You can't please everyone. Especially the Internet.
There's a subreddit called r/WeddingShaming and as the name suggests, it's a place where people trash everything from brides and grooms, in-laws and outlaws to venues and menus as well as decor and Uncle Bob's armpit odor.
Of course, it's not all out of spite. Some posts that get a ton of attention are funny and lighthearted. Like the one where a bride shows off her mom's dress, a white gown, way fancier than her own (12,000 upvotes).
But as you might've already noticed in Bored Panda's earlier piece on the subreddit, it's the juicy stuff that gets its 189,000 members riled up. So continue scrolling and join the judging team: upvote the pics that deserve criticism or tell us in the comments if they should be rehabilitated.
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Shaming These Awful Parents, While The Siblings Rock
An engaged couple makes a lot of big decisions about their special day that not only impact them but also their guests; while they want to stay true to their own desires, they also have to consider what their guests might enjoy. After all, everyone's a part of the ride. "Financial worries are usually forefront for most couples," wedding planner Lisa Burton told Bored Panda.
"The worry is they can't afford the wedding day they want and might have to compromise too much. With the couple's expectations being so high, they worry the reality won't live up to the dream."
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Burton, who has over 14 years of experience throwing weddings abroad, said another worry for her destination wedding couples is that the expectations of the guests — who have spent money flying across the world to attend their wedding — will not be met. "There's a lot of pressure to provide the 'perfect' wedding experience. I try to reassure them that guests are on holiday first and foremost so they are in a more carefree state of mind. Most, if not all guests will not have attended a wedding abroad before, and certainly not at the same venue so they have nothing to compare it to. Even if your day is perfectly simple and intimate they’ll still be experiencing something they’ve never experienced before. This usually helps to calm the bride and groom."
The Audacity Of This Wedding Guest And Their Mum! Plan Your Own Special Moment, Cheapskates!
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But some things can make the guests leave with bitter memories. "Family dynamics can be hard to balance at a wedding," Lisa Burton said. "It's one of the main things a couple can struggle with, especially if the family doesn't get on."
The seating arrangement, for example, can be enough to set off a conflict. "If a family member ends up being seated next to someone they don't like, it can affect the atmosphere at the reception. We once planned an intimate wedding of 16 people and they had 6 tables at the reception (instead of the usual one or two). This was because family members did not speak and refused to sit next to each other at dinner," Burton recalled.
Bruno Mars Disapproves. Probably
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According to her, expense is another possible issue. "If a couple is marrying at a luxury venue, this typically means the costs of drinks will be high. If the bride and groom don't offer an open bar then guests may have to 'dig deep' if they want a few rounds of drinks. This can often lead to disgruntled 'sober' guests."
Venue accessibility can also cause a few headaches. "If you know your venues has difficult access or steep entryways then make sure your guests are prepared. Less able guests may need help and negotiating steep cobbled pathways is no fun in stiletto heels!" Burton said.
Just Saw This On Facebook... Eek
Went To A Wedding And The Mil Wore This... Would You Be Okay With It?
I saw a photo similar to this one (with a similar story, no doubt), and the bride actually got sneaky and paid a server to "accidentally" spill wine on the MIL's "not a wedding dress" dress. I gotta say, I'd be tempted to do something like that if someone was that disrespectful at my wedding.
Event planner, life coach, and author Amanda Hudes thinks that this type of wedding shaming is childish. In her opinion, complete strangers stalking a ceremony via the Internet just to criticize it is akin to talking behind someone's back in high school.
"Shaming comes from a place of insecurity and almost never about the person who is being shamed, but rather the person shaming," Hudes told BRIDES.
Ooooo Yikes
Spotted On Facebook
The bride needs to conspire with her bridesmaids to stick a "I'm not the bride" sign on the MIL's back.
Or pretend to be a bit tipsy while holding a full glass of red wine.
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A cousin wore a white pantsuit to our wedding. It did not look "bridal" in any way. But this trend of someone -- usually the groom's mom or the bride's stepmom -- showing up in a white ballgown that COULD be mistaken for a bridal dress is garbage. No one is going to think "Wow, she looks amazing!" Everyone is going to think "Wow, that is one insecure, sad lady."
Someone who shows up at a wedding wearing a white ball gown looks like a fool and everyone will talk about how tacky they are.
And there are always pictures, so we all can keep talking about their tackiness for decades, too.
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What is it with women thinking it's ok to wear a wedding dress to someone else's wedding?!
They want the attention on them instead of the people getting married.
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All this pressure to for the bride to be the only one wearing white. Send invitation updates telling everyone it'll be a black and white attire wedding. An asshat guest wearing white only draws attention when she's the only guest wearing white. A lot of guests wearing white draws the sting.
Why do people do this? Who the hell wants to wear a white dress if they don't have to anyway!
Do you really want to marry into a family where they resent you from the get-go? I mean if you can move halfway across the country to be away from them, then maybe it could work. But to have some bitter relative coming to your house or the uncomfortableness of having to be around them every holiday... And the fact that they may either hate your kids or want to be overly involved in your life. Too many red flags.
I know firsthand that always assuming you should care about other people rather than you is not healthy. Don't be like me, don't be too good for your own good.
Tell your husband to step up and fight that person. If it's from his side, he ough to take charge of it and not say 'my fiancee doesn't like it' but rather confront that person and tell them they are being highly disingenuous
Let her do it and have the rest of the guest shame her for it. It is an extremely childish behaviour, that only demonstrates what a horrible person that woman is. If all your guets looks down on the woman who pulls such a nasty "trick", she deserves to feel uncomfortable and rediculus all evening, and constantly having to answer tought questions. If she won't listening to you, try to make an alliance with someone who she respects and try to change her mind that way.
Have a firm word. It is not okay to wear white if requested not to. If she shows in the dress, have a friend detailed to cause a wardrobe malfunction. "Oh, no! I was just carrying this large glass of grape juice to hypoglycemic auntie Elsie! How unspeakably clumsy of me to spill it all over your beautiful white dress! But I'm sure the wedding planner has a spare outfit incase of accidents."
Warn your partner, their family, and that person that they will not be welcome if they wear white, and you are going to tell whoever will be watching the door to kick their ass to the curb if they try to get into either to the wedding ceremony or the reception. Period. Non-negotiable.
No. Just no. Or she could go ahead and wear any other coloured wedding dress with a colour that stands out. Unless it is too late.
That would be funny - bride is pretty in pink, or kelly green, and the one in the white gown keeps having to explain she's not actually the bride.
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Don't worry about it. The MIL in white is showing everyone she is a bitch. Just enjoy your day, even compliment MIL and "out nice" her. Don't play her game on that day because if you make a fuss your day will be spoiled and she will have won.
Let them wear white, for God's sake, stop this madness. No one on Earth is going to confuse you with some other woman wearing white. No one, but you, gives a rip. Your wedding is supposed to be a celebration of your upcoming life with your new spouse, not a popularity contest. Go, get married, enjoy your day, and let the guests take care of the woman who shows up in a wedding gown. I promise, they have your back.
Tell them it is not classy to turn up in white for a wedding. https://www.goodhousekeeping.com/life/g19504286/wedding-etiquette-rules/
F**k that - give a waiter a $100 tip to spill red wine on the dress and bring some MIL Blue sweats in velour and her size that she can change into... Spill communion wine if you have to... Just get someone to pour something right down the front of the dress the moment she appears. I would do that for a friend
Bride should wear red. No one would see other white dresses!
personally, i would get a black wedding dress, and get all the brides maids in white....muahahaha even if it's last minute, it can be done! hehehe
WHO WEARS WHITE ON SOMONE ELSE WEDDING??? That's like climbing into the coffin during someone else's funeral. It's insane!!
Wouldn't it be funny to then turn around and have a whole say BLACK ON BLACK or GREY wedding? Say the bride wears black and the bridesmaids in various shades of grey so it is all monotone? Or just some really noticeable color change, like deep red- the offender would look so out of place. Especially if all the guests other than that one were let in on what color to wear.
Whoever it is is just being difficult for no real reason. Ask them to bring a spare outfit. Red wine looks really, really nice on a white background.
Change the venue and tell only the co-opeerative folks about the new location. lol
No ,,,the bride should be the only one in a long flowing gown. Anyone who is insecure or selfish enough to do that at their sons wedding is seriously in need of a good talking to!!! Get over yourself lady.
I agree with all of the others who said 'let it go'', especially as this person is a member of the groom's family (btw, we don't know where the groom stands on this issue!). The best strategy for the bride is to stand proud and elegant with self-confidence, and ignore the woman wearing the ridiculous ball gown. She's not worth the effort it takes to worry about!
If you wear white to someone else's wedding, you deserve to have as many red liquids as possible poured on you.
I Feel So Bad For This Bride (Groom's Family Poses For Photos Without The Bride)
Has Any Other Country Had People Wear Their Flag As A Wedding Dress? No? Just... Ew
How Dare People Be Offended When I Want A Giant Wedding In So. California Where Someone Dies From Covid Every 6 Minutes! Muh Freedumb Of Speech!
Man Proposes To Woman After Which She Grabs Her Phone To Upload A Picture On Instagram
Sounds Like It’ll Be A Healthy Marriage!
Sounds Like A Great Idea To Save A Few Cents! May Save Even More When The Twin And His New Bride Don’t Come To Your Wedding!
Look, if you write in your post "I don't want to seem rude" you have already given yourself the answer. Deep inside you know this is not the right thing to do, so don't be an a**.
There’s Still Time To Change Your Decor
i don't get themes like this. i know if i married the love of my life i would do it because i wanted to spend the rest of my life with someone. but these kinds of jokes imply it's more of an obligation by society. you don't even have to marry anyone!
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I don't agree with the Stop Resisting wall of Donuts. You could have put a sign up that said "Police tactical supplies, require equipment!"
Engagement Photo Shaming
Wedding Shaming Myself A Bit... I Would Personally Recommend To Ask Your Pastor/Celebrant To Step To The Side When The Kiss Takes Place. All Personal Preference Ofcourse. Although Hubby’s Hair Does Smell Good
Even Outdoors, A 500-Person Wedding Feels A Bit Out Of Touch Right Now, Doesn’t It?
Groom’s Mother Hospitalized With Covid And Pneumonia 2 Weeks After Mask-Less Wedding In Florida
The photographer and I were the only two people of 60 that wore a mask at my sister’s wedding. None of events staff wore one. We were in the middle of Arizona’s 3rd wave. My BIL’s family took COVID back to their hometown which had been completely untouched by the virus up to that point. Two people died within the first 10 days the ILs return home. Oh, and BIL’s brother made national news because he was dragged off the plane after refusing to wear his mask on the return flight. Not to mention, my long-COVID (I was not contagious the day of the wedding) became active and I developed pneumonia, again.
My Free Photographer Is So Much More Important Than My Sister’s Well-Being And Happiness!
My First In The Wild Spotting! Same Person. I’ll Just Pay Everyone In Experience!
Don’t All Good Wedding Proposals Start With Being Pressured To Continue An Unwanted Pregnancy? But Seriously, This Is A Terrible Thing To Do
Another Bride Comparing Her Wedding To Protests
What people must understand, is that arguing with idiots is just pointless...
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Damn... That Was Pretty Sudden
Meh...It can happen. On our first date,I told my (future) wife I was going to marry her, and told her so...Looking back,that's really weird, I know. But here we are 20+ years together closer than ever.
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During our wedding reception, my MIL screeched from the venue lobby in what I can only describe as a drunken banshee trapped inside a Speak and Spell, “You guy’s let faggots marry here. You ruined it. You tainted my baby’s wedding day with your abomination. How could you let them celebrate next to good Christian folks?” She said this as the other couple walking into their reception and being introduced as Husband and Husband. We could hear her crystal clear over our loud music. My husband and I felt humiliated and heartbroken that MIL stole that beautiful moment from the other couple. We ended up sharing our open bar with the other party because they definitely needed a drink.
Oh no, those poor men! It must have been so heartwrenching to have that beautiful moment ruined by such a mean person.
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My father told me of a wedding he went to early 1950s . he was at the fancy reception when the groom's father accused another man of getting freshwith his wife. A fight ensued and soon every one was fighting . my father who was a peaceful man decided there was only one thing he should do.: save the cake. Carefully trying avoid the ruckus s He moved the cake to the floor and shoved it under a table.in corner of room. There. He waited taking small tastes till police came and stopped the fight. The couple were very grateful .
That should be a slapstick scene haha. Kudos to your father!
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If they "don't live in fear", why can't vaccinated people come to their wedding?
civil ceremony. a couple friends as witnesses. fifteen, twenty bucks to the county. a lot easier on the wallet and the stress level.
Totally agree. That's how i was married. Just a few hundred bucks, some family and less than $1000 on reception, few hundy on photos, no honeymoon. Still together after 14 years.
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One of my older relatives told me a bride-zilla story that happened when I was a kid. I don't remember this even though I was a ring bearer. Bride had a effing melt down because one of the guests was wearing white. Yes, a woman other than the bride wore a white gown - she was a Catholic Nun, and this is in the days when they still were wearing bizarre habits, hers was white with a red cross down the front. My cousin got rid of her really quickly.
I don’t like that y’all was shaming the woman who didn’t want a proposal at her wedding. Like duh, don’t do it at mine either
Stuff like this makes me happy my husband and I got married at a courthouse. We had 8 people there, aside from us. We’ve been together eleven years and have a beautiful 8 year old son.
During our wedding reception, my MIL screeched from the venue lobby in what I can only describe as a drunken banshee trapped inside a Speak and Spell, “You guy’s let faggots marry here. You ruined it. You tainted my baby’s wedding day with your abomination. How could you let them celebrate next to good Christian folks?” She said this as the other couple walking into their reception and being introduced as Husband and Husband. We could hear her crystal clear over our loud music. My husband and I felt humiliated and heartbroken that MIL stole that beautiful moment from the other couple. We ended up sharing our open bar with the other party because they definitely needed a drink.
Oh no, those poor men! It must have been so heartwrenching to have that beautiful moment ruined by such a mean person.
Load More Replies... My father told me of a wedding he went to early 1950s . he was at the fancy reception when the groom's father accused another man of getting freshwith his wife. A fight ensued and soon every one was fighting . my father who was a peaceful man decided there was only one thing he should do.: save the cake. Carefully trying avoid the ruckus s He moved the cake to the floor and shoved it under a table.in corner of room. There. He waited taking small tastes till police came and stopped the fight. The couple were very grateful .
That should be a slapstick scene haha. Kudos to your father!
Load More Replies... If they "don't live in fear", why can't vaccinated people come to their wedding?
civil ceremony. a couple friends as witnesses. fifteen, twenty bucks to the county. a lot easier on the wallet and the stress level.
Totally agree. That's how i was married. Just a few hundred bucks, some family and less than $1000 on reception, few hundy on photos, no honeymoon. Still together after 14 years.
Load More Replies... One of my older relatives told me a bride-zilla story that happened when I was a kid. I don't remember this even though I was a ring bearer. Bride had a effing melt down because one of the guests was wearing white. Yes, a woman other than the bride wore a white gown - she was a Catholic Nun, and this is in the days when they still were wearing bizarre habits, hers was white with a red cross down the front. My cousin got rid of her really quickly.
I don’t like that y’all was shaming the woman who didn’t want a proposal at her wedding. Like duh, don’t do it at mine either
Stuff like this makes me happy my husband and I got married at a courthouse. We had 8 people there, aside from us. We’ve been together eleven years and have a beautiful 8 year old son.
