You can't please everyone. Especially the Internet.
There's a subreddit called r/WeddingShaming and as the name suggests, it's a place where people trash everything from brides and grooms, in-laws and outlaws to venues and menus as well as decor and Uncle Bob's armpit odor.
Of course, it's not all out of spite. Some posts that get a ton of attention are funny and lighthearted. Like the one where a bride shows off her mom's dress, a white gown, way fancier than her own (12,000 upvotes).
But as you might've already noticed in Bored Panda's earlier piece on the subreddit, it's the juicy stuff that gets its 189,000 members riled up. So continue scrolling and join the judging team: upvote the pics that deserve criticism or tell us in the comments if they should be rehabilitated.
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Shaming These Awful Parents, While The Siblings Rock
An engaged couple makes a lot of big decisions about their special day that not only impact them but also their guests; while they want to stay true to their own desires, they also have to consider what their guests might enjoy. After all, everyone's a part of the ride. "Financial worries are usually forefront for most couples," wedding planner Lisa Burton told Bored Panda.
"The worry is they can't afford the wedding day they want and might have to compromise too much. With the couple's expectations being so high, they worry the reality won't live up to the dream."
This Is A Whole New Level Of Bridezilla
Bride Claims “No Masks Allowed” At Her Wedding
Burton, who has over 14 years of experience throwing weddings abroad, said another worry for her destination wedding couples is that the expectations of the guests — who have spent money flying across the world to attend their wedding — will not be met. "There's a lot of pressure to provide the 'perfect' wedding experience. I try to reassure them that guests are on holiday first and foremost so they are in a more carefree state of mind. Most, if not all guests will not have attended a wedding abroad before, and certainly not at the same venue so they have nothing to compare it to. Even if your day is perfectly simple and intimate they’ll still be experiencing something they’ve never experienced before. This usually helps to calm the bride and groom."
The Audacity Of This Wedding Guest And Their Mum! Plan Your Own Special Moment, Cheapskates!
Newly Engaged Dependa (Not My Story)
Do NOT solicit unwanted relationship advice. You manage your marriage, nobody else's. If he f***s up his own life, it's his own decision.
Is she the first girl he slept with? I've seen this amongst the military. Guys join, get deployed overseas. Are worried about being alone, so they marry the first girl they sleep with in the hope that they will have someone. I also have seen girls that specifically seek out military guys, get pregnant by them so they can force them into marriage or force them into providing child support, all so they can live on the militaries dime and not have to work. I know this sounds harsh, but I met and married my husband when he was a PFC in the Army. I've seen it happen too many times to count.
Seriously. I grew up in a military town, and this is half the girls I went to high school with.
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Never, never, never make a negative opinion of someone's partner known to the person that's your friend. Never. Sometimes these relationships work out long term and you'll always be the person that insulted one of them. Even if they split up don't say how glad you are because you never liked them. They can get back together again and make it work. Instead, ask the friend how they feel about the relationship. "I was surprised to hear X call your credit card 'our credit card' - are you okay with that?" "X does like telling your stories for you, do you mind?" So if there's a problem you're letting them know that others have seen it too, they're not imagining it or being unreasonable. On the other hand, if it bothers you way more than it ever bothers your friend, then you've asked, they've told you, and you can get over it and stay in a relationship with them. Even if you sneakily think it's to be there when it all goes down the crapper.
also ask why they want to marry this individual. what are the qualities that make them think this person will be a good spouse. Ask them both. It gets them started thinking instead of just feeling. I've helped end two ill- fated engagements this way. That sounds horrible, but we all had very serious concerns and the couples were too emotional to see clearly. When they had very little good to say, they realized. There have been a few it didn't matter. On a positive note, I've helped far more cement their desire to be together this way
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It realllllly pisses me off when someone sees their spouse's position, in the military or otherwise, as their position.
I've never understood it myself. Would these spouses get away with using the rank on a base or other actual military building?
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If he's happy, let him be happy. The only opinion that should matter in deciding to get married is the couple. If Taco Bell is their happy place instead of Paris, good for them. However, I also see no harm in his military buddies teasing him during deployment incessantly about his decision. "Dude you proposed to a girl at Taco Bell who won't let you finish your own stories". Point out the red flags and he'll figure it out.
My father is in the Army (34 years, pause for ovations). My Moms advice for you to relay to her intended groom was simple. #1 DO NOT ADD HER TO ANY FINANCIAL ACCOUNTS. #2 do not give her a General Power of attorney, give it to a sibling or parents. If you give her one, make it for just the use intended..taxes...that sort of thing. She sounds as though it was marriage before he leaves or she was breaking up. I do not his rank or military history, but there could be serious issues with his career if his credit goes bad..( You cannot go bankrupt while active), and they do a full background check and credit check. Having your credit take hard hits makes him look vulnerable, therefore open to selling military gear, or secrets. And #3..if he owns his own home, DO NOT ADD HER TO THE DEED. AND lastly, chances are she will be gone as soon as he returns home, GET A PRENUP. She will try to take everything from his house,car and uniforms. She sounds like a word my Mom's uses..A CAMP TRAMP..
someone just like this married my uncle 5 years ago. He committed suicide last october.....
Unfortunately there is little you can do, just persuade him to have a long engagement
Nope; leave it alone. Always, leave it alone. If he asks, answer; if he doesn't, shut up.
You need to find a red warning light 🚨 and turn it on anytime someone mentions her name.
Tell him. Please. One of my friends had a boyfriend nobody liked but we did not say so because we didn't want to hurt her feelings. They are married now with three kids. And we were still lucky because when he got a little older he improved his behaviour.
Let's hope deployment Will being some sense into Your friend.
You need to mind your OWN business. He can marry whomever he wants without your permission. You're the red flag here.
Let them get married. Will make a great bridezilla Reddit and revenge Reddit when she cheats and is caught.
Naw, he be smitten, there, be no hope. Not the time to be get'n married. Yet the allure of Taco Bell.
Tape record her and have him listen, maybe, hopefully he will hear what she is
I get the girl is crazy but the guy is definitely in love he needs his friends to snap him out of his "trance" before he ruins his life. He'll either accept it or not but at least there would have been some one to warn him.
I mean, I wouldn't mind getting married at or near a Taco Bell. I like Taco Bell
Sounds like someone with adhd who is in love If HE isn’t bothered by her using “their” then why would they be ? None of their business . Her wedding can be whatever theme she wants .. interrupting stories totally sounds like adhd .. number three is off though although maybe she was joking and it didn’t come across as joking .. I dunno as someone with a disability and social exiective dysfunction but who is kind and generous I side more with the fiancée who has to deal with super judgy assholes… it’s possible she’s awful but I can’t determine that from this list
Does no one else realize #7 is from Seinfeld?! Lmao! These are a bunch of troll posts!
Red flags are popping up every which where. He sounds like hes gonna murder her like christ man
Tell him now. One of two things will happen. The wedding will be called off and, after some recovery period, you and he will still have at least one friend who can be depended on or he will go on with it and despise you, possibly for life. If the second option is chosen by him it honestly isn't a friendship worth keeping.
This is all red flags put together as the biggest red flag in existance
Did they just answer their question with the answer to their question?!?
A lot of people get married for bandits, including the military person. They are probably well aware.
Never comment or intervene in anyone's relationship unless there are abuse concerns. It is their business and you never know what their relationship looks like when they are alone together. People trashed talked my husband endlessly but I cut those people out of my life and kept him and it was 100% the right decision because he has provided me with the one thing I could not provide myself with, stable mental health due to his endless efforts to make me feel emotionally supported. Everyone told me he was not good enough because he wasn't in college and he didn't make much money. Since he went to college, graduated with honors, and has a really good job. I never needed his money, but I desperately needed him. She could provide him with something you are not seeing so as long as she isn't abusive then let him figure out if she is the one or not.
Well, unfortunately for her, military spouse doesn't mean you have a rank too. It's all kinds of wrong. That's just the first one.
Maybe it's just me but that lady sounds like she pronounces fiance as "FinanceMe". Run, dude....
Just for saying "their" rank should have earned her a pop in the mouth. Unless you plan on doing the training and going out into the field, you ain't s**t hunny.
Best Friend needs a come to Jesus meeting. You do NOT get engaged right before you deploy. And you sure as s**t don't get engaged after a month. This is fresh out of AIT, 18 year old Private behavior.
Please wait until after the Taco Bell wedding! From the "Chalupas Under the Stars" decor to the Mountain Dew cash bar, that sounds EPIC!
I could not help last reply. I honestly think you should wait before telling him how you all feel about his fiancee. You really do not need to have your husband and his other friends tell him about your concerns immediately. He is likely understably nervous and fearful about being deployed, with the very real possibility of never returning weighing on his mind, and was not thinking straight when he proposed. If they are going to wait until after they get back, then no need to confront him immediately. If it brings him comfort and helps him feel less lonely to be engaged during his deployment, then don't take that away. And who knows, maybe he sees something in her that you are all missing. But if he gets back and she continues with her cringey, irrational behavior and it looks like wedding will go through, by all means have your husband speak up. I just don't see the need to do it now if they are not planning to get married before he is deployed.
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Tell him! Isn't he your friend? Open up a dialogue. Hopefully if enough peopel intervene, he will get it.
But some things can make the guests leave with bitter memories. "Family dynamics can be hard to balance at a wedding," Lisa Burton said. "It's one of the main things a couple can struggle with, especially if the family doesn't get on."
The seating arrangement, for example, can be enough to set off a conflict. "If a family member ends up being seated next to someone they don't like, it can affect the atmosphere at the reception. We once planned an intimate wedding of 16 people and they had 6 tables at the reception (instead of the usual one or two). This was because family members did not speak and refused to sit next to each other at dinner," Burton recalled.
Bruno Mars Disapproves. Probably
Double-Shame? Moh Knew She Had Been Exposed Before The Pandemic Wedding
According to her, expense is another possible issue. "If a couple is marrying at a luxury venue, this typically means the costs of drinks will be high. If the bride and groom don't offer an open bar then guests may have to 'dig deep' if they want a few rounds of drinks. This can often lead to disgruntled 'sober' guests."
Venue accessibility can also cause a few headaches. "If you know your venues has difficult access or steep entryways then make sure your guests are prepared. Less able guests may need help and negotiating steep cobbled pathways is no fun in stiletto heels!" Burton said.
Just Saw This On Facebook... Eek
Went To A Wedding And The Mil Wore This... Would You Be Okay With It?
I saw a photo similar to this one (with a similar story, no doubt), and the bride actually got sneaky and paid a server to "accidentally" spill wine on the MIL's "not a wedding dress" dress. I gotta say, I'd be tempted to do something like that if someone was that disrespectful at my wedding.
Event planner, life coach, and author Amanda Hudes thinks that this type of wedding shaming is childish. In her opinion, complete strangers stalking a ceremony via the Internet just to criticize it is akin to talking behind someone's back in high school.
"Shaming comes from a place of insecurity and almost never about the person who is being shamed, but rather the person shaming," Hudes told BRIDES.
Ooooo Yikes
Spotted On Facebook
The bride needs to conspire with her bridesmaids to stick a "I'm not the bride" sign on the MIL's back.
I Feel So Bad For This Bride (Groom's Family Poses For Photos Without The Bride)
Has Any Other Country Had People Wear Their Flag As A Wedding Dress? No? Just... Ew
How Dare People Be Offended When I Want A Giant Wedding In So. California Where Someone Dies From Covid Every 6 Minutes! Muh Freedumb Of Speech!
Man Proposes To Woman After Which She Grabs Her Phone To Upload A Picture On Instagram
Sounds Like It’ll Be A Healthy Marriage!
Sounds Like A Great Idea To Save A Few Cents! May Save Even More When The Twin And His New Bride Don’t Come To Your Wedding!
Look, if you write in your post "I don't want to seem rude" you have already given yourself the answer. Deep inside you know this is not the right thing to do, so don't be an a**.
There’s Still Time To Change Your Decor
i don't get themes like this. i know if i married the love of my life i would do it because i wanted to spend the rest of my life with someone. but these kinds of jokes imply it's more of an obligation by society. you don't even have to marry anyone!
Starting Off Marriage By Secretly Going Against Your Fiancé’s Wishes... Yikes
Is It Possible To Get Married To A Cop Without Theming Your Entire Wedding Around His Job? Extra Sensitivity Points For “Stop Resisting” Being Used In Reference To Donuts, Instead As The Usual Excuse To Kill Black People
I don't agree with the Stop Resisting wall of Donuts. You could have put a sign up that said "Police tactical supplies, require equipment!"
Engagement Photo Shaming
Wedding Shaming Myself A Bit... I Would Personally Recommend To Ask Your Pastor/Celebrant To Step To The Side When The Kiss Takes Place. All Personal Preference Ofcourse. Although Hubby’s Hair Does Smell Good
Even Outdoors, A 500-Person Wedding Feels A Bit Out Of Touch Right Now, Doesn’t It?
Groom’s Mother Hospitalized With Covid And Pneumonia 2 Weeks After Mask-Less Wedding In Florida
The photographer and I were the only two people of 60 that wore a mask at my sister’s wedding. None of events staff wore one. We were in the middle of Arizona’s 3rd wave. My BIL’s family took COVID back to their hometown which had been completely untouched by the virus up to that point. Two people died within the first 10 days the ILs return home. Oh, and BIL’s brother made national news because he was dragged off the plane after refusing to wear his mask on the return flight. Not to mention, my long-COVID (I was not contagious the day of the wedding) became active and I developed pneumonia, again.
My Free Photographer Is So Much More Important Than My Sister’s Well-Being And Happiness!
My First In The Wild Spotting! Same Person. I’ll Just Pay Everyone In Experience!
Don’t All Good Wedding Proposals Start With Being Pressured To Continue An Unwanted Pregnancy? But Seriously, This Is A Terrible Thing To Do
Another Bride Comparing Her Wedding To Protests
What people must understand, is that arguing with idiots is just pointless...
Wedding In Madrid (Spain) Last Week, A City That Most Definitely Do Not Have The Virus Under Control
Damn... That Was Pretty Sudden
Meh...It can happen. On our first date,I told my (future) wife I was going to marry her, and told her so...Looking back,that's really weird, I know. But here we are 20+ years together closer than ever.
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During our wedding reception, my MIL screeched from the venue lobby in what I can only describe as a drunken banshee trapped inside a Speak and Spell, “You guy’s let faggots marry here. You ruined it. You tainted my baby’s wedding day with your abomination. How could you let them celebrate next to good Christian folks?” She said this as the other couple walking into their reception and being introduced as Husband and Husband. We could hear her crystal clear over our loud music. My husband and I felt humiliated and heartbroken that MIL stole that beautiful moment from the other couple. We ended up sharing our open bar with the other party because they definitely needed a drink.
Oh no, those poor men! It must have been so heartwrenching to have that beautiful moment ruined by such a mean person.
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My father told me of a wedding he went to early 1950s . he was at the fancy reception when the groom's father accused another man of getting freshwith his wife. A fight ensued and soon every one was fighting . my father who was a peaceful man decided there was only one thing he should do.: save the cake. Carefully trying avoid the ruckus s He moved the cake to the floor and shoved it under a table.in corner of room. There. He waited taking small tastes till police came and stopped the fight. The couple were very grateful .
That should be a slapstick scene haha. Kudos to your father!
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If they "don't live in fear", why can't vaccinated people come to their wedding?
civil ceremony. a couple friends as witnesses. fifteen, twenty bucks to the county. a lot easier on the wallet and the stress level.
Totally agree. That's how i was married. Just a few hundred bucks, some family and less than $1000 on reception, few hundy on photos, no honeymoon. Still together after 14 years.
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One of my older relatives told me a bride-zilla story that happened when I was a kid. I don't remember this even though I was a ring bearer. Bride had a effing melt down because one of the guests was wearing white. Yes, a woman other than the bride wore a white gown - she was a Catholic Nun, and this is in the days when they still were wearing bizarre habits, hers was white with a red cross down the front. My cousin got rid of her really quickly.
I don’t like that y’all was shaming the woman who didn’t want a proposal at her wedding. Like duh, don’t do it at mine either
Stuff like this makes me happy my husband and I got married at a courthouse. We had 8 people there, aside from us. We’ve been together eleven years and have a beautiful 8 year old son.
During our wedding reception, my MIL screeched from the venue lobby in what I can only describe as a drunken banshee trapped inside a Speak and Spell, “You guy’s let faggots marry here. You ruined it. You tainted my baby’s wedding day with your abomination. How could you let them celebrate next to good Christian folks?” She said this as the other couple walking into their reception and being introduced as Husband and Husband. We could hear her crystal clear over our loud music. My husband and I felt humiliated and heartbroken that MIL stole that beautiful moment from the other couple. We ended up sharing our open bar with the other party because they definitely needed a drink.
Oh no, those poor men! It must have been so heartwrenching to have that beautiful moment ruined by such a mean person.
Load More Replies... My father told me of a wedding he went to early 1950s . he was at the fancy reception when the groom's father accused another man of getting freshwith his wife. A fight ensued and soon every one was fighting . my father who was a peaceful man decided there was only one thing he should do.: save the cake. Carefully trying avoid the ruckus s He moved the cake to the floor and shoved it under a table.in corner of room. There. He waited taking small tastes till police came and stopped the fight. The couple were very grateful .
That should be a slapstick scene haha. Kudos to your father!
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civil ceremony. a couple friends as witnesses. fifteen, twenty bucks to the county. a lot easier on the wallet and the stress level.
Totally agree. That's how i was married. Just a few hundred bucks, some family and less than $1000 on reception, few hundy on photos, no honeymoon. Still together after 14 years.
Load More Replies... One of my older relatives told me a bride-zilla story that happened when I was a kid. I don't remember this even though I was a ring bearer. Bride had a effing melt down because one of the guests was wearing white. Yes, a woman other than the bride wore a white gown - she was a Catholic Nun, and this is in the days when they still were wearing bizarre habits, hers was white with a red cross down the front. My cousin got rid of her really quickly.
I don’t like that y’all was shaming the woman who didn’t want a proposal at her wedding. Like duh, don’t do it at mine either
Stuff like this makes me happy my husband and I got married at a courthouse. We had 8 people there, aside from us. We’ve been together eleven years and have a beautiful 8 year old son.
