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Let’s face it, parenting is one of the biggest challenges that we’ll ever have to face in our lives. It’s right up there alongside fighting off an alien invasion, surviving a zombie apocalypse, rocket science, and plugging in a USB cable on the first try. So it’s no wonder that most parents are less than perfect. In fact, it’s pretty much the norm.

However, they’re nowhere near the level that some of the parents featured on the ‘Parents Are Effing Dumb’ subreddit are. There, you’ll find some of the biggest fails that will make you gasp, shout “think of the children!”, and think about taking these people’s parenting license away. Remember to buckle up and upvote the pics that made your jaw drop as you scroll down the rollercoaster that is this descent into parenting weirdness.

When it comes to parenting, both extremes—absolute perfectionism/trying to be a ‘perfect’ parent and not trying hard enough—can be harmful to the family. And while it’s very clear what bad parenting is, perfectionism is more insidious and sneaky and can actually end up being just as harmful as actual neglect or ignorance, though in a very different way. We spoke about the pitfalls of this with an expert in the field of psychology.

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I'm Sorry, What??

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My Family Does This To Me All The Time, And Each Time I Tell Them It Discourages Me But They Still Do It

My Family Does This To Me All The Time, And Each Time I Tell Them It Discourages Me But They Still Do It

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Konpat
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My parents excelled at this behaviour. Makes you feel that nothing you ever do is right or good enough

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Emma Morton, a researcher at the University of British Columbia, explained to Bored Panda the pitfalls of perfectionist thinking and how it spreads to many areas of a person’s life, contributing to poor mental health and even depression.

Believing that you should (or even that you can) be a so-called ‘perfect’ parent is actually detrimental to your health. What’s more, the belief that you can control every single outcome can spread to other areas of your life, not just parenting.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I love when teenagers actually start to think for themselves, and not just repeating what they parents think

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“When we set excessive and inflexible high standards for ourselves and become self-critical about not meeting those, perfectionism can become a problem for our mental health and potentially contribute to depression or suicidal thoughts,” researcher Morton said.

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Sam Kunz
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Stop the planet, I want to get off. That's the worst thing I've ever read.

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Ryan Deschanel
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Kill her. Like, use a drug that makes her look dead and wake up during her cremation.

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Margaret Martin
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My Dad cheated his Brother George out of $100 on a job at the Ford Plant. Uncle George got drunk later & took the loss out on me. When I told Dad what he did- Dad called me a liar & beat me. The next week Dad cheated him AGAIN- only THIS time... SEVERAL employees overheard George say he'd just take it out of my hide again. When he followed me into the Ladies room that time- four guys dragged him out, kicked the crud out of him, threatened to have him arrested if he ever came back & told my Dad what happened the moment he came back with our Lunches. Dad NEVER apologized to me & I never saw George again.

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GVL
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Damn. I am so sorry that happened. I hope you got counseling and are ok now.

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Jo Johannsen
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That had to have scarred you. I hope you were able to get real help.

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Rez Fidel
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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sadly... this happens all the time a rape survivor wants help from an adult/parent.

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Mumchkin
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I was molested by my paternal Grandfather for many years. Enough that I didn't know he was doing anything wrong. When I finally learned about "bad touch" my Mom immediately took action, my parents were divorced. So when my mom told "dad" told me to stop lying about his father. That's when "dad" became Jimmy.

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Bob Knob
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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My babysitters sons raped me when I was 5. I told my mom and she told me I was a liar because they're "good boys" and if I wasn't lying, it was probably my fault anyway for being such a whore. Took me 8 more years to learn what a whore was. No amount of therapy has ever been able to get me past my trust issues. I'm 45, have never had a healthy relationship. I seek out abusive people who use me because deep down I truly believe that I am subhuman and that hate and pain is my lot in life. I have overcompensated with my kids at times because I would never ever want any of them to grow up and feel like I do.

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Paddling Panda
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You were a child, barely out of your toddler years, when you were violently assaulted and then utterly betrayed by the one person who was supposed to protect you. Five-year old you NEVER deserved that and ADULT you doesn't deserve to feel the way you still do. I'm happy to read you protect your children; I hope you can extend that same love, care, and compassion to yourself, both your adult self and the little girl who was raped and then abandoned by her mother. You and Younger You deserve to feel as safe and loved as your own children do. Have a peaceful day. xoxo

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Anne
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You need a new mom. I'll adopt you and we will go rapist hunting together.

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Dizzy Falcon
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

*loads double barrel shotgun with dragons breath* just wanna talk to him

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Scott
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That's beyond despicable. So awful, and I'm sorry that happened to OP. I've had a similar experience, but nowhere to that response. I was raped during a Boy Scout camping trip and told it was "normal roughhousing." What roughhousing involves someone penetrating and finishing in me?

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Laurie
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I was raped by 2 men when I was 16. When I told my father he told me I probably deserved it

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Neomy Gilbert
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sorry that you had to go though that, amd your mother to do that was unjust and just a awful thing to do

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Stephanie Keith
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I was being molested as a child. I didn't know how to tell people what was happening because I was so young. So I'd act out in other ways. But when I was old enough to tell someone no one believed me. To this day I have anger towards people who won't listen to me. Even about little things. I've been in counciling pretty much my whole life. But nothing hurts more than knowing you're trying to tell someone what's really going on and them just turning their backs on you. It's like being traumatized all over again. It's hard to deal with but I cannot encourage people enough to seek help for any issues you may have. Talking to a professional or someone you trust really can make all the difference.

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Ivana
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My parents left the decision to report my grandmother's husband for rape up to a very scared and embarrassed 12 year old. I have never forgiven my parents for that. It is not something you leave up to a 12 year old to determine, they should have gone to the cops as soon as they found out. My sister has forgiven my parents for a lot of things, I will hold that grudge against them until the day I die. My sister has forgiven enough, I will hold the grudges on her behalf.

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Elizabeth Rolando
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I had similar happen except my mom called my abuser into the living room and asked point blank and when he said no, they called me a whore. I was 14.

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Dash Blue
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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Terrible! I am curious to know about the relationship between the mother and daughter now. I do not believe that children are obligated to love their parents no matter what.

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Helderder
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If the early childhood years were okay the child gets attached. It's a fcked up loyalty conflict.

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deanna woods
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

How can any parent not believe when their child says they were raped?

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Diana Murtaugh
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sometimes I think they just don't want to deal with the situation. Or they're in denial because they let it happen. Also a common one is they don't want their life/situation to change. The last part was my mother. I haven't seen her since I was 14, and I've never regretted my decission (she was also abusive).

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Jess Sexton
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is really common in Latin American communities, and probably others, though I can only speak for mine. It’s so damaging and yes, very sad. Parenting classes and education should be a part of prenatal care. The parents dismissing their children are sometimes victims of childhood rape and abuse themselves. I had to live with my abuser for 18 years. My mother told me I was being dramatic when I told her what was happening. Eventually she bought me a lock for my door (I was 16)...but that was the extent of her interventions and I know I’m lucky to have at least gotten that. No child should ever go through this, and it is so underreported because we begin to think it’s normal for the sake of our own survival. Society needs to step the f**k up and start taking better care of each other.

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mcborge1
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My sister and I were abused by our babysitters, I was 4 my sister was 5. The babysitters were my aunts school friends, two girls. Nothing was ever done about it and we were made to forget it ever happened. 45 years later and I still havent forgotten.

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Rez Fidel
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Im sorry man. I hope you still find the strength to report this or make it public..these hellcunts deserve the worst...

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When I was 7 I told my mom that a neighbor had sexually assaulted me. My mom couldn't begin to imagine that an 18 year old girl could even do such a thing, let alone one she kind of knew. It was easier to believe I made it up. I didn't get punished for "lying" but she told me she was disappointed in me. That really hurt.

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AlmightyOne
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Pause the laws against murder real quick, I got a rapist and this kiddo's mother to kill.

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Cammy
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What the actual that is the worst thing ive ever heard

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Megumi Saikou
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

F*ck. I want to blow the sh*t out of your mom and slaughter her.

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CatWoman312
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is infuriating. I’m assuming it was her boyfriend who she clearly cared more about than her child. Women like that don’t deserve to be mothers.

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Arctic Fox Lover
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

*Furiously and unsuccessfully trying to erase what I just read from my mind*

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Mazer
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

OMG, honey (virtual hugs), you did not deserve either forms of abuse!

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TJay
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

There will be blood if anyone dies something like this to my offspring

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Jo Choto
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That gave me a serious flashback. Got the same response when I told mine about a similar but less violent experience as a young child. I feel your pain

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Manuela Martins
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

OMG. This world is really lost. That "mother" should burn in hell.

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Blackheart
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NO. ANYTIME a child reports sexual abuse or assault, it must be reported and followed up. The child may need counseling. My advice is to find a place that will also counsel the parents. These types of CRIMES need stricter punishments because this affects so many people in so many ways.

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LJ Robinson
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Same, but by my stepfather. My mom beat me with a dowl rod, and told me it was only because he was drunk, and I better not talk about it. One night I had a friend spend the night, my stepdad came in naked and drunk, I ran and got my mom. She got him out of the room, then screamed at my friend that she better keep her mouth shut, that my mom knew her mom was a gossip. No friends over after that. I was pretty much a pariah in school as well.

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Lola
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What the hell did I just read? There’s not enough therapy in the world to help you deal with that. I hope whoever raped you, along with your mother, burn in hell eternally.

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Paddling Panda
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I am so so so sorry this happened to you. I am sending you kind hugs across the ether.

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Byron Butcher
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

SON OF A BITCH RAPIIIIIIIIIIIIIIISTSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS

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James016
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When is the next asteroid due to hit? Can't come soon enough.

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Erihapeti Swampwitch
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is too common, "you asked for it" has also featured. Sending the author a warm virtual hug. You are not alone. This was not ok.

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marianne eliza
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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

In 1968 when I was 7, I told my mom that grandpa (her dad who lived with us) would touch me down there if I sat on his lap. She told me to not sit on his lap.

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Jocelyn Wilharms
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I’m sorry that your mom hit you and that you were rapped I hope karma shits on them

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Sharon Lawes
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

slap the mother and remove the child as she can not look after anything especially a child

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Ella Peñacolada
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Please tell me this is fake...Please, please please please tell me that the world is not that horrible, please..

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Mattie
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

this is not toxic, it's plain abusive, and I'm obviously not just talking about the slap. this woman is evil

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Sawmang007
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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That's the worse thing I have ever heard, I hope you find a way to heal from this.

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Hamish Morris
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I just cannot believe that humanity can be this bad. Will we ever get better? I think the punishment for rape should be death.

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EJN
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Unbelievable! I am so sorry for you! Not only for the horrendous experience of rape but then to have your mother tell you to suck it up and pretend it didn't happen... that, is betrayal!

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Celtic Pirate Queen
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

OMG. I am so sorry that happened to you. I hope you see a therapist? (And avoid your hateful mother).

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salty
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

WHAT THE F**K. 1. Who the Hell would do that!?!!? 2. Why did your mother slap her and then tell her that nothing happened thats something that would scar you for life. whats happening to humanity?

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Bbb
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Was it a "trusted" family friend? Unfortunately, people who have experienced similar things refuse acceptance of actions that occured. The mind is a beautiful f****d up thing. Stay strong homie.

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Bob Belcher
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yeah, this happens a lot. A parent won't want to hear or deal with the fact their relative is horrible

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Mila Du Toit
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm a survivor,, and when I told my mom what happened to me in my s*xual ab*se she asked me " are you sure that happened?".

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Haunter Of The Dark
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Take this with a grain of salt. She was just caught sharing private chats in Snapchat and WhatsApp groups and then spun the tale so one sided to her family and two therapists that she was the victim and now her mother and her get along great and her money problems are over. And she only had to throw one friend under the bus.

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John Otruba
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I am retired LEO ...I had one family where the father/grandfather/great-grandfather raped every female child born to his progeny. Was only stopped when a 12 YOA female came forward in school and we were called in. Of 23 known victims only 2 would testify against "Gramps" Oh.. he lost interest in each and quit when they (his words) started growing titties We put him in prison

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Rez Fidel
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Oh s**t..all these horrorstories here... and now this... im done. Im sorry for you John. Fck that Guy..hope Karma gives him nice shower sessions in prison..

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Analyn Lahr
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What the f*****g hell? What a terrible mother. That mother should have been reported.

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6 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

WHY?? HE R*PED YOU. WTF????? I WANT TO JUST HAVE A TALK W/ UR MOM AND THE PERSON WHO R*PED YOU.

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Corey Adams
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ran into this sort of thing coming from parents far too often

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Anna Tribe
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Same thing happened to me. I was 8 when my uncle raped me and when I told my mum the next day what he had done she told me that her brother would never do that and if it really happened then I must have forced him to do it. Then she beat me up for forcing him to rape me

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gemma millichamp
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I can relate to this post, I was abused by my stepdad for 2 years tried to tell my mom and she kicked me out of the house. I was 14

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Bodhi Swindle
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That is not your mom that is a very dangerous stranger call 911

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Bev Winkler
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Mothers can b like that ,, when i was 11, a neighbor put this hand in my shorts and when i told my other it was my fault,in 1969 we didn't know things like that...i have never forgivin my mother for not listening to me

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Carol Stephen
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Re comments that this happens "all the time" tend to diminish the terrible thing that was done. Just like, except worse than, the scenario in #3 above about punishing both good and bad behaviour. the point is, it should NOT happen at ALL. It is disgusting, criminal and not to be downplayed by saying it happens all the time. What is wrong here?

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Donna Baker
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That's a parental sin. She should have backed you up 100% and at least listened.

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Chris Sprucefield
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That parent is aiding and abetting a crime, and committing child abuse...

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Stacey Thompson
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

And people wonder why abused children don't speak up...been there. 😞

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Barbara Vandewalle
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When parents refuse to admit the child is telling the truth; 9 times out 10 the rapist a family member or family friend. time to go to the authorities.

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Walkus-Andrew Andrea
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Uh worst mother of all time award goes to your mother. So sorry that you went through that 😔💔

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Diana Murtaugh
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sad thing is, mothers will often deny, or even worse BLAME the child for the trama./horror that happened.

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Elaine Mattingly
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Raped then what was left of your heart was ripped out and stepped on. When it could get no worse it was an added cruelty. Your Mom must surely have grieved over what she did through the years.

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June Dominguez
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I was raped since I was four and for many many years, people including my mom knew so when I was old enough to ask mom, why did you do nothing to stop it she said “ what did you think I could do” I asked her why did she not just adopt me out to someone who cared?

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Lyn Moffett
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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I hope when you found someone to listen and you got justice sweetheart. She does not deserve the title of Mom. God bless you I hope you are living your best life. If you have children of your own keep them away from her.

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Baali Venomax
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Thats just....I don't have the words that would pass the censor here.

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Fred Burrows
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I've seen this happen . I hope this person has found a measure of peace.

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Yehudit Hannah Cohn
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That's awful. I'm appalled and devastated for you. I want to say something comforting or at least wise, but I can't imagine what it would be.

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Niall Mac Iomera
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I can only think that your mum has some severe trauma she's not dealing with as well :(

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Pangolin Pal
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Let me guess -- because the rapist was someone your community was supposed to trust and respect. This is so terrible, and I am so sorry your mother betrayed you. She was more invested in her conception of the world as a safe and just place than in protecting her child. I wish you healing and peace.

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Jane Alexander
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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm still angerier at the woman who asked "What's wrong?" -then didn't believe me than I was at the old drunk who grabbed me. I was nine.

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Lara Verne
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Something like this happened few years ago. Man repeatedly raped his 10 years old stepdaughter. Turned out her mother knew about it. She had certain mindset- he married me, divorced woman with a kid, and I live comfortable life thanks to him, so this is the price I have to pay.

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QueenMiri
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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"why do women not report" here is one of the answers (please keep on reporting it, don't let them silence you. ♥)

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Tiny Dancer
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I was also 9 when I was raped by a so-called family friend. When my mother found out a few years later, she forced me to go to a doctor "just to be sure". My words weren't enough, I had to be medically checked to convince her. Took many more years to forgive her for that.

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Eric Lafleur
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Never thought I'd say this but that mom deserves to suffer the same fate so she would understand.

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Naomi Peterson
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That is actually horrendous. And on top of being rape you were disbelieved! I cannot conceive that as a parent I would punish my child for telling me about abuse.

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Brian Bennett
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

that's the worst mother I ever read! She just raped the girl again. Mommy dearest!

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She Is Insane

She Is Insane

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achilles get down from there
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That’s just the same as smashing down a Lego set, or destroying paintings, or any other project. It’s destroying property! And hours and hours of care and passion.

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Very Not Cool

Very Not Cool

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Addiction is a disease, and it's NEVER compatible with kids in the house. Downvote all you want, but people with that kind of problems should never be the caretakers of kids. Ever.

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“Perfectionism is a very insidious problem—even if someone achieves great success in their personal or professional life, negative thinking patterns lead them to be highly self-critical, focus on perceived mistakes, or mentally discount their achievements,” Morton detailed that a perfectionist mindset dims even the biggest victories when we tend to laser-in on the various real and imagined flaws.

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Tweet Says It All

Tweet Says It All

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's sad when people who really want children can't have them, and then horrible people like these have kids. Not fair.

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What If The Neighbors Had Dogs

What If The Neighbors Had Dogs

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The anxiety surrounding perfectionism is just as much about personal pride as it is about the desire to be respected and liked by others. “People who struggle with perfectionism may worry that they will be judged for their perceived failures, feel that they are inadequate for needing help, or assume they will be a burden on their family and friends,” she said, adding that this can make perfectionists especially vulnerable mentally and emotionally.

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Please Show Support To The Op On His Post Since His Parents Surely Won't

Please Show Support To The Op On His Post Since His Parents Surely Won't

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Can’t Imagine What That Kid Has To Deal With

Can’t Imagine What That Kid Has To Deal With

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Wow Just Wow

Wow Just Wow

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As such, it’s very important that parents who make mistakes with their kids don’t overcorrect and land in the ‘perfectionist’ zone. Similarly, any parents who realize that they’re being inflexible with their standards and are overly critical of their and their kids’ (real or perceived) faults need to learn to hold back and allow room for (at least some) failure. After all, learning to deal with failure and drawing wisdom from our mistakes is what being human is all about. One thing's for sure, though: nobody wants to be that parent who ends up on 'Parents Are Effing Dumb.'

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Imagine... Uggh

Imagine... Uggh

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Oh god, there should be laws against this sort of "family youtube" thing. Using your kids for views and cash is revolting.

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Parents Theory

Parents Theory

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Ryan Deschanel
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"Those Japanese cartoons are too violent. Here, watch this documentary about the genocide in Vendée on the French-German channel."

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#20

Florida Teen Dies From Covid-19 After Mom Takes Her To Church “Covid Party”

Florida Teen Dies From Covid-19 After Mom Takes Her To Church “Covid Party”

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Atleast One Person In The Comments Had The Sense To Tell Her To Call A Doctor! This Is Too Much

Atleast One Person In The Comments Had The Sense To Tell Her To Call A Doctor! This Is Too Much

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Mum Is Angry At Her Child For Growing

Mum Is Angry At Her Child For Growing

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Another Great Example Of Dumb Parents

Another Great Example Of Dumb Parents

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#25

Wtf

Wtf

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Ryan Deschanel
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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Old people think they are gods, they always think they are always right about everything. Edit : not all of them, obviously, but it is more like a general tendency.

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Big Brain Logic

Big Brain Logic

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I can see the composite in my head now from all I've seen that I couldn't stop: "how many times must I tell you *name*?! We *smack* don't *smack* hit *smack* people *wrenches kid away by the arm*

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#27

Mint Drugs

Mint Drugs

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Family Had Symptoms Of Covid But Sent Child To School Regardless

Family Had Symptoms Of Covid But Sent Child To School Regardless

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Those people should be fined, and do community service by volunteering at hospitals.

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My Parents Think This Is A Cute Decoration

My Parents Think This Is A Cute Decoration

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My MIL collects golli-dolls. I asked her mother (my wife's grandmother) about it a few years back. She told me that after the war, they were left with nothing, rationing was the only thing keeping them fed. She was out begging one day with her infant child (my MIL) and someone gave her a golli doll and she has kept it ever since. The doll, to my MIL, was the first and only gift she would receive as a child and holds huge sentimentality, if her house caught fire, she would try to save them, before her husband. She knows and understands why they are racist, but for her, they represent something else, kindness, charity, safety and childhood.

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Woke Up And Saw My Door Removed By My Parents. I Asked Them "Why?" And They Replied With "Privacy Isn't Necessary"

Woke Up And Saw My Door Removed By My Parents. I Asked Them "Why?" And They Replied With "Privacy Isn't Necessary"

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Little Wonder
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My parents didn't take my door, but they had the same attitude to privacy. They still do.

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Sorry If Repost

Sorry If Repost

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#34

Let Me Just Punish My Kid For Being Depressed Instead Of Trying To Deal With It

Let Me Just Punish My Kid For Being Depressed Instead Of Trying To Deal With It

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#36

Everyone Is Fine Today And No Bad Habits Were Formed

Everyone Is Fine Today And No Bad Habits Were Formed

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#37

Well, He Tried

Well, He Tried

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#38

My Dad Needs To Stay Off The Internet

My Dad Needs To Stay Off The Internet

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We Know Everything About You

We Know Everything About You

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That Kid Is Like 1

That Kid Is Like 1

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Cement burns and irritates skin- the kid needs to be washed off immediately. Whoever took the photo and/or stood watching this is a nunt

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I Did It

I Did It

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Sasy
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Times were different. Usually the owner of store knew parents smoked etc.

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7yo Gets Bullied At School For Sitting In A Car Seat, So Mom Waits Until He's Asleep, Takes A Photo Of Him, And Posts It On The Official Parents Magazine Instagram Page (855k Followers)

7yo Gets Bullied At School For Sitting In A Car Seat, So Mom Waits Until He's Asleep, Takes A Photo Of Him, And Posts It On The Official Parents Magazine Instagram Page (855k Followers)

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think this person is actually evil. Maybe she will learn her lesson when she is not invited to his wedding, never meets her grandchildren, and is cremated in the cheapest casket and thrown away in the nearest lake with just a small prayer and two flowers.

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#44

We’re In A Crowded Terminal And This Toddler Wouldn’t Stop Crying And Screaming, So Her Mom Gave Her A Whistle To Play With

We’re In A Crowded Terminal And This Toddler Wouldn’t Stop Crying And Screaming, So Her Mom Gave Her A Whistle To Play With

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I bet the others enjoy it as much as she does *facepalm*

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Yes, The Problem Is Definitely Not That You Gave A Phone To A 2 Year Old!

Yes, The Problem Is Definitely Not That You Gave A Phone To A 2 Year Old!

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Bumble
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You took away your 2 year old's IPhone? That is beyond cruel! How will he text his friends?

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#47

Sad We Have To Create Something So We Don’t Forget Children

Sad We Have To Create Something So We Don’t Forget Children

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If you 'never understand' why people make mistakes, you're another reason why people think they could never make a mistake, don't use any kind of failsafe, make a mistake, and have dire consequences.

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My Son Likes To Do Something He Likes And He Deserves It, But Doesn't Need It. What Should I Do?

My Son Likes To Do Something He Likes And He Deserves It, But Doesn't Need It. What Should I Do?

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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You could teach him the valuable lesson that, no matter how hard he works and how good he follows rules, people with power (you in that case) will never let him see a reward for it, let alone have some time to relax and recharge. That will teach him a lot about life. Or push him to burnout/suicide and stuff.

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Nice Name

Nice Name

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't think I would be able to hold myself back and not call my child Cash if my last name was money. I would have to rely on my wife as the voice of reason.

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This Mom Be Like "I Wonder Why My Kids Don't Confide In Me For Anything?"

This Mom Be Like "I Wonder Why My Kids Don't Confide In Me For Anything?"

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