You can't please everyone. Especially the Internet.
There's a subreddit called r/WeddingShaming and as the name suggests, it's a place where people trash everything from brides and grooms, in-laws and outlaws to venues and menus as well as decor and Uncle Bob's armpit odor.
Of course, it's not all out of spite. Some posts that get a ton of attention are funny and lighthearted. Like the one where a bride shows off her mom's dress, a white gown, way fancier than her own (12,000 upvotes).
But as you might've already noticed in Bored Panda's earlier piece on the subreddit, it's the juicy stuff that gets its 189,000 members riled up. So continue scrolling and join the judging team: upvote the pics that deserve criticism or tell us in the comments if they should be rehabilitated.
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Shaming These Awful Parents, While The Siblings Rock
An engaged couple makes a lot of big decisions about their special day that not only impact them but also their guests; while they want to stay true to their own desires, they also have to consider what their guests might enjoy. After all, everyone's a part of the ride. "Financial worries are usually forefront for most couples," wedding planner Lisa Burton told Bored Panda.
"The worry is they can't afford the wedding day they want and might have to compromise too much. With the couple's expectations being so high, they worry the reality won't live up to the dream."
This Is A Whole New Level Of Bridezilla
Bride Claims “No Masks Allowed” At Her Wedding
Burton, who has over 14 years of experience throwing weddings abroad, said another worry for her destination wedding couples is that the expectations of the guests — who have spent money flying across the world to attend their wedding — will not be met. "There's a lot of pressure to provide the 'perfect' wedding experience. I try to reassure them that guests are on holiday first and foremost so they are in a more carefree state of mind. Most, if not all guests will not have attended a wedding abroad before, and certainly not at the same venue so they have nothing to compare it to. Even if your day is perfectly simple and intimate they’ll still be experiencing something they’ve never experienced before. This usually helps to calm the bride and groom."
The Audacity Of This Wedding Guest And Their Mum! Plan Your Own Special Moment, Cheapskates!
Newly Engaged Dependa (Not My Story)
But some things can make the guests leave with bitter memories. "Family dynamics can be hard to balance at a wedding," Lisa Burton said. "It's one of the main things a couple can struggle with, especially if the family doesn't get on."
The seating arrangement, for example, can be enough to set off a conflict. "If a family member ends up being seated next to someone they don't like, it can affect the atmosphere at the reception. We once planned an intimate wedding of 16 people and they had 6 tables at the reception (instead of the usual one or two). This was because family members did not speak and refused to sit next to each other at dinner," Burton recalled.
Bruno Mars Disapproves. Probably
Double-Shame? Moh Knew She Had Been Exposed Before The Pandemic Wedding
According to her, expense is another possible issue. "If a couple is marrying at a luxury venue, this typically means the costs of drinks will be high. If the bride and groom don't offer an open bar then guests may have to 'dig deep' if they want a few rounds of drinks. This can often lead to disgruntled 'sober' guests."
Venue accessibility can also cause a few headaches. "If you know your venues has difficult access or steep entryways then make sure your guests are prepared. Less able guests may need help and negotiating steep cobbled pathways is no fun in stiletto heels!" Burton said.
Just Saw This On Facebook... Eek
Went To A Wedding And The Mil Wore This... Would You Be Okay With It?
I saw a photo similar to this one (with a similar story, no doubt), and the bride actually got sneaky and paid a server to "accidentally" spill wine on the MIL's "not a wedding dress" dress. I gotta say, I'd be tempted to do something like that if someone was that disrespectful at my wedding.
Event planner, life coach, and author Amanda Hudes thinks that this type of wedding shaming is childish. In her opinion, complete strangers stalking a ceremony via the Internet just to criticize it is akin to talking behind someone's back in high school.
"Shaming comes from a place of insecurity and almost never about the person who is being shamed, but rather the person shaming," Hudes told BRIDES.
Ooooo Yikes
Spotted On Facebook
The bride needs to conspire with her bridesmaids to stick a "I'm not the bride" sign on the MIL's back.
I Feel So Bad For This Bride (Groom's Family Poses For Photos Without The Bride)
Has Any Other Country Had People Wear Their Flag As A Wedding Dress? No? Just... Ew
How Dare People Be Offended When I Want A Giant Wedding In So. California Where Someone Dies From Covid Every 6 Minutes! Muh Freedumb Of Speech!
Man Proposes To Woman After Which She Grabs Her Phone To Upload A Picture On Instagram
Sounds Like It’ll Be A Healthy Marriage!
Sounds Like A Great Idea To Save A Few Cents! May Save Even More When The Twin And His New Bride Don’t Come To Your Wedding!
Look, if you write in your post "I don't want to seem rude" you have already given yourself the answer. Deep inside you know this is not the right thing to do, so don't be an a**.
There’s Still Time To Change Your Decor
i don't get themes like this. i know if i married the love of my life i would do it because i wanted to spend the rest of my life with someone. but these kinds of jokes imply it's more of an obligation by society. you don't even have to marry anyone!
Starting Off Marriage By Secretly Going Against Your Fiancé’s Wishes... Yikes
Is It Possible To Get Married To A Cop Without Theming Your Entire Wedding Around His Job? Extra Sensitivity Points For “Stop Resisting” Being Used In Reference To Donuts, Instead As The Usual Excuse To Kill Black People
I don't agree with the Stop Resisting wall of Donuts. You could have put a sign up that said "Police tactical supplies, require equipment!"
Engagement Photo Shaming
Wedding Shaming Myself A Bit... I Would Personally Recommend To Ask Your Pastor/Celebrant To Step To The Side When The Kiss Takes Place. All Personal Preference Ofcourse. Although Hubby’s Hair Does Smell Good
Even Outdoors, A 500-Person Wedding Feels A Bit Out Of Touch Right Now, Doesn’t It?
Groom’s Mother Hospitalized With Covid And Pneumonia 2 Weeks After Mask-Less Wedding In Florida
The photographer and I were the only two people of 60 that wore a mask at my sister’s wedding. None of events staff wore one. We were in the middle of Arizona’s 3rd wave. My BIL’s family took COVID back to their hometown which had been completely untouched by the virus up to that point. Two people died within the first 10 days the ILs return home. Oh, and BIL’s brother made national news because he was dragged off the plane after refusing to wear his mask on the return flight. Not to mention, my long-COVID (I was not contagious the day of the wedding) became active and I developed pneumonia, again.
My Free Photographer Is So Much More Important Than My Sister’s Well-Being And Happiness!
My First In The Wild Spotting! Same Person. I’ll Just Pay Everyone In Experience!
Don’t All Good Wedding Proposals Start With Being Pressured To Continue An Unwanted Pregnancy? But Seriously, This Is A Terrible Thing To Do
Another Bride Comparing Her Wedding To Protests
What people must understand, is that arguing with idiots is just pointless...
Wedding In Madrid (Spain) Last Week, A City That Most Definitely Do Not Have The Virus Under Control
Damn... That Was Pretty Sudden
Meh...It can happen. On our first date,I told my (future) wife I was going to marry her, and told her so...Looking back,that's really weird, I know. But here we are 20+ years together closer than ever.
Not Exactly Wedding Shaming But Wtf
If You Get The Vaccine Don't Bother Coming To My Wedding
Found On A Facebook Post About Someone Asking If They Should Ask The Bride Why They’re Not In The Wedding Party
Found In The Wild For Sale
450,000 People And Counting Are Dead, But Go Ahead And Be Cute About The Pandemic!
Timeless Favorites
Alright, Who’s Moh Is Asking Around For D**k Pics?
My Stepmom Showed Up In A Lace White Dress To My Wedding
Bridezilla Wanted Me To Hand-Letter 250 Invites And 250 Save The Date Cards For Free (She Has 500+ Followers On Instagram Dontcha Know!) So I Made This Instead
Yes, It Is Definitely In Poor Taste
Guest Shaming
Handcuff Engagement Ring? That's It. I'm Ring Shaming. It Was Recommended To Me On Etsy
Come To John And Jill's Wedding, Theres A Very Special Guest They Want You To Meet
The Size Of A Facebook Friend's Wedding In Texas (During The Pandemic)
Trashy Reverend's Wife (Not Even A Guest)
More Tame Than Other Photos That Get Posted Here, But Still, Why Grope Your New Spouse In Your Wedding Portraits?
Another Bride Wanting To Cover Up A Family Member’s Body To Fit Her Perfect Day Aesthetic
"We're Not Doing Any Of That Mask Or Covid Stuff". People Like Her Are Why Facebook Needs An Eye Roll Reaction
In A Wedding Group On Facebook. This Lady Is Looking For This Cake Topper For Under £100
This Guy Wants To Write A Thoughtful Letter Instead Of Filling A Big Box With Dollar Store Stuff Cricuted To Say Groomsman. Apparently That Makes Him A Jerk?
I have no idea what this person is talking about. What proposals? Are people just making up more and more protocol for the sake of it or do they really have more money than sense?
Entitled Bridezilla Demands Her Bridesmaids Pay Everything To Look “Pristine” For Photos.
You think your wedding should cost them money, and they're still friends with you?
I Googled Seating Chart Ideas And Realized Wow...some People Must Really Hate Their Guests
Why On Earth Do You Need To Open Carry At Your Own Wedding?
Petty Level Midnight - Charging Bridal Party For Gifts
"Pay for the gift" is an oxymoron... And the person who posted that is a moron.
Bride Is Frustrated That NY Governor Wants To Enforce Social Distancing And Won’t Give Her A Timeline For When Covid Will Be Gone
Finally Gets Engaged After Years Of Crying About It And Immediately Bashes Her Fiancé On Ig Story About How She Did Not Like Her Ring. They Go Out To Get A New One Next Day And...ouch! Embarrassing
Groom Is The Red Dot. Can You Guess Who Is The Bride And Who Is The Psycho Mother In Law? Who Does This!?!
I Think Proposing At A Wedding Is Not Only Tacky, But Rude
It's like there's a proposal because the guy/girl is drunk thinking yeah this would be nice let's get married. It's not appropriate. A proposal should be between two people, in a place that is meangingful to them. E.g McDonald's or a mountain top
I Wish This Was A Joke, But Some Bride Legit Posted This On Facebook
What Every Pandemic Wedding Needs A Whole Week Of Events In Three Different States And 4 Custom Wedding Dresses
Just, no. This sounds like a nightmare, even if you aren't an introvert.
Yikes The Saga Continues... I Posted The 2nd Slide Yesterday But Added It For Context
12 Bridesmaids During A Pandemic....no Masks In Sight
An Australian Couples Wedding Invites, Accompanied With A Poem Requesting Money
Spent A Minute Trying To Figure Out What They Meant By “Same Pines Forever”
I Would Be So Annoyed At Receiving A Useless Fan And My Partner Got Delicious Limoncello
At my work my boss (well, his secretary) gets flowers for the female workers and a nice bottle of red wine for the male workers. The flowers are beautiful but I'm always jealous of that (pretty expensive) bottle of wine (I never pay that much for myself). It may be petty but I can't help it, I'd rather have the wine lol :D
Groom Gets Wasted So Bad His Mil Has To Feed Him
Just what every woman wants and needs: a man-child husband whose mommy has to take care of him.
Feeling Insecure From The Flower Girl... A Kid!
That Woman On The Left Is Not The Bride...
It seems like a lot of people wear white and bride-like dresses to others' wedding and I don't get why. What are the possible reasons? Like all their wardrobe is like this or they made some kind of promise to gods of white to never wear othee colors? Seriously don't get that and never encountered in life
Maybe We Should Stop Shaming People’s Comfort Levels During A Global Pandemic
I’m Getting Married In October. Someone Mailed This To Me. No Return Address And My Address Was Typed So I Can’t Identify The Handwriting
Nothing Screams Love Like Getting Matching Toe-Tag Tattoos To Commemorate Your Wedding!
A New Take On The Tasteless Cake Topper
Imagine Ranking Your Friends In Such A Way. Sorry Number 5
I had no idea people rank their friends, tell me this isn't a thing, please.
Requiring Masks Is A "Hard No" For This Bride, Doesn't Want To Be Reminded Of This Nightmare Of A Pandemic....while Choosing To Have Her Wedding During A Pandemic
When You Have To Put Down Payments On Your Bridesmaid Dress...
A Windy Wedding
I See Your I Don't Want To Be Married Cake Toppers And Raise You A Gotta Shame My Fiancé Into Proposing Welcome Mat
I just don't get this obsession with the man having to officially propose to the woman, and it be a surprise, in the 21st century. If you want to get married discuss it with him. If he agrees with you, yay, you're engaged and going to get married. If he doesn't then you need to talk further about where the relationship is going. When I hear women twenty or more years younger than me saying 'he says he's going to propose when the time is right, but I'm still waiting' I'm like 'what??? do the two of you want to get married or not?'
Perform At My Wedding, I’ll Pay You In Bridesmaids
Do the bridesmaids know they're being whored out for free photography?
I Feel Bad That Weddings Are Being Cancelled, But I Think In This Case It’s For The Better...
A kazoo wedding actually sounds really fun... if the kazoos come with earplugs.
Bride Plans Wedding In The Middle Of A Pandemic And Then Shames Guests Who Feel Too Uncomfortable To Go To Her Bridal Shower
Came Across This Picture On Ig Explore. His Board Basically Says “I Won’t Change”
There seems to be a deal of photoshop involved in both boards! Love to know what they actually said but shaming a fake is silly!
Following Health Guidelines Is Insanity!!
Found This In My Plant Fb Group, Op Said It Was A 'Joke'
Groomsmen Are Lame Because They Don’t Want A Picture Of Matching Underwear. “If You Don’t Like The Post Don’t Comment On It”
I- Why?
Demoting Bridesmaid For The Sake Of Even Numbers
Because Bubbles Never Hurt Anybody. Covid Wedding
How Dare Someone Be Pregnant At My Wedding!! I Understand Not Wanting To Host Events, But The Anger At Grandparents Buying Gifts And The Me!!!! Attitude Is So Entitled
Could You Imagine These Being Your Wedding Photos. Gag Me
My Aunt Is Suggesting I Wear This To My Nephews Wedding. It Is Way Whiter Than It Looks In This Pic. For Extra Credit She Is Wearing The Same Dress In Blue
Putting Your Honeyfund & Cashapp On Your Getaway Car (& Sharing In A Public Fb Group)
The Attitude Of Dressing To "Show Everyone Up" On Someone Else's Special Day Is So Toxic
Posting Your Friend’s Personal Info To Find Him A Date
My brother was certain I wouldn’t come to his wedding because I didn’t have a date. I don’t understand people that feel like you can’t do anything solo.
My Dad Confirmed He And My Mom Are Anti Vaccination By Declining My Wedding Invitation
Bridal 90s Inspired Bucket Hats? For $225?? And So Popular That At Least One Is Out Of Stock??? (Lighthearted “Shaming” Here - I Know Everyone’s Style Is Different!)
Aunt Of The Bride Wore This To A Wedding...
I Get Liking Sports But God Damn
When The Bride Shows Her True Colors About Why She's Having A Wedding
No, Facebook, I Am Not Planning A Wedding. And Hopefully Will Pay For One Myself When I Do. How Often Does This Happen To Become Automated?
Picking An Engagement Ring Based On Your Mlm...
Self Righteous Bride Of The Year Award Goes To...
Bride Is Upset At Last Minute Cancellations For Her Indoor Wedding, Plus Four Of Her Bridal Party Contracted Covid The Week Of
No Mask Wedding As Requested Per Bride And Groom
Promoting Your Mlm As A Bachelorette Party. Reposted Because The First Image Still Had Infos
Found In A Wedding Group On Facebook. Name Send-Off By Tagging A Live Fish. Wait What?!
So Much Wrong With This, I Don't Even Know Where To Begin
Vendor Meal At A 15hr Wedding Whole Guests Were Having Lobsters With 6 Course Meal
When I got married the first time, I had a vendor table and they were able to chose their meal just like the guests. All I did was ask them not to drink more than one alcoholic beverage. Turn out perfect and I was thanked a lot. I thought it was normal to feed your vendors?!?
Maybe Consider Your Specific Initials Before You Use Them As A Design Element
Old Course Mate Who Got Married In August, When UK Rules Were No More Than 30 For A Sit Down Meal Reception With No Dancing...
During our wedding reception, my MIL screeched from the venue lobby in what I can only describe as a drunken banshee trapped inside a Speak and Spell, “You guy’s let faggots marry here. You ruined it. You tainted my baby’s wedding day with your abomination. How could you let them celebrate next to good Christian folks?” She said this as the other couple walking into their reception and being introduced as Husband and Husband. We could hear her crystal clear over our loud music. My husband and I felt humiliated and heartbroken that MIL stole that beautiful moment from the other couple. We ended up sharing our open bar with the other party because they definitely needed a drink.
Oh no, those poor men! It must have been so heartwrenching to have that beautiful moment ruined by such a mean person.
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My father told me of a wedding he went to early 1950s . he was at the fancy reception when the groom's father accused another man of getting freshwith his wife. A fight ensued and soon every one was fighting . my father who was a peaceful man decided there was only one thing he should do.: save the cake. Carefully trying avoid the ruckus s He moved the cake to the floor and shoved it under a table.in corner of room. There. He waited taking small tastes till police came and stopped the fight. The couple were very grateful .
That should be a slapstick scene haha. Kudos to your father!
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If they "don't live in fear", why can't vaccinated people come to their wedding?
During our wedding reception, my MIL screeched from the venue lobby in what I can only describe as a drunken banshee trapped inside a Speak and Spell, “You guy’s let faggots marry here. You ruined it. You tainted my baby’s wedding day with your abomination. How could you let them celebrate next to good Christian folks?” She said this as the other couple walking into their reception and being introduced as Husband and Husband. We could hear her crystal clear over our loud music. My husband and I felt humiliated and heartbroken that MIL stole that beautiful moment from the other couple. We ended up sharing our open bar with the other party because they definitely needed a drink.
Oh no, those poor men! It must have been so heartwrenching to have that beautiful moment ruined by such a mean person.
Load More Replies... My father told me of a wedding he went to early 1950s . he was at the fancy reception when the groom's father accused another man of getting freshwith his wife. A fight ensued and soon every one was fighting . my father who was a peaceful man decided there was only one thing he should do.: save the cake. Carefully trying avoid the ruckus s He moved the cake to the floor and shoved it under a table.in corner of room. There. He waited taking small tastes till police came and stopped the fight. The couple were very grateful .
That should be a slapstick scene haha. Kudos to your father!
Load More Replies... If they "don't live in fear", why can't vaccinated people come to their wedding?
