“You Didn’t Tell Me About Her”: Woman Walks Out To See Husband Brought Another Woman Home

Unfortunately, some love stories are not meant to last. However, couples can, and arguably should, treat each other with respect, even after going their separate ways.

Though for some people that seems to be easier said than done. One netizen recently turned to the Mumsnet community, sharing how she felt disrespected by her soon-to-be-ex husband, who decided to bring company to their shared home after a night out. Scroll down to find the full story in the woman’s own words below.

It’s important for couples to treat each other with respect, even if their relationship has come to an end

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This woman felt disrespected by her soon-to-be-ex after he brought company from a night out to their shared home

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Many couples find a way to separate on amicable or at least neutral terms

It’s safe to say that upon entering a relationship, most people hope it will last. Though, as we all know and might have even experienced firsthand, many fail to stand the test of time.

The reasons for people going their separate ways are ample, some easier to cope with than others. But many couples manage to end things amicably. According to a survey commissioned by the family law team at Irwin Mitchell and carried out with YouGov, neutral and friendly or amicable divorces are now more common than hostile ones.

The survey found that among divorced couples in the UK, roughly a third described the tone of their divorce as hostile. However, 27% of the respondents said that their divorce was friendly or amicable, and an additional 27% deemed it neutral, showing that more couples than not manage to end things on decent terms, at least.

Commenting on the issue of (amicable) divorce, Claire Filer, a specialist divorce lawyer at Irwin Mitchell, noted, “Divorce is one of the most stressful life events people can go through, especially if there are children involved and in the recent cost of living crisis.”

In the comments under her post, the OP shared that if she were to move out, she wouldn’t be able to pay both rent and mortgage, suggesting that the cost of living was the reason she was still living under the same roof as her soon-to-be-ex-husband. This led to an unpleasant situation with the guest from the night out. Instances like that show that whether the separation was amicable or not, it’s crucial for both sides to set certain boundaries.

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Setting clear boundaries can help navigate the relationship after a divorce

Delving deeper into the role respect and boundaries play after a divorce, Maryland-based Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor and National Board Certified Counselor Jessica Kramer noted that even though it may seem uncomfortable or unnecessary, setting clear boundaries with an ex-spouse is crucial for several reasons.

Firstly, it helps promote emotional well-being by providing a sense of control and autonomy. “It allows you to create space for healing and moving forward without being constantly pulled into past conflicts or emotional turmoil,” the expert wrote.

Secondly, setting boundaries with an ex reduces conflict and feelings of resentment, as it can help navigate interactions after the divorce. According to Kramer, establishing boundaries regarding communication, decision-making, and co-parenting responsibilities allows the fallen-out couple to prevent misunderstandings and avoid unnecessary arguments.

Thirdly, boundaries play a crucial role when it comes to protecting personal space, privacy, and individual identity. “It establishes limits on intrusive or inappropriate behavior, ensuring that each party can maintain a sense of autonomy and dignity in their post-divorce lives,” Kramer noted.

In addition to all of the above, the expert suggested that setting clear boundaries can also help foster healthy co-parenting relationships, encourage mutual respect, and facilitate moving forward. And while the OP shared that there aren’t any parenting responsibilities involved, setting boundaries could arguably prevent situations like the one in her story, which, in the woman’s opinion, was completely disrespectful of her husband. Though, according to the OP’s update, the husband wasn’t too apologetic about his actions the next day.

Fellow netizens sided with the woman, they didn’t think it was unreasonable to feel disrespected

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Comment on separation: "YANBU. He's horrible. Change the locks before he's back. Disrespectful jerk.

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The woman later shared an update on how the conversation with her soon-to-be-ex went

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Text discussing the shock of a wife as an ex brings another woman into their shared home during separation.

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