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Women Are Sharing The Most Ridiculous Things Theyâve Heard Men Say About Their Bodies (30 Tweets)
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High school biology doesn't teach guys how to understand women. But it at least gives them an idea of how their bodies work. Pass that and you won't infuriate your girlfriend by telling her to "keep it in" when she asks you to buy her some tampons. Recently, Twitter user @brownandbella asked women to share the most ridiculous things they've heard men say about "sex, reproductive health, menstruation, etc" and BOY did they deliver! As of this article, the thread already has nearly 20K upvotes and over 3.5K comments, many of which will make you wonder if men are really that stupid or are they just being dicks. Maybe the first, maybe the latter, maybe a bit of both.
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Almost a quarter of men have admitted that they have "no idea" what a pelvic floor is or what it is supposed to do. About 1 in 20 believe it's just another name for your pelvis and some even think it's a dance move. A new study has confirmed that men really are clueless when it comes to their female partner's body.
The study, released by pelvic floor experts INNOVO, found that nearly 4 in 10 men don't feel comfortable talking to women about it, too. 4 in 10 men also admit they have no understanding about the health issues their wife or girlfriend faces and are stumped when it comes to the length of their period.
There should be mandatory sex-ed for everyone, that we wouldn't be oblivious for specifics of each gender
The same magical 4 in 10 men don't feel comfortable talking to women about intimate health issues and as a result, more than a third try to avoid all conversations with their partner about subjects such as periods, intimate screening tests, and even sex.
Damn monthly subscriptions. Never can stop them. I hear you can pause them for 9 months, but it is SO not worth it.
"Intimate health issues can be a difficult subject for many to discuss," Jane Wake, women's health and fitness expert, said. "'It may be funny to think men have no idea what a pelvic floor is or does, but it's a subject which needs to be taken seriously – especially as men also have a pelvic floor and can suffer the same problems as women."
Either he has a very small penis or thinks tampons are far bigger than they are. Either way.... wow.
Jane added that both men and women find it embarrassing to discuss their private health concerns with someone of the opposite sex, even if it is their own partner, but that being as open as possible with each other is the best way to gradually break down the taboo.
When I was about 14, over 20 years ago, I was reading the problem page in a teen magazine. A girl had written a letter, in a total panic, because her periods weren't blue. She thought she had some terrible disease.
how did ANYONE know how many she would need in space? how many women have had their periods in space? we know that the absence of gravity affects various body functions.
Why on earth should father express his opinions about daughters sexual life?
I think you dodged a bullet with that one. Just because you are in college, does not mean you are educated.
So to sum up: You girls/women don't only bleed from your vagina's, but also have to suffer from uneducated pains in the ass.
Yep and the dozens of other symptoms that go with the bleeding. If it was just blood it honestly wouldnât be so awful. Cramps, headaches, hormones etc are even worse.
I used to feel like I was coming down with the 'flu on the first day or two. Did I mention how wonderful menopause was?
just about. but the mansplaining is the worst. Thank goodness some men have empathy and curiosity, and their only sin is ignorance, not out-and-out malignant intent.
yeeep
These are the reasons that Sex Ed and health should ALWAYS be taught in school. Lots of parents don't education their children; my mother never did.
My mom was pretty good, but also preached the "no sex before marriage" due to religious views. My son will be 11 soon and we have really good, open discussions about the good, the bad and the ugly of both male and female puberty and reproductive health. Some people might think he's too young to know about STDs, intercourse, and periods, but I say he's young enough that he won't hear it from someone else first so I can teach him the facts before he hears the myths.
I think you are doing exactly the right thing. Not that you need my approval - but you have it anyway.
Here in Italy we have the first sex ed lesson in school at 10 y.o. so it's not too soon.
I donât know who is down voting you but I donât think 11 is too soon. Girls start periods around 11, I was 12, and I knew nothing! I am lucky nothing bad happened to me. But I would have had healthier relationships mentally and physically if it wasnât so taboo to know about the difference between our bodies.
Dippin Dot, your mom did you a solid, that's for sure! My mother got me a kit from one of the feminine hygiene companies with a booklet that explained a lot of things. She gave me the kit when I had a "period" at age 10.5. It wasn't a real period, but she was prepared. My mother was such a prude about sex and taught me that sex was dirty and was not a subject that polite women talked about. My stepmother was quite open about the birds and the bees, so I got a mixed education at home. On the subject of the right age to start teaching comprehensive and frank sex education is dropping into the single digits. Girls are starting their monthly cycles much earlier. It's not as uncommon as it used to be for girls to have their first period at age 9. A friend who worked at a middle school office had a student who was pregnant for the *3rd* time at age 11. She told my friend that she was keeping this one. This was 20 years ago.
My mom was similar to yours. She actually gave me age-appropriate books that were from age 6-9, explaining about puberty, periods and where babies comes from and the other was I think 11-13 where they explained in more details about sex, STDs and contraception. Well, I was curios, so I actually read the second one earlier, so I knew the facts way before I needed them. I didn't think about having sex before 16 and when I did I knew that "I'll keep you safe" isn't good enough, so if you want to have sex, you better go buy condoms.
@Dippin Dot..and that's what makes you a good mother. People are always overly-protective of their kids. I'm here to tell you, the earlier the better when telling them the birds and the bees. Why? Because the last time my sister-in-law was a counselor for a camp full of 11 year olds, her biggest problem was breaking up kids that had attempted to sneak off in the woods to have sex...some of them she caught in various stages of undress. Girls are getting pregnant at 12 and 13 now. You can't wait until you think they're old enough. It's not a conversation that you can avoid and you don't want to live with the consequences of delivering that message too late.
You made sure that heâs vaccinated against HPV, right?
You, are a great mom!!â¤ď¸â¤ď¸â¤ď¸â¤ď¸
I was 14 and found a copy of Dr Ruth's Guide to Good sex and knew more about sex than my dad ever thought I knew. It talked about sex before and during menstruation, but not what menstruation was.
Relatable. I didn't know about period until mine came for the first time. Imagine my fear when i saw it. Also, lot of the stories above are just men who don't know trying to not be rude. They just don't know cause no one told them.
Although I would not take the responsibility from the parents here. School AND parents. Parents should be a role model that bodies are just normal as they are, and that includes among others women having their period. Anyway, this series only in small parts is about outraging comments from men but really a lot about an astonishing lack of education.
Last week, when I picked up my little boy in kindergarden, a mother was upset because her elder daughter (14yo) "learnt sex" at school, she had to memorize anatomical names from pictures (in fact drawings). She was even more upset that parents around didn't see any problem with this, because school was " putting ideas in kids head" and they shouldn't talk about menstruations because this is dirty... I'm really glad for this girl ( likely to soon menstruate) had the chance to get informations on that point at school. Of course, in a perfect world, her parents would have do the job, but as we're not living in a perfect world...
The trouble is that there are parents who don't teach their children or teach them wrong or misleading things. Schools need to do this so that parents can't get away with teaching their children utter crap. I was lucky - my parents were good in that regard but I heard a lot of playground chatter from children who weren't being given good education. The school aspect is VITAL. Parents should not have the right to overule this either. Ignorance leads to some terrible things happening.
I set a lot of children straight on the playground, but I was lucky--my mom told me everything, and kids were asking questions way before sex ed caught up with what they wanted to know--it's worse now.
My mother never did either. I was born in the Soviet Union where "there's no sex" so no one talked about it. I got my education on the street and god it was flawed! I dodged most of the bullets by self-education, but looking back now I understand how much more I needed to know before I started my sex life. I try to be different with my daughter, talking to her in clear terms and trying to give as much detail as appropriate for each age.
You've been down voted by trolls--your experience says everything, and why we need sex ed for our children
Sex ed will help just a bit, sometimes the info they give is so convoluted and watered down you would be better off looking at a PBS program. It is abysmal.
But even then the sex ed is not accurate!!! But you're right, it must be taught properly!
This just shows the lack of sexual education in general. It is scary to say the least. It ought to be mandatory that men receive education on the body of women...
Yes. And also women about the male body, and women about female bodies and men about male bodies.
Sadly, women are often no less ignorant/misinformed regarding their own bodies, sex, pregnancy, etc.
Well, a little bit less of course: you will quickly discover for yourself that really weird things like 'having a period only once in a lifetime', 'periods being blue' etc. are not correct haha. But I agree, there are lots of women that are ignorant/misinformed about female bodies: about which things impact the chance of getting pregnant, which things are just natural and not a sign that you did something wrong, what technically happens inside your body during a pregnancy, which things are normal (many women thinking their vagina looks abnormal because it doesn't look like it does in porn), which symptoms are not just a fact of life as a woman but are a medical problem, etc etc.
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Sadly, you are terribly wrong.
We had a Great Sex Ed program set up in Ontario in the past few years and the Ford Government and their backward ways cancelled it and returned to something from back in the /60's. because they thought that it wasn't proper to teach kids about same sex relationships, sexting, stalkers, STDs, AIDS & so many other things that we know some kids as young as 12 or less are involved with. We all see the stories of young kids getting pregnant because they develop as young as 9 years old.
So to sum up: You girls/women don't only bleed from your vagina's, but also have to suffer from uneducated pains in the ass.
Yep and the dozens of other symptoms that go with the bleeding. If it was just blood it honestly wouldnât be so awful. Cramps, headaches, hormones etc are even worse.
I used to feel like I was coming down with the 'flu on the first day or two. Did I mention how wonderful menopause was?
just about. but the mansplaining is the worst. Thank goodness some men have empathy and curiosity, and their only sin is ignorance, not out-and-out malignant intent.
yeeep
These are the reasons that Sex Ed and health should ALWAYS be taught in school. Lots of parents don't education their children; my mother never did.
My mom was pretty good, but also preached the "no sex before marriage" due to religious views. My son will be 11 soon and we have really good, open discussions about the good, the bad and the ugly of both male and female puberty and reproductive health. Some people might think he's too young to know about STDs, intercourse, and periods, but I say he's young enough that he won't hear it from someone else first so I can teach him the facts before he hears the myths.
I think you are doing exactly the right thing. Not that you need my approval - but you have it anyway.
Here in Italy we have the first sex ed lesson in school at 10 y.o. so it's not too soon.
I donât know who is down voting you but I donât think 11 is too soon. Girls start periods around 11, I was 12, and I knew nothing! I am lucky nothing bad happened to me. But I would have had healthier relationships mentally and physically if it wasnât so taboo to know about the difference between our bodies.
Dippin Dot, your mom did you a solid, that's for sure! My mother got me a kit from one of the feminine hygiene companies with a booklet that explained a lot of things. She gave me the kit when I had a "period" at age 10.5. It wasn't a real period, but she was prepared. My mother was such a prude about sex and taught me that sex was dirty and was not a subject that polite women talked about. My stepmother was quite open about the birds and the bees, so I got a mixed education at home. On the subject of the right age to start teaching comprehensive and frank sex education is dropping into the single digits. Girls are starting their monthly cycles much earlier. It's not as uncommon as it used to be for girls to have their first period at age 9. A friend who worked at a middle school office had a student who was pregnant for the *3rd* time at age 11. She told my friend that she was keeping this one. This was 20 years ago.
My mom was similar to yours. She actually gave me age-appropriate books that were from age 6-9, explaining about puberty, periods and where babies comes from and the other was I think 11-13 where they explained in more details about sex, STDs and contraception. Well, I was curios, so I actually read the second one earlier, so I knew the facts way before I needed them. I didn't think about having sex before 16 and when I did I knew that "I'll keep you safe" isn't good enough, so if you want to have sex, you better go buy condoms.
@Dippin Dot..and that's what makes you a good mother. People are always overly-protective of their kids. I'm here to tell you, the earlier the better when telling them the birds and the bees. Why? Because the last time my sister-in-law was a counselor for a camp full of 11 year olds, her biggest problem was breaking up kids that had attempted to sneak off in the woods to have sex...some of them she caught in various stages of undress. Girls are getting pregnant at 12 and 13 now. You can't wait until you think they're old enough. It's not a conversation that you can avoid and you don't want to live with the consequences of delivering that message too late.
You made sure that heâs vaccinated against HPV, right?
You, are a great mom!!â¤ď¸â¤ď¸â¤ď¸â¤ď¸
I was 14 and found a copy of Dr Ruth's Guide to Good sex and knew more about sex than my dad ever thought I knew. It talked about sex before and during menstruation, but not what menstruation was.
Relatable. I didn't know about period until mine came for the first time. Imagine my fear when i saw it. Also, lot of the stories above are just men who don't know trying to not be rude. They just don't know cause no one told them.
Although I would not take the responsibility from the parents here. School AND parents. Parents should be a role model that bodies are just normal as they are, and that includes among others women having their period. Anyway, this series only in small parts is about outraging comments from men but really a lot about an astonishing lack of education.
Last week, when I picked up my little boy in kindergarden, a mother was upset because her elder daughter (14yo) "learnt sex" at school, she had to memorize anatomical names from pictures (in fact drawings). She was even more upset that parents around didn't see any problem with this, because school was " putting ideas in kids head" and they shouldn't talk about menstruations because this is dirty... I'm really glad for this girl ( likely to soon menstruate) had the chance to get informations on that point at school. Of course, in a perfect world, her parents would have do the job, but as we're not living in a perfect world...
The trouble is that there are parents who don't teach their children or teach them wrong or misleading things. Schools need to do this so that parents can't get away with teaching their children utter crap. I was lucky - my parents were good in that regard but I heard a lot of playground chatter from children who weren't being given good education. The school aspect is VITAL. Parents should not have the right to overule this either. Ignorance leads to some terrible things happening.
I set a lot of children straight on the playground, but I was lucky--my mom told me everything, and kids were asking questions way before sex ed caught up with what they wanted to know--it's worse now.
My mother never did either. I was born in the Soviet Union where "there's no sex" so no one talked about it. I got my education on the street and god it was flawed! I dodged most of the bullets by self-education, but looking back now I understand how much more I needed to know before I started my sex life. I try to be different with my daughter, talking to her in clear terms and trying to give as much detail as appropriate for each age.
You've been down voted by trolls--your experience says everything, and why we need sex ed for our children
Sex ed will help just a bit, sometimes the info they give is so convoluted and watered down you would be better off looking at a PBS program. It is abysmal.
But even then the sex ed is not accurate!!! But you're right, it must be taught properly!
This just shows the lack of sexual education in general. It is scary to say the least. It ought to be mandatory that men receive education on the body of women...
Yes. And also women about the male body, and women about female bodies and men about male bodies.
Sadly, women are often no less ignorant/misinformed regarding their own bodies, sex, pregnancy, etc.
Well, a little bit less of course: you will quickly discover for yourself that really weird things like 'having a period only once in a lifetime', 'periods being blue' etc. are not correct haha. But I agree, there are lots of women that are ignorant/misinformed about female bodies: about which things impact the chance of getting pregnant, which things are just natural and not a sign that you did something wrong, what technically happens inside your body during a pregnancy, which things are normal (many women thinking their vagina looks abnormal because it doesn't look like it does in porn), which symptoms are not just a fact of life as a woman but are a medical problem, etc etc.
This comment is hidden. Click here to view.
Sadly, you are terribly wrong.
We had a Great Sex Ed program set up in Ontario in the past few years and the Ford Government and their backward ways cancelled it and returned to something from back in the /60's. because they thought that it wasn't proper to teach kids about same sex relationships, sexting, stalkers, STDs, AIDS & so many other things that we know some kids as young as 12 or less are involved with. We all see the stories of young kids getting pregnant because they develop as young as 9 years old.