Father Says 11-Year-Old Daughter Is Getting Fat, Mother Refuses To Decrease Her Food Portion Sizes
For many adolescents, entering into puberty brings a lot of intense emotions, confusion, and stress. This period of change makes them really susceptible to developing eating disorders. In fact, about 2.7% of 13-to-18-year-olds in the US have one.
So when it comes to her own daughter, Reddit user u/Similar-Ad-831 wants her to have as healthy of a relationship with food as possible. The mom tries to do that by encouraging conscious eating rather than establishing harsh rules.
But her husband, who has had a difficult relationship with food for most of his life, argues the opposite.
One mother is concerned that she and her husband can’t come to an agreement over their daughter’s diet
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Mary Anne, a mother and writer from Silicon Valley who runs the blog Mama Smiles – Joyful Parenting, told Bored Panda that one of the most effective ways people can help their kids form a healthy relationship with food is by setting an example.
“Seek help for yourself from health professionals if your own relationship with food is difficult,” Mary Anne said. “Consult with your child’s pediatrician, who may refer you to a nutritionist or other health experts if you are concerned about your teen’s eating habits.”
Eating disorders are no joke. Young people between the ages of 15 and 24 with anorexia, for example, have 10 times the risk of dying compared to their same-aged peers.
Nowadays, girls start to express concerns about what the scales are saying incredibly early in their life. 40-60% of elementary school girls (ages 6-12) are concerned about their weight or about becoming too fat.
Parents play a big role in establishing how their kids view their bodies as children of those who are overly concerned about their weight are at increased risk for modeling their unhealthy attitudes and behaviors.
Weight stigma poses a significant threat physically but also to one’s psychological well-being. It has been regarded as a significant risk factor for depression, low self-esteem, and body dissatisfaction.
“One may experience [eating disorders] as an anxious state of mind, a depressed mood, or may have a mix of anxiety and depression,” Anna Hindell, LCSW-R, a psychotherapist based in New York, explained. “Turning to control and restricting food intake or becoming addicted to binging and purging is always a symptom or effect of an underlying feeling that the person lives with. It is usually some unresolved feeling related to low self-esteem, lack of worth, or repressed trauma. People turn to the attempt at controlling food intake or eating their emotions instead of dealing with the underlying problem, if untreated.”
Experts at the Crisis & Trauma Resource Institute say that helping children develop a healthy relationship with food doesn’t require restrictions – with the exception of allergies and sensitivities, or religious and cultural guidelines, no food needs to be banned.
“The best way to regulate a teen’s diet is to stock your house with healthy, easy-to-eat food and to model good eating habits yourself,” Mary Anne added. She has 5 easy mood-boosting recipes for teens on her blog that are an excellent starting point.
“It’s important to remember that teens have different nutritional needs from adults, so what is healthy for you may not be healthy for your teen. I recommend taking any concerns to a health practitioner for advice, as relationships with food become complicated and unhealthy easily.”
It’s important to remember that teens have different nutritional needs from adults, so what is healthy for you may not be healthy for your teen. I recommend taking any concerns to a health practitioner for advice, as relationships with food become complicated and unhealthy easily.
Families should avoid categorizing foods as “good” or “bad” as labels such as “junk food”, “healthy” or “unhealthy” can set the stage for people to restrict, sneak, or overindulge in foods they see as forbidden.
It’s a much better idea to strive to be a positive role model and focus on building helpful habits. Like including veggies in lunch and supper or trying at least one bite of the item on your plate that you don’t think you’ll like.
It sounds like u/Similar-Ad-831 is on the right track. I hope her family comes around.
People think she should continue standing up for herself and her daughter
My father used food against us. No. Do not do it. if you're concerned, ask the pediatrician. Otherwise, parents need to stop working out their own neuroses by using their children. Repeat it with me: Children are not a therapy tool.
Just ask the doctor. If the doctor says your daughter is fat and on the way to obesity and diabetes then make changes. Dont ask the internet lol
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These are the people who raised the husband (quote from OP on reddit): "Holidays together stopped when Nan and Pop started calling her chubby when she was 8. They don't get unsupervised visits anymore either."
Oh no. Calling people names about their appearance / weight is horrible. How you can do that to an 8 yo child is beyond me. How insensitive and stupid. Those grandparents should indeed be watched because they will damage their grandchild like they damaged their own children.
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You don't need a dietician to tell you what a child's diet should be unless they have an eating disorder, allergies, or are malnourished or obese. Millions of parents get by without one. The dad needs some kind of therapy for his relationship with food and probably other stuff his parents shamed him for. As long as the daughter eats a normal diet and has junk food in moderation and her doctor says she's healthy, she's fine.
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Enough teenagers/ preteens deal with body insecurity without their parents pushing it on them! If your daughter is healthy, that’s all that matters
This girl is going through a completely normal growth pattern. She is active and playing sports. That's the most important thing. Limiting her food intake at this point would be harmful to her health. This reminded me of a family I knew really well, where Dad was a tad heavy, Mom and daughter one were slim, and daughter two was more heavy set like dad. I stopped accepting invitations to dinner at their house. Three members of the family (and guests) would get full servings and desserts. Daughter two, at the behest of dad, only got salads and no desserts, and would be criticized if she ate too fast, or if she said she was hungry. Fast forward 20 years, daughter two is now extremely obese and, surprise, surprise, has some real issues with food.
Maybe father should address his own problems (counseling?) with food instead of perpetuating unhealthy food attitudes on her. He knows he was raised with unhealthy views on food so he shouldn't criticize her. I know a woman whose mother always criticized her weight and she ended up with bulimia. She's middle aged and still has relapses with it.
Yup. I’m currently losing weight and I can’t f*****g stand it when other fat people project their issues onto other people’s bodies. He needs to see a dietitian for himself and sort out his own relationship with food before he has any involvement in what the daughter is doing.
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"she's at a perfectly healthy weight for her height and age". If that is true, then I'm completely in the "NTA" category... but I'm curious how the mother defines "perfectly healthy", because some people have a distorted view of what is and isn't healthy.
I interpret "healthy weight for height and age" as BMI. I think the mother means she has a healthy BMI.
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there are parents who way over feed their children and the children suffer because of it (poor health). If she is healthy and getting exercise, let her be.
not the a hole. in fact, it sounds more like dad has serious issues regarding food and is projecting them to his daughter. having battled weight issues most of my life i know that the restrictions put on in childhood can affect how we eat when we are away from that control. took me years to get a healthy attitude towards food and now i'm fine. but, boy...what a ride to get here.
Stories like these scare me. I know that issues like this can turn into ED especially anorexia like 👏 that. OP should ABSOLUTELY talk to a dietitian and pediatrician (with daughter and father present), and probably get a therapist for the father. I might sound kind of extreme, but to me, issues concerning diet are big issues.
Letting the daughter know these is a source of tension in the house and then taking a healthy kid to a dietician (when that kid has probably never thought twice about food) is likely to start her over-thinking about food and associate food and weight with tension stress and anxiety and then you have the perfect storm to create eating disorders.
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It's only one side of the story... We don't know if the girl is actually healthy weight and eats perfectly normal - that's what OP says. Husband noticed something was wrong with their daughter eating habits and it's rarely only imagination.
If a kid wants another piece of fish or an egg, give to them. But lollies are purely nutritionally detrimental, they're like the cigarettes of the world of candy. Get her a quality piece of chocolate with nuts in it instead. What should be key here is what is the benefit of eating this? Afe there omega acids, vitamins or anybother valuable things? If not, don't put it in your mouth.
That poor child is headed for an eating disorder. The only question is which one
Limiting food makes the body think there's a food shortage and it will then store fat. Ballance is everything.
The dads part sounds familiar. My mother also controlled much of what I ate. She had scoliosis and wasnt allowed to gain much weight, so she kept controll about basically all of us (except for my dad). I learned to sneak at night, where and how our house behaved noisewise so nobody would notice me. As soon as I moved out, I gained 60 pounds because 1. I didnt know how many calories were in what because my mother insisted on cooking and 2. I could finally eat whatever I wanted. Bad mixture. But by now, my mom understand what she put me through. She still asks every now and then but keeps her controlling manner for herself.
Not an A hole as making food into a big deal is bound to end up causing issues. However, maybe the crappy upbringing her husband had is clouding her a bit, it doesn't any have to be a case of complete freedom to eat what and as much as she wants, or demonizing food. I was similar to her when a teen, massive appetite but very active and thin as a rake. The issue came in my late teens when studying took over from sports, and growth spurts stopped, when eating the same amounts I was used to resulted in weight gain, and was a lot of work to get off again. They could try making subtle changes as a family, just to cut down chances of problems later. She mentioned the daughter is having big portions and seconds, so why not say you want to start having less food waste and just make enough food for a meal for everyone. Or that you want the leftovers for an easy meal the following day, so no second helpings for anyone. That way she is still getting a normal meal and your not making it an issue.
I ate so much over one summer my family called me the bottomless pit. I was all knees and elbows, but I also shot up 4 inches that year. If the kid is healthy, that is not the age to be restricting food.
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I think that if anything your daughters weight gain pays a part in her growth spurt. She is curvy and there is ABSOLUTELY NOTHING wrong with that. Tell your overbearing in laws the universe loves wonderful variety. The human form is inherently beautiful by design and some artists prefer models with actual realism (Botticelli). She a lovely, but living a life of honor, and integrity is far more important. Don’t give in. If you do all you are teaching her is to bend to the will of others who are unrealistic. Sending this with friendship!
It's so dangerous. I had family and classmates tell me I was fat as early as 5th grade. My parents tried to put me on a diet and my dad would always make nasty little comments whenever I ate with the family It lead to an eating disorder in middle school (MIDDLE school) and while I am better now, I'm still undoing the mental damage several years later. Teach your children to have a healthy relationship with food and don't push them either way, it's torture for both the parent and the child otherwise.
I remember the hunger of those years when I had that "growth spurt". I grew very fast, very tall. We as a family had three strict meals a day, and since we were poor, never had any snacks or extra food laying around. And I remember getting so hungry only an hour or two after the meal and then had to suffer till the next. I would roam the kitchen, desperately looking in the cabinets and the fridge, knowing there will be nothing for me in there, but still hoping. Let your daughter eat when she's hungry, OP, she'll grow out of that hunger very soon. Don't make this period harder for her because of your husband's fear. It may stick with her for the rest of her life.
This makes me so sad. I developed an eating disorder after gaining a little weight at about that age. I suffered for 10+ years with it and I can identify the triggers now, a lot were seemingly innocuous comments from family. Let me tell you, I wish I could have been slightly chubby than waste ten years of my life in ED hell.
My parents did a similar thing to my younger sister, i hated it
Words can be very damaging. I have a sis who used to be tiny at least before turning into an adult and having kids. Even if I have never been fat, I was bigger than her in size, so I was the bigger sis. And people would always point it out (making jokes like I was stealing my sister's food and so on) and this has damaged a lot of the perception I had for my body as a teen/young lady. I was the sporty type with a healthy body but I would always think I am too fat/unhealthy. Even if people would reassure that I am not, this is how I saw myself in the mirror. Though I have gain a lot more confidence about my body since I became a mum, I still tend to think I am fatter than I really am (Sometimes trying clothes way too big and then realising oh no Im not that size). I have a distorted vision of myself. I have a wonderful daughter nearly becoming a teen and all I wish for her is to be happy and healthy and to enjoy her young years to the max.
If they hadn't enforced certain standards before they really shouldn't change it, at 11 the kid is old enough to realize that something must have caused them putting her on a diet which is a slippery slope from basic adolescent self consciousness to a serious ed
You need other food not less. More protein and fat, less carbs. You feel more full from less calories.
Completely agree with the mother. My own relationship with food was screwed up by dieting and I wish it had never happened. Fatness has far less to do with various diseases than previously thought - fitness is what is important. If the kid is healthy and happy, let her be...
Well, his weight gain is more complex than just the rules of the household growing up, so admitting that to him will open up the conversation. But what he wants to do doesn't work at all and is a recipe for disaster. Kid needs to eat healthy, and b very active. Dad needs a psychologist and a nutritionist to intervene. And also get cracking on sports and setting a good example in finding healthy solutions in stead of projecting sick fears.
Yeah, please don’t give a perfectly active kid a reason to get weird about food just when puberty is starting. Some people are never gonna be skinny skinny because of many differing factors not the least of genetics. Setting up restrictions makes a weird binge mentality as a form of rebellion and like all bad habits the best solution is to never develop them so you don’t have to waste your 20’s unpacking and undoing that damage. You’re gonna want your kid to be be comfortable with her body so she’s just a more confident person in general and won’t get hosed by so many outside forces that prey on young women in their most vulnerable years.
Honestly, what is even the point of visiting Bored Panda anymore when I can just be on Reddit? It seems like these days all this site does is regurgitate Reddit threads with a few Stock Images thrown in for good measure. Sorry BP, but it's a little sad and I'm over it.
Oh. I did not know that the BP police forced you to push in this kind of articles...
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Easy solution: See a doctor, and listen to what he/she has to say. If she is on her way to becoming fat, I agree with the husband, and vice versa.
Mother is in denial. Ask any obese kid or teenager they will say they wished their parents had done things differently when they were children.
No. He can go now. You need to protect that girl from this intolerable bullshit.
I miss the weight + height of the kid 🤷🏻♀️ In general sweets and chips are not for every day but instead of forcing a kid to feel hungry it's way better to impove eating habits of WHOLE family and do more sports together. I wonder how strict And strong the father would be in such case 🤷🏻♀️
Or, and I know it sounds insane, they could see a doctor or a dietician and ask them their professional opinion about their daughter's weight and ask for advice to keep her from becoming obese. But I guess posting your domestic differences on social media is the more sane step to take in doing the best you can do for your daughter.
That's a very good idea. However, the writer does have a general practitioner. From reddit: "Our GP has not brought up any issues with mine or my daughter's weight". She also works in mental health and sees clients with eating disorders. Whatever one thinks about someone airing issues online, it can be done while also seeking professional help for a problem.
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If the wife gets a divorce, she'll definitely lose a lot of unhealthy weight, his former fat ass is bringing the family down, we really need to start a post called, "why do women marry idiots"
Why when men are being jerks society always blame the women they abuse?
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If she's healthy, then the parents have to STFU. My relationship with food is one of borderline terror on my part, thanks to my dad being a (fill in nasty blank). If she's eating healthy amounts and types of food, then the parents need to go to therapy for themselves, and leave their kid out of the dad's neuroses. IMHO
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My father used food against us. No. Do not do it. if you're concerned, ask the pediatrician. Otherwise, parents need to stop working out their own neuroses by using their children. Repeat it with me: Children are not a therapy tool.
Just ask the doctor. If the doctor says your daughter is fat and on the way to obesity and diabetes then make changes. Dont ask the internet lol
Load More Replies... These are the people who raised the husband (quote from OP on reddit): "Holidays together stopped when Nan and Pop started calling her chubby when she was 8. They don't get unsupervised visits anymore either."
Oh no. Calling people names about their appearance / weight is horrible. How you can do that to an 8 yo child is beyond me. How insensitive and stupid. Those grandparents should indeed be watched because they will damage their grandchild like they damaged their own children.
Load More Replies... You don't need a dietician to tell you what a child's diet should be unless they have an eating disorder, allergies, or are malnourished or obese. Millions of parents get by without one. The dad needs some kind of therapy for his relationship with food and probably other stuff his parents shamed him for. As long as the daughter eats a normal diet and has junk food in moderation and her doctor says she's healthy, she's fine.
Load More Replies... Enough teenagers/ preteens deal with body insecurity without their parents pushing it on them! If your daughter is healthy, that’s all that matters
This girl is going through a completely normal growth pattern. She is active and playing sports. That's the most important thing. Limiting her food intake at this point would be harmful to her health. This reminded me of a family I knew really well, where Dad was a tad heavy, Mom and daughter one were slim, and daughter two was more heavy set like dad. I stopped accepting invitations to dinner at their house. Three members of the family (and guests) would get full servings and desserts. Daughter two, at the behest of dad, only got salads and no desserts, and would be criticized if she ate too fast, or if she said she was hungry. Fast forward 20 years, daughter two is now extremely obese and, surprise, surprise, has some real issues with food.
Maybe father should address his own problems (counseling?) with food instead of perpetuating unhealthy food attitudes on her. He knows he was raised with unhealthy views on food so he shouldn't criticize her. I know a woman whose mother always criticized her weight and she ended up with bulimia. She's middle aged and still has relapses with it.
Yup. I’m currently losing weight and I can’t f*****g stand it when other fat people project their issues onto other people’s bodies. He needs to see a dietitian for himself and sort out his own relationship with food before he has any involvement in what the daughter is doing.
Load More Replies... "she's at a perfectly healthy weight for her height and age". If that is true, then I'm completely in the "NTA" category... but I'm curious how the mother defines "perfectly healthy", because some people have a distorted view of what is and isn't healthy.
I interpret "healthy weight for height and age" as BMI. I think the mother means she has a healthy BMI.
Load More Replies... there are parents who way over feed their children and the children suffer because of it (poor health). If she is healthy and getting exercise, let her be.
not the a hole. in fact, it sounds more like dad has serious issues regarding food and is projecting them to his daughter. having battled weight issues most of my life i know that the restrictions put on in childhood can affect how we eat when we are away from that control. took me years to get a healthy attitude towards food and now i'm fine. but, boy...what a ride to get here.
Stories like these scare me. I know that issues like this can turn into ED especially anorexia like 👏 that. OP should ABSOLUTELY talk to a dietitian and pediatrician (with daughter and father present), and probably get a therapist for the father. I might sound kind of extreme, but to me, issues concerning diet are big issues.
Letting the daughter know these is a source of tension in the house and then taking a healthy kid to a dietician (when that kid has probably never thought twice about food) is likely to start her over-thinking about food and associate food and weight with tension stress and anxiety and then you have the perfect storm to create eating disorders.
Load More Replies... It's only one side of the story... We don't know if the girl is actually healthy weight and eats perfectly normal - that's what OP says. Husband noticed something was wrong with their daughter eating habits and it's rarely only imagination.
If a kid wants another piece of fish or an egg, give to them. But lollies are purely nutritionally detrimental, they're like the cigarettes of the world of candy. Get her a quality piece of chocolate with nuts in it instead. What should be key here is what is the benefit of eating this? Afe there omega acids, vitamins or anybother valuable things? If not, don't put it in your mouth.
That poor child is headed for an eating disorder. The only question is which one
Limiting food makes the body think there's a food shortage and it will then store fat. Ballance is everything.
The dads part sounds familiar. My mother also controlled much of what I ate. She had scoliosis and wasnt allowed to gain much weight, so she kept controll about basically all of us (except for my dad). I learned to sneak at night, where and how our house behaved noisewise so nobody would notice me. As soon as I moved out, I gained 60 pounds because 1. I didnt know how many calories were in what because my mother insisted on cooking and 2. I could finally eat whatever I wanted. Bad mixture. But by now, my mom understand what she put me through. She still asks every now and then but keeps her controlling manner for herself.
Not an A hole as making food into a big deal is bound to end up causing issues. However, maybe the crappy upbringing her husband had is clouding her a bit, it doesn't any have to be a case of complete freedom to eat what and as much as she wants, or demonizing food. I was similar to her when a teen, massive appetite but very active and thin as a rake. The issue came in my late teens when studying took over from sports, and growth spurts stopped, when eating the same amounts I was used to resulted in weight gain, and was a lot of work to get off again. They could try making subtle changes as a family, just to cut down chances of problems later. She mentioned the daughter is having big portions and seconds, so why not say you want to start having less food waste and just make enough food for a meal for everyone. Or that you want the leftovers for an easy meal the following day, so no second helpings for anyone. That way she is still getting a normal meal and your not making it an issue.
I ate so much over one summer my family called me the bottomless pit. I was all knees and elbows, but I also shot up 4 inches that year. If the kid is healthy, that is not the age to be restricting food.
Load More Replies... I think that if anything your daughters weight gain pays a part in her growth spurt. She is curvy and there is ABSOLUTELY NOTHING wrong with that. Tell your overbearing in laws the universe loves wonderful variety. The human form is inherently beautiful by design and some artists prefer models with actual realism (Botticelli). She a lovely, but living a life of honor, and integrity is far more important. Don’t give in. If you do all you are teaching her is to bend to the will of others who are unrealistic. Sending this with friendship!
It's so dangerous. I had family and classmates tell me I was fat as early as 5th grade. My parents tried to put me on a diet and my dad would always make nasty little comments whenever I ate with the family It lead to an eating disorder in middle school (MIDDLE school) and while I am better now, I'm still undoing the mental damage several years later. Teach your children to have a healthy relationship with food and don't push them either way, it's torture for both the parent and the child otherwise.
I remember the hunger of those years when I had that "growth spurt". I grew very fast, very tall. We as a family had three strict meals a day, and since we were poor, never had any snacks or extra food laying around. And I remember getting so hungry only an hour or two after the meal and then had to suffer till the next. I would roam the kitchen, desperately looking in the cabinets and the fridge, knowing there will be nothing for me in there, but still hoping. Let your daughter eat when she's hungry, OP, she'll grow out of that hunger very soon. Don't make this period harder for her because of your husband's fear. It may stick with her for the rest of her life.
This makes me so sad. I developed an eating disorder after gaining a little weight at about that age. I suffered for 10+ years with it and I can identify the triggers now, a lot were seemingly innocuous comments from family. Let me tell you, I wish I could have been slightly chubby than waste ten years of my life in ED hell.
My parents did a similar thing to my younger sister, i hated it
Words can be very damaging. I have a sis who used to be tiny at least before turning into an adult and having kids. Even if I have never been fat, I was bigger than her in size, so I was the bigger sis. And people would always point it out (making jokes like I was stealing my sister's food and so on) and this has damaged a lot of the perception I had for my body as a teen/young lady. I was the sporty type with a healthy body but I would always think I am too fat/unhealthy. Even if people would reassure that I am not, this is how I saw myself in the mirror. Though I have gain a lot more confidence about my body since I became a mum, I still tend to think I am fatter than I really am (Sometimes trying clothes way too big and then realising oh no Im not that size). I have a distorted vision of myself. I have a wonderful daughter nearly becoming a teen and all I wish for her is to be happy and healthy and to enjoy her young years to the max.
If they hadn't enforced certain standards before they really shouldn't change it, at 11 the kid is old enough to realize that something must have caused them putting her on a diet which is a slippery slope from basic adolescent self consciousness to a serious ed
You need other food not less. More protein and fat, less carbs. You feel more full from less calories.
Completely agree with the mother. My own relationship with food was screwed up by dieting and I wish it had never happened. Fatness has far less to do with various diseases than previously thought - fitness is what is important. If the kid is healthy and happy, let her be...
Well, his weight gain is more complex than just the rules of the household growing up, so admitting that to him will open up the conversation. But what he wants to do doesn't work at all and is a recipe for disaster. Kid needs to eat healthy, and b very active. Dad needs a psychologist and a nutritionist to intervene. And also get cracking on sports and setting a good example in finding healthy solutions in stead of projecting sick fears.
Yeah, please don’t give a perfectly active kid a reason to get weird about food just when puberty is starting. Some people are never gonna be skinny skinny because of many differing factors not the least of genetics. Setting up restrictions makes a weird binge mentality as a form of rebellion and like all bad habits the best solution is to never develop them so you don’t have to waste your 20’s unpacking and undoing that damage. You’re gonna want your kid to be be comfortable with her body so she’s just a more confident person in general and won’t get hosed by so many outside forces that prey on young women in their most vulnerable years.
Honestly, what is even the point of visiting Bored Panda anymore when I can just be on Reddit? It seems like these days all this site does is regurgitate Reddit threads with a few Stock Images thrown in for good measure. Sorry BP, but it's a little sad and I'm over it.
Oh. I did not know that the BP police forced you to push in this kind of articles...
Load More Replies... Easy solution: See a doctor, and listen to what he/she has to say. If she is on her way to becoming fat, I agree with the husband, and vice versa.
Mother is in denial. Ask any obese kid or teenager they will say they wished their parents had done things differently when they were children.
No. He can go now. You need to protect that girl from this intolerable bullshit.
I miss the weight + height of the kid 🤷🏻♀️ In general sweets and chips are not for every day but instead of forcing a kid to feel hungry it's way better to impove eating habits of WHOLE family and do more sports together. I wonder how strict And strong the father would be in such case 🤷🏻♀️
Or, and I know it sounds insane, they could see a doctor or a dietician and ask them their professional opinion about their daughter's weight and ask for advice to keep her from becoming obese. But I guess posting your domestic differences on social media is the more sane step to take in doing the best you can do for your daughter.
That's a very good idea. However, the writer does have a general practitioner. From reddit: "Our GP has not brought up any issues with mine or my daughter's weight". She also works in mental health and sees clients with eating disorders. Whatever one thinks about someone airing issues online, it can be done while also seeking professional help for a problem.
Load More Replies... If the wife gets a divorce, she'll definitely lose a lot of unhealthy weight, his former fat ass is bringing the family down, we really need to start a post called, "why do women marry idiots"
Why when men are being jerks society always blame the women they abuse?
Load More Replies... If she's healthy, then the parents have to STFU. My relationship with food is one of borderline terror on my part, thanks to my dad being a (fill in nasty blank). If she's eating healthy amounts and types of food, then the parents need to go to therapy for themselves, and leave their kid out of the dad's neuroses. IMHO
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