Ex-Husband Breaks Off Alimony Payments, So His Ex-Wife Listens To His Arrogant Advice And Makes Him Pay The Full $120,000 In 30 Days
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Some people who are clearly in the wrong are shocked when they tell someone “sue me”… and then they do. The law is there to help everyone get justice. And though the system might have some flaws, it still fights for the good of all. In one case, it helped a woman finally get all the alimony payments her ex-husband had owed her and her two kids.
Redditor u/ChickWithAnAttitude wrote up a long and enthralling story about how her husband ended up backing out of an agreement to make alimony payments, and how it ended up costing him far more in the long run. What started out as a very amicable separation eventually led to a lot of resentment. Grab yourselves a cup of tea or coffee, and let’s dive deep into what broken promises can lead to, Pandas. Scroll down for the full story.
Bored Panda reached out to u/ChickWithAnAttitude and she was kind enough to answer our questions. “I think it was a shame for him to turn into a monster. If he had come to me civilly and explained he was strapped or something like that, we could have worked things out and continued the great relationship we had, but since he came in hard, the kids are suffering,” she was very candid about what happened.
Read on for the redditor’s recommendations if you ever find yourselves in a similar situation, why prenups might not be a bad idea, and why it’s absolutely vital to not make your kids choose between their parents.
A redditor shared what happened when her ex-husband backed out of the agreement they had about him paying alimony
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What started out as a very friendly separation eventually led to a lot of anger and drama
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The woman had a few updates for the r/MaliciousCompliance online community
Bored Panda wanted to find out more about the redditor’s note that she’d been getting some very nasty direct messages from some users. “The nasty DMs we’re probably from men who have never been in a long-term relationship where commitment and growing old together was ever an option,” she said.
“Once I added that edit about nasty DMs, my inbox was flooded with positive responses thanking me for doing what their parents did, or because their parents did the opposite and understood how bad it could’ve been,” she said that a large number of internet users have been very supportive of her. And many related to what she went through.
One of the best things that someone going through a separation or divorce can do is to get a lawyer and put everything in writing, the author of the story told us. “If I had not seen a lawyer upon separation, I would have been screwed out of so much that I didn’t know I was entitled to,” she said. What’s more, it’s important to keep a paper trail for the sake of clarity.
“Keep records of promises, checks, any changes should be in writing, even if it’s an email or text, and document who sees the kids when. This doesn’t mean you only speak through lawyers. We had a great relationship and I still kept every record,” she said that keeping meticulous records doesn’t automatically lead to a poor relationship.
We also wanted to get u/ChickWithAnAttitude on pre-nuptial agreements. “I think if both parties agree to prenups, then it’s fine. In our case, we got married broke and struggled for many years, so there was no reason for a prenup at the time. We also made the decision to have me stay home TOGETHER, knowing I would be taken care of in retirement by him,” she said. “Unfortunately, I had rose-colored glasses on and never thought we would part.”
The redditor was very open about the fact that she would have approached things in a different way. “Looking back, I should have done things differently, but I did the best I could at the time,” she said.
According to u/ChickWithAnAttitude, parents should do everything in their power to protect their kids during separation. “Parents should not put the kids in a place where they have to side with one parent over the other. Do not use the children as pawns, and certainly never bad mouth the other parent in front of the kids,” she stressed. “You loved that person when you created that child and that child should only feel love from the parents.”
The redditor’s story got a lot of attention on r/MaliciousCompliance. It got over 20.7k upvotes, and some people even thought that it was worth giving awards over. However, not everyone was as friendly. u/ChickWithAnAttitude noted that some redditors started sending her nasty direct messages, insulting her.
Whatever the internet’s reaction might be, the mom of two eventually got the entire $120,000 sum of back-owed alimony on day 29 out of 30. That’s a huge win for her personally and for the legal system. It shows that you cannot break agreements easily and that justice will prevail.
Some couples choose to get pre-nuptial agreements before getting married. That way, things are very clear in terms of finances and property in case of divorce. It might not make separation easier emotionally, of course. And not all couples think that a prenup is necessary. Some even think that it’s an indication that the relationship won’t last.
However, dating and relationship expert Dan Bacon told Bored Panda earlier that a prenup doesn’t necessarily mean that there’s a lack of trust in one’s partner. However, prenups aren’t for everyone.
“In many cases, it’s based on a lack of trust in the legal system, which usually favors women over men during a divorce. My wife signed a prenup, even though I had no reason to distrust her. We’re still happily together and in love almost 9 years to this day and have two children,” he opened up to us some time ago about his particular situation.
“I went for a prenup because I don’t think a person should ever have the power to threaten another person in a relationship with half of their assets. For example: A wife says to her husband, ‘If you don’t do this/that, I will divorce you and take half your stuff.’ So, in my opinion, a prenup is a legitimate way to help reduce the potential for that kind of manipulation in a marriage,” he shared his opinion.
“My wife was earning slightly more than me when we first met, but that didn’t change my stance on prenups. For me, a prenup is about getting rid of the potential for manipulation or threats and allowing a relationship to last on love, rather than on nasty legal ramifications,” he said.
“The prenup caused absolutely no harm between my wife and me because we are honestly committed to each other and she has no intention of trying to take advantage of me. If anything, it brought us even closer because it reconfirmed for her that she has no intention of ever leaving me,” he said.”
Here’s what people had to say after reading what happened. Some of them even shared their own separation and divorce stories
The biggest mistake women make in a divorce is they are nice. And by nice, I don’t mean fair or amicable, I mean they act like a doormat and don’t look after their best interests so that their ex won’t get upset. The ex probably though OP wouldn’t do anything when he cut off alimony and he would get away with it by playing his version of hardball. In many cases, he’d be right but he underestimated OP. I’m sure he whines to his friends and family about how his greedy ex bleeds him. Women need to look after their own interests because men sure look after theirs.
When my bestie divorced, her ex refused to do anything to support the kids or his dogs (which he dumped on her). By the time the divorce rolled around, she had kept good records. The court mandated that he pay back support and alimony in a big 6 figure amount. Fair's fair.
That good! She should not pay for his his HE DUMPED on her!
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A friend's husband invested all their savings in his start-up. It failed, they declared bankruptcy and about 8 months later, he left her and their children for a young, wealthy woman. He doesn't work, and he does not pay any support for his children (or dental care or school fees). My friend works three jobs and gets to work on a bicycle. It's really awful. I can't think how someone would treat their children like that.
Man-child. Probably didn't develop emotionally after the age of 12. She needs to take him to court asap
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My sil first husband tried to get out of paying child support. He kept under the table jobs working in restaurants. He had 5 other kids. Right before my nephew started college one of his half brothers let him know their dad was in a car accident and was expecting a windfall. All the kids except for the two that lived w him got all the settlement money. He got nothing. He thought he was going to keep that a secret lol.
My husband was never married to his ex, despite thinking they had a common law marriage (that was done away with in our state before they reached the required amount of years living together). He was really lucky, as his ex only required we pay school supplies and her insurance for their kid, plus any co-pays. I am friends with her and we invite each other to events like birthdays and baby showers. Her entire family loves me and our kids, and my family loves her, and her sister.
A very close friend of mine has two daughters with his ex wife, who is an absolute c*nt. I can't articulate how much I hate that woman for what she did to my friend. She continued trying to make his life unbearable even after their divorce was finalised. One such instance was complaining that he wasn't paying her enough in child support and she couldn't raise them properly as a result. By the way, she doesn't work because she's incredibly lazy. My friend got called in to speak to the relevant person about the child support and it actually turned out that he had been paying too much! Her attempt at f*****g him over backfired spectacularly. He now has full custody of his girls and they're MUCH happier with him, they've even told him they don't want to even visit their mum.
That's sad, I can't imagine cutting either of my parents out of my life
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The American custody system is pure chaos to me, I'm impressed people can even keep up with that without getting lost in confusion
Had a friend that earned 24K a year, one daughter and an ex that left her and married the woman that was his mistress. He was earning $84k per year, new wife $35K per year. He actually tried to take her to court to have his child support payments reduced. Backfired on him and he ended up paying more per month. Icing on the cake was my friend ended up divorcing husband #2 effect being that she slimmed down and changed her look. Suddenly her first ex is wanting to cheat on his second wife with his first ex. She laughed in his face.
Anyone who thinks they got their ex over a barrel with "life long alimony" might want to re-think that strategy. They have life long alimony... not for as long as they live... but for only as long as the ex is alive.
The first wife, when she is of age to receive SS, has the legal option to gain his or her own SS when he dies. There is also Secured Alimony that a judge can order. This can be a mandatory life insurance policy, inclusion in a Will to assets, lien on property, a trust or insurance that ensures continued payment due to the recipients poor health, advanced age, or low employment skills.
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He's lucky she didn't get half of his retirement. That would've assured her retirement. She should have petitioned to garnish his wages for the alimony. She trusted him to hold his part of the deal, but he had already proven himself to be untrustworthy. Also, when a man leaves his wife for his mistress, he creates a job opening. His current wife could be high and dry if he leaves her. Hopefully she won't trust he'll "take care of her!"
For the men who don't understand, making your wife stay home means that she doesn't earn any money and doesn't have anything to show for it on her resume. Employers already freely (and illegally) discriminate against women, and moms in particular (because the assumption is that their first priority is the kids, not the job). So, that means if there is a divorce, it usually means instant poverty for the mom and kids. There are millions who don't receive any meaningful child support, even when "dad" can afford it. Don't bother to argue that. I spent years working for child support enforcement in a major city. Most orders were for the minimum, which was $10/month.
I found out on the last payment that my ex-husband had his mom paying the child support the court ordered. I was livid. Both of them were so wrong to do that. It just solidified both my son and my own thoughts of what a D-Bag he is. And I never spoke ill of him in front of my child. My son isn't stupid. I knew he'd figure that out on his own.
When my parents divorced I was 24 on my own but because my dad insisted my mom not work for 15 years of the marriage she was awarded alimony and my dad also had to have a life insurance for just her to cover it if he passed away before the alimony was paid. He got to keep the house as everything was in his name. My mom had to move out on her own with a minimum wage job because it's all she could get being out of the workplace for so long. She wouldn't have survived without her alimony. She ended up getting a very good job after a while and is stable now. My dad passed away in 2018.
Hilarious how the gold digger tried to bond with OP over being cheated on.
Nothing like a mistake where one is made to pay for it the rest of their life! Sounds like both of you are selfish dirtbags!!
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Ill never get married or have kids. This sounds like the equivalent of a terminal illness. Screw a tax break.
First and foremost, you are eligible for SS as even as a stay home mom. In fact, your SS comes from his SS. Second, yes he should pay child support. But under no circumstances should he pay you a dime. Alimony is a disgusting practice.
All those years as a SAHM will show up as a gap in her resume, and you know people can't get jobs without work experience. If she was making as much money as him, I might agree with you, but she's very likely only able to get entry level jobs if she's been out of work for awhile. That's a sacrifice SAHPs make when they don't expect their marriage to end. Meanwhile, the working parent gets to watch their career grow and enjoy financial stability.
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Wooooow... wildly dishonest cow keeping to the original payments when she KNEW that was not current information. Talk about malicious compliance.
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Aren't you being a little greedy? Your ex husband has to pay you forever? I see making him pay child support.... But you can get a job lady. People like you make me feel better about the choice to never get married or have kids for that matter. Women are total vampires
I was married for 7 years with 2 kids and we lived happily until things started getting ugly and we had fights and arguments almost every time… it got worse at a point that he filed for divorce… I tried my best to make him change his mind & stay with me because i loved him with all my heart but everything just didn’t work out. The breakthrough came when someone introduced me to this wonderful man Called Dr. Okojie who eventually helped me out with his love spell which broke the barrier in my marriage… I have never been a fan of things like this but just decided to try reluctantly because I was desperate and left with no choice… He did special prayers and used the spell… Within three days my husband called me and was sorry for all the emotional trauma he had cost me, moved back to the house and we continue to live happily, the kids are happy too and we are expecting our third child. Email him: {okojieherbal@gmail.com}
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My boyfriend's ex-wife (they were separated when we met. He was in his own house. She wanted an open relationship and he didn't) is kind of terrible. They adopted their daughter. He footed the bill and we have her more than she does. But she still wants child support. Right now she's on a three week vacation to Italy and Greece. She recently went on two.different cruises in two months. He left her the house. We are terrified of divorce for this reason exactly. Plus custody usually goes to.the mother and she can be very verbally abusive to their daughter. Everyone siding with the wife doesn't know the full story.
Child support is paid to the parent who has custody. That is the law. Custody usually goes to mom because men don't want the responsiblity of custody. The ex might be out on someone else's dime for the cruises. You don't know. If you go to court, then everyone has to show their assets. But it sounds like you are taking your BF's word on all of this. I suggest you take it with a grain of salt until you get proof of what he says.
Load More Replies... I'm sorry but alimony is ridiculous regardless of who pays it. Women need to get their sh*t together and work to support themselves in the event of a divorce. It's pretty greedy to expect your ex to pay for your living when the children aren't even living at home anymore.
Women become stay at home mothers because they can't find reliable nanny services. Even when they do, such services are expensive. So majority of their age which is ideal for career development is lost in child rearing. With no experience, who will hire them at the age of 40s-50s? If divorced in late 20s or 30s, there's scope of starting afresh. But that again depends on the country they live in. The companies prefer hiring people who are young and experienced. Women sacrificed their career to support the husband. Had they remained married both would've lived out of retirement fund. Sadly that's not the case. When a man marries and then due to circumstances is forced to stay home - not all of those women have work experience. How will they survive then? A man's responsibility in those cases is both towards his children and his wife. Not only children. If a lady has a small job and doesn't marry her bf in order to get alimony - then you can call her greedy.
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Child support goes to the party who has the kids. If you don't want kids, then you don't have to worry. 120k is NOTHING for the cost of raising two kids to be adults.
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The agreement he asked her to accept was the alimony because it was closer to 1/4 of the retirement it says. Normally the agreement is half for the stay at home mom's in wealthier areas since it's looked at that the working spouse was able to work and contribute that much only die to the at home parent taking care of the household and children. Also cheating is taken into account in divorce since that person is breaking the marriage agreement and it ends up connecting to how finances are decided that's why she would mention it I'm guessing.
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I can see why no one would want kids with you. Maybe your personality is the reason no woman wants to satisfy you.
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It's more than that. If a woman agrees to let her career go in order to raise children, that's a big deal. It means raising a human being(s) full time - on call 24 hours a day/7 days a week for a long time. Pretty much all the cooking, all the cleaning, doctors appointments, school appointments, helping with homework, after school activities, social interactions - everything a child needs. There are no days off, no "free" holidays, and no pay. For about 16 years, give or take. Try getting a job after being absent from the work force for that amount of time. Raising children into good, decent adults is important, hard work, whether or not you, personally, are able to understand that.
Load More Replies... It was reimbursement for the half of the retirement plan that she gave up on.
Load More Replies... The biggest mistake women make in a divorce is they are nice. And by nice, I don’t mean fair or amicable, I mean they act like a doormat and don’t look after their best interests so that their ex won’t get upset. The ex probably though OP wouldn’t do anything when he cut off alimony and he would get away with it by playing his version of hardball. In many cases, he’d be right but he underestimated OP. I’m sure he whines to his friends and family about how his greedy ex bleeds him. Women need to look after their own interests because men sure look after theirs.
When my bestie divorced, her ex refused to do anything to support the kids or his dogs (which he dumped on her). By the time the divorce rolled around, she had kept good records. The court mandated that he pay back support and alimony in a big 6 figure amount. Fair's fair.
That good! She should not pay for his his HE DUMPED on her!
Load More Replies... A friend's husband invested all their savings in his start-up. It failed, they declared bankruptcy and about 8 months later, he left her and their children for a young, wealthy woman. He doesn't work, and he does not pay any support for his children (or dental care or school fees). My friend works three jobs and gets to work on a bicycle. It's really awful. I can't think how someone would treat their children like that.
Man-child. Probably didn't develop emotionally after the age of 12. She needs to take him to court asap
Load More Replies... My sil first husband tried to get out of paying child support. He kept under the table jobs working in restaurants. He had 5 other kids. Right before my nephew started college one of his half brothers let him know their dad was in a car accident and was expecting a windfall. All the kids except for the two that lived w him got all the settlement money. He got nothing. He thought he was going to keep that a secret lol.
My husband was never married to his ex, despite thinking they had a common law marriage (that was done away with in our state before they reached the required amount of years living together). He was really lucky, as his ex only required we pay school supplies and her insurance for their kid, plus any co-pays. I am friends with her and we invite each other to events like birthdays and baby showers. Her entire family loves me and our kids, and my family loves her, and her sister.
A very close friend of mine has two daughters with his ex wife, who is an absolute c*nt. I can't articulate how much I hate that woman for what she did to my friend. She continued trying to make his life unbearable even after their divorce was finalised. One such instance was complaining that he wasn't paying her enough in child support and she couldn't raise them properly as a result. By the way, she doesn't work because she's incredibly lazy. My friend got called in to speak to the relevant person about the child support and it actually turned out that he had been paying too much! Her attempt at f*****g him over backfired spectacularly. He now has full custody of his girls and they're MUCH happier with him, they've even told him they don't want to even visit their mum.
That's sad, I can't imagine cutting either of my parents out of my life
Load More Replies... The American custody system is pure chaos to me, I'm impressed people can even keep up with that without getting lost in confusion
Had a friend that earned 24K a year, one daughter and an ex that left her and married the woman that was his mistress. He was earning $84k per year, new wife $35K per year. He actually tried to take her to court to have his child support payments reduced. Backfired on him and he ended up paying more per month. Icing on the cake was my friend ended up divorcing husband #2 effect being that she slimmed down and changed her look. Suddenly her first ex is wanting to cheat on his second wife with his first ex. She laughed in his face.
Anyone who thinks they got their ex over a barrel with "life long alimony" might want to re-think that strategy. They have life long alimony... not for as long as they live... but for only as long as the ex is alive.
The first wife, when she is of age to receive SS, has the legal option to gain his or her own SS when he dies. There is also Secured Alimony that a judge can order. This can be a mandatory life insurance policy, inclusion in a Will to assets, lien on property, a trust or insurance that ensures continued payment due to the recipients poor health, advanced age, or low employment skills.
Load More Replies... He's lucky she didn't get half of his retirement. That would've assured her retirement. She should have petitioned to garnish his wages for the alimony. She trusted him to hold his part of the deal, but he had already proven himself to be untrustworthy. Also, when a man leaves his wife for his mistress, he creates a job opening. His current wife could be high and dry if he leaves her. Hopefully she won't trust he'll "take care of her!"
For the men who don't understand, making your wife stay home means that she doesn't earn any money and doesn't have anything to show for it on her resume. Employers already freely (and illegally) discriminate against women, and moms in particular (because the assumption is that their first priority is the kids, not the job). So, that means if there is a divorce, it usually means instant poverty for the mom and kids. There are millions who don't receive any meaningful child support, even when "dad" can afford it. Don't bother to argue that. I spent years working for child support enforcement in a major city. Most orders were for the minimum, which was $10/month.
I found out on the last payment that my ex-husband had his mom paying the child support the court ordered. I was livid. Both of them were so wrong to do that. It just solidified both my son and my own thoughts of what a D-Bag he is. And I never spoke ill of him in front of my child. My son isn't stupid. I knew he'd figure that out on his own.
When my parents divorced I was 24 on my own but because my dad insisted my mom not work for 15 years of the marriage she was awarded alimony and my dad also had to have a life insurance for just her to cover it if he passed away before the alimony was paid. He got to keep the house as everything was in his name. My mom had to move out on her own with a minimum wage job because it's all she could get being out of the workplace for so long. She wouldn't have survived without her alimony. She ended up getting a very good job after a while and is stable now. My dad passed away in 2018.
Hilarious how the gold digger tried to bond with OP over being cheated on.
Nothing like a mistake where one is made to pay for it the rest of their life! Sounds like both of you are selfish dirtbags!!
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Ill never get married or have kids. This sounds like the equivalent of a terminal illness. Screw a tax break.
First and foremost, you are eligible for SS as even as a stay home mom. In fact, your SS comes from his SS. Second, yes he should pay child support. But under no circumstances should he pay you a dime. Alimony is a disgusting practice.
All those years as a SAHM will show up as a gap in her resume, and you know people can't get jobs without work experience. If she was making as much money as him, I might agree with you, but she's very likely only able to get entry level jobs if she's been out of work for awhile. That's a sacrifice SAHPs make when they don't expect their marriage to end. Meanwhile, the working parent gets to watch their career grow and enjoy financial stability.
Load More Replies... Wooooow... wildly dishonest cow keeping to the original payments when she KNEW that was not current information. Talk about malicious compliance.
my testimony about priest ADU how he restored peace back to my family when my husband abandoned me for a 24 years old mexican young lady who almost destroyed my home with her witchcraft, but thank God for using priest ADU to restore and bring him back home to where he belong. here's his contact to anyone who read my story and in need of his service (https://solution-temple.com)
Aren't you being a little greedy? Your ex husband has to pay you forever? I see making him pay child support.... But you can get a job lady. People like you make me feel better about the choice to never get married or have kids for that matter. Women are total vampires
I was married for 7 years with 2 kids and we lived happily until things started getting ugly and we had fights and arguments almost every time… it got worse at a point that he filed for divorce… I tried my best to make him change his mind & stay with me because i loved him with all my heart but everything just didn’t work out. The breakthrough came when someone introduced me to this wonderful man Called Dr. Okojie who eventually helped me out with his love spell which broke the barrier in my marriage… I have never been a fan of things like this but just decided to try reluctantly because I was desperate and left with no choice… He did special prayers and used the spell… Within three days my husband called me and was sorry for all the emotional trauma he had cost me, moved back to the house and we continue to live happily, the kids are happy too and we are expecting our third child. Email him: {okojieherbal@gmail.com}
My husband divorced me and went after his ex and left me heart broken for 2 years. I have been playing the lottery for some years before I got married and I have never won any big amount. I continued to play the lottery but I couldn't win more than $500 dollars until I was introduced to Dr Amber that is a strong Haiti spell caster. I had a chat with him via +18084815132 telling him what a mess my life has become. He encouraged and promised to get my man back for me and to help me win the lottery. There were specific instructions that was passed to me by him which I adhered to as he prepared the spell for me that brought back my husband within 36 hours and he gave me some sure numbers to play the lottery game. I used the numbers to play the lottery and I was declared the winner of Ten Million Dollars and all this happened within a week after I knew Dr Amber. It doesn't matter what you are going through in life Dr Amber is here to help. You can visit his website: amberlottotemple.com
My boyfriend's ex-wife (they were separated when we met. He was in his own house. She wanted an open relationship and he didn't) is kind of terrible. They adopted their daughter. He footed the bill and we have her more than she does. But she still wants child support. Right now she's on a three week vacation to Italy and Greece. She recently went on two.different cruises in two months. He left her the house. We are terrified of divorce for this reason exactly. Plus custody usually goes to.the mother and she can be very verbally abusive to their daughter. Everyone siding with the wife doesn't know the full story.
Child support is paid to the parent who has custody. That is the law. Custody usually goes to mom because men don't want the responsiblity of custody. The ex might be out on someone else's dime for the cruises. You don't know. If you go to court, then everyone has to show their assets. But it sounds like you are taking your BF's word on all of this. I suggest you take it with a grain of salt until you get proof of what he says.
Load More Replies... I'm sorry but alimony is ridiculous regardless of who pays it. Women need to get their sh*t together and work to support themselves in the event of a divorce. It's pretty greedy to expect your ex to pay for your living when the children aren't even living at home anymore.
Women become stay at home mothers because they can't find reliable nanny services. Even when they do, such services are expensive. So majority of their age which is ideal for career development is lost in child rearing. With no experience, who will hire them at the age of 40s-50s? If divorced in late 20s or 30s, there's scope of starting afresh. But that again depends on the country they live in. The companies prefer hiring people who are young and experienced. Women sacrificed their career to support the husband. Had they remained married both would've lived out of retirement fund. Sadly that's not the case. When a man marries and then due to circumstances is forced to stay home - not all of those women have work experience. How will they survive then? A man's responsibility in those cases is both towards his children and his wife. Not only children. If a lady has a small job and doesn't marry her bf in order to get alimony - then you can call her greedy.
Load More Replies... Child support goes to the party who has the kids. If you don't want kids, then you don't have to worry. 120k is NOTHING for the cost of raising two kids to be adults.
Load More Replies... The agreement he asked her to accept was the alimony because it was closer to 1/4 of the retirement it says. Normally the agreement is half for the stay at home mom's in wealthier areas since it's looked at that the working spouse was able to work and contribute that much only die to the at home parent taking care of the household and children. Also cheating is taken into account in divorce since that person is breaking the marriage agreement and it ends up connecting to how finances are decided that's why she would mention it I'm guessing.
Load More Replies... I can see why no one would want kids with you. Maybe your personality is the reason no woman wants to satisfy you.
Load More Replies... It's more than that. If a woman agrees to let her career go in order to raise children, that's a big deal. It means raising a human being(s) full time - on call 24 hours a day/7 days a week for a long time. Pretty much all the cooking, all the cleaning, doctors appointments, school appointments, helping with homework, after school activities, social interactions - everything a child needs. There are no days off, no "free" holidays, and no pay. For about 16 years, give or take. Try getting a job after being absent from the work force for that amount of time. Raising children into good, decent adults is important, hard work, whether or not you, personally, are able to understand that.
Load More Replies... It was reimbursement for the half of the retirement plan that she gave up on.
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