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Woman Gets Drunk At Work Event, Exposes Ex-BF’s Bad Behavior To His Coworkers, He’s Furious
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Woman Gets Drunk At Work Event, Exposes Ex-BF’s Bad Behavior To His Coworkers, He’s Furious

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Do you know the saying: “Loose lips sink ships?” That’s especially true if those lips are fueled by a few too many cocktails and a whole lot of bottled-up frustration. You might as well forget the ship—your career and reputation might just be the things sinking!

One woman found herself in that nightmare scenario where you spill a bit too much tea at a work event, and suddenly, you’re desperate to rewind time. This is the kind of mess that makes you want to dive headfirst into a pillow fort and never come out.

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Work parties are fun but, if you have too many drinks, you might do or say things you regret, and the entire office will know about it

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One woman got a bit too tipsy at a work event and started bad-mouthing her ex-boyfriend, who works in the same industry

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After a bad breakup, the woman confided in a few female coworkers about her ex-boyfriend’s bad behavior, who immediately told everything to the man

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The woman feels terrible for bad-mouthing her ex-boyfriend at a work event and, desperate to fix the mess, has taken to the internet asking for advice

Our leading lady went through a breakup that everyone could see coming from miles away. The guy? Let’s just say he wasn’t winning any “Best Boyfriend” awards. We don’t need all the gory details—let’s just agree it was messy enough to call it quits.

The fun part is that they work in the same industry, and he’d somehow managed to keep a shiny reputation. But she’d seen the not-so-sparkly side of him, and after finally breaking up, all those pent-up emotions were just waiting for an escape hatch. And when they escaped, they kept on going, and at an industry event, no less.

The event in question? A place where the wine was flowing freely, and apparently, so did the gossip. The OP (original poster) found herself in the company of a few seemingly sympathetic women, and before she knew it, the floodgates opened.

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She bad-mouthed her ex, and though she didn’t spill every ugly detail, she definitely let them know exactly what she thought of him. Nothing untrue, but boy, did she let it out.

Normally, the OP is the kind of person who keeps her personal life and work drama in separate lanes. Total pro, cool as a cucumber. But this time she let loose, and the next day was all about piecing together hazy memories. And, spoiler alert, it wasn’t pretty.

Here’s where things get ugly. In the span of just 24 hours, the women she confided in had gone straight to her ex, spilling every word she said like a breaking news bulletin. The ex was livid after finding this out, but honestly, who wouldn’t be?

The OP was left devastated and mortified, ready to pack up her things, move back to her home country, and disappear into the night. She had apologized, profusely, even, but as of now, her ex hasn’t replied. And let’s be real—it’s not looking great.

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If you’ve ever been in this kind of hot mess (no shame, we’ve all been there), you know exactly how the OP is feeling. But here’s the thing: you can’t take back what’s already out there. What you can do is fess up, and to her credit, the OP did just that. Good first step.

Apologizing might sound easy, but let’s be real—it’s more than just throwing out a “sorry.” You’ve got to show that you understand why the other person’s hurt. And yeah, that’s not exactly a walk in the park when you’re still feeling all kinds of emotions.

However, experts say that you can’t force someone to forgive you. Everyone heals at their own pace, and pushing for forgiveness might just make things worse. So, while our OP waits in radio silence, she has to give the guy some space, no matter how uncomfortable it is. And judging herself too harshly won’t speed up the process.

While the OP’s situation is awkward, no doubt, it’s not the end of the world. We all mess up, it’s just part of being human. Sure, it feels like a massive deal right now, but in the grand scheme of things? This isn’t going to be the story the OP will be remembered for.

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But it would be a good idea to skip that extra glass of wine next time she’s at a work event, because alcohol has a funny way of turning even the most composed among us into unfiltered, emotional beings.

Some people might get sappy and tell everyone they love them, but others, like the OP, get a little too honest about their not-so-great exes. Alcohol lowers inhibitions and affects your judgment, which is why you might end up saying things you wouldn’t normally share, and especially at work events where the stakes are higher.

What do you think of this story? Have you ever been in a similar situation where you said something you shouldn’t have? Let us know in the comments!

People in the comments tell the woman that there is nothing else to do other than apologize and move on, as she can’t take back what she said

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Who's primarily at fault for the situation at the work event?
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Sand Ers
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4 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When you are at a “work event”, you are at work. Getting drunk at work is always a bad idea.

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Sunny Day
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1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

OP has no reason to apologize to ex. She told the truth. He might not like it, but too bad. She probably should apologize to her boss for her unprofessional behavior and swear off drinking at work events, though. Next time it might be her boss she unloads about, and that would be infinitely more awkward.

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John Harrison
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4 weeks ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I hope that people in your life -- dating partners, spouse, friends, relatives -- know that they have no.privacy with you. If you dont approve of something they do or say, you can make it public, as long as you think it's "the truth".

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Beak Hookage
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4 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She clearly needed to vent but when it finally came out it wasn't at a good moment.

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Sand Ers
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4 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When you are at a “work event”, you are at work. Getting drunk at work is always a bad idea.

sunnyday0801 avatar
Sunny Day
Community Member
1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

OP has no reason to apologize to ex. She told the truth. He might not like it, but too bad. She probably should apologize to her boss for her unprofessional behavior and swear off drinking at work events, though. Next time it might be her boss she unloads about, and that would be infinitely more awkward.

sbarber999 avatar
John Harrison
Community Member
4 weeks ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I hope that people in your life -- dating partners, spouse, friends, relatives -- know that they have no.privacy with you. If you dont approve of something they do or say, you can make it public, as long as you think it's "the truth".

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Beak Hookage
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4 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She clearly needed to vent but when it finally came out it wasn't at a good moment.

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