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‘Right In The Fedora’ Entitled Guy Gets Destroyed By This Woman
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‘Right In The Fedora’ Entitled Guy Gets Destroyed By This Woman

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There’s nothing truly nice about a nice guy. If you have met one, you know it. Often predators in disguise, these dudes think they’re somehow entitled to a woman’s affection for being kind. You can meet them anywhere: work, university, your friends’ circle and you name it, which makes it even more disturbing and creepy.

But this woman who recently got bombarded with texts by one entitled nice guy wasn’t going to put up with it. On the contrary, after receiving a series of weird messages at 1AM at night demanding that she go on a date, and accusing her of “playing hard to get,” she had a whole lot to tell him.

Scroll down below to the master move in putting a creep in his place right below, and be sure to share your thoughts on incidents like this in the comments. Also, if you’d like to get to know more about the toxic nice guy culture, be sure to check our previous post with women sharing their cringy nice guy stories that are all too real.

Turns out it was an entitled ‘nice guy’ and he was not leaving the chat that easy

The paradox of the term “nice guy” is that indeed, there are many nice dudes out there. Dr. Robert Glover, a psychologist and expert in nice guy syndrome, describes this type of guy as a male who puts other people’s needs before his own, avoids any confrontations, partakes in doing favors, gives out emotional support, does his best to stay out of any trouble, and genuinely acts nice towards others.

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Finally, the woman was pressured to respond and she said she’s not interested

The nice guy idea is basically an opposite to another popular men’s archetype known as “bad boy” or “jerk.” The negative part about something so seemingly positive like a nice guy is that by expressing their affectionate, generous, helpful, understanding behaviors, he will come across as more attractive, sexually appealing than other men. To put it bluntly, a nice guy believes he deserves a reward, which is a woman’s romantic or sexual interest in him.

Disturbingly, the nice guy didn’t take no for an answer

The problem of being a nice guy is that the person doesn’t come across as nice to a woman at all. With a lifetime of frustration, nice guys tend to be really angry deep inside. Moreover, they often have difficulty setting boundaries, especially when it comes to sexual compulsiveness.

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After constant pressure, the woman had had enough and laid it all out loud and clear in the message

It’s also no secret that nice guys can be really passive-aggressive and manipulative as seen in this particular case. They also repeat the annoying behaviors making them ever less likeable. No wonder nice guys often get rejected by women, which makes them feel overlooked, mistreated and abandoned.

And two more things before she blocked the creep…

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The worst part is that nice guys don’t take no for an answer, which immediately turns them into sexual predators. One basic fundamental rule of any communication with another person is respecting their decision, whatever it may be. No means NO, and that’s the end of the story.

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troux avatar
Troux
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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Her: 'You are a f*****g predator.' Him: 'I have more than enough experience with women who play hard to get' .....It's pretty unsettling that he doesn't even realize they just said the exact same thing. I strongly believe this guy will make the news some day.

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KatHat
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Agree up to the last setence. This is COMMON. There are MILLIONS of guys who respond like this. This isn't special or unusual. Tragically.

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Caro Caro
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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What a creep. She's lovely, drop dead gorgeous bla bla bla until she said NO. All of a sudden she's a sl*t or a c*nt or a whore? How many woman have experienced this here on BP. Just post Heck Yes.

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Grace Barclay
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

No is a two letter word. No is a full sentence. End of. I read this recently on a Bored Panda post. I use it constantly with anyone who does not respect my no.

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kaycee14
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

And his refusing to accept her "no" is a HUGE red flag. Why would anyone agree to go out with someone who has shown they won't listen to "no?"

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Emily Pike
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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm a woman with unusually large breasts (that actually hurt) and I get that cleavage comment a lot. I also get accused of having a boob job (to attract men) all the time, even from other women. I never had any plastic surgery on any part of me. One of them was my (also female) psychology teacher at my high school senior year who got no punishment from the school, and she had been anti feminist to me before. Sorry to unload my life story on random internet forums, I just feel these are important stories for women to tell.

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DumYum
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My daughter developed early and the treatment she received from female teachers and the mother of her best friend was appalling. Like she was wearing a bra to be sexy at 11. No, she needed a bra and I got her one.

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TJay
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

On Twitter an incel called me a nasty whore when I turned dow a date request and I responded that a whore would have sex with him for money and that I'd rather f*ck a cactus for free than bang himself for all the money in the world...he then blocked me

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Zenozenobee
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My, you must feel soooo disappointed being blocked by him.... also I love the cactus part XD

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TheDivineMsM
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is the type of guy that would accuse a rape victim of "asking for it" justice because of what she was wearing.

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Mewton’s Third Paw
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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If she’s a s|ut with no self respect, why did you ask her out? People are so fücking dumb and bad at lying. I bet he was beet red with watery eyes when she said those mean things to him. That’s why he responded with “hahahahhaa”. Yeah right.

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Candy corn
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Lol the “peace loser” at the end was my favorite part

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Lily bloom
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I find it hilarious that he called her a s**t. Sluts and whores will pretty much get with anyone so really what does that say about him?

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Sky Render
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yeah, I can't help but notice that a common thread in these "nice guy" comebacks is that they accuse a woman of sexual promiscuity when she has in fact demonstrated quite the opposite in rejecting them. It's almost like a subconscious acknowledgement that their "involuntary celibacy" is in fact highly voluntary because of their atrocious behavior...

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Missy Moo Moo
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I had a guy text me in the middle of the night to ask me out. But by the time I went to read it, he'd already had a one sided argument with me saying I was a stuck up snob for not replying. Shame for him because I would have gone out with him if he hadn't of done that but great for me because I found out he was a psycho before ever dealing with him

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Viviane
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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I was looking at the time stamps. Texted her at 1 am, expects an answer before 7:30 am. Somebody's insomnia is addling their brain. Maybe he was up watching sappy romance movies that he mistook for documentaries.

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Nikole
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ha, he was probably watching "Fear" and thinking what a c**t Reese Witherspoon is.

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Marco Conti
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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I resent these guys and I have got a variety of reasons for it. 1. I have a daughter. She doesn't need my help to put these creeps in their place, but I'd love, just once, to give them a lesson in manners. 2. I am no longer at a "dating age" but if I were, I would hate it with these guys roaming around with their entitled attitude. 3. Fedoras. I used to love wearing a fedora. I bought mine at Borsalino, in Rome when I was 21. I would love to wear a Fedora sometimes, but these morons ruined that too. I hope Elon Musk is going to build his spaceship and take them all to Alpha Centauri. The star itself directly, so they become ionized particles and never bother humanity again.

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Potato
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If it makes you feel better, most of these idiots are actually wearing trilbies and calling them fedoras. Wear that fedora--the Doctor would approve!

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Sofie
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I wish she was my mom when I was abused as a teen and treated so wrong by a lot of guys. Plus, he seems like an incel and those are so scary and a real threat to society.

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Ray Martin
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My advice for men who meet difficult women all the time, is to consider the possibility that perhaps that it's not the women who are hard to get, but that you are hard to take.

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Ellie
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

How to men end up this self-entitled? Culture? Their mums?

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Tracy Wallick
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Because society writ large has taught them that they're entitled to women's time, attention and bodies. Because society treats men as the 'default' and everyone else as outside the norm. Because women are afraid to tell men 'no' directly, because there are countless cases of men assaulting, raping and even murdering women who refuse them. Because media has fed them countless stories where "persistence" (ie, ignoring the woman's boundaries) helped a guy get the girl, and social media has given men of this mindset an easy way to find other men like them and form echo chambers where their views get validated and made more extreme.

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Craig Reynolds
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NO does not require an explanation, ever. The people asking for one just don't like the answer and want to try and force you to change your mind.

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Touch Connors
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"I bet you're pretty probably bang three dudes when you could have had me instead." How is that a selling point? Three different desserts are better than one, right?

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Id row
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I hope this 'nice guy' sees this is making the rounds on the internet and is ashamed of himself.

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Carol Emory
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Love how she turned the s**t comment back on him. *So if I'm a s**t and I'm saying no to you, that makes you an even bigger loser, right?

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Mewton’s Third Paw
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This needs to be projected on to the sky across the world. It’s actually art. I haven’t seen such a thing of beauty in a long time.

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XOnlyX WickrMe
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

To any guys 'tired of all the attention being on women all the time, why can't 1) things go back to the way they were or 2) I understand that but what about men?' types- women are the equivalent of black lives in the blm explanation. Yes men are sexually assaulted & raped, I'm not trying to discredit that in any way. But women are beaten, humiliated, degraded, bred, and in extreme cases, literally bought and sold like animals. I hear you when some of you say 'Boys have been traded etc like that too to offenders!' Yes, sadly that is so. But boys can't be forced to some things they physically can't. They have two entries, we have three. And that extra entry causes reproduction etc. It's ALL horrible, no one should suffer any of it. I guess what I'm trying to say is that there's an extra layer of fear for women.

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Venic
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Calling someone promiscuous for not going out with you is like calling someone an alcoholic for turning down a beer.

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GoddessOdd
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

There needs to be some sort of data base for these guys... he's a latent sexual offender (although he might already be an actual offender) who bears watching. I think it's a small step for these incels to turn violent.

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Alex Boyd
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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Translation for any "nice guys" who "just don't understand women": The woman's first response (the one that starts "hi there") means, "I absolutely do not want to go out with you; please please please please please don't murder me."

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Enlee Jones
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She said no. You are not owed an explanation as to why she said no. There are other women in the world. Move on!

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Hugo Raible
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Being persistent is one thing, but being totally unaware of the vibes and uncalibrated to what's going on the other side is another...

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D K
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Lee Patterson’s comment exemplifies what a narcissist this fedora loser is. “Hey beautiful” to “you slüt” in .008 seconds when they get shot down.

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Russian Otaku
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is on a rocket going way past stupid and even flying deep past the retard zone. The epitome of a total lack of manners or class right here. Should've found his mom via Facebook and sent her that

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Ape Lampkowski
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You did a great job. Just scary if he knows where you work. Stay safe.

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Blue Pearl
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Nice guys are basically NPCs. They all act and react the exact same way. Smh

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Frannie Kaplan
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is even tame in comparison to what we usually experience and what I've seen. Once upon a time I called people out then I just directly block them.

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Celtic Pirate Queen
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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What is it with some men, that "NO" means "NO"? I used to take the trolley home from work & inevitably some guy would sit next to me and try to strike up a conversation. I always try to be polite, but when I'm sitting there reading a book I am obviously not interested in interacting with you. Now, I'm no slouch, but I'm definitely not Heidi Klum either, so why are you trying to talk to me? See the big shiny ring on my left hand? I've had the "You'd be so much prettier if you smiled" line as well. "You know what, random f*cking stranger - you'd be prettier if you got a clue and left me the hell alone". And yes, I have actually had that interchange. Women do NOT owe men their time or attention - EVER. Piss the f*ck off.

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LSR
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Damn...this was f*****g scary. I would had immediately changed my number and / or phone. What an asswipe.

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SirWriteALot
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

How are these creeps still a thing in 2021? Ashamed for my sex.

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Lovin' Life
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is disturbing. The guy is truly a predator. He needs professional help before he goes to far and actually hurts someone.

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Eb
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sad. Until he realises that women are people too, not objects he feels entitled to get, he's going to stay lonely and bitter.

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Na Schi
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

F**k men!!! I'm constantly questioning myself why I'm still straight!!!! You normally got to chose between a predator or a big crybaby... So fed up!!!!

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KimB
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Any people ask me why I carry pepper spray it's because people are delusional and sometimes downright insane these days. I feel sorry for all of you whom are dating nowadays shessh!

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plain bOrEd not panda
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I wouldn't get into so much details and insults with such a man, because you never know exactly how damaged and prone to crime he is. Just saying. Most rapes, homicides, etc are committed by someone you know. It's like going to a wasp nest, poking it with a stick and then get surprised you got stung. Have some common sense and skip the small talk, not to mention the insults.

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plain bOrEd not panda
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Skip the "I am flattered" kinda crap, tell them you have a very jealous and aggressive boyfriend and you're afraid they're gonna end up like the last one who tried taking you out. I see too much talking from an egocentric kind of place.

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Tenacious Squirrel
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

There are so many disturbing posts like this I’ve seen online. I feel incredibly lucky to never have received any communication like this from anyone (including online dating etc).

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Ya boi Jakobi
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

the guy's spelling tho... "anyrhing" "your one of them" its you're and anything lel

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Daniel Marsh
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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Why is this person being labelled a 'nice guy'? I thought even the ironic concept of 'nice guy' was that the guy behaves very kindly, acts as a friend and a gentleman, and then makes a move in an entitled way. This guy seems just like rando horndog.

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Tracy Wallick
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Because guys like this typically label themselves as "nice guys", then complain that "women don't like nice guys" (ie, women don't like men like them)

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Dre Mosley
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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Bravo. Nicely done. When you won't stop after the first polite "No." and result to calling her a "sl*t" when she makes it clear you have no chance, you're not a "Nice Guy."

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De Gueb
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Thing is, the original texts he sent probably work on some girls, It's like the corny TV promos. If there on TV somebody is buying.

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Emma Starr
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The description of the Nice Guy was really inaccurate. He puts others needs before his own in hope of a later payoff, not out of the goodness of their hearts. And girls can be the same way, equal opportunity manipulators.

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Douglas Mock
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

These guys make it insanely difficult to be actually nice without being accused of "being A Nice Guy". This guy will be in the slammer for rape soon. I bet he's a cop too.

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Kishibe Angelo
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

if he send a pic snap...his dic -Master Oogway one fish, two fish, this man is a dumb bish -Doctor Sues

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Rannveig Ess
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2 years ago

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I just don't get why women still feel the need to "explain" and be "nice" when telling someone they're not interested in, or who is a creep, NO or EFF NO. Or just block them and don't have these long, long "gotcha" conversations. People who are unstable, or jerks like this guy, see ANY reply or attention as "attention". There are many women (and men) who DO drag things out and tease, or think they're getting their licks on by being snide or nasty but it's not going to work, it's just going to encourage them. Or they like the drama. Bad things can happen. Just block people. Just block the number. Just block the message or email. This isn't some brilliant repartee, it's the sign of q (or 2) sick narcissists who can kill people. If someone thinks abuse and degrading another is somehow still attractive, it looks worse that the abused and degraded person thinks it's a game. It's not

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Potato
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

They "explain" and "be nice" because the most common reaction from guys like this is to become violent. But you know what? I'm glad she turned around with the "gotcha" comment. These chodes need to hear it. Your logic is about as skewed as the incel's.

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Ryan Deschanel
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2 years ago

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Those entitled-conceited-alpha-chads are disgusting. They scare women and soil the reputation of other men.

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Mewton’s Third Paw
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

They’re not conceited alpha chads. They’re little incels like you with no understanding of social dynamics.

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Marcellus II
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2 years ago

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If offering a drink is seeking sex then (as a male) I've been thirsty for a large amount of males and colleagues... unexpecte.

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KatHat
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Hmm, it seems as though you might be deliberately missing the point.

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Je souhaite
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2 years ago

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Whole thing could have been avoided if she ignored the text from the start, why do people always feel the need to respond?

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Mewton’s Third Paw
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Her first response was so she wouldn’t hurt his feelings by just ignoring him. She didn’t know he was a piece of shīt, remember?

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Troux
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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Her: 'You are a f*****g predator.' Him: 'I have more than enough experience with women who play hard to get' .....It's pretty unsettling that he doesn't even realize they just said the exact same thing. I strongly believe this guy will make the news some day.

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KatHat
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Agree up to the last setence. This is COMMON. There are MILLIONS of guys who respond like this. This isn't special or unusual. Tragically.

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Caro Caro
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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What a creep. She's lovely, drop dead gorgeous bla bla bla until she said NO. All of a sudden she's a sl*t or a c*nt or a whore? How many woman have experienced this here on BP. Just post Heck Yes.

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Grace Barclay
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

No is a two letter word. No is a full sentence. End of. I read this recently on a Bored Panda post. I use it constantly with anyone who does not respect my no.

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kaycee14
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

And his refusing to accept her "no" is a HUGE red flag. Why would anyone agree to go out with someone who has shown they won't listen to "no?"

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Emily Pike
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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm a woman with unusually large breasts (that actually hurt) and I get that cleavage comment a lot. I also get accused of having a boob job (to attract men) all the time, even from other women. I never had any plastic surgery on any part of me. One of them was my (also female) psychology teacher at my high school senior year who got no punishment from the school, and she had been anti feminist to me before. Sorry to unload my life story on random internet forums, I just feel these are important stories for women to tell.

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DumYum
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My daughter developed early and the treatment she received from female teachers and the mother of her best friend was appalling. Like she was wearing a bra to be sexy at 11. No, she needed a bra and I got her one.

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TJay
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

On Twitter an incel called me a nasty whore when I turned dow a date request and I responded that a whore would have sex with him for money and that I'd rather f*ck a cactus for free than bang himself for all the money in the world...he then blocked me

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Zenozenobee
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My, you must feel soooo disappointed being blocked by him.... also I love the cactus part XD

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TheDivineMsM
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is the type of guy that would accuse a rape victim of "asking for it" justice because of what she was wearing.

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Mewton’s Third Paw
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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If she’s a s|ut with no self respect, why did you ask her out? People are so fücking dumb and bad at lying. I bet he was beet red with watery eyes when she said those mean things to him. That’s why he responded with “hahahahhaa”. Yeah right.

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Candy corn
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Lol the “peace loser” at the end was my favorite part

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Lily bloom
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I find it hilarious that he called her a s**t. Sluts and whores will pretty much get with anyone so really what does that say about him?

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Sky Render
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yeah, I can't help but notice that a common thread in these "nice guy" comebacks is that they accuse a woman of sexual promiscuity when she has in fact demonstrated quite the opposite in rejecting them. It's almost like a subconscious acknowledgement that their "involuntary celibacy" is in fact highly voluntary because of their atrocious behavior...

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Missy Moo Moo
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I had a guy text me in the middle of the night to ask me out. But by the time I went to read it, he'd already had a one sided argument with me saying I was a stuck up snob for not replying. Shame for him because I would have gone out with him if he hadn't of done that but great for me because I found out he was a psycho before ever dealing with him

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Viviane
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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I was looking at the time stamps. Texted her at 1 am, expects an answer before 7:30 am. Somebody's insomnia is addling their brain. Maybe he was up watching sappy romance movies that he mistook for documentaries.

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Nikole
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ha, he was probably watching "Fear" and thinking what a c**t Reese Witherspoon is.

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Marco Conti
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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I resent these guys and I have got a variety of reasons for it. 1. I have a daughter. She doesn't need my help to put these creeps in their place, but I'd love, just once, to give them a lesson in manners. 2. I am no longer at a "dating age" but if I were, I would hate it with these guys roaming around with their entitled attitude. 3. Fedoras. I used to love wearing a fedora. I bought mine at Borsalino, in Rome when I was 21. I would love to wear a Fedora sometimes, but these morons ruined that too. I hope Elon Musk is going to build his spaceship and take them all to Alpha Centauri. The star itself directly, so they become ionized particles and never bother humanity again.

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Potato
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If it makes you feel better, most of these idiots are actually wearing trilbies and calling them fedoras. Wear that fedora--the Doctor would approve!

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Sofie
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I wish she was my mom when I was abused as a teen and treated so wrong by a lot of guys. Plus, he seems like an incel and those are so scary and a real threat to society.

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Ray Martin
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My advice for men who meet difficult women all the time, is to consider the possibility that perhaps that it's not the women who are hard to get, but that you are hard to take.

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Ellie
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

How to men end up this self-entitled? Culture? Their mums?

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Tracy Wallick
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Because society writ large has taught them that they're entitled to women's time, attention and bodies. Because society treats men as the 'default' and everyone else as outside the norm. Because women are afraid to tell men 'no' directly, because there are countless cases of men assaulting, raping and even murdering women who refuse them. Because media has fed them countless stories where "persistence" (ie, ignoring the woman's boundaries) helped a guy get the girl, and social media has given men of this mindset an easy way to find other men like them and form echo chambers where their views get validated and made more extreme.

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Craig Reynolds
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NO does not require an explanation, ever. The people asking for one just don't like the answer and want to try and force you to change your mind.

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Touch Connors
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"I bet you're pretty probably bang three dudes when you could have had me instead." How is that a selling point? Three different desserts are better than one, right?

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Id row
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I hope this 'nice guy' sees this is making the rounds on the internet and is ashamed of himself.

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Carol Emory
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Love how she turned the s**t comment back on him. *So if I'm a s**t and I'm saying no to you, that makes you an even bigger loser, right?

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Mewton’s Third Paw
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This needs to be projected on to the sky across the world. It’s actually art. I haven’t seen such a thing of beauty in a long time.

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XOnlyX WickrMe
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

To any guys 'tired of all the attention being on women all the time, why can't 1) things go back to the way they were or 2) I understand that but what about men?' types- women are the equivalent of black lives in the blm explanation. Yes men are sexually assaulted & raped, I'm not trying to discredit that in any way. But women are beaten, humiliated, degraded, bred, and in extreme cases, literally bought and sold like animals. I hear you when some of you say 'Boys have been traded etc like that too to offenders!' Yes, sadly that is so. But boys can't be forced to some things they physically can't. They have two entries, we have three. And that extra entry causes reproduction etc. It's ALL horrible, no one should suffer any of it. I guess what I'm trying to say is that there's an extra layer of fear for women.

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Venic
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Calling someone promiscuous for not going out with you is like calling someone an alcoholic for turning down a beer.

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GoddessOdd
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

There needs to be some sort of data base for these guys... he's a latent sexual offender (although he might already be an actual offender) who bears watching. I think it's a small step for these incels to turn violent.

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Alex Boyd
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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Translation for any "nice guys" who "just don't understand women": The woman's first response (the one that starts "hi there") means, "I absolutely do not want to go out with you; please please please please please don't murder me."

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Enlee Jones
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She said no. You are not owed an explanation as to why she said no. There are other women in the world. Move on!

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Hugo Raible
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Being persistent is one thing, but being totally unaware of the vibes and uncalibrated to what's going on the other side is another...

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D K
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Lee Patterson’s comment exemplifies what a narcissist this fedora loser is. “Hey beautiful” to “you slüt” in .008 seconds when they get shot down.

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Russian Otaku
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is on a rocket going way past stupid and even flying deep past the retard zone. The epitome of a total lack of manners or class right here. Should've found his mom via Facebook and sent her that

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Ape Lampkowski
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You did a great job. Just scary if he knows where you work. Stay safe.

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Blue Pearl
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Nice guys are basically NPCs. They all act and react the exact same way. Smh

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Frannie Kaplan
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is even tame in comparison to what we usually experience and what I've seen. Once upon a time I called people out then I just directly block them.

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Celtic Pirate Queen
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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What is it with some men, that "NO" means "NO"? I used to take the trolley home from work & inevitably some guy would sit next to me and try to strike up a conversation. I always try to be polite, but when I'm sitting there reading a book I am obviously not interested in interacting with you. Now, I'm no slouch, but I'm definitely not Heidi Klum either, so why are you trying to talk to me? See the big shiny ring on my left hand? I've had the "You'd be so much prettier if you smiled" line as well. "You know what, random f*cking stranger - you'd be prettier if you got a clue and left me the hell alone". And yes, I have actually had that interchange. Women do NOT owe men their time or attention - EVER. Piss the f*ck off.

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LSR
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Damn...this was f*****g scary. I would had immediately changed my number and / or phone. What an asswipe.

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SirWriteALot
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

How are these creeps still a thing in 2021? Ashamed for my sex.

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Lovin' Life
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is disturbing. The guy is truly a predator. He needs professional help before he goes to far and actually hurts someone.

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Eb
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sad. Until he realises that women are people too, not objects he feels entitled to get, he's going to stay lonely and bitter.

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Na Schi
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

F**k men!!! I'm constantly questioning myself why I'm still straight!!!! You normally got to chose between a predator or a big crybaby... So fed up!!!!

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KimB
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Any people ask me why I carry pepper spray it's because people are delusional and sometimes downright insane these days. I feel sorry for all of you whom are dating nowadays shessh!

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plain bOrEd not panda
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I wouldn't get into so much details and insults with such a man, because you never know exactly how damaged and prone to crime he is. Just saying. Most rapes, homicides, etc are committed by someone you know. It's like going to a wasp nest, poking it with a stick and then get surprised you got stung. Have some common sense and skip the small talk, not to mention the insults.

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plain bOrEd not panda
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Skip the "I am flattered" kinda crap, tell them you have a very jealous and aggressive boyfriend and you're afraid they're gonna end up like the last one who tried taking you out. I see too much talking from an egocentric kind of place.

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Tenacious Squirrel
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

There are so many disturbing posts like this I’ve seen online. I feel incredibly lucky to never have received any communication like this from anyone (including online dating etc).

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Ya boi Jakobi
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

the guy's spelling tho... "anyrhing" "your one of them" its you're and anything lel

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Daniel Marsh
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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Why is this person being labelled a 'nice guy'? I thought even the ironic concept of 'nice guy' was that the guy behaves very kindly, acts as a friend and a gentleman, and then makes a move in an entitled way. This guy seems just like rando horndog.

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Tracy Wallick
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Because guys like this typically label themselves as "nice guys", then complain that "women don't like nice guys" (ie, women don't like men like them)

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Dre Mosley
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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Bravo. Nicely done. When you won't stop after the first polite "No." and result to calling her a "sl*t" when she makes it clear you have no chance, you're not a "Nice Guy."

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De Gueb
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Thing is, the original texts he sent probably work on some girls, It's like the corny TV promos. If there on TV somebody is buying.

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Emma Starr
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The description of the Nice Guy was really inaccurate. He puts others needs before his own in hope of a later payoff, not out of the goodness of their hearts. And girls can be the same way, equal opportunity manipulators.

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Douglas Mock
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

These guys make it insanely difficult to be actually nice without being accused of "being A Nice Guy". This guy will be in the slammer for rape soon. I bet he's a cop too.

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Kishibe Angelo
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

if he send a pic snap...his dic -Master Oogway one fish, two fish, this man is a dumb bish -Doctor Sues

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Rannveig Ess
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2 years ago

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I just don't get why women still feel the need to "explain" and be "nice" when telling someone they're not interested in, or who is a creep, NO or EFF NO. Or just block them and don't have these long, long "gotcha" conversations. People who are unstable, or jerks like this guy, see ANY reply or attention as "attention". There are many women (and men) who DO drag things out and tease, or think they're getting their licks on by being snide or nasty but it's not going to work, it's just going to encourage them. Or they like the drama. Bad things can happen. Just block people. Just block the number. Just block the message or email. This isn't some brilliant repartee, it's the sign of q (or 2) sick narcissists who can kill people. If someone thinks abuse and degrading another is somehow still attractive, it looks worse that the abused and degraded person thinks it's a game. It's not

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Potato
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

They "explain" and "be nice" because the most common reaction from guys like this is to become violent. But you know what? I'm glad she turned around with the "gotcha" comment. These chodes need to hear it. Your logic is about as skewed as the incel's.

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Ryan Deschanel
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2 years ago

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Those entitled-conceited-alpha-chads are disgusting. They scare women and soil the reputation of other men.

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Mewton’s Third Paw
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

They’re not conceited alpha chads. They’re little incels like you with no understanding of social dynamics.

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Marcellus II
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2 years ago

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If offering a drink is seeking sex then (as a male) I've been thirsty for a large amount of males and colleagues... unexpecte.

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KatHat
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Hmm, it seems as though you might be deliberately missing the point.

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Je souhaite
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2 years ago

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Whole thing could have been avoided if she ignored the text from the start, why do people always feel the need to respond?

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Mewton’s Third Paw
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Her first response was so she wouldn’t hurt his feelings by just ignoring him. She didn’t know he was a piece of shīt, remember?

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