 2 year old? It was painful to read this poorly written trash.
Further red flags are the massive age gap, dad wanting to move out of the home he shares with the 15 year old now (wtf?), dad not being clear on the financial situation until he was forced to explain because his fiancee was making arrangements, dad being afraid of asking daughter to move out of the biggest room so it could be shared (not to mention dad giving her his room in the first place) and the dad not telling the OP they'd be a 15 year old's tenants. I don't expect this guy will find many women, if any, willing to put up with this arrangement. Adults want their own space they can control. It's why living with MILs is so fraught.
The moment I saw a kid sleeping in the Master bedroom I would have wanted my own place.
This doesn't sound real... And I also don't think she's the a*shole bc a 15yo doesn't need a master freaking bedroom guys. Child does not need a giant bedroom and a whole house AND a relatively new car. Idk why wife left all this to her teen daughter like that's really strange. Idk about a golddigger but I think I would care too if my teen step daughter gets this house AND new car AND master bedroom like what?? Dad sounds like a pushover and wife seemed maybe immature to leave all this to daughter. I'm happy she got out of that honestly
I'm calling BS. Minors can't legally own real property here. It can be placed in a trust in their name, but anything given to them reverts to their legal guardian's ownership, and no professional with half a brain is going to sign off on a deed transfer to a minor....
You've never heard of a trust fund? When my Dad died, his familial property was already in a Family trust & his part of the property legally became his kids. With his insurance, he did the same thing -- money is in trust until we turned 18,25 & 30; OR if we were to have kids between 25 - 30 We could automatically get everything owed. If no kids, final payout at 30.
Load More Replies...She may be a gold digger, but he was lying to her without a doubt. Obviously he gave his 2020 car to his daughter, and that had nothing to do with his late wife who has been gone 5 years. So if he gave his car to her, I'm betting he also gave the house to his daughter. Not to mention I find it hard to believe his name wasn't on the deed, to even allow the house to go to his daughter without his say so. There's more to this story than what he was telling her, and it sounds like he was protecting his assets by putting everything in his daughter's name, which is understandable if he didn't trust his fiancée
If his wife came from money and inherited the house herself, why would he be on the deed? The car also could have been bought from her trust on the condition she gets it when she goes off to college.
Load More Replies...Or maybe he's a father that loves his daughter more than some gold digger he's been dating for two years. Sounds like you've only dated/married losers.
Load More Replies...No HE dodged the gold digger bullet. The house was left to the "kid" by her mother, she is the owner and has the right to the master regardless of age. He saved up to buy a house with her - HE deserves someone willing to put in her own money to thier future and not want to sponge off his family and late wife's estate.
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