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“Has Gone Nuts”: Boomer Gets A Land Survey, Discovers 5 Ft Of Her Yard Belongs To Neighbors
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Neighbor’s Reaction To 5-Foot Property Loss Gets Out Of Hand, Police Get Involved

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Friendliness between neighbors is evidently in decline. Probably because over half of people don’t know the residents who are dwelling nearby and even fewer strike up a conversation with them.

This couple was too living blissfully unaware of their elderly neighbor until they struck her nerve by chasing away her lawn boy out of their driveway. From that point on, she made their life difficult with a saga of petty events. The couple kindly shared them online, as they found her behavior absolutely hilarious. 

Scroll down to find the full story and a conversation with social psychologist, management consultant, executive coach, and adjunct professor, Crystal Clarke, Ph.D., and social scientist, organizational consultant, innovator on conflict resiliency in community, and founder of Figure It In, Ruth Diaz, Psy.D., who kindly agreed to share a few tips on how to resolve neighbor conflicts.

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    This couple tried doing so too, until they accidentally struck an elderly neighbor’s nerve

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    Conflict between next-door residents often arises when they feel like their personal space and security are being threatened

    Bored Panda was lucky enough to get a hold of social psychologist, management consultant, executive coach, and adjunct professor, Crystal Clarke, Ph.D., and social scientist, organizational consultant, innovator on conflict resiliency in community, and founder of Figure It In, Ruth Diaz, Psy.D., who helped us to scratch the surface of an age-old question, “Why do neighbors often have complicated relationships?”

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    Clarke suggests that conflict between next-door residents often arises when they feel like their personal space and security are being threatened. “As humans, we have a natural desire for a sense of safety, security and control, and when our physical or emotional boundaries get threatened or violated by our neighbors, conflict can occur,” she says.

    While Diaz proposes that our territorial nature might be at fault. “When we approach our neighborhoods from a tribal mindset, our territorial instincts often take over, which can make us hyper-aware of boundaries and “ownership” over shared spaces. This mindset fosters division, as we tend to see neighbors as separate or even competitive,” she explains.

    To avoid disagreements, people try to hide from their neighbours, with 65% reporting doing that. Roughly 46% of individuals had a dispute with a neighbor in the past so it’s no surprise that they might want to blend with the background to minimize the chance of conflict.

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    Avoiding neighbors or building physical boundaries might be just a temporary solution

    However, Clarke notes that avoiding neighbors or building physical boundaries might be just a temporary solution. “Building a fence often does not address the underlying cause of conflict and can sometimes worsen the relationship between neighbors. If the goal is to create healthier relationships with our neighbors, healthy and respectful communication would be more effective than building a fence, which may create more isolation and tension between neighbors,” she suggests.

    Diaz seconds the importance of addressing underlying issues with neighbors. “The DOT Model emphasizes that genuine conflict resiliency comes from addressing the underlying emotions driving that need for distance. By engaging with our own emotions and understanding our neighbors’ perspectives, we can orient ourselves towards empathy rather than separation.

    Instead of reinforcing divides, try creating moments of authentic interaction, whether it’s through shared spaces or activities, where you and your neighbors can connect. This kind of intentional engagement builds trust, helping neighbors feel respected without needing to isolate themselves,” she explains.

    If a little spat is unavoidable with the next-door residents, the first step in the conflict resolution plan should be respectful and kind communication, proposes Clark. “Although emotions may be high, try to remain calm and kind in your approach.When communicating, practice “listening to understand.”Oftentimes we believe we are listening but may listen in defensive mode. Try to consider your neighbors position and listen for their fears or worries in conflict resolution,” she suggests.

    The end goal here is to find common ground or compromise. “Living with others (whether in your home or as neighbors) requires finding common ground. If both parties can consider the needs and comfort of one another, then compromise may be possible,” she adds. When respectful communication fails to work, Clarke further suggests calling on a neutral third party that can help. “In situations where physical safety is a concern, third-party intervention may be necessary. While communication is useful, it’s important that the environment feels safe to do so.”

    To ensure that conflicts don’t occur in the first place, Diaz suggests having structured and recurring neighborhood conversations. “These gatherings could include an intentional first hour of open discussion about concerns, fears, or hopes, followed by a relaxed, playful activity, such as a game night. By mixing purposeful conversation with enjoyable bonding, neighbors can get to know one another’s values, experiences, and challenges in a way that deepens their connection. Such rituals reinforce the “village mindset,” where neighbors feel seen, valued, and engaged with one another’s lives, fostering trust that carries through even the most challenging conflicts.”

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    Austeja Zokaite

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    Hi, glad you swung by! My name is Austėja, and I’m a writer at Bored Panda. With a degree in English philology, I’m interested in all aspects of language. Being fresh out of university, my mission is to master the art of writing and add my unique touch to every personal story and uplifting article we publish. In my time here, I’ve covered some fun topics such as scrungy cats and pareidolia, as well as more serious ones about mental health and relationship hiccups. When I’m not on my laptop, you’ll probably find me devouring pastries, especially croissants, paired with a soothing cup of tea. Sunsets, the sea, and swimming are some of my favorite things.

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    Austeja Zokaite

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    Hi, glad you swung by! My name is Austėja, and I’m a writer at Bored Panda. With a degree in English philology, I’m interested in all aspects of language. Being fresh out of university, my mission is to master the art of writing and add my unique touch to every personal story and uplifting article we publish. In my time here, I’ve covered some fun topics such as scrungy cats and pareidolia, as well as more serious ones about mental health and relationship hiccups. When I’m not on my laptop, you’ll probably find me devouring pastries, especially croissants, paired with a soothing cup of tea. Sunsets, the sea, and swimming are some of my favorite things.

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    I am a Visual editor at Bored Panda, I'm determined to find the most interesting and the best quality images for each post that I do. On my free time I like to unwind by doing some yoga, watching all kinds of movies/tv shows, playing video and board games or just simply hanging out with my cat

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    FreeTheUnicorn
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    1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Anyone who calls a person in their employ "lawn boy" deserves whatever s**t their neighbours can throw.

    Ace
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    1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    TBH It sounds like six of one and half a dozen of the other.

    Tiger
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    1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Imagine having so much free time that you can start drama with your neighbours lol, I barely even see my neighbours because of work - but they sometimes leave me veggies or canned goods from their garden and I leave them flavoured olive oils in a cute little glass bottle (one of my hobbies). We barely know each other outside sharing treats, it’s kinda cute.

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    FreeTheUnicorn
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    1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Anyone who calls a person in their employ "lawn boy" deserves whatever s**t their neighbours can throw.

    Ace
    Community Member
    1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    TBH It sounds like six of one and half a dozen of the other.

    Tiger
    Community Member
    1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Imagine having so much free time that you can start drama with your neighbours lol, I barely even see my neighbours because of work - but they sometimes leave me veggies or canned goods from their garden and I leave them flavoured olive oils in a cute little glass bottle (one of my hobbies). We barely know each other outside sharing treats, it’s kinda cute.

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