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30 Idealized Behaviors That Are Actually Toxic Traits, Pointed Out By TikTok Users
Have you ever found yourself in a situation where someone was acting inappropriate, but no one besides you didn’t seem to notice? And you didn’t say anything just because you felt as if it would just make everything worse? This TikTok user @nayaaford asked her followers to share what is something that people find normal or even idealised when it is an example of toxic behaviour. In her video that has 49.6k likes and almost 3.5k comments, she pointed out that one of the examples of toxic behaviour is wanting a “significant other” who is unfriendly and even mean to other people just because this would mean that they are not going to cheat.
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Minimizing your own experience by saying “others have it way worse than you”. No. My feelings are valid regardless of how worse it could be.
There's a balance here, though; you need to feel like your feelings are valid, but you also need perspective. too much either way is bad.
It encouraged more people to share their examples of toxic behaviour in the comment section: overprotected partners who end up being control freaks, covering early abuse signs with “if someone is mean to you, it means they like you”, or blaming one’s bad behaviours or lack of responsibility to their zodiac sign. This endless list shows some ridiculous as well as serious problems that society faces but not really takes into consideration, instead they are simply normalised.
Telling little girls "if hes being mean to you it means he likes you"... no.. just no
Giving men glory for doing all the normal things women do..ie: cleaning, cooking, caring for their own kids, grocery shopping, etc
I realize I am in the minority here - But I actually hate that it is assumed that my wife does all of those things and gets all the glory, when I am the one who does them all.
The virality of the video and the number of comments of this TikTok video showed that people are actually aware of these toxic behaviours. But why then people get along with these situations? Most of them occur in the family and groups of friends. So not saying to your family member or a close friend that they are being unreasonable saves you from a fight that at first seems unnecessary because these people are close to you, so why would they want bad things for you?
People bragging that they are “brutally honest”. You can be honest without being Brutal.
most of the time, they just want to be brutal. the honesty is just coincidental
Don't come at me but moms who excessively drink wine to put up with their kids. you'll never convince me it's ok .
OCD. It's not trendy it's an illness.
Later all these saved fights turn little annoying behaviours into normalised habits: spitting something upsetting and then calling yourself “brutally honest”, being abusive towards your son’s/daughter’s partner, or spreading toxic positivity when clearly this is not the way to solve an occurring problem.
Do you also find some other things that people say or do to be toxic, or maybe you know an effective way on how to stop this kind of behaviour? Share your thoughts in the comments!
Giving money to homeless on YouTube. Toxic. You don't need other people to see you doing charitable things for it to be worth doing.
Toxic positivity... let people feel
people who are upbeat and positive all the time tend to irritate me
They use their zodiac sign to justify their actions and anger issues.
Adhd- just because you were late a few times and got distracted by your friends in class doesn't mean you have it. It's not fun and quirky.
YES don't just self-diagnose because you daydream. Tell me once a professional diagnoses you bitch
Being each other's “everything”. Nah y'all both need lives, family, and friends
"Push yourself till it hurts” when it comes to work, school, physical activities. I don't get paid enough to go over my physical limits.
Treating trauma/traumatic events as a competition.
When the current gfs hate their boyfriends ex's for no other reason but the fact they dated him.
Mother in law's being abusive towards their son mates it's normal in so many cultures and it's NEVER OKAY
Men not taking care of their children because they have a new woman in their life
The whole “respect your elders” where I agree, you should show respect but there is a lot of disrespectful elderly and people in general who don't
I generally try to show respect to every person I meet until they give me reason to stop respecting them.
If they're disrespectful, and use "weren't you taught to respect your elders" as an excuse when you are even slightly less nice than normal, thats toxic
For the human race, survival of the fittest means the smartest... not the biggest/strongest. So, at one time (and it's not recent) anyone who was old got to be old because they were smart. If you were smart, you paid attention to what they had to say. Nowadays, most old people didn't get old because they were smart enough to survive life's dangers, but because of luck (living in a time of improved medical care, tech advances, etc.).
Respect is earned, not given. Although if I'm just meeting you I will assume you are worthy of respect until you demonstrate otherwise. That being said, if the first thing out a person's mouth after meeting them is, "you youngsters never show us any respect," then I'm out.
Courtesy is not the same as respect. It's courtesy. You can not respect a person and still not be rude to them.
I have always been taught to show respect to everyone first, but only to keep that respect if they respect you. no matter how old they are.
yeah, it really depents how the other one treats you, despite of the Gender or Age. i try usually to be Polite to everyone especially to Woman and the Elders. but if they tread me bad, i do almost the same with them. there was one Situation when i was riding the Tram, i was standing behind the Door but at the Site so that People could still get in and out. but there was this one elder grumpy Guy who wanted to get out and he meant i would standing in the Way in his Eyes. im pretty sure that he even came from the other Site and not where i was standing. he was scolding me and i think even insulting me. when we drove past him, i was first thinking of showing him the Middle Finger but then thought this would be too much, so instead i showed him the Bird, you know when youre pointing on your head with your Finger or made the wiper gesture. one of this things and i dont regret it.
Respect doesn't mean condone rude behavior at any age. I am old now and I don't let other old people be disrespectful to others without comment.
I think the phrase "respect is earned, not given" is backwards. I think one has to give respect in order for the other one to want to earn the respect. Would anyone actually care if a terrible person respected them or not? I know I wouldn't. On the other hand, if someone is at the very least kind, I would work to earn their respect. That's assuming respect doesn't just mean parroting certain phrases or actions like it feels like it is at times.
Respecting elders boils down to basic courtesy towards everyone, actually.
i always try to be at least polite to the People around me, especially to the Elders and Women, since i am a man. but there was once a Situation when i was riding th Tram and standing before the Door, because there was no other Spot left, but at the Site so that People could still walk past me through the Door. then an older Man came from behind, but not from the Site where i stand rather from the other Site. but he was still complaining that i would allegedly in his opinion and he said it in a not friendly tone. so when he was out of the Tram and we drove past him i just showed him the bird or made the wiper. it was one of this things, i dont really remember it. i was first thinking of showing him the Middlefinger, but i thought this would go to far. so you can see, i can tread People also bad if they tread me bad first. and it doesnt matter how old or which Gender they have. Respect always starts by yourself.
Overprotective partners - your partner should trust your judgment enough to let you stand up for yourself or ask for their help when it's needed
Hustle culture for me. Would rather have a good paying 9-5 than 3 entrepreneural "hustles"
People romanticise "being crazy" in relationships. "Yeah she's so crazy, she deleted every girl off my Facebook, she's so crazy I love her though
Friendzoning! setting boundaries in friendships should be okay. no one owes you getting into a relationship
Going through your partners phone
this is actually rlly disrespectful and disgusting. m8, if they let you use their phone its bc they trust you. don't exploit that.
The ‘psycho' girlfriend. There's a difference between boundaries and control/abuse
The concept of forgiveness nowadays is just "oh yeah they hurt you and u prob have trauma u will deal with forever but just forgive and move on" um no
Yeah like my ex friends beat me up ( I had bruises) I got horrible anxiety that they would stab me while I was outside bc my mum asked me to go to the store, after the weekend one of them ( didn't even apologise) asked if we could be friends again and I said no bc they beat me caused me pain and anxiety and made me scared to go outside
When people talk about beating there kids or scaring there kids
I don't know if this is toxic but people think that because two people have been together for years their relationship is perfect and healthy.
Any beauty standards
Couples that take pride in being each other's only friends and spend ALL their time together. It's good to be separate from your partner sometimes
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Idk if this is toxic or not but when parents (typically dads) “joke” about how if the boyfriend stays over, the shotgun will be out or something like that. Or they’ll camp outside the boyfriends room so he can’t go anywhere. It just seems so immature and shows a complete disregard for the guys feelings.
it is toxic. not only does it shame and disregard the boyfriend, it asserts that the daughter "belongs" to the dad/parents. neither of those things are okay.
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I really want to add something: they pretend to have depression because apparently its cool. It literally kills people.
mental illness seems to have become some sort of sick trend. now, i can't tell exactly where the line is, but i know you can feel depressed or anxious without having a depressive or anxiety disorder. i think for many people, the line is blurred. it's absolutely unfair to those who have an actual problem, and diminishes their struggles
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Grown men acting perverted towards young girls or women. Saying things such as, "Make sure to save her for me!" as a joke. Sir, the only thing being saved for you is a cell in prison.
Who's idealizing these? I've heard for years now that these are toxic behaviors, and we knew that long before TikTok came to be. Unfortunately there are always going to be people that oversimplify things, use mental illness terms as adjectives, put too much stock into gender roles and star signs etc. But this sort of behavior is NOT being 'idealized by society' anymore.
Pretending to have either ADHD or depression/severe anxiety are the ones I expected here. Found a lot more that I hadn't even thought about. One I didn't see was people talking about 'my multiple personalities' like, im not sure, but i feel like that'd be kinda offensive to people who actually have multiple personality disorder
And it's the wrong name. And it doesn't work like that. And if you have more than one mood doesn't mean you have more than one personality....
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started off mildly interesting and then took an armpit dive into "I wanna raise my hand and say something".
Let's not forget Hyping up people who f*cking post videos of their partner cheating on them and then destroying that person's car
Am I losing my mind or was there a very similar post somewhat recently?
Using spirituality and self- ̶ ̶b̶l̶a̶m̶e̶ healing as an excuse to stay in toxic relationships.
Idk if this is toxic or not but when parents (typically dads) “joke” about how if the boyfriend stays over, the shotgun will be out or something like that. Or they’ll camp outside the boyfriends room so he can’t go anywhere. It just seems so immature and shows a complete disregard for the guys feelings.
it is toxic. not only does it shame and disregard the boyfriend, it asserts that the daughter "belongs" to the dad/parents. neither of those things are okay.
Load More Replies... I really want to add something: they pretend to have depression because apparently its cool. It literally kills people.
mental illness seems to have become some sort of sick trend. now, i can't tell exactly where the line is, but i know you can feel depressed or anxious without having a depressive or anxiety disorder. i think for many people, the line is blurred. it's absolutely unfair to those who have an actual problem, and diminishes their struggles
Load More Replies... Grown men acting perverted towards young girls or women. Saying things such as, "Make sure to save her for me!" as a joke. Sir, the only thing being saved for you is a cell in prison.
Who's idealizing these? I've heard for years now that these are toxic behaviors, and we knew that long before TikTok came to be. Unfortunately there are always going to be people that oversimplify things, use mental illness terms as adjectives, put too much stock into gender roles and star signs etc. But this sort of behavior is NOT being 'idealized by society' anymore.
Pretending to have either ADHD or depression/severe anxiety are the ones I expected here. Found a lot more that I hadn't even thought about. One I didn't see was people talking about 'my multiple personalities' like, im not sure, but i feel like that'd be kinda offensive to people who actually have multiple personality disorder
And it's the wrong name. And it doesn't work like that. And if you have more than one mood doesn't mean you have more than one personality....
Load More Replies... started off mildly interesting and then took an armpit dive into "I wanna raise my hand and say something".
Let's not forget Hyping up people who f*cking post videos of their partner cheating on them and then destroying that person's car
Am I losing my mind or was there a very similar post somewhat recently?
Using spirituality and self- ̶ ̶b̶l̶a̶m̶e̶ healing as an excuse to stay in toxic relationships.
