Dating is complicated. After all, being selective has never been easier with the myriad of dating apps and websites that let you filter people based on their descriptions. But let’s say you decide to go for it. You message back and forth, awkwardly wait to be asked out, think of different conversation starters… only to discover that the person you’re interested in is way too picky to begin with.
So today, we’re diving into the not-so-pleasant incidents where people ran into dates who were ridiculously entitled. From insisting you own waterfront property to demanding a free Korean BBQ dinner, some people have unrealistically high standards.
We have combed through the internet and collected some of the best stories of people who think they inherently deserve more than anyone else. Continue scrolling and, if you’re up for it, be sure to share your own experience in the comments below. Also, check out our most recent posts about entitled people right here and here.
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Guy Went On One Date With A Girl, Waited 3 Months Of No Contact Before Deciding To Pick Out Every Insecurity She Probably Has About Herself. Claims She Hurt His Ego, Then Proceeds To (Kind Of) Ask For A Second Date
this is no just a twat, is an uber twat, a twat professional in the art twating
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What he really said is: I am sending you all the reasons that you should be glad that I haven't called you again because I am a major tool and you can do so much better than me.
“You didn’t laugh at a single one of my jokes” - but I’m laughing really hard at this one!
Seriously! This one is the personification of a walking, talking RED FLAG. "Sort your personality out"? Ohhhhh, that was SO rich coming from HIM.
Load More Replies... "Hi, if you could just go and change everything about yourself to make me feel better about me? Good day to you." I say: good day!
It's regular coke, not diet or zero. It's a common term where I live!
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He really tells on himself pretty thoroughly in this list though, don't you think?
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This is called negging and some men will do this to try and manipulate a woman to undermine their confidence and try and get them to think they need his "approval" to have value. Pickup artists utilize this tactic all the time. Note him saying "If you make these changes I *might* consider going out with you again". Total twat indeed.
You need to look more natural, that’s why you should a fake tan and fake hair.
And fake lips and work on her figure and weight...
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I love that he starts by saying he's not trying to offend her, goes on to offend everything about her appearance, then throws in a "be more confident about yourself!" Holy cow, what a card.
So she's stuck up, lacks confidence and you want her to completely change everything about her ..? ..oh and look natural but get lip fillers ..
Fake tan and hair extensions to just to add to that "natural look".
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Siri, draft a response letter. "Cool story bro have a nice date with Rosie Palms bye"
It's definitely real. Definitely. You cannot invent a wanker that wanked.
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Yikes! The only she thing 'needs' to do is have a great life as far away as possible from this turd-muncher
Ahhh what a heartfelt laugh I got from this guys message. I hope the girl in question got a good laugh out of it as well, and moved on with her life. One less dickhead to worry about!
This is T H E best example of a narcissist if there ever has been one! He needs a plastic mannequin, not a human being.
I know this likely wasn't your intention, but pathologizing and stigmatizing personality disorders such as NPD doesn't help any. He's a dumpster fire of a human being and should not be around other people, but I know people with narcissistic personality disorder who are perfectly kind people (I've known them long enough to know it's not a facade) who just have a need for certain types of positive attention that they meet in perfectly healthy ways.
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Tell us you are an incel without telling us you are an incel...
Any sane person would accept she isn't their type and move on instead of giving them this shitty "advice".
No make up, but get fake hair and plastic surgery. Oh yes, instead of trying to use makeup to enhance your looks, just put yourself into incredible debt paying a doctor to physically alter your body instead.
For some jerk she went on one date with even! Funny how some think we live for them, instead of ourselves
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"You need to change everything about yourself, but you need to have more confidence"....what a loser
Wtf? Wow what a loser! I had a guy message me after a year to tell me I offended him because I made fun of his religion. I did no such thing other then not believe in it. Then he proceeds to tell me he made a mistake and was an idiot. Im like not sure what you think the outcome of this is gonna be, but if you don’t have the balls to say it when its happening and it takes you a year to grow some then you might as well just keep quite entirely because its been a f*****g year! I was not waiting by the phone this entire time. Sorry but get a life.
Oh waw, please block this insecure baby, noone needs this kind of negativity
The line “Be more sensitive to others feelings” is incredible after writing a long letter insulting her looks, her style, her personality, her drink choices… Also telling her to look more natural and wear less make-up, whilst also telling her to wear fake tan, dye her hair, get extensions and get lip fillers. And telling her to be more confident whilst insulting everything about her? Yeah, that’ll help. Never mind the fact that she didn’t find him funny, didn’t try to kiss him goodnight and offered to pay. Signs she probably wasn’t by the phone hoping he would call.
Well damn. Really? If ahe is all that bad, why is he contacting her now? Answer: c,uz no shes the ONLY date he had in 3 months.
Soooo.... basically turn herself into a completely different person?? If she were tanned, fit, showed cleavage, wore less make-up (but still looked decent), dyed her hair a color he approves, laughed at all his jokes, wore different clothes, agreed to be kissed against her will just so his feeling wouldn't get hurt, and... ah, shoot. He needs a blow-up doll.
Please tell me she went to his house b***h slapped him n left cause I saw red reading this
Where do we begin on his faults..... There are so many. We could start with Narcissist! And go from there.
You should look for a therapist and you will see you're the real problem, man, we get that this girl is actually awesome and cute but you need to undermine her just to make yourself feel better
He wants to find a girl thst he can manipulate and feel more insecure than him and boost his misogynist pathetic ego.
WOW the first.. All of these are nothing but RED FLAGS like. Legit abuser red flags. BIG. RED. FLAGS. im scared just reading this i cant believe the audacity
I was looking for this comment. My thoughts exactly
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If he knows how to lose a stone in a month I want him to share it even if he is a twat
No. I don't believe someone would do this. It must be made up. If it's not, I really wish people could be named as a warning to others.
Okay just don't where to start but smart girl stay away from him and if I were you I'd put his post where everyone could read it. He deserves it.
f*****g gross i hate men like this and all us men can agree this is unacceptable
This is T H E best example of a grandiose narcissist if there ever has been one
I feel terrible for ANY poor soul that crosses this man's path. ...
WTF! This mfkr honestly thinks he's worth all that. Who the Hell would want to be with any1 that arrogant and insulting? Maybe make a list of his faults & shortcomings, shove them in his face & see how he likes it.
Is this real? Do people really do this kind of rotten, toxic thing to someone else? How freaking pathetic!!!
Not only does this guy sound like a jealous & condescending mother (& f-er) but if I was going to get this, my response for him to improve would be to Drop Dead.
I can’t get past how *this* excuse for a human being has the gall to tell others to sort their personality out…
You need so much more confidence, but here, let me tear everything about you down. Is this dude serious?
This dude will end up being one of those creep old dudes hitting on girls young enough to be his daughters coz women his own age are smart enough to steer clear of his toxic shite
LOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOL!!!!! I don't know what to say. All I can do is laugh. LOLOLOLOLOLOL!!!!!
I want to f*****g burn down this piece of s**t's house. A person that exists with that frame of mind towards other people, in general, needs to be knocked down a peg.
"Confidence is sexy," as he proceeds to ream her with a bunch of dickhole criticism.
Wow, the ego on this one... Lose his number...better yet, block his number.
OK. Been reading Bored Panda for ages and this is one of the first stories that literally dropped my jaw.
Lol what a douche. I hope she sent him a detailed reply as to all the things he could improve about himself. I also hope she told him she is happily married and blessed that he was not in her life lol
So he want her to change every single thing about herself to date him? If you knew this person and that he did this, would you ever consider one date with him?
Is this person looking to be hired as a date consultant? What a POS.
HAHAHAHAHAHA...my response back, "let's hope the mould was broken after you were made. You're one a kind and should stay that way. Alone."
true, a real twat... i hope she didnt even bother with a reply.
Starts out by saying “no offense”, then gives every insult under the sun, THEN recommends she get more confidence. I think he needs to be more honest with himself, rather than spreading his delusions onto other people.
You need to look natural, besides the filler and hair extensions! lol this is gold
What that jerk is saying: "Be more confident, but here's a list of everything that I think is wrong with you, because I'm an extremely shallow and selfish person. Also you didn't kiss me and messed with my confidence. Be more natural, but also get more filler on your lips, and a fake tan can't hurt either. Oh and don't forget those hair extensions."
"change kiterat everything about yourself, but also don't forget to have confidence!"
If SHE didn't ask, then go off to the playground like a good 4 year old.
Hope she sent back a detailed rundown of all of his shortcomings, though I think it’s probably pretty obvious to everyone but him what a piece of shite he is. He was kind enough to display his red flag at full mast
As someone said earlier, it's called negging, where they use thinly veiled insults to supposedly gain a woman's interest. Some pick up artist idiot promoted this psychopathic "method". I think I would use filters to make him think I changed, then punch him in the face live on social media.
Be more confident he says Then it messed with his ego when she didn't kiss him. And was upset that she didn't compliment him and offered to pay Strange...
What he's really saying is, "I never want a real relationship and a happy wife, because her life doesnt matter and she should be grateful she gets to serve my every need!"
I'll make this easy - i thought about it and "No" - not going out with you.
Every woman I know would do one of two things. A. Cuss him out thoroughly, in mind, but never respond. B. Type a Long, thorough, DETAILED description of everything wrong in this, AND everything wrong with having the nerve to send it, AND everything it says about what kind of person this is, AND..... EVERYTHING she didn't like about him! If his ego was hurt from not receiving a compliment or a kiss, he'd be in tears by the time I got through.
Blahhh. Could this be more about him and his insecurities? come on. "You should be confident and natural but change everything about yourself". Yeah... ok. Winner of the year.
Give the guy a break. Imagine how low a woman's self esteem has to be to go out with him. It takes a lot of work to tear a person down enough to accept this guy.
Look natural but more filler in your lips? Hypocrite and douche bag.
I dated the exact same type of man many years ago and I still vividly remember how much it hurt,
in my community if a guy sent this to a girl, all the men would beat him up. You need to have respect and not act like a pig.
“Dating is the discovery period of getting to know someone. It’s an opportunity for you to decide if you want to continue seeing this person or if not,” Elizabeth Overstreet, love strategist and relationship expert, told Bored Panda.
She explained that if you discern that someone is entitled, you have options. “You can decide to proceed in this relationship or to move on. It’s better to know sooner rather than later and it will help you increase your self-awareness as you continue the dating process and figure out who is the right partner for you.”
When asked how to interact with people who think they inherently deserve more than anyone else, Overstreet mentioned that they might be feeling some inadequacy with themselves. “It’s important that you provide boundaries with them. Treat them the same as others. You may even feel some compassion for them too.”
I Got This Gem In My Inbox Last Night. I'm Not Even Mad, I Finally Have Something Worth Posting. I Should Have Told Him I Was On My 4th Cookie When I Sent My Response
You’re an athlete only if do athletic things. You’re a writer only if you write, a singer only if you sing. And you’re a nice guy only if you actually do nice things and are nice to people!
Girl On Tinder Wants Korean BBQ
“Often, people who are entitled are not the happiest and even at times are insecure. While you shouldn’t allow their entitlement to rub off on you, you can show them by setting boundaries with them and treating everyone equally,” the relationship expert said. This way, you can shine a light on “how their behavior is actually not the right way to do things” and show them healthier ways to treat others. “However, realize it’s not on you to fix or alter who they are as a person”, she added.
Whether or not you can see a future with an entitled person is ultimately your decision. Overstreet wants you to understand that “in a relationship, while a person may make some changes and be impacted by how you treat them and the behavior you model for them, they inherently have characteristics and behaviors that are their blueprint.”
She Unmatched Soon After, So She Wasn't Joking
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If that person would want to become mindful of others, they need to become more self-aware and have a desire to change who they are as a person. “Otherwise, the change is temporary.”
Elizabeth Overstreet asks you to remember that dating is a trial period to get to know someone. “You can learn a lot in the process of what you want, need and desire and what isn’t the right fit. That is what should make the process less stressful. Take your time, enjoy the ride, and allow things to build organically. The best relationships are built over time,” she explained.
Cb Mad Because Her Date Won't Buy Meals For Her Kids
No you won’t wrong. Yes she was asking too much. It’s not your job to feed her kids
Sounds Like A Dreamy Guy To Date
Bored Panda also reached out to Emily Zitek, a professor at Cornell University’s School of Industrial and Labor Relations, to learn more about why some people think they deserve more. “Entitled individuals view themselves as unique, and they believe that they should receive rewards and benefits, such as more money, better grades, or preferential treatment, regardless of their performance or effort in comparison with others,” she explained.
According to her, a sense of entitlement could come from lots of different sources. Previous research has shown how messages in the media, an organization’s culture or reward system, or certain parenting practices may contribute to the development of a sense of entitlement.
Unsolicited Feedback From My Sisters Date. Spent The Whole Time Talking About How Smart He Is, And Ordered A Kids Meal At Lunch
Women who work are a turn off? Who can afford not to work these days seriously? Single income families are rare, I actually don't know any. Also I'm the breadwinner in my family and my husband does part time work whilst looking after the kids. These people need to get back to the 50s
Yes, Because Paying For Someone’s Food On A Date Means That You’re Entitled To Get Some
“Furthermore, having a high status in society” and being told you “possessed a rare skill” could also lead to feeling more privileged. “Thus, it seems that one reason that people may become more entitled is that they have received a message … that there is something special, valuable, or worthy about them,” the professor said.
While we might hear talks that entitlement in our society is getting more severe, Zitek mentioned that there is a debate about this among researchers: “Some people think the data indicates that entitlement is going up, and others think that entitlement is staying the same.”
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Zitek found that entitled individuals “are more selfish, follow instructions less often, are more likely to think things that are unpleasant for them are unfair, get angry about bad luck, and are less likely to comply with the health guidelines of the pandemic. But on the flip side, people who feel entitled can also be more creative and better at getting what they want in negotiations.”
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Needless to say, interacting with such people can be challenging. The professor mentioned that individuals who have to deal with entitled others report lower well-being and burnout. If you ever find yourself in such a situation, you “should remember that this person’s claims are not based on merit and that if [you] reject this person’s request, the person will likely get angry/upset.”
“However, in one of my papers, we argue that just giving in also isn’t a good solution because it could lead to more entitlement later,” she concluded.
Bumble Girl Wants $150
Well if you can't send her the money she wants/needs. Then STOP wasting her time. She needs money; not your pathetic help! 🤣 Good grief what a rude b***h she was. I hope her car did get towed, and I don't even know her.
You’d Have To Take Out A Small Loan To Date Her
Tinder Match (18) Negotiating To Meet With Me (21) Only If I Bought Her Alcohol - There Is So Much More From This
I Asked This Girl If For A 2nd Date She Would Want To Get Food, Eat It Somewhere Pretty, And Drive To A Dessert Place After. She Had A Problem With The Kinda Car I Drive (2015 Mercedes) And What We Were Doing, Which I Thought Was A Good Date
If This Guy's Dating Bio Isn't The Definition Of This Sub, I Don't Know What Is
Went On A Few Dates With This Girl Where I Picked This Girl Up Every Time And I Paid For Everything (Including Zoo Tickets And A High End Restaurant). She Was Upset I Asked Her To Pay For A Sandwich On The Third Date
... and after 4 years, the ex was bankrupt so he got his 2 week notice?
Next! Girl Has A Tinder Account
When you decide to assume s**t just to have an excuse to be mad at someone, yes, it is your fault.
Dead End Dating Profile (F) Asks Me (M) For Ride At 2:07am, I'm Not That Desperate. Til "Goof" Must Be A Powerful Insult
29 Year Old Girl Goes Insane Over Cancelled Date
This Guy Is Looking For A Sweet Submissive “Personal Assistant” On A Dating Site. Rent Is Included. What A Deal Ladies! You Can Be His Work *and* Sex Slave All For Free Rent.
Cb = Choosing Bumbles?
For people that don't like Socialism, conservatives sure want everything for free. And they love being owned.
Went On A Date. Said I Was Looking For Something More Serious, No Hookups, And He Left Immediately. A Couple Months Later And I Get This Message
Op Refuses To Go On Coffee Dates And Only Accepts Going On Dinner Dates
"I already spend a lot of money for myself, so I deserve everything else for free" is not a valid argument.
Found On Tinder, She Sounds Like A Great Catch!
This Is Tinder, Not Build-A-Bae Workshop
Give Me Your Free Beer, Also You're Not My Date On This Dating App
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Social media has unveiled a lot of freaks that need professional help. The mask that a screen provides gives them wings to reveal their true colors, at least that gives time to analyze them before meet them. But oh boy some folks are f***d up. Stay safe and look for red flags, friends!
These freaks already existed offline. What do you think catcallers are doing?
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Some random dude messaged me on Facebook saying hi. He looked decent enough so I replied. After a few short messages he asked for a photo (not nude). I said I won't do that. He asked again and I didn't answer because I was at work and really busy (which I had already told him in the first few messages). He then asked me if I was sleeping. I said no, I'm at work and can't really talk. He asked again for a photo. When I said I'm at work (for the nth time) he got really mad and started calling me names, like 10+ messages of ranting and name-calling, all because I wouldn't send a photo And then he blocked me lol
They always start being polite but when they get a NO they go apesh!t.
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Honestly having tried it and found online dating to be awful, I don't know what's worse trying to hold one sided conversations with matches or some of these lovely examples above but clearly there seems to be a massive difference between tinder in Scotland and tinder in the states. Though to be fair it seems to work well for some and then for others its a massive algorithm scam designed to get cash from people who are lonely and looking to meet people. No excuses for some of the absolute melts who are on there though XD
How is Tinder in Scotland compared to the US? Just curious :)
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Once again, waiting for the incels to show us what a-holes they really are lmao. They'll be here any minute!
I was talking to some guy, he seemed nice and polite but when we made plans to meet up for coffee he kept resheduling (work called him in, he forgot he already had an appointment etc) and suggesting he'd come by my place after work, late at night, instead. Told him I wasn't comfortable with that, he kept asking, so I told him look I have a lot going on right now, sorry but it's not happening. All is well, he seemed to take the hint. A couple of months later I got a message asking how I'm doing etc, I told him I'm not interested. Got a couple more messages, ignored him first then blocked him. Six months later, a friend request on Facebook. Ignored it. Two years later (just recently) another friend request out of nowhere. Idk if hes just a very polite stalker or just very hopeful, he's def been more presistent than is normal but not really so much that it's been a bother.
It's still awful and also a bit stalker-like. Take care Potato.
Load More Replies... Despite the issues my marriage I'd currently having, I am so happy not to be single and trying to date. I think I'll give him a hug. He's my jerk, but I adore him.
Seems COVID is not the only pandemic floating around after reading through these... Boatload of people seem to be highly insecure. I would never make fun of it, I've been there! Just sad really. Mental health needs to be taken w a y more seriously!
People give description of the person they are looking for like they are an amazon package or something, I mean come on
If she has booty and +115IQ, I could prolly manage
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Good Lord, I'm so glad I'm married smh. Y'all single people be safe out there and good luck!
Social media has unveiled a lot of freaks that need professional help. The mask that a screen provides gives them wings to reveal their true colors, at least that gives time to analyze them before meet them. But oh boy some folks are f***d up. Stay safe and look for red flags, friends!
These freaks already existed offline. What do you think catcallers are doing?
Load More Replies... Some random dude messaged me on Facebook saying hi. He looked decent enough so I replied. After a few short messages he asked for a photo (not nude). I said I won't do that. He asked again and I didn't answer because I was at work and really busy (which I had already told him in the first few messages). He then asked me if I was sleeping. I said no, I'm at work and can't really talk. He asked again for a photo. When I said I'm at work (for the nth time) he got really mad and started calling me names, like 10+ messages of ranting and name-calling, all because I wouldn't send a photo And then he blocked me lol
They always start being polite but when they get a NO they go apesh!t.
Load More Replies... Honestly having tried it and found online dating to be awful, I don't know what's worse trying to hold one sided conversations with matches or some of these lovely examples above but clearly there seems to be a massive difference between tinder in Scotland and tinder in the states. Though to be fair it seems to work well for some and then for others its a massive algorithm scam designed to get cash from people who are lonely and looking to meet people. No excuses for some of the absolute melts who are on there though XD
How is Tinder in Scotland compared to the US? Just curious :)
Load More Replies... Once again, waiting for the incels to show us what a-holes they really are lmao. They'll be here any minute!
I was talking to some guy, he seemed nice and polite but when we made plans to meet up for coffee he kept resheduling (work called him in, he forgot he already had an appointment etc) and suggesting he'd come by my place after work, late at night, instead. Told him I wasn't comfortable with that, he kept asking, so I told him look I have a lot going on right now, sorry but it's not happening. All is well, he seemed to take the hint. A couple of months later I got a message asking how I'm doing etc, I told him I'm not interested. Got a couple more messages, ignored him first then blocked him. Six months later, a friend request on Facebook. Ignored it. Two years later (just recently) another friend request out of nowhere. Idk if hes just a very polite stalker or just very hopeful, he's def been more presistent than is normal but not really so much that it's been a bother.
It's still awful and also a bit stalker-like. Take care Potato.
Load More Replies... Despite the issues my marriage I'd currently having, I am so happy not to be single and trying to date. I think I'll give him a hug. He's my jerk, but I adore him.
Seems COVID is not the only pandemic floating around after reading through these... Boatload of people seem to be highly insecure. I would never make fun of it, I've been there! Just sad really. Mental health needs to be taken w a y more seriously!
People give description of the person they are looking for like they are an amazon package or something, I mean come on
If she has booty and +115IQ, I could prolly manage
Load More Replies... Good Lord, I'm so glad I'm married smh. Y'all single people be safe out there and good luck!
