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Ah, family. Can’t live with ‘em, can’t live without 'em, right? They’re supposed to be there to provide unconditional love and support us any time we need help, and in turn, we are expected to do the same. Sometimes, however, our relatives have a hard time understanding that just because we’re family does not mean that we can be taken advantage of.

Below, we’ve gathered some of the most obnoxious examples of family members being entitled, from the Choosing Beggars subreddit, that might make you appreciate your own family a whole lot more. Be sure to upvote the posts that you find particularly ridiculous, and let us know in the comments if any of your relatives have ever been choosy beggars.

Then if you’re interested in seeing even more of these annoying family members that you'll be thankful you don't have to celebrate the holidays with, you can find Bored Panda’s last article on the same topic right here.

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Choosing Beggar Shames Her Daughter In Law For Using A Gift Card She Gave Her To Make A Blanket For Them

Choosing Beggar Shames Her Daughter In Law For Using A Gift Card She Gave Her To Make A Blanket For Them

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Synsepalum
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

As an avid knitter and crocheter, this makes me livid. The amount of time it takes to craft a bedspread is obviously not understood by this ignorant woman. I'm sure the DIL considered it a thoughtful gesture.

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Seabeast
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

People who have never made anything in their lives have no idea how much time and energy it takes to do it.

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Seabeast
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This was a letter to Dear Prudence on Slate. The LW got lambasted thoroughly, both by the columnist and by the people in the comments section

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Kayci Kuniyuki
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

To the DIL, you're amazing! To the MIL, you're a narcissistic b***h.

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Mokayokok
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Excuse me, Kayci, but get your damn wording right, she's not a narcissistic b***h, she's a narcissistic c**t.

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Blaze Fitzwater
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So the DIL used her birthday gift to purchase yarn and spent numerous hours making a "lovely bedspread" for this ungrateful twit? She didn't buy a bedspread, she made one! The audacity and entitlement has me livid. I hope Prudie responded accordingly.

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Seth
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The MIL's comment about "gift etiquette" is so hypocritical I had to stare a a blank wall for a few minutes to regain my will to go on.

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Emmydearest
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

To be honest it's the DIL the one who "got screwed" here. She used her own present (gift card for yarn) to buy the material for a present to someone else. Not only she spent her time and effort to make the present, she also "lost" her own present. It's a double lose, if you know what I mean. The mother-in-law should be nothing else but thankful. Also, a hand-made, unique-in-the-world present would be priceless to me. Everyone can go to the mall and buy the first thing they land their eyes upon, but people craft things only for the people they care about.

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DEW
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Emmy I think the son should figure out how many balls of yarn it took to do make the blanket and charge his mom for the extra money or give back the blanket!!LOL!! Maybe mama would realized that she got a present far more expensive then the money on the card! I just can't get over the gall of people. I 100% agree with you!!

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Bruce willsmouth
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

One year I offered a gift card to my daughter so she can get whatever please her for Christmas. She used those to purchase a watch she offered to me for Christmas. I was touched.

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SageHare37
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm hopeless with yarn, it defeats me. I do know it takes many, many hours and LOTS of yarn to make a bedspread. Good yarn is expensive. I can't imagine the heartbreak of having such a gift not only rejected but told *you* were rude for using a gift card to reduce the massive cost. I don't think I'd ever give a gift to my inlaws again, just a Hallmark card for them to criticize.

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Sandy D
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I wouldn't waste a hallmark card. I'd go to the dollar store and get the 2 cards for $1 kind of card

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HangryHangryHippo
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wow. The amount of time and effort the DIL put there to give a thoughtful gift and this MIL from hell taking offense. It blows my mind, what a horrible ungrateful person

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Kate Smith
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What a horrible response to such a thoughtful and effort filled gift. If I was the DIL I would want the bedspread back and get the parents a gift card for the exact value of the cost of the yarn used. This woman obviously only sees value in money and doesn't deserve something so special.

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Buren
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Geez, I would consider that as best and thoughtful gift! Why would anyone live with this kind of mindset

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Jillio
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This lady is an a*****e. No more gifts of any kind for her.

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AltBren
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

How about, take the blanket back, sell on here (I'll bid) and give the b word the money.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My partners mom crochets and I cherish everything she has ever made for me. I would be completely over the moon if it had been me. They don't deserve the bedspread or the love that went into making it.

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Eunice Probert
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Her time, patience and skill were your gift. How rude of you not to realise that. She could have spent the card on herself but she chose to spend it on a lovely gift for you. You don't deserve her.

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Dark Pearl
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

'wE iN eFfEcT pAiD fOr ThE gIfT' I'd take that bedspread back for myself, like? It takes so long to make a bedspread, and I bet it's beautiful and warm and snuggly and perfect for the winter

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Sef
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

For comparison, let's say a MIL gave her DIL, who likes to paint (or rather is an artist), a gift card to an art supply store. Then, the DIL uses that money to buy canvas, paint, and brushes and creates a lovely painting and gifts it to the MIL for an anniversary gift. Would anyone think that was poor gift etiquette? Or that the MIL essentially bought her own gift? This MIL above didn't receive packaged yarn of various colors. She received a handmade, "lovely blanket" that will last years and is also of sentimental value. Yhe labor alone would price that blankets as an expensive gift (in my book). If that were my mom and my wife, I would be so ashamed of my mother for that kind of reaction and sense of entitlement.

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Michael Largey
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The logic here is baffling. Suppose the MIL had given the DIL cash as a present. That would mean that the DIL could never BUY a present for the MIL ever in the future, since she could be said to be using the MIL"s money to do it and therefore giving her gift back.

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Zira Michelle (LoveoftheDark)
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If I was the DIL, that would be the last gift that hag of a MIL ever got from me. Knitting an entire bedspread takes HUNDREDS of hours of thought, consideration and skill. What an ungrateful twit.

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wowbagger
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My step-mother enjoys jewelry-making. Once I gave her some beads and other supplies that I thought she'd like. At my next birthday she gave me a necklace made with those beads. I was *mortified*. I was so worried she thought that I gave her the beads with the expectation that she'd make me something, like I'd given her a passive-aggressive demand for something instead of a gift. That's where I thought this Dear Prudence letter was going, and then it veered off in this weird direction. How did things get turned around so backwards in this woman's mind?

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's difficult to think of a nicer gift than a handmade anything that took countless hours AND demonstrates her appreciation for their gift to her. I'm fascinated by the entitlement MIL feels. Seriously - Wow!

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Katrina Sellars
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Your DIL spent so much time, effort, and skill to make that bedspread, and she made it with love. In my eyes, it's worth FAR more than its monetary value. I was taught a number of things with respect to gifts. 1. It is more blessed to give than to receive. 2. Never expect a gift in return. 3. Spend within your means, and don't expect anyone giving to you to spend more than they can afford. 4. A gift chosen with thought for the recipient, and especially when time and skill has been spent is priceless. 5. Giving, and receiving, is absolutely NOT about money, or about the monetary value of the gift, it's about love. In my opinion, the attitude expressed here is selfish and contemptible.

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Jill Bussey
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

In your own words "a lovely bedspread," hand crafted by your DIL. What exactly are you complaining about?? When you gave her the gift voucher, it became hers. How she spent is down to her; she chose to put in hours of time and skill to create something for you.

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Miriam L
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"Imagine my dismay!" Does anyone really use that phrase unironically anymore? Like, maybe the DIL shouldn't have mentioned that the gift card paid for the yarn, but I'm used to it as part of my extended family would also consider it a faux pas to mention how much a gift cost or how it was acquired. (The other half is like "I found this awesome deal so I bought one for you too! Please, it was cheap, take it.) So I would probably not have mentioned it outright. But she did, and that makes it no less of a heartfelt, dedicated gift. It's even more so when you consider that the DIL could have spent that money on herself, but her immediate reaction was to think about how she could make someone else happy.

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Miriam L
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I understand a little of why OP might be upset. I was taught that it was rude to give a gift that seemed like you were returning something or that you didn't appreciate the gift. (When I was young, my aunt got me a book about ballerinas with a necklace. When I got a duplicate copy, I wanted to give it to her - she also liked ballerinas and the necklace was so pretty! My mum had to explain why that's not always appropriate.) But this isn't returning the gift. If OP was upset because she was hoping her DIL would treat herself to something just for her to enjoy, that's one thing. But that's something you accept quietly with gratitude and plan for a gift that better 'spoils' the recipient next year. The fact that OP is mad because of 'etiquette,' and because she's not seeing the time and dedication that makes up the gift... That's the problem. She's not upset because she feels like her DIL didn't enjoy herself. She's upset because she's undervaluing the hard work involved.

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idrow1
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

They really should have included Prudie's response: https://slate.com/human-interest/2018/12/dear-prudence-best-letters-2018.html

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Bobby
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Found the response here. Prudence was much kinder in her response than I would be. https://slate.com/human-interest/2018/12/dear-prudence-best-letters-2018.html

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Well, if she gave her money, and then got money as a present, would she be so angry? Gifts are in general our resources going back and forth... Her DIL added her time, skills and the old hag said herself it was beautiful. What an idiot woman she is

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Enlee Jones
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I’m a knitter and crocheted and this post makes me weep for humanity.

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Stacy Kincannon
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yes I understand the whole you paid for your own gift but if she hadn’t told it was from the gift card would you have been happy with it? I love home made gifts them are some much more personal than maybe a gift card or something🥰

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I personally would have been in tears,knowing that someone I'd given a gift card to hadn't spent it on themselves but instead,thought of me and actually took soo much time,care and effort to make me something beautiful.What an absolutely lovely and selfless thing to do,the MIL should be thoroughly ashamed of herself,not to mention beyond over joyed that her son is married to such a caring,thoughtful lady.

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Donna Rakowiecki
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

But proud of the son to not go through with bothering his wife with the pettiness of the mother

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Donna Rakowiecki
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wow what a narcissistic mother-in-law feel sorry for the daughter-in-law

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Patti Vance
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

this woman needs to gently but firmly kick her mil to the curb. at least her husband appreciated the time and effort put into the gift. i think that if it was me i would ensure that for the rest of my life i would make sure that the mil would only get store bought items as gifts but they would be very generic and practical gifts such as pot holders, salt and pepper shakers, etc. if questioned i would explain that she communicated that she didn't like homemade gifts and, therefore, wanted to get her something that she could use.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Years ago, in my early teens, the very first afghan I ever crocheted was a pattern I created on my own, just to see if I could do it. It turned out okay, but not great. I liked it, but I wasn't thrilled by it. Years later, my MIL saw it and instantly fell in love with it. She hesitantly asked if she could take it home with her. Of course, I said yes. Now that my inlaws are both gone, I have the afghan back again. I still know it's not the best afghan I've ever made (I've done several more since, that turned out much better), but at this point it has much more sentimental value to me, because of how much my MIL loved it, than anything else I've ever done. The "mother" in this story needs to remove the stick from her a$$.

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Suanne Burk
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Poster needs to pull their head in. Her DIL could have used the yarn to make something for herself, but chose to invest her time in her in-laws instead. Ignorance is ugly

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Böb Schüster
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

No you're the A$$, what DIL did was sweet. She put in her time and effort to give you a gift back out of the gift you gave her. She didn't just hand you some balls of yarn, she gave you love and you rejected it.

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Joyce Rogers
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Well we all know the mother-in-law never made anything by hand. Give it back to the daughter-in-law and let her give it to someone who will appreciate it.

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Chickens are fluffy
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Oh my gosh! I don't see anything wrong with this! She took a long time making it and you are being disrespectful

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blankman
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The poster needs to get a life and accept that her daughter-in-law gave her a gift that she should treasure. It showed that the DiL actually cared about her inlaws and was willing to put the time and effort in to make them a very personal gift.

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MMcD
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The gift card was probably $10 or $15. No doubt this woman returned something, got a store credit, and rounded up the amount up to put on a gift card.

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Liz
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

daughter should add up the DAYS it took to make that and send them a bill for her labor! there's a reason why handmade is expensive!!

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mark glass
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Someone just earned permanent placement on the "lump of coal" list.

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Marilyn Ransberry
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She could have used that yarn for a sweater for herself but instead spent a HUGE amount of time making you something. If you gave her money instead of a gift card would it be rude for her to use money to buy you something?

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Microwaved Robot
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I craft gifts all year long because I appreciated the crafted gifts I have received as I know that, that person thought about me the whole time they were working on it. WoW, what a B***h.

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Emily Shiers
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Let me get my facts right. The MIL is complaining because the DIL has used HER own birthday gift voucher (which she could have spent on yarn etc for a personal project) and made, I imagine, a beautiful hand crafted bedspread that would have involved hours and hours of intricate work? What an ungrateful madam that MIL is! I'd take the bedspread back!

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Skeeter
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Son needs to jerk a knot in mama and take the bedspread back.

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Nunya Business
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

THIS person is using improper gift etiquette! Her DIL enjoys the act of knitting and she provided her with the materials. This is like a slap in the face for the person who spent so much time & effort on a reciprical gift that she thought would have special meaning. SHAME on the MIL!

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Eastendbird
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I remember this letter. The good news is that, in her reply, Prudence tore the woman a new one!

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Elspeth Marple
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Um excuse me?!!!! I crochet, and that was literally a gesture of, "look I didn't waste the card you gave me, and now I can share it with you" I do this all the time, and for the record yes, it takes forever to crochet a blanket. I'm getting arthritis from crocheting for much. This woman knows nothing about working with her hands and them spreading the love.

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Kayjunmoon
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I would have been thrilled if someone made something for me. Just to show the daughter in law thought of her should have been enough for this mean spirited MIL

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Lolly
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I would be absolutely delighted if someoneade me a bedspread. I think this is a wonderful gift

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Vasana Phong
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Anything that is handmade/ crafted, has more of a sentimental value then the actual gift itself

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pebs
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The woman who wrote this complaint is completely out of her mind. Poor husband.

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Marleinah Smith
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wwwoooowwwww, I don't crochet or knit.....I don't even have CLOSE to the patience it takes......and yes, it takes a LOT of time to create that large a piece. Definitely cancels out what you paid for the gift card, and she didn't have to make YOU ANYTHING!!!! Go get help, you need it.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What the f**k is "gift etiquette"? "You'd paid for your own present"? If you only give to receive a cash value back, you don't deserve the love and care that went into making your gift. She's showing you she valued your thoughtfulness in selecting her gift.

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Abhorsen
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have a beanie my good friend knitted me, and I loved the f*****g s**t out of it. Wtf is wrong with this b***h

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DEW
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Anyone that would be willing to do a labor of love and knit me a blanket I would be more then happy to give you a gift card for the yarn. I would still owe you money for your time, work and love that I'm sure goes into making something like this!! I would ask for the blanket back and by her a book on Etiquette!!

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KieLeaHar
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5 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Clearly this woman has NEVER knitted or crocheted anything in her life… A damn BEDSPREAD and she’s whinging?! That would be an amazing gift!!

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Marian Moore
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Bet her DIL never makes her anything again. What a bit#h.

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Gregory Mead
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I am a woodturner (I make things with a lathe). Whenever someone cuts down a tree or has a tree fall and gives me some of the wood, I always make them something with it (as well as making other things). No one has EVER not appreciated it. I would have cherished a bedspread made by a knitter with a gift card I'd given them.

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Cory Tollman
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's not like she re-gifted the gift card. I wonder if the lady would feel the same if they gave someone a gift card for Lowes or Home Depot and then the person built them something nice out of the wood they purchased at one of those places? Or, how about they gifted someone some are supplies and the person made a lovely piece of art and gifted it to them.

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Callie Ge
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You are such a colossal AH. Your DIL put literally hundreds of hours of love & devotion into making you a beautiful hand made gift & you are upset that she used yarn she bought with the gift card you gave her, GIFT Means what she does with it is her business. You don’t deserve the Beadspread OR you’re wonderful DIL. Brick bats to you.

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Lily
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I would be happy that the present I bought, was used! And be grateful, given the time that goes into it.

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Lisa Shahan
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

MIL's joking, right? 1. MIL gave DIL $60 gift. Doesn't matter if it had been in the form of cash, gift card, or a material thing. It now belongs to DIL. Period. The only etiquette required now is for DIL to offer sincere thanks, which she did. 2. DIL could have used that gift for something for herself, something for her home, or something to any other friend or family member. She CHOSE to use $60 of HER OWN (not to mention all the time and effort) to create a gift for MIL. Again, the only etiquette required upon receipt of a gift is gracious acknowledgment. MIL is the one lacking in manners. If DIL had used her yarn to make a gift for a friend, would MIL be offended thinking she had funded the friend's gift?

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Keley Babs
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

PROPER GIFT ETIQUETTE? Hey I made you some thing because I thought about you and that your birthday/anniversary/X-mas was coming up and I care about you. Here is some thing I am giving to you. And I made it with my own two hands

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Janis Wise
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My momma taught me to knit & crochet (I always preferred crocheting), but mom was the queen. Bedspreads, table cloths, shawls, & doilies, she was known for her pineapple patterns & her work was meticulous. Towards the end of her life she asked that I stop by a consignment place to pickup her money from a couple of sales. I asked her about the amount & said it didn’t seem like very much how much. She said she makes about $25.00 depending on the size. I liked to choke. ”Why so little momma?” She said it started a few years back that they seemed to go out of fashion, plus you can buy machine made at Walmart cheap & most see no difference. I told her that hardly paid for her thread to make it. She said, “oh well, it keeps me busy.” Made me furious. I revere all her handmade work, now more than ever. I make sure all family members have some of her things as a gift, even the ones who marry in. I make it clear they are lucky!

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Bookmaiden
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Oh my, I gave my daughter a similar gift for her birthday (she had some crochet and sewing items on her wishlist). I would be so thrilled to receive a handmade bedspread!

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Celtic Pirate Queen
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My niece in law is a quilter (a prize winning quilter). Another family member wanted a quilt to hang in her beach cabin. NIL gives her a quote on materials (she wasn't going to charge her for the labor, because she's a nice person & really loves quilting). Family member has a fit, saying it's "only" a 4' x 4' wall hanging, etc. NIL was very gracious and sent her a complete list, with costs, of all the materials needed - as well as an estimation of her time, which she would now be charging $25 an hour for. She also included the number for the local quilting society in case family member would like someone else to give her a quote. Family member is still not speaking to NIL. Entitled, much?

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Sandy Parker
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is just terrible and I feel for the DIL. Sadness her own parents didn't teach her gift Etiquette? WHAT?

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Hope Cook
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You apparently have no clue what creative skills and time is required to craft a bed spread out of yarn.

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Jane Thorne-gutierrez
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That was a gift of time and talent and the daughter in law is rightfully hurt and insulted! What kind of human is so materialistic that they dare to conclude that they " paid" for a GIFT of such thoughtful craftsmanship? To further assume you need to put it in writing is so over the top, I'd return with a gift card of same amount and tell them where to put it!

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Jay Krissy
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She is lucky she got a dam gift. I wouldnt even bother acknowledging your anniversary or birthday.

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Donna Cheung
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If I gifted somebody some raw materials and they gift me their finished product, I would be very please, as it would prove my gift was put to good use!

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Shelli Aderman
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I hope that Prudie gave her a piece of her mind! Entitle beast of a MIL!

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Mickipickie
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Instead of acknowledging the hours and days and weeks of love and work she put into a handmade gift. Next time they get Dollar Tree.

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JustinTime
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Pay very close attention to the family members of someone you’re considering marrying

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JonaLou2U
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I would be so honored if someone used their own birthday present to make me something. Poor lady is missing the point, that she is a very fortunate mother in law.

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Kevin Hickey
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What an idiot. If she gave her a one hundred dollar bill for a gift would she get angry if she used the same hundred dollar bill to give her something back?

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Never Stop Learning
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ungrateful MIL!!!!! MIL worked "so hard" picking up a gift card! Then DIL worked for hours and hours to make hand make bedspread that MIL has a problem with the equity between hand made bedspread and a gift card. If MIL had purchased cookware for them, does that mean she will never eat anything the DIL cooks and brings to MIL home? Ok, now the little monster sitting on my other shoulder wants to have a say. MIL stands for MONSTER IN LAW in this case. If I were the daughter, first discussed and agreed upon with husband, "don't need World War III", I would go buy a $50 gift card to a local restaurant then the next you and your husband go to their house, give them the gift card and get the bedspread and take it back. The second she says anything about it, just tell her you have heard how unhappy she has been with the gift you made for the parents in law. Then keep the bedspread yourself or sell it, you will get a few hundred dollars for. Then you and hubby go on a vacation!time you

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Oskar vanZandt
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'd be over-the-moon if someone gave me such a thoughtful gift...

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hi it's Norma
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Omg I would LOVE if someone would make a gift for me from yarn I gave them

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Dao Dao
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Omg. Hand made bedspread.... that is so incredibly precious... this lady's nuts

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Sheila McCarthy
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What a thoughtful and generous anniversary gift. All the hours put into knitting it!

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pradhanbalter
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My God, you couldn't be more wrong. It was a perfect gift taking your gift, adding hours of personal labor and presenting you with something you should cherish. Instead, you've likely ruined your relationship because of your ungrateful selfish attitude.

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Nivedita Mishra
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That gift she laboured on with love is way more valuable than any expensive store bough gift! Omg, appreciate and value your DIL

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Helen Witten
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Well on one hand I don't think I'd like a knitted bedspread especially as this MIL has her own tastes and has probably already decorated her bedroom to her taste. On the other hand I can appreciate the amount of time and effort the DIL put into the gift. I would perhaps find out what her MIL's tastes are before gifting.

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delightfuldragon
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She most certainly did NOT pay for her own gift. The time, skill and love that went into that blanket is priceless. I don't even knit or crochet and I know this. Maybe the MIL's parents should have taught their daughter how to be a gracious giftee.

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Cathy Marcelo
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You are an incredibly callous and cold fish, lady. Your son was right. You thought giving her a gift card would make you look, hmmm ......let's see ....deep thinking? She made a bedspread in 6 months for you and your husband. I crochet, and realize it isn't a weekend project. BTW, I am sure your husband did not have any say, in what you gave her.

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Andie
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wow. Well if she thinks she paid for her present, maybe they should send a bill for labour then she will have something to complain about.

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Cassie Yun
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

if anything, i think this gift that was handmade, spent many many hours of love, devotion and dedication to her craft work, is more of a sincere gift than some store bought present. i think it's the mother who needs gift etiquette.

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Nikki Angulo
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My mom makes quilts, and the same things happens, people don’t appreciate the time put into making it, plus the cost of buying quality materials. I bet the gift card didn’t cover the entire cost of the yarn she used! Never mind the hours she put into making it. Seriously, I want to shake some sense into this lady!

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Cathie Burkard
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You selfish selfish person….the time & love put into that bedspread should be cherished

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BonnyDK
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Does she have any idea how much yarn costs to make anything? And all the time and effort to make it? I would have been thrilled.

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Scott Riley
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The MIL should buy a similar handmade blanket at retail price and see how expensive the gift really was!

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Jen Ashworth
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This sounds too well put to be genuine. You have to take these stories with a pinch of salt, but maybe it's true I don't know.

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Lois Matelan
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What a lovely and thoughtful present! What a rude and STUPID M-I-L!

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Pjerrot
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Pardon My French ; B.I.T.C.H!!! I’m a knitter & if people give yarn,giftcard to it…. Yes I also would knit something for them !!! That’s My Way of saying Thanks!! Cause for me it’s about the joy of making somethhng new.

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Joi Cain
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

All crafters know that unless the yarn is pennies for the cost of skeins for a "lovely bedspread" that gift card probably didn't come close to paying for the yarn on this project.

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Janina Prado
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I would be honoured to be gifted with a handmade anything, let alone a time consultant blanket made with love!! DIL is incredibly talented, and very thoughtful. As for MIL? An end table is more useful than she is.

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Bad Alchemy
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You have to wonder where this oh-so-proper woman got her gift etiquette. She's the stingy one, and soooooo ungrateful! What a wretch. She needs a letter from Miss Manners to set her right.

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Sue Denham
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I so hope Dear Prudence set her straight and gave her a severe telling off.

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Jessica J.
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sorry, this woman is nuts. I am completely with her son, DIL, and husband, on this one. Just be grateful you received a gift...as no one is every required to give another a gift.

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TheLadyMagic
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When I was a young bride, I gave my grandmother-in-law a vase that was about half of our entire Christmas shopping money. She opened it looked at it, told me it was not the right type of crystal and that I needed to take it back and get her something more expensive. I never bought her anything else not even flowers for her grave.

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H M
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wow, I think making something with the wool for HER is awesome. She's the rude one.

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Joelle Rathsam
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I would feel honored to receive this gift. She could have used it on herself or others but she thought of you and handcrafted a beautiful blanket w you in mind. You should be grateful she cared enough to use her precious time and skills making you something.

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J Smythe
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What a cow! I don't knit but I know how long it takes to make an entire bedspread, plus the skill and effort put into making it. I pity this poor DIL for having such an entitled and unappreciative MIL.

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Cammy Cat
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

OMG! I'd take that blanket back from that b*tch! How inconsiderate! King size! I don't know how the hell she did that in 6 months!

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Deborah Barron Brown
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It was a very very thoughtful gift. What Rotten MILs doesn't understand is that the DIL doesn't have to let grandma see the grandkids. I had a terrible MIL.

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eMpTy
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This pathetic excuse for an allegedly thinking, caring human being should be ashamed of herself. To monetise any gift received is an insult to the giver. An ungrateful MIL should be exorcised from the family for her bull-excrement views. Please keep your head stuck up your own sphincter such that your ungrateful atitude should be seen as acceptable in any sphere of logic, argument or compassion. In short. 4cough you condescending old witch. (rant over and no banana needed)

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Pamela Blue
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This old broad was worried about etiquette? Maybe she needs to learn some herself. Her response to what was a lovely gift from the heart was the worst "etiquette" I can think of. This lady needs her head examined, because it's definitely not where it should be.

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Raine Sullivan
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Holy c**p! I would of asked for the blanket back!!! As an artist we put our heart and soul into stuff like that! Scrooge that woman. Sheesh

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Nikki Sevven
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I can't even imagine reacting this way to someone who handmade a bedspread for me.

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MMcD
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

No doubt her generous gift was a $10 or $15 gift card. This woman probably return something, got credit, and rounded it up to get a gift card

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Cindy Naismith
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She should be smacked upside the head for this one! The time and effort alone to do this is a lot. She gave up buying something for herself and instead thought of her. She should be grateful! Having something handmade by her DIL (or anyone else) she should be thankful. I feel bad for the daughter in law having such b**** for an in law.

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Jose Carlo
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What a crock of s h & t! This MIL is! Jeeeeeeeeeeeeeeez! This is ONE of the many reasons WHY I avoid humans where possible! REALLY! I am NOT perfect but I do my best and at the very least try to figure what is best OR just give and expect nothing in return!

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Charlotte Hostetter
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What a thoughtful gift, mother in law your are so unappreacitive and I thoughtful I’m sure your daughter in law put a lot of hard work and time.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I kind of get this, even though I think it's silly. I can see how essentially being given back the yarn that was gifted can feel like getting the same stuff back. But by gifting the yarn, she didn't just gift the materials, but the opportunity to indulge in a passion. Likewise the gift of the bedspread was a gift of personal time and effort, not of yarn. I understand but do not agree with the OP. She is too hung up on the raw materials and the principle therein. The reality is that the original gift meant a lot to DIL, who took a lot of joy making a heartfelt gift in return. Both were great gifts. This situation needs mental reframing, not argument.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Maybe the DIL wanted to gift something heirloom quality to her in-laws but couldn't afford the cost. Yarn is very expensive, and I doubt her in-laws' gift card was enough to cover the whole cost of the bedspread.

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In theory, our family members are the people we are closest to in the world. They have been there for us since day one, and we are tied to them for our entire lives. But for some reason, relatives sometimes assume that because we’re bonded by blood, they can get away with treating us horribly. Whether it’s feeling entitled to our time, money or things, the way family members often speak to one another would definitely not fly among friends or romantic partners.

But the love of our relatives is unconditional, right? Well, if you’re having trouble dealing with a difficult family member, have no fear. I’ve consulted Dr. Abigail Brenner’s list of strategies to deal with challenging family members on Psychology Today, to help you pandas know what to say the next time a relative comes knocking asking for a large pepperoni pizza, money for gambling or demanding that you pick up their children when you already had plans.   

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The first tip Dr. Brenner provides for dealing with difficult relatives is to resist the urge to try to fix them. As hard as it may be, we must accept our family members as they are. The problem with attempting to change them is that nobody can actually change without having the desire to do so themselves. If we try to force it onto them, we will only be causing a headache for ourselves and exerting time and energy unnecessarily. Dr. Brenner notes that, for the time being, we should assume that our family members are unable to change. We should base our knowledge of them on their actual behavior, rather than an optimistic belief that they will be better in the future. When we manage our expectations, we are less likely to be disappointed by them, and we can avoid wasting time and energy on “fixing” them.  

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Next, Dr. Brenner says that we should be present and direct with our relatives. Understand that if they are trying to get a rise out of you, you don’t have to give them that satisfaction. Stand your ground, and avoid getting into an argument. Stay present and focused, and don’t become defensive. Once a conversation has turned into a fight, it’s not possible to effectively communicate, as it simply becomes about winning. If it gets to that point, step back and walk away. 

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The cousin should really work as a police negotiator or something, his technique to try to convince are AMAZING. Demand and, when denied, immediately insult and curse. Wow.

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Another strategy that Dr. Brenner recommends is allowing difficult relatives the opportunity to fully express themselves. Let them state their point of view, and be sure to listen to them. Understand where they are coming from and why they feel judged, misunderstood or frustrated. You don’t have to agree, but let them know that you respect their opinion. After they get to release their thoughts, they may be much less confrontational and emotional.

Another thing to keep in mind is to watch out for trigger topics. You might need to avoid delicate issues altogether, or have a strategy for de-escalating the conversation if it becomes about a sensitive topic. For many people, avoiding hot topics like politics and religion with their relatives can help relationships run more smoothly, but you can't always control the conversation. “Be prepared to address these issues in a direct, non-confrontational way or to deflect the conflict if the atmosphere becomes too heated,” Dr. Brenner writes.  

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Dr. Brenner goes on to note that some topics should actually be explicitly off-limits, if they only ever leave you feeling stressed, traumatized, or emotionally exhausted. It may be challenging, but you have the right to set boundaries with your relatives. And finally, she reminds readers that we are not responsible for our family members. If they are difficult, it is not our fault. When we can see a familiar pattern being carried out, it can be helpful to do everything in our power to avoid a conflict. But at the end of the day, people can be stubborn. Remember that your well-being comes first, and if it comes down to it, you can always cut a family member off. Whether that means financially or through all contact, you are allowed to have boundaries. And especially when you don’t feel supported by your family, it is more important to have people around who do support you, regardless of whether you’re related or not.  

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I love it when people decide that what I want to do with my free time is unimportant.

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Now, when it comes to which family members are demanding too much of us, it can come from anywhere. Siblings, aunts, uncles, cousins, and even our own parents. While parents are supposed to look out for their children and teach them how to be kind, well-adjusted individuals, sometimes they actually do more harm than good. Caroline Bologna wrote an article for the Huff Post breaking down the signs that you might have been raised by an entitled parent, or a Karent, and if you find any of this behavior to be familiar, just know that you don’t have to follow in your parents’ footsteps. According to psychotherapist Noel McDermott, entitled parents will make unreasonable demands of everyone, including their children.

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I hope the daughter saw this so she can know not to bother with her parents anymore.

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It can also hinder a child’s understanding of empathy if their parent never teaches them to consider the perspectives of others. “It’s important for children to be raised to believe that other people’s needs are as important as their own,” Perri Shaw Borish, a psychotherapist and founder of Whole Heart Maternal Mental Health, told the Huff Post. “If a parent is entitled they are likely not modeling that for their children. Entitled parents may not be helping their children to understand their place in the larger community and world and their connectedness to those outside of themselves.” This can cause the cycle to repeat itself, as the apple doesn’t fall very far from the tree.

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I can't comprehend how that sister is even in university! School requires work and effort!

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Another important trait that entitled parents, or entitled individuals in general, often lack is the ability to express gratitude. “Entitlement isn’t so much about actual position but more about relationship to position,” Noel McDermott explains. “Someone who is entitled will lack gratitude for their good fortune and view anyone who questions their position as bad.” As you can see from many of the photos on this list, an entitled person will not say thank you and appreciate someone going out of their way to help them. They simply assume that they deserve to be helped, and they feel free to ask for whatever they want. Thankfully, however, even if your parents raised you this way, you are not doomed to a life of entitlement. Being aware is the first step in correcting or preventing these unhealthy tendencies, so if you want to ensure that you don't end up too entitled, try to remember to practice gratitude whenever you can.  

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My Cousin Who Has No Concept Of Fuel Costs

My Cousin Who Has No Concept Of Fuel Costs

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Kate
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Actually, taking this guy three miles out and dumping his sorry a*s off the boat sounds like a good plan.

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My Cousin’s New So Wanted To Get His Hair Done With Me

My Cousin’s New So Wanted To Get His Hair Done With Me

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I sincerely hope that these posts are not reminding you of your own relatives, but if they are, maybe this is a good reminder to set some healthy boundaries. Keep upvoting the pictures that you find most obnoxious, and then let us know in the comments if you've ever had to deal with a "choosy beggar" of a family member. And if you're interested in checking out even more of these posts, you can find Bored Panda's last article on the same topic right here.

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I Hope Her Aunt Never Pays The Netflix

I Hope Her Aunt Never Pays The Netflix

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Cb Uncle Who Has No Job Asks For Help The One Time He Talked To Me This Year. Ungrateful When I Couldn’t Send Money A Few Hours Earlier

Cb Uncle Who Has No Job Asks For Help The One Time He Talked To Me This Year. Ungrateful When I Couldn’t Send Money A Few Hours Earlier

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I Tried To Teach My Daughter Better Than This

I Tried To Teach My Daughter Better Than This

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Think of all the strangers we tell children are allowed to sneak into their house/bedroom. It's no wonder some kids get freaked out every now and then. I used to be afraid that if I slept with my mouth open the tooth fairy would steal all my teeth.

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