You can't please everyone. Especially the Internet.
There's a subreddit called r/WeddingShaming and as the name suggests, it's a place where people trash everything from brides and grooms, in-laws and outlaws to venues and menus as well as decor and Uncle Bob's armpit odor.
Of course, it's not all out of spite. Some posts that get a ton of attention are funny and lighthearted. Like the one where a bride shows off her mom's dress, a white gown, way fancier than her own (12,000 upvotes).
But as you might've already noticed in Bored Panda's earlier piece on the subreddit, it's the juicy stuff that gets its 189,000 members riled up. So continue scrolling and join the judging team: upvote the pics that deserve criticism or tell us in the comments if they should be rehabilitated.
Shaming These Awful Parents, While The Siblings Rock
An engaged couple makes a lot of big decisions about their special day that not only impact them but also their guests; while they want to stay true to their own desires, they also have to consider what their guests might enjoy. After all, everyone's a part of the ride. "Financial worries are usually forefront for most couples," wedding planner Lisa Burton told Bored Panda.
"The worry is they can't afford the wedding day they want and might have to compromise too much. With the couple's expectations being so high, they worry the reality won't live up to the dream."
Burton, who has over 14 years of experience throwing weddings abroad, said another worry for her destination wedding couples is that the expectations of the guests — who have spent money flying across the world to attend their wedding — will not be met. "There's a lot of pressure to provide the 'perfect' wedding experience. I try to reassure them that guests are on holiday first and foremost so they are in a more carefree state of mind. Most, if not all guests will not have attended a wedding abroad before, and certainly not at the same venue so they have nothing to compare it to. Even if your day is perfectly simple and intimate they’ll still be experiencing something they’ve never experienced before. This usually helps to calm the bride and groom."
The Audacity Of This Wedding Guest And Their Mum! Plan Your Own Special Moment, Cheapskates!
But some things can make the guests leave with bitter memories. "Family dynamics can be hard to balance at a wedding," Lisa Burton said. "It's one of the main things a couple can struggle with, especially if the family doesn't get on."
The seating arrangement, for example, can be enough to set off a conflict. "If a family member ends up being seated next to someone they don't like, it can affect the atmosphere at the reception. We once planned an intimate wedding of 16 people and they had 6 tables at the reception (instead of the usual one or two). This was because family members did not speak and refused to sit next to each other at dinner," Burton recalled.
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According to her, expense is another possible issue. "If a couple is marrying at a luxury venue, this typically means the costs of drinks will be high. If the bride and groom don't offer an open bar then guests may have to 'dig deep' if they want a few rounds of drinks. This can often lead to disgruntled 'sober' guests."
Venue accessibility can also cause a few headaches. "If you know your venues has difficult access or steep entryways then make sure your guests are prepared. Less able guests may need help and negotiating steep cobbled pathways is no fun in stiletto heels!" Burton said.
Just Saw This On Facebook... Eek
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Event planner, life coach, and author Amanda Hudes thinks that this type of wedding shaming is childish. In her opinion, complete strangers stalking a ceremony via the Internet just to criticize it is akin to talking behind someone's back in high school.
"Shaming comes from a place of insecurity and almost never about the person who is being shamed, but rather the person shaming," Hudes told BRIDES.