The poet John Lydgate once said "You can please some of the people all of the time, you can please all of the people some of the time, but you can't please all of the people all of the time." And you only need to look at these illustrations to realize how true that is.
They're drawn by artist and fashion designer Daisy Bernard, and they represent the fact that women are judged regardless of the expectations they try to live up to. Dress conservatively and you're frigid, but wear something revealing and you're obviously a slut. Likewise, women are often encouraged to be more assertive in the office, but when they are they're considered bossy. "Women are being told to take off their burkinis and undress on the beach," wrote Bernard in an article for The Tab. "But at the same time we should keep ourselves covered up, and shouldn’t show too much skin. These ridiculous expectations are created usually by men, and in many cases by other women too."
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I seriously don't get the "she's going to leave and have kids" part. If you want her to stay, give her maternity leave, everyone wins, and a new person has a part time or temporary contract chance to build up some experience. While you don't really lose your experienced employee, and she knows she has a job position secured and waiting for her. Five of us were raised by both working parents, back in the 20th century. What happened?
I think it's meant to show something a lot of women have to deal with, something I myself have experienced on many occations. She's dressed as a professional, she might have a great education, she works hard, -but is still expected to "leave and have kids", so why bother hiring her in the first place. I'm a 31 year old woman, and I've been to my fair share of job interviews. And I have yet to experience a job interview where I'm not asked if I'm planning on having kids any time soon. I know I have missed out on jobs because the interviewer have decided that my answer ("No, I'm not going to have kids any time soon") is false. I still don't have kids...
Load More Replies...no kidding..the mixed messages are crazy..but then the next level is in our society..'buy this c**p..declutter...save,..be all u can..follow your dreams...be content with what u have...no place like home...travel...see the world...so crazy..think we need to mediate..spend time in nature..forget all the words.
and it goes both ways, you can't be sexist against one gender without affecting the other in a different way. Feminists are incredibly blind to how sexist society can be towards men, they complain about 7% of CEOs only being women but did any of them stop to ask the question: - What kind of person would want to work 80-90 hours a week, sacrifice their social life, personal life, personal comfort, physical and mental health, in an incredibly competitive environment, in exchange for a 6 figure salary, and social status? Women want the benefits of a CEO lifestyle like financial security and social status, they do not want the responsibilities and sacrifices involved with that lifestyle. The prize of eternal glory is only for those who bled on the battlefield, for people that survived where others would have fled and died. If only the problems of the world would go away by us simply complaining without the need to suffer and grow, if only.
I could talk about social hierarchies and how people that are under your command will constantly try to harrass and test you, regardless of your gender. I could bring to your attention the fact that male bosses experience the same amount of comments, but behind their backs, because people are too afraid to say it upfront, or the boss is so confident and strong he can take criticism and improper jokes without it shaking his self-confidence. I could ask you the definition of a "strong and independent woman" since comments like "You are so bossy!" are enough to shake her self-confidence. I could tell you it's not that big of a deal, there are other predominantly male jobs like coal mining, oil rigs, construction, factory workers, electricians, mechanics etc where there is a great need for women. I could ask you where did you get the sense of entitlement to assume people will simply listen to you and do what you want? I could, but it would fall on deaf ears.
Overpopulation creates natural birth control, such as memes that discourage sexual attraction. The science here is amazing, in that the humans involved are not conscious of the instinct that leads them to posts like this, meant to discourage confidence in both men and women, lead them to be suspicious of one another, and lower the statistical odds of sex and procreation. A try story in psychology.
And you don't think men are under pressure, too? I'm really tired of whiny women.
I get the "you're too cold" so often lol I'm an introverted and socially awkward that's just how i am
I get you, sistah... At school, my silence was sometimes considered as rude.
Load More Replies...At work I do find I really have the thread the needle. To a certain extent you have to accept that you will never live "up to" people's expectations and you should focus on your own.
I'd entirely agree if it didn't mean that we're literally discriminated against, and that it gives us unfair disadvantages. (I know that a lot of people will try to argue that being women in workplaces bring advantages too - bigger tips, leniency about family accommodation, for example. But you're just completely ignoring the sexual harassment and the career-killing reality that usually comes with both)
Load More Replies..."women are judged regardless of the expectations they try to live up to": humans in general are, in the different roles they take. There is not a single issue you would not at least find two strong opinions on. Guy in suit? Arrogant capitalist. Guy in jogging pants? Hobo. Child finishing school way ahead of the others? Geek. Child finishing school later than the others? R****d. Just collecting sterotypes does not help. Living every situation with an awareness that treating everyone with respect does!
"Why aren't people just nicer to one another?" Because society has taught us that it's acceptable and encouraged to treat certain people like this? Because it's so widespread and accepted that a large portion of the population doesn't even notice it, even when they're victims of it? Because when people try to bring about discussions to identify the issues like in the drawings above people like you say, "Well we all have to deal with this kind of thing'" and dismiss it?
Load More Replies...I am a teenager and got so many pimples. People always told me to wash my face more often; I washed it two times a day and I own so many things for it. Now I started to cover it up with makeup and suddenly I'm a s**t, basic white girl, etc. What the fluff am I supposed to do?!
i've been hearing most of these comment come from women. enough said
Overpopulation creates natural birth control, such as memes to discourage sexual attraction. The science here is amazing; the artist and people involved are unconscious of their instincts that lead them to create such birth control articles. This meme will lower confidence in both men and women, lead to suspicions of one another, discourage romance, and lower the statistical odds of sex and procreation. A true story in psychology.
I like your theory. Hope it works because there are too much of our species walking around already.
Load More Replies...These people who are saying these things are just judgemental and don't know what they want in people. Just keep on walking.
Basically, "Damned if you do & Damned if you don't" catch 22 situation.
People stereotype and judge people all the time. This does't apply just for women.
Tis always your choice to accept opinions. You know what is wrong? You filter out all the bad things and after an hour forget everything good. You shall think more positively.If all the things you think about is your insecurities because of others' words -- it is not just your fault ; it is yours ,too. Remember, we're all developed from our a******s. You can't blame anyone about what inspired our construction from being mere embryos. Focus on doing what you're doing.Instead of being such a huge mess.I am speaking the same way to create realization for you.
Overpopulation creates natural birth control, such as memes that discourage sexual attraction. The science here is amazing, in that the humans involved are not conscious of the instinct that leads them to posts like this, meant to discourage confidence in both men and women, lead them to be suspicious of one another, and lower the statistical odds of sex and procreation. A try story in psychology.
Am I the only one who thinks that people don't REALLY care? If a woman comments bad things on another woman, she's mainly jealous, she didn't actually take time to really look at the other woman. And if a man is sexist is because he feels intimidated by the woman or he's angry at her. People don't usually have us under a magnifying glass and judge us, they just say things to make themselves feel better. Because to be honest, no one really has ever perceived me in a correct way, it's always been an extreme. If I was a kilo overweight I was called "fat", if I was a kilo underweight I was "too skinny". When you look good, mostly no one tells you that you look good, because they are jealous. I noticed that the less pretty people get more praises on their Fb pics, simply because they are not envied or hated upon. So let's care less about what others say, because unfortunately we cannot change people's perception and the world is anyways full of unexplained hatred and people WILL talk.
isn't this a little over reacted? like why would you even care if people say that IN CASE the people who say that are not your friends (now that people we trust tend to light up a few things of us that we don't tend to notice) And of course not forgeting that random people walking among us on the street will give a damn FnCK about how others are dressed. Don't overthink how you look. for real nobody cares
Hmm I get some of them might be gender specific but others are fairly neutral. For example: "you're so clever it's intimidating" - how is that sexist? You could say that about any man or woman. "you're so talented it's intimidating!" - works the same. another: "You're so cold" - Men and Women can be cold, not sure how that's gender specific. "Why don't you stick up for yourself" - yeah guys are always good at sticking up for themselves right? We always confident. All the time. Anyway that's not to say a good number are not gender specific.
damn it it's not about gender it's about people judging each other all the time ps. s**t like this makes me ashamed to be a woman since it shows that most woman can't just do like most man and just ignore such useless comments.... thats how stupid stuff like "its hard to be a woman on the internet" gets created =_= (the dislike button is right there, go on, I don't really care.. continue lying to yourself if thats the only thing that makes you feel a bit better about yourself)
O it's you again. You are the professional critique. How much is the pay?
Load More Replies...I get the "you're too cold" so often lol I'm an introverted and socially awkward that's just how i am
I get you, sistah... At school, my silence was sometimes considered as rude.
Load More Replies...At work I do find I really have the thread the needle. To a certain extent you have to accept that you will never live "up to" people's expectations and you should focus on your own.
I'd entirely agree if it didn't mean that we're literally discriminated against, and that it gives us unfair disadvantages. (I know that a lot of people will try to argue that being women in workplaces bring advantages too - bigger tips, leniency about family accommodation, for example. But you're just completely ignoring the sexual harassment and the career-killing reality that usually comes with both)
Load More Replies..."women are judged regardless of the expectations they try to live up to": humans in general are, in the different roles they take. There is not a single issue you would not at least find two strong opinions on. Guy in suit? Arrogant capitalist. Guy in jogging pants? Hobo. Child finishing school way ahead of the others? Geek. Child finishing school later than the others? R****d. Just collecting sterotypes does not help. Living every situation with an awareness that treating everyone with respect does!
"Why aren't people just nicer to one another?" Because society has taught us that it's acceptable and encouraged to treat certain people like this? Because it's so widespread and accepted that a large portion of the population doesn't even notice it, even when they're victims of it? Because when people try to bring about discussions to identify the issues like in the drawings above people like you say, "Well we all have to deal with this kind of thing'" and dismiss it?
Load More Replies...I am a teenager and got so many pimples. People always told me to wash my face more often; I washed it two times a day and I own so many things for it. Now I started to cover it up with makeup and suddenly I'm a s**t, basic white girl, etc. What the fluff am I supposed to do?!
i've been hearing most of these comment come from women. enough said
Overpopulation creates natural birth control, such as memes to discourage sexual attraction. The science here is amazing; the artist and people involved are unconscious of their instincts that lead them to create such birth control articles. This meme will lower confidence in both men and women, lead to suspicions of one another, discourage romance, and lower the statistical odds of sex and procreation. A true story in psychology.
I like your theory. Hope it works because there are too much of our species walking around already.
Load More Replies...These people who are saying these things are just judgemental and don't know what they want in people. Just keep on walking.
Basically, "Damned if you do & Damned if you don't" catch 22 situation.
People stereotype and judge people all the time. This does't apply just for women.
Tis always your choice to accept opinions. You know what is wrong? You filter out all the bad things and after an hour forget everything good. You shall think more positively.If all the things you think about is your insecurities because of others' words -- it is not just your fault ; it is yours ,too. Remember, we're all developed from our a******s. You can't blame anyone about what inspired our construction from being mere embryos. Focus on doing what you're doing.Instead of being such a huge mess.I am speaking the same way to create realization for you.
Overpopulation creates natural birth control, such as memes that discourage sexual attraction. The science here is amazing, in that the humans involved are not conscious of the instinct that leads them to posts like this, meant to discourage confidence in both men and women, lead them to be suspicious of one another, and lower the statistical odds of sex and procreation. A try story in psychology.
Am I the only one who thinks that people don't REALLY care? If a woman comments bad things on another woman, she's mainly jealous, she didn't actually take time to really look at the other woman. And if a man is sexist is because he feels intimidated by the woman or he's angry at her. People don't usually have us under a magnifying glass and judge us, they just say things to make themselves feel better. Because to be honest, no one really has ever perceived me in a correct way, it's always been an extreme. If I was a kilo overweight I was called "fat", if I was a kilo underweight I was "too skinny". When you look good, mostly no one tells you that you look good, because they are jealous. I noticed that the less pretty people get more praises on their Fb pics, simply because they are not envied or hated upon. So let's care less about what others say, because unfortunately we cannot change people's perception and the world is anyways full of unexplained hatred and people WILL talk.
isn't this a little over reacted? like why would you even care if people say that IN CASE the people who say that are not your friends (now that people we trust tend to light up a few things of us that we don't tend to notice) And of course not forgeting that random people walking among us on the street will give a damn FnCK about how others are dressed. Don't overthink how you look. for real nobody cares
Hmm I get some of them might be gender specific but others are fairly neutral. For example: "you're so clever it's intimidating" - how is that sexist? You could say that about any man or woman. "you're so talented it's intimidating!" - works the same. another: "You're so cold" - Men and Women can be cold, not sure how that's gender specific. "Why don't you stick up for yourself" - yeah guys are always good at sticking up for themselves right? We always confident. All the time. Anyway that's not to say a good number are not gender specific.
damn it it's not about gender it's about people judging each other all the time ps. s**t like this makes me ashamed to be a woman since it shows that most woman can't just do like most man and just ignore such useless comments.... thats how stupid stuff like "its hard to be a woman on the internet" gets created =_= (the dislike button is right there, go on, I don't really care.. continue lying to yourself if thats the only thing that makes you feel a bit better about yourself)
O it's you again. You are the professional critique. How much is the pay?
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