When I was 16 I developed an eating disorder (anorexia). I also struggled with depression and self-harm issues. The last 4 years I’ve been in several (clinical) treatments. I am still not there yet, but I am further along the road to recovery than ever.
Yesterday something happened to me which made me think (and stress) a lot. It was such a small thing, but it was like a bomb hit me.
Now, I’m writing a message to the guys who fat-shamed me.
This is me (20)
Although I still don’t have a healthy weight, I am so much happier now. I am going to own my size. I hope one day I can mean something to the world. I hope by then, they have seen and read this article and learned from it.
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Share on FacebookI have so much respect for her! I hope she will find confidence in her body because she look stunning!
Better to have a little meat on your bones and be healthy than being thin as a twig and close to death. Also, some teens are real s**theads. I know from experience. Trying to act cool by being rude and insulting when in reality they just look stupid. Don't mind them. Ignore the pathetic little idiots and love yourself because that's what you deserve
@AlphaPuck I agree that being overweighed isn't the most healthy option! Fortunately, my blood results are great! I cycle 17 miles on every week day and eat a lot of veggies and enough fruit! Unfortunately I am a huge stress and emotion eater and I do have a lot of binges besides my healthy eating pattern. I hope I will go back to a healthy bodyweight in the future, but a big difference between now and then is my mental health state. I no longer punish my body by hours of exercising on little to no food. I am able to live again. Lots of love, Eva xx
Load More Replies...All these beautiful and sweet comments are bringing me to tears. You guys are the ones who give the world hope, love and respect. You make the world a better place <3 Thanks guys for being awesome, the world needs more of you <3
You are so beautiful, and you shoulsnt change, you are an amazinf person, no matter what some snobby teens think. 💗
Load More Replies...I'm not anorexic, but sometimes I feel so fat, and bulky. I've got a lot of dysphoria (not dysmorphia) from my body, and I sometimes limit what I eat because I feel fat. Then other times I'll eat a lot because I feel so thin, and I weigh 110 pounds, I'm 5'2 34" (5'3"), and I can't decide what I want. My stomach feels huge and I look down at my feet while I'm in the shower, and sometimes I can't see my knees, but my breasts make me cry because they feel so big. People say I shouldn't starve myself, but I feel like I need to, in order to keep myself happy. I want more weight so I don't feel thin, but I don't want it at the same time, because my breasts will grow with it... I'm sorry for taking your time for venting about my body issues, downvote me if you want to.
You deserve the help you nees. Please go and find a place to talk about this problem. It is real and difficult. Hope you realise one day your body does not define you and you are good enough no matter what size you are ❤
Load More Replies...You are certainly not fat. And you have beautiful skin. You have been through a lot and are still going through it. You are right, don't let the snorting idiots make you doubt yourself.
You mean something to the world now. You have shown tremendous courage not only by facing your demons, but by opening up about that struggling and speaking out against those thoughtless idiots. You made my hero list <3
She is absolutely gorgeous at BMI 30. That self-contentness on her face is the most stunning part of her. No matter the BMI, the most beautiful woman is a happy one. Anyone that could shame a woman they are with about her weight and be okay with their misery is a tragic individual that will never know love. I'm damn proud of her.
Kiddo, you are doing amazing! The things you have overcome are not for the weak. You are so STRONG!!! Don't let idiots get to you, they have no idea how much stronger you are mentally than they are.
Don't cave in to artificial ideas about beauty. A century and change ago, fat was sexy because it meant you got enough to eat and thus had to be prosperous. Here's a word to add to your vocabulary: zaftig. It's from German and means "pleasingly plump."
Load More Replies...You are a super hero! You do have a purpose and place in the world. You own you!
As someone who has fully recovered from Anorexia, I'm so happy for you that you've realized your worth. You look SO beautiful and full of life now. Keep going. Don't let yourself fall back into Anorexia. You've seen how much better life is. Imagine when you're fully recovered. It's worth it. Ps. You're not fat so don't call yourself that!!!
thank you so much! I am SO glad you fully recovered! Xoxox
Load More Replies...I went through a long period of body hatred, social anxiety, self harm and depression. I still struggle with depression and self harm but I got to the stage where I no longer give a s**t about what people say or think about how I look. It's a long road so go- you are young and have one of the most beautiful smiles I've ever seen. Keep that chin up, the smile on, and the middle finger ready if someone says something disparaging. By the way, I'm a man. These things can happen to anyone - young/old/male/female. It's how strong you are that matters, and you are strong!
You're actually ridiculously beautiful. Not just physically, but mentally too for having the courage to share your story. Humans constantly judge each other and it's so mean and unnecessary. Keep up your amazing progress!
Girl! Love your curves! Those who don't mind matters and those who mind don't matter! You go girl stay strong
She tells my story. Once 100 pounds, I amazingly became pregnant.Caring more about my unborn child than myself I started eating. I then realized my soon the be Wasband only loved the weak, child like boney girl. When I weighed healthy 130 he cheated with another skinny, messed up girl. I'm an old lady now at 200 lbs. No man ever came near enough to hurt me again. I love me!
You are pretty as anything and have lovely sparkly eyes, easy for me to say but please don't listen to the idiots, YOU need to be happy with yourself and you have every reason to be. People will always project their happiness and flaws on to other people. Best of luck.
You are not skinny and you know that, but you do look healthy and you look so much happier. Health comes in many sizes - I am myself fairly thin, but I eat c**p (about just enough of it, but c**p), and my mum who eats nice and healthy is actually overweight. Size is not always a reflection of health. You look fab anyway and eating c**p is better than eating nothing!! <3 Ignore the haters and look after yourself. Love xxx
Honey, sorry to tell you but you are mit fat! You are a beautiful, healthy looking, young women. Boys like that are super insecure and they only feel strong in a group. Don’t bother... unfortunately there will always be stupid humans (women and men). Just stay true to yourself, you owe them nothing. You need to love you, that is the only thing that really matters. You are a great woman, and what you achieved in that young age is marvellous! Rock on 🤘
As a former anorexic sufferer myself I understand where you are coming from. I am now a size 12 (UK) and I think you look beautiful. I just shown this to my husband and he says to never change who you are, there are people who will always be mean to validate their own existence and there are people who will love you for you and worship the ground you walk on! I have recently thrown out my scales, as long as my clothes still fit I am doing ok! And you will too! For every 10 people who are mean in the world there is one who will see the world in a beautiful way! <3
thank you for your awesome comment! lots of love Eva xx
Load More Replies...It is tough in a superficial world to be happy and content with your own body/image, but in order to stay happy and sane we have to try our best. I applaud you for overcoming such a huge obstacle. You are fearfully and wonderfully made by God almighty and you are beautiful!! Keep working on being who you want to be and not who everyone thinks you should be.
Bullying can have disastrous consecuences. The way I define bullying is this: any unrequested negative comment about the way look or the way you are is bullying. I honestly believe that a lot of people bully others daily without ever taking into account that what they are doing is quite simply bullying. The opposit of bullying is to give someone a compliment. After all, is a compliment not an unrequested positive comment on your person or appearance? "Recoveryforeva" is a great handle. I wish you the very best for the future, you really have come a long way.
I just wanted to pop down here to say that HER EYES AND SKIN AND HAIR ARE SO DAMN BEAUTIFUL LIKE WTF
How sad. You never have to or need to justify yourself to anyone, or need their approval, to be you! The real problem, is them! Their mamas, never taught them the power of words, or the meaning of kindness. Probably neither love. You just keep being you, and forget about those a******s. And any other asssholes you encounter. Sometimes, the need to feel better. Makes them hurt others, shame them. Because they know no other way, or. How to ask for help. Next time some a*****e snorts or makes pig noises , stop and say, awww! Not too long out of your pigpen huh? Dont worry, you’ll learn English soon!
I lost a friend to anorexia. She looked lije the picture on the left and it was heartbreaking. I struggle with overeating and I know how hard it is to find a good balance with food. But being a bit on the fat side of things won't kill anybody (I am, too) whereas starving oneself will. I am very gla,d the poster is alive and on the way to a happier live. Live is worth living.
people are arseholes. its one of the biggest things i have come to terms with in life. they are arseholes, because they have nothing going on for themselves, they are scraping the bottom of the barrel of life having no plans to better themselves; they spend their days making fun of those who are struggling but are still going places. you are strong and beautiful and i hope one day i can be as strong as you are on my own journey.
I miss my 86 lb frame often. An adult anorexic, gaining the weight back has been brutal to my self esteem. I remind myself.. I'm not breaking bones, my teeth are breaking and falling out anymore, and I am stronger than I have been ever because of yoga. It's sad that we have to feel we aren't perfect enough. Love you life now and let no one get in your way of who you are .
thank you for your beautiful comment! You are amazing! Fighting an eating disorder is really hard and you got stronger and healthier which means you are a strong person. XOXOX keep on going
Load More Replies...People are horrible all over. I am naturally thin and get told to 'eat a sandwich' and ;only dogs like bones, real men like curves'. Looks like we can't win, sister. Stay strong and remember when someone says something hateful to you it speaks volumes about them, and says not one syllable about you. Bless.
This is certainly the problem with our society and the way we think we have the right to shame someone no matter their appearance. While their are health issues with being over weight, why if someone is happy in their own skin does anyone have the right or audacity to put them down? You look amazing and healthy, and happy. It is hard to get past those with cruel intentions but you got this. Whatever is going to make you feel comfortable in your own skin should be your goal. i have struggled with my weight my entire life, even starving myself just to lose weight. But my outside appearance does not reflect the person I am inside, be you that is all that matters in this life.
You are SOOOO MUCH MORE than your dress size. I send this message out to the universe. I have lost three stone plus and I don't hive a f**k what others think if me. What you see, is what you get, don't like it, move the f**k on. I don't care. I have physical and mental disabilities I am do F*****G PROUD of all my imperfections. I am what I am. These are gifts from my deseased mum, who I miss 24/7. Its a reminder telling me that she is with me everyday, and that's what my imperfections tell and give me. They are my security. XD. I will NEVER be ashamed of being I perfected, making mistakes ect. I am only human after all. Thus girl rock, and she uz just as beautiful as any other. Social media is a deseased concept and a dead one. Love and be you for you. No one is perfect.
I made an account on here just so I could tell you that you are beautiful!! Although my issues aren’t nearly the magnitude that yours are, I hope that I can have the same strength you do to keep going forward. <3
You are beautiful and I disagree with you saying you are fat! Maybe you believe that you have a bit too much on you, but my definition of fat is not what you look like. Keep working on your mental health, that's the most important thing there is. Wish you the best!
Reminder that it says 1000x more about a person who would try to diminish another person - a stranger no less - for their personal amusement than the person they are commenting on. Behaviour and attitude are choices, unlike physical & mental conditions, and if for those choose to be sadistic and cruel, the universe usually takes care of people like that in the long run. I'm also sure they spent the day mocking skinny people, tall people, short people, "wrong colored" people, people with visible disabilities, and in private, each other.
Girl! Love your curves! Those who dont mind matters and those who mind dont matter. You go girl
I don't think this is "fat"! You have more flesh on your bones like one of "Heidi's Girls", but you are definitely not unhealthy obese. You have a beautiful smile and I wish you all the best for you way!
Your weight looks fine, you look beautiful. Don't let someone's ugly shade your beauty!
You look so beautiful, and I'm so impressed by your attitude. Leave the pigs to their snorting, you are so much better than them.
I feel her story! I looked skinny and healthy once but I could feel myself dying, and one day I decided I wanted to live and since then I became hungry again. I’m now heavier than I’ve ever been and also healthier than ever. She looks gorgeous and so much more full of life! Best wishes to you!
You are beautiful and I admire your strength to overcome challenges!
You are fighting a hard battle, but it sounds like you have your head on straight. Best of luck achieving your goals and having some incredible adventures.
I hope she can see the problem with fat shaming is within the person who is doing the shaming. Much love to you and to continue your recovery, you look beautiful on the inside & out!
This is not fat, this is slightly overweight. Nothing to worry about. You look gorgeous, but more importantly, you feel better.
You are so beautiful and have such inner strength, I will never be able to fathom. You go girrrrl!
You are so beautiful inside and out! The haters are insecure about something in their life. You have risen above!
Good for you! and don't let the haters bring you down... YOU LOOK GORGEOUS! Mental health is definitely a struggle for so many people, including myself. You are an inspiration! Keep on keeping on and just remember the haters hate cause they have nothing in their lives to be proud of, so they love to bring other people down cause it makes them feel bigger than they are. I hope you accomplish everything you set out to be and if you ever need a friend or words of encouragement DM me on insta @nattpb
Go you!!! It’s so true. And for what it’s worth, you can be fit and heavy, having curves definitely doesn’t stop you from having all the adventures in the world! Most important thing is health, and mental perhaps more than physical. Amazed by your recovery, and wish you all the best for your continued journey!!
I agree with the OP's comment that she is overweight. Given the anorexia, it's understandable going from one extreme to the other, but recognising that she needs to be conscious of binge eating is a huge step. What amazed me is the complete transformation between in 2 years- that is dedication, a change in mindset, outlook and life- phenomenal and very well done. Eating disorders are incredibly difficult to overcome and you are doing a great job on becoming the person you want to be.
thank you dear! I still follow therapy to help me cope with my inner demons (and binges) because on a long term, binges harm your body as well. Fortunately, my blood results are great and my body is no longer in pain. lots of love, XOXO
Load More Replies...You go girl ! Do not let anyone tell you off ! Be proud of your beautiful self and own it ! Much love <3
you‘re looking great! don‘t let the insecurities of other take you down
Only people with deep insecurities make fun of others so that they can feel better about themselves. You are gorgeous!
And you can attain a healthy weight. But those guys will still be a******s. Keep up the good work. The world is better with people like you lighting the way.
Please don't call yourself fat. You are not. To me, you look healthy and I can see your body is full of life :) I know it's hard to believe, because I used to be fat-shamed in school as well and I know that feeling sort of never goes away. Just bear in mind that there are more people out there who see you for how beautiful you really are than there are bullies (who you should actually feel sorry for).
I am so glad that you are on the road to recovery. It hurts my heart when beautiful women let the ugliness of the world define what they think of themselves. You say that you are not 'there' yet...yet, you are stronger than so many people ! I hope that you are incredibly proud of yourself ! You are an inspiration for the world.
she doesn't look fat to me! she looks normal, maybe not like people on tv, but normal sized in real life!!
I wouldn't say she's "fat" & how she is now is definitely better than being a walking skeleton. There will always be insecure people who feel the need to display their insecurity with mean comments, but at the core, they feel worthless too. Hurting people hurt people. Broken people break people. Healed people heal people.
It happens to everyone. I was emaciated throughout my teens and twenties due to an autoimmune disease. People regularly said cruel things about my appearance. You have to ignore them. They aren’t psychologically sound individuals.
And I'm sure the little bullies who snorted at you looked perfect as all bullies do.
I feel urge to tell you, that you're very beautiful and look much healthier than before!
Weight control is often almost impossible. My dear wife went from a size 22 to a size 8, and I understand what it takes. While the author may not be at her ideal weight, she's close enough that she can have a good life without worrying about health issues. As for those rude young men, all I can say is this: if someone hasn't asked for your opinion about their weight, appearance or clothing, don't offer it. You may be assured that the person knows exactly how much he or she wears, what she looks like and what she's wearing. Only exceptions are if someone is unzipped, has a large insect crawling on them, or has something stuck to their clothing that they can't see. Other than that, it's none of your business.
You already mean something to the world, lovely one! Don't wait till you reach some mark of the scale - go have those adventures NOW!
My message to anybody who cares what other people think of them : don't!! It does not matter if you are thin, fat, long, short, gay, black, green or have anything that falls beyond what other people think as "normal" : As long as you feel good in your skin, and you are happy : you are doing good! In your case, you are definately not fat, no matter what anybody said. But you are, from your comments, not entirely happy yet. I wish you a lot of courage, on finding this happiness. Remember : You are the most important person in your life!
Awwww she's beautiful. I hope she gets to the place where she can see herself the way I do.
You are gorgeous! Don't let the a******s get to you (and that is what they are, a******s).
She is very pretty, such great eyes and a wonderful smile. Don't pay attention to idiots, just be your beautiful self and enjoy life!
But this woman is so gorgeous??? Why is "thin" only ever considered attractive when in reality any size can be beautiful? It's more important to be healthy and happy than wreck the body to please some a*****e.
My dearest... I know how you feel. At least partially. I've struggled with weight my entire life, and I've been bullied by my mother, my peers, random strangers. All I can say is that I wish I looked like you. Seeing what you've gone through is both heartbreaking and heartwarming because you did it! You are amazingly strong and beautiful and to those who even dare to glance at you sideways, just two words: F**K OFF! Much love to you, beautiful and strong girl! <3
You are a beautiful young woman! People who bash other people are just very insecure, and they make themselves feel better by making others feel bad. And ps I think there is a difference between fluffy and fat! :) Curvy-vs-S...7223cf.png
Girl you are fabulous!!! Thank you so much for sharing, I've been battling with depression and low self confidence about my own body since I was a little kid. Just like you I am getting the help I need and still have a long way to go. You are an amazing person and absolutely beautiful! Thank you so much again.
What we really need is skinny-shaming. :D But seriously - we don't. Nobody should be shamed for his/her BMI.
OMG, you're gorgeous, girl! Those boys only snorted because their brains were not developed enough to form real words! ;)
The problem with this story is that when they are posted, everyone is being nice. But walking down the street, that is a different story. Walking down the street the majority will turn their heads, either to look at you or away from you. Around here we all are nice and supporting, but out there, in the real world, the cruel fact is that if anyone gives you attention, it is to criticise. You are either thin and get cat called, or fat and get (sometimes literally) spit on. I don't know if you get the point, but ... well I hope you do. Anyway, as someone in the same position and roughly the same weight, I see you. And ps, you actually do look beautiful, it's not just people being nice.
hi there! Thanks for commenting! I really feel you… Unfortunately a lot of people characterize fat/plussize people as lazy and unhealthy, although in my case I cycle 17 miles every week day and love veggies! I do have a lot of emotional binges, what's why I gained that much weight. I wish you the best in your journey of selflove and acceptence. To me, you are awesome! Lots of love xxx Eva
Load More Replies...I'm so impressed with how strong you are and how much happier you look now. You go girl, never let them drag you down to their level of insecurity!
Much Respect! I love your personality! Don't let anyone keep you down, just hold your head high and keep going! You are Beautiful!!
It scares me because your photo from 2017 looks almost like me. I'm a professional ballet dancer, and the pressure they put on us to stay stick thin is extreme. You look incredible and healthy in those images!! I say "in those images" because I'm around 2 years late.
She might be not satisfied yet with her weight but I do find her really attractive
Girl,you are beautiful,full of life and joy, young lady.The most important thing is that you feel good and happy in your body. Enjoy life every single day of your life. Embrace your body and mind because a lot of changes are ahead of you and you will face them with confidence and strength that is in you. Those guys don't deserve a comment. Let mi tell you(i am 51and a performing artist),they are insecure and scare as it gets. So chin up, and walk with pride, conficence and smile.
I suffered from anorexia and bulimia. People call me curvy now. I don't feel good in my body and have huge struggles to accept it. But me too I'm mentally and physically at a better stage than I was while mylself starving or puging to death. You look great! I just wish people would mind their own damn business. They don't know what massive battle it is to overcome this sort of illnesses. At "least" you are making someone sad with this sorts of comments, at worst you throw someone under a bus, if you will. No, body positivity should not encourage to live unhealthy. But to encourage to accept people and their body as they are. Most weight problems are caused by mental health problems, it helps to be heard and accepted, being shamed and insulted does exactly nothing rather than making this persons life just even more challenging. I wish for your on your way all the best, but you are already doing so incredibly! Own it :)
She say she still doesn't have a "healthy weight"... is that because she needs to gain more to fully stop the disordered eating? A person can be healthy at any size she is happy (except maybe with a BMI of 11).
10/10 would smash! Humor aside. Nothing wrong at all with how you look. And the most important thing is how you feel. Glad that you are on the path of owning your own happiness. Once you shut out the noise, life is better :)
so how exactly are you fat? you made a huge change for the better and every hater can go f... him/herself ffs. way to go, i hope you make your dream come true in living your life to the fullest.
You are NOT FAT!!! You are beautiful. I’m so proud of you for dragging yourself back from the brink of death. It is not an easy journey. Look at what you’ve accomplished. You are an amazing human.
There's a girl at my school who's overweight, and kids call her nasty names all the time. There's one boy in particular who does it a lot, and he was discussing with his friend that "she looks like Shrek had a baby with a whale", to which that kid started editing a picture of Shrek's face on a whale to show it to him. If you ask me, the real pigs are the kids making fun of her.
YOU are beautiful - your skin is clear, your eyes sparkle, your hair is lustrous - those who put you down are either blind or completely insensitive (probably both). You are lovely and deserve happiness.
I used to be the same way. Focused on how I looked and so much so, it made me miserable. Because no matter what little I ate or how much I exercised, I felt like i looked worse than other people. They had the flat stomachs and I could never achieve that. But then, I had my first son. I ended up with a c section (emergency) and after almost dying, I realized the stomach I was left with was a symbol of how strong I really am. How they cut me but I didn't die. How I stopped breathing and yet, have my 3rd child now. Look back at your past. Wave at how weak you were and look in the mirror about how strong you ARE. AND KNOW, that will never be you again. I don't care what others think about me. Because my sons think I'm beautiful. And I feel beautiful. Because I see myself in them. And now can't believe how I ever thought I was ugly. Because they are such handsome boys.
You look great. Some people are just a******s. It is good that you are getting your life on track. You do you! Don't worry about what other people think, as long as you're happy.
I am so happy that you are doing so much better than you were in 2017. If people thought before their words came flying out of their mouths, they would not do such damage to others. Their parents need to teach them better. You are strong and beautiful and I hope you achieve all of your goals. You look perfect to me.
The now photo looks normal and just fine. If you want more muscle tone, then go get it, but you look fine as you are. That before photo is so harsh, so...haunting. Your mother gave birth to you because she wanted to, she wanted you to be here, experience things, love and be loved. None of that has anything to do with what your body weight is at any time during this life. Also jerks who make sounds like that are also pretty aware of what people think of them, so feel free to show them what you think of their behavior. I find a combo look of disgust - rbf - scowl - the queen disapproves/off with their heads - mom look tears people down to three year olds who just figured out they are about to get their business jammed. Own it. Love to you.
A lot of men like curvy or chubby women really, and they don't have the balls to admit it.
Good Luck on your recovery, youre beautiful, and dont let some,snobby teenage humour try and change that. 👍
@recoveryforeva — My dear, you are ABSOLUTELY STUNNING in EVERY way! You are the proud owner of a body that has, quite literally, been through a war - and you have the scars to prove it. Not only do you have a gorgeously curvy figure, but your skin is glowing, your smile is magical and damn gurl, your fashion sense if en pointe! Love every inch of yourself every single day, because at the end of it all - it will always be YOU. MUCH love from a fellow struggler in Canada.
You are beautiful. May I recommend christyharrison.com/foodpsych and the related Facebook group, Food Psych Podcast Listener Discussion. People who have been there and are Healthy at Every Size. Best wishes.
Listen, you have beaten Anorexia so you ARE a winner, you are beautiful, I bet those guys were jealous of the way you look, just laugh at people like that. Be strong.
You are beautiful and amazing, those teens were just looking for attention. You go girl!
You are so beautiful!! <3 I am proud of you for sticking through it all and ignoring these pig snorting idiots. I too have a great respect for you :)
Girl, you are beautiful!! No matter you'll gain or loose some weight, you will be just as beautiful. If you have curve, than use them and rule the world, 'cause you can! <3 And when you meet again brainless people, just smile and walk away, no matter how hard is that. If you don't give them what they expect, they'll loose. I'm so glad that you got here, I wish you the best, never give up! <3
You look amazing and absolutely lovely. I'm very proud of you for fighting your demons!
You look so beautiful, please find confidence in yourself as I think anyone who begs to differ probably has issues themselves.
TBH she's not as fat as those poorly raised kids try to make her seem. And she is very beautiful, and emotionally strong ladies. We can all learn some vital lessons here. The most important one is that you should never judge someone on their apperance. You do not know what they have| are going through.
Doesn't matter what you look like what size you are my dear girl there will always be haters. Just remember you are fabulous just the way you!
Teens are a******s. I'm proud of you! (and side note.... hot damn! You have gorgeous eyes!)
Hey I'm a High Schooler!!! 😬 Lol though...kinda...but i see what you mean, these particular teens were really buttholes.
Load More Replies...You are beautiful, never doubt it! And for the petty person «guaranteeing» your triglycerins and LDL must be too high; BS! I have always been this size (BMI 32) and never ever had anything but perfect results. I am a health professional, active with skydiving, yoga, and physical work. You can be big and super healthy too! Love and Live 💪
You look AMAZING!!! I am SO glad you are here, learning to thrive, and speaking truth. Thank you for sharing a piece of your story with us. May you grow STRONGER & WISER every day! God wanted a YOU in this world, and I'm so glad He did.
I am a healthcare provider do not listen to the people telling you to lose weight, the anorexia is 100x more deadly than being overweight/obese.
I unfortunately know exactly how this feels, but you are on the right path op! You look great! Those guys are a******s and their punishment will be living with themselves.
You are not fat you are a beautiful woman, those who make fun of others do it because of their own insecurities. Keep your head up and believe in yourself.
You are gorgeous! I struggled with eating disorders for 25 years. One day I woke up and said it's not worth it. My family and true friends love me no matter what.
The fact that she could post all her progress tells me she has reached a point a little further to a positive life and a better mind set. If what they did does not bother u I am hopeful that everything else will just be a story to help others to a road of recovery and hope.
You are gorgeous, honestly body fat and health are quite different, you don't need to be slim to be healthy. And you don't need to be overweight to be unhealthy.
I am aware that this is quite late but just in case know that there are always people out there that will support you unconditionally
Load More Replies...You are an AMAZING & BEAUTIFUL woman! Coming from a man who has suffered with an eating disorder for almost my entire life, you are someone to be admired & respected!
You look absolutely gorgeous. Just gorgeous. Don't listen to ignorant, nasty people. Love your beautiful self.
I wish more young women understood and had the strength that you have. We are pressured to look perfect. Good for you for taking the steps to regain your Mental health. Keep up the amazing work!
You are an inspiration. Often when people behave the way those teens did, it is because they have negative things going on in their own lives. Feel sorry for them and take strength in knowing you are a better person and getting stronger all the time. I predict amazing things happening in your future and you will deserve all of them.
People can be ignorant, but that's THEIR problem. When you're on your own, inside your own head, it's difficult to process ignorant people, you'll get there you are inspiring and beautiful, keep reading thee replies and take on board the support you have. x
You are not fat and who the hell cares if you are? Be YOU. The BEST YOU that you can be. That is all that matters. It is YOUR life to live, not theirs. Never mind the a******s. They are not worth mentioning. Karma will take care of them. You just keep on the path you made for yourself. Never mind the weeds along the way.
Where ever your journey takes you, may you always find peace and joy. You look fine right now and be accepting of that. Good luck and go forward!!
You are absolutely beautiful! Please don't let the bastards get you down. Obviously they have their own issues they can't deal with, hence they pick on others. You do you girl. Congrats!
We all have demons we battle on a daily basis and it sucks that the world can be so shallow and cruel. But, keep doing you and continue to be resilient to the bs that comes with some people! :)
You are gorgeous and you deserve all the great adventures that life can offer. I admire you for all the progress you have made. You are strong and wonderful just like you are. Please don't wait until you think you are "perfect" to do the things you want to do in this life. You are perfect now because you are you. We only get one go around. Go on some adventures now. Don't let anyone stop you, including yourself.
You are stunning! The BMI is a joke, btw. Keep working on yourself and your goals. That you had the courage to post this thread says a lot about your recovery.
I like round figures. So do lots of other people. Stay strong Lady. You are awesome.......
You are a fighter.. don't care about those rude/ignorant/stupid teens on the streets.. you look absolutely beautiful 💓 and I am not being only nice, I am being honest..
I spent most of my young life under weight. Now I struggle being over weight. But I don’t let it define me. I am beautiful as I am. But it is sad that today’s society would consider such a gorgeous being with curves as fat. I think you’re stunning.
You aren't fat, you're beautiful and curvy. Plus kind, intelligent, and strong. Perfect just the way you are. Anyone who disagrees with me can go f**k themself.
To my eyes, you do not look fat. In your "now" photos you look very beautiful and, forgive me for saying so, very desirable. I respect you very much. Keep on going!
What sucks about anorexia (besides the fact it's a mental illness) is that it chemically "rots" your brain and can change it forever if you take it too far. I've seen it happen. It's definitely a mental health issue more than a bully issue. Yeah it's lame to be an a*****e and make pig noises (obviously) but that shouldn't be enough to push you to such and extreme. More attention needs to go to the mental health side because people act like if the bullying stops, these people would lead perfectly happy lives otherwise.
Hi there thanks for you comment. Please notice my anorexia happened a long time before the pig noise. Those noises were just a lill something to remind me I still have to work on my self esteem. Xoxo
Load More Replies...BMI 30 is a bit over, but she does not seem overweight at all, she is quite fit. It seems like a mistake in calculation or BMI is generally poor indicator of someone's possible weight issues. And yes, some people are clueless and stupid, and even if we all know that we let them sometimes get to us. There will always be someone who will try to hurt you for any stupid meaningless reason. Don't give that person any thought, they do not deserve it.
you need a hug. In the meantime, keep in mind how much damage your words can do.
Load More Replies...Are you kidding me? healthy means eating healthy food and exercising to a healthy extent, not bullying those who look wider than them...
Load More Replies...I have so much respect for her! I hope she will find confidence in her body because she look stunning!
Better to have a little meat on your bones and be healthy than being thin as a twig and close to death. Also, some teens are real s**theads. I know from experience. Trying to act cool by being rude and insulting when in reality they just look stupid. Don't mind them. Ignore the pathetic little idiots and love yourself because that's what you deserve
@AlphaPuck I agree that being overweighed isn't the most healthy option! Fortunately, my blood results are great! I cycle 17 miles on every week day and eat a lot of veggies and enough fruit! Unfortunately I am a huge stress and emotion eater and I do have a lot of binges besides my healthy eating pattern. I hope I will go back to a healthy bodyweight in the future, but a big difference between now and then is my mental health state. I no longer punish my body by hours of exercising on little to no food. I am able to live again. Lots of love, Eva xx
Load More Replies...All these beautiful and sweet comments are bringing me to tears. You guys are the ones who give the world hope, love and respect. You make the world a better place <3 Thanks guys for being awesome, the world needs more of you <3
You are so beautiful, and you shoulsnt change, you are an amazinf person, no matter what some snobby teens think. 💗
Load More Replies...I'm not anorexic, but sometimes I feel so fat, and bulky. I've got a lot of dysphoria (not dysmorphia) from my body, and I sometimes limit what I eat because I feel fat. Then other times I'll eat a lot because I feel so thin, and I weigh 110 pounds, I'm 5'2 34" (5'3"), and I can't decide what I want. My stomach feels huge and I look down at my feet while I'm in the shower, and sometimes I can't see my knees, but my breasts make me cry because they feel so big. People say I shouldn't starve myself, but I feel like I need to, in order to keep myself happy. I want more weight so I don't feel thin, but I don't want it at the same time, because my breasts will grow with it... I'm sorry for taking your time for venting about my body issues, downvote me if you want to.
You deserve the help you nees. Please go and find a place to talk about this problem. It is real and difficult. Hope you realise one day your body does not define you and you are good enough no matter what size you are ❤
Load More Replies...You are certainly not fat. And you have beautiful skin. You have been through a lot and are still going through it. You are right, don't let the snorting idiots make you doubt yourself.
You mean something to the world now. You have shown tremendous courage not only by facing your demons, but by opening up about that struggling and speaking out against those thoughtless idiots. You made my hero list <3
She is absolutely gorgeous at BMI 30. That self-contentness on her face is the most stunning part of her. No matter the BMI, the most beautiful woman is a happy one. Anyone that could shame a woman they are with about her weight and be okay with their misery is a tragic individual that will never know love. I'm damn proud of her.
Kiddo, you are doing amazing! The things you have overcome are not for the weak. You are so STRONG!!! Don't let idiots get to you, they have no idea how much stronger you are mentally than they are.
Don't cave in to artificial ideas about beauty. A century and change ago, fat was sexy because it meant you got enough to eat and thus had to be prosperous. Here's a word to add to your vocabulary: zaftig. It's from German and means "pleasingly plump."
Load More Replies...You are a super hero! You do have a purpose and place in the world. You own you!
As someone who has fully recovered from Anorexia, I'm so happy for you that you've realized your worth. You look SO beautiful and full of life now. Keep going. Don't let yourself fall back into Anorexia. You've seen how much better life is. Imagine when you're fully recovered. It's worth it. Ps. You're not fat so don't call yourself that!!!
thank you so much! I am SO glad you fully recovered! Xoxox
Load More Replies...I went through a long period of body hatred, social anxiety, self harm and depression. I still struggle with depression and self harm but I got to the stage where I no longer give a s**t about what people say or think about how I look. It's a long road so go- you are young and have one of the most beautiful smiles I've ever seen. Keep that chin up, the smile on, and the middle finger ready if someone says something disparaging. By the way, I'm a man. These things can happen to anyone - young/old/male/female. It's how strong you are that matters, and you are strong!
You're actually ridiculously beautiful. Not just physically, but mentally too for having the courage to share your story. Humans constantly judge each other and it's so mean and unnecessary. Keep up your amazing progress!
Girl! Love your curves! Those who don't mind matters and those who mind don't matter! You go girl stay strong
She tells my story. Once 100 pounds, I amazingly became pregnant.Caring more about my unborn child than myself I started eating. I then realized my soon the be Wasband only loved the weak, child like boney girl. When I weighed healthy 130 he cheated with another skinny, messed up girl. I'm an old lady now at 200 lbs. No man ever came near enough to hurt me again. I love me!
You are pretty as anything and have lovely sparkly eyes, easy for me to say but please don't listen to the idiots, YOU need to be happy with yourself and you have every reason to be. People will always project their happiness and flaws on to other people. Best of luck.
You are not skinny and you know that, but you do look healthy and you look so much happier. Health comes in many sizes - I am myself fairly thin, but I eat c**p (about just enough of it, but c**p), and my mum who eats nice and healthy is actually overweight. Size is not always a reflection of health. You look fab anyway and eating c**p is better than eating nothing!! <3 Ignore the haters and look after yourself. Love xxx
Honey, sorry to tell you but you are mit fat! You are a beautiful, healthy looking, young women. Boys like that are super insecure and they only feel strong in a group. Don’t bother... unfortunately there will always be stupid humans (women and men). Just stay true to yourself, you owe them nothing. You need to love you, that is the only thing that really matters. You are a great woman, and what you achieved in that young age is marvellous! Rock on 🤘
As a former anorexic sufferer myself I understand where you are coming from. I am now a size 12 (UK) and I think you look beautiful. I just shown this to my husband and he says to never change who you are, there are people who will always be mean to validate their own existence and there are people who will love you for you and worship the ground you walk on! I have recently thrown out my scales, as long as my clothes still fit I am doing ok! And you will too! For every 10 people who are mean in the world there is one who will see the world in a beautiful way! <3
thank you for your awesome comment! lots of love Eva xx
Load More Replies...It is tough in a superficial world to be happy and content with your own body/image, but in order to stay happy and sane we have to try our best. I applaud you for overcoming such a huge obstacle. You are fearfully and wonderfully made by God almighty and you are beautiful!! Keep working on being who you want to be and not who everyone thinks you should be.
Bullying can have disastrous consecuences. The way I define bullying is this: any unrequested negative comment about the way look or the way you are is bullying. I honestly believe that a lot of people bully others daily without ever taking into account that what they are doing is quite simply bullying. The opposit of bullying is to give someone a compliment. After all, is a compliment not an unrequested positive comment on your person or appearance? "Recoveryforeva" is a great handle. I wish you the very best for the future, you really have come a long way.
I just wanted to pop down here to say that HER EYES AND SKIN AND HAIR ARE SO DAMN BEAUTIFUL LIKE WTF
How sad. You never have to or need to justify yourself to anyone, or need their approval, to be you! The real problem, is them! Their mamas, never taught them the power of words, or the meaning of kindness. Probably neither love. You just keep being you, and forget about those a******s. And any other asssholes you encounter. Sometimes, the need to feel better. Makes them hurt others, shame them. Because they know no other way, or. How to ask for help. Next time some a*****e snorts or makes pig noises , stop and say, awww! Not too long out of your pigpen huh? Dont worry, you’ll learn English soon!
I lost a friend to anorexia. She looked lije the picture on the left and it was heartbreaking. I struggle with overeating and I know how hard it is to find a good balance with food. But being a bit on the fat side of things won't kill anybody (I am, too) whereas starving oneself will. I am very gla,d the poster is alive and on the way to a happier live. Live is worth living.
people are arseholes. its one of the biggest things i have come to terms with in life. they are arseholes, because they have nothing going on for themselves, they are scraping the bottom of the barrel of life having no plans to better themselves; they spend their days making fun of those who are struggling but are still going places. you are strong and beautiful and i hope one day i can be as strong as you are on my own journey.
I miss my 86 lb frame often. An adult anorexic, gaining the weight back has been brutal to my self esteem. I remind myself.. I'm not breaking bones, my teeth are breaking and falling out anymore, and I am stronger than I have been ever because of yoga. It's sad that we have to feel we aren't perfect enough. Love you life now and let no one get in your way of who you are .
thank you for your beautiful comment! You are amazing! Fighting an eating disorder is really hard and you got stronger and healthier which means you are a strong person. XOXOX keep on going
Load More Replies...People are horrible all over. I am naturally thin and get told to 'eat a sandwich' and ;only dogs like bones, real men like curves'. Looks like we can't win, sister. Stay strong and remember when someone says something hateful to you it speaks volumes about them, and says not one syllable about you. Bless.
This is certainly the problem with our society and the way we think we have the right to shame someone no matter their appearance. While their are health issues with being over weight, why if someone is happy in their own skin does anyone have the right or audacity to put them down? You look amazing and healthy, and happy. It is hard to get past those with cruel intentions but you got this. Whatever is going to make you feel comfortable in your own skin should be your goal. i have struggled with my weight my entire life, even starving myself just to lose weight. But my outside appearance does not reflect the person I am inside, be you that is all that matters in this life.
You are SOOOO MUCH MORE than your dress size. I send this message out to the universe. I have lost three stone plus and I don't hive a f**k what others think if me. What you see, is what you get, don't like it, move the f**k on. I don't care. I have physical and mental disabilities I am do F*****G PROUD of all my imperfections. I am what I am. These are gifts from my deseased mum, who I miss 24/7. Its a reminder telling me that she is with me everyday, and that's what my imperfections tell and give me. They are my security. XD. I will NEVER be ashamed of being I perfected, making mistakes ect. I am only human after all. Thus girl rock, and she uz just as beautiful as any other. Social media is a deseased concept and a dead one. Love and be you for you. No one is perfect.
I made an account on here just so I could tell you that you are beautiful!! Although my issues aren’t nearly the magnitude that yours are, I hope that I can have the same strength you do to keep going forward. <3
You are beautiful and I disagree with you saying you are fat! Maybe you believe that you have a bit too much on you, but my definition of fat is not what you look like. Keep working on your mental health, that's the most important thing there is. Wish you the best!
Reminder that it says 1000x more about a person who would try to diminish another person - a stranger no less - for their personal amusement than the person they are commenting on. Behaviour and attitude are choices, unlike physical & mental conditions, and if for those choose to be sadistic and cruel, the universe usually takes care of people like that in the long run. I'm also sure they spent the day mocking skinny people, tall people, short people, "wrong colored" people, people with visible disabilities, and in private, each other.
Girl! Love your curves! Those who dont mind matters and those who mind dont matter. You go girl
I don't think this is "fat"! You have more flesh on your bones like one of "Heidi's Girls", but you are definitely not unhealthy obese. You have a beautiful smile and I wish you all the best for you way!
Your weight looks fine, you look beautiful. Don't let someone's ugly shade your beauty!
You look so beautiful, and I'm so impressed by your attitude. Leave the pigs to their snorting, you are so much better than them.
I feel her story! I looked skinny and healthy once but I could feel myself dying, and one day I decided I wanted to live and since then I became hungry again. I’m now heavier than I’ve ever been and also healthier than ever. She looks gorgeous and so much more full of life! Best wishes to you!
You are beautiful and I admire your strength to overcome challenges!
You are fighting a hard battle, but it sounds like you have your head on straight. Best of luck achieving your goals and having some incredible adventures.
I hope she can see the problem with fat shaming is within the person who is doing the shaming. Much love to you and to continue your recovery, you look beautiful on the inside & out!
This is not fat, this is slightly overweight. Nothing to worry about. You look gorgeous, but more importantly, you feel better.
You are so beautiful and have such inner strength, I will never be able to fathom. You go girrrrl!
You are so beautiful inside and out! The haters are insecure about something in their life. You have risen above!
Good for you! and don't let the haters bring you down... YOU LOOK GORGEOUS! Mental health is definitely a struggle for so many people, including myself. You are an inspiration! Keep on keeping on and just remember the haters hate cause they have nothing in their lives to be proud of, so they love to bring other people down cause it makes them feel bigger than they are. I hope you accomplish everything you set out to be and if you ever need a friend or words of encouragement DM me on insta @nattpb
Go you!!! It’s so true. And for what it’s worth, you can be fit and heavy, having curves definitely doesn’t stop you from having all the adventures in the world! Most important thing is health, and mental perhaps more than physical. Amazed by your recovery, and wish you all the best for your continued journey!!
I agree with the OP's comment that she is overweight. Given the anorexia, it's understandable going from one extreme to the other, but recognising that she needs to be conscious of binge eating is a huge step. What amazed me is the complete transformation between in 2 years- that is dedication, a change in mindset, outlook and life- phenomenal and very well done. Eating disorders are incredibly difficult to overcome and you are doing a great job on becoming the person you want to be.
thank you dear! I still follow therapy to help me cope with my inner demons (and binges) because on a long term, binges harm your body as well. Fortunately, my blood results are great and my body is no longer in pain. lots of love, XOXO
Load More Replies...You go girl ! Do not let anyone tell you off ! Be proud of your beautiful self and own it ! Much love <3
you‘re looking great! don‘t let the insecurities of other take you down
Only people with deep insecurities make fun of others so that they can feel better about themselves. You are gorgeous!
And you can attain a healthy weight. But those guys will still be a******s. Keep up the good work. The world is better with people like you lighting the way.
Please don't call yourself fat. You are not. To me, you look healthy and I can see your body is full of life :) I know it's hard to believe, because I used to be fat-shamed in school as well and I know that feeling sort of never goes away. Just bear in mind that there are more people out there who see you for how beautiful you really are than there are bullies (who you should actually feel sorry for).
I am so glad that you are on the road to recovery. It hurts my heart when beautiful women let the ugliness of the world define what they think of themselves. You say that you are not 'there' yet...yet, you are stronger than so many people ! I hope that you are incredibly proud of yourself ! You are an inspiration for the world.
she doesn't look fat to me! she looks normal, maybe not like people on tv, but normal sized in real life!!
I wouldn't say she's "fat" & how she is now is definitely better than being a walking skeleton. There will always be insecure people who feel the need to display their insecurity with mean comments, but at the core, they feel worthless too. Hurting people hurt people. Broken people break people. Healed people heal people.
It happens to everyone. I was emaciated throughout my teens and twenties due to an autoimmune disease. People regularly said cruel things about my appearance. You have to ignore them. They aren’t psychologically sound individuals.
And I'm sure the little bullies who snorted at you looked perfect as all bullies do.
I feel urge to tell you, that you're very beautiful and look much healthier than before!
Weight control is often almost impossible. My dear wife went from a size 22 to a size 8, and I understand what it takes. While the author may not be at her ideal weight, she's close enough that she can have a good life without worrying about health issues. As for those rude young men, all I can say is this: if someone hasn't asked for your opinion about their weight, appearance or clothing, don't offer it. You may be assured that the person knows exactly how much he or she wears, what she looks like and what she's wearing. Only exceptions are if someone is unzipped, has a large insect crawling on them, or has something stuck to their clothing that they can't see. Other than that, it's none of your business.
You already mean something to the world, lovely one! Don't wait till you reach some mark of the scale - go have those adventures NOW!
My message to anybody who cares what other people think of them : don't!! It does not matter if you are thin, fat, long, short, gay, black, green or have anything that falls beyond what other people think as "normal" : As long as you feel good in your skin, and you are happy : you are doing good! In your case, you are definately not fat, no matter what anybody said. But you are, from your comments, not entirely happy yet. I wish you a lot of courage, on finding this happiness. Remember : You are the most important person in your life!
Awwww she's beautiful. I hope she gets to the place where she can see herself the way I do.
You are gorgeous! Don't let the a******s get to you (and that is what they are, a******s).
She is very pretty, such great eyes and a wonderful smile. Don't pay attention to idiots, just be your beautiful self and enjoy life!
But this woman is so gorgeous??? Why is "thin" only ever considered attractive when in reality any size can be beautiful? It's more important to be healthy and happy than wreck the body to please some a*****e.
My dearest... I know how you feel. At least partially. I've struggled with weight my entire life, and I've been bullied by my mother, my peers, random strangers. All I can say is that I wish I looked like you. Seeing what you've gone through is both heartbreaking and heartwarming because you did it! You are amazingly strong and beautiful and to those who even dare to glance at you sideways, just two words: F**K OFF! Much love to you, beautiful and strong girl! <3
You are a beautiful young woman! People who bash other people are just very insecure, and they make themselves feel better by making others feel bad. And ps I think there is a difference between fluffy and fat! :) Curvy-vs-S...7223cf.png
Girl you are fabulous!!! Thank you so much for sharing, I've been battling with depression and low self confidence about my own body since I was a little kid. Just like you I am getting the help I need and still have a long way to go. You are an amazing person and absolutely beautiful! Thank you so much again.
What we really need is skinny-shaming. :D But seriously - we don't. Nobody should be shamed for his/her BMI.
OMG, you're gorgeous, girl! Those boys only snorted because their brains were not developed enough to form real words! ;)
The problem with this story is that when they are posted, everyone is being nice. But walking down the street, that is a different story. Walking down the street the majority will turn their heads, either to look at you or away from you. Around here we all are nice and supporting, but out there, in the real world, the cruel fact is that if anyone gives you attention, it is to criticise. You are either thin and get cat called, or fat and get (sometimes literally) spit on. I don't know if you get the point, but ... well I hope you do. Anyway, as someone in the same position and roughly the same weight, I see you. And ps, you actually do look beautiful, it's not just people being nice.
hi there! Thanks for commenting! I really feel you… Unfortunately a lot of people characterize fat/plussize people as lazy and unhealthy, although in my case I cycle 17 miles every week day and love veggies! I do have a lot of emotional binges, what's why I gained that much weight. I wish you the best in your journey of selflove and acceptence. To me, you are awesome! Lots of love xxx Eva
Load More Replies...I'm so impressed with how strong you are and how much happier you look now. You go girl, never let them drag you down to their level of insecurity!
Much Respect! I love your personality! Don't let anyone keep you down, just hold your head high and keep going! You are Beautiful!!
It scares me because your photo from 2017 looks almost like me. I'm a professional ballet dancer, and the pressure they put on us to stay stick thin is extreme. You look incredible and healthy in those images!! I say "in those images" because I'm around 2 years late.
She might be not satisfied yet with her weight but I do find her really attractive
Girl,you are beautiful,full of life and joy, young lady.The most important thing is that you feel good and happy in your body. Enjoy life every single day of your life. Embrace your body and mind because a lot of changes are ahead of you and you will face them with confidence and strength that is in you. Those guys don't deserve a comment. Let mi tell you(i am 51and a performing artist),they are insecure and scare as it gets. So chin up, and walk with pride, conficence and smile.
I suffered from anorexia and bulimia. People call me curvy now. I don't feel good in my body and have huge struggles to accept it. But me too I'm mentally and physically at a better stage than I was while mylself starving or puging to death. You look great! I just wish people would mind their own damn business. They don't know what massive battle it is to overcome this sort of illnesses. At "least" you are making someone sad with this sorts of comments, at worst you throw someone under a bus, if you will. No, body positivity should not encourage to live unhealthy. But to encourage to accept people and their body as they are. Most weight problems are caused by mental health problems, it helps to be heard and accepted, being shamed and insulted does exactly nothing rather than making this persons life just even more challenging. I wish for your on your way all the best, but you are already doing so incredibly! Own it :)
She say she still doesn't have a "healthy weight"... is that because she needs to gain more to fully stop the disordered eating? A person can be healthy at any size she is happy (except maybe with a BMI of 11).
10/10 would smash! Humor aside. Nothing wrong at all with how you look. And the most important thing is how you feel. Glad that you are on the path of owning your own happiness. Once you shut out the noise, life is better :)
so how exactly are you fat? you made a huge change for the better and every hater can go f... him/herself ffs. way to go, i hope you make your dream come true in living your life to the fullest.
You are NOT FAT!!! You are beautiful. I’m so proud of you for dragging yourself back from the brink of death. It is not an easy journey. Look at what you’ve accomplished. You are an amazing human.
There's a girl at my school who's overweight, and kids call her nasty names all the time. There's one boy in particular who does it a lot, and he was discussing with his friend that "she looks like Shrek had a baby with a whale", to which that kid started editing a picture of Shrek's face on a whale to show it to him. If you ask me, the real pigs are the kids making fun of her.
YOU are beautiful - your skin is clear, your eyes sparkle, your hair is lustrous - those who put you down are either blind or completely insensitive (probably both). You are lovely and deserve happiness.
I used to be the same way. Focused on how I looked and so much so, it made me miserable. Because no matter what little I ate or how much I exercised, I felt like i looked worse than other people. They had the flat stomachs and I could never achieve that. But then, I had my first son. I ended up with a c section (emergency) and after almost dying, I realized the stomach I was left with was a symbol of how strong I really am. How they cut me but I didn't die. How I stopped breathing and yet, have my 3rd child now. Look back at your past. Wave at how weak you were and look in the mirror about how strong you ARE. AND KNOW, that will never be you again. I don't care what others think about me. Because my sons think I'm beautiful. And I feel beautiful. Because I see myself in them. And now can't believe how I ever thought I was ugly. Because they are such handsome boys.
You look great. Some people are just a******s. It is good that you are getting your life on track. You do you! Don't worry about what other people think, as long as you're happy.
I am so happy that you are doing so much better than you were in 2017. If people thought before their words came flying out of their mouths, they would not do such damage to others. Their parents need to teach them better. You are strong and beautiful and I hope you achieve all of your goals. You look perfect to me.
The now photo looks normal and just fine. If you want more muscle tone, then go get it, but you look fine as you are. That before photo is so harsh, so...haunting. Your mother gave birth to you because she wanted to, she wanted you to be here, experience things, love and be loved. None of that has anything to do with what your body weight is at any time during this life. Also jerks who make sounds like that are also pretty aware of what people think of them, so feel free to show them what you think of their behavior. I find a combo look of disgust - rbf - scowl - the queen disapproves/off with their heads - mom look tears people down to three year olds who just figured out they are about to get their business jammed. Own it. Love to you.
A lot of men like curvy or chubby women really, and they don't have the balls to admit it.
Good Luck on your recovery, youre beautiful, and dont let some,snobby teenage humour try and change that. 👍
@recoveryforeva — My dear, you are ABSOLUTELY STUNNING in EVERY way! You are the proud owner of a body that has, quite literally, been through a war - and you have the scars to prove it. Not only do you have a gorgeously curvy figure, but your skin is glowing, your smile is magical and damn gurl, your fashion sense if en pointe! Love every inch of yourself every single day, because at the end of it all - it will always be YOU. MUCH love from a fellow struggler in Canada.
You are beautiful. May I recommend christyharrison.com/foodpsych and the related Facebook group, Food Psych Podcast Listener Discussion. People who have been there and are Healthy at Every Size. Best wishes.
Listen, you have beaten Anorexia so you ARE a winner, you are beautiful, I bet those guys were jealous of the way you look, just laugh at people like that. Be strong.
You are beautiful and amazing, those teens were just looking for attention. You go girl!
You are so beautiful!! <3 I am proud of you for sticking through it all and ignoring these pig snorting idiots. I too have a great respect for you :)
Girl, you are beautiful!! No matter you'll gain or loose some weight, you will be just as beautiful. If you have curve, than use them and rule the world, 'cause you can! <3 And when you meet again brainless people, just smile and walk away, no matter how hard is that. If you don't give them what they expect, they'll loose. I'm so glad that you got here, I wish you the best, never give up! <3
You look amazing and absolutely lovely. I'm very proud of you for fighting your demons!
You look so beautiful, please find confidence in yourself as I think anyone who begs to differ probably has issues themselves.
TBH she's not as fat as those poorly raised kids try to make her seem. And she is very beautiful, and emotionally strong ladies. We can all learn some vital lessons here. The most important one is that you should never judge someone on their apperance. You do not know what they have| are going through.
Doesn't matter what you look like what size you are my dear girl there will always be haters. Just remember you are fabulous just the way you!
Teens are a******s. I'm proud of you! (and side note.... hot damn! You have gorgeous eyes!)
Hey I'm a High Schooler!!! 😬 Lol though...kinda...but i see what you mean, these particular teens were really buttholes.
Load More Replies...You are beautiful, never doubt it! And for the petty person «guaranteeing» your triglycerins and LDL must be too high; BS! I have always been this size (BMI 32) and never ever had anything but perfect results. I am a health professional, active with skydiving, yoga, and physical work. You can be big and super healthy too! Love and Live 💪
You look AMAZING!!! I am SO glad you are here, learning to thrive, and speaking truth. Thank you for sharing a piece of your story with us. May you grow STRONGER & WISER every day! God wanted a YOU in this world, and I'm so glad He did.
I am a healthcare provider do not listen to the people telling you to lose weight, the anorexia is 100x more deadly than being overweight/obese.
I unfortunately know exactly how this feels, but you are on the right path op! You look great! Those guys are a******s and their punishment will be living with themselves.
You are not fat you are a beautiful woman, those who make fun of others do it because of their own insecurities. Keep your head up and believe in yourself.
You are gorgeous! I struggled with eating disorders for 25 years. One day I woke up and said it's not worth it. My family and true friends love me no matter what.
The fact that she could post all her progress tells me she has reached a point a little further to a positive life and a better mind set. If what they did does not bother u I am hopeful that everything else will just be a story to help others to a road of recovery and hope.
You are gorgeous, honestly body fat and health are quite different, you don't need to be slim to be healthy. And you don't need to be overweight to be unhealthy.
I am aware that this is quite late but just in case know that there are always people out there that will support you unconditionally
Load More Replies...You are an AMAZING & BEAUTIFUL woman! Coming from a man who has suffered with an eating disorder for almost my entire life, you are someone to be admired & respected!
You look absolutely gorgeous. Just gorgeous. Don't listen to ignorant, nasty people. Love your beautiful self.
I wish more young women understood and had the strength that you have. We are pressured to look perfect. Good for you for taking the steps to regain your Mental health. Keep up the amazing work!
You are an inspiration. Often when people behave the way those teens did, it is because they have negative things going on in their own lives. Feel sorry for them and take strength in knowing you are a better person and getting stronger all the time. I predict amazing things happening in your future and you will deserve all of them.
People can be ignorant, but that's THEIR problem. When you're on your own, inside your own head, it's difficult to process ignorant people, you'll get there you are inspiring and beautiful, keep reading thee replies and take on board the support you have. x
You are not fat and who the hell cares if you are? Be YOU. The BEST YOU that you can be. That is all that matters. It is YOUR life to live, not theirs. Never mind the a******s. They are not worth mentioning. Karma will take care of them. You just keep on the path you made for yourself. Never mind the weeds along the way.
Where ever your journey takes you, may you always find peace and joy. You look fine right now and be accepting of that. Good luck and go forward!!
You are absolutely beautiful! Please don't let the bastards get you down. Obviously they have their own issues they can't deal with, hence they pick on others. You do you girl. Congrats!
We all have demons we battle on a daily basis and it sucks that the world can be so shallow and cruel. But, keep doing you and continue to be resilient to the bs that comes with some people! :)
You are gorgeous and you deserve all the great adventures that life can offer. I admire you for all the progress you have made. You are strong and wonderful just like you are. Please don't wait until you think you are "perfect" to do the things you want to do in this life. You are perfect now because you are you. We only get one go around. Go on some adventures now. Don't let anyone stop you, including yourself.
You are stunning! The BMI is a joke, btw. Keep working on yourself and your goals. That you had the courage to post this thread says a lot about your recovery.
I like round figures. So do lots of other people. Stay strong Lady. You are awesome.......
You are a fighter.. don't care about those rude/ignorant/stupid teens on the streets.. you look absolutely beautiful 💓 and I am not being only nice, I am being honest..
I spent most of my young life under weight. Now I struggle being over weight. But I don’t let it define me. I am beautiful as I am. But it is sad that today’s society would consider such a gorgeous being with curves as fat. I think you’re stunning.
You aren't fat, you're beautiful and curvy. Plus kind, intelligent, and strong. Perfect just the way you are. Anyone who disagrees with me can go f**k themself.
To my eyes, you do not look fat. In your "now" photos you look very beautiful and, forgive me for saying so, very desirable. I respect you very much. Keep on going!
What sucks about anorexia (besides the fact it's a mental illness) is that it chemically "rots" your brain and can change it forever if you take it too far. I've seen it happen. It's definitely a mental health issue more than a bully issue. Yeah it's lame to be an a*****e and make pig noises (obviously) but that shouldn't be enough to push you to such and extreme. More attention needs to go to the mental health side because people act like if the bullying stops, these people would lead perfectly happy lives otherwise.
Hi there thanks for you comment. Please notice my anorexia happened a long time before the pig noise. Those noises were just a lill something to remind me I still have to work on my self esteem. Xoxo
Load More Replies...BMI 30 is a bit over, but she does not seem overweight at all, she is quite fit. It seems like a mistake in calculation or BMI is generally poor indicator of someone's possible weight issues. And yes, some people are clueless and stupid, and even if we all know that we let them sometimes get to us. There will always be someone who will try to hurt you for any stupid meaningless reason. Don't give that person any thought, they do not deserve it.
you need a hug. In the meantime, keep in mind how much damage your words can do.
Load More Replies...Are you kidding me? healthy means eating healthy food and exercising to a healthy extent, not bullying those who look wider than them...
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