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From siblings hissing at each other over who is the ugly one to parents debating who ruined the trip to the zoo and more, all families have their arguments. The important part is to resolve them. And laugh at how such trivial things can ruin a perfectly good afternoon afterward.

To enjoy the latter, Jimmy Fallon, the host of The Tonight Show, asked his viewers to tweet the dumbest family fights they've been in. And they answered. Keep scrolling, check out the ridiculous entries, and upvote your favorite ones.

Many people feel that they love and hate their families at the same time. Getting along with the closest people around you isn't necessarily given, the navigating these complicated dynamics can be hard. 

"With difficult acquaintances like friends, colleagues, lovers, or neighbors, you may have to deal with them for a time, either until a conflict between you is resolved, or you are able to remove yourself from the situation," psychiatrist Abigail Brenner wrote for Psychology Today. "With family, we are almost obligated to go the extra mile for the sake of the integrity of the family group. In other words, personal relationships may affect the family as a whole. If you don’t get along with a family member, it may very well put stress and strain on other familial relationships as well."

The first thing you can do when you're forced into a difficult situations with your family member is i try to fix the difficult person.

The first thing you have to understand when you're forced into a difficult situation with your family member is that you don't need to 'fix' them. "Accept them exactly as they are," Brenner said. "It’s tempting to try to help someone you want to care about; you probably will make some efforts to help them. Sometimes it works, but often your efforts will not be rewarded. In fact, trying to fix someone or make their life better may become a huge headache, since the more you do for them, the more they want from you." Accept that they are can't change, at least at this moment.

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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Reminds me of the time I was really angry because my sister had kicked my guinea pig because she thought it was a shoe. - We found out way later that it was only a dream.

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Be present and direct. Keep in mind that a person who is trying to stir up conflict can set you off in a blink of an eye. Emotionally and physically. "Try to avoid getting into a fight-or-flight response, which inevitably leads to becoming defensive. You do not want an argument or heated discussion. Stay true to yourself, grounded in your own integrity. Be direct and assertive when you express yourself. Stay focused on how you respond. Know when the discussion or argument has accelerated to the point of no return — meaning it’s no longer about conflict resolution, but just about winning. If it gets to this point, stop the interaction, and leave the conversation."

Also, don't forget that the other person wants to be heard as well, so encourage them to express themselves. Let them fully state their point of view about the issue/conflict/problem without interrupting them. After all, they feel they're being judged or criticized unfairly. "Just listening, rather than trying to engage, may be enough to allow someone to feel like they have the opportunity to say what’s on their mind. Showing respect for another’s differences may go a very long way," Brenner added.

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Be aware of trigger topics. "Inevitably there will be topics that represent points of disagreement and disharmony. Know what these topics are, and be extremely aware when these are brought up." Remember your past experiences. They should really help you, especially when you're dealing with very sensitive subjects. "Be prepared to address these issues in a direct, non-confrontational way or to deflect the conflict if the atmosphere becomes too heated."  

Understand that some topics are absolutely off-limits. "History and experiences should tell you that these subjects should be avoided at all costs. That’s not to say that important issues should be permanently avoided. Rather, if your experience dealing with certain issues has left you stressed out or emotionally depleted, and the discussion has not progressed sufficiently along to represent a rapprochement, then it’s best to avoid the discussion until a time when both parties are willing to move it forward in a constructive way," Brenner pointed out.

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Realize that these family conflicts are rarely about you. Even though it's hard not to take things personally, they mostly center around a specific topic. The less people make it about themselves, the more they stick to the actual cause of the disagreement, the quicker they can resolve it. 

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The last thing you need to know is that your well-being comes first. "While you want to be respectful and attentive to others as much as you can, you don’t want to bend over backward or twist yourself into a knot just to make someone else happy or satisfied, or to keep the peace. Never allow any personal interaction or relationship to infringe upon or challenge your own well-being."

Hopefully, now we'll be able to navigate these intricate emotional mazes, escaping them without hurting ourselves or others. And share them on the next #Hashtags segment!

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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So, you were arguing because you won't disclose her the reason why you were arguing. Makes sense.

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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Taxidermy is one of the stupidest, most awful and ugliest ideas ever

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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

As an Australian I still find the whole jelly thing on a sanga weird. Is it actually Jam, preserve or really jelly. I must say though strawberry jam and peanut butter sangas are yummo.

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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Jelly is jam without seeds. What we call jelly Americans call jellO

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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm 54 and have NEVER put the peanut butter and jelly on the same slice of bread. It's always on two slices and then put together like a proper sandwich. Peanut butter on one slice, jelly on the other then slam them together. If I don't want a whole sandwich, then I cut a slice of bread in half and make it that way; still separate slices put together. I'm sure if I ever tried doing it on one slice of bread, the damned thing would fall on the floor pb&j side down making a nasty mess.

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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Well there IS a right and wrong way to do it and your father is correct!!!

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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The kind of jelly eaten with peanut butter in a sandwich is nothing like Jello. Jello is wobbly gelatin. Jelly is like jam, but as people say, has no fruit bits in it, NO awful seeds, just clear. Like the juice of the fruit but with enough pectin in it to make it spreadable like jam, and hold its shape better than gelatin-type jelly. When I make raspberry jelly, I process it twice, to concentrate flavour and remove all the potential wateriness that might be left after the first process. Having said all that, I would not eat it with peanut butter. It needs to be the star on its own.

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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I would do more than send you to your room. Putting jelly on under the peanut butter? Were you raised by cannibals?

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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is just plain stupid. Your dad let your mum decide if he can get glasses? Idk who is the biggest idiot, your mum or dad?!

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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Kind of like George on Seinfeld spotting raccoons left and right...Jerry's response, "They were garbage bags!"

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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

An adult family friend taught me as a kid that tomatoe sauce was good on eggs, my Mum has never forgiven him for ruining her child.

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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This one isn't simple. You many have thought it was a joke and they may have not thought it was a joke. Plus, you are taking a shot at his spending. He also maybe donating large sums to other charities, and is pissed that you wanted him to do something he doesn't feel he should be doing. Too much unexplained to say that this is a dumb family fight

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4 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

but it is your cat, i suppose? because Dads never want to have a cat...

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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yeah mom he hears trough his nostrils, he definitely isn't doing too good

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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

To be fair.. there is a switch on majority of fans to change the direction of the spin. The purpose is to help distribute hot or cool air depending on season

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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If my daughter were going with Trevor Noah, I would kick the bucket with a happy cheer.

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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

a friend of mine is a teacher. once this sweet boy (6-7yo) was mad at a girl and called her an apple! "you are such an apple" :D to this date, my friends and I randomly insult each other as an apple or a peach or something like that

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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

As a former librarian in the US, I can attest to the fact that if you got your library card as a kid, your parent could indeed be sent to collections if you didn't return a book. It's quite possible.

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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You always need someone who can run slower than you

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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is why there is stoup, it is both a thick soup and thin stew.

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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That's terrible. Funny maybe for an hour but a week? You must have felt so lonely.

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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That relationship was cringey from the start. Just like Ted and Robin on How I Met Your Mother. (I'm still convinced it was the same show. Rachel = Robin, Ross = Ted, Monica = Lily, Joey = Barney, Chandler and Phoebe = Marshall. Central Perk = MacLaren's Both shows are set in a NYC devoid of people of color.)

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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

According to the original patent application from the 19th century the position "over" is correct, but if you have a cat with access to the bathroom position "under" might be better.

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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Totally 1,000,000.5. 1.5 million or one and a half million would be 1,500,000, but one million and a half is 1,000,000.5. Syntax matters.

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There are five kids in my family that shared one bathroom, so when I was growing up we all had assigned colors of toothbrush. It seemed like the norm to me. After I had been married for over 10 years, I was searching the rack for a new green toothbrush and my husband said "You know, you can pick any color you want." It was literally the first time I realized that I didn't have to have a green toothbrush! I don't think I have had a green one since...

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Same thing happened to my family except it was a piece of Hitler's podium

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This was a casino ad in California for one of the tribes

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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is not an argument. When your ma throws your laundry in the garbagebin on the day they come to empty it, that's when you get an argument. I'm still very keen on putting my laundry away.

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For those who don't get it: Dua Lipa is a singer, songwriter and model who is world famous in the UK. /S

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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

One side of my family is mad at the other over a Facebook argument about football 🙄 This was severla years ago btw.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

you are both idiots. You could have acted like a mature person and taken the dirty cup she FORGOT in your room to the sink instead of acting like a little kid and putting it in her room.

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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Aww! I don't really believe in that superstition anyway, although I caught the bouquet at my cousin's wedding and less than a month later met the man who would become my husband...