Man Shares How He Met An Old Lady At A Bust Stop And She Gave Him The Best Advice About Love
One of the best things about getting older is being able to look back at your life and learn from past mistakes. The opportunity to help others live their best lives by sharing your own wisdom is even better. So it’s no surprise that elderly people love to pass their knowledge to younger generations.
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A Redditor was curious about the best advice people have received from elders and got a response that resonated with many. In the response, user grassyblue told a story about accidentally meeting a lovely elder lady at a bus stop. After chatting her up, the young man who recently went through a breakup received probably the best relationship advice he could get.
“Met an elderly hispanic lady at a bus stop in Albuquerque. We went back and forth in Spanish for a bit (I’m a white guy so she was pleasantly surprised) and she told me about her travel plans to go to her son’s wedding–a real cute story involving him and his high school sweetheart finding each other after a long time being broken up.
I had recently been dumped, and said something a bit mopey like “I wish I could find love like that someday.”
She smiled, shook her head and said “Chico, love like that isn’t just found. It’s built. How many perfect, decorated temples do you think my ancestors stumbled across in Tikal or Tenochtitlan? No. They found a good, level spot, maybe some water nearby, and said ‘Here. We can build something here.’ Look for a clearing in the forest, young man. Not a hidden city.”
That one will stick with me for years.”
Many others shared their own stories which prove the old lady to be absolutely right about the importance of learning how to build relationships.
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Going on 15 years, only been married 2 because *homosexuality*. We were only recently given permission 😑. We've seen loss and survived things other couples much stronger than us were crushed or crippled by. I've been asked our "secret" a few times now. For me it's desire. I want her and there is nothing I won't do, say, think, endure, examine or consider to be with her. Whatever it takes to be with her is what I want. I will do whatever is necessary or needed to be with her. It's truly a limitless thing and she knows it. It's a naked truth I make sure she knows. She shares it and we both are very protective of each other because of it. I think everybody who has a genuine love feels this. It's a failure to protect that desire, to respect it, to not abuse it that ends love or relationships.
Other women have come along and tried to place themselves between my beloved and I because I seem like an awesome loving mate. Never works. I know that being with her makes me the woman they find attractive. I'm the best version of me I can be for her because of her. It's so much work sometimes but she is so worth it. It honestly doesn't feel like work most times because the reward for me is damn awesome. I'm about to be 42 and I'm still a dragon pup trying to please my Master. 😁 If you aren't willing to do that work, then you probably don't want what you have. Not everybody wants or needs a mate or monogamy. That's OK too, just admit it and apply your energy into what you want and I bet you'll find a similar happiness.
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Okay people, since we are on this "finding love" topic, should I tell my crush I like him?
The old adage, "Nothing ventured, nothing gained" may sound trite. Doesn't make it any less true. It goes hand in glove with the adage, "You only regret the risks you didn't take."
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I used to hear it said, "you can't control falling in love, but remaining and maintaining that love is a choice". I think the mentor I had was trying to tell me that sexuality and attraction are not a choice, but to have a lasting "romantic" relationship you make choices. You choose to stay, you choose to remember the good times through the bad, you choose to not let small or petty disagreements or problems block out all the good you do to and for one another. You see in one another someone worth holding on to, and you remember that during any difficulties you face together.
My husband is my heart. I would kill to protect him and I would die to keep him safe. We've been together for 32 years, married for 27, and it's always been that way. It's never going to change. ...///... It has NOT always been easy. We did not always agree on everything, but we're grownups and we know that life is not all hugs and puppies all the time. ...///... In a couple of years, we'll retire and neither of us can wait. It's always another adventure, through three degrees, eight moves, family disasters, deaths and everything else that life dishes out. I wouldn't change a thing, ever.
Is no one going to point out the low-key hilarious typo in the title?
https://3a487w4crkcah0dlpcodovs7rx.hop.clickbank.net/ I just found this and this make my life and partner life betters you don’t believe that we are going to divorce because of my relationship with other person and this make are relationships a biggest break down but when I found this know we have 2 kids and we are living happily
A "BUST stop"? Is that where the cops usually arrest criminal commuters or did one of these boring people get a tit in a wringer there?
We are celebrating our 18th Valentine's Day today. We met on a discussion forum, not a meetic or Tinder-thing : we "talked" a lot, months on end, and we really liked each other, until someone else commented "Don't you two think you are made for one another ?!" I hadn't noticed anything romantic between us, but kinda scratched my head : actually, YES, he was a perfect match for me : he was everything I wanted in a partner, I just hadn't considered him like that yet ! I started thinking about him this way and it just... clicked ! So we started "talking" privately, and he was feeling the same. We got to know each other even better, we eventually met in person, and the feeling was real :-) Sooo... we were "apart together" for five and half years in different cities, and I finally moved in with him in 2007. Been smoothly in love ever since. Currently awaiting our son... :-)
So true that you need to put some work into a relationship for it to flourish. I gave up on a 20 year marriage - for what I imagined to be "The One". Fast forward 15 years and 2 failed relationships (one highly abusive) and realise I carelessly threw away the best thing and the best person I will ever have in my life. If only I had appreciated what I had and put some thought into to fixing what wasnt really that broken.
During the days of our grandparents, they knew how to work at their marriage, as one said, if something was broke, we fixed it, also, I strongly believe that little things matter in a big way, what we see today is couples give up too easily !!!
Going on 15 years, only been married 2 because *homosexuality*. We were only recently given permission 😑. We've seen loss and survived things other couples much stronger than us were crushed or crippled by. I've been asked our "secret" a few times now. For me it's desire. I want her and there is nothing I won't do, say, think, endure, examine or consider to be with her. Whatever it takes to be with her is what I want. I will do whatever is necessary or needed to be with her. It's truly a limitless thing and she knows it. It's a naked truth I make sure she knows. She shares it and we both are very protective of each other because of it. I think everybody who has a genuine love feels this. It's a failure to protect that desire, to respect it, to not abuse it that ends love or relationships.
Other women have come along and tried to place themselves between my beloved and I because I seem like an awesome loving mate. Never works. I know that being with her makes me the woman they find attractive. I'm the best version of me I can be for her because of her. It's so much work sometimes but she is so worth it. It honestly doesn't feel like work most times because the reward for me is damn awesome. I'm about to be 42 and I'm still a dragon pup trying to please my Master. 😁 If you aren't willing to do that work, then you probably don't want what you have. Not everybody wants or needs a mate or monogamy. That's OK too, just admit it and apply your energy into what you want and I bet you'll find a similar happiness.
Load More Replies... Okay people, since we are on this "finding love" topic, should I tell my crush I like him?
The old adage, "Nothing ventured, nothing gained" may sound trite. Doesn't make it any less true. It goes hand in glove with the adage, "You only regret the risks you didn't take."
Load More Replies... I used to hear it said, "you can't control falling in love, but remaining and maintaining that love is a choice". I think the mentor I had was trying to tell me that sexuality and attraction are not a choice, but to have a lasting "romantic" relationship you make choices. You choose to stay, you choose to remember the good times through the bad, you choose to not let small or petty disagreements or problems block out all the good you do to and for one another. You see in one another someone worth holding on to, and you remember that during any difficulties you face together.
My husband is my heart. I would kill to protect him and I would die to keep him safe. We've been together for 32 years, married for 27, and it's always been that way. It's never going to change. ...///... It has NOT always been easy. We did not always agree on everything, but we're grownups and we know that life is not all hugs and puppies all the time. ...///... In a couple of years, we'll retire and neither of us can wait. It's always another adventure, through three degrees, eight moves, family disasters, deaths and everything else that life dishes out. I wouldn't change a thing, ever.
Is no one going to point out the low-key hilarious typo in the title?
https://3a487w4crkcah0dlpcodovs7rx.hop.clickbank.net/ I just found this and this make my life and partner life betters you don’t believe that we are going to divorce because of my relationship with other person and this make are relationships a biggest break down but when I found this know we have 2 kids and we are living happily
A "BUST stop"? Is that where the cops usually arrest criminal commuters or did one of these boring people get a tit in a wringer there?
We are celebrating our 18th Valentine's Day today. We met on a discussion forum, not a meetic or Tinder-thing : we "talked" a lot, months on end, and we really liked each other, until someone else commented "Don't you two think you are made for one another ?!" I hadn't noticed anything romantic between us, but kinda scratched my head : actually, YES, he was a perfect match for me : he was everything I wanted in a partner, I just hadn't considered him like that yet ! I started thinking about him this way and it just... clicked ! So we started "talking" privately, and he was feeling the same. We got to know each other even better, we eventually met in person, and the feeling was real :-) Sooo... we were "apart together" for five and half years in different cities, and I finally moved in with him in 2007. Been smoothly in love ever since. Currently awaiting our son... :-)
So true that you need to put some work into a relationship for it to flourish. I gave up on a 20 year marriage - for what I imagined to be "The One". Fast forward 15 years and 2 failed relationships (one highly abusive) and realise I carelessly threw away the best thing and the best person I will ever have in my life. If only I had appreciated what I had and put some thought into to fixing what wasnt really that broken.
During the days of our grandparents, they knew how to work at their marriage, as one said, if something was broke, we fixed it, also, I strongly believe that little things matter in a big way, what we see today is couples give up too easily !!!
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